PhillyGirl
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Chris,
I, too, threw up about 10 times reading this CRAP! It's such CRAP! As a Principal, working with age group identified in this article, I can CONFIRM, what the author says is true. Yes, these boys are violent, obsessed with sex, and verbally, physically, and psychologically threatening to their Teachers and other "real children" in the classrooms! SO, my questions is, "WHAT ABOUT THE OTHER CHILDREN JUST COMING TO SCHOOL TO LEARN?" what about their safety, the safety of the Teachers, and the sacredness of the institution of Education? When does it become, the school's responsibility to "raise" future black men to "look good" in the eyes of little black girls? Don't even get me started on the MANY things plaguing Urban Education in America; one of which, are the parents and apparently the Black community at large, expecting education to do more in the schools than EDUCATE YOUR CHILD. I've been in SO many parent meetings, particularly this school year, when I've had to bluntly say to a Parent that it's YOUR JOB TO RAISE YOUR CHILD and our job to EDUCATE HIM. Don't come screaming when I've had to suspend your son or daughter for that matter because at 8, or 9, or 10, they are cursing at the Teacher IN CLASS or bullying students IN CLASS, or PHYSICALLY ASSAULTING THE TEACHER AND/OR OTHER STUDENTS IN CLASS!!! I mean, come on??? AS the Principal, what am I to do? I can't have unsafe children menace, intimidate, or abuse students and staff in the school no matter what the age. Yes, suspensions, are not the long-term answer; a long-term answer is having parents assume responsibility of their children and stand up and PARENT ALL READY. But in the short-term, I can remove those children so the other children can learn and we don't lose the whole RACE!
The sad thing Chris, about these young boys described in the article, it's NOT that they are being depicted in a negative or inaccurate light, the author admits to this being a true depiction; to me, it's the FACT THE GIRLS DO NOT LOOK ON THESE BOYS UNFAVORABLY!!!! Our young Black girls gravitate towards the "Bad" boys and ultimately those are the boys that get all the girls EVEN in 3rd and 4th grade. That's the sad part, that AND the fact that the Author thinks it's OK for our young Black girls to select these boys. Why isn't the author writing an article about ways to help the boys to be deserving of future quality BW? Why isn't the author telling young girls to steer clear of these boys and DATE OUT if that's what it takes to be with a "REAL" man? The answer: this black man and SO many others in the Black community think this is all little black girls and ultimately BW deserve - SO SAD :(
Don't make one mistake be your life story - I REALLY LIKE THIS!!! :)
Hello,
First let me say, You are NOT ALONE. The fact that you are questioning the relationship tells me that you know you are worth more than what you got from that man. You made a mistake, SO WHAT, every women on this blog is guilty of dating the wrong guy once or twice in their lives; luckily for you, you did this when you are young enough to shake off the stains of this relationship and move on. You've acknowledged your mistake and now it's time to let it go mentally, physically and spiritually. I would start with the advice made from Chris, "give yourself a break from dating." and by NO MEANS backslide with this man. I would also add, start reading LOTS of self-help books; some are cheesy but there will always be a message of positivity that will enrich your soul. Look at uplifting movies; The Secret or You Can Heal Your Life; exercise, journal, sing (yes, sing in your shower or tub) start by pulling together any and all music that makes you smile and makes you want to sing; it sounds cheesy BUT it's proven to lift your spirits. And KEEPING reading this blog. There are so many positive women on this site and you can always find a kind word and a smile. Above all, ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE WORTH IT! That man knew you were worth gold that's why he was attracted to you, so never doubt your self-worth and NEVER let any man or woman for that matter make you question how special you are. You will be fine! Keep your head up. :)
@Lexi88 This is so SAD and true! I heard/ HEAR several of these comments from S0- Called enlightened women :(
@Toni_M @foreverhopeful I've been getting into juicing as well; I usually put in lots of fruits but also a handful of Kale. The fruits overpower the taste of the Kale but you still get the nutritious benefits.
You guys are so cute! Thanks for the merry wishes and right back to you and yours. Thanks for all you do and I'm looking forward to 2013 with BB&W!
Okay ladies, don't slam me for saying this, but I have found the more a WM has or tries to have "swagger" the more he takes on or tries to EMULATE the characteristics of a BM; especially if he considers himself accomplished. In dating, those characteristics are, stringing multiple women along, NOT marrying them, because "you just can't find the ONE!" Come on, really a bunch of BS. This is just another weak, selfish man trying to use women for their own personal desires; definitely NOT a real man. Maybe it's just me that's noticed this??
Heading to London for Christmas & New Years hoping to have a GREAT TIME
The "ONE" Pass did it for me! I'm Natural and the thought of NOT spending several hours flat ironing convinced me to give it a try. Thanks Chris! BTE, your hair looks great!
Like everyone else I was and am still MORTIFIED by what happened. Looking at the news, one can become so desensitized to violence, but not from this: I CRIED. Chris, as a Principal in an elementary school, I pictured that same scenario you described; " mom drops off little baby to school, hoping to get in some last minute Christmas shopping, most likely rushing the babies out the door as we all do in our normal routine, only to have that DREADED PHONE CALL: The school is on LOCK-DOWN! As a Principal, I can tell you lock-down drills are serious but all too ordinary in our world. Parents probably thought is was something minor that would pass; but that next text saying the lock-down had been lifted NEVER came. I can't even imagine that moment... :( SO SAD... My heart is broken for the little babies and their families.
And then I think to the Teachers and Principal, like me who have trained for such a moment but NEVER in your wildest dreams do you think it will ever happen at your school; too YOUR BABIES. When I heard that the Principal ran towards the gun shots all I could think was: OF COURSE, that's what we do. Principals are trained to manage the emergency, try to de-escalate the situation if possible, and CONTAIN the threat in the office away from the kids. So, of course she ran towards the gun shots... That Principal and those Teachers are TRUE heroes because I know they knew at that moment they would have to sacrifice their lives for their kids. But, when did Teaching become such a hazardous profession? Is there nothing sacred left? All I can say is, " my heart is broken" but off I go to work on Monday morning to my own school. to my own babies, and pray, like I'm sure every other Principal will do,"God, PLEASE don;t let it happen here."
@Brenda55 I read that book a couple of years back and LOVED it! I was so refreshing to read about a BW living our her dreams abroad
@ChristieRJohnson I share your sentiments of feeling like my window of opportunity is closing; i'm in early 40's but I've decided I'm not going to let fear stop me. Like you, I'm not married and don't have kids so I can afford to be daring and take risks. I'm in Education so it's a little easier as I've been applying to International Schools but you may want to check international schools as see what other type of jobs are available. A good website is joyjobs.com there is a small fee but well worth it. Good luck
Chris,
Thanks for bringing this story to your blog; I don;t know how I missed this living here in Philadelphia. The storm coverage was CONSTANT for almost 48 hours and not ONE story about the circumstances surrounding these 2 babies. Yes, I heard about their deaths, but probably like most, we chalked it up to another tragedy from Sandy's wrath and not what it most likely was: A HATE CRIME in 2012. :( My heart breaks for the couple; I just pray their marriage will be strong enough to survive this tragedy.
But, you're so right; as an interracial couple you have to be careful about where you live and where you socialize; not everyone has gotten the memo that bigotry is wrong or that it's 2012.
NASTY! Just plain NASTY! What's wrong with BM? It just seems like there isn't ANY HOPE! :(
I looked at the other video about the BW in FAU and it was SHAMEFUL!!!!!! I truly felt sick to my stomach and said a quick prayer that not a lot of people view the video for fear of it further damaging the public image of BW everywhere. :(
I have 2 problems with the Bus Driver video: (1) A MAN feels the need to hit a woman and then have the audacity to say, "if she wants to act like a man, I'm treat her like a man!??? Which we all know is UNTRUE. Only WEAK men prey on women and I would bet my savings if that scenario was repeated with a man instead of a female the situation would have gone quite differently.
(2) If I saw this right, a BM was sitting right in the front row watching the whole incident take place and NOT ONCE did he get up to help the woman or approach the man.
I'm sorry to say this, but BM as a whole are a sorry bunch and don't feel the slightest need to protect the females belonging to their group. It's sad. And people wonder why we're dating and marrying out at ever increasing rates. It's not because we want a WM over a BM we just want a MAN!!!!
THANK YOU! I must admit I haven't been on this site in awhile due to the NEGATIVITY the last couple of times I was on...maybe a month or so ago. I was thinking, "who let these people in my ONCE safe haven?" and honestly it really bothered me the negative tone the blog had taken... So thanks for reminding your audience of the class and mutual respect that exist here.
now I have to look at the "cutie" on the video.
Brenda I think you hit it right on the head! It is about the QUALITY of life and some BW; dare I say, don't believe that type of HIGH QUALITY of Life should be for you....a BW. Your cousin, of course, is jealous, and longs for what you have, but she will and can never admit that to your face. For admitting that to you of all people means that she made the BIGGEST mistake of her life in deciding to stay with and SETTLE for her choice of mate. Secretly in her heart, she probably NEVER thought your life would turn out so well and now it smacks her in the face every time she interacts with you.