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Beautiful family. My feelings about what happened are tempered somewhat from some of the other commenters. Certainly there is a racial aspect to a stranger looking at a white daddy with some mocha babies and wondering if he's a weird pervert with a baby cocoa fetish. At the same time, at least the bystander is concerned enough about the kids to make a call. Imagine if it really was a kidnapper pervert and the bystander, in the interest of being PC, never called anybody. I'm in a biracial family myself and have fielded more than one instance of skepticism by a stranger that my kids were mine (though now that they're stinky, messy, sassy teenagers nobody seems interested in taking them off my hands).
It sounds from the news report that the po-po were respectful in their approach to the couple.
JM is awesome. I've been digging her work for years. She's truly creative, in a way that combines Laurie Anderson with Little Richard with David Byrne with Patti LaBelle. The reason she's not a top 40 staple is because she refuses to compromise and release vacuous formula pabulum, like Ke$ha or such.
100% agreed. My family embraced my black wife unequivocally, and it has all been good. Nothing remarkable about my family -- middle class, Midwestern, whitebread. But open minded and family-first, no matter what hue that family happens to have in her skin.
Was your use of "gung ho" intentioally ironic? It's a Chinese-derived word that has been incorported into American English.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gung-ho
But as to the point of the post, I recently read an interersting article about the so-called "Tiger Mom" phenomenon. The gist of the article is that Asian moms tend to derive their own sense of self worth through the accomplishments of their children. Thus, they tend to live vicariously through them, hence the Tiger Mom.
In addition, many Asian cultures are "face" cultures -- meaning one's reputation, or the amount of public respect one can command ("saving face"), is paramount. Many traditional Asian cultures harbor racist view toward American blacks, especially in Southeast Asia where American GI's sired and then abandoned hapa babies.
Add that together and it's not too hard to grock the source of this hardcore resistance from Asian moms. Not that I'm trying to justify or excuse it, merely explain it.
If the situation described in the letter is real, the man is a classic abuser. Any white man in 2013 America knows this would be offensive in the extreme and would only engage in this level of verbal abuse becuase he intends to abuse and demean the woman. Every white man I know in an IR relationship would have difficulty uttering those kinds of epithets even if his woman revealed that it was her kink to be talked to in this way and she asked him to do it. The taboo is that strong. It's completely outside of a "talk dirty to me" kink. If real, the described behavior -- being extremely kind and generous sometimes, then flipping to being profane and abusive -- is classic abusive male/Stockholm Syndrome stuff.
Yes I still play, mostly acoustic nowadays but still pull out the Strat and turn it up sometimes. My 17 year old son has become a kick-ass drummer. He prefers jazz fusion and other more technical stuff, but occasionally he'll dumb it down and play some old Zeppelin or Foo Fighter with the old man. It's a blessing in my life.
My one stint at teaching guitar lessons, one summer, I had a student whose parents bought him a beautiful Les Paul and Marshall stack but it was clear that he never picked up his guitar nor practiced, not one second, between lessons. It was as if he expected me to have a magic wand that I could waive and make him able to play. He wanted to learn "Take It Easy". I spent hours transcribing it, writing out the chords, lyrics, and solo (both in traditional notes and tab). This was way before things like CDs and the internet. It became clear at some point he was never gonna learn that joint.
Weren't there rumors at one time of a thang betwixt Doris Day and Sly Stone?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AQZNkzP4kYw
http://blogs.laweekly.com/westcoastsound/2009/05/sly_stone_interviewed_on_kcrw.php
@keimiasmoon Well said.
The Onion has carved a niche for itself as the humor publication that pushes the limits of taste as far as they can be pushed, and beyond. Recall that The Onion was the only humor publication I know of that tackled 911 in real time, with a headline in the issue following the actual event, in huge bold font, that said: "HOLY F#CKING SH#T!" Just last week The Onion ran the piece linked below about Joe Rickey Hundley.
The tweet is consistent with The Onion's approach to humor, and I have no doubt whatsoever that it was intended to be ironic. She is such an adorable ingenue. It's clear that The Onion wasn't attempting to suggest that this insult could actually apply to her.
Despite what I believe to be "comedic good faith", I do agree that it was well over the line. Her parents are going to have to explain it to her, which is awful.
The link is below:
http://www.theonion.com/articles/i-slapped-a-crying-child-and-called-him-a-nigger-a,31361/
They ought to issue an apology. My daughter plays a lot of soccer at a very high level. She bounces back and forth between striker and midfield. I always tell her that you can't play striker effectively if you're not always flirting with offsides and occasionally getting called for it, and you can't play midfiled effectively if you're not always flirting with yellow cards and occasionally receiving one. In a similar vein, if your brand of humor involves pushing the line, you will occasionally get caught stepping over it. In sports, when you're caught there is a whistle and a penalty. In the same way, The Onion ought to be yellow carded for this tweet.
Inisghtful and well said. To be honest, not having paid any attention to Lil Wayne or Adrienne Bosh, I had assumed that the Wayne/Adrienne encounter occurred recently, while she was married to Chris and mother of their child. Otherwise, as you note, why would such an encounter have even any remote tabloid value?
Which brings up a point sometimes also mentioned in connection with KK and her family of parasites. Our media has learned to thrive on the cult of celebrity. The media needs celebrities because they sell advertising space. It doesn't care who they are, or whether they are famous for doing good things, scandalous things, or in the case of the Kardshians, basically nothing. All that matters is that they are famous. That old line "So long as they spell the name right, there's no such thing as bad publicity."
It is this engine that drives the continued fame of Lil Wayne, Kardashian, Paris Hilton, etc. People willing to make spectacles of themselves in public and possessed of physiognomies that the public finds interesting when presented in photographic form.
Reminds me of the chorus of that famous song by John & Yoko.
Interesting questions. Certainly most among us who pay attention to the LAPD query whether Dorner's fundamental allegation vs. the department are true. But that doesn't excuse his murderous rampage and, as to the cabin, (a) nobody prevented Dorner from surrendering long before the cabin demo began, (b) the police knew he was inside, armed and shooting, which makes using machines and tear gas and other devices that might prevent a need for actual officers to go into harm's way, and (c) I thought the evidence suggested he shot himself.
If anything, my gut is that Dorner shot himself and the police then simply let the cabin burn to make sure he wasn't simply laying there wounded but alive.
The comments about people who see/decry racism in every situation are perhaps on point, but I wonder if perhaps there is "Mars/Venus" element going on here. Women often communicate for the purpose of empathizing. Men rarely communicate this way. For a man, when we communicate a problem, we do it to solicit input on finding a solution. That's what we do -- solve problems.
The dynamic here is impossible from that perspective. Girlfriend communicates a problem to Mr. Man: "No black women in this movie." There is absolutely nothing he can do to fix that. Therefore, he feels emasculated and worthless. Repeat. A recipe for disaster.
@PoliticallyAware Understanding the cause of a problem is not the same as finding a solution to the problem. Your reply illustrates this. Often, dysfunction is caused by external pressures. This is true both at an individual level and at a cultural level. However, in most cases, the only solution lies within. Thus, at the individual level, most of us figure out around age 20 that all of our personal problems are caused by our parents. We then figure out, around age 27, that this doesn't matter because the only solution lies within ourselves.
My point is that the high level of violence in South Africa should come as a surprise to nobody. The most peaceful cultures in the world tend to be highly homogenous; the violent cultures in the world tend to be the most heterogeneous (and typically involve some form of institutional racism or similar ethnic-based oppression): Brazil, South Africa; Russia; the US.
South Africa is an extremely violent culture. Violent rape is part of the mix. It should come as no surprise that if a culture oppresses some segment of its population in the manner of South African aparteheid, over multiple generations, the result will be a violent undercaste that will eventually infuse the entire culture with violence. We see the same phenomenon, perhaps to a slightly lesser degree, in the US, with Hadiya Pendleton as one of the more recent and public examples.
@jdependance Yes, she really is. The interesting part about that, apropos of this post, is that I think most people agree on that.
@JennMJack I don't think she was when she first skyrocketed to fame on the heels of her beauty pageant award followed by the Penthouse scandal. Back in the day she was still considered "exotic". But Vanessa is a survivor, and she has survived long enough to live to a point where she is mainstream. I think her brilliant turn in "Ugly Betty" was part of the paradigm shift that some have posted about.
At a personal level I agree with you. But I think at the mass level, these women were viewed in their time as outliers, exotics. The paradigm shift discussed on this thread has to do with the fact that black women are now regarded as mainstream. I think the vanguard of that paradigm shift is the Halle Berry/Williams Sisters/Condi Rice generation of public black women.