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I definitely have seen this in my own family and it is obviously going to be the same in dating or marrying someone with privilege. In many ways, it is just one of the things we shrug and accept since it is not going to change. On the other hand, it is something I don't always feel completely settled about since that essentially leaves you vulnerable if you don't have your privileged "shield of protection".
I don't deal with as much when it comes to being targeted for discriminatory treatment. I do see the difference with having bio family/siblings that looks white or non black as opposed to those that are more obviously considered black.
There has never been a comfort level in the idea of me exercising some genetic privilege. On the other hand, with the lack of protections in this society for American black women, I do realize the value of having privilege;borrowed or not. I do realize the benefit for black women to have access to her husbands privilege that extends to his her and/or children.
1 month, 4 weeks ago on Cracking the Codes: Do You Benefit from Your Rainbeau’s White Privilege?
I have just heard bits and pieces about this but, its like prophecy come true. The attacks on black women like this is emotional warfare. Put fear and sme where there is peace, hope and joy. Why? Because we are moving on in all areas of life. The moment we wake upis one day closer to the end for some of these entertainers. BW fund, support and hold up the broken fragments of the black community they built their empires from. If BW and our children are not supporting them, who will? Educated women,
Swirling women, traveling women, progressive women...we are a threat to their livelihood. Want to talk slave talk? I bet. Its hard for slave owners to imagine being without control and power. BW are in slavery and bondage but it is to the system of blackistan, not white men. To shame and ridicule us so openly is a good sign. They see us leaving. Their greatest fears are our freedom and hope. Black women living in peace and joy won't
3 months, 3 weeks ago on Harriet Tubman Sex Video is Also a Slap in Face for Black Women/White Men Relationships
Thank you MILV!
Paper? people have never lived in a time where women and children found themselves homeless and hungry before there was laws to protect them. Spoken by those with the privilege of a welfare system safety net. Those that never saw true poverty may say that. Those that have never seen it modeled and tested to protect. Those that saw marriage through chilhood pains wont see the benefit. People who have no thoughts of the inheritance and legacy concept.
4 months ago on Best Response EVER to the “Marriage is Just a Piece of Paper” Comment…
@KingsDaughter Oh yes..huge!
4 months, 1 week ago on EarthJeff: Swirling on Planet Earth Part 11 - The “three finger, three second” relationships rule
Richard Armitage, Chris Noth, Abishek or Hrithik....
I can think of a few more but, the three that immediately come to mind.
I agree...black women have such a fear about fetishes that there is a loss of the benefit of being sexy, gorgeous and different to the men that find her attractive.
I had always seen exotic as positive. Maybe I am a bad girl or maybe I saw the label put on things valued. I also tend to think that people are plain when they use the term as a negative.
I had someone say that about my name and then commented about my sisters name being so. It is a name given by generations on my Scottish side and is as Euro foreign as it can get and is a darn title. Yet, it didn't seem like a compliment the way it was said but, I also considered the source to be plain and not just in that area. Please...please men....don't say that on a first date to a black woman unless it is with a wink or a smile.
Context and personal experience is so ingrained that I don't usually even give second thoughts to what someone else sees something as.
4 months, 1 week ago on <em>ORIGINAL POST with restored comment thread ~ Black women and porn can be discussed here</em><br /> -- <br />The Exotic Okey Doke: How Black Women Got Tricked Out Of Sexy
Why they think we are off limits???? No...why they think we may be cray cray!
Well...to be honest...I am a bit so but, not on this order. Gah.....the struggle!
4 months, 1 week ago on This is one of the Reasons So Many White Guys Think Black Women are Off Limits.
Wow....this really sounds so deranged. The way people carry on like this, you wonder how sane they are for going so deep. As if men of other nationalities, other than black, are harboring some antiquated experiences from their ancestors. Seems BP are the ones carrying on the mystical, evil, sorcery, bewitching tales while everyone, including black men, have moved on. Those sordid tales are reserved only for black women/white men pairings while conveniently leaving out the partnering of black men with non black women. The sad thing is how many black women are so wrapped up in themselves and the tales, are even in therapy to convince them not to lock themselves away from life.
Everyone else is living life abundantly. I see them out everywhere every weekend. Last weekend...for miles and two beaches, I rode my bike and saw zero black women on the path or sitting in the front of a vacation rental with friends and family. What I saw is the rest of life's participants that were out vacationing with husbands, riding bike paths with boyfriends and standing in ice cream lines hugged up. I see them because I am out there.....living in the present. I can't understand who would want to go in a tower and lock themselves away...becoming their own jailor. Even black men have just about abandoned that post unless they want to troll while their non black mate is busy doing other things.
@Christelyn Chantelle is another brand I used to sell on Ebay. I actually had to buy brand new sizes and had nearly new ones in all colors so, I am starting over. Now I am motivated! Shame on you!
4 months, 3 weeks ago on My New Obsession...Expensive Lingerie
@Christelyn OMGGGGG!!!!! This is sooooo pretty!
@Jamila @Christelyn @mzsunshine Check on ebay. You can get better than VS at or less than VS on there. I used to sell bras...Wacoal and LeMystere and a few other brands here and there on Ebay. They can be had for really reasonable prices.
Once it starts, you never can go back! I have a collection that started with one La Perla that I found at an amazing price. Then a trip to a lingerie section in a glorious department store in France. I never returned from the dark side!
It can break the bank but, the unseens make you feel oh so pretty and girly!
Welp....I will be going for broke....I have every palette, now I shall work on the lipsticks, lolz. Thank you for the heads up! I so wished they would get back to lipsticks since I know they always do it right.
4 months, 3 weeks ago on Serious VELVET Lips: Urban Decay Brings Back Lipstick and It's HOT!!
Loving these combos! I have been jonesing for some serious African print and designed clothes! I want some dresses and a strapless jumpsuit made for the summer. It may have to wait until next year but, I love the styles being made by African designers.
5 months, 2 weeks ago on #Trending: African Prints
Cheering for another loved and well treated black woman in her engagement announcement makes my day! What a blessing to have your sons be the ones cheering you two on! That is a testament to the job you have done with them and what they see in him to give him that kind of honor. <3 it! Hoping to get to see wedding photos. <3
5 months, 2 weeks ago on BB&W Exclusive: Kola Boof Engaged to Rainbeau, Pilot and Businessman, Jason Appelbaum
@Yoruba Californian Livefrye messes up the way messages come in a lot. You might get it notified that someone is replying to you who isn't.
5 months, 3 weeks ago on Opinion: Is Being Beautiful Keeping You Single?*
@tracyreneejones @MySmile Shhhhh....she can sang too!
I know what the article is getting at but, I don't like the othering that we all have to deal with as it is and the "don't worry because the pretty girls are likely lonely" vibe seems so juvenile. To say that men love diversity and that our unique qualities as BW to be so all over the place with what we look like, that would make sense. To say that dark, light, thin, thick, tall...short is all welcome in the world of diverse love choices...that would be welcome/encouraging. Without all of the us/them stuff. We have had enough of that as bw from too many already. "Beauty" is an individually defined opinion or a society defined brand of beauty. Used to be there was only one woman that could even be considered beautiful and worthy of dating and she wasn't black.
@kia I saw this! What the.....I got nothing!
@tracyreneejones Said it all <3