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@caligirl94117 @Tammy_Ghalden I'm proud to say that, because I stepped in, my sibling is not in the hood and has a college degree. Unfortunately, people aren't always born with the best parents and it's not their faults, but the last thing I would do is turn away as sibling(s) suffer. I get what you're saying about mama's boys, but I see nothing wrong with making sure your siblings are provided for. If I found out a man I was dating had siblings living in poor conditions when he could do something about it, I would dump him in absolute disgust.
14 hours, 56 minutes ago on Ladies, Be VERY Careful Dating Ethnic Men. Parents and Family Often Come First
@Sybelis @Tammy_Ghalden @caligirl94117 I couldn't see my sibling be left out on the streets or in foster care. If I were in that position, I would want an older sibling to do the same for me.
15 hours ago on Ladies, Be VERY Careful Dating Ethnic Men. Parents and Family Often Come First
I know I live in a majority Hispanic city, but we do have a few hundred thousand white people living here. I've actually had an easier time finding Hispanic men who are genuinely attracted to and comfortable with dating black women. Latinos often have colorism issues, but there are many Hispanics in Texas who are proud of being brown. Ironically, some of the Hispanic men I've come across who didn't identify as white and acknowledged their mixed heritage preferred women with darker skin and were distrustful of white people. A few even told me they felt they could relate better to black people than white people because of the environments they grew up in and the discrimination they faced. All of my dates and relationships with white men, so far, have been awkward.
1 day, 17 hours ago on Ladies, Be VERY Careful Dating Ethnic Men. Parents and Family Often Come First
@caligirl94117 His not answering you about race is a problem, but I would also turn down Princeton to provide for siblings. I made a lot of sacrifices to provide for my sibling and would do it again. That shows someone's commitment to family in general whether it's with parents and siblings or their own spouse and children.
@Browncow @SacLove76 Wow! That's another lesson for everyone. Don't get strung along for years by a man who is uncomfortable with your girly parts. He just might be gay. Not only do you have to vet the quality of the man, but you also have to vet his sexual orientation. There are almost always signs.
2 days, 8 hours ago on Ladies, Be VERY Careful Dating Ethnic Men. Parents and Family Often Come First
Menudo was before my time, but I'm liking Carlos Javier Rivera Masso. I was first a fan of New Kids on the Block (in love with Jordan Knight) and then B2K. I also had a crush on Joey Fatone from N'SYNC.
2 days, 9 hours ago on TBT: Más, Mucho Más Menudo…..
@DWB @Tammy_Ghalden @Lili2009 @LovelyLulu Police departments lower standards when they aren't meeting their recruiting goals. If police departments are going to raise standards, they will also have to raise pay and other incentives in order to attract more qualified applicants. I would bet money that if police departments raised the minimum scores for their written exams, they would indirectly hire more college graduates. Actually, they wouldn't even have to raise the minimum score since most police departments start selecting the highest scorers first. Just by attracting more applicants with college degrees, they will end up selecting more people with college degrees.
I will give a real life example of a police department I applied for, but I had to drop out of the hiring process due to my PhD program. They had two groups of applicants to choose from. One group was already licensed and didn't need a degree. The second group would need academy training and needed a bachelor's degree. When some agencies do this, they give preference to those who are already licensed because it'll be cheaper to train them. However, this department was different. They only selected the top scorers regardless of their licensure status. All of their highest performers on the exam and behavioral interview were the unlicensed applicants with degrees. That tells you something.
Also, it is common for police departments to try to recruit more college graduates by giving bonus points on the exams for having a degree and offering educational incentive pay. So, they are definitely not trying to turn away educated or highly intelligent people. Even with these efforts, unfortunately, most police officers do not have a 4-year degree. The main reason why police departments are not requiring degrees is because they are already having a hard enough time recruiting minorities. However, I think they are approaching this problem from the wrong end. Even if they just raise the minimum cutoff score, they will have less eligible minorities due to many of them graduating high school with poor reading and writing skills. These problems need to be addressed in the educational system, not with police officer recruiting.
This article is a good summary of studies on use of force and college education.
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@DWB @Tammy_Ghalden @Lili2009 @LovelyLulu Smart doesn't always mean educated. One problem is that many cops are uneducated in basic psychology, sociology, ethics, and cultural differences. The required continuing education courses do not help much. I worked for one police department where the officers openly cheated on their required continuing education courses in cultural diversity and ethics. I don't think an officer specifically needs an education in a behavioral science, even though it will help, but a college education in general helps to develop analytical skills.
There was one police department that would not hire an applicant for scoring too high on the entrance exam, but this is not the norm. This is actually exceptionally rare. The overwhelming majority of competitive police departments start interviewing the highest scorers and work their way down the list. The less competitive police departments will hire anyone who can pass the series of exams and interviews and don't eliminate high-IQ applicants.
@Maxine @QueenAnne According to the article linked below, he was questioned on suspicion of selling untaxed cigarettes after breaking up a fight. Instead of going after the men who were fighting, they decided to stop him over the possibility he had been committing a petty crime. One of the people filming even said he was breaking up a fight.
4 days, 19 hours ago on Gotta Say Something Because This is Inexcusable: Eric Gardner Didn’t Have to Die for 50 Cents.
@Lili2009 @Tammy_Ghalden @LovelyLulu Educational standards need to be raised. Over 90% of police departments don't require a college degree (this includes associates degrees). Only 1% require a bachelors degree. Police departments that have started to require a bachelors degree have seen a decrease in complaints and use of force.
@Maxine @Tammy_Ghalden @robjk I think I read that the officer who put him in a choke-hold was disciplined twice before for using excessive force.
5 days, 6 hours ago on Gotta Say Something Because This is Inexcusable: Eric Gardner Didn’t Have to Die for 50 Cents.
@LovelyLulu The Albuquerque Police Department is being overseen by the DOJ after numerous questionable killings over the past few years. The one that finally sent down the DOJ was the killing of a mentally ill, non-black man.
@robjk I'm more disturbed by what happened after the take-down. They could have either removed his handcuffs and placed him on his back or sat him up against the wall to make breathing easier. The EMT who was in the video didn't seem the least bit concerned about his state.
The EMTs were put on modified duty. I'm only trained in basic life support and first aid, but I also thought their actions were questionable.
5 days, 11 hours ago on Gotta Say Something Because This is Inexcusable: Eric Gardner Didn’t Have to Die for 50 Cents.
I don't understand. These officers are not trained in first aid, CPR, and AED?
@crzyfudg If Jason ever leaves Lisa Bonet, he's mine. Sorry.
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He's definitely better looking than Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson. Call me weird, but I never found him attractive.
6 days, 12 hours ago on Man Candy Monday: Wrestling with the Remarkable that is Roman Reigns
@DWB @Tammy_Ghalden @Fae @Gijou Yes, we are all descended from the first peoples of our species. Race is somewhat of a social construct, but there is such a thing as gene pools and breeding groups. Asian is the politically correct term used to replace Mongoloid after it was deemed offensive. Mongoloid is really the name of the race that is most prevalent on the continent of Asia.
1 week, 1 day ago on Unspeakable! New Jersey Reporter Fired for Telling the DAMN TRUTH!
@Fae @Tammy_Ghalden @DWB @Gijou The history of labeling Mexicans white was an attempt to avoid charges of discrimination. People of Mexican descent were forced to attend separate schools, businesses would put up signs that said "No Mexicans Allowed," and Mexican-Americans were banned from serving on juries. When confronted about this discrimination, officials would just say, "We can't possibly be discriminating against them because they're white!" In reality, they treated them differently because they knew most of them were mestizo.
When you actually ask Hispanics why they chose white on the Census form, a common answer is that they were confused and/or were only allowed to choose one race. This is coming from people who speak English. It says clear as day that you can select multiple races. I read an account from one person who said that his father looks Indian and his mother looks white, but he only chose white because he could only choose one race. That's a damn lie!
After speaking with several people of Mexican descent and Mexican immigrants, I believe I have found the real answer. One person told me that her uncle told her that they have Native American in their family, but that is something she should keep quiet. I felt like telling her that's the worst kept secret ever. She's as dark as George Lopez, who is genetically mostly Native American. It was proven with a DNA test. I've had Mexican immigrants tell me that the indigenous peoples in Mexico are treated horribly, and in a quest to appear more white, the mestizos don't want to associate themselves with "Indios."
1 week, 2 days ago on Unspeakable! New Jersey Reporter Fired for Telling the DAMN TRUTH!
@zimekcyn @Tammy_Ghalden I did address the fatherless problem, but I also don't agree with when and where the reporter decided to state his opinion on what was supposed to be an objective news story. My comments on conservatism were directly in response to Christelyn's comments on liberals. It's really that simple.
@bellechose When someone supports Democrats or liberals (there are conservatives and liberals in both major parties), the first reason you go to is race and gender? I lean to the left (I actually own guns and am pro-life) because I am highly educated. Most highly educated people are liberal. I'm not saying that liberals are smarter, that's just what the statistics show. Some will say that it's due to brainwashing in our universities, but I became more liberal as I read on my own. The only person who successfully brainwashed me temporarily was my conservative, world geography teacher. This was the guy who thought it was only important to teach European geography. We skipped over everything else. I used to even listen to Glenn Beck every weekday. As I started to read and watch news from various sources with various slants, I became more liberal (actually more left-libertarian).
Even though I am the only black student in my PhD program and there is only one black professor in the program, almost everyone (professors and students) are liberal. This is what you will come across in most of the social sciences and allied fields. Do you know what I find just as offensive as the patronizing of blacks by liberals? The patronizing of blacks by conservatives. I find it highly offensive when someone tells me that I only voted a certain way because the candidate was black or because I've been brainwashed as if I'm automatically a misinformed voter. People have different views. That should be accepted without automatically resorting to insulting someone's intelligence. They might as well say, "Oh, you poor, stupid, black person. You don't know what you're doing. You don't know how to think for yourself. That's why you vote against your own best interest." No political party is going to win over blacks, or any other minority group for that matter, by basically telling them that they are stupid. If the Republican Party wants to become more diverse, it needs to look at the real reasons why it lost the black, Hispanic, Asian, Jewish, Catholic, and women vote.
1 week, 3 days ago on Unspeakable! New Jersey Reporter Fired for Telling the DAMN TRUTH!
@9Boots @bellechose Some people don't like when you try to think too hard. There is nothing wrong with wanting to get the stats and results of empirical research before you take a stance.
@zimekcyn @Tammy_Ghalden Yes, you chose to respond to me, but you chose not to respond to Christelyn assuming that liberals were behind the disciplining of this reporter. You also chose not to respond to the commenter who called liberals racist. You chose to only respond to me in defense of conservatives. That shows your bias.
Read through the comments that are right here on this article. There are many negative comments about liberals. You're just choosing to ignore them. I have been on this site for a few years and have seen dozens of negative comments against liberals.
@DWB @Tammy_Ghalden @Gijou Let me correct that. The second most option "other" is growing in popularity among younger, native-born generations. It is not growing in overall popularity. Immigrants are more likely to choose white because being seen as "Indio" is bad in their eyes even though I've seen a recent article that says the opposite. It says that native born people are starting to choose white. Either way, it shows the arbitrariness of self-identification. It's like when Dominicans claim that their dark skin comes from being Taino Indian. Many of them don't want to admit they are mixed with black.
@DWB @Tammy_Ghalden @Gijou Mississippi and Montana have the highest number of hate groups per capita. This is an easy place for Montana to take since it only takes a few hate groups to saturate such a small population. Mississippi is not just an armpit due to its racist history, but because it's often toward the bottom of most rankings.
I've seen the interpretation of the segregation map for my city. I vehemently disagreed with it. The misinterpretation comes from there being a less dense population. In denser populations, it's easier to see the divisions. When I showed others in my city a map with the same data, but with bolder coloring, it was easy to see that the center of the city was overwhelmingly Hispanic, the very edges of the city were mostly white due to white flight, and most of the black people live in a small area on the east side falling in line with the rest of the black people in Texas. Most black people in Texas live around or east of IH-35.
Most Hispanics in the U.S. identify themselves as white on forms even though most are mixed race, but they most often see themselves as distinct from white people. They call themselves "brown." The second most popular option is "other" which is growing in popularity, especially among younger, native-born generations.
@DWB @Tammy_Ghalden @Gijou Not much has changed about their views. It's just become socially less acceptable to openly say racist things. Because I am black, white people here in Texas seem to be comfortable with telling me their racist views on Hispanics. I would not be surprised if they are saying racist things about black people to non-black people. It doesn't matter who they are racist against, though. Racism is racism. I also hear a lot of racism from southern Hispanics and blacks. The various ethnic groups in Texas and other southern states have resegregated themselves. Most Hispanic students and I believe 40% of black students in Texas attend schools that are over 90% Hispanic and/or black. I do have a bias against Mississippi and Florida. They are the armpits of the U.S.
@DWB @Tammy_Ghalden @Gijou Lied to about what exactly? You keep coming up with these weird, irrelevant points. It is a fact that many Democrats switched to the Republican Party. How was I lied to about that? The senators who voted against the Civil Rights bill are a tiny part of the millions of people who switched parties.
@DWB @Tammy_Ghalden @Gijou A lot of Republicans used to be Democrats. That was another point I made. I don't see how this changes your statement that Democrats' only value is hate.
@zimekcyn @Tammy_Ghalden It is a pattern on this website to demonize liberals while defending conservatives against accusations of racism. I have seen readers act as if there is hardly any racism in the Republican Party while being rampant in the Democratic Party. A commenter below stated that liberals are racist. Why aren't you responding to that person? Oh, because you're busy high fiving DWB's conservative views. If someone attacks liberals, it's nothing to you. If someone attacks conservatives, then you're all up in arms. Yes, your bias is showing.
@DWB @Gijou @Tammy_Ghalden I identify as independent, but I have voted mostly for Democrats. You may not be able to see the values I have, but I do have them. I can tell you that one of my values, and definitely not my only value, is not hate. Even though I disagree with Republicans on most things, even I can see the values they stand for. YOU are so blind with hatred of Democrats, that you cannot see any redeeming values in them while seeing redeeming values in the other major party. You can stop with the fake Fox News-type fair and balanced act. I see right through it.
@Christelyn @Tammy_Ghalden You have stated multiple times that conservatives are more open-minded. That may be your experience in California or wherever you live, but that has not been my experience living in Texas. I've heard Hispanic and black liberals say racist things about white people, but I have also heard many conservatives say racist things about Hispanics and blacks along with sexist things about women and homophobic things about gay people.
@zimekcyn @Tammy_Ghalden I also don't understand how this story is about liberals, but it was brought up in this article. Read it again if you missed it.
@DWB @Tammy_Ghalden You're making a lot of assumptions off of things I haven't said in this exchange. Maybe I haven't talked about them here because they are irrelevant to the point I was trying to make, but I have definitely talked about racism among non-white people on this website. The police commissioner who said the n-word is from New Hampshire. The last time I checked, New Hampshire isn't the South. Cliven Bundy also does not live in the South. You're reading what you want to read; your bias is coloring what you see.
@DWB @Tammy_Ghalden What are you getting at? All I said is that LBJ predicted something. I did NOT say that LBJ was NOT racist. You cannot deny that the South shifted over the decades from the Democratic Party to the Republican Party and maintained their conservative views. You cannot deny that all of the federal politicians who voted against the MLK holiday were Republican. The shift was slow, but it did happen. Republicans like to point to Lincoln as an example of them not being racist, but Lincoln was racist.
@DWB @Tammy_Ghalden The Democratic Party lost the South and gained the liberals of the North. The Democratic Party used to be the socially conservative party. LBJ predicted losing the South when the Civil Rights Act was passed. Those southern voters went somewhere. The biggest shift to the Republican Party happened during Reagan's election for president.
@DWB @Tammy_Ghalden Did I say that Democrats would never say the n-word? No. My criticism was on people's insistence that there is no racism in the Republican party or that there is a lot more racism in the Democratic Party of today.
@Bellaventa Thank you for bringing up facts that could point to the ideological slant of the news company. Liberals are blindly demonized on this website all the time.
@9Boots If reporters don't bring up the race of the perpetrators, then people commenting on stories will. Race is almost always the main topic when the perpetrator is black, male or female. I've seen black people attacked in the comments section of many articles on black women perpetrators. When the perpetrator is white, that individual is attacked, not the whole white race. Yes, we do have a serious problem in the black community, and this HAS been mentioned in the media. What you will never see is the media discussing why so many white boys/men are having mental issues and shooting up schools, places of worship, movie theaters, and malls.
It reminds me of when people criticize CNN for not covering Obama's "scandals." I watch CNN all the time; they cover his scandals all the time. The reason why people don't see it is because they don't even watch CNN. People are just dumb.
I agree with what he said, even though I'm an evil liberal, but this website is always making sweeping attacks against liberals for no reason. Did the people punishing the reporter apply an ideological label to themselves? How do we know they are liberal? How about you do a story on how a GOP politician called a black woman the n-word? According to many on this website, racist conservatives don't exist. He's the second GOP politician this year who publicly called someone the n-word. That is on top of a GOP candidate publicly using a racial slur for Mexicans and Cliven Bundy saying that blacks were better off as slaves.
With that said, I agree with Brenda55. He needs to give his rants outside of work. That was not the time or place for that. I don't go off on rants at my job about growing racism in the Tea Party. My job is to teach criminal justice. The media hasn't completely ignored this issue. I've seen several news pieces over the years that have talked about the out of wedlock rate in the black community. They aren't going to cover it everyday.
@lindsaynagle Any slim woman will stand out in San Antonio. We are regularly in the top 2 on fattest cities lists. We have a taqueria on every street corner. Good Tex-Mex will be one of the few things I will miss about this city.
2 weeks, 5 days ago on Interracial Friendly States, City by City, County by County!
@UnlimitedBeauty @Camden14 I would say that WW/HM and WM/HW relationships dominate here. Many people don't even think those are interracial relationships because they incorrectly think that people of Mexican descent are only of Spanish descent even if they are 10 shades darker than most white people in town. That's how uneducated people are down here.
By the way, never walking into a western clothing store. My sister and her white/Asian-mixed boyfriend couldn't get any service at one. Everyone else there was white; there weren't even any Hispanics in there in a city that is 2/3 Hispanic. I also had a Hispanic friend tell me that "brown people" are not welcomed in La Cantera. Only the white Mexican nationals can get away with shopping there without being followed around or treated rudely.
@UnlimitedBeauty @Camden14 I agree. I can't wait until I move to San Marcos because it's closer to Austin. I haven't had much of a problem attracting Hispanic men, but most of them are low quality in San Antonio. I'm getting tired of meeting 30-year old men who are broke and still living with their parents or grandparents while struggling to pay child support.
I forgot about that Republican police commissioner in New Hampshire who called Obama the n-word. His supporters have been sending death threats to the lady who reported him. Dan Patrick, a Tea Party favorite in Texas, said that Mexicans were bringing over leprosy, tuberculosis, polio, and malaria. A public health expert says there is no proof of any of that. Sure, some Democrats have said some covertly racist things in the past ten years, but if you haven't heard Republicans say anything racist, then you must live in a cave.
The only people who voted against the MLK holiday at the federal level were Republicans.
Most Democrats were southerners in the past. Most southerners are now Republicans. Their views on social policies haven't changed much.
The Tea Party has been attracting a lot of weirdos lately like Cliven Bundy and that one Texas candidate who said it was normal for Texans to refer to Mexicans as w*tbacks.
@Christelyn @Browncow @Gijou My experience has been the opposite. I went out on dates with a couple of liberal white men. I wasn't too into them, but they were nice and open-minded. I dated a conservative white man who would make racist statements about Hispanics and black people. This is not to say that conservative = racist, a lot of the Obama bashing is covert racism/prejudice. It's one thing to disagree with him; it's another to call him a Kenyan Muslim. When they proudly wave the Rebel flag and refer to the Civil War as the War of Northern Aggression, it's time to run! Maybe it's different in California, but the Tea Party dominates the conservative agenda in Texas and other parts of the South. The Texas Republican primary campaign ads this year were horribly xenophobic. One of the worst offenders won his primary! Because Texas is reliably red at the moment, he will more than likely win the election.
2 weeks, 6 days ago on Interracial Friendly States, City by City, County by County!
This list is more for people who are already in an interracial relationship and want to find a place that is friendly to interracial couples. It may not be a good list for single black women or single men looking to date black women. For example, San Antonio, TX is friendly to interracial couples in that hardly anyone will harass you. It is a great place for Hispanic people and white people to hookup. A lot of the black men here also seem to not have a problem with finding white and Hispanic women to date. With that said, San Antonio, TX is an awful place for single black women. There aren't many quality black men, but it wouldn't matter since a large chunk of them are not interested in black women. The non-black men here are not very open-minded when it comes to dating black women. When you can find a non-black man who is interested in black women, he is often of low quality. This is the city of high rates of teenage pregnancies and low rates of college completion.
Most of these interracial dating sites are dominated by white women and black men. Just because a lot of black men and non-black women or white men and Hispanic and Asian women are hooking up from a particular city does not mean the city is great for single black women.
It's just so much easier to pepper spray people. I bought this pepper spray from the Academy that leaves a pink stain on the perpetrator making it easy for law enforcement to identify him/her. As Christelyn said, you should run first if you can. If I can't run, I either have my gun, pepper spray, or a pocket knife. I'm also thinking about getting a Taser.
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@DeepWater @LeCe @LovelyLulu Jim Jones specifically targeted poor, uneducated people, so a disproportionate number of his followers ended up being black. One filmmaker estimated that about 80% of his followers were African American.
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@LeCe @Tammy_Ghalden There is one televangelist from Texas who I think is gay, but I'm just going to keep quiet. LOL.
3 weeks, 2 days ago on New Documentary on the Black Church Shines a Light on Prosperity Pimps for Dollars
@LadyHumor @Tammy_Ghalden I'm a Protestant, but I think Latinos and Asians will become more vulnerable to the prosperity gospel as they start leaving Catholicism and eastern religions. The megachurches are as big as they are because they are good at attracting people. From what I've seen, megachurches and televangelists are mostly to blame for spreading prosperity gospel.