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My parents disciplined me and yes I feared them if I knew what I was doing was wrong. What you saw was only part of the story and you don't and likely will ever know what the full story was. However your well written plea that parents think about what they are doing and saying does make sense. It generally helps to try to find out why something occurred and when you make a mistake own up to it and apologize. My own parents apologized when I was punished for something they were mistaken about.
5 months, 2 weeks ago on You Just Broke Your Child. Congratulations.
@leeleea believe it or not there is a thing called restless leg syndrome I have known of people diagnosed with it and one of the things they treat it with is quinine <sp?>
9 months, 1 week ago on The Night I Shook Things Just a Little Too Hard
ask your doctor about restless leg syndrome. Though I know my dad was the same way.
@aking005 It is really not so much about that but the lack of consideration for his feelings about those things. For instance My father had told my mother he would not live past is forty third birthday and he died at age 42. this was a bit of family history I had shared with my previous husband. For some reason as he was approaching his 43rd birthday he started saying the same type thing to me. I asked him to stop because it brought back all the sadness surrounding my father's death (we had 13 deaths to deal with that year in family and friends) but he would not stop and then he survived his 43rd birthday about that time I stopped caring if he lived or dies because he had put me in such emotional torment.
9 months, 1 week ago on 16 Ways She Botched Our Marriage
@emu211 you might consider that what 2 people see as a waste of money may be two different things. For instance investing in penny stocks could be considered either an investment or a waste of money depending on how good or bad you are in choosing the stocks. Buying a self help book could seem an investment but if you don't use it it becomes a waste of money.
I have to agree the wit the accepting a no bit on sex. I had a time in my past marriage where i just didn't feel like having sex I very truthfully had a headache and my ex pressured me about it even quoting the bible "women shall submit themselves to their husbands" So he ended up getting his sex but I ended up feeling raped.
@Deni You are quite right. I have been married previously and When I finally ended the marriage I had reached a stage where I just did not care anymore for various reason which I won't go into. My current husband I felt I knew way better than I had gotten to know my previous one even though we only met after we discussed marriage. I got to know my current husband over the internet and we spent hours chatting. I can very truthfully say I did not fall in love with him for his looks even though I have been told by some co-worker that he looked like a fox in the first picture I had of him. There was a period of time where he seemed to be possibly having some jealousy issues and we talked it over and I got him to understand that what relationships I have with others really has little affect on how I feel about him. We have now been married almost 4 years and I basically gave up the country of my birth to be with him though not citizenship in that country.
@Eric Pearce Just curious who is keeping track of the days missed? is it an honor system or do you each have a witness? and what happens if you tie?
9 months, 3 weeks ago on If You Never Hear from Me Again…
good luck with it. At least you hopefully don't have someone watching you and making fun of your style. I had that happen to me once and I ended up stopping as I wasn't going to be an object of ridicule so exercise in peace alone.
Andi whatever it is that you are going through that causes Dan to feel you need a love storm know that you have the strength and fortitude to get through it. You also have the good wishes and good thoughts from lots of people who don't know you beyond the fact Dan says you need to feel loved.
10 months, 3 weeks ago on A Love Storm for… Andie
When My oldest boy was in third or fourth grade we had a visit from an aunt and uncle of mine who I had not seen for many years. My Aunt went out of the house to have a cigarette and I late walked out to speak with her only to find my son lecturing her on the dangers of smoking.Men my youngest was 18 or so (yeah not a kid anymore) My former father-in-law started going on about the "gay-agenda" (note he is a very avid christian with anti gay beliefs). My son looked him right in the eyes and said calmly "I think it is time for you to leave." As far as I know my sons are not gay but if they ever tell me otherwise they know I will accept it calmly. I have to admit he made me proud of him that day and it meant I had taught him correctly.
10 months, 4 weeks ago on My KID said that?!
Dan you are the only one who can decide what is right for you at any given time. However be careful of doing things because it is "right for Noah." That places a large burden on Noah if he should become aware of it. Say he read the previous blog post as I just did. Suppose now he feels he has ruined your chance at happiness and has caused hurt to Sarah. I am not saying you are right or wrong in what you did but you need to take responsibility of your actions and that includes the fact that what you chose to do is what you feel is right for you within your relationship with Noah and the others involved.As for the relationship with Sarah I am a firm believer in what is meant to be will be. It could be the reason you guys were having bad times was because of the fear factor. It doesn't matter how happy or healthy a relationship is there will always be occasional fears that will pop up. sometimes you can shake it off others it will start to eat at you and your relationship. When Sarah said the one thing she would change about you was your being Bi I think that showed an area of fear and uncertainty. Frankly I think I would have been more worried about you being a blogger and living in a glass house situation. In your case you started getting comments of will you change the name of your blog if you get married etc and that again adds to the uncertainty. Which also would tend to add stress to your relationship.and while yes I expect we did ask how Chappy was I suspect we didn't want a long story about what is happening but rather did the prayers help is he improving
11 months ago on Because I’m Sad, and Mad, and I Need to Rant
depends on who is looking I expect. I am suffering from Arthritis but I know how to do my job and the one job I have while it isn't enough to help support my husband and myself very well it is better than having none at all. I feel I am a good and caring person for the most part but my body seems to be saying you can't do what you want to or what you used to.
11 months ago on Wrinkly and Worth It
Another way of looking at things is if you are happy where you are don't regret the things that brought you there. I divorced my sons's father but I do not regret the relationship as without it I would not have had my boys nor is it likely I would have married the person I am now with. I met him through things that happened due to my boys.
11 months, 1 week ago on The Power of a Single Second
Personally I always considered capris as a rehash of pedal pushers.
11 months, 1 week ago on The Great Manpris Debate
Heh My husband wore shorts/manpris at out wedding basically shorts that fell below the knee.
My husband wears shorts about that length or a bit shorter but he wouldn't wear them riding a bike because if you were to have an accident you would lose a whole lot of skin at best if not do other serious damage.
11 months, 1 week ago on The Picture They Didn’t Think I’d Have the Guts to Share
@AZmommy78 @ghostlove I actually taught my boys penis but they frequently pronounced it peanut
11 months, 2 weeks ago on You said WHAT to your kid?
@MichelleVail my cousin told my uncle that about his mom when we were much younger.
Ah did think of one thing my middle boy was in the hospital when he was about nine months old and we were visiting him when my older boy (not quite 3) pointed to the small white box in the ladies room and asked "what's that?" My reply was "that's a necessaries box." That satisfied him and a woman that was also in the multi stalled room told me "that's the best explanation for that box I've ever heard"
@SusieLee Don't worry likely she will grow out of it. I remember I used to suck on my big toe but stopped when I got to around school age. sooner or later it becomes too hard to do.
You know I can't think of anything I said to my kids anything I thought I never would. I did manage to not to say the one thing I didn't want to say. Bill Cosby did a monologue on how Mothers curse their children by wishing that when they grow up they have kids of their own just like them or worse. I managed to never say that to my kids, tempting as it was.
We shared a house with a friend for many years while my kids were growing up and he acted like older uncle or second Dad frequently he stayed with my older boys when I went to have the youngest and he was for a long time with some gaps a part of our family.
11 months, 2 weeks ago on Noah’s Stepdad, a Dad Indeed.
when allowed to visit talk to him as if he is in the room and don't be negative. let him know that you want him to come back to himself that he is needed. People can often hear in a coma even if they can't respond.
11 months, 2 weeks ago on Noah’s Stepdad – Clinging to Life
my prayers for you all.
@Grace Brooks McDuff you can do more than one at a time I used to use a large turntable microwave I didn't turn the corn over and microwaved it using the Quick Baked potato setting pressing once for each ear of corn worked well though in the colder months I preferred to bake it in the husk.
11 months, 2 weeks ago on How to Husk Corn In Mere Seconds
@Jamie Siever but this way it is cooked and ready to eat.
@Tara Albrecht Roddick yes
I usually cooked mine for the same amount of time you "bake" a potato
Yes and no for the most part my kids generally didn't get to the tantrum stage. And yes I generally followed through with the punishment promised. I don't say you were wrong but it is generally a measure of knowing your kid. My question is did he do what he agreed to?
11 months, 3 weeks ago on Kid Tantrums. Man Tantrums.
@Cynthia Wells Moore I think that may be likely as the upper arm is out of proportion to the rest of the body
11 months, 4 weeks ago on 22 Fantastic Photoshop Fails
I remember that sort of thing where you help someone out and they take advantage of you. I mean I let a guy stay with us for a while because he had no place to go a friend of a friend who was also staying with us. When he started complaining of my son keeping him awake he was reminded the situation was meant to be temporary and he was told he had to leave by the end of the month. Admittedly I told them both to go by that time but pulled the friend aside later and told him I would be willing to let him stay longer if needed (the friend actually helped with bills cooking etc while the other guy did little except maybe watch the boys for a short time while we went shopping.)
12 months ago on A Little *Too* Much At Home
I try to do good but the nobody know you did it makes it impossible to add myself to the list because generally people do know I did that which I did even if they don't know me by name. I gave every lady in the nursing home I worked in a rose for May day one year. I have bought a mean for a homeless person. I try to offer help when ever I can. And I try to smile at everyone. Little things can mean a lot. I gave someone who was hitchhiking some water but I was not going far enough to be helpful though I did offer him a ride as far as I was going. I gave a lady a ride home with her shopping just before Thanksgiving my last year in the States then I took her to check on her truck which had broken down and when I left I sold her the car I had been driving for the cost of the battery I had just put in it.
1 year ago on Nobody Knows You Did It…
that guy in the middle is no true scot he is wearing shorts under his kilt. you can see them even when he is standing up
1 year ago on Drumroll Please! – Hot Scots Drumline
@christinepeck0811 @Single Dad Laughing I figured it was similar to an electric fart (Something my kids taught me about) you know the ones with juice.
1 year ago on Why Is There Anyone Left Here At All?
@DanetteHopeEichele wow I seldom have seen that first name which is the same as one of my sister's kewl.
@Lauren Collins I have to admit if he started saying something about abusing his child or murdering puppies and I thought he was serious I wouldn't get offended I would get concerned and angry and I would try to find a way to report it to proper authorities.
@Tamara Carpenter that actually may have been the article that got me reading the blog as well. I didn't know reading was considered a homosexual activity I bet my Dad didn't either.
@DaniJensen not quite I generally don't take offense at profanity ; )
Thanks Dan, that was a totally amusing post. While yes I did make a negative comment on the %) cent a swear blog I figured you were adult enough to understand where those of us who made negative comments especially those of us who made those comments politely were coming from. I also noted you used the term "had planned to do with the money" does this mean you have changed your mind? I do hope so.
I tend not to get offended all that easily generally it has be be a personal attack on me specifically or on someone I care about and generally my reaction is anger. We all get to choose how we take what is said or done to us and it is all to easy to decide to get offended because then we can lay the blame on our mood or day on the person we decided we were offended by. for the most part I find you humorous or interesting when I happen to see your blog posted to my facebook page which is how I found it in the first place. As to why people are still here. well it is possible that there are those of us that consider you a friend who we just have not met physically. You have let us into your life and in some cases into the deep recesses of your mind and memories. Yes we may become offended over something you said and we might get upset with you over something you plan to do or actually tell us about after the fact or how you word yourself at times but frankly you still get that with friends and even with people you are closer than friends with. I didn't see the blog where you introduced the farmer's daughter as your sexytary personally if she is not offended by it then I can see no reason anyone else should be. Yes if there was no relationship other than a working relationship between you it would be inappropriate to use a term like that especially if it could be viewed as sexual harassment but since you guys are on a different relationship level then it really doesn't matter as much. Anyway that is why people stick around I think it is because you are a friend who is mostly amusing and we like you enough to put up with the occasional offensive behavior.
nah I didn't have that problem. Mine was more (with one son at least) I had to make sure he kept heading in the right direction as he had to walk there as he was too big to carry. But then I never really did have set nap times that I recall. If they were tired and getting cranky yes they were sent to their room to lay down.
1 year ago on Hang In There Buddy… Just 30 More Seconds!
@Curtis Loftin now there's a good idea
1 year ago on Fifty Cents for a Swear
@crusherbevdr @Bevoholic I agree keep the punishment between yourselves and don't punish people that have nothing to do with your bad habits. Better idea would be to have to give the money to a charity of the other person's choice. Or spend the money saved by going somewhere the winner wants to go whether you enjoy it or not. Or possibly get something for your son.
Thing is I had a nurse that I worked with actually write me up at work for farting. I mean i was trying to diet and that included eating things like garlic, cabbage, and broccoli all of which can induce gas especially if one has also had their gallbladder removed. Passing gas is something that is a natural process and according to things I have read the average person passes gas or fart on average around 15 times a day. Now I am not one that can control whether or not I emit a fart I mean there is little you can do to clamp down to avoid passing something like air. So yes I could not keep from passing gas until a more opportune time and just because she could it was wrong to assume everyone could.
1 year ago on Horrifying Panty Burps Vol. 5
@ElanSeagullBradley @LaraMcKuskyTaylor Vote for people not of the 2 major parties and do it repeatedly and get others to do so.
1 year ago on America & My Struggle to Feel Proud
@shanan187 @Snooterpoot I read some of the act though likely don't understand half of what I read as it is in legalese rather than simple language. One thing I remember it does is forbids insurance companies canceling a policy because you get one of those life threatening diseases. It also makes it illegal to not cover someone who had a preexisting condition for that condition or at all. It also does away with the lifetime caps on benefits it I remember correctly.
@Carson thank you for your service and for sharing your insights on the matters. Sometimes though grabbing the camera and taking a pic might be a way of helping that a person is able to do. Because that pic might help to supply evidence.
@LeaAnnACommini @David Fabish I think he meant the poor will vote for those who promise to keep those programs that aid them over those that threaten those programs. Well that is true unfortunately people will consider those things in deciding between the lessor of 2 evils. which one will hurt me the least. And truthfully there is little we can do about this because with the poor it is about survival not about comfort for the most part. It stems between the haves and have nots the tendency of believing someone is a better person due to the possessions he owns rather than the acts that they perform.
@David Fabish @StormPegler but at least you admit it and have admitted you should likely be paying more taxes than you do.
@r.a.kauffman no offense and I am happy you have a good life but there are others out there who don't who actually work hard but still can barely afford their basic needs because their companies pay them minimum wage and only hire them for a certain amount of time so they don't have to provide them with benefits. These people may be working 2 jobs to try to make ends meet to try to give their children a better life. and their children are either in daycare which eats up most of their parent's wage or they are latch-key kids because the parents cannot afford the daycare that is needed. As for the it doesn't support the entrepreneurial spirit it doesn't not really because the income of a person who works for a company is taxed less than a person who works as an independant contractor. And unfortunately we are seeing a trend in healthcare as well as other industries to use independent contractors over employees because it costs the company less money. one place I worked for would charge the consumer of my services (through the company I was an independent contractor for) over $20 an hour (i know this because I saw an ad offering services at a rate discounted to $20 an hour. I would get paid between 7.50 and 10.50 an hour depending on the task given. out of this pay I was responsible for taxes and gas and car maintenance etc. I ended up paying taxes of 400 or so dollars on an income of 9000 for the year. now when I worked for a company and made 14k a year or a bit more I didn't pay any taxes or my payments were lower then reversed due to earned income credit.
@Elizabeth Picone Mullen Ah but we no longer have that right not really. if you are within a certain distance of a person that is protected by the Secret service you cannot protest. even if you didn't know they were that close to you because that has become a federal crime. you seem to feel very self satisfied about all you have done and can do and maybe justifiably but to say you don't fight for Dan because he casts doubt on the way the country is run that makes you less of an American than he is in many ways. Yes you fight for the freedoms you feel embodies the US but no the US is not the finest country in the world no country is except perhaps to its citizens.Immigration to another country legally btw is not a short trip it is a slow and painstaking process especially to people on a limited income. unless you are advocating he do so illegally?
on my last work in the US I ended up owing taxes even though had I had an employer instead of being an "independent contractor" I likely would have paid one. I made less than 9k that year. yet ended up paying 400 or more in taxes. Had I done that with an employer I likely would have gotten a refund strange that. Businesses are starting to figure that they can hire independent contractors instead of employees then they are not responsible for benefits or making sure the taxes are made etc. I had an instance where I was robbed of over $800 because the health insurance company kept drawing out the added money to cover my then ineligible son. I asked them if they were going to cover his bills and they said no he was ineligible for it. then to add insult to injury once they agreed to stop drawing the money out they took out one more payment of 80 some dollars because they were always taken out in arrears. So yes there has to be some form of insurance reform. Oh and if your child reaches the age that he will no longer be covered try to remove him from it immediately as they will not drop the fee just the child from coverage. Yes I can agree that the healthcare situation is bad in the US I knew of one man who died because he could not afford his medications. There are groups trying to help out in some ways but the health care issue is a disgrace. After living Australia for the past nearly 4 years I like the way it is handled here yes there is likely waiting lists for non essential (ie life saving) surgery. but you can get treatment of some form. they have insurance here too and if you make over a certain amount a year you need to buy insurance or face a larger deduction for the medicare coverage (from my understanding of what my husband told me). Everyone who works pays into medicare can't recall the percentage of income that is paid and at what level of income you start paying into it.
BTW she can't sue you over the three headed dog as that is a mythological creature I believe out of either greek or Roman myths.
1 year, 1 month ago on The Farmer’s Daughter & the Blogger’s Son
@michelleames that is a good idea and would be a way of balancing out the bad that is frequently seen in the truth box though truthfully I have never read one.
1 year, 1 month ago on How the Truth Box is Messing Me Up
I actually had to dredge up memories of strong temptations. Mostly because I tend to forget about them when they are past. My husband and I met online in a multiplayer game. While we were getting to know one another we began to tell each other about ourselves both the good and the ugly/bad. Here is something to help you through the jealous stage ask yourself do I believe that she loves me? and will love me no matter what I do or what she does?My husband and I discussed such things and believe me after a time it became unimportant once we realized that our love could endure even if there was a desire for another as long as we were open about the situation.sometimes sexual desire is totally involuntary acting or not acting upon that desire is generally a choice. Yes doubt will arise from time to time because it is in our nature to be our own worst critics. When you do your best to be truthful and honest with your partner you end up not needing to worry that your secret will find out. I like to tease my husband that he was given full disclosure as to what I was all about before he even met me face to face. We have been together for over 4 years now. And As i like to say he was worth leaving the country of my birth for.
@Crystal Rivers Not that weird if you don't know his age before you get to know him. Otherwise we are taught that generally it is the male who is supposed to be older in a relationship.
1 year, 1 month ago on The Farmer’s Daughter & the Age that Divides Us
My husband is 9-10 years older than I am depending on when in the year we are. It did sort of make me pause and think when I found that out but then I got to thinking that if I would have no problems with it if he was that much older than me I should have no problems with it if I was the one who was older. I have to agree with the statement that the age gap is only important if one of the partners is under legal adult age. Then problems can arise until they are both over that arbitrary age limit (yes I know and accept that this was put into place to protect children from sexual predators etc before they are mentally, emotionally and physically capable of dealing with the sexual aspects involved in a relationship but it still is an arbitrary number and some people at 20-30 are still not at the point they should be getting involved in a relationship because they have yet to reach the emotional and mental maturity needed)
But basically what matters is how you feel and making sure the legalities line up so others have no cause to interfere.
@Gee Man @alohaneener so we should make sure our kids believe that people never disagree never come into conflict? we should let them think life is fair and everyone can have what they want if they just work hard enough? Sooner or later they will have to fact the fact that life isn't fair and relationships etc are not perfect. If they learn it in their younger years and you emphasize that they are not at fault for the various things that are "fought" over then they will likely survive and do better as adults than hitting reality smack on when they leave school and home.
1 year, 1 month ago on 16 Ways I Blew My Marriage
@zeal @chenderson516 courtship doesn't have to end nor should it completely. You miss the point here it is not the wining and dining part of the courtship she is necessarily talking about. It is the growing lack of touch and of consideration to the spouse you now have. Believe me I do know that it takes two to make or break a marriage. When you effectively tell your spouse day in and day out I don't care how you feel about this (whatever the particular this might be) eventually the message the spouse will get it I don't care about you. When a marriage becomes one-sided with one person doing all the caring and the other just absorbing that feeling with out it being returned or reflected back eventually that marriage will likely break apart because everyone does reach a breaking point sooner of later the only question then is will both survive.
@MrP why not? it is fully possible to let little things slip. and while they are helpful they aren't the only route to happiness in a marriage. For instance my husband hates to shave it gives him a rash and is tedious for him but it doesn't bother me that he doesn't do so so why should he go to an effort to primp up when frankly I don't think it matters much. I would rather he be comfortable and I be allowed to be comfortable when "at home." Communication is a key point and using I think and I feel and it sounds to me like...where you are giving your interpretation of the situation or making sure that you are pointing out that it is your opinion not something that is definitely "the truth"..
@xoZer0 Yeah if he thought "fixing the order" would win him any points unless he told them he had tow orders in the car and was running back to get the right one fixing the order would not work as too little time would have elapsed in the delivery schedule to have gone back to the store for a new one.
1 year, 1 month ago on Pizza Delivery Guy Caught on Tape in Elevator
You know what they say about Karma. So I won't need to elaborate.
1 year, 2 months ago on My First BIG Harley Fail
@Catanya I agree I brought 3 suitcases with me to Australia when I moved and most of that was clothing. and I have bought a few things since then. I was telling my husband the other day that men really have the fashion thing pretty easy as they don't really need as many clothes. But women have to balance comfort with fashion and work clothes versus dress up and casual etc.
1 year, 2 months ago on It’s Time I Say the Words…
um I am not seeing it going through the straw.
1 year, 2 months ago on Woman Drinks a Beer Through Her Ear
@LindseyMorgan the dogs aren't in the stroller and with the positioning we can't tell if they have leashes or not. Plus even if the stroller belongs to the dogs there is the added possibility that the woman may not be the mother of the child.
1 year, 2 months ago on The 24 Best *Worst* Parenting Fails
@LauraCook even for children without issues it can be safer for them to be on a harness in crowded areas like stores etc. I had a neighbor whose child was standing next to her while she looked through a bin. When she checked on the child she was gone and a man had picked her up and was trying to escape the store with her. The child yelled out that the man was not her Daddy and was stopped by store security. Child harnesses are a safety issue not unlike child safety seats not necessarily just a convenience
Not quite sure why number 17 is considered a fail. I used a child harness on my sons it allowed them to walk while allowing me to keep track of them. I found out where to get one from a neighbor whose mother had bought one when her daughter was nearly kidnapped from a store. The only thing that stopped this was the child had the presence of mind to yeall out that the man carrying her was not her Daddy.
@Anna7 the cutting the tags off was so they could be sewn unto the other clothing that would fit said hobos
1 year, 2 months ago on My Response to Abercrombie & Fitch’s Blatant Loathing for Fat People Article
@LarraKyleen @dwreid for toddlers? what are they into pedophilia?
I had a gas problem when I was trying to loose weight and eating a lot of garlic and broccoli etc while doing so. I had a nurse who I worked under write me up for farting. Every one does it but she seemed to think you should be able to control when you let them off. or something. I have never been able to "hold Farts in" I also have a lot of difficulty belching which generally means gas mostly escapes only one way.
1 year, 2 months ago on Horrifying Panty Burps Vol. 3
heh I actually avoid trying to embarrass my sons they might retaliate. Actually I lost many of the boys pictures from their younger days in moving. Though I do still have one or two but not that embarrassing. Got one of my youngest with his lego/tyco building block rendition of the Starship enterprise.
1 year, 2 months ago on What the…
I obtained my Master's degree in 2006 at the age of 47
1 year, 2 months ago on 25 Common Facebook Status Updates and What They REALLY Mean
Heh I met my husband through a computer game. I played on the game module he hosted. At that time I lived in Kansas and he lived in OZ (aka Australia) I fell in love with his sense of humor well before I ever got a look at a pic of him. Ended up moving here and marrying him.
@ChalliceRobinson My mom got her ears pierced the same day I did.
@TeresaKnapp actually I am generally truthful when I post things or at least as far as I understand it.
How about Elizabeth for the queen of bikes and Elizabeth is one of the most famous queens I know of. Or you could call it Sheba after the queen of sheba
1 year, 2 months ago on That’s Not Just Any Motorcycle, Honey.
@Steven5009 Thanks for posting this as she articulates so well things I have believed for years now.
1 year, 3 months ago on The Harsh & Hurtful Reality of Being Bisexual
Personally I believe we all are Bisexual in a lot of ways but we don't always act on those feelings. It isn't all about sex or the act of intercourse. Frankly this tendency to label people by race, gender, religion, sexuality etc is part of what is wrong with the world because all too often those labels are used to divide them from us or give people who lack the capacity to love or who repress that capacity to love for whatever reason. When I first met this guy I eventually married we used to have long talks over the internet. We didn't meet face to face until 2 years or more later. We discussed anything we felt like talking about sex and sexuality as well as politics and views on religion.The major thing in a relationship to me is accepting the person who you are with as who they are where they currently are. I tend to feel at times that marriage as it is practiced is hurtful in some ways. Mostly because it creates a feeling of ownership between the couple and even possessiveness. I love the person I married and I know he loves me. the bond between us is strong and if he said he was bi I think we might still wish to be together because we mesh we have a strong bond of Love. Being sexually attracted to both sexes does not mean you are promiscuous or want to have sex with everyone you find attractive. It means you know that all other things being right you would feel comfortable in an intimate relationship with this person.
Oh and for those that are religious remember the command love your neighbour as you do yourself? that implies to the command love yourself.
1 year, 3 months ago on The Disease Called “Perfection”
@Lonely widow don't focus on cleaning the entire house. chose small tasks, I will go do the dishes because we need to eat off something. or I will wash clothes today, etc. I learned a while back from something I read that when we focus on the entire task it defeats us because it is so large but when we break it down into simple tasks we can get more done. so do a task then take a break hey you deserve the break you got the task done. then do something else if you feel rested enough etc.
@****Ash**** I worked in the US as a Nurse Aid and when I started feeling that way was when I decided to arrange time off work even if just a couple of extra days. It helps you to get grounded again to have some "me" time. you don't even need to go anywhere if you don't wish to.
I recognize I am not perfect and never will be. I remember as a child being despairing enough to want to kill myself but being fearful enough of death not to try hard enough to succeed. What we need is not just being real though that helps but we need acceptance of imperfections. We need to face the fact everyone has problems some that can be seen and all to often some that are not visible at all.
As I was getting to know my Husband he was so down on himself that I kept telling him that he wasn't as bad as he made himself out to be. He accused me of seeing him as perfect or putting him on a pedestal to which I replied with a list of the "faults" or imperfections that I saw within him. I try not to ask for perfection as that would be hard to live with. And keep in mind that even "God" gets angry if you believe the Bible. I too believe in God even if I don't believe in religion. And I have to admit I get tired of people being put down or ridiculed for having an imaginary friend. Thing is they claim god is imaginary as they cannot measure or prove gods existence without thinking god might exist but we have yet to discover how to measure that which people term as god.
I remember that My husband and I were very open with each other as we got to know one another over the internet. We were in different countries then and I had been totally turned off the idea of marriage by my previous relationship not because it was so terrible but because I lost a good deal of ability to trust. Plus as I had no plans for any more children I saw no need for marriage. I am married now because it was the best and easiest way for My husband and I to be together.
The best way to battle Perfection I think is with unconditional love. And to make sure those you care about know that that love is there no matter what. I do know however that Love can be so battered and demoralized at times that it can appear to cease to exist. And yet even the general type of love for mankind makes one feel sorrow for the people left behind when death occurs or even for those so despairing they end their lives because they feel incapable of facing what life seems to hold for them.
As one friend on Facebook frequently posts. If no one has said they love you remember I do. Be Blessed.
As long as all of you are open to the needs of your son then all should go well. If he asks about the problems and he could admit to the fact you don't know for sure the cause etc. Tell him that you all love him no matter what and that sooner or later things will likely straighten out and he may have to just be patient with you all until it does. My .02 worth. <hugs> hope things level out soon.
1 year, 4 months ago on The Big Mess
@DawnRussell if the child's allergies are such that it could be life threatening perhaps the father might consider a hotel for the week-end he has the kids?
I hope every state passes the equivalent to this As do I hope every state passes bills that deregulate Marijuana use especially medical usage of the plant but also for growth of Hemp for textiles etc.
1 year, 4 months ago on Kansas TSA Nullification Bill Passes Out of Committee – Tenth Amendment Center Blog
@jacquelinedupi @Gay Dad Laughing @Danoah be open and honest and try being friends before plunging into a relationship. I think sometimes that may be what is wrong sometimes we are not best friends with the people we love. Frequently there is this thing where it is a feeling "I love this guy but I don't like him very much." I do know I would not wish that I could go back and change the past because the past is what made me who I am today. So generally I wouldn't wish what the girl in his post said because frankly few people are the same as they were in high school etc. As we live we learn and we grow.
1 year, 4 months ago on Sorry, You Missed Your Chance.
@CrissyLance My current husband was told about what I had been through and all the things I felt was bad about myself etc before we ever met face to face. Part of that is because we had a really long distance relationship. I was in Kansas and he was in OZ ( Australia for those that haven't heard it called that). We met face to face after chatting online for 2 years and it took us a little over 2 years more to get together in what is frequently termed real life. Both of us had plenty of time to discuss our faults and dreams etc. and because we were pretty open about it we were able to take each other how we were.
@AlecPlayer If we all could manage to accept each of us is a work in process then perhaps we could all treat each other better. I remember chatting online with my current husband and he often would say how much of a a-hole he was etc. but I often saw beneath the surface to the personality traits he thought were hidden. Possibly they were to many people even himself. He often accused me of putting him on a pedestal because I thought better of him than he did himself. At that point I used to tell him the things I saw as his "faults" (for lack of a better word). the trick is to look at the overall whole. Yes it is nice to receive recognition of the good parts of yourself but the bad should not always be ignored as without mention you might soon feel the person feels you have no faults and that can be hard to live up to.
What I like is that Facebook is suggesting people we might want to network with and then asking people do you know this person outside of Facebook to block you from getting to know them.
1 year, 5 months ago on 91 Mutual Friends
@Tina Santacruz DelRosario I don't think it actually makes water out of fire the fire causes the water that collects on the spoon as it hits the warmer air as frost into a more liquid form likely of you place the spoon on a counter it will be damp when you look at it again as it gets warmer.
1 year, 10 months ago on 18 Random Facts I Didn’t Know That I Didn’t Know
Re 16 what about Oranguatans and other apes? I know I have seen some of them making that pursing outward motion.
@Cheryl49 the explanation would not be appropriate to minors thus should not be explained in this forum/blog IMHO.
1 year, 10 months ago on Seriously Traumatized by Food
I opened a big bottle of coke when in I was high school age and was fortunate enough to smell it before I poured it out and drank it as the glass bottle was full of motor oil.I also had a piece of crispy pizza crust scratch my thoat on the way down it felt like it got wedged in my throat for a while.
I've thought of the one about having to love yourself being implied by the command love thy neighbour as thyself. <#21>When you don't like the way something looks try looking at it from a different angle.When you start to make a comment think about how you would feel if it was said about or to you. If you wouldn't like it likely you shouldn't say it.We cannot get rid of all evil or sadness or death at best we can reduce the occurrence for they help to define good happiness and life.
God gave us free will so why do so many of "god's people" seem to feel they should take the free will from others.
Equality sometimes includes allowing things we do not agree with to happen because to not do so means we taint the premise of equality.
1 year, 12 months ago on 33 of the Deepest & Coolest Thoughts About Life
2 years, 2 months ago on Man-Babies. Creepy? Or Awesome?
@ShaunLin @BenTousey Okay a question my Dad used to ask and I am not sure if he ever found the answer in this life. If God is all knowing all powerful and all just.......Why did he place the tree in the garden knowing that Eve and Adam would eat of the fruit?Why did he give people differing degrees of conscience?
2 years, 3 months ago on Powerful Responses to ‘I’m Christian, unless you’re gay.’
@BenTousey @CarinCampbell interesting enough the scientists when trying to make the trajectory for the moon shot couldn't make it match up until they referred to the bible for instances in the past specifically the place where god is said to haave made the sundial move back one position when proving that it was indeeed him talking to Gideon.
@1_1_2_3_5_8_13 @BenTousey Sorry to say but you are wrong even the elderly have a sense of sexuality.
@ChrisOinonenEhren @honour One of the best ways to deal with the people that set of you "I despise" button is to when you start feeling that way about them stop and immediately say a prayer both for yourself and for them.
@pyramus93 @AudreyFLiggins I suspect this is the reason that the Greeks have/had 3 words for love. Phillos <sp> love for man kind or brotherly love this would be the acceptance and kindness kind of love. Eros which was a sexual kind of love love of the body <am working from memory so may be getting these last to reversed> and Agape which is spiritual love. most of what we are commanded to do likely involves the Phillos and agape part of love. the Bond between spouses likely should combine all three.
@ThereIsHope I can understand that. I once was having a talk to a black person about the fact that Planned parenthood's founder was wanting to essentially get all blacks to have less and less children trying to cause them to commit a self genocide. I had read things she had posted and commented on them. She posted back that she had not expected a white person to understand this... then I made a mistake in reference to how black wished to be called and used the term Negro instead og black. I grew up in a time where at first Negro was the polite term then it changed to Black then Afro-American <in the US anyway> and then apparently back to black again. It is hard to keep track if you are not regularly talking with people of color as some people term it. I didn't keep in close touch with people from high school and as I grew older I did not have the occasion to associate with many black people. they didn't live where I lived. Anyway she decided I was a racist in part because I would not accept that Racism was a white trait.
@SteveWeiler How about "Honk if UR an Unconditional Christian" instead?
@SylviaSonnier Actually Christians Jews and Muslims all worship the same God. The difference is in how they worship and in what manner they consider Christ/Jesus.
@trinity21910 Pray for those who hate you and love them despite the hate they hurl at you. I few years ago while I was acting as a companion/nurse aide to an elderly woman I made several caps to send to a friend for veterans or soldiers who needed them. As I mad these stocking caps I prayed over them asking God to let everyone encountering them know love and experience it whether it be the soldier that wore it or the enemy he fought against. I sorrow for all the lives lost when the towers fell and for the lives lost due to the bullying and hate directed at those who are different. I was teased a lot as a child because I have an unusual name and because I wore glasses etc. I had classmate who took me aside and sang a bot of a song to me then explained that sometimes the name calling etc was an attempt to get the persons attention. This actually helped me a lot . It didn't stop the teasing but it helped me to react to it differently.We cannot control the actions of other nor should we really even try except when we are raising our children. I am hopeful that I taught my sons the meaning of love. I do know I was very proud of my youngest boy the day he told his very christian grandfather that he thought it was time for him to leave when he started verbally bashing gays even though as far as I know none were present my son took a stand against the negative comments. I suspect that what god wants each of us to do is to love each other unconditionally and to do our best to live our lives in the manner we feel is right for us. Peace be with you and may you be Blessed.
@firesidoni May I ask which church that is?
@tsnl120808 Yet on the cross Christ said to a thief that this day you will be with me with my father who is in heaven.
The Bible says Thou shalt not kill. then God says to the Isrealites to go kill all the people in a town in Caanan. And you wonder why we ask is it possible that some mis interpretation exists?
@KatyStenta I am glad you feel that way. I see one "church" in the news from time to time where they picket funerals and other events. Usually they hare holding signs that say "God hates...." and I sit and wonder just who this god of theirs is For it surely isn't Christ. IN one of these responses the second one I think there was a woman saying "god says to judge least you be judged." I remember that quote as being Judge not least ye be judged" I also remember another quote "Judgement is mine saith the Lord" So many people are using religion to deny people rights or as reasons to hate and it is in this you see where Evil lies or as they might say it Satan has a foot hold. Jesus said "Love your neighbour as you do yourself." Keep in mind each person must find their own path to God. You cannot walk it for them they have to make the choices and decisions that are right for them. God gave us all free will for us to try to take that away from others is like saying we know better than God. Is that not something along the lines of what got Lucifer kicked out of Heaven?
You know I also used to wish for a dislike button until I read this and really thought about it. I think instead of a dislike button it might be a better idea to have a hug button. Usually you don't know what to say really you want the person to know you read the post where they have shown they are upset angry or hurt but you don't want to hit like for fear of them thinking you like what is happening to them. But you don't always have time to post a reply to everything which is why people want a dislike button so they can dislike what is hurting the people they have as facebook friends. but as you stated it could be used as a bullying tool and you are right there are sure to be people that will use it as such. So how about a hug button. We have a button/link we can poke people with how about letting us hug them when they need it with a click of a button.
2 years, 3 months ago on Why Facebook should never add a “dislike” button.
my reactions vary and yes I do warn people to be careful with children etc because we hear so many bad stories of bad things happening to children. For the most part I try to trust others but I can still be wary of them as well it is in part a self protection mechanism some of it is learned some might even be instinctual. I do know that I have encountered people that for some reason I don't understand I take a instant dislike/wariness vibe from them. I have also met people that I feel instantly at ease with and many others that I feel nothing in the extreme. I smile at people as I walk along and often if the occasion permits will tell a complete stranger I like what they are wearing.
I have known people that have gotten "burned" by people that played the poor me game and were not in fact as needy as they portrayed themselves to be. I remember once offering a person near an on ramp a ride as far as I was heading but he didn't want to try for a ride in the bigger town a few miles down the road as it would be harder to get a ride further so I handed him a bottle of water I had just bought and went on my way....
2 years, 6 months ago on Yeah, right. You just want beer.
This is really well said and definitely needed saying. I was "bullied" as a child because I wore glasses because I had an odd name etc. Thing is some of what I saw a bullying was just teasing....but it felt like being bullied to me. I now know things could have been lots worse. We don't know what is happening in the mind and lives of people that we feel disdain for. we have to try to catch ourselves when we start feeling above people. but it is hard as there are always going to be mental comparisons. and being better than others feels seductively pleasant.
2 years, 6 months ago on I’m Christian, unless you’re gay.