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@Lili2009 I have to agree with this. I used to think that I would take the "us against the world" approach, but now I would totally leave. It's not only my goal to have a loving and supportive husband, I expect his family to be nothing less than loving and supportive of me as well. So at this point in my life, I would leave someone whose parents felt negatively about me.
Umm...this wonderful beauty can wear whatever the heck she wants. If she competes in competitions, I'm sure she wears much less than she is wearing here. Plus, her body/health in a way is her business; it says if you want to look as fab as I do at SEVENTY or any age, hire me! Not mad at all, not mad at ALL.
@Razzy I was thinking that this is more than likely something he's always wanted to say to his single mother. He's clearly still upset that she picked his loser father who abandoned them both. This is classic I hate my mother for picking a no good man to be my father.
@Butterfly12 You could tell by the references those animals made in that video (Duke Lacrosse rape, Mike Tyson rape case, Trayvon Martin (SMH) etc.) that she was Black. Thankfully those pigs will pay for what they did.
I'm starting to see this on IR dating sites where non-Black men are stating their preferences for a "strong ^ independent black woman." I skip right on by these profiles!
@Patricia Kayden I like this. If I run into a new way to make side income I'm the first one to share it with my loved ones because that is much more helpful to them than loaning them money. Also, I was always taught to only loan someone money if you won't miss it; if you can't afford to help out, then don't.
@Brenda55 For analytical purposes, the median value is actually correct; that is the point in which 50% of people are richer and 50% of people are poorer that the median figure. Now, if the study used mean value, then yes, people like Bill Gates would skew the numbers upward and the mean figure would have no meaning. However, since median value was used, this is the best figure to illustrate the racial wealth gap.
Just another quick post, I'm going with this is his issue to deal with, she's simply stating her experience, and on a certain level immutable facts. If there isn't a BW in a certain movie, clearly it's a visual fact. She notices thing she doesn't notice, and probably never noticed. Would he take on the same guilt if she noticed there were no women on a particular board of directors at a certain film studio? Or that she got looked over for a management position at a Tech firm in favor of an under-qualified man?
I find it odd to take on guilt when someone expresses their experiences with someone or a particular group of people who you just happen to share some benign characteristics with, that would concern me. It would also disturb me if my SO felt that, "he was that white man bringing your people down." Eeek! Maybe he harbors some feelings that he never knew he had and never had to deal with until now. Has he ever asked himself why it makes him uncomfortable, beyond his surface reaction.
I fully expect that I should be able to express certain concerns with my SO (don't get me wrong, there is a line) and not have to save them for my girlfriends/family/etc. Certain topics may be uncomfortable in an IR relationship, but I think they're as uncomfortable as you make them.
Women like Lucy Parsons, Ida B. Wells (I know you haven't covered her but I just love and adore her!!!), etc. deserve to be household names just as much as our Harriet Tubmans, Sojourner Truths, etc. Funny, Ida B. Wells had a white female detractor too, Frances Willard.
I really enjoyed this read! I think several BW in this position are now finding out too that those jobs aren't as dedicated to them as they have been to those jobs. It's all about balance. You can have it all, just not at the same time.
I think we've always been "in," but what I think is happening now is more Black women are taking control over our image and doing it with femininity, grace and fierce business acumen, or I should say there are women who have been doing this all along, but this type of Black woman is much more visible now and setting a new precedent.
I haven't seen this movie, but going off some of the things I've heard, it seems like the accolades surrounding this film is what Khadija calls the obsession with Black women's "pain porn."
@Toni_M This is so true. The Chicago Crime Commission President even said himself, if not for the increasing amount of children being caught up in gun/gang wars cross-hairs, the rate of killings would not be of concern. Unbelievable!
Actually, I think there are more people who support her than those who do not. It's similar to Gabby's hair fiasco, and any other dissenting opinions involving BW, we should just ignore them. When we give dissenters even a sliver of attention their hate tends to overshadow the positive and original message or accomplishment.
Anyway, congrats to Curly Nikki! Publishing your first book is a great achievement!
@Lili2009 Chicago legislators threw their hands up at the gun violence years ago when they asked for the National Guard to take over.
I don't even know how this woman could deal with something so horrific. To outlive every single child of yours due all because of senselessness.
Also, I'm so curious as to who was Yasser Arafat's mistress!
WOW! This was a fun read!
@KolaBoof1 Did Ben say that to you? You know, I could totally see him saying that. Is his wife Black? I've never read any info on her.
This was a great read and lovely story! I'm so happy for you; and you're such a brave lady to keep pushing forward! Kudos to you and your love!
I also avoid people who over-share their likes and dislikes. I think those are things that people should work to find out overtime.