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Great job ladies.  So pleased to be there with you in the beginning.  What an honor and what a blast it is talking with Michelle and Adrienne!

2 weeks, 5 days ago on Heard of “The Swirl World” Yet?

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@nikki1978 Yes Nikki, Their love comes right off the page. 

3 weeks ago on Swirling and Marriage: 2014 Couple of the Year

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Wowzwers! Breukelen Bleu really broke it down.  If you don't understand or choose not to receive this glaring truth, then energy, time and this entire message is lost.

4 weeks ago on New Documentary Decrying 72% Out-of-Wedlock Rate…Love the Content But…

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What else can be said about this well thought out, truthful and hard hitting, but eloquent post but "AMEN"?

1 month, 2 weeks ago on “Im a Negro Bed Wench,” and Other Things I Learned Since Marrying My Husband

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@The Working Home Keeper I don't get it either.  But Hallmark must be making a pretty good penny from that campaign.

2 months, 1 week ago on Company’s Photo Discrepancy Gives Subtle Message to Black Mothers Versus White Mothers

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I agree with lots of the sentiment here. Unfortunately we, black women are 73 + oow childbirth in this country. Who can we blame for these kinds of ads? I am outraged at the fact that our communities are full of single black mothers who are choosing this for themselves and innocent babies. I can't get mad at an ad that tells the truth even if it doesn't apply to me. There is lots of outrage at this ad and I cringe at it too honestly. But truth is truth. No Wedding No Womb. All this outrage would be better suited mentoring a young teen and showing her a better way. I don't like this but again we have contributed to these kinds of ads.  This probably was an oversight that won't be made again, at least by this company. 

When ads start to show single ww with their biracial babies, the country will be outraged and programs will come out of the woodwork to stop the oow births in ww. Then black women will benefit too. But until then, we can try and stop the behavior but a whole lot of work needs to be done as many black girls are programed from almost birth that they are not worthy of marriage and repeat this cycle 4 generations sometimes.  The ad is not fair, but it represents the truth in our communities. It is what it is.

2 months, 1 week ago on Company’s Photo Discrepancy Gives Subtle Message to Black Mothers Versus White Mothers

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@Savannah18121 I wonder how many of those bms spouting off about Cooper's four children have that many or more with different women and not paying a dime of support for any of them?  Trash and trash talk makes good ratings and page hits.  Meaningless Eve and progressive forward thinking women.  I say let them keep talking.  The First Amendment allows us all that right.  But it doesn't say the words have to mean anything, just the right to say it. lol

2 months, 2 weeks ago on Eve Becomes “Mrs. Maximillion Cooper”

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@Brenda55 @PhillyGirl @Lady A Don't you just love those haters and naysayers who want you to share in their own misery of their own making?  Life is too short but of course you all know this.  They do too, but denial is powerful sometimes. smh

2 months, 2 weeks ago on Eve Becomes “Mrs. Maximillion Cooper”

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It is not uncommon as I coach many women who are virgins of varying ages.  Not hard to believe at all and I am an advocate of no sex before marriage.  I like his advice to the young lady and I am glad you posted the call.

2 months, 2 weeks ago on How Can You Be Sexy If You Believe in No Sex Before Marriage? Matthew Hussey Explains.

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@MixedUpInVegas @SwirlQueen Wonderful for your daughter to be married to someone dedicated and prepared to do what it takes to be successful -- hard work. Fab!

2 months, 4 weeks ago on Coming Down from the Mount: Lay Off the Mods!

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@Kaiju_Bleu @SwirlQueen @Oaktown Paul  Thank you Kaiju.  So sweet of you to say. :)

2 months, 4 weeks ago on Coming Down from the Mount: Lay Off the Mods!

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@Oaktown Paul  Thanks Paul.  I am not 100% if that is the way I am going, but thanks so much for the advice.  I have some decisions to make soon so we'll see.  Maybe I can PM you when and if the time comes but this advice is great as is.  Sounds like you have been there done that. Thanks again.

2 months, 4 weeks ago on Coming Down from the Mount: Lay Off the Mods!

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@Brenda55 It will be a while yet.  Cali has no reciprocity for anything and no Magistrate system here so I am back to square one if I want a legal career.  I am still looking for what I want to do when I grow up. lol  So congrats on being able to retire so young.  Time for you to get your book published girl.  Just pick a topic and I'm sure you can make it relatable to the masses.  Swirling, Nursing, Audiology, Mating habits of Bees, Securities and Exchange in the Czech Republic, The Education System in Malta etc. Just pic one of these or a myriad of others, write your book and I'll enjoy the read. :)

2 months, 4 weeks ago on Coming Down from the Mount: Lay Off the Mods!

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I love the mods. I am convinced Brenda belongs in a court room with her top notch analysis skills. There is a judgeship with your name on it dear. (Never too late for a career change lol).  Any chance of you coming to help me study for the Cali Bar?  I'm assuming the answer is no, so you and the rest keep doing the fab job here at BBW. 

2 months, 4 weeks ago on Coming Down from the Mount: Lay Off the Mods!

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@Gijou  Jenkins was disbarred in both Michigan and California.

3 months, 3 weeks ago on Los Angeles NAACP President, Leon Jenkins, Resigns After Sterling Debacle

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@Christelyn  What I have found in some women Chris that some are all talk when it comes to taking action.  I have been so disappointed with some of the turn out at events where the guys actually showed up.  Pillars of Salt.  One of my former clients was really a lot of talk but when one wm wanted to talk to her, a single beautiful, health conscious bw, she avoided him and went out another door.  Yet complained about being single and not being able to find anybody.  shrugs...

4 months ago on Want to Meet This Guy? L.A. Folks, Meet Us at the Mixed Heritage Conference at UCLA!

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I'm so sorry for your loss Niki and Christelyn.  Niki, your eyes sparkled when you spoke of Jason and you grinned when showing me his photos.  I know he will be missed.  Again, so sorry.  Praying for your comfort and healing.

4 months, 2 weeks ago on Sad News: Former BB&W ‘Hottie’ Succumbs to Cancer at 41

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@TashaLopez I hate that there are so many single mothers of children with autism.  So many men leave women with special needs.  That leaves them free to find a real man who will step up to the plate like the two men I mention in the post.  Stand up men are out there. 

I am heartbroken for your mother.  I know she is strong though if you are any indication of her parenting.  Please feel free to share a song I wrote with her.  www.autismanthem.com  Best to you and your family.

4 months, 3 weeks ago on “Would a Rainbeau Accept My Special Needs Child?”

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I'm not even offended by her stupid comments.  This babushka clearly has issues.  SMH

4 months, 3 weeks ago on WTF?! Human “Barbie” Claims Women are Less Beautiful Because of “Race Mixing”

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@Geekette221B You too?  OMGoodness, I got all kinds of flack for liking Shaun and Parker.  I got Tiger Beat and Teen Beat.  I did not get Soul Beat.  I was so mistreated by black kids for being dark, and then they ridiculed me when I liked white girl music.  I could not win.  I was a member of the Henry Winkler Fan Club as well as the Hardy Boys. And please don't forget The Bay City Rollers. :)

5 months ago on The Picture That Changed My Life

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I loved this fabulous performance and know that she will get better as the show goes on.  Nene is larger than life that is for sure.  Through all the shade that is being thrown, no one can deny that Nene is a smart business woman and her people are getting her in the right places at the right time.  She has a large fan base and DWTS has a formula for selecting their guests.  So I ain't mad at Nene for getting hers and securing a financial future for her family. 

Some of you are too young to remember a street, loud, ghetto acting Queen Latifah.  But her handlers and management saw star potential.  Now you see a polished, sophisticated host and business woman who expanded her creative efforts beyond the tough, hardcore rapper exterior she started out with in the business.  Now Dana Owens has mainstream and crossover appeal as rapper, actress and singer.  The Queen Latifah show boasts a variety of celebrity guests as well as ordinary citizens making a difference in their communities.  So lets see how Nene evolves with the right management and opportunities.  I am happy that she is transforming and say give her a chance.  Her fans will not let her down and don't think she cares about naysayers or she would have long been out of the game. 


Thanks for this post @tracyreneejones!!



5 months ago on Big, Bold and Beautiful: I’m Loving NeNe Leakes on Season 18 of DWTS

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@Christelyn Anyone truly reading the posts here don't see hate, but truth. You can stand up to any anti BM complaint.

5 months ago on Did You Know? Black Women Are Bashed On You Tube for Page Views.

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Bitter bm are always going to say what they want, but are they getting shows based on that hate off the ground?  Any cable networks looking for a bash bw by bm shows out there?  Are they getting major sponsorship from legit companies and advertisements?  No.  Swirlr and Chris' brand are on the rise despite these haters.  They are always going to hate.  And the fact that not only beautiful, breathtaking bw are marrying out, but dark skinned natural haired women, and those of all shapes and sizes they would never give the time of day to anyway are marrying out and they have simply started to take notice and are outraged.  As I always say, many don't want us, but they don't want anyone else to want us either.  They want us with an apartment full of their children, emotionally dependent on them, alone and unmarried because we don't deserve what white and other women deserve. That is for the most part healthy relationships and marriages living well and happy. 

My bigger issue is that bm can make these videos all day long degrading and bashing bw; saying the most vile, hateful things.  But say one bad thing about the GLBT community and you are banished from the Internet Universe.  The masses come out on the attack.  No one should be bashing anyone, but bw seem to be the least cared about group of people out there.  Not too many stepping up to stop the hate toward us.  Maybe we should be lobbying Congress to become a protected group.  Just saying......

5 months ago on Did You Know? Black Women Are Bashed On You Tube for Page Views.

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@TheNoobie @Soul_Incites OMGoodness girl, I hope he is real quality material and remains a stand up guy.  Keep us updated on your progress.  You know the importance of vetting, but he already sounds like a true stand up man.  Others are watching and looking too when bm spew their hatred.  WM know that they don't sit around and do this to their women and are taken aback by it.  Unless they are friends with said bms and believe the hype.  I want to believe that more are like your friend.  Good job for taking the monster to task and blowing him out of the water.  And best to you in your new relationship!

5 months ago on Did You Know? Black Women Are Bashed On You Tube for Page Views.

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@jjelsewear Your mother sounds like a great mom!

5 months, 1 week ago on Shocking: Do We Support Child Brides Or Child Sexual Abuse?

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@Chicago404 " I think I had a pregnancy scare 8th/9th. Luckily i didn't fall victim to that" 


I am so glad you did not fall victim either.  But I think that is way too young to be having sex.  Some of the girls in my school, 6, 7 and 8th grade had no shame about being sexually active.  I look back now and all of them had underlying issues in their homes that directly contributed to the girls being active so early. 

5 months, 2 weeks ago on Shocking: Do We Support Child Brides Or Child Sexual Abuse?

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I grew up with the threats "I'ma break your neck, or I'll lay you to rest" absolute foolishness.  I said as a child that if I ever had any children I would never say those things and I have not.  That is one reason my children can not be around Grandma without me so needless to say our visits are not frequent.  There is a consequence to growing up being beaten with belts, extension cords and other objects including hands, being threatened all the time and just mistreated.  It will have an impact once these kids become adults.  They will either accept it as normal and repeat the cycle, or may have a complex or issues with trust and or bullying, or may reject it like I did.  My sister excused those stupid threats saying that they were only said for impact.  Impact my foot.  What good is telling a child that you will break his/her neck?  What the heck kind of impact is it?  To be more terrified, or to be made to feel so bad about yourself?  My parents will never say those things to my children.

I believe you do have to discipline and a swat on the bottom or even a pinch for little kids but my teens think the world ends if they lose their tablet, computer time or television.  My parents would both be serving prison sentences for their extreme discipline meted out on my sibs and me.  You may still have to get in your child's face to remind them who is boss but spanking should stop around first grade if not before.  


This is another reason why babies having babies repeat this madness because they are still being beaten themselves.  That's all they know how to do and a poor baby doesn't even stand a chance.

5 months, 2 weeks ago on Video: Okay I’ve Had Enough! Black Parents, You’re Not Superior for Beating the Snot Out of Your Kids!

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@Sameriah No, you didn't miss a thing.  This was actually accepted.

5 months, 2 weeks ago on Shocking: Do We Support Child Brides Or Child Sexual Abuse?

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@ladyofmagic1974 Could not have said it better myself.  People are oblivious to the fact that there were black woman white man marriages before, during and after slavery.  They want to always throw up rape like it happened last week.  Not to detract from that as it was the most horrific thing that many women suffered.  But there were also these unions that were by choice.  People married at great risk to themselves and offspring and livelihood.

5 months, 2 weeks ago on Swirling In History – Colonial, Antebellum, Reconstruction and Beyond

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@Seenyc I did a little checking into the Precious Doe/Erica Green case.  I should have listed it too as a Legion of Doom Mother story.  The poor thing is definitely in a better place.  What I can't understand is why a mother would stand by and not shoot a man who would hurt her baby/child.  Help him hide the body parts and then MARRY him a year later.  I have tried to be as understanding as I could and there just isn't any when it comes to these cases.  There is no rationale that could remotely justify these acts of depravity.  I don't care that the mothers are victims either.  Choices were made to cover up for these moron men instead of defending the children or calling the police on them. smh

5 months, 3 weeks ago on Legion of Doom Mothers on Steroids — What the Cuss?

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@WendyLBarber I know I can't hold a candle to Barbara Hillary.  But I do live by this standard.  Goals and dreams should not have an expiration date.  Life can sometimes delay and maybe even alter our course.  But for the focused women (or person) she will keep on trying until the very end.  I was wondering about posting this story, but I just had to do it.  So if you and Swirlgirl28 are the only ones who got something from it, then it served its purpose.  I salute you sisters.

5 months, 3 weeks ago on Ain’t No Mountain High Enough – The Barbara Hillary Story

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@Kimduo37 Most of those pics are from my Pinterest board. lol  They do have a few I haven't seen though.

6 months, 1 week ago on Swirling In History: Vintage News Clippings of Couples Who Dared to Love When It Was Damn Scary

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@LovelyLulu Do you have access to any photographs you want to share Lulu?  These images must be saved as they are history.  Thanks for sharing your story.

6 months, 1 week ago on Swirling In History: Vintage News Clippings of Couples Who Dared to Love When It Was Damn Scary

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@Lili2009 Thanks Lili.  You know I have to share this gem and commentary.  Thanks again or should I say Merci? :)

6 months, 1 week ago on Swirling In History: Vintage News Clippings of Couples Who Dared to Love When It Was Damn Scary

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Wonderful resources Tanisha.  I first wrote on this a couple years ago but so much as changed.  However I do have a compilation of euro schools.  http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/study-overseas-free/


Thanx!

6 months, 1 week ago on Must Read: Endless Opportunities Abroad For Women of Color

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