I live in NY. I am pretty eclectic and open to everything and, always have been.
@oceanspray Definitely her mom. Or a patient, stylish friend.
1 day, 11 hours ago on Issa Rae, Jacque Reid and Others Talk Interracial Relationships on “Nightly Show”
@oceanspray It's funny you should say that. She said in her book that, she knows that she doesn't dress well. That she doesn't have .. I guess? Fashion sense? She also said it was a disappointment to her mom. She was the first girl. Her mom was/is a fashion plate. She said she's never really been good at that.
1 day, 17 hours ago on Issa Rae, Jacque Reid and Others Talk Interracial Relationships on “Nightly Show”
@stephanie88 I would love to see/follow your Pinterest board!
1 day, 22 hours ago on Issa Rae, Jacque Reid and Others Talk Interracial Relationships on “Nightly Show”
@SavannahPost I know what you mean. I was never treated as if I was the "bottom of the barrel". I never thought of myself as the "bottom of the barrel". I always dated men of different races. I'm not the only Black woman out there that has. I would never discount anyone else's reality. That's one of the most frustrating things. But, at the same time I wouldn't go in a public forum stating that Black women are the bottom of the barrel. Simpy because it's not true. That doesn't mean I think she should shut up. Not at all. But, maybe choose her words differently.
@simplylois @melissamak007 Ohhhhh... Typical.
2 days, 12 hours ago on Issa Rae, Jacque Reid and Others Talk Interracial Relationships on “Nightly Show”
@Ri74 @Patricia Kayden @melissamak007 @Vivaforever Thanks!
2 days, 15 hours ago on Issa Rae, Jacque Reid and Others Talk Interracial Relationships on “Nightly Show”
@Patricia Kayden @melissamak007 @Vivaforever She had her reasons for that too. Supposedly they are viewed as "high maintenance" among other things. I think women from different walks of life have their own unique issues when it comes to dating/marriage.
@simplylois What did she say?
2 days, 20 hours ago on Issa Rae, Jacque Reid and Others Talk Interracial Relationships on “Nightly Show”
@simplylois But, he has supposedly also dated Naomi Campbell. There is also this: http://www.thechocolatechick.org/2013/05/leonardo-dicaprio-only-dates-blondes.html
@GoldenPrecious She sounded like her esteem issues kind of came about in her tween through teen years. She said that she didn't really dress well. Other kids thought she was weird. Her family moved around a lot. She talked about posting pics of lighter skinned girls online when guys she met online wanted a pic of her. Not to mention that she was too young at that point to be meeting guys online.
2 days, 21 hours ago on Issa Rae, Jacque Reid and Others Talk Interracial Relationships on “Nightly Show”
@trinigirl1 @darkandlovely @thecrazyartist So true! This is something I've always said.
2 days, 22 hours ago on Issa Rae, Jacque Reid and Others Talk Interracial Relationships on “Nightly Show”
@SavannahPost @melissamak007 Her dad is Senegalese. She mentions feeling attractive visiting her family there. As opposed to here where... She felt like lighter skin, longer hair ruled. She also had typical weight issues. Typical in the sense that some of us might have had baby fat. Or, gained "The Freshman 15". Or just get comfortable at a certain weight and lose/gain extra, etc. Low self esteem was brought up last week? With the xoJane post. When other people hear things like this it kind of reflects on all of us. Like we are all sitting around lonely, lowering our standards. Just as unattractive as we could be. It should definitely be a post. Hint, hint...
@Maxine @melissamak007 @Vivaforever I know. I'm not on Twitter. But, I see the ignorance that goes on. It's hard to miss. In her book she said she talked to numerous people. But who?
@SirLoinDeBeef @melissamak007 @lili2009 Look here SirLoin, it's too, too early for me to spit out tea and cackle at my keyboard! Jeez...
@SavannahPost Exactly. Digging your own grave.
@Vivaforever @melissamak007 Yes ma'am! As I was reading it, I was thinking "hmm?". I just finished it so it's still on my coffee table. It starts off with "Black women and Asian men are at the bottom of the dating totem pole in the United States." She also said that the "higher your degree as a Black woman, the lower your chances of getting married." So she proposed Black women and Asian men get together. I'm in agreement though. That chapter could have been delivered differently.
3 days, 10 hours ago on Issa Rae, Jacque Reid and Others Talk Interracial Relationships on “Nightly Show”
@lili2009 Black women kiss differently than White women? Oh Lord!
3 days, 11 hours ago on Issa Rae, Jacque Reid and Others Talk Interracial Relationships on “Nightly Show”
Sorry to repeat myself. But, at the end of her book Issa did say that Black women are at the bottom of the dating totem pole. That's why she suggested dating Asian guys. Because according to her, they are also at the bottom... I love Issa. I think she's beautiful and funny. That part of the book wasn't my experience. I think her boyfriend (if I am remembering correctly) has a Black parent and, and Asian parent.
@darkandlovely Some people put others down to make themselves feel better. For whatever reason. I know someone like that... Celebrity, non celebrity... No one is safe from her scrutiny.
3 days, 20 hours ago on Kid Rock (Crudely) Highlights How Preferences Can Change Over Time
@dbrooks109 I don't see anything wrong with saying that. I'm not a fan. I've liked a few songs her and there. Her Stans are full on crazy.
I haven't tried it as a leave in either. I used it to clarify. I'm going to give it a try. Your hair looks gorge, by the way.
3 days, 21 hours ago on Home Made Detangler and Shine Enhancer…Apple Cider Vinegar!!
@Goddiva @melissamak007 Haha! Maybe he did "Black out" indeed. The rest of us didn't though! The whole Justin Timberlake/Janet Jackson fiasco... Ugh. I can't be bothered with him. I couldn't be before. I definitely couldn't be after.
4 days, 16 hours ago on Kid Rock (Crudely) Highlights How Preferences Can Change Over Time
@StarStroy @trinigirl1 @Ri74 I was just talking about that with a White male friend. John Mayer said he had a "Benetton heart with a David Duke d*ck." He said he found Holly Robinson Peete and Kelly Washington attractive. But... So, my friend was like "THAT MEANS HE'S DAVID DUKE!"
6 days, 11 hours ago on Kid Rock (Crudely) Highlights How Preferences Can Change Over Time
@Goddiva I said the same thing earlier. It wasn't just his sons mom. Midori was in the mix as well.
@formeonly One of the reasons I love BBG.
6 days, 21 hours ago on Black Doctor Wants You To Know: “There are Good Black Men Out There.”
I had to come back to this post. I'm almost done with Issa Rae's book. She devotes a chapter to Black women and Asian men getting together. I've been a fan of Issa's since her web series. I think she's smart, beautiful, and funny. Now that I'm done waxing poetic... Check it out. It will make you laugh and have you nodding your head.
6 days, 22 hours ago on Zara: Asian Men, Black Women…So Undesirable, We Don’t Even Want Each Other
@marie_christine2 You're right. To some White people we're all Black. Don't pay any mind to the fact that someone might have one Black parent and one White parent. I've heard white people call people around your complexion "dark". Name calling though? No.
1 week, 1 day ago on Want To Know What Black Men REALLY Think Of Black Womanhood? Ask Kanye!
@CS @lili2009 OK. Kamau Bell has had foot in mouth disease before. I recently read an article he posted somewhere. I'm unsure when it was written. Him and his wife (who is White) frequent some eatery near where they live. They went in early with their child. The wife went back with friends later that day. He was talking to her through the window (as opposed to going inside the place). An employee thought he was a homeless (or transient) person trying to solicit. He was feeling a certain way. He used to get to me. But, after his Lupita comments... I can't be bothered with him.
@onmywayup @trinigirl1 @Lala88 I almost don't want to believe this (especially the "I guess deep down I just want to see Black women die alone." part) is real. BM have always shown interest in me. BUT there are some that I know only want me because they see me with my boyfriend. Otherwise, they wouldn't even see me. Child With A Toy Syndrome.
1 week, 2 days ago on Black Doctor Wants You To Know: “There are Good Black Men Out There.”
They're cute. Nice story.
1 week, 6 days ago on Kelly and Vallina – Put No Limits On Love
@KawaiiCutie After I read it I on xoJane I was going to comment. There was a young lady who had already commented. She pretty much said everything I was going to say. I'm not going to repeat everything she said. But, she did say she wonders what women of other races think when they read posts like this. "Poor Black women. Can't get a date..."
2 weeks, 1 day ago on Black Woman Writes Apology Missive for Preferring White Men; Seeks Understanding and Forgiveness.
I read that article yesterday. For some reason, I don't think a troll wrote it. There was another young Black woman questioning some of her statements (I agreed with her). People jumped all over her. The young woman who wrote it did sound damaged, and misguided.
2 weeks, 2 days ago on Black Woman Writes Apology Missive for Preferring White Men; Seeks Understanding and Forgiveness.
@dani-BBW @ZaraChiron @Cami2210 @onmywayup @lili2009 I've seen this as well.
2 weeks, 2 days ago on Zara: Asian Men, Black Women…So Undesirable, We Don’t Even Want Each Other
@ZaraChiron @melissamak007 He probably has. Just as you've grown into a fine young woman.
@jazzyfae45 That last part is so true!
@onmywayup I know right? Sometimes, when I read things like this, I get so irritated you would think it happened to me!
This made me a little sad. Jon sounded sweet. A potentially nice relationship could have come out of it. People's ignorance never ceases to surprise me a little. As well as their ability to make other people's business their own. What, exactly is so funny about an Asian guy and a Black woman dating? Especially as the young lady in the pic is so pretty. Thank you for sharing. There are a few "Jons" out there. I dated three Asian guys in my life: Filipino, Chinese, and Japanese. None of those relationships dissipated because of cultural differences. Or, preconceived notions.
@Gijou @melissamak007 You are hilarious! Alex or Alexis right? She's pretty. Seems like she would be smart. I would hope that she wised up. But, it could be that he met a stripper (Amber Rose) and though he was getting something better. Either way, it was for the best. The girl dodged a crazy bullet!
3 weeks ago on Zac: “ I wish a muthaf#^%*a WOULD,” and Other Kanye West Observations
@Patricia Kayden @Maxine He certainly has. http://bougieblackgirl.com/black-men-in-the-entertainment-industry-who-have-dissed-black-women-that-black-women-still-supportwarning-laced-with-madness-the-stupid-profanity-and-hella-colorism/
3 weeks, 1 day ago on Zac: “ I wish a muthaf#^%*a WOULD,” and Other Kanye West Observations
@Neil Marsden Shirley Manson from garbage also said something. Very well put too.
@Neil Marsden I am in love with Brandon now.
Oh my goodness. This was so painful to read. I am so sorry you had to go through that. I feel for your mother as well. But, in the end you're strong, smart and beautiful. Thank you for sharing this.
3 weeks, 1 day ago on Mamie: “I Am Damaged, But Not Broken.”
@Jamila He sure is. He's been a cooning for quite some time. I've seen sites where they call him "Coonye" and "Kuntye". But what you said here "How dare Kanye West act like Beck is less of an artist or displayed less artistry than Beyoncé when Beck can actually create an entire album of great music all by himself--Beyoncé needs like 5 or 6 people to make every hit song she sings." is perfection.
@Statuesque Ledisi is handling the issue very respectfully as well.
3 weeks, 2 days ago on Zac: “ I wish a muthaf#^%*a WOULD,” and Other Kanye West Observations
@Karla I know! I said this on another post here. I've been a Beck fan since the 90's. He plays 12 instruments. He writes his own music. I can't say I would have responded as graciously. But then, I'm not in the public eye.
@mlank64 @La_Zairoise I heard about that last week. No words.
@Gijou "Sex Tape Sally". HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!
@caligirl94117 That's so odd. I always wondered why people feel the need to give unsolicited advice and, tell you what you should do with your life? At this stage I have several theories. But, it all boils down to they need to mind their business. the assumptions are always a joke to hear too. Like they know you...
3 weeks, 2 days ago on Who Didn’t See This Coming? Threatening the Monopoly of Dating Black Women…
@PaoloP @rexy012 He's so tedious. I wish he would go somewhere and be quiet for a while. So we wouldn't have to listen to his nonsensical rants and disrespectful behavior. I have to say that I've been a Beck fan since the 90's. He plays 12 instruments and writes his own music. Maybe he deserves a Grammy?
3 weeks, 3 days ago on Who Didn’t See This Coming? Threatening the Monopoly of Dating Black Women…
I was so curious about who he would pick. She's cute! But then, all the ladies were. Look at those abs! I hope their date goes well.
3 weeks, 3 days ago on Update! So Who Did Wes Pick??