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@International_Responder @Browncow Better yet, you may need to get a kindle so they don't even know what you're reading. It's acceptable to attack Black people who aren't towing the party line.

5 hours, 20 minutes ago on I’m So Glad Russell Brand Opened His Big, Fat, Mouth. Proof the Many Liberals Practice Soft Bigotry

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@Gijou @Fiji808 And how are they exposing themselves, pray tell? I saw a story about a man who was questioning a BM for having a thought outside what he "thinks" this BM should have which included insulting the man's dedication to the uplift of Black people and his very ethnicity. Yeah, like many shows the laid into him a bit with personal jabs, but what opinion show doesn't do those things? The people at FOX are coming to the defense of one who's ideological and political stances align with their own. The only thing in my opinion that exposes them as, is supportive of their own narrative and belief system. 

5 hours, 44 minutes ago on I’m So Glad Russell Brand Opened His Big, Fat, Mouth. Proof the Many Liberals Practice Soft Bigotry

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@Gijou @Browncow @caligirl94117 I know you aren't for the GOP (I never said that I was either), but I can assure you, they are not against the Voting Rights Act. I used the term "opposition party" because the original poster used it and and I decided to respond to her in the language she was using. I believe that both sides are the "opposition party" considering that they are opposing each other. 


As far as "squatters" are concerned I believe that there needs to be a system in place to weed out those who make living off of the people's tax dollars. We need to reinstate the welfare to work programs that have been so successful in the past.

5 hours, 50 minutes ago on I’m So Glad Russell Brand Opened His Big, Fat, Mouth. Proof the Many Liberals Practice Soft Bigotry

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@caligirl94117 @Browncow You know the thing about Minister Grayson is that he said in his campaign to listen to what the candidates tell you. His was a grass roots campaign that wasn't funded by companies. It was all by word of mouth and actually listening to the debates. I don't even live in GA, but if I did, he would have had my vote and I would have gone door to door for him. Another thing is that this man wasn't supported by the establishment GOP. The newspapers barely mentioned him as a candidate. He told the truth about things and his opponents didn't like it. As far as him fixing corruption, as he says, you have to shine a light on it. He changed the room. The room didn't change him. Special interests had no piece of him because he didn't want to owe anybody but the people who he wished to represent. Mind that I said represent, because that is different from wanting to lead.




6 hours, 31 minutes ago on I’m So Glad Russell Brand Opened His Big, Fat, Mouth. Proof the Many Liberals Practice Soft Bigotry

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@zipporah @Browncow @caligirl94117 Yes, this is the very same TMOT, "back again for another drive time". He inspires me. I'm also surprised that he hasn't gotten pulled over yelling into the camera speaking TRUTH.

6 hours, 43 minutes ago on I’m So Glad Russell Brand Opened His Big, Fat, Mouth. Proof the Many Liberals Practice Soft Bigotry

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@caligirl94117 @Browncow Yeah, the 47% takers comment wasn't exactly PC. I don't consider people who have paid into their social security and medicare to be takers, nor do I consider folks who genuinely need financial help as takers, so long as they are working to improve their situation or become self sufficient. The message gets muddled in the packaging. Since the package isn't to many folks' liking, they won't take the good part of it or what is really trying to be conveyed. I think that I've articulated it pretty well myself even if the politician didn't ( btw I didn't vote for Romney anyway for several reasons). In my opinion, we need to look past the letter next to the name and look at the overall message. In Georgia there is a man named Derick Grayson. He campaigned as a Republican for the U.S. Senate. He message was clear. He wanted to expose the corruption in Washington on both sides of the aisle. He was going to name names. He was going to represent the people of his state, not "lead" them. His motto: "100% of the Constitution. 100% of the time". He is still giving talks and is invited to functions all over the state. The functions are almost all Tea Party functions. He's a Black Man. He was a Pastor who was taken out of his church for telling the parishioners to pay their damn bills and forget about the tithes. He's a real stand up guy and he tells the truth. If you listen to him, you're infected with the desire for liberty. Would you turn down voting for such a man because he has an "R" next to his name? Or will you find out more about the person and their message that the media (on both sides) isn't telling you?

9 hours, 14 minutes ago on I’m So Glad Russell Brand Opened His Big, Fat, Mouth. Proof the Many Liberals Practice Soft Bigotry

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@caligirl94117 I beg to differ. The "opposition party" does not seek to eliminate programs to help the disadvantaged. It seeks to shake off the squatters who have made it a multi-generational culture to be on these programs. My own mother was on public assistance before she met my father as a divorced mother of three. The program she was on was intended to give her the training to get a job and get off, which she did. The "opposition party" wants for folks to have upward mobility. It helps the economy and our culture. I think many people just buy into the idea that the "opposition party" is evil and wants to yank the rug from under the disadvantaged populations of our country. Guess who is in support of school choice so that tax dollars only go to those schools that are performing? I bet you'd be wrong. Just look at what happened in N.Y.C. with Success Academy vs. Mayor DeBlasio and the Teacher's Unions. They tried to shut DOWN the only schools that were doing well. In Louisiana the school system has changed in New Orleans so that there are NO traditional public schools. Do you know why? Because they sucked! The tax dollars are going to the charter schools and private schools and if those schools start to suck, then they will lose students and their JOBS. So the "opposition party" may not be for subsidies for life, but they sure are for upward mobility which requires what you have displayed; hard work, perseverance, tenacity, intelligence, and dedication. You got out of your circumstances because you worked hard. That is the message of the "opposition party".

9 hours, 32 minutes ago on I’m So Glad Russell Brand Opened His Big, Fat, Mouth. Proof the Many Liberals Practice Soft Bigotry

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@YnaFloren Thank you!!! I love Alfonzo Rachel! He just tells it like it is. Straight, with no chaser. I may not agree 100% all the time, but I do respect him and what he has to say. Let's just see how many people actually watch this.

10 hours, 31 minutes ago on I’m So Glad Russell Brand Opened His Big, Fat, Mouth. Proof the Many Liberals Practice Soft Bigotry

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@Christelyn  @Brenda55 @DanielEwens Yeah, this dude is an idiot who picked a random photo of a white guy to pass as one because he thought that he wouldn't be found out as the idiot troll that he is. Nice try. NEXT!!!

10 hours, 38 minutes ago on I’m So Glad Russell Brand Opened His Big, Fat, Mouth. Proof the Many Liberals Practice Soft Bigotry

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@Christelyn  @Fiji808 @Brice Cameron "We should give people like this passes because they "appear" to be on our side."

It's what I call the "Liberal hypocrisy pass". So long as the offending party is a liberal, they get a pass on saying offensive and otherwise "racist" things. It's thought that since they are liberal they can't possibly be racist even when they are. They can tell Black people that they're dumber than a box of rocks in so many words, disguise it as concern for their well being and people will just eat it up. "Just look how much these people care for us!" Please. Then have a non-liberal say something truthful and have a desire to get to the root of the problem and all h3ll will break loose. 

10 hours, 44 minutes ago on I’m So Glad Russell Brand Opened His Big, Fat, Mouth. Proof the Many Liberals Practice Soft Bigotry

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@The Working Home Keeper Exactly. That is the only "acceptable" form of racism. When it's against Black conservatives and libertarians. We're not supposed to be smart enough to make our own choices and have our own opinions. We're only supposed to give in to the group think.

12 hours, 28 minutes ago on I’m So Glad Russell Brand Opened His Big, Fat, Mouth. Proof the Many Liberals Practice Soft Bigotry

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I just got the sample on my kindle and will more than likely buy his book. As for Mr. Brand, he's just being a typical liberal. It isn't racist to attack Black conservatives by calling them names and questioning their blackness simply because they refuse to be a part of the borg collective. All the racism talk isn't for those who are being attacked for trying to question what is supposed to be the status quo of many black families and individuals failing. I don't even listen to that crap anymore. The only time I do is to reinforce why I don't vote for liberals.

12 hours, 55 minutes ago on I’m So Glad Russell Brand Opened His Big, Fat, Mouth. Proof the Many Liberals Practice Soft Bigotry

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Yum!!! My husband and I make green shakes every day to get our dose of fruits and veggies. It's really good and we like it on the less sweet side. Unfortunately my eggplant and tomatoes didn't do too well this season. So I'll have to go and buy the ingredients.

2 weeks ago on Gluten-Free Italian: Three Veggies Eaten at Once, Deliciously…

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@jesslabellefleur @Browncow @Vivaforever Well, being an interfaith couple is different. There is a lot of respect that has to be given to the other. We both believe in God, it's just our concepts and understanding of the Almighty is different. When I was going to temple and we met, there was a lot of overlap beliefs-wise. Surprisingly, as a Christian, we still have a lot of overlap. He comes to church with me twice a month, and we'll be dedicating our children in the church this fall.

2 weeks, 4 days ago on As Millennials Support Dating Out, the Black Community ups the “Fetish” Rhetoric

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@Vivaforever @Browncow Of course there's some Naija in my mix! My father is from Lagos and our family is from Abeokuta. The clothing is Indian though. Before getting baptised last year, I spent many years in an Indian temple. My husband is Buddhist. We had a fire sacrifice and a Zen Buddhist ceremony. It was a very fun day. We had people representing on just about every continent!

2 weeks, 4 days ago on As Millennials Support Dating Out, the Black Community ups the “Fetish” Rhetoric

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@Swirlgirl28 That is hilarious!!! That's the new thing, huh? Saying that BW just treat WM better. How about we're LOVED? How about feeling cherished and respected? How about feeling beautiful and being told that we're beautiful just they way God made us? No, it's really about about BM and us trying to get back at them by treating WM better. Yeah, right. (rolls eyes)

2 weeks, 4 days ago on As Millennials Support Dating Out, the Black Community ups the “Fetish” Rhetoric

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I'm going to share something VERY personal to me. It's my wedding photo. I sent this to Evia about eight years ago (I really can't remember, but it was soon after my wedding). She still has it on her website. This was almost nine years ago, as our anniversary is coming up next month. 


http://evolvingslices.typepad.com/photos/bwir_weddings/kemi-and-husband-1.html


Please tell me where I'm a fetish in this photo. Please tell me where my shackles are. Please tell me how I'm locked up in a room chained to a bed as the wench these idiots say BW are when they decide to venture out. I have the ring. I have his name. I am the woman my husband chose to bear his seed, which he honored by not spreading it all over creation. I am the woman who holds his aspirations. I am his and he is mine. This is a grown folks relationship. No games. That's why we're still married after nearly 9 years. That's why we'll stay married. MARRIED. Not shacking up. Not playing house. Not being engaged for years on end with a "shut up" ring. MARRIED. Period.

2 weeks, 4 days ago on As Millennials Support Dating Out, the Black Community ups the “Fetish” Rhetoric

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@The Working Home Keeper @harem Thank you!!! This isn't just some fad. If God forbid something happen to my husband or my marriage, you better believe I'll be meeting and marrying another WM. I have two BW acquaintances who got married to WM, divorced and went on to marry another WM. It was their preference. The men they're married to now treat them better than gold and they're happy. Why would I hold out for a man I have no preference for in order to make others comfortable?

2 weeks, 4 days ago on As Millennials Support Dating Out, the Black Community ups the “Fetish” Rhetoric

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AW!!!! That was soooo sweet! Just fabulous. May God bless you in your marriage with much happiness, love, and long years. Congratulations. :)

2 weeks, 4 days ago on Video: BB&W Fan Get Married, Serenades Groom; Bring Him to Tears

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@DWB I have another prediction for you:

If the next Democrat candidate is a woman, anything people say about her regarding her policy and politics will be believed to be sexist and that men who object to her policy will be sexists. You know "war on women" and all that...

2 weeks, 6 days ago on Feelings About Renisha McBride…

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@nyaw I just wanted to say "pulling out" is a sure fire way to get pregnant. Even a drop of sperm can get a woman pregnant and there are sperm in the lubrication fluids that men secrete when they are aroused. A really good way to not get pregnant is 1. Abstinence (but realistically this is a very difficult thing to do, though I did it) 2. Hormonal birth control or an IUD (intrauterine device) 3. Condoms and 4. Sympto-Thermal method also known as Natural Family Planning or Fertility Awareness (you can get Taking Charge of Your Fertility on Amazon). 


http://www.amazon.com/Taking-Charge-Your-Fertility-Anniversary/dp/0060881909/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1407278089&sr=1-1&keywords=taking+charge+of+your+fertility


I used Fertility Awareness to get pregnant every time and to avoid pregnancy between children. It really works and I only recommend this within a very long term (preferably marriage) relationship.

3 weeks, 3 days ago on New Documentary Decrying 72% Out-of-Wedlock Rate…Love the Content But…

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@Christelyn He's adorable!!!! Exactly my type. Too bad I'm married. :)

1 month ago on Writer Reads “Swirling,” and Is Overwhelmed with Tears. Find Out Why.

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@Audenitag How about, "How would I know? I've never been with a BM."

1 month ago on QOTW: “Help! My White Friends Ask My Black Girlfriend Dumb Questions!”

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@Vivaforever @Browncow Naw!! I'm not a writer. I actually met my husband on eHarmony. Yes, we're one of the successful internet couples people talk about. It worked out very well for us and 3 kids later, he's still my very best friend.

1 month ago on Ladies, Be VERY Careful Dating Ethnic Men. Parents and Family Often Come First

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@jdependance Wait, my dear. Let's back up a moment from this train of thought. I am one of those happily (dizzy in love) married women on this site. I've been married for almost 9 years. Let me tell you, that there are men who want us. They just might come in unexpected packages. Yeah, it looks bleak, but it isn't so long as you keep your mind (and eyes) open to the possibilities. When you keep you options open, you'll be more likely to meet a nice man. You're totally worth it. Believe me. Once I stopped feeling sorry for myself and being angry about men in general, I started looking outside of my own religious community for a mate (my hangups weren't racial, they were "spiritual" and that can be just as limiting) and found a very nice guy who was compatible. I had another WM who wanted to be with me and though he was nice, he was too fixated on sex for my taste so I went with my husband who was really trying to get to know me, not my body. You don't need every man from every group wanting you. You only need ONE. Just one. Keep that in mind before you fall into that pit of despair. Men do want us. You just need one.

1 month ago on Ladies, Be VERY Careful Dating Ethnic Men. Parents and Family Often Come First

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@Statuesque @Browncow I completely think so. I thought so. I thought that we were both "minorities" so with that in common, it wouldn't be a big deal. I was wrong. I think that BW do lower their guard when it comes to men of other races who aren't white. WM seem to make BW shore up their defenses like no other type of men. I know that people say that we emphasize dating/marrying WM, but let's be real here. WM are the ones who are marrying us. WM are the ones who love our skin color and kinky hair. WM are the most numerous in our country and so the odds are that if you're going to date or marry interracially, chances are, it's going to be with a WM. *Disclaimer*: Not all WM have rainbows and pots of gold coming out of their a$$es. The odds are more in your favor though if WM are a part of your dating/mating pool.

1 month ago on Ladies, Be VERY Careful Dating Ethnic Men. Parents and Family Often Come First

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@jillodelight @Browncow Yes. Please keep that in the front of your mind when dealing with these men. I remember a Vietnamese guy who wanted to date me. I thought he was totally cute and not at all typical in his build (he was tall and worked out a lot so he was big). We hung out and we were friends. He wanted to date me and the first thing I asked was about his parents. He told me what I already knew. His family would have had a fit. I told him NO. I said that we could be friends, but that was it. Nothing else. I already went through that and I've learned to stay away from East Asian men. He respected that and he respected me as well for it. So we continued our friendship and I would lay out a can of whoop ass at the arcade every now and then.

1 month ago on Ladies, Be VERY Careful Dating Ethnic Men. Parents and Family Often Come First

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@dani-BBW @Browncow @SacLove76 Yeah. That happened. Looking back, that explained A LOT. He wasn't very enthusiastic about servicing my girly parts (without getting too graphic) and made me feel like I was dirty down there. My husband on the other hand....let's just say that I'm a very happy woman. ;)

1 month ago on Ladies, Be VERY Careful Dating Ethnic Men. Parents and Family Often Come First

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@SacLove76 @Browncow You know the joke is on his family anyway. I found out several months after we broke up that after they were agonizing over him being with me, he dated another girl to his mother's liking and her family HATED him. They thought he was creepy for dating a girl fresh out of high school (he had been 2 years out of college). They also hated his family. Fast forward 20 years, this guy came out the closet and is married to a MAN. That's right. He was either bisexual or fronting with me. So his mother gets NO grandkids from my ex and I'm sure she doesn't know that he's gay. I'm SO HAPPY that it didn't work out with him. I have a fully HETEROSEXUAL man who loves my girly parts. :)

1 month ago on Ladies, Be VERY Careful Dating Ethnic Men. Parents and Family Often Come First

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@Yorkshireman in Michigan @Statuesque @Brenda55 ^^^THIS^^^ is why many BW have more in common with White American and European men. This is why we marry men of European ancestry more than other groups. You guys WILL drop your families for us. I'm not saying all, but most of you guys will and we love you for it.

1 month ago on Ladies, Be VERY Careful Dating Ethnic Men. Parents and Family Often Come First

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This cuts really close to the bone with me. My very first boyfriend was Cambodian/Chinese. The son of refugees who still couldn't read or write in any language that they spoke and couldn't speak English, this guy relentlessly pursued me even though I wasn't really attracted to him. I kick myself in the butt every now and then for falling for his personality which was really quite nice and charismatic. I was 18 at the time and very naive. Innocent is probably the correct word for it. I fell for his personality and after I fell for him, he told me that he would never introduce me to his family because they only wanted for him to be with girls of his ethnicity. I rejected him initially and he told me after I had rejected him over his family's prejudice that he would work on it. He basically only wanted to get in my pants, which with much cajoling and dropping of the "L" word, he did. He broke up with me three months later. I was crushed. My grades suffered, and I was severely depressed. He came back into my life a few months later and wanted to keep the fact that we were back together a secret from everybody. We continued to date off and on for another 3 years. I initiated the breakup. I had finally had enough. It was after I discovered that men were attracted to me. I mean seriously. I realized that all sorts of men were trying to get me and I didn't have to take this short guy and his family's shit anymore. 

I can tell you right now, I had low self esteem. If I could go back in time, I would slap the shit out of myself for going with this guy and advise myself to wait for the nice Italian guy who you liked or the Sci-Fi geek you were good friends with and went to the movies with whenever something cool came out ( my husband informed me that this guy totally liked me, but I was oblivious to it. Damn). After I broke up with my ex I swore off East Asian guys. I had a couple of run ins with South Asian guys who found me attractive, but wouldn't take me seriously and one guy I was actually engaged to (his family was surprisingly cool about it, but he was an ass). I then swore off all Asian guys. That's just how it worked out for me. It wasn't until I returned to my first love (White MEN) that I found the love of my life, my husband. I'm sure there are some "ethnic" men who are great, but they are few and far between. At least that's my experience. The take away here is to not get so wrapped up in getting a particular ethnicity of man that you screw yourself over. No, there is no great "People of Color" solidarity because those guys have color issues too. They're trying to get with White women too. Take each man with a grain of salt and vet, vet, vet. If they tell you that you aren't on the "take home to mama" list, get to steppin' and tell him that you're nobody's bed warmer. Have respect for yourself.

1 month ago on Ladies, Be VERY Careful Dating Ethnic Men. Parents and Family Often Come First

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And....she gets it!!! YES! Thank you dear writer for understanding the intent of this website. Believe it or not, what Chris is doing is for your family as well. For your daughters AND your sons. The message is simple; get the heck away from low class people. That kind of attitude is destructive and has been destructive to Black people for decades.

1 month, 1 week ago on Reader Letter: Black Woman Married to a Black Man Sees the Site for What It Is

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What is this Tasty Tuesday? I've just committed adultery in my mind with this man! Damn you, Chris!!!! :)

1 month, 1 week ago on Have You Seen This Hunk? Nick Bateman Blows Up Facebook.

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@robjk "They just need the revelation, once you go Russian you keep on blushin. :)" 

Slow knowing smile...Eastern European men (and the descendents here in the U.S.) can be very satisfying.

1 month, 1 week ago on The Unfair ‘Options’ Media Message: What Do These Two Magazine Covers Tell You?

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@Brenda55 @Browncow Karla is real good people. I haven't had the pleasure of meeting her husband, but I'm sure it will only be a matter of time until we do.


Yep, you Philly girls need to get together!

1 month, 1 week ago on Feeling Lonely? Isolated? Use Social Media to Create Your “Circle of Support”

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This couldn't have come at a better time. I agree with Chris, that to make friends, you connect on common interests and values. I just recently connected with Karla who frequents this board because we live in the same area. We live literally within a mile of each other and we met for brunch at a local restaurant. We had a great time conversing and I LOVE her stories. She's a great lady. We'll be getting together again soon. Heck, you may know someone right here on this site who lives close by and has common interests and values. You and your husband will make friends. I know it's hard (it's hard for us as well), but it's kind of like dating in a way, you just have to keep looking.

1 month, 1 week ago on Feeling Lonely? Isolated? Use Social Media to Create Your “Circle of Support”

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Black America is a SHAM. The black community is actively against Black women because our wombs produce dark nappy-headed babies. Yet after waiting diligently for that RARE Black man who desires and respects Black Women….I’m castigated for accepting a White Man’s marriage proposal, even by lonely ass Black women who share men or haven’t had one in years.”

You need to take this, wrap it up in a box, put a bow on it and mail it to Messence as a present. I could KISS YOU Kola!!! All of this statement above ALL DAY LONG. I don't get how women are going to try and use their crabby claws to pull the few of us who are trying to escape the barrel back inside. If a woman only wants a BM then she should be happy to see other BW leaving because logic dictates that there would be less competition for the NBABM woman. But, OH NO!! They're miserable so they demand that other BW be miserable too waiting for their purple unicorn with the golden horn to arrive. Guess what? He ain't coming. The only thing BM will understand is if a sizable number of BW take them off the menu when it comes to dating. I'm talking about 25-30% across the board, like in the UK. Then perhaps these males will get the picture. Maybe (I doubt it though. I've never seen harder heads than the ones Black people have and that's across the diaspora). 

1 month, 1 week ago on The Unfair ‘Options’ Media Message: What Do These Two Magazine Covers Tell You?

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@Fiji808
 "I have about 3 dates with 3 beautiful men this week alone"

Well alright then!!! You go and get 'em girl. I hope one is a love match. 

1 month, 1 week ago on The Unfair ‘Options’ Media Message: What Do These Two Magazine Covers Tell You?

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@Karla @Brenda55 You did not just start talking about the reel to reel! My parents had one when I was little and at 5 and 6 years old, I knew how to load up a reel to reel tape player. Yes, I did.

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Open Thread: Reader Questions Her Commitment to ‘Black Love’

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@Brenda55 @The Working Home Keeper @Karla I shop there and at Pier 1 Imports. I also love Swedish meatballs, but I prefer Kielbasa.

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Open Thread: Reader Questions Her Commitment to ‘Black Love’

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@The Working Home Keeper @Karla @Brenda55 Ikea furniture is good when you can figure out how to put it together!!! :)

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Open Thread: Reader Questions Her Commitment to ‘Black Love’

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@The Working Home Keeper @Brenda55 *hand claps* All of this ^^^^^ right here. You've hit the nail square on the head. Thank heaven for you.

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Open Thread: Reader Questions Her Commitment to ‘Black Love’

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It warms my heart to see so many BW getting in control of their weight. I remember looking at pictures from a time when BW for the most part were in wonderful shape. I've just started back with exercise after a cold for a couple of weeks. I don't have a gym membership, but I do have youtube and I just found this workout by Tiffany Rothe. She is built so beautifully and she has some seriously awesome workouts that are like only about 10 minutes. If that's all you have, she' really packs it in. Here is her 10 minute Booty Shaking Waist Workout.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r_J8btnIEKQ


You may not feel it today, but tomorrow, you're gonna hurt. I only did 5 minutes because I had already done about 20 minutes of zumba and bhangra so I was wasted. I'll be adding her into my rotation of exercise though because my serious problem area is my midsection and I want to get my waist back down to at least 28 inches if not 26 (24 was in my serious hey-hey day).

1 month, 2 weeks ago on More Black Women Taking Up the Fight to Tackle Obesity

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