MZ Elf
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Was going for the "Gatsby style" stuff this summer and fall. I have been loving the feminine styles. I actually was more recently inspired by Downton Abbey's incredible costume design. Love this post!
Wondering the weight of the product on your hair. My hair is fine and not receptive to super heavy or oily but gets dry like most curlies. Fairy knots have been popping up and terrorizing me. I may order it just to see. I wouldn't mind buying several but, have to wait and see how it works.
@WilliamHogan @EarthJeff @tracyreneejones Thank you!!!! This is so wonderfully bad arse!!! Gotta keep the good girl balanced with the "frichen's" . LMBO
@tracyreneejones Hehehe
@EarthJeff The WW and AW don't have a community that was built on their backs. Their men are taking care of the community, black women are the "men" of the black American communities.
@EarthJeff Mammy roling has been put on black women since they were let go of that as an actual position. Black women were not looked at as women but workers and caregivers. When they became the baby machines and not wives, it became about keeping the cow ready to milk and not have to be responsible for a family. The fathers showed black children what black women were good for and how dare them want something more by leaving the collective. Who will care for the DBR boys and men and continue the "black love" misogyny in case they do want to come back to it all?
I might add that the black men that have biracial children typically don't want their girls dating/marrying men that aren't black. Sons???....a different story. Bizarre and hypocritical but, what's worse is the black mothers, sisters, aunts and cousins that will support that mentality.
I say do as the African, Euro-Black and Caribbean black women do. Those women AND their families are about character, class and education. Their families support it.
I will warn you to stay off of those ratchet interracial groups with black women/girls throwing themselves at men but, find a strong network of black women and girls that date interracial. Subscribe to the Tumblr feeds and Facebook pages that showcase marriages and young couples that date AND marry interracial. Check out all of the blogs that have this focus. No babies momma type stuff. There are a plethora of good ones that I could list and you will see that you are not alone, that you have national and international support. I know some used to be listed on here at one time.
@EarthJeff He doesn't have to pursue one...he might just be doing that now. I don't want to project but, knowing how this works, male family will be dating various women as they see fit. Black women are supposed to be in the Black collective reserve for baby breeding. (yes...it is really what some of them are focused on) These male family members even have biracial children and a string of past relationships (occasional marriages) with women of other ethnic backgrounds. Christelyn mentioned she has family that used double standards in judging her choice in her husband.
Being younger, it will seem like the end of the world. It is not. On the same token, some family members will break bread with a man who is black even if he has mistreated you. A brother that says that clearly needs to get his life and let you live yours. If he is willing to disown you over it, you may need to question the type of relationship you share and how you want to proceed into the rest of your adult relationship with him. Remember, you are an adult now. I know that my brothers and father would have possibly preferred a black man for me years ago but, never would have disowned me. The thing is this, I never really gave anyone an opportunity to choose who I love. If they helped, they would have to be the guru in all things love. That would mean they would want the best for me not the best for them.
This is not about him or anyone else. His job isn't to make you love black men or choose someone black, his job is to help you in the vetting process to find the best possible mate.
@MZ Elf I meant to add that Blackistan needs to take heed and turn off BET and the trash music channels and live better. Specifically black women and girls. No need to show animosity toward a business man and his daughter. They were put there by choices many make to "buy into" what they were selling.
@Brice Cameron @Law Wanxi @chocolate_fashionista I feel it had descended into muck long before the sale. I had started blocking it long before 2002. It definitely didn't get better after that.
I posted about this on FB yesterday. Here is a copy paste of my sentiments since it sums it up.
BET founder's daughter marries the man of her dreams. Many blessings to her and her new husband. She is lovely and they look great together.
It is interesting to note that the person bringing the black American community Black Education-less Trash aka BET for years, has a daughter that is an equestrian champion who married what seems to be a quality man. I doubt she learned her equestrian and life skills or developed her personal qualities that led to marrying a quality husband from taking the messages sent from her fathers network. I guess he wasn't feeding her the same poison he was selling.
With all of that said, She is lovely, they are a beautiful couple and I wish them many years of happiness and love. Get it, girl!
Congratulations! I am glad black women are finding their loves at school. I just read a controversial piece but the one giving advice is right. Find like minded people in an environment ripe with chances to meet someone amazing that you may one day walk down the aisle with.
Best wishes <3
I think you covered it! I am older and am not a good candidate to date younger men. I could barely date the guys my age when I was younger. I have met many older women at the park with their 4-5 year olds and younger husbands and have a few friends with younger husbands. Some by 5, some by 10 years. IMO, they have been better husbands and fathers than some of the older husbands that were the same age as their wives.
As more and more black women have started to really focus on doing what makes them happy, I can see many deciding to take cues from Mariah Carey. With the high end of his age range.... it may be pushing it.
Good luck!
I totally approve this message and believe, like mentioned below, be the kind of woman that not only wants to be in this position but actually fits the whole picture. You can't be limited in your hobbies, interests, intellect and the other aspects of your life don't add up. Even if you are not wealthy in finances, you intellect and your approach(not financial) to life should be.
Love these type of articles. Good dialogue!
Love it Elegance!
She is rich, has resources and probably doesn't care if she is married. Marriage, in her case, seems here nor there. Most of us aren't in the position she is in. Most of us need the financial and physical support, she does not. I personally know that after living the married life with children for many years and seeing many women across cultural lines appear to be single parenting, it is no guarantee for support, financial or physical. I advocate marriage in all cases. If I was her, rich, self sufficient, older, running out of options....I would pick a man with great character and paternal instincts and go for it. Olivier looks like an excellent candidate to help Nala out with a sibling.
#teamhalle&fellowforever21clubmember#
Thank you for sharing! I see more and more mature swirling happening. It is very encouraging . Best of luck in the future!
LMBO!!! You are a nut! Love the pictures! Love that pink bathing suit! sounds like you had a good time despite all of the hornies and pathetics. I am not a fan of spring breaks in the beach or lake areas even in my younger years. The fro frisked was just too much! I mentioned that I get pulled aside every time I fly but afro frisking is a new one. Was that your room? Looks awesome! I need a cruise, vacation or something to feel like I am escaping.
Love, Love, Love! I need to catch up but your posts are awesome! I have kicked my wardrobe into overdrive lately. You inspired it many months ago when you first started posting clothing ensembles.
@SirLoinDeBeef @Toni_M The same can be said for the "anchor baby" and "baggage" that men want women to have to prevent her from being desirable as a potential mate to someone else. The anchor baby is a negative consequence of both male and female jekyll and hydes. In the black community, black men love to make their claims of black women having baggage as their reason for choosing "Becky". (even their own children being referred to in this way) Sounds like the reverse of the same thing with "anchor baby". Lies and deceit are male and female alike with "anchor babies" and "baggage" used to define or label children that are victims of superficial and selfish choices.
I am not a fan of either terms. I would resent a parent that considered me or called me that. I would make sure children or grand children don't hear themselves called "baggage" or "anchor babies"
I know the feeling firsthand as a mother and daughter how hurtful bitter terms and labels can be.