I am a teacher, but then again, aren't we all in some manner or another? How do we change the world? One person, one lesson at a time.
@thecrazyartist ""Uppity negro bitch! How DARE you demand a fairytale life! No one is looking to save your ugly black ass!"
All the white man wants you for is sex and thats it...
"Gold digger! It's not his job to help you out! What's wrong with helping out a brother who needs uplifting!"
Nobody helped my mama or my auntie or my sister out. Why do you think you deserve help? Now get over here and stroke my ego and uplift ME...
"Marriage is a piece of paper, you think you are as worthy as Becky or something? Why are you trying to trap a man?"
Marriage? Our people dont believe in marriage. I left you a present there between your legs and in your uterus. What else is there?
"White men don't want your black ass sit down!"
They just want you for sex and that is it.....
"You just wish you were white you self hating bitch!"
How selfish you are to want to be loved and cherished, treated as a partner and mate. You know black women are supposed to cook, clean, support her man, and spread her legs on demand...
1 day, 1 hour ago on As If! Michael Baisden Asks Why More Black Women Don’t Date Interracially. Come On, Son! You Know Why!
@MixRevolution "Get out there and instead of gawking at the black/dark hotties we both know you want, walk up to them and introduce your self. You dont need sleezy pickup lines and cheesy approaches. Just be yourself, be confident and introduce yourself. Its the only way to know for sure whether she's open to dating you or not. "
IF you never stick that first toe in the water, you have ZERO chance of getting wet and enjoying the pleasure of the water....
@BWC @tracyreneejones "Hell, I almost called once to see if he would arrange an IR date for me. Figured it couldn't hurt to try."
Eric Thomas - he is a popular motivational speaker, goes by "ET the Hip Hop Preacher", I use his clips a lot with my students - likes to talk about No Opportunities Wasted.... Ever... Take advantage of ALL of them.... Anyway, You should have called... ;)
No... they dont see it. Enlightenment is a funny thing. We all get enlightened at different times... at different points in our lives. Sometimes an event will trigger it. Sometimes we literally wake up one morning enlightened about something. Sometimes it takes someone else to help us come to a realization and become enlightened. Sometimes some folks never do become enlightened .... and that is sad....
1 day, 1 hour ago on RANT: I Am So SICK of Black Women Throwing THEMSELVES Under the Bus…
@Christelyn @EarthJeff @Victoria Posh Couture " Thanks, Jeff. I guess I'll always be accused of hating black men no matter what. So it's just...WHATEVA!!!""
Yeah, well, lucky for me that I am a white man so you can like me instead and we can be pals.... ;)
And I feel your pain... I get accused of only wanting black women for sex, having some fetish for black women, and being 20 some generations down from potentially heinous ancestors.
1 day, 10 hours ago on As If! Michael Baisden Asks Why More Black Women Don’t Date Interracially. Come On, Son! You Know Why!
@Victoria Posh Couture "I have no time to argue with immature adults as I have work in the morning. "
oooohhhh that hurts.... I am going to toss and turn all night with worry about that....
Have a wonderful day tomorrow though....
@Christelyn "You want black women to stay in bondage because you don't like my TONE?!"
No, they blame it on your tone because they realize that their position sounds silly and ignorant so they wrap it around some meaningless bullshit instead to try and make it respectable. Problem is for them... you can take bullshit and candy coat it, dip it in chocolate (pun not intended but does have a certain humor to it), kiss it, wrap it in a stack of money... whatever you want... and it is STILL bullshit.
@Christelyn @Victoria Posh Couture "But feel free...if you hate it here and think I'm evil...BYE."
She is too polite to warn you to be careful that the door doesnt hit you in the booty as you head out if you dont like the discussions here. But I do have to say, I find this site to be entirely about preaching choice and not bashing others who do not like the message of choice being preached.
@TiaMonae @neffy08 @KirishaMelodySmith "Becky from waffle house lmaooooo! Truthfully."
Hey.... Waffles ROCK and someone has to cook and serve them
@SirLoinDeBeef @Lannie "White guys can be sooo dense at times - I was."
Oh yes we can be..... I certainly was as well.
1 day, 11 hours ago on As If! Michael Baisden Asks Why More Black Women Don’t Date Interracially. Come On, Son! You Know Why!
@lyndjohnsonva @Lannie GREAT picture. So sweet. We are all so different and yet... so the same.
thanks for sharing
@yimani "Fearful of how they will be treated based off of the cruel treatment of their ancestors. Being hanged, raped, and beaten, and having their unborn children pulled from their bellies and killed."
Wasnt me. Can we move on?
@ChrisA78 "Whenever there's an issue , Blame the Back man! This seems like an attack against black men and to that I say to hell with you and your site....."
Good... please dont let the door hit you in the ass on the way out. If you dont like this site... dont come here.... Is that REALLY so hard to understand?
"The exact thing that you think makes you weird/awkward/strange are the exact things certain men will love about you. How’s you like them apples!?"
The lady speaks the truth. Well written Tracy. Maybe some men are looking for the perfect trophy to be with. But for myself.. I would far prefer quirky and silly and awkward and REAL.... any day....
2 days, 4 hours ago on Are You An Awkward Black Girl? Here’s Why It’s a Good Thing
2 days, 16 hours ago on Sad News: Former BB&W ‘Hottie’ Succumbs to Cancer at 41
My heart, thoughts, and prayers go out to Nikki, his daughters, and all Jason's loved ones... It gets a tad better day by day but it is OK to have that ache as you settle into your "new normal". Yet a lost loved on always has that place in the hearts of those that loved him or her. Draw some comfort from the community here. I know I did when I lost Bee. Your story is heart melting.. that will be a cherished memory that you will have forever.
"Hang out in places near colleges and downtown areas, which will have the highest concentration of educated and multiracial folks."
I totally agree with this one. I have hung out in Detroit. I have hung out in Ann Arbor (very educated, diverse, and multiracial). The difference is light day and night.
1 week ago on Interracial Couples and a Word on Safety: Memphis Couple Needs Our Advice.
Dude... you like what you like. You are attracted to what you are attracted to. Are you limiting yourself? Arent we all "limited" by our preferences? Also, ALL women have their guard up for awhile before they begin to date. Seek what you want and dont settle. If that doesnt seem to be a fruitful search in a time frame you are hoping for, well, then you can always settle I suppose. Personally, I would rather seek what I seek and NOT settle.
1 week, 3 days ago on QOTW: White Guy Worried He’s ONLY Attracted to Black Women. Here’s My Take.
The sanctions for doing so have loosened and in most cases disappeared so what is to stop anyone from making that choice? "
Which is a huge part of why we are seeing this "explosion" of people feeling free to now pursue interests that they may have been reluctant to pursue in the past.
2 weeks, 1 day ago on The Great Debate: Should WM and BW Get Together Because Their Same Race Counterparts Are High Maintenance? Some Say Yes
I am not sure that is a reason to specifically date someone of a certain race. I just think that you are attracted to what you are attracted to and you like what you like.
Corporate America again flipping off haters and doing with their checkbook... they know where their bread is buttered and how the changing face of America is the one that buys their products. LOVE IT. The world is changing one couple, one young person, one commercial at a time...
2 weeks, 2 days ago on Like Cheerios, Honeymaid Sticks It To the Haters
"But it’s just painfully obvious, you only need to look into those
eyes to see all you want is for your passion, loyalty, dedication, fire
to be reciprocated. You just want to be given priority in your man’s
life, because you’re giving so much of yourself to him. I could think of
Very well articulated... and I co-sign this totally.... I can not think of anything better, either.
2 weeks, 5 days ago on A Heartfelt Letter from a White Guy, Wondering How He Can Approach Black Women. Have At It, Ladies.
You said it, brother.....
3 weeks ago on Take a Look at This EBONY News Release and Tell Me What’s Wrong.
"holidays and all special occasions were spent with my new extended family. (I had no idea green beans could taste so good.)"
That one got me laughing because I totally relate... I, too, never knew green beans could taste so good....
3 weeks ago on Essay by the Newest BB&W Blogger: ” The truth was I loved black women.”
3 weeks ago on The Picture That Changed My Life
"It felt like someone was punching my vagina in the face. "
Eloquent and articulate as always, Maam....
3 weeks, 1 day ago on Photo of the Day: I Smile, Through Chaffed Thighs.
@RogerTheSpear @Browncow "So I could not disrespect any woman because by doing so I would be disrespecting the women in my life. "
I am with you on that one Roger. Point right on...
3 weeks, 5 days ago on Did You Know? Black Women Are Bashed On You Tube for Page Views.
@Brenda55 @Browncow @RogerTheSpear "He is here by my side taking care of me as I recuperate from the surgery I had yesterday. "
Hope you are OK..... you are a fave, Brenda. And Sir does deserve the props. He is a good one...
@TotallyNotGangster"Why wouldn't nonblack men be disturbed by the way black men treat their women?"
I know I am very disturbed when I see that. Although, I am disturbed when I see ANY men mistreat ANY women. I just dont get it.
3 weeks, 6 days ago on Did You Know? Black Women Are Bashed On You Tube for Page Views.
Dont people have better things to do in life? Geez.... I think the world just needs one big group hug.... ;)
Without this turning into a matchmaking service.... my son (the same age) would be delighted to meet this young lady. SixteenOnSeventeen.... get my email address from Christelyn (I hear she is good at matchmaking anyway...) and I will give yours to my son CJ - if you are interested.
And you sound like you are one fantastic young lady.... I would encourage you to continue to follow your dreams.
4 weeks ago on A Letter from a Teenager Who Found BB&W
Wow, this young lady is a fantastic writer... OK, the teacher in me cant help myself sometimes.... But I respect and admire when someone has a talent...
" Not just me. This is a COLLECTIVE operation. All of us are contributing to the betterment of black girls and women."
No, pretty much just you, Christelyn..... We are just along for the ride.... ;)
Good for Tamekia. What an incredible woman. Kudos to her.
4 weeks, 1 day ago on Stand Up Sister Protects a Stranger and Her Child
@dippedingodiva"he stated that naturally white men/boys flirt differently; however, when
it's with a Black woman specifically they are extra careful (not
wanting to say or do the wrong thing to give off the idea that they just
want to "hit it and quit it" or experimenting with a Black woman)."
I totally agree with your boyfriend on this one.
1 month ago on Lesson: Black Chicks Need to Know When Non-Black Men are Hitting on Them!
As always, Christelyn's advice is right on point. White men express interest and/or flirt differently. We just do. Very much more subtle. Much more carefully and cautiously. And look for feedback at each step before we take the next baby step.
@markhaaseth @18andlegal @EarthJeff @onmywayup "We should do a SE mich swirl meetup! Bonbon and I would love to meet others!"
I seriously like this idea....
1 month, 1 week ago on Sh!t Haters Say to Discourage Black Women From Dating Out
@onmywayup @markhaaseth @18andlegal "live in the metro-Detroit area. Yes, it's racially polarized...but I definitely see BW/WM couples from time to time. "
I agree with that. Detroit itself was bad and some of the metro areas are still bad... like Downriver... but Western Wayne is decent. I suspect Macomb and Oakland counties are OK. I live out in Washtenaw and Ann Arbor is very swirl friendly, no surprise at that though. We need to start a Detroit area BBW group...
@Law Wanxi @SirLoinDeBeef @kia "Yeah, don't bother with the multi-state Powerball or casinos. You hit the Lotto with Brenda and used up most of your luck."
I have to agree here...... Sir already hit the jackpot...
1 month, 1 week ago on I Told Tyler Perry I Want to See More HEALTHY Swirl Relationships on the Tom Joyner Show This Morning
@kia " A woman that is attractive and healthy, has an education, a job, is a good cook, gives good sex regularly, can have a good conversation. Did I miss anything. Isn't that what most men look for in a wife. Love to hear from the men on this one."
Sweet and loving too....and.... ah....all of those are what I look for in a mate....
@kia "Black men complain that BW think that just because they earn a good living, can cook, and sexes them down on the regular that they deserve a ring. LOL,most men of any race except DBR's would love to have a wife like that that's smart enough to earn a decent living, and loves to cook and sex. "
Damn, honey, do you HAVE to go to work again? Why the hell did you cook that nice meal when I wanted frozen chicken nuggets and tater tots? And do we HAVE to? I am getting tired of that stuff.... and I have a headache...