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Um, Russell Brand is not even American. I wouldn't expect him to understand the cultural nuances of America as well as an American. To put him up as an example of American liberalism is disingenuous.


I will say that the most racist man I dated was a white conservative. I'm not going to judge all conservatives by his actions, but I've seen plenty of them give the uppity negro treatment to the only black person on San Antonio's city council (she's now the interim mayor). Even though our city council elections are non-partisan, it's easy to tell who is a Democrat and who is a Republican. She is obviously a Democrat even though she is not all that liberal on LGBTQ issues. When she was voted in by the council as interim mayor, conservatives started throwing around the term "Affirmative Action." Even though we were talking about local politics, they had to bring in Obama. It never fails. Apparently, Obama was only voted as president twice because most voters created this mass conspiracy to institute Affirmative Action at the political level. 


On the uppity negro thing, conservatives kept calling this woman arrogant and stuck up. I thought, maybe she is arrogant and stuck up, but the truth finally came out when someone said, "She acts like she's representing Stone Oak." Stone Oak is an area that is predominantly white and upper middle class. Our interim mayor represented a predominantly black and Hispanic district that is mostly poor. So, the problem really wasn't that she was arrogant and stuck up. The problem was really that she had the audacity to think that her poor district deserved the same zealous representation as the district that includes Stone Oak. The problem is that she actually took pride in representing her district. The people who are truly stuck up are the ones who think that Stone Oak deserves better representation than a poor area of town. This woman is nothing to sneeze at. She is a Yale graduate, and she and her husband have been very successful in real estate. 


This website would never put up these people as representatives of conservatives. They get the outlier treatment. Everything that a liberal says is treated as representative of all liberals. This website is very one-sided. 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M0a6okfQ_tY

http://latino.foxnews.com/latino/politics/2014/02/26/gop-candidate-for-us-senate-from-texas-under-fire-for-using-term-wetbacks/

http://www.theguardian.com/world/2014/may/19/new-hampshire-police-commissioner-quits-obama-slur

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=agXns-W60MI

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IJcpPAB-Kps

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pb0Wc6Zfe0g

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wxRF9XP9CX4


3 days ago on I’m So Glad Russell Brand Opened His Big, Fat, Mouth. Proof the Many Liberals Practice Soft Bigotry

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@caligirl94117 @Tammy_Ghalden I would have just waited for it to be approved. The moderators probably aren't online. 

2 days, 22 hours ago on I’m So Glad Russell Brand Opened His Big, Fat, Mouth. Proof the Many Liberals Practice Soft Bigotry

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@caligirl94117 Maybe posts of a certain length are automatically being flagged for moderation. 

2 days, 22 hours ago on I’m So Glad Russell Brand Opened His Big, Fat, Mouth. Proof the Many Liberals Practice Soft Bigotry

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@tonyrog The attacks against Michelle Obama have been unrelenting. It's telling how they feel so comfortable attacking her even though she does not hold public office. 

2 days, 23 hours ago on I’m So Glad Russell Brand Opened His Big, Fat, Mouth. Proof the Many Liberals Practice Soft Bigotry

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One of my comments is pending for some reason. I guess it's because it has a lot of links. 

3 days ago on I’m So Glad Russell Brand Opened His Big, Fat, Mouth. Proof the Many Liberals Practice Soft Bigotry

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@zipporah @caligirl94117 @sbstewartlaing I've met plenty who say silly stuff, but they try to keep their comments about other people since I'm black. I've lost count of how many times I've had to sit and listen to a conservative say homophobic and xenophobic things. I'll admit that I've heard liberals say silly things. I find it hard to believe that people haven't heard conservatives say silly things. Even if you don't have much personal contact with them (I do because I live in a red state), you can at least hear the silly things they say in the media. 

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Teaching your daughter to avoid a certain race doesn't teach her how to vet a man. Men of all races need to be vetted. Teaching her to avoid a whole race only teaches her to stereotype. You would be teaching her to be exactly like the people who stereotype black women. She needs to be taught how to vet individuals. Everyone deserves to be judged on his or her own merits. 

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I really like this MCM. 

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@Brenda55 @Tammy_Ghalden He only made them on two separate occasions. No, the comments weren't made in the beginning of the relationship. It was one of those cases where one slowly begins to realize the person is not who one thinks he is. 

1 week, 2 days ago on How to Talk to Your Partner About Racially-Charged Issues

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@Brenda55 @Tammy_Ghalden I asked him why he assumed the man was an illegal immigrant. He said he didn't know what he was, but reiterated that Mexicans can't drive. I just told him he was stereotyping people and left it at that. Maybe a week or two later, he made some covertly racist comments about black people. Again, I questioned him on his opinions, but didn't push it. I was just collecting in my mind all of the things that made him a horrible person. He was pathological liar and, I believe, gay. He set off my gaydar, so I questioned him about his sexuality. He first lied about that, but finally admitted to having enjoyed sexual encounters with men. Still, he identified as heterosexual. It was a combination of things that ended our relationship. I should have dumped him right after the first time he made the racist comments. That was telling enough that he was a bad person. 

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@Brenda55 @Tammy_Ghalden @DWB @SirLoinDeBeef I'm currently single, but the only white man I had a long-term relationship with said that Mexicans don't know how to drive and accused a Hispanic driver of being an illegal immigrant without knowing anything about him. Well, the relationship didn't last long after that. The Hispanic men I dated (all of Mexican descent with one being half Spanish) seemed to be very understanding of the issues people of color face because they were also people of color. 

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@DWB @Tammy_Ghalden @SirLoinDeBeef Texas tried to remedy this by giving white people more credit for the Civil Rights Movement in public school history books. This didn't go over well because they were taking away the already little bit of time devoted to black historical figures. Arizona even went out of its way to ban Mexican American Studies curriculum because it was teaching Hispanics to "hate white people." Now, we have politicians pressuring AP to change their U.S. History exam because it's "too negative." Then, you have the Confederate sympathizers who try to romanticize the Confederate States of America. This whitewashing of history is not new, though. 

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@robjk This video of a St. Louis police officer involved in providing security during the protests does not help the image of local police. He even went for the tired "Obama was born in Kenya, so he's an illegal president."  He also said that people involved in domestic violence incidents should just kill each other instead of calling the police and that he has no problem with killing more people. 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1XA_yW7Z5OM

1 week, 2 days ago on How to Talk to Your Partner About Racially-Charged Issues

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@SirLoinDeBeef Methinks you're just exaggerating like you did in the other thread. You're obviously happy with the status quo of white culture getting almost all of the attention and bothered by non-white people asking for a little more consideration to the point that you would exaggerate their "demands". Everyone who has attended school in the U.S. has been given hundreds of quizzes on white history and white culture. How much more attention do you want? 

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@FriendsofJay @JannaAshley I really don't understand how attending an HBCU is about exploring the hatred of white people. Honestly, that is one of the most ridiculous things I've ever heard. Additionally, many HBCUs are becoming increasingly diverse. As someone else said, would you encourage a white person to attend an HBCU for a different experience? White people can walk on 90% of college campuses and be the majority, but we don't accuse them of exploring the worst of black people. 


Nice story, but it did nothing to explain you're linking of the "black experience" to exploring the worst of white people. Basically, what you're saying is that exploring black culture is synonymous with hating white people. This is a stretch if I've ever seen one. 

1 week, 4 days ago on (Bonus) QOTW: “How Can I Talk About My Culture with My White Boyfriend?”

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@CaliGurl323 That comment just rubbed me the wrong way. The way I read it was, "If we give black people some more coverage in history courses, then they're going to start demanding whole semesters. We can't have that." I've had whole semesters in English courses dedicated to Greek and Roman mythology, and no one complains about that, but God forbid we have whole semesters dedicated to black people! Then, the Chinese and the Mexicans will want whole semesters. There won't be any room left for white people. Let's not start this slippery slope and leave things the way they are: dedicate whole school years to white people year after year because there's nothing wrong with that!

1 week, 4 days ago on (Bonus) QOTW: “How Can I Talk About My Culture with My White Boyfriend?”

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@Maxine @Tammy_Ghalden @SirLoinDeBeef I'm almost ashamed to say that I didn't know what the NAACP was until it came up in an off-topic discussion in high school. I was an "A" student, so it wasn't like I didn't pay attention in class. History and social studies were my favorite subjects. 


By the way, we learned about the Vikings in several grades. They almost always came up when discussing the first Europeans to land in the Americas. In comparison, the Japanese internment camps and Chinese railroad workers only received a brief mention. 

1 week, 4 days ago on (Bonus) QOTW: “How Can I Talk About My Culture with My White Boyfriend?”

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@SirLoinDeBeef @Tammy_Ghalden No one is asking for that. How did you get to that extreme? Someone asks for a little more consideration in history courses, and you jump to the conclusion that we want whole semesters dedicated to black people? And, did you not see my complaints about other minorities not being covered? Since white people are not the only people in American history, it is not too much to ask for minorities to be integrated into the curriculum throughout the school year. We have whole school years dedicated to white people, but you see nothing wrong with that? By the way, Native Americans were the only minority group we thoroughly studied when I was in school. I have no problem with that, but Native Americans and white people are not the only important people in the U.S. 


World history and world geography are supposed to be courses that cover the cultures and histories of peoples outside of the U.S. However, like I said in my post above, some teachers think that Europeans are the only people worth studying. Schools have 12-13 years to cover this stuff, but they usually go over the same things over and over again. 

1 week, 5 days ago on (Bonus) QOTW: “How Can I Talk About My Culture with My White Boyfriend?”

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@Windsinger @Tammy_Ghalden There hasn't been a thread on it, but someone did mention the story in the Renisha McBride thread when it first broke. There are too many unknowns, so I'm reserving judgment until the investigation is complete. It's just sad that people who couldn't care less about the shooting are taking advantage of the situation by looting. 

1 week, 5 days ago on (Bonus) QOTW: “How Can I Talk About My Culture with My White Boyfriend?”

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Unfortunately, even though African American history is American history, it is not treated as such by most of our schools. When I went to school, they dedicated about a week to black history during black history month. Black, Asian, and Hispanic historical figures were rarely mentioned throughout the year in Texas and U.S. history courses. I want to see the Cesar Chavez movie and read up on him because the schools I attended only gave him a brief mention. I also did not know that the Texas Rangers hung hundreds of Mexicans and forced them off their land after the war until after I graduated from high school.  The Texas Revolution was oversimplified by teaching "Anglo immigrants good, Mexican government bad." Schools also downplayed the role of slavery in the conflict. My world geography teacher thought it was only important to learn about Europe because of its connection to the U.S. population ignoring all of the Americans who are not of mostly European descent. If it weren't for jazz and the blues, we wouldn't have pop or rock music. To not know a lot about black history is to not know a lot about American history. 


I'm getting a bit of a feeling from reading some of the comments that people think that American culture and African American culture are two completely separate things and that African American culture is somehow a counterculture that does not deserve the attention of American culture which is ignorantly thought of as just white American culture. It doesn't hurt to learn about the different parts of American culture. Black people are surrounded by "white culture" and "white history" their whole lives as if its the only part of American culture that matters. Is it really too much to ask for a little reciprocation? I find it troubling that the automatic response to asking a white mate to learn a little bit about black culture is to get defensive and ask the black person to learn about European culture. Not only did the woman grow up in a white family, but this is what schools mostly focus on in history, literature, and geography courses. We are surrounded by the culture of European descendants everyday in the media. It's nearly impossible for an African American or any minority to go through life in the U.S. without knowing anything about European culture. If your mate is Irish, Scottish, or whatever, it would be nice to learn in more detail about his or her culture while he or she learns a little bit about yours, but I'm just getting the sense that people think that black culture and black history is something that should just be shoved under the rug because it's unimportant in the grand scheme of things. You do not have to lose your identity when you enter an interracial relationship. Black history and black culture is part of who you are whether or not you want to admit it, so the person who claims to love you should make a little effort in getting to know all of you. Asking this of your mate doesn't automatically make you Afrocentric or some sort of black militant. 

1 week, 6 days ago on (Bonus) QOTW: “How Can I Talk About My Culture with My White Boyfriend?”

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@dani-BBW It was a mic wire. 

2 weeks, 5 days ago on Man Candy Monday: The Blacker the Berry

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He's not really dark, but still dark-skinned. I love Omarion's beard. 


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@tracyreneejones @PamelaFoster I'm assuming you left out Taye Diggs for a reason too. 

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@DWB @Tammy_Ghalden @robjk I'm not even that far to the left. You're just so far to the right that I appear to be far left. I own three guns, have a concealed handgun license, and am pro-life. I doubt the far left would view me as a hardcore liberal. 


When that statement was written, it only included white men. Black people were seen as sub-human and women didn't count. 

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@DWB @Tammy_Ghalden @robjk Flip flopping Romney moved to the right (at least in appearance) during the last presidential election. Everyone knows that. McCain was originally all for more immigration until he decided it wasn't a winning strategy with his party.  But, at least McCain voted against the MLK holiday. 

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@DWB @dani-BBW @Browncow Maybe people wouldn't think these things if so many people weren't constantly calling Obama a Kenyan Muslim who wasn't eligible to run for president. Everything Obama does is because he hates white people, Americans, and the wealthy. He's trying to turn the U.S. into an Islamic, socialist state. Everything is Obama's fault. When your car breaks down, it's because Obama bailed out GM. When your tooth falls out, it's because of Obamacare. 

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@darkandlovely @DWB @Patricia Kayden I actually wanted to serve on a jury, but the only time I was called was when I was working for a law enforcement agency. They made us write down our employer, so I knew I wouldn't be picked. 

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@DWB @robjk I'm not sure Bush would be able to win a Republican primary these days. He's too moderate. 

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@robjk MSNBC is the liberal cable news station. CNN is more centrist with a slight slant to the left. 

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@DWB @Tammy_Ghalden @Savannah18121 By the way, socialism is not about the control of the economy by the government. Government-run socialism is just a type of socialism. As I said before, socialism has existed under anarchic societies. Socialism is about collectivism without or without a government. 

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@DWB @Tammy_Ghalden @Savannah18121 Corporatism also has some elements of capitalism, so what is your point? 

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@DWB @Tammy_Ghalden @Savannah18121 No, you are ignoring history. You can just as easily have socialism without fascism or communism. There has been socialism under democratic societies (modern day Europe) and even anarchy (parts of Spain during their civil war). When you can easily have a type of economy under any form of government, then the main goal of fascism could not have possibly been socialism. Italy was already seeing the rise of socialism before Mussolini broke away and came into power. If socialism were his main goal, he would not have dissented and created his own ideology of ultra-nationalism. 


By the way, that article you posted just disproved your point. Corporatism is not socialism. The author clearly says that corporatism has been thought of as a mix of capitalism and socialism, but is its own distinct political economic system. As a matter of fact, the author goes on to say that free market and socialist economies are virtually non-existent. He's basically saying that all of the economies are corporatist to varying degrees. 

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@DWB @Tammy_Ghalden @Savannah18121 Here is a quote from Mussolini. 


"When dealing with such a race as Slavic - inferior and barbarian - we must not pursue the carrot, but the stick policy. We should not be afraid of new victims. The Italian border should run across the Brenner Pass, Monte Nevoso and the Dinaric Alps. I would say we can easily sacrifice 500,000 barbaric Slavs for 50,000 Italians."


http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2013/apr/01/sunderlands-own-goal-paolo-di-canio

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@DWB @Tammy_Ghalden @Savannah18121 I disagree. Fascism is foremost a type of government, not a type of economy. The thing that fascist governments had in common was hate for communism and its brand of socialism. Fascists did not believe in equaling the classes by redistributing wealth. 

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@Lili2009 The open carry movement has done more harm than good to gun rights. All they've accomplished so far is increase the number of stores that completely ban guns on their premises. Before, these stores allowed people to conceal carry; now, people can't carry in them at all. 


I certainly do believe in protecting yourself and your home when someone breaks in, but Renisha McBride was not trying to break into that man's home. Who opens the door to someone one thinks is a threat? 

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@DWB @Tammy_Ghalden @Savannah18121 Fascism is more about militarization and totalitarianism than a type of economy. Choosing socialism as an economy is just a flavor of fascism. Racism may not have been Mussolini's focus, but he was a radical nationalist. Socialism and communism were around before fascism, so other ideologies did not adopt an economic structure from them. Fascism borrowed socialism from previous socialist and communist parties. 


Regardless, people have failed to prove that Obama is a socialist, communist, or fascist. 

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@DWB @Tammy_Ghalden @Savannah18121 While some fascist governments operated under a socialist economy making it not much different from communism, the thing that separated fascism from communism is that it is based on radical nationalism that naturally progressed to racism. Fascism is about national and/or racial superiority while communism focuses on class warfare. I don't see anything about Obama that would point to radical nationalism. Again, this is Americans misunderstanding what these terms really mean. 

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@FriendsofJay The death penalty hasn't worked very well as a deterrent, but I think this issue is different. What works as a deterrent is perceived punishment. It's the punishment people think they will receive; it is often different from the punishment people do receive. The problem for the past few years is that people think they can get away with murder by claiming that they were "standing their ground" or protecting their home or property. When people see others get away with using this excuse, they think they can too. This one man in Texas got away with murdering an escort because she didn't provide the sexual services he paid for. Because Texas law says you can shoot someone for stealing your property at night, he was found not guilty. 


On the other hand, you have a case in Texas where a man went outside to argue with his neighbors over a loud party. He was the one who initiated the dispute, but started yelling, "I'm in fear for my life," while he was recording and started shooting people at the party. Luckily, he was convicted; but, this man had it in his mind that as long as he claimed that he was in fear for his life that he could get away with murder. What is even scarier is that police officers are doing it. In NJ, a police officer repeatedly yelled, " Stop resisting, stop trying to take my gun!." What he didn't remember is that the patrol car in front of him was recording what was going on, not just the patrol car behind them. When prosecutors found out there was more dashcam video, they saw that the man was neither resisting nor trying to grab at the officer's gun. The officer was just yelling these things to justify assaulting the man, which he did. 

http://www.nydailynews.com/news/crime/police-dash-cam-video-exonerates-nj-man-implicates-cops-article-1.1701763


The man who shot Jordan Davis thought he could get away with murder by lying about seeing a gun. This case below probably involved someone who is mentally ill, but this man thought it was okay to shoot the black teen who lived next door because he believed he was the one who burglarized his home. All the kid was doing at the time was taking out the trash. 

http://www.nydailynews.com/news/crime/trial-milwaukee-mom-recounts-shooting-son-13-article-1.1400993

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@Savannah18121 The number of hate groups has grown since Obama was elected. We've also seen growth in anti-government, right wing militias. They say the problem is not Obama's race, but it really is for many. He is far from being a socialist. Anyone who calls him a socialist doesn't understand what socialism is. He's mostly doing things past presidents have done or attempted to do. This country has long had elements of socialism; it's nothing new. Social Security and Medicare are some of the biggest socialist programs we have; "Obamacare" doesn't even compare. The Affordable Care Act mostly utilizes private sector insurance companies. It included only a small expansion of a socialist program we already have: Medicaid. The only thing really socialist about the ACA is the subsidy system for purchasing insurance on the free market. 

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@nyaw Black women accounted for 30% of the abortions in 2011. There were 1.06 million abortions that year, so we accounted for 318,000 of those. This is disproportionate to our population. 

http://www.guttmacher.org/pubs/fb_induced_abortion.html

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@jillodelight @Swirlgirl28 Some people blame the New Deal for making black families dependent upon government assistance. Others blame feminism, but I see this as putting all of the blame on black women for "running black men off because they think they can do it on their own." This does not hold black men accountable for their part in not using contraceptives and impregnating women to which they aren't married. 

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@jillodelight @Tammy_Ghalden @Swirlgirl28 That is called cohabitating, but it's still an issue because cohabitating couples are less likely to stay together. 67% of black children are in single-parent homes, so most black children are not living with their fathers. 

http://datacenter.kidscount.org/data/tables/107-children-in-single-parent-families-by#detailed/1/any/false/867,133,38,35,18/10,168,9,12,1,13,185/432,431

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@Law Wanxi Interesting report. Black women were the least likely to be using a form a contraception with 54% currently using a form of contraception when asked. They were more likely than everyone else except for foreign-born Hispanics to use female sterilization, but this is usually done after you have children. 


The study shows that 72% of the births to black women were to unmarried black women in 2008. These are the births that occurred in 2008, so it is unlikely that a small group of people are responsible for most of the births. It is rare for women to give birth more than once in a year. They also found that 67% of the births to black women were unintended. 


Politifact checked Don Lemon on his use of the 72% figure and found it to be true using 2010 figures. They also found that 67% of black children are in single-parent homes. That is much higher than the other groups. 

http://www.politifact.com/truth-o-meter/statements/2013/jul/29/don-lemon/cnns-don-lemon-says-more-72-percent-african-americ/

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@harem Condoms are 98% effective if used properly. Since some people don't use them properly, their overall effectiveness at preventing pregnancy is about 85%. Oral birth control pills are 99% effective if taken correctly. I've seen some sources say that they are 99.99% effective. Other forms of birth control have effectiveness rates in the mid to high 90s. I highly doubt that the reason why the majority of black kids are being born out of wedlock is because the same small group of people are having condom/BC failures over and over again. If that were the case, you would have to explain why other ethnic groups aren't having as many condom and birth control failures. It could possibly be that the same small group of people are responsible for the bulk of the OOW births, but I do not think that these people are having multiple condom/BC failures. They would have to be some really special people. 


I also don't think it matters if the children were planned or unplanned. Many people choose to have a baby with their significant other, but those who are cohabitating have a higher chance of breaking up than those who are married. It's still a poor choice. 

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@Swirlgirl28 But, then you will get into an argument about marriage just being a "piece of paper." For a group of people that is so religious, we should know that marriage is more than just a piece of paper. If marriage is just a piece of paper from a secular standpoint, then why are some people so afraid of it? It's because they know it requires more commitment than cohabitating. It's not as easy to run off when you're married. What they are not focusing on is that marriage also comes with legal protections and tax advantages. In my opinion, having a child with someone is a bigger life choice than getting married. You're either going to be stuck with that child for at least 18 years, or someone is going to be chasing you down for child support for 18 years. 


I've seen black men try to rationalize not getting married all while having children with women. The most common explanation is that there is no advantage for the man. Forget about it being cheaper and healthier for the child to be raised by two parents in the home; their main concern is having their little bit of money taken by "gold diggers." One man said that you will always love your children, but women come and go. That is the reason why he has no problem with committing to having a child, but won't get married. They have yet to learn how battles over custody and visitation rights can get. The honest truth is that they are only interested in being part-time fathers. You can call your child on the phone everyday, pick him or her up on the weekends, and have him or her live with you over the summer, but you're still a part-time father. 

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Having multiple abortions is not a solution. Not only do African Americans have way more abortions than any other group in the U.S. in proportion to our population size, but you can't abort HIV and other STDs. HIV is another problem plaguing our community. 


Since I encounter a lot more Hispanics than black people in my day to day life, I tried to understand through them why so many people have children out of wedlock and continue to have children when they're on public assistance. My city has a high teen pregnancy rate. I have had several students who have had two children before reaching 21 all while receiving public assistance. I have older students who have multiple children and are on public assistance. This is what I've gathered from talking to them:


1. They don't like to use condoms because it doesn't feel as good. They also don't want the responsibility of taking birth control as stated above. 


2. It's normal for people in their neighborhoods to have multiple children while young and poor, so they think nothing of it. Actually, if you're in your early 20s and don't have children, people will think there is something wrong with you.


3. They just don't think. They are constantly making poor life choices. Even the for-profit college they chose to go to was a bad choice, and I can't wait to leave. This college preys on the ill-informed. Most of the students chose this school simply because they saw it on a commercial while watching Maury or some trashy court show. They can play on Facebook all day, but they can't be bothered with researching college tuition rates. 


I spent several years going to school with other poor blacks and Hispanics. While my mother put pressure on us to reach our potential because she knew we were "A" students, I don't think most of my peers received this kind of parenting. My black and Hispanic peers would deride those who studied and made good grades while talking with pride about failing and low test scores. It's kind of like how you hear people in high-crime neighborhoods brag about going to jail. It's a badge of honor to them. When I transferred to a predominantly white, middle-class school, the differences were stark. Most of the cool kids in the school were in honors courses and later took pre-AP and AP courses in high school. It was a culture shock. 


I think the solution to most of our problems is gaining respect for education. Studies have shown that more years in and regular attendance of school can boost your IQ. This anti-intellectualism needs to stop. People aren't thinking because they don't know how to think. They just do what feels good at the moment and don't plan ahead. They don't think about the consequences of their actions and how life could be so much easier in the future if they just put some effort into staying in school, getting a job, and avoiding children they can't afford. 

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@HaroldBozarth When he said the interviewer was kind of light-skinned, I almost fell on the floor. 

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