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This is true. Lots of superficial connections that go no further than Facebook or whatever medium one is using.  I have had friendships with people who I thought I had a close connection with to see them disappear or close their accounts with no explanation and no further contact.  I have also found myself blocked or deleted for my views or because I disagree on any given number of subjects.  I too have had to block folks for a variety of reasons.  Again, online relations can be way superficial.  Having said that, I have met some pretty cool people online who I eventually met in person and have developed a wonderful and lasting friendship.  There are others because of distance with whom I also connected and formed a bond.  Vetting of all relationships is really important.

4 hours, 13 minutes ago on Online Friendships Ain’t Real, and Why You Should Only Have 150 Facebook Friends.

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Sorry Christelyn.  This got messy so quickly.  Literally within minutes.  Oh well.  It's over and you have said your peace, made your decisions and continue to do what you're doing.  Again sorry.

1 day, 4 hours ago on End of the Year; End of Petty Dramas.

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You may want to consider a match maker if you can afford one.  Do something creative and out of the box.  Do something outside your comfort zone and see who you meet.  A new hobby perhaps.  Lots you can do.  Online is just one way to meet people.

1 day, 4 hours ago on Leona’s Love Quest  OK, Cupid Tap Me Out: I’m Done with Online Dating

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@Christelyn  @lili2009 right as usual Chris.  He has to know that she does not represent bw and that he could be so happy with someone who doesn't have an agenda and just wants to give an receive love.  On another note, I wants dem lashes.  They look so cute. :)

6 days, 22 hours ago on QOTW: Should White Guys Date ‘Sister Soldiers?’

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@BrendaKay56 Exactly, I saw this right away.  Definite attack against Pres. Obama and Flotus.  I have a feeling that Rep. Fincher may be looking for a black Communications Director.  I could be wrong but looks like someone needs Olivia Pope with a quickness. lol

2 weeks, 2 days ago on Resignation of GOP Staffer Proves What Happens When Black Womanhood is Protected

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Good points Christelyn.

2 weeks, 3 days ago on On Selling the Dream of “Good Hair” to Naturalistas…

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We are in the age of social media which can be good. But when it's bad, it's BAD. She should have known better. What was she thinking? This is not a reflection on other Republicans as some are trying to turn this into. That woman is not a spokes person for me or any number of the nice Republicans or Republican black folks I know or Conservatives like me. She was out of line and is now paying the price.

2 weeks, 3 days ago on Resignation of GOP Staffer Proves What Happens When Black Womanhood is Protected

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@reem11 @kennaGransberg agreed, backhanded dig to the parents at play here. smh


2 weeks, 3 days ago on Resignation of GOP Staffer Proves What Happens When Black Womanhood is Protected

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Awesome.  Congrats to Jim and Annette!

2 weeks, 5 days ago on Winner of the “Happy Couple” Contest…Jim & Annette!

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@itsgoodtobeme You get the common sense award.  I agree wholeheartedly with you.

3 weeks, 2 days ago on Is Gabriel Aubrey Trying to ‘White Wash’ Nahla?

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He's going to tell all his friends that he got busy with the negrita who runs Beyond Black and White.  Yep, you gave him some bragging rights.  What a sinvergüenza!  The next one may really give him some not so fond memories.  Glad you had a good time other than that.

1 month ago on So…I Got Accosted In Cancun…

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@Leille They could afford it.  

1 month, 1 week ago on Justin and Krystal – 18th Century Class and Elegance

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@friendswmimi Who knows who you may meet?  Your future hubby may have more than enough to provide you with a lux wedding like this and even bigger should you want it.  And if not you can still get married on the shoestring (courthouse, JOP) and save up for the big ceremony later and be treated like the queen you are on a special day of vow renewal.  Lots of couples do that.  This couple just both happen to be architects and are therefore able to have a lux wedding.  Just keep your eyes open for when your future hubby enters your life.  Until then, Dream Big Girl!!!  And quit playin.  Non only could this be you, but it will be you.  I just want an invitation!!!!  :)

1 month, 1 week ago on Justin and Krystal – 18th Century Class and Elegance

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Didn't know you were a ballplayer Toni, because you hit this one out of the ball park dear.  Spot on!

1 month, 3 weeks ago on My Strong Is <em>Not</em> Your Strong, My Swirl Is <em>Not</em> Your Swirl: On White Women Entitlement Issues And Epic Cockblocking

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@caligirl94117 Hold up hold up.  I posted this on my Facebook page and a sister named Sheila proclaims that she knows Rose.  Sheila is a black American woman also married to a Serb and lives in Serbia.  So American sisters are also representing.  That was fab comment to see!

1 month, 3 weeks ago on From Uganda to Serbia, Rose Bugarčić’s Incredible Journey

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@dani-BBW I don't know why folks even bother to insult. 

1 month, 3 weeks ago on From Uganda to Serbia, Rose Bugarčić’s Incredible Journey

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@Maxine lol I try Maxine, I try. 

1 month, 3 weeks ago on From Uganda to Serbia, Rose Bugarčić’s Incredible Journey

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Good try troll.  Show me your blog where you are praising sisters and uplifting them instead of tearing down and criticizing and I may half way kind of believe you.  If you are real, even with all your black loving women bm friends, you are still few and far in between.   I smell some NOI at work but I could be wrong.

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Could What Ralph Richard Banks Said in His Book Be True Regarding How Swirling Might Help Black Women Marry Black Men?

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@PaoloP @tonyrog ahahahaaaa.  In my post about this I wrote "Fix My Life or Have Me Fixed"?

2 months ago on The Iyanla Vanzant Cluster Cuss: We BB&W MUST Keep Discussing the High OOW Rate

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That is why I decided to concentrate more on my Google Plus for Swirling and Marriage. I am horrified that Facebook can do this after all the hard work you put in building your fan base, sharing stories and pics and everything.  So shameful and heartbreaking.  But on the other hand, look at this outpouring of love and support you have.  Awesome!!!!!! 

2 months, 1 week ago on The Death of Beyond Black & White…

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@Brenda55 Thanks Lady B for mentioning the other two legged predators.  I fear them more than the police which is why my son can't go anywhere unsupervised.  Walking prey for evil.  I am so glad your brothers made it to be seniors.  Even with your close calls, praise God!

2 months, 1 week ago on Ferguson, MO Reminds Parents With Black Autistic Young Men of Their Worst Nightmare

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@Fae Quince With more and more pressure from Downs Syndrome and Autism advocacy groups the police have had to deal with this and public relations is important though they have a long long way to go.  I do see that many PD's will try to put something in place but sometimes circumstances won't account for any amount of training when rogues will be rogues.

2 months, 1 week ago on Ferguson, MO Reminds Parents With Black Autistic Young Men of Their Worst Nightmare

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@crich42 You may have to become proactive in your son's case.  I suggest making a call to the local PD in your area and arranging a meeting with the community relations to find out what they are doing.  Discuss your concerns for your son who will be with you so they can SEE him and be on notice.  They should be more than happy to tell/show you what they are doing to address your concerns and what groups they are working with if any.  If they are not, then you have a chance to foster some program or relations between the police and autism orgs in your area.  


I think Chicago actually has a program for the special needs community.  I think Fairfax County Virginia has something in place for elopers.  

2 months, 1 week ago on Ferguson, MO Reminds Parents With Black Autistic Young Men of Their Worst Nightmare

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You have got to be kidding me!  I never cease to be amazed.

2 months, 2 weeks ago on People Magazine Shows Racial Shade During Shonda Rhimes Big Network Television Night

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Miss Watts could have still told the story had she shown her ID. Most likely it would not have escalated. And she could have outed the officers and the harassment. This could happen to any of us anywhere at anytime.  I would just handover my license/id and protest later.  With social media, the word would get out about my treatment.  A camera phone running is even better and legal. 

3 months ago on Update on Danielle Watts: BB&W Exclusive Interview with Boyfriend, Brian

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Super congrats to you both!

3 months, 1 week ago on BB&W’s Very Own ‘EarthJeff’ is Getting Hitched!!

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@Didi2806 Go for it.  You never know until you go. :)   Please let me know how your are doing and we'll post your story too if you like.  Best to you.

3 months, 2 weeks ago on Paula Cooper Trajkovski Takes On Macedonia – And Wins!

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@Browncow how horrible.  Just unimaginable violence.  Do you know what happened to the older daughter who was married to the DBR?  Did she stand by him or mourn her mother?  Just unimaginable.

3 months, 2 weeks ago on DBRs Abound – A True Murder In The First

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@kiki100 I don't know much other than about 6 years passed between these two tragic events.  She was divorced and living her life.  Don't know why the son did this and don't know that I'll ever find out the truth.

3 months, 2 weeks ago on DBRs Abound – A True Murder In The First

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@Brenda55 A friend suggested DBR(recongnitions).  It does indeed have a different meaning to many depending upon personal tolerance level. Thank you!

3 months, 2 weeks ago on DBRs Abound – A True Murder In The First

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Great job ladies.  So pleased to be there with you in the beginning.  What an honor and what a blast it is talking with Michelle and Adrienne!

4 months, 1 week ago on Heard of “The Swirl World” Yet?

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@nikki1978 Yes Nikki, Their love comes right off the page. 

4 months, 1 week ago on Swirling and Marriage: 2014 Couple of the Year

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Wowzwers! Breukelen Bleu really broke it down.  If you don't understand or choose not to receive this glaring truth, then energy, time and this entire message is lost.

4 months, 2 weeks ago on New Documentary Decrying 72% Out-of-Wedlock Rate…Love the Content But…

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What else can be said about this well thought out, truthful and hard hitting, but eloquent post but "AMEN"?

5 months, 1 week ago on “Im a Negro Bed Wench,” and Other Things I Learned Since Marrying My Husband

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@The Working Home Keeper I don't get it either.  But Hallmark must be making a pretty good penny from that campaign.

5 months, 4 weeks ago on Company’s Photo Discrepancy Gives Subtle Message to Black Mothers Versus White Mothers

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I agree with lots of the sentiment here. Unfortunately we, black women are 73 + oow childbirth in this country. Who can we blame for these kinds of ads? I am outraged at the fact that our communities are full of single black mothers who are choosing this for themselves and innocent babies. I can't get mad at an ad that tells the truth even if it doesn't apply to me. There is lots of outrage at this ad and I cringe at it too honestly. But truth is truth. No Wedding No Womb. All this outrage would be better suited mentoring a young teen and showing her a better way. I don't like this but again we have contributed to these kinds of ads.  This probably was an oversight that won't be made again, at least by this company. 

When ads start to show single ww with their biracial babies, the country will be outraged and programs will come out of the woodwork to stop the oow births in ww. Then black women will benefit too. But until then, we can try and stop the behavior but a whole lot of work needs to be done as many black girls are programed from almost birth that they are not worthy of marriage and repeat this cycle 4 generations sometimes.  The ad is not fair, but it represents the truth in our communities. It is what it is.

5 months, 4 weeks ago on Company’s Photo Discrepancy Gives Subtle Message to Black Mothers Versus White Mothers

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@Savannah18121 I wonder how many of those bms spouting off about Cooper's four children have that many or more with different women and not paying a dime of support for any of them?  Trash and trash talk makes good ratings and page hits.  Meaningless Eve and progressive forward thinking women.  I say let them keep talking.  The First Amendment allows us all that right.  But it doesn't say the words have to mean anything, just the right to say it. lol

6 months ago on Eve Becomes “Mrs. Maximillion Cooper”

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@Brenda55 @PhillyGirl @Lady A Don't you just love those haters and naysayers who want you to share in their own misery of their own making?  Life is too short but of course you all know this.  They do too, but denial is powerful sometimes. smh

6 months ago on Eve Becomes “Mrs. Maximillion Cooper”

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It is not uncommon as I coach many women who are virgins of varying ages.  Not hard to believe at all and I am an advocate of no sex before marriage.  I like his advice to the young lady and I am glad you posted the call.

6 months, 1 week ago on How Can You Be Sexy If You Believe in No Sex Before Marriage? Matthew Hussey Explains.

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@MixedUpInVegas @SwirlQueen Wonderful for your daughter to be married to someone dedicated and prepared to do what it takes to be successful -- hard work. Fab!

6 months, 2 weeks ago on Coming Down from the Mount: Lay Off the Mods!

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