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My sister calls them Fakebook Friends. Seriously. I use Facebook to look at BBW, a couple of homeschool groups, a group on modesty, my church, my denomination, a couple of political things and a FEW friends. I had quite a few fakebook friends for a while and as my interests changed, people that I thought were friends in real life turned out to be acquaintances. I cut off many friends and I'm talking about people that I knew for years. I tried to reconnect with old friends and gave them my phone number and everything and...nothing. Crickets. I knew one woman from elementary school all the way through high school and we stopped being friends for about 18 years and when I found her again I was so excited. I gave her my phone number and told her that we needed to catch up and everything. She lives in my area and I haven't heard a peep from her. So yeah, keep the fakebook friends to a minimum, find communities within social networks to gather information and exchange ideas, have real face to face friends (I'd say a handful), and keep it moving.

2 days, 3 hours ago on Online Friendships Ain’t Real, and Why You Should Only Have 150 Facebook Friends.

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Alright. To the letter writer, I am married to a "geek". My husband ran his own D&D campaign and wrote character profiles for them. He also plays Magic every week at the local game parlour and online. We met online. We've been married for just over 9 years and have three beautiful children together. I also was childless when we met, so there are like Christelyn stated, BW who do not have children and I will reiterate that you shouldn't feel guilty for not wanting a woman with no children. I felt the same way about men. I wasn't about to get with a man with children and I wanted my very own family created from my husband and I with the possibility of adoption if we felt like it. Anyways, I think the online dating scene would be more up your alley and you'll know that the women in question would like to meet you. I got to know my husband online and after several phone calls before meeting in person. With that pressure gone, he gladly paid for our dinner at the nice Vietamese restaurant he invited me to. We have been together ever since and are very happy together. Best of luck to you. I'm sure you'll find your lady soon.

4 days, 1 hour ago on QOTW: Geeky Guys Seeks Girl, but with Strings Attached.

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Boom!! Yes! You look marvelous! Congratulations on your weight loss.

4 days, 4 hours ago on Former Naysayer Takes Health in Her Own Hands and Thrives!!

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My question to all is: How many Asian women do you see featured on television? How many are paired off with WM? Do they grace the covers of American magazines with any frequency? No? I know I don't see AW all over the place in the media and guess what? They're still getting married and being pursued by non-Asian men. 


This show is selling fantasy. The show is selling it to WW. Not women in general, but WW specifically. I agree that the plot line was a mess, but what did it do? It showcased some very negative stereotypes. Not of BW, but of WW. This catty chick stooped so low as to sabotage a good relationship because she wanted the man for herself. She was racist, petty, conniving, two-faced, low-down, and dastardly. This show is fantasy. Let the target audience have their fantasy. It doesn't stop the fact that reality is changing all around them. The pedestal is cracking. 


I'm usually not for this, but let's be like AW in the sense that we can let petty women have their fantasy, while we quietly and graciously get scooped up by the men. Let's be a little more like ninja assassins; silent and efficient.

5 days, 4 hours ago on Television is STILL Not Ready to Make Black Women ‘The Main Chick’

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@PJDeanwriter I wouldn't hang in the towel on Sleepy Hollow just yet. I actually like the dynamic as it stands between Ichabod and Abbie. Not every show with a BW lead needs to lead to the bedroom. According to interviews with the creators of the show, Abbie is going to have her day too and she and her sister will have leading story lines on the show. Besides, Hawley is pretty hot too and I like that he's harbouring a secret passion for Abbie. The fact that he slept with her sister will present some challenges though. Have patience.

5 days, 4 hours ago on Television is STILL Not Ready to Make Black Women ‘The Main Chick’

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I agree with you. I would have told your friend the very same thing. There are so many other women out there who will not grade them on some ridiculous scale. This BW will pretty much find any reason to be offended and not date him or treat him like he is the embodiment of all the oppressive WM in history. Your time is better spent elsewhere with a woman who wants you from the beginning. Have you tried online dating? There are lots of beautiful, accomplished, spiritual/religious, BW out there  who would totally take you on as a potential mate. Without. The. Drama. Put this chick back on the shelf because she is shelving herself. She apparently has standards for non-BM and no/lower standards for BM. Yes, she's pretty and all of those things, but leave her alone. You're worth more than that.

1 week, 2 days ago on QOTW: Should White Guys Date ‘Sister Soldiers?’

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I won't be watching either. Seriously? Ethiopian women are some of the most beautiful women on the freaking planet! You couldn't find an Ethiopian actress or heck, where was Kerri Washington or Nicole Beharie? That would at least put you in the ball park. This is sick. They will not be getting my money. PERIOD.

1 week, 4 days ago on As Much as I Love Christian Bale, I WON’T Be Watching “Exodus: Gods and Kings.”

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@IvyJain Tell me about it. I was so stupid I didn't even get the signs that a man may not be all for the "Girl's Team" like for example, not wanting to give special oral services (this is the best way for me to say it, sorry. :/). If a man isn't interested in that, then you need to find out why. Oh yes, and my first boyfriend had a fixation with anal things. I was a virgin when I met him, so I didn't know what was normal. No, we never did that. I told him to get someone else if that was what he wanted. He was just so fixed on it that it started to fray at my awareness a bit. I should have gone out with the beautiful 6'4" Italian. He was on a platter right there for me and I took the 5'4" guy. I still bang my head over that one.

1 week, 5 days ago on Asian Men…I’m Getting To a Certain Point Where I’m Ready to Throw it In.

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@LilaLeslie I know a number of dark skinned Indian women who married out for the same reasons. Just look at their dating and marriage profiles. The men are looking for "fair" women and if they have money they get what they want which is a light skinned woman. This is regardless of skin color. Imagine that? There were several Indian men who were just as attracted to me as I was to them and they seemed very nice and we were very compatible. We were even in the same religious sect (I was Hindu at the time) and you know what? None of that mattered. All that mattered was that I was of African descent. It was a no go. No matter how much they wanted me, mommy and daddy didn't so it never went anywhere. So they all ended up marrying Indian women of their ethnicity and I walked away from Indian men and went on to meet and marry my husband who happens to be white. You know what? Other than a little hiccup with his mother in the beginning, I've had NO problems. NONE. I'm not saying that there aren't any Asian men who will step up and be a wonderful husband to a BW, I'm just saying that it is just as likely that you'll find a really nice BM as an AM who doesn't have a list of issues to deal with and sift through. Keep them in your prospective dating/marriage pool, but please don't hold your breath.

1 week, 5 days ago on Asian Men…I’m Getting To a Certain Point Where I’m Ready to Throw it In.

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Alright, after having sifted through the entire post and responses, here I go:


I took East Asian men off of my list a LONG time ago. This was after my first boyfriend and I broke up. We were together for 3/1/2 years. I regret ever having dated him. I wasted time with him. After that there were other East Asian men that tried to get with me and I told them up front that I would not be having any other relationship other than friends. I was through. I had to learn my lesson on Indian men as well. I was even engaged to one for a while and I had to break that off too. The family didn't seem to have an issue with me, but I was a cover for his homosexuality. It made so much sense to me later after I found out. My first boyfriend has also come out as a gay man and has married a man. So you know I will be steering my girl away from Asian men. I just don't think it's worth it. I found them to be really nice to your face, but when your back is turned they say some vile things about Black people. It doesn't matter how educated or pretty you are for the most part. Yes, I know that there are some AM who are really cool and sweet and of course attractive, but I will say VET and proceed with extreme caution. Culturally, they have too much of a hive mindset to break away. Your best bet is a Half Asian/Half White male or an AM adopted and raised by whites.

1 week, 5 days ago on Asian Men…I’m Getting To a Certain Point Where I’m Ready to Throw it In.

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@fleiter I just love what you said and I agree wholeheartedly. :)

2 weeks, 4 days ago on Resignation of GOP Staffer Proves What Happens When Black Womanhood is Protected

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I have 4a,b, and c hair in different parts of my head. I have sisterlocks now, but I have a couple of locks that came out and I just grew the hair in the little bits where my locks fell out (its apparently happens from time to time). I can say that all I do now is wash with water and conditioner. Yes, my hair gets clean, but not squeaky clean like we've been trained to believe is right. I try to wash my hair often, but since I have locks, it takes a long time for them to dry without a blow dryer (I'll start using one this winter on the low setting). The few places where my hair is growing loose, the hairs have begun to clump together! My wave/curl pattern is there and I'm so surprised that all the things I learned from Dickey and the Curly Girl method actually work. Now my hair is happy, my sisterlocks feel so soft to the touch, even when dry, and the little curls I do have are so cute and sweet. I use the same technique with my boys and their hair is nothing short of amazing to look at. My older son has 4a hair and my younger son has 3b hair. My daughter looks like she'll be a 3b/c and I'll be using the same techniques. It's really that easy. The reason why I'm saying all of this is to put the message out there that curly hair is curly hair, whether it's tightly coiled or loose. Yes, things like porosity come into play, but at the end of the day, if you treat your hair like silk or cashmere it will thank you by being healthy and beautiful. I love my tight curls and coils. I wouldn't change them for the world.

2 weeks, 5 days ago on On Selling the Dream of “Good Hair” to Naturalistas…

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@Christelyn  @Browncow Sorry it took me so long. I had a long day! Okay, so I'm getting back to you now. The website is http://maxhydrationmethod.com/. There are videos on youtube of some people who have used the max hydration method. Some use the curly girl method and get the same results over a longer period of time. The "Dickey" method is pretty much the same thing. The concept is that wavy, curly, and especially kinky hair needs moisture. LOTS of moisture. The method requires daily co-washing of the hair. Basically it just fits into your shower routine. The conditioner reveals your curl pattern, and the leave-in and setting lotion lock in your curl pattern. Everybody has one. The results for women with "4c" hair is amazing. It doesn't change your curl pattern, but reveals it. It's amazing. It has worked for my boys whose hair was a dry mess. Now it's so pretty. I don't even put gels in their hair now, it's easier to get wet, and it doesn't get tangled because I finger detangle every day. I don't even use a comb or brush more than once a week. I only use my fingers. Here is a link to a video with Mr. Dickey https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ahrs2kTeHLY. Happy viewing and researching! :)

1 month ago on Hey Naturals, Have You Heard of Mop Top?

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I've never heard of MopTop. I have heard of Hair Rules my Anthony Dickey. I have sisterlocks and I absolutely love them, but if I were to every cut them off, I would be using the Dickey method and Hair Rules for my hair. I've researched all the methods for hair care and his along with some aspects of the Maximum hydration method would be what I would use. I stopped using all shampoos for my kids hair and it's like night and day! My older son has 4a-b hair with normal porosity and it was DRY. It looked like your stereotypical kinky hair (and my son is mixed). Now the curls go right down to the scalp. All I use on his hair is water and conditioner, not even a whole bunch of it. It's really soft too. My younger son who has 3b hair has had awesome results with his hair too. Just curls for days that are really well defined. I just want to shout from the rooftops what I've learned.

1 month ago on Hey Naturals, Have You Heard of Mop Top?

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Well my mom always said, " A hard head makes a soft behind" and "Let a fool knock his head". You can lead someone to more options, but you can make them take said options. Dating out isn't desperation. It's exercising your options. If you fail to exercise your options, you have no room to complain when you're 50 with no husband or family OR you're married to a man well beneath you in social standing. 


My other thought on this is that it's her choice to be exclusive to BM. Somebody has to do it. If she's happy doing that, then good on her. Perhaps the rest of us who want to date and marry regardless of "race"/color will put a fire to the other BM to act right so Ms. Reid can find a good one. Unfortunately, she let the feelings and opinions of others who do not care about her happiness get the better of her. Too bad. I wish her luck.

1 month ago on Sad News. Jacque Reid Pulled Out if the IR Dating Challenge, and it’s All Over the New York Post

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@LadyHumor @Browncow I'm familiar with SDA. My mother went to an SDA church a long time ago before having me. From what I've researched, SDA and JW are kind of cousins in a manner of speaking. Both churches split from each other. I knew of an SDA church that was renting space from a UCC (United Church of Christ) church my family was attending. They were such wonderful people and they really held to their faith. I mean they were vegetarians, had their services Saturday evenings, did NO business on that day, and they gave hefty donations to the church they were renting space from. I do hope that they will find their own church building. I have a lot of respect for SDA. Not my cup of tea, but we are united in Christ.

1 month, 1 week ago on Mia Love Elected for Congress!

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@LadyHumor @Browncow Exactly. I have a question if you don't mind answering: are you JW? The reason I'm asking is because you were talking about how your denomination is also demonized and that's the only one I can think of that is similarly looked down upon. I was raised JW until I was about 10 years old and then all of a sudden my parents stopped going to the Kingdom Hall. I still hold some very close beliefs that stem from the JW even though I'm a part of a mainline denomination (or denominations since my church has 4 and when you join, you're a member of all of them).

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Mia Love Elected for Congress!

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@ibetnoonehasthisusername What do you mean by taking voting rights away? Do you really think that the voting rights of POC is at stake? (BTW, I'm not attacking you. I just want clarification.)

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Mia Love Elected for Congress!

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@LadyHumor @Browncow Yeah, I don't remember the Whigs either. :) I do agree that people really like to have an in and out group. It makes it easier to know who your "friends" and "enemies" are. It's sad that people won't even try to understand or at least have knowledge of someone with different views. Like for example, what do folks know about Mormonism (they preferably like to be called Later Day Saints or LDS for short) other than the early church had polygamy and until 1978 they didn't allow Black males to hold clerical positions (I still give the major side eye to that. I may explain further later)? We had missionaries come to our house and they were ever so sweet. They came to our house for about a month and we exchanged ideas and we asked them questions about their faith and community. I personally don't believe that the faith is true because I've done my own research, but I do understand why people would go to that faith even if they didn't really believe it. Their community is VERY tight-knit and if you're a member, you will want for NOTHING. I have a lot of respect for them. They for the most part actually live by the standards of the church. Like who knew right? If I felt that this was even remotely true I'd be on the first thing smokin' to the Temple to get my baptism and become a member because they have their stuff together as a collective. The men are gentlemen  (for the most part) and the ladies are really nice. They are extremely family oriented. Think of Amish without shunning interactions with the world. They are also very money savvy and successful as a group. So Mia chose the right place to be and as you can see they had no issue electing her and no issue with her getting married to one of their White members because she was one of theirs through the faith. If my daughter brought home an LDS man I'd say go for it.

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Mia Love Elected for Congress!

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@ladyofmagic1974 Yep! I'm giving the major side-eye to that stupidity. 

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Mia Love Elected for Congress!

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@ladyofmagic1974 The "forgetting her history" is laughable. Her parents are from Haiti. She is a direct descendent of the people who emancipated THEMSELVES. I'm sure she knows who she is and her history which is why she thrives and is successful.

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Mia Love Elected for Congress!

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@LadyHumor I think that we should all start voting for more than GOP or Democrat. How about giving a sizable percentage of our votes to the Libertarian party, Independent Green Party, or true Independents (not Democrats or Republicans in disguise)? The two party system is broken. 


I guess we do have to start somewhere and more Black people voting for the GOP is a good start. At least the two parties will start working harder for the interests of Black people instead of just coming around during election time talking about "fried chicken". We also need to get over this visceral reaction to any mention of the GOP, Republicans, Conservatives, Tea Party, or just anything that the mainstream and the Democrat party has painted as EVIL and ANTI-Black. People don't know why others have the views that they have. I understand because I've seen both sides of it and I fall very clearly in the libertarian Republican pile beliefs-wise. All some folks will see is that I'm a person of African descent who isn't a Democrat or a Liberal and they start foaming at the mouth like they just swallowed alka seltzer tablets. They don't want to know why. It's sad.

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Mia Love Elected for Congress!

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Hooray for Mia! Way to go taking stereotypes and shattering them. I'll be keeping an eye on her. May she represent the people of her state well. :)

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Mia Love Elected for Congress!

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@onmywayup @Browncow Exactly. I was grabbed once in a club by a drunken BM who thought that he was entitled to me. He was promptly kicked out, but we were in a college town and they weren't having that. If this was a BW, then we would see the full extent of street harassment including the being cursed out and physical intimidation.

1 month, 2 weeks ago on So…Street Harassment is Important Now That White Women Are the Focus?

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@ibetnoonehasthisusername Bravo. I agree. I also use my socioeconomic status to afford me the luxury of being away from certain environments. It really saves my sanity. I've also found from my own personal experience that the WM in my environment are protective of me because they know I belong to one of their own. They see me and my kids and my wedding ring and it's all opened doors and "can I carry your bags" or "put the stroller in the car for you" (actually happens frequently). It's nice and I like being safe and raising my children in a safe place. My parents did the same for me so it would only be logical to provide a similar environment for my own children. 


Best of luck on your wedding and new home! Please send pictures!

1 month, 2 weeks ago on So…Street Harassment is Important Now That White Women Are the Focus?

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Perhaps they need to do another street harassment video with a BW instead so they can see the difference. I watched the video and though 2-3 men were a bit creepy and followed the woman, most were verbal and pretty tame. I was waiting for someone to call her a "bitch" or threaten her, but of course you aren't going to see that since she's not a BW. Had it been a BW, someone would have tried to get physical with her, threaten her, or call her some serious curse words. I've only been harassed twice in my life and that is because I vowed to stay away from DBR areas and it has served me well.

1 month, 2 weeks ago on So…Street Harassment is Important Now That White Women Are the Focus?

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@Brenda55 I just had a praise break in my family room. I agree with ALL. OF. THIS. If there could be a public announcement on a billboard, this should be it. Thank you for saying it so I didn't have to.

1 month, 4 weeks ago on Could What Ralph Richard Banks Said in His Book Be True Regarding How Swirling Might Help Black Women Marry Black Men?

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@Tempaccount You know what's funny is that some ladies in real life think that you'll make the sacrifice and will be standing there surprised when you DON'T. No sweetie, this isn't the movies. I want to live too. You either run like Flo Jo or get eaten, and since I run faster...

2 months ago on Despite “Scandal” and HTGAWM, We’re Still Fighting Against the “Mammy” Trope

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@Brenda55 Dang!!! I'm wondering how long donations will be open because I want to put a little something in from my personal funds. I'm so happy that this has happened. Sometimes these things happen for a reason. Perhaps the galvanized haters were sent to take BBW to a new level. So sorry that their hatred only ended up revealing a wonderful blessing for BW and the men who love us. We supported and caped for our own. The men, our REAL men of character, came to defend BW. Who knew, right? This is so stupendous I just can't stop grinning. Pass the troll tears this way, because I want to take a nice deep draft.

2 months ago on Video: Update on the BB&W Fund Raising Push!

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@kennaGransberg @trinigirl1 They also tend to forget on whose lap the "EVIL" WM sat when he learned all his racism.

2 months ago on Beyond Black & White Fan Page is Under Attack Again. Time to Go to War.

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@zipporah @lorelei84 That's how it happened for me! I not only stay at home, but I homeschool my kids too. (As an aside, there is a really LARGE Black homeschooling community out there. I don't join because some of them are too nationalist for me.)

2 months ago on Beyond Black & White Fan Page is Under Attack Again. Time to Go to War.

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@Andrew Mulligan @MsEva @Christelyn I hope his ass does go extinct with mush for brains like that. His genes do NOT belong in the pool.

2 months ago on Beyond Black & White Fan Page is Under Attack Again. Time to Go to War.

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@MarthaLankford @Browncow @Christelyn I don't know either. I didn't even know about that website until today. I just don't even let it into my life. I know it's Chris' job though, so she has to sear that crap into her eyeballs to keep abreast of what the enemy is doing.

2 months ago on Beyond Black & White Fan Page is Under Attack Again. Time to Go to War.

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@Christelyn You know I went there? I had to wade through a sewer of shyt to get to the post you were referring to. Those folks are messed up. IN THE HEAD. It's like they can't see at all what they're saying about BW. It's like in their diseased minds, "if I call her a sl*t, she'll come back and take my sh*t", "If I try to shame her, she'll see the "error" of her ways, "If I denigrate her and treat her like crap, she'll know I love her". These buffoons don't even know how to address a woman with respect, what to speak of love her. Yeah, you can call me all the crazy names you want, but let's get this straight; I'm respected in my home and in my community. I have the ring and his name and so do our children. They really think acting a fool is going to shame BW back to their sorry asses. Yeah, right, you keep drinking that kool-aid. I'll stay winning over here.

2 months ago on Beyond Black & White Fan Page is Under Attack Again. Time to Go to War.

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@itsgoodtobeme Wow! I didn't know that. I'm about finished with Facebook. I'm seriously considering leaving for other social media.

2 months ago on Beyond Black & White Fan Page is Under Attack Again. Time to Go to War.

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@Brenda55 I liked the page and signed the petition. We're not going to let a few fools and crabs get us down, now are we?

2 months, 1 week ago on The Death of Beyond Black & White…

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@SavageTango I agree. This male (I refuse to call him a man. A real man doesn't abuse women.) knew what he was doing. He knew that he could rape BW with impunity and nobody would care. The NAACP is trying to make this a "Black Issue" instead of what it is: RAPE. We need to keep the rape element in there because if we don't, it further plays into the stereotype that BW can't be raped. They're always ready (Jezebel). This man chose his victims because he knew more or less that he would get away with it. He almost did. He just might get away still. I don't hear any BM or WW donning their capes to come to the rescue. The head of the local NAACP didn't even want for it to be constituted as rape. WTF? So, this rapist was trying to get at BM? Really? So it's all about you again, huh? NO. This is rape. Ethnically motivated rape, yes, but rape none the less. We need to keep that in the front of the issue here. WE ARE WOMEN!!!  We can be raped. We can be taken advantage of sexually. I shudder to think that if this had been a BM police officer, there would have been NO response by the NAACP. NONE. Crickets.

2 months, 1 week ago on Cop allegedly sexually assaults eight Black women – where are the women’s groups?

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@dani-BBW @Law Wanxi I love your very objective point of view. You aren't frothing at the mouth for either side, which I find refreshing. I too see a change of the tide for the GOP. If they don't change some of their social views and become more "live and let live", they will continue to lose elections to the point that their party will become extinct. Remember the Whigs? Yeah, neither do I. I don't want this to be a case of one party rule at all because then it just becomes a big mess. Either way, it isn't very good. An Independent majority sounds like a good bet, though I do argue that being Independent is kind of code for small "l" libertarian without saying you're a libertarian.

2 months, 1 week ago on Is Greg Orman the future of American politics?

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@dani-BBW @PoetOfDarkness Yep. I read the demands and I think that the Tea Party voters will be sitting this one out. I'll be surprised if they come out to vote.

2 months, 1 week ago on Is Greg Orman the future of American politics?

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Thank you Howard Tyrone Smith II!!! You're making so much sense here and I really appreciate it. There is nothing more to say. Now I'm just waiting for the fools to show up (grabs popcorn).

2 months, 1 week ago on From a Black Man’s Mouth: About All That Hate…

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After several days of watching this post, I'm finally going to chime in. Here's my opinion:


Not all WW will be threatened by BW choosing to date/marry non-BM (WM specifically). HOWEVER, a good number of them do feel threatened. Case and point, the numbers of WW and non-BW coming on this site which discusses BW and our issues to tell us how "not threatened" they are and their own tales of woe with their BM husbands/boyfriends at the hands of BW. Really? You came all the way here to BBW to tell a bunch of BW who don't care who you're with (seriously, take ALL the BM, most of us don't care because we prefer non-BM anyway) your tales of how BW have been the worst to you because of your BM boyfriend/husband. Do you even know where you are and who you're talking to? Do you think you really have a say as to how BW in their own space conduct their conversations and voice their opinions?


How about you stick around if you want to be in sisterly love with BW and discuss our issues as empathetic allies instead of telling us it's all in our heads. How about you participate in other discussions and figure out how to be the allies you say you are to BW instead of trying to make the conversation about yourself? I've been here at BBW since the beginning and I have never seen you women here talking about any of our issues. Now that we turn the conversation to you and how some of your non-BW sisters can act a fool, you turn up? Seriously? Don't be so transparent. If you think you've fallen into a den of fools who are going to stop telling your truth, you are gladly mistaken. We have and bear no ill will towards WW or other non-BW. They are our mother-in-law, sister-in-law, aunt-in-law, and our friends. We just will not put up with the bull. Not from other BW, BM, our parents, WM, AM, HM, and lastly, not you. Sit down and learn if you want to but do not presume to come in here and try to change the subject to you. We don't let BM do it and just because you have some ovaries doesn't mean we're going to let you do it either. Our solidarity and loyalty go to those who reciprocate. Please go to the BM/non-BW love sites and tell the folks who denigrate BW to keep our names out of their mouths and enjoy their relationship. That is all. (*Drops mic, exits stage right*)

2 months, 2 weeks ago on Video: Are Black Women Who Swirl a THREAT to White Women?

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Congratulations!!! I'm so happy for you! 


Just wanted to note that they met on OkCupid. You know the notorious website that is supposed to be a dating desert for BW? This just proves that you don't need droves of men clamoring for your attention. You just need one quality man. 


All the best to the engaged couple. Please send wedding photos! :)

2 months, 2 weeks ago on Another BB&W is Getting Hitched!

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@LovelyLulu @AfroChic This reminds me of a Sudanese man who works with my husband. He said that "it seems as though Black people are brainwashed". I had to agree because being the daughter of an immigrant, I have found that unless you choose to assimilate into the Black community, there is a disconnect with the idea that we all must do you-fill-in-the-blank to be considered a "Good Black Person". We just think of ourselves as individuals that are members of a group rather than group members who must all think and act alike. There is very little room for original thought and self determination without being ostracized by the group.

2 months, 3 weeks ago on Wake Up, Black Women! IRR “Permission” Is Never Coming!

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@N2ition ".bottom my azz!!! "


Yep. Bottom my beautiful round chocolate behind that you know you wish you had naturally!!!!

2 months, 3 weeks ago on People Magazine Shows Racial Shade During Shonda Rhimes Big Network Television Night

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@thecrazyartist @Swirlgirl28 @Christelyn  @Justme65 @International_Responder The reason they refuse to get a woman over 28 is because they're now immune mostly to all the bulls#!t. They won't have it or take it from an older male who should know better.

2 months, 3 weeks ago on Black Man Admits Hood Dudes Corrupt Black Women’s Wombs Through Sabotage, But Stops Short on “Swirling” Option

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@Easybreezietreecie @Sybellis OMGoodness. I remember a BM approached me saying that he was looking for wife and he had found the one when he saw me. I told him sorry, but I'm not the one for him because I was already engaged and showed him the ring. He might not have known what a "real" engagement ring looked like so he proceeded to say, "That's a real ring?!?!" to which I replied, "Yes, it's real alright. I'm getting married in a few months". Dude was crushed, but I thought it was odd for him to come at me with the whole marriage thing. I guess I looked very wholesome so he knew he couldn't just come at me any type of way. He asked me out again though. I guess he had a short term or selective memory. Several of the BM in the building I worked in did the same thing. They expressed disbelief at my ring and still proceeded to try and "be friends". I wasn't having any of it.

2 months, 3 weeks ago on Black Man Admits Hood Dudes Corrupt Black Women’s Wombs Through Sabotage, But Stops Short on “Swirling” Option

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