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Luckily, I am not in that precentage and moved out and went to work the day after graduation.  However, a college graduate being underemployed will hopefully gain employment in their field of choice making more than minimum wage. 

 

It is not the world we live in... It is not the same as someone doing a job that requires more skills getting paid similiar wages than someone working at a job meant for teenagers. 

 

I am just saying if they get $15 dollars and hr.  I would like my base pay to increase as well. 

 

It's hard because those majors that don't teach a "tangible skill."  It is important to have a specific skill set... and network.   

1 year, 1 month ago on Is $15 An Hour Unreasonable Pay for Flipping Burgers?

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Does that mean that people who spent time going to school... get increased base pay.  I can't imagine a world where a college graduate/ experienced higherskilled employee gets paid the same as someone who works at McDonalds. 

1 year, 1 month ago on Is $15 An Hour Unreasonable Pay for Flipping Burgers?

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 @Jamila  @Aabaakawad 

The people on that site must be projecting. lol They are the only ppl who get worked up over who people are marrying. I am pretty sure BB&W crew has always been marry who is best for you, regardless of race.  

 

Some people just don't get it. lol 

1 year, 3 months ago on Kerry Washington Marries a Black Man, And Yet She STILL Remains the Embodiment of What BB&W Is About

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I love his blog.  I have been following it for a long time.  Glad to see it on here!

1 year, 4 months ago on "So Good They Can't Ignore You," A Book Review

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 @BeautyIAM 

correction** ...fact that when he does use black models they tend to have natural hair.

1 year, 5 months ago on Abercrombie’s CEO Michael Jeffries Created a Public Relations Disaster When He Decided to Diss Fat People | Beyond Black & White

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 @BeautyIAM 

I actually applauded the fact that, when he does use black models (before this anti fat fiasco).  They tend to have natural hair.  They tend to feature "swirling couples."  

1 year, 5 months ago on Abercrombie’s CEO Michael Jeffries Created a Public Relations Disaster When He Decided to Diss Fat People | Beyond Black & White

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 @BeautyIAM 

 

 

To be fair.... they did try to correct the race issue.  I wouldn't call it for douche bag white kids...thats a little harsh.  Most of the time it's just the athletic cliques of the school that have that style.   

 

I agree it's nothing new.  He prob. could have gone about it better.  He must have saw this coming.  It is prob. just part of the marketing strategy.  

1 year, 5 months ago on Abercrombie’s CEO Michael Jeffries Created a Public Relations Disaster When He Decided to Diss Fat People | Beyond Black & White

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 @Asia 

 

There are black models.  That is the only thing that he tried to change about his brand... he has been sued ALOT.  They have a far way to go but they "try" to be more inclusive as far as race goes.  

 

I don't know why anyone is surprised this company is sued all the time for discrimination and disgruntled employees.  I love aerie bras.  They fit perfectly so I probably won't be changing anytime soon.  I don't condone what he said but the people that would shop there prob. won't care to much. 

 

I was in hollister yesterday with a friend and I saw a bigger teenager in her with her thinner friend and I wondered how she was feeling.  If anything he should have kept his mouth shut for the young and impressionable, that age where every life event seems like the end of the world.

 

This really is not anything new but he should have just focused on the positive, instead of excluding people.  He could of used it to promote a healthy lifestyle.... and not add any large sizes.  Now he just seems like a nasty person.   

1 year, 5 months ago on Abercrombie’s CEO Michael Jeffries Created a Public Relations Disaster When He Decided to Diss Fat People | Beyond Black & White

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 @joifulli 

Thats so sad.  

 

"An indian friend of mind said I don't understand asian culture but cultural differences are a pretty lame excuse for mistreating or abusing someone."

 

I completely the agree with this the cultural excuse is lame.  An acceptable cultural excuse is you like to eat crickets or [insert another food strange to me].  Not an excuse for allowing  the mistreatment of certain people based on culture.  Nobody gets a pass.  

1 year, 5 months ago on Asian Mothers are CRAY!! Second Story I've Heard of Moms Threatening Suicide Over Black Girlfriends!

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 @onmywayup 

I understand that but we live in the west... thus he looks like a doormat.

 

If you choose to marry into a family like that it's your bed to lie in.  I feel for this woman though.   

 

Either way you have to pick a side.  I can respect him choosing his family or telling them to either get on board or not being in our lives.  Just make a decision...  

 

Why can't his family value his happiness over their own? Isn't that collective. Too much tom-foolery for me.  I know myself and this would never work.   

 

That being said I know where I stand on Asian men unless he is rebel and wants to join me in the debauchery.     =)

 

 

1 year, 5 months ago on Asian Mothers are CRAY!! Second Story I've Heard of Moms Threatening Suicide Over Black Girlfriends!

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It's sad that she is in that position but I guess it's time for her to make a decision.  

 

If he can't make a decision and pick a side and put your foot down... its unattractive. I guess it's because I've never been attracted to people that can't think for themselves and stand up for what they want.  I find it very challenging to take them seriously.  

 

I guess some people must really love Asian men to put up with that dynamic.  To each their own.  

 

1 year, 5 months ago on Asian Mothers are CRAY!! Second Story I've Heard of Moms Threatening Suicide Over Black Girlfriends!

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 @Alana 2 

 

If there is nothing you can do or are willing to do about this who cares? Live your life.  Find your own passion.  If some person wants to assume I act like Madea because thats on tv.  Who is the fool? Clearly it's not me. lol 

 

I don't think it's healthy to spend your life worrying about what someone else is thinking.  If an issue comes up you deal with it, but I don't think it's worth it to  get worked up over something that hasn't happened yet.

 

On the other hand, there are people that dedicate their lives to these issues and I'm thankful that they are so passionate.  If they can inspire and motivate them more power to them, it's a great skill to have.  If someone doesn't want to be an ambassador for my cause, I'm not judging.  I'm sure they have other things to do.         

1 year, 5 months ago on Watch Out for First World Problems!

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"An Asian man who fears his parents is not inherently weak."  

 

If it doesn't mean he is inherently weak, what does it mean? I guess I just don't understand the cultural dynamics.  

1 year, 5 months ago on Asian Mothers are CRAY!! Second Story I've Heard of Moms Threatening Suicide Over Black Girlfriends!

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This is great! I needed some inspiration to choose my graduation day dress.  =) 

1 year, 5 months ago on Five Fashionable Things We Can Learn From Mad Men

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 @Butterfly123 

I was pleasantly surprised but in the comments on Sandra's article.  It was a black male that stood up to people spewing vile. 

1 year, 6 months ago on Black Women Have a Sickness When It Comes to Hair

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I just thought I would share this comment, from Sandra's article.  

 

"Thank you Ga  always comb ya childs hair  cause to me it says a lot about a person ... This is why we make no stops headed home when I pick my child up from After school cause Bay Bay  her hair looks a damn mess by the end of the day."  

 

I would put the rest of it but she used a lot of emoticons.  That was the main idea.  

 

A child's hair says alot about a person?!?! It's a baby...lol As long as the child doesn't look dirty... I think its okay.

 

I'm pretty sure there is a baby picture w/ my hair wild and free while running from my mom in my diaper...lol ;)   

 

 

1 year, 6 months ago on Black Women Have a Sickness When It Comes to Hair

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It's a little disheartening that some women think babies have hair "emergencies."  Beyonce baby is looking cute and happy.   Some people need to stop worrying about things that are not really important.  Let the baby run around happy, free and natural... as it should be.  

1 year, 6 months ago on Black Women Have a Sickness When It Comes to Hair

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 @Toni_M  @Leille 

 

She didn't answer her own question.  Women that body build have an uphill battle.  They have to eat certain things. It's not easy. lol 

 

These girls are not "bulky."  They train way more than any normal person would. lol   

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5zvqNHDTf8Y 

 

My cousin does it as well.  She is super petite...just ridic strong. lol 

 

I think what women feel when they first lift is they are developing muscle, while still having fat so there jeans maybe tighter.  It's just a transition. When you diet and eat in moderation, you'll be thinner.   

 

I think that dancers workout are great.  I don't discriminate when it comes to fitness.  I believe the "lengthening" that people feel is part of the balance, confidence and feminity that associated with dancing.  

 

I think there is something to be said for just working on being healthier and stronger.  I don't think you can pick and choose what you want with your body.  It is what it is. lol There is no "love handle" work out.  I mean people market things that way but eat healthy and burn fat. Rinse and repeat.  

 

After your there then you can look in the mirror and be like hmm maybe I want to focus on this area.   That's just my 2 cents a fellow fitness junkie. lol   

1 year, 6 months ago on Leah Sarago, Creator of "Ballet Body" Chats with BB&W About 'Feminizing' Your Workout

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I enjoyed this book!  Lots of AHA moments for me.  Somethings I knew but it was a good reminder.  Especially the section about women tending to have a distorted vision of their accomplishments and abilities.  

1 year, 6 months ago on "Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead," A Book Review

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 @JennMJack 

 

I agree with this.  

 

I also see that when it comes to BW supporting BM.  There are these high standards for how much concern BW should feel for people outside of the family.  That is not necessarily reciprocated when it comes to BM supporting BW outside of the family.

 

There is an acceptable amount of empathy and concern that is shown for everyone outside of your family.  It tends to vary from person to person but there is an acceptable standard in society. However when it comes to  BW and BM, the "acceptable standard" scale tends to get a little lopsided.  As a result of these lopsided expectations, you get the "well what have BM done for me?" question.  

1 year, 6 months ago on Reciprocity: What does that word mean to you?

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I liked white denim but pen ink kept attacking them so I gave up.  Maybe it will make a comeback for me... but I'm pretty hesitant to wear white at all... except in shirts and possibly a dress.   

1 year, 6 months ago on How to Wear White Denim Pants: 3 Ways

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 @Jamila  @thecrazyartist  @GG123  @Lexi88 

Oh okay, when I read your comment.  I took it as you were combining the time. Sorry for the misunderstanding.  

 

1 year, 6 months ago on On Vetting: Could You Be Deceived?

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 @Jamila  @Lexi88  @Brenda55 

I'm still on that path but I got my degree in Chemistry.  I'm taking sometime to work in the pharm. industry to decide between PharmD/MBA or MD/PhD.  I want to work in drug design.  I'm still that crazy!

 

I try to fight it but my love of science is too strong.  I realize business is important too and can be a combo when I'm older.  I may want to leave the lab in time.   

 

1 year, 6 months ago on On Vetting: Could You Be Deceived?

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 @thecrazyartist  

Not all residencies are 4 years.  You can have you MD w/o a residency and do something else.  It's only 8 years of schooling to get the degree. 

 

In order to be able to practice you need to complete a residency.  The length depends on specialty.  

1 year, 6 months ago on On Vetting: Could You Be Deceived?

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 @Jamila  @thecrazyartist  @GG123  @Lexi88 

Residency isn't "medical school" its residency.  You get paid.  If a person decides they don't want to be a doctor after graduating or they don't place into residency, they can use their MD to work in industry or do a research fellowship.  

1 year, 6 months ago on On Vetting: Could You Be Deceived?

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 @Jamila  @Lexi88  @Brenda55 

Idk why its so hard to believe someone is an EE... and then later becomes an MD.  I know people that have taken that path. It's not that weird.  

 

The utility company is weird.. and throwing money lost me.  Idk what she was thinking entertaining a guy that would throw money at her...??  

1 year, 6 months ago on On Vetting: Could You Be Deceived?

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 @Brenda55  @Lexi88  @Jamila 

Nope, I wouldn't want him but the schooling isn't unbelievable.  

 

I would def. be probing into the path that led him to acquire these degrees.  I would assume he would be going for patent attorney. lol 

 

He lost me at the throwing money... lol 

1 year, 6 months ago on On Vetting: Could You Be Deceived?

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 @Lexi88  @Brenda55  @Jamila 

EE would be the undergraduate degree.  

1 year, 6 months ago on On Vetting: Could You Be Deceived?

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 @Brenda55  @Lexi88  @Jamila 

It's possibly to have those degrees at 28.  

 

4 years of undergrad and you graduate at 20 or 21, depending on birthday

4 years of med school (no residency... some people do that) and you graduate at 24 

3 years of law school and you graduate at 27

 

If it's joint degree MD/JD its shortened to six years.  

 

I think to figure out if he is genuine ask questions about the schooling... 

1 year, 6 months ago on On Vetting: Could You Be Deceived?

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 @MrsGlam  @Brenda55 

I really don't like the idea of this because women have extra hardship... They have to worry about being raped and not treated fairly.  I hardly think its equal to force women into a situation where they have undue hardship.

 

The military can be cruel to women.  It's one thing to let women into combat that are willingly to take on that burden and another to force them into the situation.    

 

Ahh well, we'll see how this plays out.  This equality between the genders is a minefield.  Sometimes I don't even think it's possible...  

1 year, 6 months ago on Why Does My Autistic Son Have To Register For Selective Service?

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 @juleah  @The 

 

I don't know her but it is also could be that she meant her look is flexible and more ambiguous, not necessarily more or less beautiful than darker skin.  Doesn't necessarily matter for high fashion but possibly commercials, movies or more mainstream ads.  

 

Just giving her the benefit of the doubt.  She was speaking in front of Namoi.  It seems a little crazy to say something like that even if you feel it.   

1 year, 6 months ago on To Whom It May Concern: Black Skin <em>Is</em> "International".

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 @R. Kamaria 

 

I believe she is considering herself international based on her surroundings.  I agree that high fashion.  i see a lot of models that are exotic and dark skinned.  International modeling is a whole new ball game.

 

I feel like she may thinking of acting and run of the mill magazines.  

1 year, 6 months ago on To Whom It May Concern: Black Skin <em>Is</em> "International".

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 @EnJay  @Joyce345 

 

"And you see them around town with butt-length hairweaves, colored contacts (still!), and/ or an "affected" manner to distance them from any speech patterns or behavior even remotely associated with black culture."

 

This seems very strange to me.  In my experience people with hair weave and colored contacts fit into the black community, more so than a white one. 

 

I also really don't like the idea of people assuming someone is distancing themselves from black community because they don't fit into the stereotype naturally.  Speech patterns and behaviors are an environmental factor.  I really resent people saying acting or distancing yourself from black culture..w.e that is.  It holds the assumption that the actions of black people and skin complexion are not just a correlation but the causation.    

 

I guess there are people that wouldn't naturally have that speech pattern that try to emulate it.  Maybe you can tell the difference... but it's a thin line separating that from someone who just grew up in a different environment.  

1 year, 6 months ago on To Whom It May Concern: Black Skin <em>Is</em> "International".

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 @ASwirlGirl 

"This was my problem in my 20's. Thankfully I learned to not try to "find", but rather to just "be." 

 

This is so true.  I'm in my 20s now.  I spent the beginning of my 20's this way.  Trying to find the meaning is also seems to be part of the grass is greener syndrome.  What are you going to do with the meaning of life when you find it? 

 

As an extension, I learned life is what's happening today.  Not after you finish school, after you find an apartment or [insert another landmark event in life].  

 

 

1 year, 6 months ago on Morning Coffee Read: From the Mouths of Babes Comes Understanding and Wisdom

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 @Blackberry 

 

I'm the complete opposite.  I love reading self-help or relationship guides.  I love reading someone else's perspective.  Plus, most of the time it leads to some kind of self reflection or even something small that can add to my life.   

 

I don't follow them by law but I'll take suggestions under review... but I could say I'm a little bit of a junky when it comes self improvement.   

1 year, 6 months ago on Look What's Coming--Matthew Hussey's "Get The Guy" Book!

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 Men can get something out of reading it too ;) 

 

1 year, 6 months ago on Look What's Coming--Matthew Hussey's "Get The Guy" Book!

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 @Blackberry 

 

The book is a little bit of both.  She talks about her experiences and those of the people around her.  There are quite a few funny anecdotes.  She also sprinkles in some practical advice on how to handle situations.  I wouldn't call it an "opinion book." It's very well researched with citations for every claim she makes.  I enjoyed it.  I actually just finished it today! 

 

I definitely learned a lot and it was pretty entertaining.  I found it inspiring and comforting because I tend to suffer from "impostor syndrome."  I think many women can relate and get something out of reading it.  At the very least, it will give you something to think about.   

1 year, 6 months ago on Look What's Coming--Matthew Hussey's "Get The Guy" Book!

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Aw! So cute!  The blog def. needed this.  It was getting a little heavy with recent posts lol  

1 year, 6 months ago on Friday Funny: Swirl In the Animal World!!

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 @DWB  @Brice Cameron 

 

I see why people like the "environmental factor" explanation.  It allows them to feel okay about feeling uncomfortable with homosexuality.  Its easier to deal with being uncomfortable with someone's choices but it's hard to deal with oppressing someone.  That change allows their lives to be up for debate.   

 

What if  people enjoyed sexual favors by either sex?  However, sex between men and women resulted in children.  Therefore, the people that would have been labeled as "gay" in our society today remained in the minority.  It is possible they got married and had children because societal pressures were high.  Societal pressures are not as high so people feel an increase in freedom to be themselves.  Now we have this community of LGBT emerge because they have that option.  

 

To me that seems way more likely than the environment made them gay....lol I mean talk about an ego boost... we the people created gay people by changing the environment. 

1 year, 6 months ago on BB&W Sound Off: Is the Gay Marriage Debate Just Like Lovings Vs. Virginia?

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 @DWB  @Blackberry  @tracyreneejones 

 

Assuming thats true...

 

Shouldn't the ones that want to get married have the option?  

 

I mean just because majority of black or white people in history didn't want interracial marriage.  Did that make the need for interracial couples to get married any less valid? 

 

Ahh... I need to stop reading the comments.  I'm getting pulled into debates about things.  I don't think need to be debated.  Oh well! lol

1 year, 6 months ago on BB&W Sound Off: Is the Gay Marriage Debate Just Like Lovings Vs. Virginia?

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 @simply lois 

Believe whatever you wish...

 

Whether someone makes a choice or they are born that way.  It's there call.  There community.  Let people in their own community judge the validity.  I suspect they will be better at it than straight people.  

 

People can experiment if they want to... I'm sure there is a place for them w/ in the LGBT community.  At this point who cares... 

 

Plus, I think it's possible that there was a time when majority of people were bisexual. At that time, It may not have made sense to get married.  Who knows? 

 

I'll be awaiting an increase in wedding invitations.  Things change.  I can adapt.  The country has spoken.   

 

You know what happens to people (or political parties?!?!) who can't adapt?  lol  

1 year, 6 months ago on BB&W Sound Off: Is the Gay Marriage Debate Just Like Lovings Vs. Virginia?

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I think it's a fair comparison but to people that believe that being gay is a choice it won't be...

 

Personally, I don't like getting into these debates.  Clearly, time is up and gay people will get married... It is one of the issues where people either get on board or get angry...  The angry people are just delaying the inevitable.  

1 year, 7 months ago on BB&W Sound Off: Is the Gay Marriage Debate Just Like Lovings Vs. Virginia?

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I can't wait to read this book!  Right after, I finish "Lean In."  His videos are always really insightful. 

1 year, 7 months ago on Look What's Coming--Matthew Hussey's "Get The Guy" Book!

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 @MySmile 

I think some "older" parents may not have an issue with it because that type of attitude toward hair is "normal."  Thankfully, black woman are growing up in a world where natural kinky hair is normal and beautiful.  I don't think you can turn on the tv and see a black women without her hair styled naturally (at least the illusion of natural).    

 

... Once we get passed people stop saying "going natural" and start saying "I'm not straightening my hair anymore" more often, we'll be in a better place. The place where natural hair is how it is and the alteration is the style.  

 

Anyway, I digress... don't want to highjack the discussion.  Now back to Wendy and people...lol 

1 year, 7 months ago on 5 Reasons Why The Old Aunt Viv Should Keep Her Mouth Closed

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 @MySmile 

I agree! I remember her trying to give advice to [insert white celebrity here] on her black adopted child's hair.  She def. talked about the child's hair with negativity and that the mom shouldn't put her hair in puffs.  

 

I really don't think she can give advice on natural hair.  Especially if she doesn't wear hers... ever. That mom needs some curlynikki or nikkimae or [insert person with beautiful natural hair here].   

 

She is a little too fake for my taste but to each their own.  She can be entertaining in her own right and created an empire.  Whatever works...lol  

1 year, 7 months ago on 5 Reasons Why The Old Aunt Viv Should Keep Her Mouth Closed

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 @juleah 

"That's why you have to find your own peace and happiness in life and not let other people's opinions dictate how you live your life and the energy you put out in the world. "

 

I completely agree with this.  Sometimes people try to fault you for that by saying your living in ignorance.  I just choose to deal w/ problems as they arrive.  Change what is within my power.  

 

For the most part, I call it selective amnesia for my own well-being.  

1 year, 7 months ago on We All Love You...But You Need a Media Intervention

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 @keimiasmoon 

I agree with you.  I do think that not everyone is the activist type and thankful in this day and age not everyone has to be.  (Side note: LOVE THE COSBY SHOW)  I believe if there is someone who's goal is to get better representations of black people on tv, they should go for it.  That is there path.  However, everyone else should focus on living there lives to the best of their ability. They are helping the cause in their own way by being different than what people may or may not see on tv.  

 

Hopefully there will be a time when people realize those are tv black people and most likely any black person you meet doesn't tap dance while eating watermelons.  It's like people that don't like Madea... my response anyone who thinks all black people act like that is nuts.  Do you really want to be friends with someone so gullible?   

1 year, 7 months ago on We All Love You...But You Need a Media Intervention

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 @missbumblebea 

I **love** HGTV!  I agree.  I lived without cable for a while and watched Netflix.  I rarely watch VH1, MTV and BET.  It wasn't in protest just nothing on it really appeals to me.  I'm more of a Game of Thrones, Deception, Scandal any show with a scientist or medical examiner kind of gal. Although, I will say my one guilty pleasures are "Real World" or "True Life" on MTV.    

1 year, 7 months ago on We All Love You...But You Need a Media Intervention

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I think this article was more for the people who need an intervention.  Most of us have known that person that constantly watches tv and complains about the presence of black people and constantly blaming tv.   *Cue eye roll here* 

 

People can consume media responsibly and watch something educational.  If you don't like what you see, you can try to influence or change it. If thats not your thing... turn it off and go focus on your own life.    

1 year, 7 months ago on We All Love You...But You Need a Media Intervention

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These ideas are really good.  I should try out colored denim.  

1 year, 7 months ago on How to Wear Colored Denim: Spring 2013 Trends

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