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I’ve visited way more gossip
sites this week than I’d care to admit.Seems Robin is in the denial stage/bargaining stage of the split.Paula is venting to friends and they’re passing
along her frustrations.
Focusing on paparazzi photos
and entertainment news, I tend to judge and speculate. But
when I look at Robin and Paula as people with career and family pressures, I
tend to have a more understanding perspective. I see an all-too-common separation story involving
busy working couples with a young child.
Both have been extremely busy
these last three years.Show business is
a business.Imagine a couple that has a newborn
and both parents start working 50+ hour weeks with tough deadlines, conflicting
schedules and time away from home.In
addition, they must adhere to exercise regimens and stay on diets, especially her.On top of that, there are public appearances,
always smiling, always promoting --even if some evenings both are exhausted,
starving and would rather sit home and spend time with the baby.
The relationship dynamics changed.Maybe he resented her increasing time
away.Likewise, Paula could have
resented that Robin didn’t support her growing career or understand the
pressures she was under.
Was there time for counseling,
or did they think it could wait? Knowing
each other for twenty years maybe they took one another for granted. Were they
both using substances to cope?What ill advice
were colleagues and friends offering?That’s
where a lot of this open relationship crap might have started.
It doesn’t excuse his
humiliating her, but it might explain how things eventually got this bad.And I don’t automatically assume a wronged woman
is entirely faultless.But the smartest
thing she did for both of them was to end this exhausting charade and admit their
marriage was damaged.
The question I ask is what do
they actually want to work on?Personal
issues and communication?Or are they
more concerned with their careers and popularity?Maybe a bit of both?
Robin is determined to win
Paula back?Well, it’s good to know how
he plans to spend the rest of his life.;) But kidding aside, give her
space and time.Zip codes of space and
calendar pages of time. This
relationship has been under pressure for a good two years and could take at
least another two to rebuild.How
genuine his dedication is waits to be seen.He’ll soon learn that some of his buddies that gave him advice on how to
handle Paula are now lining up hoping they’ll get their own hands on her.
In a strange way, Paula might
have nudged his career back in the right direction.Robin Thicke’s Blurred Lines period is a
study in career and image mismanagement.It’s a guy trying so hard to create some mainstream fame and media buzz that
he trashed the reputation he spent nearly a decade building. Before he seemed to respect and be inspired by
women. With Blurred Lines, women became
props, accessories.Instead of
continuing with this ladies man swagger, he should embrace a more mature
role.And a new management team.
I’m curious how Paula wields her newfound leverage
personally and professionally. Focusing
on her acting as well as showing up sober for awards shows will help her damaged
public image.But I believe she’s just
as hungry for fame as Robin.The split has
become a PR boost and she might drag out the separation for the longest time if
it generates enough positive press and acting gigs.But then I’d wonder what is real and what is
media spin.If I see a photo of her
getting friendly with her Warcraft co-star Travis Fimmel part of me will
instantly think it was PR move since it will make headlines and he just so
happens to have his Vikings show on cable airing now.
I just hope they finally go
to counseling.That’s the only way they’ll
reach a decent reconciliation or resolution.
5 days, 17 hours ago on Latest from Robin Thicke: “I’m Just Trying to Get Her Back”
Watching the Lost Without You video and hearing the song is heartbreaking. I wish he'd return to a more R&B sound. And just watching that video you can't but help but think that's him now, remembering better times with Paula.
If I were to see one of the last few performances of his current tour, the song I'd be more curious to hear would be Lost Without You rather than Blurred Lines because right now the former song would be more poignant.
1 week, 3 days ago on Oh Sh!t…Robin Thicke and Paula Patton Divorce!
@Statuesque @Brenda55 Was that the nude version? In the clothed one what bothered me was Thicke in those sunglasses, trying so hard to act nonchalant most of the time.
@dani-BBW @torgodog I don't know about a $20M movie career. I'd like to see what she's going to do after all these action movies she's currently working on.
I don't condone his behavior, but I wish this sad spiral of the last few years has finally started to play itself out. I see someone who's burnt out rather than washed up. Sometimes you have to fall back to move forward.
Well, that's sad. But perhaps the overdue kick in the head Robin Thicke needed. Last summer there was a blind gossip story which alluded to Robin and Paula, saying he couldn't handle his sudden mainstream success and was doing more than just pot. And Paula, who had been finding her own success the past couple years, was getting frustrated because she wanted to pursue available acting opportunities and not have to always make sure he didn't fly off the rails.
My guess is perhaps his professional jealousy strained the marriage and is at the root of a lot of his disrespectful behavior. Her career had been on the uptick these last three years, way before Blurred Lines. Even before that he's been in a sort of musical identity crisis, trying to create a more lucrative, edgier media image. It's sort of distorted him instead.
They've needed a break. Perhaps Paula was putting off the break up until after About Last Night had been released. In an odd way, I was heartened to hear that he cancelled his Atlanta show to fly to Toronto and try to get her to change her mind, and then he cancelled his Florida show in order to spend time with his son. I hope he gets his act together. At least for their son's sake.
He should have plenty of material for another album though.
I love Toks Olagundoye as Jackie on The Neighbors. She has outrageous comic timing and can make any scene funnier just with an expression. And it doesn't hurt that she's gorgeous too.
4 months ago on Who Are Your Favorite Black Women On Prime Time?
Way back, when the wedding news broke, I said that there was something "bun in the oven" about the sudden nuptials. I said to start watching for a baby bump.
*Patting myself on the back*
I wonder if it's more than a coincidence that the news broke the week Kerry Washington is hosting SNL. When being fitted for costumes, the wardrobe people would notice. Or maybe there was certain physical comedy Kerry had to make Lorne Michaels and the writers aware she couldn't do because of her condition. Better to announce it now rather than staffers at 30 Rock leaking the news first.
4 months ago on The Scandal: Is Newlywed Kerry Washington Expecting?!
Orlando and gold digger Miranda Kerr have been secretly separated for months, according to gossip sites. It's a good thing he dumped her. According to gossip, she only got involved with Orlando because his star was on the rise. He's been said to have had a fling with a flight attendant, but she has been way more promiscuous. She boinked Justin Beiber for the hell of it. And she thought she was trading up when she had an affair with Orlando's friend Leonardo DiCaprio. Of course, to Leo she was just another VS model notch on his belt. Learning about her affair with Leo is what supposedly killed the marriage.
So Condola might want to proceed with caution. Handsome guy with some not-so-pretty baggage. Of course, I'd like to think Condola might be a stabilizing influence on his life and career. I believe Orlando wants to do more meaningful work.
Then the cynical side of me is wondering if the show's producers are trying to drum up publicity for the show.
But still, they are a cute couple.
4 months, 1 week ago on What in De Cuss?! Orlando Bloom DIVORCES Wife for Phylicia’s Rashad’s Daughter?!!
@JuneBug277 @Browncow @Uvo My question is where is the black writing talent that would create the next coveted, Olivia Pope-type role?
7 months ago on Watch Zoe Saldana and Christian Bale in the First Trailer for 'Out of the Furnace'
The first sentence of the last paragraph from the full article summed up the real problem: "Maybe I'm just looking in the wrong place." Yep. Get outside the bars and clubs and you might find a better class of man. Or maybe get out of Toronto. I didn't think the article was putting black men on a pedestal. In a way, I think she was setting herself up there. All these guys are so "enthralled" by her. And she was definitely overanalyzing what they wanted from her. Seriously, these guys were looking to transcend some dark dimensional territory of otherness and "colonize" her? Ms. Martis, you are overthinking men and what they hope to achieve with their, uh...transcenders.
7 months, 2 weeks ago on This is one of the Reasons So Many White Guys Think Black Women are Off Limits.
@BWC Thank you for suggesting SAGA. I will definitely be picking that up.
7 months, 2 weeks ago on Suggest a Topic or Offer to Write a Post
@The Working Home Keeper @MixedUpInVegas
" And, the slugs have taken to my basil like its a buffet."
Try sprinkling Sluggo around the plants. You can usually find it at nurseries. I've had great success using that, and it's a lot less fuss than beer traps and copper. Also, during the day overturn any flat stones, piles of debris and wood that they might be hiding under and just squish them.
Also, try picking the damaged basil leaves off (as well as any seed heads) and new leaves might grow.
Don't try to be a perfectionist when it comes to gardening. It's all about guiding nature, rather than controlling it. A garden is an ever changing canvas. And sometimes nature will surprise you in ways you wouldn't have imagined.
7 months, 4 weeks ago on Ron Finley: "Grow Some Sh*t!!"
@chocolate_fashionista Along the same lines, I'd like to read about any black women who are getting involved in the modern farming movement.
8 months ago on Suggest a Topic or Offer to Write a Post
@Browncow HOA can also be a pain for people who want to have beehives.
8 months ago on Ron Finley: "Grow Some Sh*t!!"
@Jamila I liked the action sequences and Antje Traue was badass as Faora-Ul, but I disliked the liquid metal Kryptonian graphics, An improvement over Superman Returns, but the script could've been better.
Several months ago there was a post about IR in comics that was supposed to become a recurring topic, but it's been awhile since a new one has been added. And Storm and Misty Knight haven't been discussed yet. Misty Knight has been swirling since the 70s, and even villains like Loki and Dracula have found Storm alluring.
I have scans of both that I could share if it's just a matter of finding pictures.
@Rosethorn If you want to see sound representations and examples of beautifully functioning interracial relationships for BW then head on over to YouTube. Plenty of them there. I honestly believe you could spend an entire weekend watching all the boyfriend/husband tags between bw/wm and bw/am couples. Then there are the additional day-in-the-life vlog postings, but that's a whole other story. But there are some great interracial love stories there.
If you're talking about interracial representation in movies and television, I don't think the toothpaste can be put back in the tube. I only see more romantic IR pairings involving black women.
8 months ago on Kerry Washington Marries a Black Man, And Yet She STILL Remains the Embodiment of What BB&W Is About
@JuneBug277 I'll give the Terry fans a little bit sympathy...for now. Without warning, without a hint in the press that Kerry and Nnamdi were involved to prepare them for the possibility of wedding bells, suddenly news breaks that she is married. I can imagine their shock, the rending of garments, the online oaths of ceased viewership, etc.
It's all part of the grieving process. Anger and denial followed by reluctant acceptance. . I can understand how fans might be so taken with Kerry and Tony's acting scenes (as well as their real life friendship) and want to believe that such emotion and passion could exist in reality or carry it further into this online virtual world It's an extension of the drama.
And in the past I've been guilty of getting involved with a tv couple or two's romance that I wouldn't want to hear if they disliked one another in real life, or in the back of my mind thought that if it wasn't for a spouse, the two would be together in real life.
@Brenda55 @Bellatrix79 Maybe because it's near Sun Valley. A nice getaway during the summer for hiking, biking and tennis.
@Brenda55 @Jamila So very sudden this wedding. Baby bump spotting begins....NOW!