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@Seenyc HA!! You are awesome for this!! #TBT winner!

5 hours, 35 minutes ago on TBT: Más, Mucho Más Menudo…..

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@HaroldBozarth You can email your restrictions to tracy@rhedbananamedia.com, I want to make something specific for you first and then I'll add general ideas later. 

6 hours, 49 minutes ago on Fabulous Date Ideas for Cool People

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@SavageTango aren't you fancy. I'm sure she had a ball and kudos for the imagination. Lucky girl. 

6 hours, 51 minutes ago on Fabulous Date Ideas for Cool People

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@Seenyc Yes, I had posters of the first two pictures. And I admitted to spending my money on band merch. No, chile, I am an international purveyor of hotties. 

9 hours, 10 minutes ago on TBT: Más, Mucho Más Menudo…..

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I really wanted to do this. An older white co-worker suggested it after i mentioned having enjoyed fishing as a child during family trips. I was getting pretty good at it too. Thanks for the suggestion.

9 hours, 46 minutes ago on Fabulous Date Ideas for Cool People

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Ah......this is good. Very, very sad but good.

9 hours, 49 minutes ago on TBT: Más, Mucho Más Menudo…..

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@HaroldBozarth I'll work on something for you. I had actually began a piece re: physical restriction and dating. Can you give me a few so I can get my life together and I'll cook up something awesome for you?

14 hours, 50 minutes ago on Fabulous Date Ideas for Cool People

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Yes, I tend to date athletes or at least very active people. So many people are looking Yup date so they can have a reason to stay home on the couch. That's the last thing on my mind, I want a "life partner" to experience things with. I think there is a difference in lifestyle expectations.

21 hours, 50 minutes ago on Fabulous Date Ideas for Cool People

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@Law Wanxi I concur. This is the 'look' of White guys circa 25-50 out here in NYC. Facial hair, nerd-ish/tailored prep school gear, glasses and moused hair. Being fit is trendy now and it's summer so everyone has an awesome tan, including me. 

2 days, 3 hours ago on Have You Seen This Hunk? Nick Bateman Blows Up Facebook.

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@MichelePaynter1 Yes, it's possible. The inverse would mean that any 'pretty person' is incapable of focusing on anything besides the ego stroke of having excessive dating options. 


A secret of the pretty people is that most don't realize they are pretty (it's relative isn't it?), or they are humble about it (there is more to them than their looks and they hope you take the time to figure it out), or are so used to having options that they focus on more than surface level when it comes to dating. 


Pretty people often have a hard time finding people to seriously date them because the potentials are insecure or not into the additional competition. Just because one can, doesn't mean that they will desire to swim in an endless sea of strange body fluids. 


Or so I hear. 

2 days, 3 hours ago on Have You Seen This Hunk? Nick Bateman Blows Up Facebook.

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@dani-BBW "Too bad he has a girlfriend."------ Um.....you gotta take her out first. From a long distance. Sniper style. j/k...#kinda

2 days, 3 hours ago on Have You Seen This Hunk? Nick Bateman Blows Up Facebook.

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I have one of these eclectic looking white boys as a neighbor. I almost followed him into his apt since mine is right next door. Saw him coming and going and had my net ready. And now we wait.

3 days ago on Have You Seen This Hunk? Nick Bateman Blows Up Facebook.

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Was going to use him weeks ago but decided not to since there wasn't any skin flicks °wink° i know the ladies like unwrapped treats. :)

3 days, 17 hours ago on Man Candy Monday: Wrestling with the Remarkable that is Roman Reigns

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They growing um out there, let's make it a car trip. Two nets are better than one. Bag umm and tag um..

3 days, 17 hours ago on Man Candy Monday: Wrestling with the Remarkable that is Roman Reigns

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Oh, shit! That totally slipped passed me all these years. Word!

4 days, 17 hours ago on TBT: The Beautifulness of Duran Duran Then and Now

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I these conversations because they come off as do ignorant, bias and sensationalized. Black males have father's, woah. ....who knew right? The father's perpetuate the bullshit. The dysfunction goes much deeper then simply 'them niggs" need big daddy to spank them.

The social and economic climate that created these societies also reduced the potential and the progress of blacks overall since.....since...... when did niggas ever have it "gud in America"? Integration and success are fleeting at best, luck and elbow grease worked in the past.

These people have fathers, the fatherless argument easy and its bullshit and liberals aren't too blame. Lack of value of human life, metal and emotional illness and disenfranchised generations of frustration and anger did this.

If you actually knew these people (instead looking them through a lens) then you'd realize this. Father and son and grandfather may all be intact, its the individual, not just "bastard black boys" ..

Who do you think is teaching them the mindset and violence? Their single mothers.....because that wench is evil, as we know, so since there is no one to beat little Ray Ray he gets violent....does that even make sense. I think not..

5 days, 21 hours ago on Unspeakable! New Jersey Reporter Fired for Telling the DAMN TRUTH!

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@Gijou I'm from Jersey City (yes, THAT Jersey City) so we were in range of NYC radio stations if I went to the roof of the house and stood on my tippie toes. 


:) 

6 days, 4 hours ago on TBT: The Beautifulness of Duran Duran Then and Now

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Men in general say stupid shit, hurtful shit, regarding you as person all the time. It's a reflection of them being inappropriate for you and for you being not the right fit for them. You'd never want a man to be with you yet harbor feelings towards you due to something you can't readily change. 


I was sent an email after a very good date with a Brazilian man because he couldn't see himself dating 'women like me' which I'm not sure was in reference to my being a single mother of a dam near adult child and/or my having mentioned me being raised by foster parents. 

Either way, Fuck um. 



However, the additional kids will be a problem for some folks (male and female) because it matters economically and socially. So be mindful of getting that conversation out the way, but there are no shortage of men (in general) who are happy and eager to father children. You need to find these marriage minded guys willing to step or, or to even blend families with you. 


You'll be aight...

6 days, 17 hours ago on (Bonus) QOTW: Black Women, Multiple Children, and Interracial Dating.

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@itsgoodtobeme Simon needs to go far from here with that mustache. 

1 week ago on TBT: The Beautifulness of Duran Duran Then and Now

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@cjdimplez You won tickets...? I'm so jelly....

1 week ago on TBT: The Beautifulness of Duran Duran Then and Now

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@Lili2009 I did the exact same thing at the homies house. Her mother liked me enough to let me inside the house and we spent much time staring at MTV to see what would happen next. It was good times. 

1 week ago on TBT: The Beautifulness of Duran Duran Then and Now

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@friendswmimi I did love Save a Prayer. No clue of what the lyrics meant, I just liked the music and the guys..

1 week ago on TBT: The Beautifulness of Duran Duran Then and Now

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@Diversitymom I'm also positive I had that picture above from the original Tiger Beat or whatever magazine it was. 

1 week ago on TBT: The Beautifulness of Duran Duran Then and Now

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@Gijou Um... Duran Duran's first release was in 1981 through 1983 for this post. Guy and Bell, Biv Devoe didn't come along until 1989-1991. 
I was in grammar school digging on DD, and I was in the Tunnel nightclub partying with Guy by the time I was 17 (don't ask....) so there was a bit of a stretch in time. 


I'm talking about lack of R&B before Hot 97 (1988), AND 98.7 Kiss FM (1981) et all. As WQHT (Hot 97) didn't exist prior to 1988, the format was changed and suddenly I was able to listen to early break beats and extended R&B mixes. I knew of rap music (the 7th and 8th grade black kids and my one cool white girl homie who was down with all things black) and R&B (jazz/soul) from my Dad's record collection. I spent this time listening to Z100 which played mostly white pop music, which was fine since I was around mixed kids. The rap/R&B was very memorable for me since I had to take my radio on the roof of my building to hear the stations clearly. 


Chile...you are taking Momma way, way back....... 

1 week ago on TBT: The Beautifulness of Duran Duran Then and Now

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@Kaiju_Bleu Thank you so much, that's so sweet of you to say. I do try to keep the readers in mind, while also digging through the crazy man lust in my head that's accumulated over the years. 

I'm such a pop culture nut, very sci-fi, fan fiction, 'zines, and alt-lifestyle. I haven't even began to scratch the surface. 

Though I was initially worried because some of the readers seems to be very accustomed to one thing and not too interested in considering something different. This is a test, it's only a test, of the willingness of some women to expand the possibilities of what is desirable, both physically, mentally and emotionally. 


More candy to come, lady.....thanks for check in and loving it. 

1 week ago on Man Candy Monday: Farewell True Blood Edition

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@ole'skool I do like his hands.....strange that you mentioned them specifically. #weirdosunite

1 week ago on Man Candy Monday: Farewell True Blood Edition

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@mzsunshine Har-Har-Har at "bloody" hot. :) 

I will add cowboys onto the "to Boo List" that I am working from to satisfy the needs and desires of the ladies fo the board. Any more suggestions just HMU at tracy@rhedbananamedia.com 



1 week ago on Man Candy Monday: Farewell True Blood Edition

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@Kaiju_Bleu You are as bad as I am with becoming all involved and into these shows. I'll bust a tear so quick. I was so hurt when Eric 'exited' the show. I wanted more for him, and more for me.... I had aspirations for us. *gasp* Sookie was was getting it in, and I'm so glad for her. More women should learn to taste the fruits of nature, especially when it calls for getting natural, doing natural things, in da natures........ LOL...


Boxed Set for the WIN.... Yes, Ma'am..... 

1 week, 3 days ago on Man Candy Monday: Farewell True Blood Edition

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She did create an interest in cars for me too. I actually did some bad things involving cars going very fast as a teen. Maybe this is why, eh?

1 week, 6 days ago on TBT: The Dukes of Hazzard

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Yes, each week i would change my mind about which cousin was cuter. And they are both still very attractive men.

1 week, 6 days ago on TBT: The Dukes of Hazzard

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I doubt anyone would check for you considering your attitude regarding your self esteem and willingness to project the worthlessness you perceive as coming from others when it's really all about your own discomfort.

Don't rain on our parade.

1 week, 6 days ago on TBT: The Dukes of Hazzard

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@WhoDatGoddess (TEAM WILLIAMS) Um, yeah, it's still wasted potential because she should have used him (which is what the inter-webs are saying) and NOT have gotten married, nor had kids with him if he was a causal piece of tail and not a real consideration for a long term partner. 


Yes, wasted as I said. If you must play games, play chess, not checkers. She should know better but doesn't. 

2 weeks, 1 day ago on RHOA Demonstrates How Some Black Women Waste Their Potential on Shifty Men

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" And it’s my belief that seeing those things first hand, and pushing back against them, is an important part of the fight against the pathology of bigotry."


Word!! 

2 weeks, 1 day ago on “A Beautiful Burden” One Man’s Commentary on Managing Cultural Differences

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@Justme65 Mickey Rourke used to be on my to do list but not since he ruined his face with plastic surgery and boxing. 

Johnny Depp is usually a part of man candy so I left his out this week. Why you so greedy, eh?! There will be more sweet treats next week :) 

2 weeks, 3 days ago on Man Candy Monday: Hollywood Hotties Then, and Now

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@Justme65 @Browncow Because a woman who knows what this lifestyle is about isn't going to pay that BS no mind. Chile.... let me get to writing. 

3 weeks ago on Open Thread: Hotep-Dude’s Idea of a Legit Harem….You Know, for ‘Black Unity’

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@chocolateadmiral Oh, goodness!! I can feel your enthusiasm coming through the screen. Indeed, I love to promote those going against the grain and making great strides where others have not gone before. 


I sometimes notice the tone of the board can be one of limitations and apprehension because things aren't commonly done or have not been done by Black women, to those who move through life under the radar I wish them well. 


Those who don't mind a little elbow grease and bruises (because breaking ceilings and wrestling demons comes with battle scars) will continue to push, pull on behalf of race and/or gender. I'm of the latter breed of woman. 

And my grandpappy is a honored military vet...so...this is family news to me also :) 

3 weeks, 1 day ago on History Made: Michelle Howard Become Navy’s First Female Admiral

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See you said bad words, I'm not here for marrying or dating, now back to the men in kilts.

@Brenda55 so....these men.they congregate somewhere or is it seasonal, or is there a mating call?

How DOES one obtain a man wearing a kilt? O need one for presidents day.

3 weeks, 2 days ago on Man Candy Monday/Tuesday: “Kilt” With Kindness

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Yes, you may be some Black woman's second choice.... but guess what else is brand new? You're probably going to be ANY woman's second choice unless you met her and fell in love in early grammar school and your love withstood the test of time. 


None of us knows what we like until we open our eyes, none of us knows what we may consider until we begin to think about it. Is your next girlfriend a new potential at life, or is she the runner up to the chick that didn't work out prior to her? 


If it's any consolation, I don't view people as second best. Either you are, or you are not, worthy..everything else is luck, timing and fate. 


Get it? Got it? Now go.....

3 weeks, 2 days ago on Austin, TX Man Asks, “Am I the Black Woman’s Second Choice?”

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The franchise really made me LOL.. i can't imagine the work life of these fellas. Talk about work place harassment or maybe perks, I'm curious.

3 weeks, 2 days ago on Man Candy Monday/Tuesday: “Kilt” With Kindness

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@Chicago404 Exactly.... THIS gets all MY needs met and dammit if that's not a reason to dance a jig. 

3 weeks, 3 days ago on Open Thread: Hotep-Dude’s Idea of a Legit Harem….You Know, for ‘Black Unity’

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@Brenda55 @zipporah Now that thought, scared even I..... In all honesty, I am usually in a triangle but I can't deal with most broads after a spell. I can't stand my dam self with these strange 'moods' (with a capital M) that I get from time to time and more so in the following years I.WILL.KILL.SOME1

3 weeks, 3 days ago on Open Thread: Hotep-Dude’s Idea of a Legit Harem….You Know, for ‘Black Unity’

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Oh, boy.


The polygamy conversation is going on in many, many social circles, it's like the elephant in the room that vanilla people don't want to believe is real, but not like this (bum ass man and women who can't figure out monogamy), and there is a benefit to the family structure (if all parties are contributing to the 'family' whatever that may mean). 

Blackistan is why we can't have nice things.....

Ray Ray trying to convince Keisha to not beat Safiah's ass for cheating with him and then deciding that sharing a home (on someone's section 8 voucher because they're all broke) isn't polygamy but I hear that's the new code word. 


I do see many relationships known as 'kin-ship' families resulting from BM having wandering intention work and be efficient but the women are there as a result of his cheating and lies and not because she chooses to have an 'open' relationship. BW are putting up with a lot of crazy shit, whereas a person like me who lives this lifestyle can only SMH at their folly. 


Many people have poly relationships but society just calls them cheaters, and the mates hope things will change one day and so tolerates the additional people. 


Other people have poly relationships because they want and need more people in their lives. There is a difference, the first of which requires the man to be of means, and capable of balance and selflessness. 


3 weeks, 4 days ago on Open Thread: Hotep-Dude’s Idea of a Legit Harem….You Know, for ‘Black Unity’

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@Justme65 tracy@rhedbananamedia.com tis I....

4 weeks ago on Man Candy Monday: Men in Uniform to Service You

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@Justme65 " Well, once again I feel I must go and rub one out after viewing all this lusciousness you presented."


YOU ARE TOO MUCH!! I just noticed this!! LOL.... chile, do what you must to get where u need to be. That's my motto. 

1 month ago on Man Candy Monday: Men in Uniform to Service You

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@Justme65 YEAH, I bet you did!! And I want to hear all about it......

1 month ago on Man Candy Monday: Men in Uniform to Service You

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Most of the uniform pictures are of models wearing uniforms. I wanted actual men who wear each uniform. I have my feelings regarding the systems (police, for example) but i respect the symbolism and the person who dedicates themselves, especially dangerous jobs like police, firemen and military.

I search several places to find a mixture of good guys. "Marc" was the name his meta data. So that's that. But if i hadn't broken my camera, i would scout actual men. I see plenty candy all day long in real life. Sorry i can't share. :)

1 month ago on Man Candy Monday: Men in Uniform to Service You

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@Law Wanxi I speak a little Tagalog, picked it up in grammar school. Thank God (White Jesus) for Catholic school diversity. 

Indeed, the Asian guys have had me since my crush on the cutest Asian kid ever way back in 1st grade. I decided that he would become one of my international husbands. I planned on having several, but I digress. 

1 month ago on Man Candy Monday: The Asian Mystery Man

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@Brenda55 Hey, I do what I must for the mission of the blog.... these ladies like sweets, and sweet meats is a treat or something like that. 

1 month ago on Man Candy Monday: Men in Uniform to Service You

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@Brenda55 @JenniferRaytovianJones I skip over all types of gorgeous pictures of BM but there's a lack of care given here. 


Strangely enough, or not, my preference is black or dark complexion men. I love honey brown to chocolate and beyond. But I don't discriminate, fine is fine, and I love men.

Just giving the people's what dey ax fah... 

1 month ago on Man Candy Monday: Men in Uniform to Service You

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