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I agree wholeheartedly with this article. Although I have been married for almost 11 years, I do what I can to take care of myself. I exercise, eat healthy, dress appropriately for my age and body type and when someone tells me I look 10+ years younger than I am, I take it as a compliment. I know I'm not perfect but I am perfect enough for the man who married me.

2 days, 13 hours ago on Are You Brave Enough to ‘Cut Bait’ In Order to Make Room for the Right Man?

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If anyone is making the black community weak, it's black men. Look at the humongous role you play in it's demise. Oh wait, you can't because everyone else is to blame.

1 week ago on BB&W Family, I Need Your Help. This Man is Attacking My Family

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Defamation of character.

1 week, 1 day ago on BB&W Family, I Need Your Help. This Man is Attacking My Family

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Flagged and reported.

1 week, 1 day ago on BB&W Family, I Need Your Help. This Man is Attacking My Family

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Very cute post.

1 week, 4 days ago on Azealia Banks’ New Boo is HAAAWWWRRRRTTT!!!

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Same here.

1 week, 5 days ago on Open Thread: Latin men 24/7

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Sweet Jesus!

2 weeks ago on Open Thread: Latin men 24/7

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I have so many perfumes but I feel the most like a mature lady when I wear No 5 Chanel eau de parfum.

2 weeks, 3 days ago on Why Every Woman Should Have Her Own Signature Fragrance

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If I read this book, it would be for comedic effect. Seriously, in this day and age, "it" is not as powerful as it used to be with thots and groupies floating around. My honest take, conduct yourself like a lady and don't sleep around.

3 weeks ago on Author Tells Women to Use Their “P*ssy Power” to Get the Men They Want

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Many of us have overcome those stereotypes however there is a certain segment of society hell bent on keeping those negative stereotypes alive and if they aren't unsuccessful, they negativity criticize our features.

3 weeks, 4 days ago on Letter Writer Explains Non-Black Male Hesitancy in Approaching Black Women

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My thought is that she does not owe anyone an explanation. I kind of feel like the male asked an ignorant question and she gave him an answer. There is nothing wrong with doing what, and being with whomever, makes you happy.  

4 weeks ago on Wait…WHET?! Azealia Banks Dates White Guys? Is She Not Allowed to Complain of Black Men Now?

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Exactly. I used one after I had a child but it was to help with my stomach going down back to its normal size, not to change my waist. What also factored into my "SnapBack" was diet, exercising and breast feeding.

1 month, 1 week ago on Corsets and Waist Training…So It’s Really a Thing?

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I honestly don't believe that a corset will give you a shape your body is not designed to have. If an hourglass figure is not in your genes, a corset will not help. What might help are surgical enhancement/injections (ie Brest implants and butt injections) to give the appearance of an hourglass shape. Also that picture in the link above of the woman with the distorted abs: don't know for sure but she may have had a child/children which often causes the linea alba to stretch like that. Doubt it was the result of a corset.

1 month, 1 week ago on Corsets and Waist Training…So It’s Really a Thing?

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And oftentimes these BM treat the WW the same way they treat BW. The cycle just repeats.

1 month, 2 weeks ago on On Vetting: Beware of “I Can’t Find a Black Woman!” Men. They’re Full of It.

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Chris, I think your idea to switch it up as far as men being the pursuer and the woman being pursued is a great idea. Quality BW need to know that they are desired by decent, high caliber men. What better way to do it than to make the woman the center of attention.

1 month, 2 weeks ago on On Vetting: Beware of “I Can’t Find a Black Woman!” Men. They’re Full of It.

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I'm my opinion, the word "sexy" should be reserved for partners and spouses. Not random nobody's on the street.

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Carrie: “Is ‘Sexy’ A Compliment?” 

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Because they are ABM.

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Video: Sick of the Double Standards When Black Women Swirl!!!

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Lol! I'm about to pick up a Zora Neale Hurston book.

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Video: Sick of the Double Standards When Black Women Swirl!!!

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Oh my goodness! I'm pissed that this guy had the nerve and am jumping for joy that his tongue was ripped from his mouth.

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Video: Sick of the Double Standards When Black Women Swirl!!!

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Seeing the beauty in ourselves is the key. I totally agree with that.

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Time to Dispel “Black Women at the Bottom of the Barrel” Nonsense!

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It always amazes me how people who think they know so much know absolutely nothing. Lol. Brick walls can't be talked to or through.

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Time to Dispel “Black Women at the Bottom of the Barrel” Nonsense!

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The thing is, why would we even believe that bottom of the barrel nonsense? It's a statement meant to make bw feel bad about themselves and a statement used to keep men from approaching and to keep bw thinking that no matter what positive things they do, they will be the last chosen. I don't care how many times someone may say it, I would NEVER believe that load of bull and it is saddening that bw would even let it come out of their mouths, or stick in their brain. As a general statement, if you think you are at the bottom then you are. Meanwhile for me, I'm climbing life's mountain. It isn't always easy but when I get to the top, I'll be able to look at all I've accomplished.

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Time to Dispel “Black Women at the Bottom of the Barrel” Nonsense!

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Thank you. If you think that way, then you are.

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Issa Rae, Jacque Reid and Others Talk Interracial Relationships on “Nightly Show”

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Yay! I'm going out to buy!

1 month, 4 weeks ago on Mark Jacobs Knows Pink…with “Kiss Kiss Bang Bang!”

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He looks like trash and he prefers such.

1 month, 4 weeks ago on Kid Rock (Crudely) Highlights How Preferences Can Change Over Time

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Kid Rock? Whatever. What Kid Rock thinks is what he thinks. Beyonce has more money and fame than he does and chances are even if she were single, he wouldn't enter her mind for a dating choice. Moving on.

1 month, 4 weeks ago on Kid Rock (Crudely) Highlights How Preferences Can Change Over Time

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That lipstick looks gorgeous on you. Did you have to use a lip liner? I'm not a fan of applying lip liner so I tend to avoid shades of lipstick where I have to do so. BTW, I have the exact same Stila eyeshadow palette and night sky is one of my favorites when I want to wear blue eyeshadow at work and not look like I'm going to the club.

2 months ago on Mark Jacobs Knows Pink…with “Kiss Kiss Bang Bang!”

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I love the way bold colors compliment our skin, from eyeshadows to lipsticks to clothes.

2 months ago on Zara: Eight Reasons Why We Love Black Women

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Serena is looking DELICIOUS on that ESPN cover and the young lady in the picture below that one is absolutely STUNNING. Good article Toni but you know a lot of the times, talking to these men is like talking to a brick wall. You'd think they'd get the hint already.

2 months ago on Dear Black Men, Did I Hurt Your Feelings? You Don’t KNOW Hurt Feelings…

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Went to the gym this morning and burned 550 calories WALKING on a treadmill (speed 4, incline 7). Keep this up and I'll be bikini ready in no time.

2 months ago on Four Ways to Be Your Best You

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I've been taking steps to get into better shape by exercising more. Eating healthy isn't always possible but I try.

2 months ago on Four Ways to Be Your Best You

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Kanye West is a total joke. Anything he says fall on deaf ears with me. For all I know, He and Kim may be miserable behind closed doors.

2 months ago on Kanye’s Comments About Amber Rose Highlights How White Women Are “Always” Virtuous No Matter How Skeezy Their Past.

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My husband prefers when my fro is out and about, not in twists, which I wear for work related purposes. I prefer a free fro as well.

2 months, 1 week ago on Black Woman Writes Apology Missive for Preferring White Men; Seeks Understanding and Forgiveness.

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Being that the writer is damaged, has low self-confidence and has issues with low self-esteem, she would use a negative word such as "mediocre" instead of "average" to describe anything.

2 months, 1 week ago on Black Woman Writes Apology Missive for Preferring White Men; Seeks Understanding and Forgiveness.

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You know what? If she wants to apologize, let her. I'm NOT apologizing, so moving on in life...

2 months, 1 week ago on Black Woman Writes Apology Missive for Preferring White Men; Seeks Understanding and Forgiveness.

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The mockers were bullies. Plain and simple. I would say that an apology isn't required however it isn't a bad gesture either. Case in point: my first two years of college I had a huge crush on a baseball player at my school. He was a very nice guy but he kept using the excuse of being too busy with school to hang out with me or he kept saying he would but then wouldn't. One day I was having breakfast by myself in the cafeteria in the same area he and his team were eating. When I got up to leave his teammates were making fun of me asking him out and they were laughing. I felt humiliated. He didn't say anything. After that I thought his teammates were buttholes but I thought he was an even BIGGER one for not being honest with me. He said hello to me a couple of days later but I already had the "whatever" mentality about him. I would have had more respect for him had he at least apologized for allowing his teammates to humiliate me and for not being honest. Don't get me wrong, I remember how cute, smart and talented he was. I also remember him being passive, which, to me, overshadowed everything else.

2 months, 1 week ago on Zara: Asian Men, Black Women…So Undesirable, We Don’t Even Want Each Other

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Where was "Jon" when I was in high school? Lol. During my high school years, Asian guys were included as guys I was googly eyes over. I wasn't shy about letting them know either. I didn't give a crap about what other people thought because I was getting myself along in life. What I will say is that peer pressure in high school can be greater than the need to do your "own" thing. Zara, it's unfortunate that you and Jon didn't get the opportunity to hang out because of those immature nuckleheads. And at the same time, the older you get the wiser you become, at least for most people.

2 months, 1 week ago on Zara: Asian Men, Black Women…So Undesirable, We Don’t Even Want Each Other

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Lol. Cute video! They all made the right decision.

2 months, 1 week ago on Carrie: “Ulterior Motives: Are We Dating Interracially to Escape?”

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Or how about a simple I chose him because I love him? It's annoying how people try to complicate things that are so simple.

2 months, 2 weeks ago on Carrie: “Ulterior Motives: Are We Dating Interracially to Escape?”

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AMEN! If anything, I escaped "black patan" by going away to college.

2 months, 2 weeks ago on Carrie: “Ulterior Motives: Are We Dating Interracially to Escape?”

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Kanye's gonna get clocked by someone's Grammy in the future.

2 months, 2 weeks ago on Zac: “ I wish a muthaf#^%*a WOULD,” and Other Kanye West Observations

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DeltaRoots should return back to his Delta roots.

2 months, 2 weeks ago on Who Didn’t See This Coming? Threatening the Monopoly of Dating Black Women…

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I hope they enjoyed their date. It was a very nice gesture. Regardless of the people who disapprove of IR, specifically between wm and bw, there will always be more who do approve.

2 months, 2 weeks ago on Update on the ‘Meme’ Couple!

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I'd call him average but that voice of his makes him sexy.

2 months, 3 weeks ago on Why Women LOSE When They Select Mates Primarily on Looks

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Nah, I have 4b and it definitely isn't easier, at least for me.

2 months, 3 weeks ago on Zara: ‘Bad Hair’ Blues – Not All Natural Hair Coils Equally 

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Beautiful family! The kids are funny!

2 months, 3 weeks ago on Meet Erik and Tanya: Interracial Couple Living Abroad in Israel

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I find nothing insulting about what he wrote. As many times as I may think I would have liked to live in a certain era, I am aware of what my reality would have been like. No thanks. Anyways best luck to Stan in his search.

2 months, 3 weeks ago on Everybody Ain’t “The Lovings”: Why Are Older White Men Being Judged for “Suddenly” Pursuing Black Women?

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I knew my husband was a keeper when we were cleaning the pool as young camp counselors and he asked me what were my hobbies and what I liked to do in my spare time, something NO man I called myself dating ever asked.

2 months, 4 weeks ago on Anti-Swirling Black Women And You: Why Their Loudness Means Nothing To YOUR Happiness

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