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@Tammy_Ghalden yep. but they'll open the door for a stranger if he's white. my next door neighbors are a gay white couple but the neighborhood is pretty diverse. my other neighbors are black and the people across the street are Asian.
anyway, one night last week around midnight, my family heard a woman banging on our neighbor's door screaming "help!!" and we see a man following her who we assumed was attacking her. our first concern was do either of these people have a gun. my family called the police. turns out the woman lived down the street and had a diabetic hallucination and the man following her was her husband but our neighbor opened the door to her and gave her candy and then she left, claiming she was better. we all were talking about had these people been black our neighbor would not have opened the door.
1 month ago on Are Black Women Safe Anywhere?
@smartacus @cns or have a charger for your phone in your car. Especially if you're going to be driving late at night. I got one the day I got my car.
It's really getting on my nerves how little publicity Taraji Henson is getting for her role as Joss Carter on CBS's Person of Interest (not attacking the author, just a little rant about it generally). Just because she's putting on an Emmy-worthy performance this season and it's incredible how much she's been developed as a character. Her possible IR pairing with the lead male character is icing on the cake at this point. I watch Scandal and Sleepy Hollow but TPH as Joss Carter is my favorite black actress to watch on prime time and Person of Interest is the best show on TV IMHO.
1 month ago on Who Are Your Favorite Black Women On Prime Time?
@Christelyn, Just a correction, the man in the picture under "Middle Easterners" is
Indian, thus South Asian, not Middle Eastern. I belong to the same Facebook groups as his wife.
1 month, 1 week ago on Black Women Need Men Like Cory Alexander Haywood Like a Fish Needs a Bicycle.
I don't think this has to do with race or culture. HRH could've been any woman and her soon-to-be-ex husband could've been any man of any race. IMO there are two separate issues here: 1) A woman marrying below herself, which almost never works out because of how men and women are socialized, and 2) why HRH married this man in the first place? I refuse to believe this behavior started only after they got married.
1 month, 1 week ago on Princess Learns the Hard Way “Project Help a Brutha” Often Ends in Disaster
@peaceandgoodwill Not just Americans. China, Korea and Japan are going through the same thing albeit in different forms. Unfortunately I think this is a worldwide trend as women around the world are getting educated and leaving men in the dust.
@_Toni_ @Savannah181 It was Ciara. Keri Hilson is with Serge Ibaka who plays for the Oklahoma City Thunder.
Funny, I'm physically attracted to South Asians more than any other group and aside from the black & white picture, this guy does nothing for me, LOL. He's handsome definitely but not really my type.
1 month, 2 weeks ago on Man Candy Monday: Who Said Indian Men Ain’t Sexy? Upen Patel Sure Is!!
@zipporah @jazzyfae45 I was on a bus one time and I saw some guys I could've sworn were Indian. Then they started talking and they were speaking Spanish so I understood what they were saying since I speak Spanish and I'm like they're not Indian, they're Mexican LOL.
5 months ago on A "Twisted" Commentary On Black Women As TV Love Interests
@jazzyfae45 You are not alone, LOL. I've always had a thing for Indian guys.
I was reluctant to get into this show because I didn't want to see the same old story play out yet again but after some hounding from my sister I finally bit the bullet and watched and I love this show. This article does a good job of summing up why the character of Lacey is so important for black teen girls to see TV characters like her. The comments against Lacey though are disgusting and despicable. But they're happening for the reasons discussed in the article.
@DWB It takes two people to make a marriage. My mom always tells me (and she's been married to my dad for almost 31 years) a marriage is successful or unsuccessful because of the actions of both people. So I disagree with the so called expert here. If he's trying to say as individuals we can only control our actions, and that we can't control what our spouse/partner does then yes I agree with him. But he's not being very clear. This "expert" has two strikes.
7 months, 2 weeks ago on Many Tips about Marriage are Wrong, Says World-Renowned Expert | Beyond Black & White
@ASwirlGirl Exactly. I hear the same thing. They need us to tell them what's wrong, hence talk about the problem.
@ASwirlGirl Oh I know from experience men don't like that, LOL. But if that's what Fertel means then he shoud've made that clear. All he wrote was "don't talk about your problems." He didn't say "don't overtalk your problems." But I agree, actions speak louder than words. But if you don't communicate and let your partner know there is a problem, the other won't know to change their actions to make things better.
I'm not sure how you can resolve problems without talking about them.
My problem with your post Christelyn, and I had to step back and think about it, is that you're attacking the cultural practices from an anti-Islamic perspective. No you're not criticizing Islam outright and you made the distinction between moderate and extremist Islam but you're still connecting the cultural practices you disagree with, to Islam as if they only happen in Islamic communities and that is disturbing. The practices you're talking about don't aren't inherent in Islamic cultures nor sanctioned by the religion. They happen all over the world.
For example, honor killings. That is a big problem in India which is 80% Hindu. Yes 200 million Indians are Muslim but if you research it, honor killings are a problem in Hindu communities also. Beheadings to my knowledge are a form of execution still practiced in Saudi Arabia, well that country practices a strict form of Islam known as Wahabbism (hope I spelled that right) and they have a testy relationship with the general Islamic community to say the least. Yes beheadings happen in Iraq as a form of terror but the Mexican drug cartels are also using it too. Vaginal mutilations happen all over the world not just in Islamic communities, why? Because it's a cultural thing.
I could go on and on but my point is, don't connect these practices to Islam or even extreme Islam because they happen in cultures all over the world. You can certainly do it but you look ignorant.
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I wonder would there be this controversy if Obama made this remark about a white woman. My thought is no. I originally thought the whole thing was much ado about nothing. I met Kamala when she was DA for San Francisco since I'm from that area. She is a beautiful woman and my understanding is they've been friends for a while.
I'm not a fan of the Obamas but it seems like people are finding any reason to criticize them.
8 months, 1 week ago on Did President Obama Owe Kamala Harris an Apology?
Yep. I've always looked younger than I am. I'm 25 and I still look like I'm in high school. It's a bit annoying because some people still talk to me like I'm a child but I know I'll appreciate it when I'm in my 40s-50s and look like I'm in my 20s-30s.
8 months, 3 weeks ago on "Allure" Magazine Poll Reveals the Obvious--Black Women Age Well.
I plan to hyphenate for legal purposes, but go by my husband's name in social settings and other non-legal settings. I'm one of 3 daughters and I have pride in my last name. I don't want to see my father's line disappear. Plus if I have name recognition in my career by the time I marry, I don't want to deal with that confusion. But I am creating a new family and I want to reflect that.
Not all cultures require women to abandon their maiden name. A lot of eastern cultures don't. Everyone has to decide what's best for them.
9 months ago on Do you plan to change your last name when you get married? If so, you might want to think a bit more about that choice.
I'm going to give a PC response and a non PC response.
Here's the PC response: I can relate to this situation so much it's not even funny. I'm 25, finished my MA and should graduate from law school next year. One difference is I'm in the San Francisco area so many BW are in IRs here so seeing BW with WM, HM and AM isn't so rare. So I agree location is key. What's hard for me is that many of my classmates, Hispanic, Asian, white are married or engaged. It seems the only single women in my age group are black. I sometimes wonder if I'm doomed to be single. (Note: I realize this is an irrational thought.) I can also relate to feeling like you have a checklist of things to accomplish by a certain age. As much as I LOVE Europe (I've studied and interned there more than once and might do it again this summer) you don't need to move there to find a decent date. There are men in the US to choose from. Unless you're willing to wait until you finish law school and start working you will have to get creative about dating. I tried dating during my second year and I couldn't meet anyone I liked so I got frustrated and stopped. I'm now tentatively trying online dating. You might want to try that. I also agree about interning outside of the South or abroad.
Another thing to keep in mind is that statistics show that black women (educated/high income) do get married, it just happens later than for other women. Here's an article about it: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/love-in-limbo/201006/high-achieving-black-women-and-marriage-not-choosing-or-not-chosen
Now for the non-PC response: Things are not as they seem. 2 of my law school friends are in serious relationships, (one is Hispanic the other is Vietnamese, she's actually engaged.) Sometimes it's a little awkward when they talk about their SOs but they are also dealing with some major issues in their relationships, around jobs, money issues, where to live etc. Being a year from graduation, things are very much in flux for us as we try to get jobs/internships and think about what we want to do. I personally couldn't deal with those relationship issues, and get through law school too. Things happen for a reason and timing is important.
9 months, 3 weeks ago on Question of the Week: Twenty-Something Law Student Parched in a Swirl Desert