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I would say, remember that 6% equates to millions of women. A change of scenery may also be a benefit --- that is something often recommended to black women here at bbw. Look for areas where the mate selection is more in your favor. 

Additionally, there's not only black women in America. If you have the means, perhaps look outside of the US. You could also do that online. 

Finally, I would say, and this has at least been my experience. You're in the best position to meet someone when you're not explicitly looking for someone. You can always be relationship minded, but don't try to mold every girl you meet into "the one." Men should vet women just as much as women vet men. And only move forward with women who you could see yourself having a future with. In short. Don't try to force it. Let it happen naturally, and you'll be much happier with the journey and the end result. 

5 days, 4 hours ago on QOTW: White Guy Worried He’s ONLY Attracted to Black Women. Here’s My Take.

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I read this the other day, I thought it was a great piece, very well written. Hilarious that I scroll down to the comments and the first is a black man talking about - oh well if black women didn't wear fake hair, eyelashes, xyz and weren't this and that and had an education maybe people here would want them. This coming from a guy that when I went to his Facebook page had blonde hair. I refrained from replying to his comment myself but a few people ripped into him soon after. From what I could see they were all white. 

1 week ago on Like, Whoa! Black Women Featured AGAIN on BuzzFeed…But In a Good Way.

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This is such a sad week. Domineque Banks or Domin, also known as LongHairDontCare2011 on YouTube also died this week due to complications from Lupus. Rest in peace both of these beautiful ladies. 

1 week ago on Founder of “For Brown Girls,” and Advocate for US, Karyn Washington Committed Suicide, and I Suck.

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Is it just me or does it seem like the other shoe is about to drop. And next thing you know black men will be on YouTube trashing white women.

2 weeks, 2 days ago on Jennette McCurdy Messed with the Wrong Dude; Hit Show Gets Cancelled After Andre Drummond (Allegedly) Leaks Racy Photos

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I will say I don't think I've ever seen a white woman show any kind of concern for an Asian woman when it come to them being with white men. I have only ever seen straight up vitriol jealousy when it comes to white women expressing their feelings about Asian women. I've seen them be quite forward about how much they hate that Asian women are taking all the good white men, the hate how pretty and skinny they are. "Oh they think they're so special because they're "exotic."

So I don't think I would ever believe anything suggesting concern from white women about Asian women dating white men. Not only is the demographic the largest rate of IR relationships, they are also most likely to stay together, meaning Becky can't just swoop in and "get her man back" in the event of a break up. 

The hilarious thing is. Women who act like this, the men they want like wouldn't want them regardless of if he wasn't with an Asian woman. Many white men come to realize that Asian women are often far from the subservient stereotype, and they stay with them. So...

2 weeks, 4 days ago on White Feminist Pretending To Be “Concerned” for Asian Women Marrying White Men…Yeah Right!

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@Lisa_Lisa @VintageNarcissa  lol! Yeah I mentioned that in a response to someone's comment below - sgtwillpete saying he was in medial school. I'm like, I wish I had all that time to sit and make videos all day, and I was just an English major! 

2 weeks, 6 days ago on Did You Know? Black Women Are Bashed On You Tube for Page Views.

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@Savannah18121 @VintageNarcissa  I stand by every single thing I said. The comment has a whole has a complete context much greater that the individual paragraphs. Thanks. 


Additionally, you cannot edit posts past five minutes.

2 weeks, 6 days ago on Did You Know? Black Women Are Bashed On You Tube for Page Views.

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@Nippyfan89  This is why you have Tyler Perry mumbling about how white men get the best black women -- because the best of us are not going to sit around and put up with this bs. It's only the ones that think they have no other options. 

2 weeks, 6 days ago on Did You Know? Black Women Are Bashed On You Tube for Page Views.

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@Lisa_Lisa @browniegirl360  He used to say when he was first on YouTube that he was in medial school, I'm like lawl! That dude hasn't seen a degree yet!   

2 weeks, 6 days ago on Did You Know? Black Women Are Bashed On You Tube for Page Views.

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@TheNoobie  I remember this one woman who went by the name Blaque Indigo on YouTube, she supported all those black men, and they'd exalted her as one of the "few black women who gets its." That is until she got into a relationship and somehow an X-rated video of her dancing naked for her boyfriend got leaked onto the internet. And those same black men threw her directly into the fire. About how whorish and crazy she was.  

2 weeks, 6 days ago on Did You Know? Black Women Are Bashed On You Tube for Page Views.

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This is definitely not something new. I remember being 21/22 around the time when YouTube first started and black men were already on there spreading hate. I'm 28 now to give you some context. I found the likes of SgtWilliePete, and so many more. I don't really know what it's like now, but a lot of the first black men on YouTube were banned because their content was so hateful. 


I distinctly remember this one channel that was structured like a talk show and in the "commercial break" between segments, you would hear this accompanied by a black screen: "Did you know that black women smell like they are on their period if even they are not?" There was more but after that I'm sure I blocked the rest out in sheer disbelief. 


I remember video where the guy was talking about how he was out to lunch with a black female friend who went to the bathroom and came out smelling like BM, so he used that as proof of how unclean black women are. 


After a while I had to stop watching these videos for the sake of my sanity and my self esteem. I can only say this: growing up I was always liked all different types of boys/men. And though I didn't date when I was younger, I never had a preference by way of color. No black man ever broke my heart or told me I was too dark for love. It wasn't until finding these videos on YouTube, and then subsequently on other online mediums, that I made the firm decision to cut black men out of my dating pool.


The only person I still watch in any capacity is a black woman who goes by the name UHeardMe1stTime, who often debates these men on her topics. She's married interracially and gets a lot of flack from black men on youtube for not backing down when they try to bash her. I watch her videos because she presents her arguments very logically and doesn't come from an emotional standpoint. But its hilarious that the men always come at her from a wholly emotional standpoint and they just sound like immature little pissants. 


One of most recent videos had to do with some man talking about Pharrell's new album cover and the lack black women on it (Pharrell says there actually is a black woman on the cover but that is neither here nor there). I didn't watch the man's video, so I don't know exactly what he said. But UHeardMe1stTime noted how quickly the mans "argument" devolved from Pharrell's album cover to how he is not attracted to black women because of their "bad hair."


What's hilarious is the majority of these men are single and from their commentary have trouble with relationships of women with any race. All of their examples of amazing non-black women are always ex-girlfriends. And I mean, I don't even know how they have the time to go out and meet anyone, black or otherwise, with they spend all their time recording hour+ long videos on the daily. The truth is most of these men are misogynistic regardless of race, they just see non-black women as the "lesser of the evils." I mean, we've seen the men who in response to why they're dating a non-black women is a string of complaints about black woman and not even a single positive thing to say about the woman they are with. You get the feel that to them, a white woman's only redeeming quality is that she's not black.


But a few of them are married to non-black women, and I find they are much more mellow on their arguments. The single ones are more more aggressive (no surprise there), which gives off the air and they are simply bitter Bettys. A lot of the negative things they have to say about black women and their perpetual singledom is actually them projecting their unhappiness in their own perpetual singledom. Since these men took over YouTube, how many channels featuring black women in interracial relationships and marriage have popped up? While all of these men are still single. So whose really undesirable? The loving nurturing black woman taking care of her husband and children, or the lonely angry black man who has nothing to do with his time but yell and scream about how horrible black women are?


I know SgtWilliePete says he doesn't show his face because if he happened to marry a black woman he doesn't want her to know that he spent the good part of a decade throwing her kind into the mud. I dunno about you, but I have a feeling karma will take care of him real good.

2 weeks, 6 days ago on Did You Know? Black Women Are Bashed On You Tube for Page Views.

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@Freespirit888  I agree wholly. I don't know if this is me just looking a little bit too deep into this ... and I preface this by saying it is not my intension to invoke any air of ignorance in the 'what are you?' debate. 


But Raffi Williams, at a proper first glance is racially ambitious at best. In the right light he could be Hispanic, Indian, Middle Eastern, what have you... In actuality he is multiracial/multicultural and born of a Panamanian father and white mother. Now Panamanians are known for being a population that is largely Afro-Latino, but for all intents and purposes, he actually is not 'black' or 'African American' as the terms are most commonly used in this country.


I'm just pointing it out. And whatever he identifies as is absolutely fine, but it is quite interesting how the right side is exalting him as this black man so horribly wronged, by a black woman none the less. Now I'm not saying what Jamilah Lemieux did was right. I'm saying this 'we play with all the colors in the crayon box' persona isn't fooling anyone.


Especially considering how the our similarly multiracial president is treated by the right side. How horribly disrespected he is by the right side. How they hardly believe he earned the degrees he earned or that he was even born on American soil. Where is there sense of diversity in that term?


I mean, the whole point of America is that supposed to be everyone regardless of their background is free to uphold the believes they choose,but it is just a little more than coincidental that conservative don't hesitate to throw anyone with a natural tan to the forefront to represent their diversity, when out of the public eye they don't hesitate to show how uncomfortable they are around anyone largely different from them.


I remember once winning free VIP box seat tickets to a Yankee's game, the contest was hosted by Fox Family Weekend, which I attended with a black female friend, a white male co-worker and his Asian friend. I got into it with a white man who was upset at my choice of words (which were not even directed at him). But he proceeded to -- once I had left the area, only address my white male friend --  and say “If I were to say something racist or homophobic you wouldn’t like that.” He then proceeded to say "I don't even know what you're here, you don't look like Fox fans to me."


You can take away from that what you wish, but I imagine at first glance the man would not peg Raffi Williams as a Fox fan either. 

2 weeks, 6 days ago on My Take on the Jamilah Lemieux Liberal vs. Conservative Kerfuffle

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@Savannah1812 @kia  I totally agree. I mean, you can find those white men who have similar negative views about white women that black men have about black women. But if is definitely a minority. You will find these websites in the dark enclaves of the internet where white men talk about how American white women are gold diggers with too much attitude and too independent, and the solution is to date a foreign woman -- either Eastern European of some sort, or Asian. I even read one blog post once that was like - white men should to to remote tribal areas to find a brown wife, and then establish themselves and king of the savages, so to speak. But the point is, how many times do you actually find men with such attitudes unless you're intently looking for them? With black men, you can't swing a dead cat without hitting one whose color struck by lightness or long hair, or only cares about Lupita Nyong'o delicateness when she becomes a hollywood darling, or has the gall to talk about white men getting the best black women when they themselves can only portray black women through the most horrible stereotypes. It's like - you're not shocked, you know exactly what you did, because minutes later it's oh, Olivia Pope is a white man's whore and so are you. It's not exactly to say that a white man has never had a negative opinion of a white woman. It's just these opinions largely do not overtake mainstream society and media as the be all end all of white women. They're out there, but everyone is certain that there is another white girl out there who is not like that. And will protect the idea of that delicate white woman with their dying breath.

1 month ago on I Told Tyler Perry I Want to See More HEALTHY Swirl Relationships on the Tom Joyner Show This Morning

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The whole - oh white men are taking the best black women - spheel is definitely hilarious, because it's like, they don't become the best black women until a white man wants them. I mean, how many gorgeous, successfully, nurturing, wonderful black women are out there, who want black men still, that don't get a second look. But they all seem to only be worried about us, who've done given up on them or weren't event checking for them in the first place. Even those who claim they only want non-black women, seem oddly obsessed with black women. 'If it weren't for black women being xyz...' They say this without even realizing how much more of an insult it is to the white women they're with than to black women. And it's like, if you weren't so fixated on what black women are doing maybe your interracial relationships would be more successful. Even though black men date out of their race more than any others, they also have the highest rates of divorce within interracial marriages. Ironically, black women date out the least, but when we do, when we marry out, we largely stay married. 

1 month ago on I Told Tyler Perry I Want to See More HEALTHY Swirl Relationships on the Tom Joyner Show This Morning

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@LovelyLulu  When I first started dating my boyfriend (who is mixed/Hispanic, and light skinned) a now ex-friend, who inquired of his background said in response, "OMG, girl you know light skin men went out in the 90s!!) The irony of it is when I was in junior high my group of friends, which included this girl, were all into the Backstreet Boys and she liked Nick Carter, who is basically the whitest of them all. Over time she became NBABM, but I always crushed on the lighter skinned or Hispanic boys at my predominately black school. Though me and my friends liked white celebrities, even it came to real life, most of my friends ended up being attracted largely to black guys. And I was the only one who had no real preference, I could and still can find men of all backgrounds attractive. But I definitely have a type that I find most attractive. When I was single, in my minds eye the kind of guy I always imagined being with was always fair skinned with short cut hair and neatly groomed facial hair. Lo and behold, that vision fits my boyfriend to a T. But most of the black women I know want them tall dark and handsome. 

1 month ago on I Told Tyler Perry I Want to See More HEALTHY Swirl Relationships on the Tom Joyner Show This Morning

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