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My parents disciplined me and yes I feared them if I knew what I was doing was wrong. What you saw was only part of the story and you don't and likely will ever know what the full story was. However your well written plea that parents think about what they are doing and saying does make sense. It generally helps to try to find out why something occurred and when you make a mistake own up to it and apologize. My own parents apologized when I was punished for something they were mistaken about.
 

7 months, 4 weeks ago on You Just Broke Your Child. Congratulations.

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@leeleea believe it or not there is a thing called restless leg syndrome I have known of people diagnosed with it and one of the things they treat it with is quinine <sp?> 

11 months, 2 weeks ago on The Night I Shook Things Just a Little Too Hard

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ask your doctor about restless leg syndrome. Though I know my dad was the same way.

11 months, 2 weeks ago on The Night I Shook Things Just a Little Too Hard

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@aking005  It is really not so much about that but the lack of consideration for his feelings about those things. For instance My father had told my mother he would not live past is forty third birthday and he died at age 42. this was a bit of family history I had shared with my previous husband. For some reason as he was approaching his 43rd birthday he started saying the same type thing to me. I asked him to stop because it brought back all the sadness surrounding my father's death (we had 13 deaths to deal with that year in family and friends) but he would not stop and then he survived his 43rd birthday about that time I stopped caring if he lived or dies because he had put me in such emotional torment. 

11 months, 2 weeks ago on 16 Ways She Botched Our Marriage

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@emu211 you might consider that what 2 people see as a waste of money may be two different things. For instance investing in penny stocks could be considered either an investment or a waste of money depending on how good or bad you are in choosing the stocks. Buying a self help book could seem an investment but if you don't use it it becomes a waste of money.

I have to agree the wit the accepting a no bit on sex. I had a time in my past marriage where i just didn't feel like having sex I very truthfully had a headache and my ex pressured me about it even quoting the bible "women shall submit themselves to their husbands" So he ended up getting his sex but I ended up feeling raped.


11 months, 2 weeks ago on 16 Ways She Botched Our Marriage

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@Deni You are quite right. I have been married previously and When I finally ended the marriage I had reached a stage where I just did not care anymore for various reason which I won't go into. My current husband I felt I knew way better than I had gotten to know my previous one even though we only met after we discussed marriage. I got to know my current husband over the internet and we spent hours chatting. I can very truthfully say I did not fall in love with him for his looks even though I have been told by some co-worker that he looked like a fox in  the first picture I had of him. There was a period of time where he seemed to be possibly having some jealousy issues and we talked it over and I got him to understand that what relationships I have with others really has little affect on how I feel about him. We have now been married almost 4 years and I basically gave up the country of my birth to be with him though not citizenship in that country. 

11 months, 2 weeks ago on 16 Ways She Botched Our Marriage

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@Eric Pearce Just curious who is keeping track of the days missed? is it an honor system or do you each have a witness? and what happens if you tie?

12 months ago on If You Never Hear from Me Again…

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good luck with it. At least you hopefully don't have someone watching you and making fun of your style. I had that happen to me once and I ended up stopping as I wasn't going to be an object of ridicule so exercise in peace alone.


12 months ago on If You Never Hear from Me Again…

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Andi whatever it is that you are going through that causes Dan to feel you need a love storm know that you have the strength and fortitude to get through it. You also have the good wishes and good thoughts from lots of people who don't know you beyond the fact Dan says you need to feel loved.

1 year ago on A Love Storm for… Andie

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When My oldest boy was in third or fourth grade we had a visit from an aunt and uncle of mine who I had not seen for many years. My Aunt went out of the house to have a cigarette and I late walked out to speak with her only to find my son lecturing her on the dangers of smoking.
Men my youngest was 18 or so (yeah not a kid anymore) My former father-in-law started going on about the "gay-agenda" (note he is a very avid christian with anti gay beliefs). My son looked him right in the eyes and said calmly "I think it is time for you to leave."  As far as I know my sons are not gay but if they ever tell me otherwise they know I will accept it calmly. I have to admit he made me proud of him that day and it meant I had taught him correctly.

1 year, 1 month ago on My KID said that?!

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Dan you are the only one who can decide what is right for you at any given time. However be careful of doing things because it is "right for Noah."  That places a large burden on Noah if he should become aware of it. Say he read the previous blog post as I just did. Suppose now he feels he has ruined your chance at happiness and has caused hurt to Sarah. I am not saying you are right or wrong in what you did but you need to take responsibility of your actions and that includes the fact that what you chose to do is what you feel is right for you within your relationship with Noah and the others involved.
As for the relationship with Sarah I am a firm believer in what is meant to be will be. It could be the reason you guys were having bad times was because of the fear factor. It doesn't matter how happy or healthy a relationship is there will always be occasional fears that will pop up. sometimes you can shake it off others it will start to eat at you and your relationship. 
When Sarah said the one thing she would change about you was your being Bi I think that showed an area of fear and uncertainty. Frankly I think I would have been more worried about you being a blogger and living in a glass house situation. In your case you started getting comments of will you change the name of your blog if you get married etc and that again adds to the uncertainty. Which also would tend to add stress to your relationship.
and while yes I expect we did ask how Chappy was I suspect we didn't want a long story about what is happening but rather did the prayers help is he improving

1 year, 1 month ago on Because I’m Sad, and Mad, and I Need to Rant

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depends on  who is looking I expect. I am suffering from Arthritis but I know how to do my job and the one job I have while it isn't enough to help support my husband and myself very well it is better than having none at all. I feel I am a good and caring person for the most part but my body seems to be saying you can't do what you want to or what you used to. 


1 year, 1 month ago on Wrinkly and Worth It

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Another way of looking at things is if you are happy where you are don't regret the things that brought you there. I divorced my sons's father but I do not regret the relationship as without it I would not have had my boys nor is it likely I would have married the person I am now with. I met him through things that happened due to my boys.


1 year, 1 month ago on The Power of a Single Second

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Personally I always considered capris as a rehash of pedal pushers.

1 year, 1 month ago on The Great Manpris Debate

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Heh My husband wore shorts/manpris at out wedding basically shorts that fell below the knee.


1 year, 1 month ago on The Great Manpris Debate

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My husband wears shorts about that length or a bit shorter but he wouldn't wear them riding a bike because if you were to have an accident you would lose a whole lot of skin at best if not do other serious damage.

1 year, 1 month ago on The Picture They Didn’t Think I’d Have the Guts to Share

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@AZmommy78 @ghostlove I actually taught my boys penis but they frequently pronounced it peanut

1 year, 1 month ago on You said WHAT to your kid?

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@MichelleVail my cousin told my uncle that about his mom when we were much younger.

1 year, 1 month ago on You said WHAT to your kid?

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Ah did think of one thing my middle boy was in the hospital when he was about nine months old and we were visiting him when my older boy (not quite 3) pointed to the small white box in the ladies room and asked "what's that?" My reply was "that's a necessaries box." That satisfied him and a woman that was also in the multi stalled room told me "that's the best explanation for that box I've ever heard"

1 year, 1 month ago on You said WHAT to your kid?

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@SusieLee Don't worry likely she will grow out of it. I remember I used to suck on my big toe but stopped when I got to around school age. sooner or later it becomes too hard to do.

1 year, 1 month ago on You said WHAT to your kid?

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You know I can't think of anything I said to my kids anything I thought I never would. I did manage to not to say the one thing I didn't want to say. Bill Cosby did a monologue on how Mothers curse their children by wishing that when they grow up they have kids of their own just like them or worse. I managed to never say that to my kids, tempting as it was.

1 year, 1 month ago on You said WHAT to your kid?

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We shared a house with a friend for many years while my kids were growing up and he acted like older uncle or second Dad frequently he stayed with my older boys when I went to have the youngest and he was for a long time with some gaps a part of our family.

1 year, 1 month ago on Noah’s Stepdad, a Dad Indeed.

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when allowed to visit talk to him as if he is in the room and don't be negative. let him know that you want him to come back to himself that he is needed. People can often hear in a coma even if they can't respond.

1 year, 1 month ago on Noah’s Stepdad – Clinging to Life

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my prayers for you all.

1 year, 1 month ago on Noah’s Stepdad – Clinging to Life

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@Grace Brooks McDuff you can do more than one at a time I used to use a large turntable microwave I didn't turn the corn over and microwaved it using the Quick Baked potato setting pressing once for each ear of corn worked well though in the colder months I preferred to bake it in the husk.

1 year, 1 month ago on How to Husk Corn In Mere Seconds

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@Jamie Siever but this way it is cooked and ready to eat.

1 year, 1 month ago on How to Husk Corn In Mere Seconds

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@Tara Albrecht Roddick yes

1 year, 1 month ago on How to Husk Corn In Mere Seconds

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I usually cooked mine for the same amount of time you "bake" a potato

1 year, 1 month ago on How to Husk Corn In Mere Seconds

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Yes and no for the most part my kids generally didn't get to the tantrum stage. And yes I generally followed through with the punishment promised. I don't say you were wrong but it is generally a measure of knowing your kid. 
My question is did he do what he agreed to? 


1 year, 1 month ago on Kid Tantrums. Man Tantrums.

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@Cynthia Wells Moore I think that may be likely as the upper arm is out of proportion to the rest of the body

1 year, 2 months ago on 22 Fantastic Photoshop Fails

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I remember that sort of thing where you help someone out and they take advantage of you. I mean I let a guy stay with us for a while because he had no place to go a friend of a friend who was also staying with us. When he started complaining of my son keeping him awake he was reminded the situation was meant to be temporary and he was told he had to leave by the end of the month. Admittedly I told them both to go by that time but pulled the friend aside later and told him I would be willing to let him stay longer if needed (the friend actually helped with bills cooking etc while the other guy did little except maybe watch the boys for a short time while we went shopping.)

1 year, 2 months ago on A Little *Too* Much At Home

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I try to do good but the nobody know you did it makes it impossible to add myself to the list because generally people do know I did that which I did even if they don't know me by name. I gave every lady in the nursing home I worked in a rose for May day one year. I have bought a mean for a homeless person. I try to offer help when ever I can. And I try to smile at everyone. Little things can mean a lot. I gave someone who was hitchhiking some water but I was not going far enough to be helpful though I did offer him a ride as far as I was going. I gave a lady a ride home with her shopping just before Thanksgiving my last year in the States then I took her to check on her truck which had broken down and when I left I sold her the car I had been driving for the cost of the battery I had just put in it. 

1 year, 2 months ago on Nobody Knows You Did It…

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that guy in the middle is no true scot he is wearing shorts under his kilt. you can see them even when he is standing up


1 year, 2 months ago on Drumroll Please! – Hot Scots Drumline

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@christinepeck0811 @Single Dad Laughing I figured it was similar to an electric fart (Something my kids taught me about) you know the ones with juice.

1 year, 2 months ago on Why Is There Anyone Left Here At All?

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@DanetteHopeEichele wow I seldom have seen that first name which is the same as one of my sister's kewl.

1 year, 2 months ago on Why Is There Anyone Left Here At All?

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@Lauren Collins I have to admit if he started saying something about abusing his child or murdering puppies and I thought he was serious I wouldn't get offended I would get concerned and angry and I would try to find a way to report it to proper authorities.

1 year, 2 months ago on Why Is There Anyone Left Here At All?

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@Tamara Carpenter that actually may have been the article that got me reading the blog as well. I didn't know reading was considered a homosexual activity I bet my Dad didn't either. 

1 year, 2 months ago on Why Is There Anyone Left Here At All?

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@DaniJensen not quite I generally don't take offense at profanity ; )


1 year, 2 months ago on Why Is There Anyone Left Here At All?

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Thanks Dan, that was a totally amusing post. While yes I did make a negative comment on the %) cent a swear blog I figured you were adult enough to understand where those of us who made negative comments especially those of us who made those comments politely were coming from. I also noted you used the term "had planned to do with the money" does this mean you have changed your mind? I do hope so.

I tend not to get offended all that easily generally it has be be a personal attack on me specifically or on someone I care about and generally my reaction is anger. We all get to choose how we take what is said or done to us and it is all to easy to decide to get offended because then we can lay the blame on our mood or day on the person we decided we were offended by.  for the most part I find you humorous or interesting when I happen to see your blog posted to my facebook page which is how I found it in the first place. 
As to why people are still here. well it is possible that there are those of us that consider you a friend who we just have not met physically. You have let us into your life and in some cases into the deep recesses of your mind and memories. Yes we may become offended over something you said and we might get upset with you over something you plan to do or actually tell us about after the fact or how you word yourself at times but frankly you still get that with friends and even with people you are closer than friends with. 
I didn't see the blog where you introduced the farmer's daughter as your sexytary personally if she is not offended by it then I can see no reason anyone else should be. Yes if there was no relationship other than a working relationship between you it would be inappropriate to use a term like that especially if it could be viewed as sexual harassment but since you guys are on a different relationship level then it really doesn't matter as much. 
Anyway that is why people stick around I think it is because you are a friend who is mostly amusing and we like you enough to put up with the occasional offensive behavior.

1 year, 2 months ago on Why Is There Anyone Left Here At All?

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nah I didn't have that problem. Mine was more (with one son at least) I had to make sure he kept heading in the right direction as he had to walk there as he was too big to carry. But then I never really did have set nap times that I recall. If they were tired and getting cranky yes they were sent to their room to lay down. 


1 year, 2 months ago on Hang In There Buddy… Just 30 More Seconds!

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@Curtis Loftin now there's a good idea


1 year, 2 months ago on Fifty Cents for a Swear

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@crusherbevdr @Bevoholic I agree keep the punishment between yourselves and don't punish people that have nothing to do with your bad habits. Better idea would be to have to give the money to a charity of the other person's choice. Or spend the money saved by going somewhere the winner wants to go whether you enjoy it or not. Or possibly get something for your son.

1 year, 2 months ago on Fifty Cents for a Swear

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Thing is I had a nurse that I worked with actually write me up at work for farting. I mean i was trying to diet and that included eating things like garlic, cabbage, and broccoli all of which can induce gas especially if one has also had their gallbladder removed. Passing gas is something that is a natural process and according to things I have read the average person passes gas or fart on average around 15 times a day. Now I am not one that can control whether or not I emit a fart I mean there is little you can do to clamp down to avoid passing something like air. So yes I could not keep from passing gas until a more opportune time and just because she could it was wrong to assume everyone could.

1 year, 2 months ago on Horrifying Panty Burps Vol. 5

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@ElanSeagullBradley @LaraMcKuskyTaylor Vote for people not of the 2 major parties and do it repeatedly and get others to do so.

1 year, 3 months ago on America & My Struggle to Feel Proud

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@shanan187 @Snooterpoot I read some of the act though likely don't understand half of what I read as it is in legalese rather than simple language. One thing I remember it does is forbids insurance companies canceling a policy because you get one of those life threatening diseases. It also makes it illegal to not cover someone who had a preexisting condition for that condition or at all. It also does away with the lifetime caps on benefits it I remember correctly. 


1 year, 3 months ago on America & My Struggle to Feel Proud

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@Carson thank you for your service and for sharing your insights on the matters. Sometimes though grabbing the camera and taking a pic might be a way of helping that a person is able to do. Because that pic might help to supply evidence.

1 year, 3 months ago on America & My Struggle to Feel Proud

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@LeaAnnACommini @David Fabish I think he meant the poor will vote for those who promise to keep those programs that aid them over those that threaten those programs. Well that is true unfortunately people will consider those things in deciding between the lessor of 2 evils. which one will hurt me the least. And truthfully there is little we can do about this because with the poor it is about survival not about comfort for the most part. 
It stems between the haves and have nots the tendency of believing someone is a better person due to the possessions he owns rather than the acts that they perform.

1 year, 3 months ago on America & My Struggle to Feel Proud

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@David Fabish @StormPegler but at least you admit it and have admitted you should likely be paying more taxes than you do.

1 year, 3 months ago on America & My Struggle to Feel Proud

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@r.a.kauffman no offense and I am happy you have a good life but there are others out there who don't who actually work hard but still can barely afford their basic needs because their companies pay them minimum wage and only hire them for a certain amount of time so they don't have to provide them with benefits. These people may be working 2 jobs to try to make ends meet to try to give their children a better life. and their children are either in daycare which eats up most of their parent's wage or they are latch-key kids because the parents cannot afford the daycare that is needed. 
As for the it doesn't support the entrepreneurial spirit it doesn't not really because the income of a person who works for a company is taxed less than a person who works as an independant contractor. And unfortunately we are seeing a trend in healthcare as well as other industries to use independent contractors over employees because it costs the company less money. one place I worked for would charge the consumer of my services (through the company I was an independent contractor for) over $20 an hour (i know this because I saw an ad offering services at a rate discounted to $20 an hour. I would get paid between 7.50 and 10.50 an hour depending on the task given. out of this pay I was responsible for taxes and gas and car maintenance etc. I ended up paying taxes of 400 or so dollars on an income of 9000 for the year. now when I worked for a company and made 14k a year or a bit more I didn't pay any taxes or my payments were lower then reversed due to earned income credit.

1 year, 3 months ago on America & My Struggle to Feel Proud

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@Elizabeth Picone Mullen Ah but we no longer have that right not really. if you are within a certain distance of a person that is protected by the Secret service you cannot protest. even if you didn't know they were that close to you because that has become a federal crime. you seem to feel very self satisfied about all you have done and can do and maybe justifiably but to say you don't fight for Dan because he casts doubt on the way the country is run that makes you less of an American than he is in many ways. Yes you fight for the freedoms you feel embodies the US but no the US is not the finest country in the world no country is except perhaps to its citizens.Immigration to another country legally btw is not a short trip it is a slow and painstaking process especially to people on a limited income. unless you are advocating he do so illegally?

1 year, 3 months ago on America & My Struggle to Feel Proud

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