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@nofakenamesimmatt It's not the lack of confidence that sets my teeth on edge.  I was there too in my younger years and it took a long time to get past it.  I empathize.  What I can't countenance is the obsessive fear specific to the notion of rejection from a black woman.  It borders on being a fetish thing.  I've dated a lot of black women in my single years and I've been married to one for the better part of 20 years.  The one thing I can tell you for sure is that if you are specifically fantasizing about meeting or dating a "black woman", then you have no business doing so.  They are not exotic others.  They are merely human women.


6 days, 4 hours ago on A Heartfelt Letter from a White Guy, Wondering How He Can Approach Black Women. Have At It, Ladies.

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@nofakenamesimmatt Look, as a single guy I was as afraid of rejection as any guy.  I have multiple strikes against me in that department:  I'm short, bald, shy, awkward, with eclectic likes and dislikes.  Nonetheless, I had plenty of, ah, experience back in the day.

Being a shy, eclectic, nerdy guy makes it doubly important that this dude get out of the house and into social settings, like clubs or teams, that bring him into contact with women.  And stop exoticising black women.  They're just human women.  Don't be afraid to talk to a woman whom you find attractive, and don't be afraid to flat out tell her you find her attractive.

The best way to meet women is to start with something in common.  The best way to find things in common is to do stuff that you love doing, with groups of like-minded people.

Stop sitting at the keyboard writing long, rambling, frankly whiny and slightly creepy rants about how scared you are of hearing the word "no" from a black woman's lips.

6 days, 11 hours ago on A Heartfelt Letter from a White Guy, Wondering How He Can Approach Black Women. Have At It, Ladies.

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Black women are beautiful, without doubt.  But this dude needs to get his pasty ass outside and start encountering actual people, not sitting inside with diarrhea of the pen fantasizing.  You don't approach "black women".  You approach a woman -- as in a human person in whom you are genuinely interested.  Who may be black or some other ethnicity, with the important point being you are genuinely interested.

1 week, 4 days ago on A Heartfelt Letter from a White Guy, Wondering How He Can Approach Black Women. Have At It, Ladies.

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Here's the deal, everybody:  people fart whilst doing yoga.  I know that the sister in this vid with the baby dreads is fine as hell and all the fellas up in here are salivating at the mental image of her posing buns up and nekkid and all, but guys how are you gonna feel as you leer up in that and the poot comes puffing out? 

2 weeks, 5 days ago on I Love Yoga, But I’ll Keep My Clothes On, Thankyouverymuch!

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Downward dog indeed!

2 weeks, 6 days ago on I Love Yoga, But I’ll Keep My Clothes On, Thankyouverymuch!

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