I live in NY. I am pretty eclectic and open to everything and, always have been.
@VonmiwiCulvera Your hair and skin look gorgeous in the pic.
6 days, 17 hours ago on What Black Men Think of Natural Hair : “The Ish Don’t Move…”
@Swirlgirl28 Although there is a mix. Me too!
1 week ago on Reader Responds to “What Black Men Think of Natural Hair” Post
I flagged it. I heard of this person (used loosely) only because of his crusade against Christelyn.
1 week, 1 day ago on BB&W Family, I Need Your Help. This Man is Attacking My Family
This is great. Kelvin sounds so sincere. If I lived in DC or Baltimore, I would definitely take a look. You never know. I might make it there some time soon.
1 week, 1 day ago on Reader Responds to “What Black Men Think of Natural Hair” Post
Love the lippie! You look beautiful!
1 week, 2 days ago on Orange (Makeup) Is the New Black: Quick Skin Prep, Tutorial and Products to Try
@Silverroxen Me too. I liked that his character was smart and sarcastic. But, extremely easy on the eyes came first!
1 week, 3 days ago on Azealia Banks’ New Boo is HAAAWWWRRRRTTT!!!
@Gijou I think I replied to you. I agree. But, Clutch and Madame Noire sometimes make something out of nothing....
@sunflowerraven It's a cute movie! I watch it whenever it comes on.
1 week, 4 days ago on Azealia Banks’ New Boo is HAAAWWWRRRRTTT!!!
Wow. Good for her! I thought he was cute since Bring It On!
@Naturalsis1 Demographics definitely plays a part. I think? I am NY as well. I get compliments a lot too. Christelyn is in Cali. I believe... It might be tougher?
1 week, 5 days ago on What Black Men Think of Natural Hair : “The Ish Don’t Move…”
@nolonger21 I was just talking about that with a coworker. Don't let it be drizzling even... Melissa was worried about her hair.
1 week, 5 days ago on Reader Reaction: Latest Post Inspires Her to Give Up the ‘Creamy Crack’
Yikes! I have heard bad relaxer stories (burns, etc.). But this is one of the worst. I feel for you. I'm glad that you thought fast, saw the derm and bought aloe vera. I used to sometimes get sores. But, what stopped me from relaxing (besides wanting to see and feel my own hair, and the cost) was the fact that my once long healthy hair was breaking and becoming thin... And yes, you said it perfectly when you said "flat relaxed hair that just looks blah." Mine was just that. Enjoy your natural journey. I'm sure you will love your hair.
@lili2009 @Brenda55 Her hair is gorge. She is reminding me of the singer Valerie June.
@Brenda55 Gorgeous couple.
@Sweet_Poetess I think that going into things without any preconceived notions is admirable. If you don't mind telling us, where do you live? Christelyn's friend is typical of a lot of BM and the way they think and, offer unsolicited (and negative) opinions. Unfortunately.
2 weeks ago on What Black Men Think of Natural Hair : “The Ish Don’t Move…”
@lili2009 @melissamak007 I'm sorry. His enthusiasm is cute. I do think that for some older men, not being conditioned definitely changes perspective. I was married in my early twenties. My ex husband is Trinidadian. His dad was Venezuelan. His mom, Black Trinidadian. I was relaxed then. He always hinted that he wouldn't mind me going relaxer free.
@DanaEliza @Jamila I know right? How entitled and arrogant do you get?
@Jamila OK. So WHAT????? He is beyond unprofessional. Not to mention dumb and ignorant.
2 weeks, 1 day ago on What Black Men Think of Natural Hair : “The Ish Don’t Move…”
About two weeks ago I was getting off the train in Grand Central. A handsome, older Black man stopped me and told me he "appreciated" my natural hair. He said he sees too many weaves (For the record, I think women should do whatever they want with their hair. Whatever makes them feel beautiful.) He also told me that growing up in Jamaica, his sisters had thick, natural hair. I've gotten more compliments natural (from different races, including Black men) than ever. I don't know if my irritation lay with the fact that he's speaking for other people and generalizing. OR... Have you ever noticed that sometimes dark skinned people will make fun of other dark skinned people? Or, a chubbier person will make fun of someone who is also chubby? The problem is always an issue they have with themselves. Which is exactly why BW should pay no mind to the toxic people who are trying to bring them down. Hair doesn't have to move to be beautiful
@Lady A You're so right. Chescaleigh (Franchesca Ramsey) has had to say numerous times on numerous forums (until, she said she was going to address it anymore) that her being married to someone White has no bearing on her right to talk about racism. I had no idea that was even a thing? Like, how does you dating or marrying someone of a different race exempt or, make you not suitable or competent to discuss racism?
3 weeks, 4 days ago on Wait…WHET?! Azealia Banks Dates White Guys? Is She Not Allowed to Complain of Black Men Now?
@trinigirl1 @melissamak007 ;)
3 weeks, 5 days ago on Wait…WHET?! Azealia Banks Dates White Guys? Is She Not Allowed to Complain of Black Men Now?
@Blkwoman4Blkman Why should anyone "benefit" from someone else's relationship? Much less a group of people? Do you go to YouTube channels where the Black men spew vitriol about Black women and put them in their place? "Historical enemies"? Is someone here sleeping with a slave master? Or a KKK member? Do tell. I usually don't feed trolls. Them being inconsequential. But, your diatribe was too much.
@trinigirl1 @melissamak007 BOOOO! But, I understand. I hope you don't just celebrate today! This is your week!
@trinigirl1 @melissamak007 Is it really time to get up? Or should you just lay there like a princess?
@trinigirl1 Happy Birthday!!!
@simplylois I saw him on a site yesterday. Maybe Facebook actually. Very nice.
Azealia did say she preferred White guys. Older too. I don't think I ever knew her reasons. Not that I would have to. I read Clutch from time to time. But... I get a Madame Noire feel from them. I don't think that anyone owes the general public or, their friends and family explanations as to why they make the dating choices that they do. But, one of my MAJOR pet peeves is when people assume that you have "self hatred" issues because you date other races.
3 weeks, 6 days ago on Wait…WHET?! Azealia Banks Dates White Guys? Is She Not Allowed to Complain of Black Men Now?
What a great read! Thank you for sharing. You are very pretty, by the way.
1 month, 1 week ago on Kesha: “My Husband Was Not the Man of My Dreams”
Honestly, I knew you would not have a hard time finding anyone. I did notice that you responded to the troll. Your response was perfect. You are beautiful, smart, and seem to have a great personality. I got out of a bad relationship a few years ago. I just dated for a while after. Just for fun. It was great. Then, I was ready for something more serious. Have fun with it. You are such a breath of fresh air. I really feel like you should have a dating blog until you find your "One".
1 month, 2 weeks ago on Carrie Rebounds After False Start with the ‘Emotional Warrior’
@oceanspray Definitely her mom. Or a patient, stylish friend.
1 month, 3 weeks ago on Issa Rae, Jacque Reid and Others Talk Interracial Relationships on “Nightly Show”
@oceanspray It's funny you should say that. She said in her book that, she knows that she doesn't dress well. That she doesn't have .. I guess? Fashion sense? She also said it was a disappointment to her mom. She was the first girl. Her mom was/is a fashion plate. She said she's never really been good at that.
@stephanie88 I would love to see/follow your Pinterest board!
@SavannahPost I know what you mean. I was never treated as if I was the "bottom of the barrel". I never thought of myself as the "bottom of the barrel". I always dated men of different races. I'm not the only Black woman out there that has. I would never discount anyone else's reality. That's one of the most frustrating things. But, at the same time I wouldn't go in a public forum stating that Black women are the bottom of the barrel. Simpy because it's not true. That doesn't mean I think she should shut up. Not at all. But, maybe choose her words differently.
@simplylois @melissamak007 Ohhhhh... Typical.
@Ri74 @Patricia Kayden @melissamak007 @Vivaforever Thanks!
@Patricia Kayden @melissamak007 @Vivaforever She had her reasons for that too. Supposedly they are viewed as "high maintenance" among other things. I think women from different walks of life have their own unique issues when it comes to dating/marriage.
@simplylois What did she say?
@simplylois But, he has supposedly also dated Naomi Campbell. There is also this: http://www.thechocolatechick.org/2013/05/leonardo-dicaprio-only-dates-blondes.html
@GoldenPrecious She sounded like her esteem issues kind of came about in her tween through teen years. She said that she didn't really dress well. Other kids thought she was weird. Her family moved around a lot. She talked about posting pics of lighter skinned girls online when guys she met online wanted a pic of her. Not to mention that she was too young at that point to be meeting guys online.
@trinigirl1 @darkandlovely @thecrazyartist So true! This is something I've always said.
@SavannahPost @melissamak007 Her dad is Senegalese. She mentions feeling attractive visiting her family there. As opposed to here where... She felt like lighter skin, longer hair ruled. She also had typical weight issues. Typical in the sense that some of us might have had baby fat. Or, gained "The Freshman 15". Or just get comfortable at a certain weight and lose/gain extra, etc. Low self esteem was brought up last week? With the xoJane post. When other people hear things like this it kind of reflects on all of us. Like we are all sitting around lonely, lowering our standards. Just as unattractive as we could be. It should definitely be a post. Hint, hint...
@Maxine @melissamak007 @Vivaforever I know. I'm not on Twitter. But, I see the ignorance that goes on. It's hard to miss. In her book she said she talked to numerous people. But who?
@SirLoinDeBeef @melissamak007 @lili2009 Look here SirLoin, it's too, too early for me to spit out tea and cackle at my keyboard! Jeez...
@SavannahPost Exactly. Digging your own grave.
@Vivaforever @melissamak007 Yes ma'am! As I was reading it, I was thinking "hmm?". I just finished it so it's still on my coffee table. It starts off with "Black women and Asian men are at the bottom of the dating totem pole in the United States." She also said that the "higher your degree as a Black woman, the lower your chances of getting married." So she proposed Black women and Asian men get together. I'm in agreement though. That chapter could have been delivered differently.
@lili2009 Black women kiss differently than White women? Oh Lord!
Sorry to repeat myself. But, at the end of her book Issa did say that Black women are at the bottom of the dating totem pole. That's why she suggested dating Asian guys. Because according to her, they are also at the bottom... I love Issa. I think she's beautiful and funny. That part of the book wasn't my experience. I think her boyfriend (if I am remembering correctly) has a Black parent and, and Asian parent.
@darkandlovely Some people put others down to make themselves feel better. For whatever reason. I know someone like that... Celebrity, non celebrity... No one is safe from her scrutiny.
1 month, 3 weeks ago on Kid Rock (Crudely) Highlights How Preferences Can Change Over Time
@dbrooks109 I don't see anything wrong with saying that. I'm not a fan. I've liked a few songs her and there. Her Stans are full on crazy.
I haven't tried it as a leave in either. I used it to clarify. I'm going to give it a try. Your hair looks gorge, by the way.
1 month, 3 weeks ago on Home Made Detangler and Shine Enhancer…Apple Cider Vinegar!!