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@SirLoinDeBeef @Tammy_Ghalden No one is asking for that. How did you get to that extreme? Someone asks for a little more consideration in history courses, and you jump to the conclusion that we want whole semesters dedicated to black people? And, did you not see my complaints about other minorities not being covered? Since white people are not the only people in American history, it is not too much to ask for minorities to be integrated into the curriculum throughout the school year. We have whole school years dedicated to white people, but you see nothing wrong with that? By the way, Native Americans were the only minority group we thoroughly studied when I was in school. I have no problem with that, but Native Americans and white people are not the only important people in the U.S.
World history and world geography are supposed to be courses that cover the cultures and histories of peoples outside of the U.S. However, like I said in my post above, some teachers think that Europeans are the only people worth studying. Schools have 12-13 years to cover this stuff, but they usually go over the same things over and over again.
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@Windsinger @Tammy_Ghalden There hasn't been a thread on it, but someone did mention the story in the Renisha McBride thread when it first broke. There are too many unknowns, so I'm reserving judgment until the investigation is complete. It's just sad that people who couldn't care less about the shooting are taking advantage of the situation by looting.
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Unfortunately, even though African American history is American history, it is not treated as such by most of our schools. When I went to school, they dedicated about a week to black history during black history month. Black, Asian, and Hispanic historical figures were rarely mentioned throughout the year in Texas and U.S. history courses. I want to see the Cesar Chavez movie and read up on him because the schools I attended only gave him a brief mention. I also did not know that the Texas Rangers hung hundreds of Mexicans and forced them off their land after the war until after I graduated from high school. The Texas Revolution was oversimplified by teaching "Anglo immigrants good, Mexican government bad." Schools also downplayed the role of slavery in the conflict. My world geography teacher thought it was only important to learn about Europe because of its connection to the U.S. population ignoring all of the Americans who are not of mostly European descent. If it weren't for jazz and the blues, we wouldn't have pop or rock music. To not know a lot about black history is to not know a lot about American history.
I'm getting a bit of a feeling from reading some of the comments that people think that American culture and African American culture are two completely separate things and that African American culture is somehow a counterculture that does not deserve the attention of American culture which is ignorantly thought of as just white American culture. It doesn't hurt to learn about the different parts of American culture. Black people are surrounded by "white culture" and "white history" their whole lives as if its the only part of American culture that matters. Is it really too much to ask for a little reciprocation? I find it troubling that the automatic response to asking a white mate to learn a little bit about black culture is to get defensive and ask the black person to learn about European culture. Not only did the woman grow up in a white family, but this is what schools mostly focus on in history, literature, and geography courses. We are surrounded by the culture of European descendants everyday in the media. It's nearly impossible for an African American or any minority to go through life in the U.S. without knowing anything about European culture. If your mate is Irish, Scottish, or whatever, it would be nice to learn in more detail about his or her culture while he or she learns a little bit about yours, but I'm just getting the sense that people think that black culture and black history is something that should just be shoved under the rug because it's unimportant in the grand scheme of things. You do not have to lose your identity when you enter an interracial relationship. Black history and black culture is part of who you are whether or not you want to admit it, so the person who claims to love you should make a little effort in getting to know all of you. Asking this of your mate doesn't automatically make you Afrocentric or some sort of black militant.
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@dani-BBW It was a mic wire.
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He's not really dark, but still dark-skinned. I love Omarion's beard.
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@tracyreneejones @PamelaFoster I'm assuming you left out Taye Diggs for a reason too.
@DWB @Tammy_Ghalden @robjk I'm not even that far to the left. You're just so far to the right that I appear to be far left. I own three guns, have a concealed handgun license, and am pro-life. I doubt the far left would view me as a hardcore liberal.
When that statement was written, it only included white men. Black people were seen as sub-human and women didn't count.
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@DWB @Tammy_Ghalden @robjk Flip flopping Romney moved to the right (at least in appearance) during the last presidential election. Everyone knows that. McCain was originally all for more immigration until he decided it wasn't a winning strategy with his party. But, at least McCain voted against the MLK holiday.
@DWB @dani-BBW @Browncow Maybe people wouldn't think these things if so many people weren't constantly calling Obama a Kenyan Muslim who wasn't eligible to run for president. Everything Obama does is because he hates white people, Americans, and the wealthy. He's trying to turn the U.S. into an Islamic, socialist state. Everything is Obama's fault. When your car breaks down, it's because Obama bailed out GM. When your tooth falls out, it's because of Obamacare.
@darkandlovely @DWB @Patricia Kayden I actually wanted to serve on a jury, but the only time I was called was when I was working for a law enforcement agency. They made us write down our employer, so I knew I wouldn't be picked.
@DWB @robjk I'm not sure Bush would be able to win a Republican primary these days. He's too moderate.
@robjk MSNBC is the liberal cable news station. CNN is more centrist with a slight slant to the left.
@DWB @Tammy_Ghalden @Savannah18121 By the way, socialism is not about the control of the economy by the government. Government-run socialism is just a type of socialism. As I said before, socialism has existed under anarchic societies. Socialism is about collectivism without or without a government.
@DWB @Tammy_Ghalden @Savannah18121 Corporatism also has some elements of capitalism, so what is your point?
@DWB @Tammy_Ghalden @Savannah18121 No, you are ignoring history. You can just as easily have socialism without fascism or communism. There has been socialism under democratic societies (modern day Europe) and even anarchy (parts of Spain during their civil war). When you can easily have a type of economy under any form of government, then the main goal of fascism could not have possibly been socialism. Italy was already seeing the rise of socialism before Mussolini broke away and came into power. If socialism were his main goal, he would not have dissented and created his own ideology of ultra-nationalism.
By the way, that article you posted just disproved your point. Corporatism is not socialism. The author clearly says that corporatism has been thought of as a mix of capitalism and socialism, but is its own distinct political economic system. As a matter of fact, the author goes on to say that free market and socialist economies are virtually non-existent. He's basically saying that all of the economies are corporatist to varying degrees.
@DWB @Tammy_Ghalden @Savannah18121 Here is a quote from Mussolini.
"When dealing with such a race as Slavic - inferior and barbarian - we must not pursue the carrot, but the stick policy. We should not be afraid of new victims. The Italian border should run across the Brenner Pass, Monte Nevoso and the Dinaric Alps. I would say we can easily sacrifice 500,000 barbaric Slavs for 50,000 Italians."
@DWB @Tammy_Ghalden @Savannah18121 I disagree. Fascism is foremost a type of government, not a type of economy. The thing that fascist governments had in common was hate for communism and its brand of socialism. Fascists did not believe in equaling the classes by redistributing wealth.
@Lili2009 The open carry movement has done more harm than good to gun rights. All they've accomplished so far is increase the number of stores that completely ban guns on their premises. Before, these stores allowed people to conceal carry; now, people can't carry in them at all.
I certainly do believe in protecting yourself and your home when someone breaks in, but Renisha McBride was not trying to break into that man's home. Who opens the door to someone one thinks is a threat?
@DWB @Tammy_Ghalden @Savannah18121 Fascism is more about militarization and totalitarianism than a type of economy. Choosing socialism as an economy is just a flavor of fascism. Racism may not have been Mussolini's focus, but he was a radical nationalist. Socialism and communism were around before fascism, so other ideologies did not adopt an economic structure from them. Fascism borrowed socialism from previous socialist and communist parties.
Regardless, people have failed to prove that Obama is a socialist, communist, or fascist.
@DWB @Tammy_Ghalden @Savannah18121 While some fascist governments operated under a socialist economy making it not much different from communism, the thing that separated fascism from communism is that it is based on radical nationalism that naturally progressed to racism. Fascism is about national and/or racial superiority while communism focuses on class warfare. I don't see anything about Obama that would point to radical nationalism. Again, this is Americans misunderstanding what these terms really mean.
@FriendsofJay The death penalty hasn't worked very well as a deterrent, but I think this issue is different. What works as a deterrent is perceived punishment. It's the punishment people think they will receive; it is often different from the punishment people do receive. The problem for the past few years is that people think they can get away with murder by claiming that they were "standing their ground" or protecting their home or property. When people see others get away with using this excuse, they think they can too. This one man in Texas got away with murdering an escort because she didn't provide the sexual services he paid for. Because Texas law says you can shoot someone for stealing your property at night, he was found not guilty.
On the other hand, you have a case in Texas where a man went outside to argue with his neighbors over a loud party. He was the one who initiated the dispute, but started yelling, "I'm in fear for my life," while he was recording and started shooting people at the party. Luckily, he was convicted; but, this man had it in his mind that as long as he claimed that he was in fear for his life that he could get away with murder. What is even scarier is that police officers are doing it. In NJ, a police officer repeatedly yelled, " Stop resisting, stop trying to take my gun!." What he didn't remember is that the patrol car in front of him was recording what was going on, not just the patrol car behind them. When prosecutors found out there was more dashcam video, they saw that the man was neither resisting nor trying to grab at the officer's gun. The officer was just yelling these things to justify assaulting the man, which he did.
The man who shot Jordan Davis thought he could get away with murder by lying about seeing a gun. This case below probably involved someone who is mentally ill, but this man thought it was okay to shoot the black teen who lived next door because he believed he was the one who burglarized his home. All the kid was doing at the time was taking out the trash.
@Savannah18121 The number of hate groups has grown since Obama was elected. We've also seen growth in anti-government, right wing militias. They say the problem is not Obama's race, but it really is for many. He is far from being a socialist. Anyone who calls him a socialist doesn't understand what socialism is. He's mostly doing things past presidents have done or attempted to do. This country has long had elements of socialism; it's nothing new. Social Security and Medicare are some of the biggest socialist programs we have; "Obamacare" doesn't even compare. The Affordable Care Act mostly utilizes private sector insurance companies. It included only a small expansion of a socialist program we already have: Medicaid. The only thing really socialist about the ACA is the subsidy system for purchasing insurance on the free market.
@nyaw Black women accounted for 30% of the abortions in 2011. There were 1.06 million abortions that year, so we accounted for 318,000 of those. This is disproportionate to our population.
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@jillodelight @Swirlgirl28 Some people blame the New Deal for making black families dependent upon government assistance. Others blame feminism, but I see this as putting all of the blame on black women for "running black men off because they think they can do it on their own." This does not hold black men accountable for their part in not using contraceptives and impregnating women to which they aren't married.
@jillodelight @Tammy_Ghalden @Swirlgirl28 That is called cohabitating, but it's still an issue because cohabitating couples are less likely to stay together. 67% of black children are in single-parent homes, so most black children are not living with their fathers.
@Law Wanxi Interesting report. Black women were the least likely to be using a form a contraception with 54% currently using a form of contraception when asked. They were more likely than everyone else except for foreign-born Hispanics to use female sterilization, but this is usually done after you have children.
The study shows that 72% of the births to black women were to unmarried black women in 2008. These are the births that occurred in 2008, so it is unlikely that a small group of people are responsible for most of the births. It is rare for women to give birth more than once in a year. They also found that 67% of the births to black women were unintended.
Politifact checked Don Lemon on his use of the 72% figure and found it to be true using 2010 figures. They also found that 67% of black children are in single-parent homes. That is much higher than the other groups.
@harem Condoms are 98% effective if used properly. Since some people don't use them properly, their overall effectiveness at preventing pregnancy is about 85%. Oral birth control pills are 99% effective if taken correctly. I've seen some sources say that they are 99.99% effective. Other forms of birth control have effectiveness rates in the mid to high 90s. I highly doubt that the reason why the majority of black kids are being born out of wedlock is because the same small group of people are having condom/BC failures over and over again. If that were the case, you would have to explain why other ethnic groups aren't having as many condom and birth control failures. It could possibly be that the same small group of people are responsible for the bulk of the OOW births, but I do not think that these people are having multiple condom/BC failures. They would have to be some really special people.
I also don't think it matters if the children were planned or unplanned. Many people choose to have a baby with their significant other, but those who are cohabitating have a higher chance of breaking up than those who are married. It's still a poor choice.
@Swirlgirl28 But, then you will get into an argument about marriage just being a "piece of paper." For a group of people that is so religious, we should know that marriage is more than just a piece of paper. If marriage is just a piece of paper from a secular standpoint, then why are some people so afraid of it? It's because they know it requires more commitment than cohabitating. It's not as easy to run off when you're married. What they are not focusing on is that marriage also comes with legal protections and tax advantages. In my opinion, having a child with someone is a bigger life choice than getting married. You're either going to be stuck with that child for at least 18 years, or someone is going to be chasing you down for child support for 18 years.
I've seen black men try to rationalize not getting married all while having children with women. The most common explanation is that there is no advantage for the man. Forget about it being cheaper and healthier for the child to be raised by two parents in the home; their main concern is having their little bit of money taken by "gold diggers." One man said that you will always love your children, but women come and go. That is the reason why he has no problem with committing to having a child, but won't get married. They have yet to learn how battles over custody and visitation rights can get. The honest truth is that they are only interested in being part-time fathers. You can call your child on the phone everyday, pick him or her up on the weekends, and have him or her live with you over the summer, but you're still a part-time father.
Having multiple abortions is not a solution. Not only do African Americans have way more abortions than any other group in the U.S. in proportion to our population size, but you can't abort HIV and other STDs. HIV is another problem plaguing our community.
Since I encounter a lot more Hispanics than black people in my day to day life, I tried to understand through them why so many people have children out of wedlock and continue to have children when they're on public assistance. My city has a high teen pregnancy rate. I have had several students who have had two children before reaching 21 all while receiving public assistance. I have older students who have multiple children and are on public assistance. This is what I've gathered from talking to them:
1. They don't like to use condoms because it doesn't feel as good. They also don't want the responsibility of taking birth control as stated above.
2. It's normal for people in their neighborhoods to have multiple children while young and poor, so they think nothing of it. Actually, if you're in your early 20s and don't have children, people will think there is something wrong with you.
3. They just don't think. They are constantly making poor life choices. Even the for-profit college they chose to go to was a bad choice, and I can't wait to leave. This college preys on the ill-informed. Most of the students chose this school simply because they saw it on a commercial while watching Maury or some trashy court show. They can play on Facebook all day, but they can't be bothered with researching college tuition rates.
I spent several years going to school with other poor blacks and Hispanics. While my mother put pressure on us to reach our potential because she knew we were "A" students, I don't think most of my peers received this kind of parenting. My black and Hispanic peers would deride those who studied and made good grades while talking with pride about failing and low test scores. It's kind of like how you hear people in high-crime neighborhoods brag about going to jail. It's a badge of honor to them. When I transferred to a predominantly white, middle-class school, the differences were stark. Most of the cool kids in the school were in honors courses and later took pre-AP and AP courses in high school. It was a culture shock.
I think the solution to most of our problems is gaining respect for education. Studies have shown that more years in and regular attendance of school can boost your IQ. This anti-intellectualism needs to stop. People aren't thinking because they don't know how to think. They just do what feels good at the moment and don't plan ahead. They don't think about the consequences of their actions and how life could be so much easier in the future if they just put some effort into staying in school, getting a job, and avoiding children they can't afford.
@HaroldBozarth When he said the interviewer was kind of light-skinned, I almost fell on the floor.
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What? This man knows that he bases his ideas of attractiveness on what other people think and thinks nothing of it? If his current girlfriend is darker than the interviewer, then she is really dark-skinned! I am lighter than the interviewer and consider myself to be dark-skinned. This man makes no sense.
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I agree with you, Christelyn. While I have seen cops brutalize people of all races, I think blacks and Hispanics are particularly vulnerable being that cops tend to target those in poor neighborhoods. This is not just a black male issue. If a cop is racist or power hungry, he or she will not hesitate to harass or assault a female. That was my argument with the unconstitutional stop and frisk policy NYPD had.
NYPD has been in the news a lot in the past few weeks. First, it was Eric Garner. Second, they were filmed putting another man in a chokehold. The man was resisting, but the chokehold is banned by NYPD. Third, after a man who was resisting was under control, a cop stomped on his head. Now, there is this, and they went to the wrong house! The NYPD needs to be put under DOJ oversight like Albuquerque PD.
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@Sybelis @Tammy_Ghalden @caligirl94117 I'm working on a Phd, so I think I'm good. People have options to complete degrees locally or attend online. That's what I did. However, I see that you're attributing selfish motives to innocent children. I'm not talking about taking care of adults; I'm talking about providing for siblings who are children.
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@caligirl94117 @Tammy_Ghalden I think you're thinking of an entirely different situation. Helping siblings who are living in poverty has nothing to do with relatives trying to drag you back to the hood. It's about making sure your siblings have food, shelter, and clothing. I believe that if someone is capable of letting his or her siblings go without the necessities, then that person is cold-hearted enough to abandon his or her own children.
@caligirl94117 @Tammy_Ghalden I'm proud to say that, because I stepped in, my sibling is not in the hood and has a college degree. Unfortunately, people aren't always born with the best parents and it's not their faults, but the last thing I would do is turn away as sibling(s) suffer. I get what you're saying about mama's boys, but I see nothing wrong with making sure your siblings are provided for. If I found out a man I was dating had siblings living in poor conditions when he could do something about it, I would dump him in absolute disgust.
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@Sybelis @Tammy_Ghalden @caligirl94117 I couldn't see my sibling be left out on the streets or in foster care. If I were in that position, I would want an older sibling to do the same for me.
I know I live in a majority Hispanic city, but we do have a few hundred thousand white people living here. I've actually had an easier time finding Hispanic men who are genuinely attracted to and comfortable with dating black women. Latinos often have colorism issues, but there are many Hispanics in Texas who are proud of being brown. Ironically, some of the Hispanic men I've come across who didn't identify as white and acknowledged their mixed heritage preferred women with darker skin and were distrustful of white people. A few even told me they felt they could relate better to black people than white people because of the environments they grew up in and the discrimination they faced. All of my dates and relationships with white men, so far, have been awkward.
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@caligirl94117 His not answering you about race is a problem, but I would also turn down Princeton to provide for siblings. I made a lot of sacrifices to provide for my sibling and would do it again. That shows someone's commitment to family in general whether it's with parents and siblings or their own spouse and children.
@Browncow @SacLove76 Wow! That's another lesson for everyone. Don't get strung along for years by a man who is uncomfortable with your girly parts. He just might be gay. Not only do you have to vet the quality of the man, but you also have to vet his sexual orientation. There are almost always signs.
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Menudo was before my time, but I'm liking Carlos Javier Rivera Masso. I was first a fan of New Kids on the Block (in love with Jordan Knight) and then B2K. I also had a crush on Joey Fatone from N'SYNC.
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@DWB @Tammy_Ghalden @Lili2009 @LovelyLulu Police departments lower standards when they aren't meeting their recruiting goals. If police departments are going to raise standards, they will also have to raise pay and other incentives in order to attract more qualified applicants. I would bet money that if police departments raised the minimum scores for their written exams, they would indirectly hire more college graduates. Actually, they wouldn't even have to raise the minimum score since most police departments start selecting the highest scorers first. Just by attracting more applicants with college degrees, they will end up selecting more people with college degrees.
I will give a real life example of a police department I applied for, but I had to drop out of the hiring process due to my PhD program. They had two groups of applicants to choose from. One group was already licensed and didn't need a degree. The second group would need academy training and needed a bachelor's degree. When some agencies do this, they give preference to those who are already licensed because it'll be cheaper to train them. However, this department was different. They only selected the top scorers regardless of their licensure status. All of their highest performers on the exam and behavioral interview were the unlicensed applicants with degrees. That tells you something.
Also, it is common for police departments to try to recruit more college graduates by giving bonus points on the exams for having a degree and offering educational incentive pay. So, they are definitely not trying to turn away educated or highly intelligent people. Even with these efforts, unfortunately, most police officers do not have a 4-year degree. The main reason why police departments are not requiring degrees is because they are already having a hard enough time recruiting minorities. However, I think they are approaching this problem from the wrong end. Even if they just raise the minimum cutoff score, they will have less eligible minorities due to many of them graduating high school with poor reading and writing skills. These problems need to be addressed in the educational system, not with police officer recruiting.
This article is a good summary of studies on use of force and college education.
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@DWB @Tammy_Ghalden @Lili2009 @LovelyLulu Smart doesn't always mean educated. One problem is that many cops are uneducated in basic psychology, sociology, ethics, and cultural differences. The required continuing education courses do not help much. I worked for one police department where the officers openly cheated on their required continuing education courses in cultural diversity and ethics. I don't think an officer specifically needs an education in a behavioral science, even though it will help, but a college education in general helps to develop analytical skills.
There was one police department that would not hire an applicant for scoring too high on the entrance exam, but this is not the norm. This is actually exceptionally rare. The overwhelming majority of competitive police departments start interviewing the highest scorers and work their way down the list. The less competitive police departments will hire anyone who can pass the series of exams and interviews and don't eliminate high-IQ applicants.
@Maxine @QueenAnne According to the article linked below, he was questioned on suspicion of selling untaxed cigarettes after breaking up a fight. Instead of going after the men who were fighting, they decided to stop him over the possibility he had been committing a petty crime. One of the people filming even said he was breaking up a fight.
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@Lili2009 @Tammy_Ghalden @LovelyLulu Educational standards need to be raised. Over 90% of police departments don't require a college degree (this includes associates degrees). Only 1% require a bachelors degree. Police departments that have started to require a bachelors degree have seen a decrease in complaints and use of force.
@Maxine @Tammy_Ghalden @robjk I think I read that the officer who put him in a choke-hold was disciplined twice before for using excessive force.
@LovelyLulu The Albuquerque Police Department is being overseen by the DOJ after numerous questionable killings over the past few years. The one that finally sent down the DOJ was the killing of a mentally ill, non-black man.
@robjk I'm more disturbed by what happened after the take-down. They could have either removed his handcuffs and placed him on his back or sat him up against the wall to make breathing easier. The EMT who was in the video didn't seem the least bit concerned about his state.
The EMTs were put on modified duty. I'm only trained in basic life support and first aid, but I also thought their actions were questionable.
I don't understand. These officers are not trained in first aid, CPR, and AED?
@crzyfudg If Jason ever leaves Lisa Bonet, he's mine. Sorry.
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