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@Maragirl "5. It is on the Fox network. They are notorious for not supporting their own shows. They get a hit show and seem to do everything to get rid of it. Ex: Not advertising the hell out of it."

Firefly anyone??? 

15 hours, 12 minutes ago on Sleepy Hollow is on the Verge of Cancellation. What Happened?

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You know, this kind of reminds me of Heroes. The show started out very strong with a very diverse cast and then it turned into "parade of blondes" and "save the cheerleader" and they lost their audience. It's like Hollywood is getting a big memo that we all want more diverse shows, but they stick to the formula and even when they start off being diverse and awesome they ease back into their old patterns. We need a show that sticks to their guns and doesn't cave to a minority of viewers that don't want to see change on the television.

17 hours, 2 minutes ago on Sleepy Hollow is on the Verge of Cancellation. What Happened?

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I think what happened with Sleepy Hollow is that the second Witness Abbie Mills became a one dimensional character. Now, she is only about "The Mission". You don't see her have a personal life because she doesn't. All she thinks about is the next way to avert the apocalypse and that's about it. In season 1, she was Lt. Abbie Mills, a career driven woman who had a hot Latino ex-boyfriend also on the force and a hot Asian guy who made a deal with the big baddie in the hopes that she would be his prize. Here comes tall, hot, and British Ichabod Crane and the chemistry was undeniable. Her character has been pushed to the side even though she is supposed to be the second main ingredient in averting the "end of days". We're all getting tired of Abbie being pushed to the side for Katrina. I like the Jenny aspect and Capt. Irving, and I even think Katrina has her place in it, but the fact is that now they are being locked into their characters and not evolving. Their relationship is also not evolving. They're more "buddies" than anything else. She is even impervious to Hotley (Hawley) with his fine blonde self who clearly wants her. I don't know what's going on, but I don't like the direction the show is going. Poor Abbie needs some love too, you know. They even dropped the ball with the fallen angel Orion. She has many opportunities to get feminine, but it's like she's married to her job at the police force and as a witness so you don't see that. I hope it gets better. Well, at least we had last season.

19 hours, 14 minutes ago on Sleepy Hollow is on the Verge of Cancellation. What Happened?

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@zipporah @oceanspray Yes. Which is why I encourage American Black Women to take a page out of the African Violet or Caribbean Flower notebook. They're mating and relating to non-BM and don't have all the racial baggage. Put your bags down ladies!!! Yes, vet, vet, and vet some more, but let's not put non-BM through all the flaming hoops and loops to prove that they aren't racist. Africans and Caribbean women in America are meeting and marrying non-BM and giving no f*#ks what anybody thinks for the most part.

1 day, 15 hours ago on Anti-Swirling Black Women And You: Why Their Loudness Means Nothing To YOUR Happiness

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@kennaGransberg @Browncow @_Toni_ @Ri74 I told my sister once, "I don't do HUDbands. No HUD projects for me." I wanted a real man and I got one. It all depends on the man, but potential is for men in their late teens/early twenties, the age that men are getting their nest padded in order to be able to protect, provide, and produce. Any older and potential turns into wasted potential and that's like stale bread; it was good while it was fresh, but you can either make bread pudding, stuffing, or feed it to the birds before it turns moldy.

1 day, 20 hours ago on Anti-Swirling Black Women And You: Why Their Loudness Means Nothing To YOUR Happiness

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Great article! You get all the high fives and amens today. I especially loved this one:

 "These poor women accept the same mistreatment as par the course because they don’t know that men are supposed to treat them better, and that blaming the behavior of these damaged males on white racism is one of the biggest cop-outs in modern history."

Yes, Yes, YES!!!

1 day, 21 hours ago on Anti-Swirling Black Women And You: Why Their Loudness Means Nothing To YOUR Happiness

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@_Toni_ @Ri74 It amazes me how some women will go dumpster diving for a man and then act surprised when they end up with trash. They'll complain about it and all of that, but when a nice man comes along they don't know what to do with him because they're used to dumpster diving and getting trash. This makes my head hurt.

1 day, 21 hours ago on Anti-Swirling Black Women And You: Why Their Loudness Means Nothing To YOUR Happiness

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@Ri74 And you better believe that the black male in question saw the non-BM interacting with the two BW and came over to push them right back into the corral. He was able to exchange numbers with them both! For real?!?! Well, that's two more for the harem, I guess. :(

1 day, 21 hours ago on Anti-Swirling Black Women And You: Why Their Loudness Means Nothing To YOUR Happiness

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@BWC I just got online and I read your comment. I liked it and I agree.

2 days, 1 hour ago on ‘Ratchet’ Doesn’t Happen in a Bubble! Letter to Zane Shows Clear Timeline of What-the-Cussery

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@AllenR @Browncow @APX7000 Thanks. My father was my measuring stick of what a man should be. I would only date men who were on the path to providing for me in the same way my father did or better. No exceptions. I've found that in my loving husband.

2 days, 18 hours ago on ‘Ratchet’ Doesn’t Happen in a Bubble! Letter to Zane Shows Clear Timeline of What-the-Cussery

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@PaoloP @Bellydancer @dani-BBW This is a prime example of Black people not policing their own and allowing the lowest among them to pull down the group. The group gets screamed down if they want to police their own though and build something positive without the miscreants, and the culture of the miscreants takes hold. So now, in 2015 we have this bizzaro world culture. 


2 days, 18 hours ago on ‘Ratchet’ Doesn’t Happen in a Bubble! Letter to Zane Shows Clear Timeline of What-the-Cussery

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@zipporah @Browncow @APX7000 That means she was born in 1977 or 76. I was born in '76 so I am the same age as this girl's mother. her mother had her daughter at age 16. I barely knew what went where at that age because I was kept very innocent. My parents also didn't have us living in these hell holes where this crap happens more regularly. I had no idea any of this happened until I came to BBW. I'm so sad for Black people. Black people were better than this. They can be better than this. This hurts my heart. We had Rosewood, Black Wall Street, and other thriving communities. Yes, I know jealous whites burned those places down (on the lies of WW who cried rape), but why didn't they rebuild it? Why couldn't they make it work somewhere else? I'm going to have to look closer at the history of this as to why the Black community fell into this mire. I know some of the reasons, but government programs, and racists can only go so far carrying the blame.

2 days, 18 hours ago on ‘Ratchet’ Doesn’t Happen in a Bubble! Letter to Zane Shows Clear Timeline of What-the-Cussery

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@AllenR @APX7000 Exactly. My father came to this country back in the seventies with nothing but some brains and a bag of books. Yes, he was a bus boy, a waiter, a cashier, a cab driver, and a construction worker all while going to school or waiting for security clearance in his STEM profession. He is no slouch and yes, he encountered racism from both Black Americans and White Americans, but he just shrugged that mess off and kept it moving. He's successful.

2 days, 20 hours ago on ‘Ratchet’ Doesn’t Happen in a Bubble! Letter to Zane Shows Clear Timeline of What-the-Cussery

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@BWC @Browncow I don't even know where to start. If you start talking too much common sense folks will call you a sellout or that you want to "assimilate" them like it's a bad thing or something. They think they're low. So they act accordingly. Then act surprised when people stop feeling sorry for them and their situation. People don't feel sorry for these folks anymore. This segment of the Black community is generations deep in this mess. Only a few get out. The rest don't see anything wrong with it. This young lady is finally seeing that there is something wrong with this thank God, but now she's 7 children into it and has a very long way to dig herself out of the ditch she fell into. I will pray for her tonight. This is a shame and the reason I get so angry is because I know that Black people are BETTER THAN THIS! It's infuriating!

2 days, 20 hours ago on ‘Ratchet’ Doesn’t Happen in a Bubble! Letter to Zane Shows Clear Timeline of What-the-Cussery

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@APX7000 Really? So once we get rid of all the racial and systemic oppression, we can address this fuckery of a letter and the many generations that will be ruined because of a lack of personal responsibility?!?! Was "The Man (tm)" around when this girl was being victimized by a 30 year old male?!?! Did "The Man (tm)" make every single one of these males abandon their children? Did "The Man (tm)" make this girl have 7 children by the time she was 23? Did "The Man (tm)" make her mother become a mother to the tune of 12 children and who knows how many men? This isn't a racism issue. This is a fucked up culture issue!!!! It won't matter if we get rid of all the racists on the planet if the culture is fucked up. Please take that blame anybody else except Black people for the degeneration of their culture shit somewhere else. 



*Sorry mods. This really burns my potatoes. I hope you can please forgive the cursing.*

2 days, 20 hours ago on ‘Ratchet’ Doesn’t Happen in a Bubble! Letter to Zane Shows Clear Timeline of What-the-Cussery

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This is so terribly sad. :( Seven children by age 23! Unless you got married very early and are a part of a religious cult, I don't understand this. I believe that this young lady needs to get her tubes tied AND burnt. Unfortunately, her first experience was with a pedophile, an immature childman who preyed on this young lady. But the babies just kept coming. We need to teach our children about how pregnancy happens. Get your daughter Taking Charge of Your Fertility and learn how and why you get pregnant. I can't imagine having so many children at age 38. I'm 38 right now and I have a 6 year old, a 4 year old, and a 9 month old baby. I don't see myself having grandchildren until I'm at least knocking on 60 which to me is a perfect grandma age. 

My other point is that the boyfriend is ignorant. He says it's nobody's business how many children she has. I say that it is my business when I'm paying for it through my tax dollars. Section 8, food stamps, daycare, and cash are NOT FREE. They come from somewhere and if you aren't paying for it yourself, then someone else is. I truly feel for this girl. She has fallen down the hole of rachetness and I pray to God that she gets out of it. I also feel for her sons. They have no father and the only father figure that they have is baby daddy number 6 and he has 3 baby mommas and 5 kids that he "takes care of" himself. I'm just shaking my head at the craziness. This is why a certain segment of Black America will stay at the bottom as a permanent underclass. If you live there, get out while you can.

3 days ago on ‘Ratchet’ Doesn’t Happen in a Bubble! Letter to Zane Shows Clear Timeline of What-the-Cussery

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Hey sis with the same first name! Beautiful story! All the best to you and Michael. :)

3 days ago on Michael and Kemi – A BB&W Google+ Community Love Connection

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@jazzyfae45 He's not talking about his marriage. He's talking about WM/BW marriages aren't traditional. Yeah. If he's married to a WW well more power to him, but now I see more of the picture. He's one of those, "I married a WW because BW are (you fill in the blank of negative stereotypes)" instead of "I married Elizabeth because I love her and these are her qualities..." (emphasis and fake name are mine)

1 week ago on Conservative White Men Married to Black Women Sound Off on Jesse Peterson Bigotry

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@Miss Steph Exactly. This non-apology had quite a few barbs in it. He said that he married interracial couples. I can only guess which combination he married since he wants to act so surprised that BW and WM get married to each other. You would think that a black conservative would know there are prominent black conservative women who are married to WM like Deneen Borelli. He's still telling BW that "You're angry. Stop being angry." BW will stop being angry when black males stop throwing us up under the bus every time it comes around. BW will stop being angry when black males stop driving the bus we get thrown under most of the time. When black males start to get their crap together and rebuild the community and the trust that comes with it, then BW will stop being angry. Until then, it's too little, too late and no we aren't coming back home.

1 week ago on Conservative White Men Married to Black Women Sound Off on Jesse Peterson Bigotry

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@kennaGransberg Yes, and it took WM to come at him with questions and defending BW for this male to "kind of" explain himself. This male is black and male first. So his loyalty is to his race and gender. In their eyes it doesn't serve them to encourage BW to go out and get the best man she can. It reduces the number of available wombs to create more black males for the collective. This is just my opinion.

1 week, 1 day ago on Conservative White Men Married to Black Women Sound Off on Jesse Peterson Bigotry

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I am so happy that these MEN came to the defense of their wives, marriages, you, me, and BW everywhere. I am truly happy that the actions and words of these MEN are speaking loud and clear that they will NOT tolerate racism no matter where it comes from. My husband and I are Libertarians that lean conservative on many issues, so we aren't having any of that foolishness. This is a great lesson to not only "Reverend" Peterson, but also to BW that there are many conservatives that look at you as an individual and many of the differences are cultural and not "racial". God bless those MEN (I'm using all caps because they are exemplifying the definition of man in my eyes by putting on the cape for BW while other males have and would simply join in the fun of tearing BW down).

1 week, 1 day ago on Conservative White Men Married to Black Women Sound Off on Jesse Peterson Bigotry

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Thank you for this. I didn't know about what happened in Nigeria until I was looking for world news. My sister also informed me of this great tragedy. My father is Nigerian and I do have a connection to the culture even though I was raised American. My identity as a person of African descent in the U.S. is more wrapped up in being ethnic (Nigerian, Yoruba to be exact) than anything else. My heart also hurt with both the tragedy in France as well as in Nigeria. I pray for our fellow human beings that we may one day stop fighting each other.

1 week, 2 days ago on A Nigerian in Paris – Torn between 2 Terrors  

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@trinigirl1 @Browncow @Christelyn  @LiberianAdonis I actually don't feel sad for him. I wish you could have heard my sarcasm when I was typing. :)

1 week, 2 days ago on WTF? Worst and Most Racist Interview Ever!!

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@Christelyn  @LiberianAdonis Thanks. I almost feel sad for him. He obviously had neither the logic, nor the mental capacity to argue his point. It's kind of like throwing sticks and rocks at a ballistic missile.

1 week, 2 days ago on WTF? Worst and Most Racist Interview Ever!!

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@LiberianAdonis And having children with a meth head is comparable to the women here who are either middle class or upwardly mobile themselves? Seriously? You're going to go with this flimsy logic? Do you honestly think that the BW here are going to trade shit on a shingle for a shit sandwich? Really? Why are you here? Oh yeah, to try and scare BW away from dating and marrying out. Sorry, that ship has left the port and SAILED. Scaremongering is one of the final tactics you guys have. "Don't go out or you'll be SORRY!!!" That's right up there with "They're only using you for sex." Yeah, and the 73% out of wedlock birth rate is an indicator that BW are so cherished and loved by black males and haven't been used for sex repeatedly to the point that we have generations of fatherless, nameless people.

1 week, 3 days ago on WTF? Worst and Most Racist Interview Ever!!

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@LiberianAdonis Oh please. Yes, this story is tragic, but it PALES in comparison to the number of BW killed, raped, beaten, robbed, left with children, that black males do to BW. Spare me your ONE example. There are more than enough examples of BW being treated shitty by black males. Your one example does nothing to change the fact that black males aren't doing SHIT to protect, provide for, and produce for BW on a large scale. GTFOHWTBS!

1 week, 3 days ago on WTF? Worst and Most Racist Interview Ever!!

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@wanderingdreamer @zipporah @ShunJAY @The Working Home Keeper @Browncow Stacy on the Right is on my toolbar! I love her! She's logical, to the point, and takes no crap. I haven't taken the time to listen to her lately though (busy with schooling the boys and taking care of the princess).

1 week, 3 days ago on WTF? Worst and Most Racist Interview Ever!!

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@MeliaFavors @Taiyl00 Also these same idiots think that their mythical genitalia are the only thing they have to offer a woman, because for the most part, financial stability and fidelity don't seem to be high on the priority list for those types of males.

1 week, 3 days ago on WTF? Worst and Most Racist Interview Ever!!

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@lili2009 @Browncow @ShunJAY Actually, I don't think it is difficult to find a conservative BM who doesn't hold extremist views. Mr. Hannity decided to give the mike to this male. I don't know why. I know some conservative BM (my father and brother) who are awesome. They just don't pull any punches and they will always look at all sides before saying anything. This dude Mr. Peterson was a preacher and it's so sad that he calls himself a Christian, but leans on some of the most divisive views. I thought for those of us who follow Jesus that God "makes no distinctions". So if God makes no distinctions, but Mr. Peterson and that white female caller do, then they are not following Christ or God for that matter.

1 week, 3 days ago on WTF? Worst and Most Racist Interview Ever!!

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@tufayyur1 @Browncow @ShunJAY Really? Have you listened to more than just a few sound bites and a carefully constructed narrative? I have listened to him every day for over a year before they pulled his radio show in my area. He isn't racist. I stand by previous statement. Can you give me some examples? Well researched examples? What "lies" has he said about Arabs and Muslims in general? Have you done any research as to whether what he says is a lie or is the truth? I'd like to know. Seriously. I'm not trying to attack you.

1 week, 3 days ago on WTF? Worst and Most Racist Interview Ever!!

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@itsgoodtobeme It is always the tactic of the illogical to shout down the other person so that the opposing view doesn't get heard. It is also a case of a white female who is angry that BW are starting to get some nice WM and where will that leave her white daughters and granddaughters? She has a deep interest in keeping BW down in the minds of WM and other non-BM, thus the whole Ali quote. I guess she thinks that all BW are worth is men who have no intention of building community with them. I hope her son or grandson brings home a nice BW.

1 week, 3 days ago on WTF? Worst and Most Racist Interview Ever!!

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Okay, I know who this guy is just by his voice. I am thoroughly disappointed. I guess at the end of the day, he is still just a black male trying to protect the harem and throw WM off the scent that BW are FABULOUS and make awesome wives and mothers. It's too late though because WM are wise to the fact that BW have been getting bad PR from not only black males, but their sister soldiers and some WW who still want to be at the top of the totem pole. It's a sad thing, but I guess this man still puts "race" above character when it comes to BW dating and mating out. If he really wanted what was best for BW, he would be telling BW to RUN and like Lot's wife DON'T LOOK BACK. 


I will be writing Mr. Peterson to ask him why my marriage isn't traditional, as I am a woman and my husband is a man. I am also a stay at home mother and it doesn't get much more traditional than that.

1 week, 3 days ago on WTF? Worst and Most Racist Interview Ever!!

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@ShunJAY Perhaps we need to write Mr. Hannity about this recent interview and tell him our displeasure and to actually listen to all of the racist BS this person was spewing. I've listened to Mr. Hannity and I agree that he isn't racist, but he may also be very unaware of the intraracism that occurs between black males and BW.

1 week, 3 days ago on WTF? Worst and Most Racist Interview Ever!!

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@caribbeanlady *golf claps* You hit the nail dead on the head.

1 week, 3 days ago on WTF? Worst and Most Racist Interview Ever!!

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@pyrrhicvictorylap @Browncow Then please enlighten me on the liberal push back on conservative positions. I'm talking policy, not just personal attacks and feel good policies that end up causing more harm than good. I'm talking about things that work. Yes, I can believe that Fox News put this guy in there to be the liberal fall guy, but it seems as though this is how he really thinks. He's not faking it. So I really want to know what the liberal policies are that are going to transform and make our country a better place because so far, all I've seen is a whole can of crazy. The thing is that the republicans in principle have some good things to offer, but they have a whole other can of crazy waiting for us.

1 week, 5 days ago on Don’t You Just Love it When Racists Slip? Fox News Guest, Bob Beckel Equates ‘Intercultural Dating’ with Radical Islam

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@SirLoinDeBeef We're on the same page then. You lean a little more libertarian than you think.

1 week, 5 days ago on Don’t You Just Love it When Racists Slip? Fox News Guest, Bob Beckel Equates ‘Intercultural Dating’ with Radical Islam

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@Cami2210 @darkandlovely I'm going to jump into this one. You are certainly assuming quite a bit with your statement "but the world will be a better place with all those republican bigots over 65 are dead." Did you not read the update at the bottom? The person who said those statements wasn't republican, but a DEMOCRAT. We have to take people on a case by case basis because what you just said is exactly why the term "low information voter" exists. You just spat out the drum beat you've been conditioned to play; "All Republicans are racists. All racists are Republicans. Imhotep...." Look, I'm not saying that Republicans are pure or wonderful, but let's please stop with the generalizations about them. Believe it or not the parties did NOT switch sides. Only one dixiecrat did and remained a republican and that was Strom Thurmond. The others went right back to being democrats. They just stopped making their racism public and the propaganda machine put it down the memory hole while at the same time pointed the racism charge on the republicans who are still to this day trying to shake it off. 

I take people as individuals. Yes, I see trends in groups as a whole, but the most racist issues I've ever had were with people who aligned themselves with the democrat party and that includes the "soft bigotry of low expectations". My democrat mother-in-law was the one who initially had a problem with me, not my republican father-in-law who looked at me as an individual and welcomed me with open arms no questions asked. I also do my research before making a statement because if I go with my emotions all half cocked I'm bound to make a mistake. For the record should anyone choose to read for comprehension, I am not a republican. I am not a democrat either. I do align myself with more conservative principles depending on the subject and it isn't so cut and dry either. There are layers to an issue. So let's not lump me into a giant box yet and you may be surprised at how we will agree on certain subjects. I just don't like the blanket statements. If you really want to know about political parties, look to their history, and the principles upon which they were founded. I personally think we need more than the two party system. At this point, I consider the two parties as being a snake with two heads.

1 week, 5 days ago on Don’t You Just Love it When Racists Slip? Fox News Guest, Bob Beckel Equates ‘Intercultural Dating’ with Radical Islam

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@Christelyn  @Myka Fisher @Browncow Dang! I didn't even get to see what was posted! I'm so slow... Yeah, you are right. I was talking about libs in general. I missed it! Thanks for the support, Chris.

2 weeks ago on Don’t You Just Love it When Racists Slip? Fox News Guest, Bob Beckel Equates ‘Intercultural Dating’ with Radical Islam

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Well then. Thanks for clearing that one up. The person in question is a LIBERAL DEMOCRAT. It will all get swept under the rug now. Nothing to see here folks. He's a liberal, so that makes what he said okay. I just cant with the Democrat party or the Republican party. Part of the reason why I'm a Libertarian.

2 weeks ago on Don’t You Just Love it When Racists Slip? Fox News Guest, Bob Beckel Equates ‘Intercultural Dating’ with Radical Islam

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@trinigirl1 @_Toni_ @Brenda55 There is always another one to take the last idiot's place. Always.

2 weeks, 3 days ago on AM/BW: “Never Settle for Secrecy”

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@darkandlovely @Keioni Well they can keep on sticking together. BW will just MOVE ON.

2 weeks, 4 days ago on AM/BW: “Never Settle for Secrecy”

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@Keioni Exactly. This fool comes in here to drop turds of "knowledge" on a woman who is telling her story while at the same time telling us that he never confronts the MEN who are cheating on their wives and bringing OOW children into this world that they have no intention of caring for. This boy needs to sit down.

2 weeks, 4 days ago on AM/BW: “Never Settle for Secrecy”

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@MamieMooney  " HOWEVER the Asian culture is a collective one where loyalty to family and happiness of the family unit is more important that that of the individual."

"The needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few. Or the one."-Vulcan proverb

2 weeks, 4 days ago on AM/BW: “Never Settle for Secrecy”

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@kismepodcast Dang. That's terrible. I can guess at your name. It kind of sounds like Nikki, but it isn't "Nikki" am I correct? If not don't worry. I have one of the most common names given to a Yoruba girl. People still call me "Kimmy". I have many cousins with this name and growing up in the U.S. it's still hard to see 50 other girls with my name because I was the only one for so long.

2 weeks, 4 days ago on AM/BW: “Never Settle for Secrecy”

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I agree with the article. We need more than the usual stories being told again and again ad nauseam. The nerd in me actually would love to see a fantasy film or story set in an African or at least an international setting where Black people have powers or something like that. I loved Avatar: The Last Airbender, but the issue I took with it was the fact that there was an entire planet that was "Asian" except for when the so-called Asian characters looked white. It was really frustrating, but the writers and animators said that was what they wanted to show to be and it's still making money. I even watched the follow up story Legend of Korra and that was good too until you got to the ending. Anyways, I wish that there were fantasy stories with lots of African like characters as well. Like "The Kingdom of Kush: Legacy" or something like that. It could be based on old African lore of people who could fold space and such. It would make some money somewhere if the story was compelling enough. I think the people are ready for such a story to be told in animation or in a film. Anyways, I'm no writer, but I love stuff like this and I feel a bit left out of it. Maybe since Tyler Perry can do an animated Madea, he can put into production something a little more majestic. Just a thought.

2 weeks, 4 days ago on Civil Rights: Can We Focus Less on Marching and ‘The Struggle?’

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@MsEva Yes, there are many WWII movies out there, but those are mostly about victory and triumph over adversity and beating the bad guys. She's talking about having historical movies that are more than about "the struggle". As a culture Black America wallows in this "struggle" to the point that they use it as an excuse NOT to succeed. We need more triumphant stories or just stories that paint Black people as more than down trodden.


2 weeks, 4 days ago on Civil Rights: Can We Focus Less on Marching and ‘The Struggle?’

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@MelissaCifelli Thanks for sharing. My brother went through some similar situations with his former girlfriends. One girl was half Korean half White and both the parents were racist. Go figure? One girl was white trash and we told him that she was and why would he make concessions for white trash when he would be caught dead with black trash. Anyways, good for you for choosing yourself and your future life over the wishes of your father. At the end of days he'll be gone and it will just be you and your regrets. If he doesn't come around, he can kick rocks. You have a good life with your man and when/if he asks you to get married, go for it. All the best to you and your boyfriend.

2 weeks, 4 days ago on AM/BW: “Never Settle for Secrecy”

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Thank you for this. This was my experience with my first boyfriend. He was Asian and 1 1/2 generation (born in Cambodia, raised in the U.S. after they came as refugees) too. I was the one that he only wanted at school. At school and at the Asian student conferences I was his woman and he showed me off to any and everybody (I can admit that I was freaking HOT back then). When we got too close to his neighborhood, however, he was always looking over his shoulder and didn't want for anybody to see us together for fear that someone who knew the family would see us. When I finally was introduced to his family it was as a "friend" to which his mother made sure that she told him that we had better remain friends. When his father had a stroke and was put on dialysis, I was the one who sat with him during his treatments and helped his mother by taking the grandchildren on my days off from school and work. When it dawned on his mother that we were more than friends, she decided to send him to every wedding in the community as it is a good way of meeting potential mates. She also gave me the cold shoulder. Yes, all that saving face, Asian hospitality BS went right out the window. She didn't speak to me. She didn't speak much English to begin with, but she was so totally rude. The rest of the family was a little bit better and his brother's wife and I are old college friends to this day. I was so very hurt and it completely opened my eyes to how things really are with Asians. It's all hello and smiles until you want to marry one of their own for the most part. I also felt used. Yes, used. VERY USED. I gave this guy my virginity (well I was kind of tricked out of it, but that's another story) and if I could take it back from him I would. It's been 20 years and I would take it back in a heartbeat. He wasn't worth that prize. So yes, I feel you, sister. I feel you deeply on this one. I'm so happy you told your story. As for me, I'm happily married and I'll stick with White men thank you very much.

2 weeks, 4 days ago on AM/BW: “Never Settle for Secrecy”

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Delightful! Winter weddings are so magical. Congratulations to the newlyweds. Many years of happiness and children and all of the good things life has to offer. :)

2 weeks, 6 days ago on Winter Wedding!

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I can't disagree with Neecy. I have a light skinned baby girl now and I don't even think about her skin color. She's my baby. I also don't want for her to be mistreated by people because of her skin color. My own mother is light skinned so I have seen it from both angles as I have said in the previous discussion. If some women have an issue with light skinned women, what will it be when you have a light skinned daughter with your non-BM? Will you resent the fact that she's the very image of the women that got "all the black boys" growing up? Or will you love your child, acknowledge her beauty, raise her to be self confident, and also give her the warning she needs when it come to color struck men? Let's not think that just because your girl's skin is light that she will have it easy. She will be approached and ogled by some very unsavory males/boys. She needs to be prepared for that. She also needs sympathy when/if she is ostracized by hurt darker girls who are trying to "take her down a peg or two". It's important to know that the day will come when you have a little one and unless you're with a dark skinned non-BM, s/he will more than likely be of a lighter complexion.

3 weeks, 2 days ago on Colorism: The conversation continues.

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