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4 days, 4 hours ago on The Psychology of Red Lips that Make the Guys Go “Meow”

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@Browncow 

YES! Stealth is the name of the game. Stealth.

4 days, 4 hours ago on Television is STILL Not Ready to Make Black Women ‘The Main Chick’

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@zipporah @SacLove76 

The show's main source of advertising revenue is WW. So I guess the writer had to find a way of showcasing bw/wm romance without threatening her main source of revenue

4 days, 5 hours ago on Television is STILL Not Ready to Make Black Women ‘The Main Chick’

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It sounds like she is not sure what she wants.

3 weeks, 3 days ago on QOTW: Are You the Backup Booty?

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Taking charge of the image of black women is a matter of life and death. Remember Renisha McBride? She was killed because the person she sought help from did not see her as a woman in distress. He saw her as an aggressor; a threat. A lighter,blonde woman probably would not have gotten a bullet to her face. Remember also that just as many black women are shot by police as black men. 


The image of a woman as innocent and feminine ensures her survival. It is ensures that she and her children will be provided for and protected. Is it any wonder that black women are the least protected in the world? When we are viewed as unfeminine and less innocent?

3 weeks, 3 days ago on Black Female Aggressiveness at Epic Levels. Why?

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@Letta @oromariposa06 

I think you give whites too much power. If AA blacks were to reject the one drop rule, whites would follow suit, even if they would do it reluctantly. It would force them to examine themselves in a way nothing else can. 

It simply is not logical that a girl like Nahla who looks white, is MORE than 75% white, can only identify as black or mixed but never white. It only makes sense to people who BELIEVE in white supremacy.


3 weeks, 3 days ago on Is Gabriel Aubrey Trying to ‘White Wash’ Nahla?

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@onmywayup @Cami2210 @chocolate_fashionista @oromariposa06 

I agree. As an African, I don't see AAs as culturally white. I see them as having a Western culture. That is only natural after spending 400 years in the Western world lol.

To me if you have only one black grandparent you are definitely not black. But I'm not American so I guess that is something Americans get to decide among themselves.

Secondly if you can pass for white then you are definitely white. To me that is. Americans may see it differently. It may not be how I see it but I do acknowledge that America is different from the rest of the world.


3 weeks, 3 days ago on Is Gabriel Aubrey Trying to ‘White Wash’ Nahla?

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This is ridiculous. The child is more than 75% white. I am still amazed that having one black grandparent makes you black but hey, I'm not American. She is gonna look like a white girl. Deal with it.

3 weeks, 4 days ago on Is Gabriel Aubrey Trying to ‘White Wash’ Nahla?

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@darkandlovely @Cami2210 

You should totally have started crying. I mean it. They may not respond to a bw's tears with the same sympathy they would have given a blonde ww, but at least they can't make you the aggressor when all you were doing was just EXISTING! Such people are dumb. Just dumb.

3 weeks, 5 days ago on Black Female Aggressiveness at Epic Levels. Why?

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People don't want to sympathize with or protect a woman who is angry. BW have to be smart. WW will try to goad you in passive aggressive ways to get you to be the ABW so that you confirm the stereotypes. 


The reason these videos are coming up viral all over the place is to make people see BW as less feminine, less human, less w orthy of protection.

1 month ago on Black Female Aggressiveness at Epic Levels. Why?

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Don't bother getting into the game until you are fully convinced that you are worthy of love. That is how women fall into the hands of DBRs. I suggest saying it to yourself 10 times every morning that you are beautiful and worthy. Go on until it finally sinks in.


Be careful about what you watch on TV or listen to or the people you spend time with. Don't spend time listening to ANYONE who makes you feel bad about yourself. It does not matter who that person.


1 month ago on QOTW: “How Do I Stop Believing I’m Undesirable?”

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@jazzyfae45 @Lady A 

ENTITLEMENT and PRIVILEGE. You can marry a wm but that does NOT make you a ww. You wouldn't dream of interjecting yourself into ww's conversations. Somehow non bw married to bm think they have a pass to try and derail our conversations.

2 months ago on Beyond Black & White Fan Page is Under Attack Again. Time to Go to War.

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@PoetOfDarkness 

I don't think they do it to be charming. They do it to assert dominance.

2 months ago on He Said, She Said…A Discussion About Street Harassment with Dual Perspectives

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@321ZYX  I'm a pretty cheerful person but I don't walk around smiling on the street for this very reason. Whenever I come out smiling inevitably some bm wants to assert some sense of dominance over me either by flirting or forcing some interaction. Personally I think it has nothing to do with attraction. It is just plain old bullying.

2 months ago on He Said, She Said…A Discussion About Street Harassment with Dual Perspectives

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Waiting until marriage to have children doesn't help if you marry a dbr. I've seen women who got married BEFORE having children and still got left holding the bag. If a man is determined to escape his responsibilities, the fact that those children were conceived in marriage won't make any difference.


Some men take sadistic pleasure out of seeing their exes suffer and beg, beg, beg for child support. Learn how to vet - I think Evia has books you can buy on vetting - so that you make sure you marry a normal, sane man.

2 months, 3 weeks ago on Black Man Admits Hood Dudes Corrupt Black Women’s Wombs Through Sabotage, But Stops Short on “Swirling” Option

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@Lisa_Lisa @Sybellis @Easybreezietreecie 

 "eah, but the "marriage talk" is meaningless, if the guy has nothing to offer morally, spiritually, emotionally, financially, etc."

Actually that is the most annoying part. BM who have something to offer generally want to offer it to the lightest, brightest woman they can find. But when they have nothing to offer then they suddenly develop an interest in bw.


Don't fall for it!

2 months, 3 weeks ago on Black Man Admits Hood Dudes Corrupt Black Women’s Wombs Through Sabotage, But Stops Short on “Swirling” Option

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I find it hilarious that a man who has been playing the field for so long he now has some gray hair and several baby mamas in tow thinks he is entitled to a young childless woman.


Ladies, please head over to the step parenting websites and read, read, read. Unfortunately some dumb women fall for the whole brady bunch hoax and think that they somehow have the power to fix all the mess in a man's life. Chances of ending up divorced are much higher when you marry a man with baggage. 

Don't repeat the same mistake another woman made because you think your case is somehow 'different.'

2 months, 3 weeks ago on Black Man Admits Hood Dudes Corrupt Black Women’s Wombs Through Sabotage, But Stops Short on “Swirling” Option

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@WorldTravelingChic 

I've been planning to do that for a while now but haven't gotten round to doing it lol


2 months, 4 weeks ago on 5 Great Foods For Gorgeous Skin

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I love this!

2 months, 4 weeks ago on 5 Great Foods For Gorgeous Skin

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I have no idea why we have people here (of all places) insisting that these are compliments. Somehow ALL these stereotypical descriptions were crammed into that one article. If this is how she compliments black women, she should just stop writing about bw. Seriously.

Angry

Intimidating

Fearsome

Haughty

Angry

Volcanic

Angry

Bossy

Sassy

Scolding

Terrorizes

Terrifies

Menacing

Less classically beautiful

Sassy

2 months, 4 weeks ago on Shonda Rhimes Hands NY Times WW Writer Her Hindquarters on Social Media

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@reem11 @Joyce345 @Brenda55 

Exactly! This also shows how whites can use colorism to their advantage. By ensuring that only bw who resemble ww closest represent 'black beauty' they can maintain an appearance of being racially inclusive while still excluding the vast majority of bw.

3 months ago on Shonda Rhimes Hands NY Times WW Writer Her Hindquarters on Social Media

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@Brenda55 

I picked up on the colorism too! I think the reason WW feel more comfortable with women who look like Halle Berry as the representation of black beauty is that they are less threatening to WW since they bear a much closer resemblance to WW.

Darker women like Viola Davis are rarely allowed to represent sexy, desirable women because that would be more threatening to the status quo.

 

3 months ago on Shonda Rhimes Hands NY Times WW Writer Her Hindquarters on Social Media

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Is it bad that I wanna have a baby girl just so I can braid her hair? I only have boys

3 months ago on TBT: Brown Girls Rocking Beads on Braids

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Oh I want to see the new show.
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3 months ago on Shonda Rhimes Hands NY Times WW Writer Her Hindquarters on Social Media

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This whole debacle was really pathetic. Why are people blaming her? Why did the police respond by charging them BOTH with assault? It does not matter that she hit him first. 


I have never been violent but if I am 100% sure that if I tried to beat my husband he would be able to restrain me without a single blow. And he is not even a football player.

3 months ago on Black Militants Call ESPN Journalist, Jemele Hill “Race Traitor”; “Bed Wench” for Calling Out Ray Rice Disparity

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@oceanspray @Joyce345 @zipporah @Vivaforever 

There is NO comparison. None at ALL. Christians in the US had black slaves 100 years ago. Arab muslims still have slaves TODAY. TODAY. There is no comparison at all.

3 months ago on Blatant Rejection of “Traditional” Looking Black Women. See for Yourself Why Expanding Your Options is Necessary.

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Oh dear oh dear! This is so dumb I just can't. Arguing with a cop and refusing to show your ID AFTER you were seen having sex in a car???? Seriously dumb.


Oh and if a guy says he is in an 'open' relationship, that is code for he is still on the market.

3 months ago on Update on Danielle Watts: BB&W Exclusive Interview with Boyfriend, Brian

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@oceanspray @Joyce345 @zipporah @Vivaforever 

I do know that more than half of Dalits are Christians http://www.bbc.co.uk/worldservice/people/highlights/010905_racism.shtml. Unfortunately some Indians will carry over the caste system into the church, causing problems. But by far Christianity still offers more equality.

 As for the Arab world, I haven't read any academic papers but my Sudanese friends were taught in the mosque that blacks were meant to serve others as slaves. That was actually taught in madrasa.

3 months ago on Blatant Rejection of “Traditional” Looking Black Women. See for Yourself Why Expanding Your Options is Necessary.

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@Kels @darkandlovely @jillodelight @Christelyn  @deleted_53153066_Yorkshireman in Michigan 

OMG. That is abusive. I hate that he said those things to young girls. Hopefully that served as a wake up call to the girls not to waste their time with bm.

I am a Sunday School teacher and I always make a point of telling the darkest girls that they are pretty. I can always tell from their reaction that they don't hear it from anyone else :(

3 months ago on The Unfair ‘Options’ Media Message: What Do These Two Magazine Covers Tell You?

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@zipporah @Vivaforever 

Actually hatred for darker skinned people among Indians and Arabs has been the greatest catalyst to Christianity. Go to the Arab world and blacks there are usually desperate to convert to Christianity because of the brutality of Arab racism. Too bad they often can't because of the threat of getting killed. Actually many of them do risk their lives to become Christians because then they can feel more human.


In India the darker skinned people will convert to Christianity to get away from the brutality of the Indian caste system.

3 months ago on Blatant Rejection of “Traditional” Looking Black Women. See for Yourself Why Expanding Your Options is Necessary.

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@CecelieKeys I don't watch any movie where there is a bm dressed as a bw. THEY DO IT TO MAKE US LOOK BAD. That is the ONLY reason they do it.

3 months ago on Blatant Rejection of “Traditional” Looking Black Women. See for Yourself Why Expanding Your Options is Necessary.

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This is terrible but typical!!! No, I am not going to let some dbr make me play second fiddle to other women because of my skin tone. Hell no.

3 months ago on Blatant Rejection of “Traditional” Looking Black Women. See for Yourself Why Expanding Your Options is Necessary.

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The so called good bm are usually not in a hurry to settle down because they have too many options. Plus when they do settle down, it probably won't be with a bw. Therefore aaw should not pay attention to the so called 'good' bm.



3 months ago on Utter Hypocrisy: Let’s Talk About All the Dudes Hating On Eve’s Marriage

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Yes! The truth is that most bm's idea of the ideal black woman is someone who is 1/80 black hahaha! In other words as close to a white woman as possible.


I have nothing against mixed chicks but I don't believe I was created to play second fiddle to anyone. Therefore I don't pay attention to any colorstruck man. Sadly most bm are. I wish more bw would realize they don't have to be second, third, or fourth best.

3 months ago on The Unfair ‘Options’ Media Message: What Do These Two Magazine Covers Tell You?

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@Neecy It is her who is getting embarrassed IMO. Not him. He was the one holding the camera taking pictures of her.

3 months ago on Update on Danielle Watts: BB&W Exclusive Interview with Boyfriend, Brian

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Cute! I hated that black disney princess movie where the princess was turned into a frog (*&^%^$^%^*&(!!! plus a whole lot of other bs.


I also liked the Cinderella movie with Brandy. It was really good.

3 months ago on First Photos of Keke Palmer Playing Cinderella on Broadway!

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I'm wondering if they were called in for lewd conduct why didn't the cops arrest both of them? But yeah, I agree that there are other cases of police brutality against bw that should have been on CNN. Not this.


Yes, they probably did show this just to make bw look bad. Again.

3 months ago on Update on Danielle Watts: BB&W Exclusive Interview with Boyfriend, Brian

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@DWB Oh I remember watching that. It was horrible. Not gonna watch it again.

3 months ago on Update on Danielle Watts: BB&W Exclusive Interview with Boyfriend, Brian

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@itsgoodtobeme @kiki jones 

Thank you! I'm glad a lot of AAs are realizing that while white racism is evil, it is not by any means the greatest evil out there. Some people are MORE racist than whites.

 

3 months ago on Celebrity Interracial Couple, Daniele Watts and Partner Detained by L.A. Police Who Mistook Her for Hoe and Her “John”

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May I add that although I am happy for her, I do hope that she will transition into other, more mainstream roles. i.e. not a slave or a maid lol!

10 months ago on The Media Message: Lupita Nyong’o Is Another Man’s Treasure

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@mzsunshine  I like the fuschia lipstick too!

10 months ago on We Want More!! Brown, Beautiful, and Killing It: Lupita Nyong’o

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I am very happy for Lupita. It is good to see a black woman with her complexion be celebrated like this. I love it.

10 months ago on The Media Message: Lupita Nyong’o Is Another Man’s Treasure

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