I am a teacher, but then again, aren't we all in some manner or another? How do we change the world? One person, one lesson at a time.
@Chicago404 "Being someone's fetish isn't always a bad thing as long as they love and respect you and treat you well and don't dehumanize you. Fetish doesn't always =dehumanization."
Thank you.... I never do understand how and why "fetish" has to be thrown like a weapon... why there has to be such a negative connotation. And... where is that fine line between a quality that one may find attractive or appealing, and a fetish? If I am very attracted to gorgeous dark brown skin on a woman and find that very appealing and very sexy, why is that wrong? Is that a fetish? Why am I accused of just fetishizing her? We all have our things that we like and attract us to each other. Mother Nature puts these things in place for male and female to be attracted to each other to find a mate. So. because I like and appreciate women... I have a "woman fetish".... Oooohhhh, what a dirtbag I am ... geez
14 hours, 57 minutes ago on Can We Please Stop with the Black Woman Fetish Hysteria?
@Chicago404 "If you can't struggle with me baby don't call me when it's time to thrive."
Well put.... Absolutely
15 hours, 50 minutes ago on Fear of Social Consequences Squelches Relationship Before It Starts. What Do You Do?
@Brother Adam " if you and your mate are willing to face the problems and try to temper your own rages against the inequalities of the world around you, your relationship will hold up."
And... is this way the BW/WM marriages tend to stick more than any other group? Those of us that face this crap on a day to day basis, well it makes us stronger as a couple? In some instances the haters are helping to drive us TOGETHER? Just a thought.
15 hours, 52 minutes ago on Fear of Social Consequences Squelches Relationship Before It Starts. What Do You Do?
You look fantastic as always and we are changing the world... we love you Christelyn...
1 day, 8 hours ago on Check Out My “Swirlr” Interview on CNN/HLN…Now the World Knows…Mwhhahaha!
@BeautyIAM"*stroking chin* Do I want to be a contestant??????? LOL"
I was wondering that myself
3 days, 13 hours ago on It’s Here! The First Episode of “Swirlr”
@mystikspiral "That said, the parents are still contractually obligated to pay their daughter's high school tuition costs--despite her behavior. They entered a legal agreement with the school to fund her education there and so they must pay. One cannot simply skip out on contractual obligations due to family feuds (or any other personal issues for that matter)."
It would be interesting to read that agreement... bc it would seem that they are obligated to send her to school and if that means pulling her spoiled butt out of that school and put her in public school.
4 days, 10 hours ago on Rachel Canning, Girl Suing Her Parents for College Tuition Just Might Be a Sociopath
Please never ever lose sight of that.
5 days, 12 hours ago on Confessions From a Woman Struggling with Her Sanity…Can You Relate?
"When was the last time you heard a white man call black women "bitches and hos" in the media?
Black rappers do it all the time and are considered role models and heroes"
6 days, 13 hours ago on Sh!t Haters Say to Discourage Black Women From Dating Out
@Savannah1812 @BeautyIAM "The ONLY thing that keeps a lot of black women in the community is because they think that there is nowhere to go. "
And THAT is what we are all changing. And THAT is why THEY (those so concerned with keeping black women down) are scared as hell.
@oekmama "Christelyn, I am in awe of your patience, politeness and grace under fire."
Me too. Christelyn could be a teacher any day....
@reneeymoore "somehow they secretly have all the knòwledge of what white men want and don't want."
One of my favorite is still how we want sex. AHHHHHH, yeah, guilty. That isn't all we want. But enjoying your lady as man and woman.... yeah, we probably all want that. Interesting thing is... that often comes with commitment instead of the "pump and dump" system that seems to be the overriding priority with many men of some segments.
@Lili2009 "About a year later, I saw the same girl, her face was softer, she was friendlier, and she made sure to tell me almost immediately how she met her teacher's fiance who was "a Caucasian man." I can only imagine what she had been told about white men or any non-black man who showed interest in black women. But, I was glad that she had seen examples for herself that we could find love and tenderness with a variety of men. "
This one is interesting because I often see a difference in my students when they learned I had a black girlfriend. You could see the thought process in their heads such as "Ok, this is normal". Interestingly, the young ladies were much more accepting and the young black males were already getting indoctrinated to Blackistan and how it was their world, including that BW did not belong with WM, I have had a student say "you cant steal our women, they need to be around for us when we want". Out of the mouths of babes.
@Brenda55 @Lili2009"WM/BW couples showing one by one by example that the lie really is a lie. "
Yep. We continue to change the world one couple at a time
6 days, 14 hours ago on Sh!t Haters Say to Discourage Black Women From Dating Out
Or.... "I want to take you out, may I have your number?" Like you asked.. that works
1 week ago on QOTW: White Guys Asks, “Does My Gorgeous, Black Co-Worker Like Me?”
"I would like to get to know you a little better.... after all, we seem to get along here. Might you be interested in grabbing dinner together sometime?"
@SirLoinDeBeef "My-Oochums-Smoochums-Witto-Baby-Boy (yes, loudly & in public)."
Brenda should know better.....
1 week, 1 day ago on What’s In A Name?
@Swirlgirl28 "as black people we have the tendency to name our children the most "off the wall" names, then expect others in our society to just accept it. "
VERY true. If you want to go the route of unique.. thats fine... but dont take issue when people as about it, mispronounce it, etc...
As I teacher I get to see all these unusual names. I dont have a problem with it per se, but I do think that the reality of it having potentially discriminatory ramifications needs to be considered. Is it fair if Sheniqua's resume gets tossed before she even gets a chance to talk face to face and sell herself? No, not fair at all. Is it modern reality? Of course.
I hate stumbling over a name trying to pronounce a name until I learn it and I do start right from day one telling kids that if I pronounce it wrong to PLEASE let me know the correct way so I can get it right... it is important that I do learn it... but also to please let me know politely. I hate the ones - there is at least one every class and it is almost always a young lady, the guys dont seem to get as bent out of shape - who pops up and goes off how it is pronounced "however....". You can have as unusual as a name as you want, but dont go off when people get it wrong. Politely correct them and move on. I get it that you are tired of people mispronouncing your name. Then use a nickname as someone suggested below.
it was Gabby Union or even the beautiful Nia Long, it wouldn't be the
same thing. This one (Paula) is more special and black men WANT her...."
EVERYONE wants her.... Of course I would take any of those three.... MMMMMMMMM
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@Brenda55 @BWC "upbraiding me for being bad. "
And "bad", like beauty, is in the eye of the beholder...
1 week, 5 days ago on Why are Black Women Mocked If Their Non-Black Mates Don’t Look Like Adonis?