Blogging about mental health and preconception.
@digthemlows I agree that bringing paranoia into this discussion just totally invalidated what you were trying to say, @Minja0611.
7 months, 3 weeks ago on Nine Reasons Not to Carry Your Baby Facing Out
@Karen Did you never feel worried or seek more information about something that had come up in the news when you were caring for your first? Why must you make shame new moms who are worried? Leaving a comment here or write a post like this REALLY says that we don't enjoy our own children? I guess laughing at us is your idea of fun.
It's a shame that people trying to spread information are being made fun of and shamed. If the doctors here: http://www.hipdysplasia.org/Developmental-Dysplasia-Of-The-Hip/Prevention/Baby-Carriers-Seats-and-Other-Equipment
can't convince you that it's LESS safe but not the most dangerous harmful thing ever, then just leave it alone. I just can't relate to having a baby "insist" because I was a nanny for a long time before I had a baby of my own, and I've never encountered a baby who didn't like being held in a carrier facing in. If you don't want to hear what the International Hip Dysplasia Institute and the people who believe them are saying, here's an idea: don't read posts like this.
@Trskms Actually, the greatest risk of the airway getting cut off comes from a baby's head falling too far foward, so the chin touches the chest. Babies don't "smother" leaning against you, unless your shirt fabric is getting in the way. This is also a danger if they're in a pouch-style sling the wrong way.
7 months, 4 weeks ago on Nine Reasons Not to Carry Your Baby Facing Out
@AlainaFrederick @DoNotFaint @digthemlows Did a tense comment exchange turn into a civilized dialogue?! We should run the UN or something!
I hope your baby likes the cosleeper more than ours does. He *knows* that I am more than 12" away. And he will not sleep more than 12" away.
@digthemlows You're right. Not "unsafe." It's less safe. And it's your choice. But this article provides information. Objectively, it is more difficult to check on the baby's air flow if s/he is facing out. Which is less safe. It *can* aggravate hip issues. I'm just sick of commenters trying to tell us not to be informative because it might offend someone like you. I don't care how you wear your kid as long as you make an informed decision about the risks. There's no way to always do the safest possible thing as parents. I choose sleep and having my kid in the bed with us over him crying a lot in the crib. I don't like that it's less safe, but I like sleep more.
@digthemlows Not being able to check on whether you baby is breathing or not is a safety issue. End of story.
@AlainaFrederick As the blogger behind that particular post, all I have to say is YES to what Alaina says!
Oh, it's just so sad! And... just so I'm clear on this, *she* questions *your* mental health?
10 months, 4 weeks ago on On Negotiating with Terrorist Amy
All you "I would have done the same" commenters have clearly never visited the #ppdchat or "met" any of the women Gina was talking to on Twitter. If she was already talking to that community on Twitter, then this was NOT a vent, it was a productive community conversation. Even my psychiatrist thinks groups like #ppdchat and #mhsm (mental health & social media) chat are helpful. If I saw someone just sending out random pleas for help, I'd be really torn. If I saw them talking to the women from the PPD/PPA support community, I'd fucking know she was in good hands. There is a big difference between a community conversation and random FB updates or tweets. HUGE. Did you even read the whole post? #disgusted
1 year, 4 months ago on "Hey, Did You Call The Cops on Me?"
@TheFeministBreeder @Anahit A real professional stays with you until you can get help. That is what happens. I can vouch for that. My therapist says I could call at 2 am if I had to.
@monicasmommusings @jet_set What you tell your kids to do in a perceived crisis is not the same as what an adult should do. This experience was obviously traumatic and not helpful. While my own trip to the Psych ER was probably necessary, it was incredibly traumatic. Now, I have to fight panic when I see an ER sign or step foot in a hospital. Just like you're not the one to judge if someone going to hurt themselves from a comment about their feelings, you're also not always the one to judge who is the appropriate professional to contact.
@Anahit It would be wise if that professional had asked some questions, first. Note that the first real medical professional TFB saw actually did ask questions and found that she was not actually in danger of harming herself. Even just expressing that concern before calling the POLICE would have been much more "professional." In my experience, the real mental health professionals don't assume that hospitalization is necessary from one sentence written in under 140 characters.
I'm so glad you didn't end up in the Pych ER under the 72 hour thing. I've done that. It was a nightmare. But I was committed by a psychiatrist who had just listened to me describe an "active suicidal ideation" - at least I knew what was happening. Oddly, I kept saying "But I have to go to the senior dance tonight!" My college helped me graduate on time, despite missing two weeks of school to be an inpatient (not in the ER, thank GOD).
You know what really bothers me? When I was looking for the safest anti-anxiety medication to take during pregnancy, one drug was suggested as safer than another. Then, I found out that the reason doctors think it is safer (and I've heard of this happening to other women) is that there is no evidence that it is harmful, but the reason for *that* is that it's rarely prescribed! Lack of evidence = safer for a pharmaceutical medication. Lack of evidence = untrustworthy for any medicine that's not traditional!
1 year, 6 months ago on Placenta Encapsulation: The Story of the Missing Evidence
Way to go! That is so awesome.
1 year, 7 months ago on "OHMYGODOHMYGODOHMYGODOHMYGOD"
I am weeping. So beautiful.
1 year, 8 months ago on The Best Email Anyone's Ever Sent To Me (with Stunning Video)
Amen. I read on Slate that the placenta encapsulation "trend" (I am hardly comfortable calling things like this or home birth that have existed forEVER "trends") is exploitative. I happened to look into this for myself awhile back, and guess what? It's really not more expensive than expensive vitamins. Plenty of dietary supplement have very little science behind them, and no one stands outside GNC hurling insults. It makes no sense. No one is being exploited here. Women actually *are* being exploited around other choices about birth that actually *are* dangerous.
1 year, 8 months ago on Judging Moms May Be Good for Your Traffic, But It's Bad For Your Feminism
@dcardona @MissKatherineA I'm 8 weeks pregnant and just had an ultrasound last week, when the embryo measured 1.3 cm or 7 weeks, 3 days. Only this week is the placenta finishing its development. The "baby" is still being fed by a yolk sac, because the cord isn't finished developing. The spontaneous miscarriage rate drops from 20% to 15%, according to my doctor, after we can see those two chambers in the heart. But that's still 15% of embryos that are simply not viable. Our bodies know this and end the pregnancies for us. Before we had such sensitive tests, many women didn't even know they were pregnant.
In other words, at four weeks, one in five embryos are not viable and naturally rejected by the woman's body. At 12 weeks, it's usually still 1 in 10! This is from my own OB, who is doing her job by keeping me informed and educated about what's happening in my own body.
1 year, 8 months ago on If Breastfeeding Were Simply a Lifestyle Choice, Anyone Could Choose It
@EverEvolvingEve @asrais Also, pro-choice is "they" now? All pro-choice women "just want to look at woman with pity"? I don't think there has been any pity except on your side of this conversation. You have pity for the women who are apparently not going to see their "babies" in heaven--presumably because they are going to hell?
Thank you asrais for expanding on the privilege I was talking about. That's exactly it.
1 year, 9 months ago on If Breastfeeding Were Simply a Lifestyle Choice, Anyone Could Choose It