I am a teacher, but then again, aren't we all in some manner or another? How do we change the world? One person, one lesson at a time.
Joel... kudos to you and the other gentleman. I think I would have probably done the same thing, but alone.... I am not sure. I agree with Chris that the silent support is way less likely to cause escalation by saying something to them verbally. You deserve to feel good over this one. This kind of brings up an interesting opposite case scenario that happened to me just last night. I was coming out of the party store after dark (usually avoid that) in the 'hood. I held the door for a woman coming out and she politely thanked me and said it was nice that some people still do that "no matter who they are" (yes she was black... was that at the root of the comment?). 4 steps toward our car a young dude comes up to me mumbling "did I have.... something...." (was I about to get mugged?). She sees this and takes 3 steps toward the dude and says "leave him alone and get out of here" and he wandered off. Good karma paying off from my simply being polite and holding the door and calling her "Maam" resulting in her possibly helping to protect me? I thought about it all night last night
2 days, 14 hours ago on White Guy Asks, “How Do I Protect Black Women from DBR’s in Public?”
Hmmmmmm..... I think we should instead do a "Sexy Men of BB&W" ....
1 week ago on BB&W’s First Annual “Sexiest Man of the Year” Nominations!
@uninterracial " I think this is the reason when you engage in an interracial relationship with a white male, it's best stay out of black neighborhoods."
Bee lives in a rough neighborhood in Detroit. One day when I was leaving a car coming up the street (they had obviously seen me) got behind me and started following me. Had 4 young black males (all thugged out) in it. I went all the way around the block. They kept following me. I ended up quickly on the main road and they followed me all the way to the freeway. Looking to mess with me? Probably. I was in a bit of a panic when it happened but afterward when I told her this story... she was VERY concerned about this incident too ..... I was able to refer to them as "Neighborhood watch" (still do). I was lucky nothing really happened from it.
1 week, 1 day ago on NOT AGAIN!! Another White Guy with a Black Girlfriend is Killed by a Black Man.
@Statuesque"The first move, by the way, doesn't have to be direct or bold. It can be subtle, playful or friendly as you test the waters."
I agree with you on this. My first move - when I was searching online to meet people - was very low key such as "May I politely wish you a good evening?"
1 week, 2 days ago on One Social Scientist’s Advice for Black Women Dating Online: Make the First Move.
@Brenda55 @EarthJeff @reem11"LOL. Bad boy."
I am a bad boy for having great hair?
2 weeks, 2 days ago on Sisters, It is Time to STOP Giving Birth to Men Who Hate You.
@reem11 "why does everything have to be about (wm) P size and (bw) hair?"
Yeah... why cant it ever be about MY hair (I have great hair) and HER.... uh..... forget it...
"Meh! She’s only with that white dude because no black man wanted her!"
Us poor white guys seem to always get stuck with the women nobody wants....
2 weeks, 2 days ago on Somebody Call the GAT-DL! Another White Dude (Who Doesn’t Want Black Women) Marries One!!
Chris.... You have done some fantastic work, and this one very well may be your best yet.
2 weeks, 5 days ago on Sisters, It is Time to STOP Giving Birth to Men Who Hate You.
"For most men, a pretty girl is a pretty girl!" Absolutely. And we all have to understand that we are all fighting a lifetime of black women being told white men dont want them... only want them for sex..... etc.
White men with a lifetime of being unable or afraid to express interest in black women... racist friends or family ..... face ramifications at work....
Now, today, men and women are able to make choices and pursue their interests... acceptance is growing... it is a new world - for the better - that we are adapting to...
2 weeks, 5 days ago on Question of the Week: “Help! I’m Suffering from Dating a Rainbeau Impostor Complex!”
@LaShella " IR marriages are no longer taboo, or kept behind closed doors. And they never will again"
And isn't that incredible. It is something most of us here work for, hope for, dream of. It may have taken awhile, we aren't there yet, and there will always be haters... but we ARE getting there.
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@Brenda55"I'm going to the source on this one. Gentlemen a vote.
Do you find the term "white boys" Offensive? "
I dont find it offensive, but what is offensive to one may not be to another. Of course, dont get me started on how out of line the whole PC thing has become. Lots of examples of how people just need to grow a pair sometimes. But... "White Boy"? I use the term a lot in reference to myself with Bee and even around her family. In fact, back in the day, Foreigner had a song "Dirty White Boy" so sometimes I actually refer to myself as a Dirty White Boy. Also, there used to be a famous drug kingpin in Detroit named "White Boy Rick". When Bee and I started going out, one of her friends tagged me "Rick" because of that in her conversations with Bee. Bee was afraid to tell me in case I would be offended. I wasnt and we laughed about it and Bee felt free to use it to her friend ("Rick says Hello") even in front of me.
3 weeks ago on The Solution for Educated Black Women Who Want to Get Married and Stay Married: Seriously Consider Dating Some White Boys.
Actually the whole Black and White thing is irrelevant here. Do yourself the favor and move on. You deserve to find someone, not just to be toyed with.
3 weeks, 2 days ago on “Swirling Catfish?” One Writer Wonders If Her Online Romance is the Real Thing
I don't know if the verdict was "a joke", but I would think Execution would be a better choice.
3 weeks, 2 days ago on Justice for Anene Booysen
This crap makes me cry, it really does. It just never seems to end, it really doesnt.
3 weeks, 3 days ago on Typical: “There was no sexual assault. There was no kidnapping. There was no such thing as the charges that are now pending against her.”
@Conor Flannery"Am I getting that right? The way I read that comment is that this has
little to do with the differences between black men and white men in how
they treat black women, but rather, this moment in time where it's now
(or will be soon) de riguer for a cool, sophisticated black woman to
have a white guy in her romantic life."
Actually, that is what I thought as well.
3 weeks, 6 days ago on Up for Discussion: “Are White Men the New Black?”
snapping a light chain to the D-ring on his collar ... take him home ... dressed in his loin-cloth ... linen kilt ... or thong!
Woooo ... kinky!"
Please tell me that your house is on an acre of land or something and that you don't have neighbors..... geez..... You and Brenda.... what a pair....
4 weeks, 1 day ago on What Your Typical Black Woman Means When She Says, “Get Me A White Man!”
@TamekiaThomas @tlakins @mspbody
"but hey im half way through with my degree so im up for relocating lol."
Good for you. Keep up the hard work and you will get what you want. At the same time, it isn't the finish, it is the journey. (DARE I quote Miley Cyrus... "its the climb...."..... No, better not....)
"With my heart racing, I offered my phone number (in case she needed any help with the phones). She responded with an email thanking me and saying she hoped it wouldn't be years before we saw each other again. That was my "in"! I jumped at the chance to expand our conversations."
See, subtle, toe in the water and read the temperature before trying the whole foot. I bet most of the WM have stories about starting out subtle. Bee and I were talking about this last night. WM don't Holla, and if we get any negative reaction (like Mean Mug) we move on. BM DO Holla, and if he gets Mean Mug he waits 5 minutes and tries again. She doesn't believe me when I tell her that if I had gotten a really negative reactions (beyond the surprised, which is different, "What the hell" look) I would never have called her again.
@CAPT SMOOTH @DU2 @Lili2009
"Many Non-black men find you attractive, sensual, funny, smart and alluring. "
I agree with this.
" Black guy buys me a drink=he's interested. White guy buys me a drink: Just being nice!"
Cant we WM be nice and ALSO be interested?