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@Brenda55 @Savannah18121@ChristianHutchinson "How many of you readers have brothers, cousins, sons, uncles, co-workers,male friends who have presented a non-black women to become a member of your own families and social circle? Many of you have posted this right here in this space. We see this and know it to be a fact."

I'm raising my hand here. My brother will be marrying a nice Korean girl from South Korea this year. We love her and she's family and that's that. My brother mind you ended up with this girl after dating many different types of women, but found that he had a particular fondness for Asian women. He actually is one of those BM who really doesn't give a crap about who BW date and marry. He's all about peace, but that's how we were raised. 

As for your other comments, I agree wholeheartedly with you on your previous points. I also do not believe that BW should be on the front lines for BM. Why? What for? Do BM do anything extra special to uplift BW to deserve this type of loyalty? NO. So move on ladies. Move on.

1 day, 12 hours ago on As If! Michael Baisden Asks Why More Black Women Don’t Date Interracially. Come On, Son! You Know Why!

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@VictoriaAntoine Do you get approached by BM mostly online even though you state your preferences? That seems to be a pattern with BW dating online looking for non-black men. The black males will come out of the woodwork trying to score the black chick who doesn't want them in the first place. Just curious...

2 weeks ago on Buzzfeed Does Creative Video On Who’s Most Interested in Interracial Dating. What’s Your Take?

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@PamelaFoster @creneetweet Can you please explain your view on voting rights? I just want some clarification on this before I may possibly respond.

2 weeks ago on African vs. African American: Can We Still Legitimately Claim Racism When Folks that Look Just Like Us Come Here and WIN?!

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What does this "study" say? Well, nothing we don't already know. Do I care? Well, no. You don't have to have everybody wanting you. I think that's the jedi mind trick that's being played here. It's the "oh, you aren't wanted by most other men, so you aren't worth it" bulls#!t that's been spouted over and over again ad nauseam. What BW need to understand is that you only need ONE person. You aren't going to marry a harem of men so why does it matter whether or not a majority of a group of men is interested in you? It's their loss, really.

2 weeks ago on Buzzfeed Does Creative Video On Who’s Most Interested in Interracial Dating. What’s Your Take?

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@Charl3 You just reached into my childhood! You even thought of being mediocre and they would cuss you out! One of my siblings liked to loaf about and not do their work. She had terrible grades and was influenced by the lesser folks she surrounded  herself with. When it was time to graduate from high school, no college would take her and one said they might on the condition that she did a good job at the community college for a year. My parents were pissed. Then she got accepted to some third rate college that would coddle her and stroke her precious ego and my parents said no. They were not going to foot the bill for her to go to school and flunk out. Her other friends went to college as well and only like two graduated. The serious one who got good grades anyway and another who had to transfer schools a couple of times to finish up. My sister went to community college and once again messed around with that too. So she never completed her education. She's lucky though. She still managed to marry a decent person and stays at home now. So you never know.

2 weeks, 1 day ago on African vs. African American: Can We Still Legitimately Claim Racism When Folks that Look Just Like Us Come Here and WIN?!

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@DWB Not only that, the African immigrants may only cause resentment because then they're considered the "model Black people". African immigrants may look similar, but culturally are quite different so there will be not a lot in common and I've found that the lowest influence usually takes over in these situations.

2 weeks, 1 day ago on African vs. African American: Can We Still Legitimately Claim Racism When Folks that Look Just Like Us Come Here and WIN?!

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I know that growing up, my parents (1 African immigrant, one Black American) emphasized getting an education and that included becoming a tradesman in order to maintain a middle class lifestyle. They also told me not to be bringing any babies home or I would be ON MY OWN. I do recall seeing a documentary called Runaway Slave about Black conservatives and the main person in the film asked an African immigrant why they are so successful. He said, that they who are from Africa come to the States and they see opportunity all around us while Black Americans only see obstacles. Makes sense to me. My father was discriminated against by both Whites and Black Americans, but he didn't allow that to keep him from succeeding. It didn't keep his friends from coming to the U.S. and Canada and kicking a$$ either.

2 weeks, 1 day ago on African vs. African American: Can We Still Legitimately Claim Racism When Folks that Look Just Like Us Come Here and WIN?!

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@DWB Al has a target on his back. He just "might" end up having a little "accident" some time.

2 weeks, 1 day ago on BB&W Blogger, “Zac”: Al Sharpton Snitched for the Mob?! Please, Sweet Black Baby Jesus Let This Be True.

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@Brenda55 Thanks for posting the link. I love WAOD and reading this really brings it home. I agree emphatically with the entire blog post. It is a must read.

2 weeks, 6 days ago on Take a Look at This EBONY News Release and Tell Me What’s Wrong.

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@Justme65 @chocolateadmiralExactly. I apologize in advance because I'm tired and irritable, but my question is the same as yours. Why must ALL of society come together to help you up? What are you doing to help yourself? Are you THAT WEAK?!?!?! It's pathetic! It's like everybody owes  these dudes something. You mean you can't look at successful actual men and use that as the fuel you need to get ahead? You don't want to be impoverished, guess what? Graduate from high school, take up a trade if college isn't for you, and GET MARRIED before having any babies. The odds will be in your favor and no that doesn't mean you'll be living in an upper-middle class neighborhood, but it beats the hood, right? Dang! It's like common sense just doesn't even get mentioned. Rant over...

3 weeks ago on Take a Look at This EBONY News Release and Tell Me What’s Wrong.

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@mystikspiral"Personally, I feel dismissing someone's opinion based on their ethnicity (or any other aspect of outward appearance) is a lame cop-out for an argument too weak to stand on it's own merits."

BOOM. This is a great response. My sentiments exactly.

3 weeks, 4 days ago on My Take on the Jamilah Lemieux Liberal vs. Conservative Kerfuffle

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@Brenda55 @Soul_IncitesYes, many of us are more liberal as it pertains to social stuff (I count myself in that number) and I appreciate the various political differences and ideas that we can express here.

3 weeks, 4 days ago on My Take on the Jamilah Lemieux Liberal vs. Conservative Kerfuffle

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@dani-BBW @Browncow@SirLoinDeBeefOh, thanks for the clarification. I obviously don't use Twitter because I just don't. Not my thing. So thanks again.

3 weeks, 5 days ago on My Take on the Jamilah Lemieux Liberal vs. Conservative Kerfuffle

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@DWB @vivi_25@mystikspiral At this point, I don't really care. I think he's just as cute as can be. If I were a young lady, I'd be trying to figure a way to trip and fall into his arms. He's very good looking in my opinion.

3 weeks, 6 days ago on My Take on the Jamilah Lemieux Liberal vs. Conservative Kerfuffle

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@BeautyIAM @BrowncowNo problem. I enjoy passing on some knowledge if I have some to pass on. You don't have to agree with it, but look at it with an open mind and heart. It's hard at first stepping out of your comfort zone whether it's dating, where you live, or political, but the thing is that there is a freedom in knowing you actually have these options. Take the cream and throw the rest out. I'm happy to have been some assistance to you. :)

3 weeks, 6 days ago on My Take on the Jamilah Lemieux Liberal vs. Conservative Kerfuffle

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@SirLoinDeBeef Don't feel bad. I'm not in your age group and I didn't know that there was a "black twitter" either. I don't know why Black folks are always going out of their way to separate themselves from everyone else. Black Twitter. Like the original one wasn't bad enough.

3 weeks, 6 days ago on My Take on the Jamilah Lemieux Liberal vs. Conservative Kerfuffle

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@ladyofmagic1974 @Browncow@BeautyIAMYes. It's like they have dumped their own identity to become step-Middle Eastern people. You can't say anything bad about that place in the world or it's people even though some of them want to blow us up and are terrorizing/murdering Christians and other religious minorities in the name of their faith which they claim is a religion of peace. Sorry, they used to be able to claim that. Like when they used to rule Spain, but not anymore. Sorry to go off topic but this burns my potatoes too.

3 weeks, 6 days ago on My Take on the Jamilah Lemieux Liberal vs. Conservative Kerfuffle

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@BeautyIAM @BrowncowAlright, I get where you're coming from. I used to feel the same way a LONG time ago. You may want to look up Frederick Douglass Republicans which is run by a BM and his site is really great with educating about the true principles of Republicanism and not the crap we have now. As for being condescending, I find liberals to be way too condescending for my taste. They seem to make victims of everybody, give the so-called victims a pat on the head and tell them that they don't need to take personal responsibility for their actions because it's really someone else' fault, namely their own so-called political enemies or the rich (who BTW own them through campaign donations-it's on both sides too not just the liberals). There is just so much to sift through. 

You may also wish to look up Derrick Grayson who is running for US Senate in Georgia. He is also a BM who just reminds me of the older men in my family who have common sense. He is so amazing and he's getting it from both sides as well because he is really looking out for the people and their liberties. Those are two great sources of knowledge I think and they are going into the BC and trying to start a dialogue. One thing they complain about is the same thing most of us do about there not being conservatives coming into the communities to spread a different message.

3 weeks, 6 days ago on My Take on the Jamilah Lemieux Liberal vs. Conservative Kerfuffle

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@DWB @Browncow@vivi_25@thecrazyartist Exactly! I'm like Kumar in Harold and Kumar escape from Guantanamo: "Black? Dude, you're barely brown." I have cousins on my mother's side you would swear were white, but guess what? They are "Black". Seriously?

3 weeks, 6 days ago on My Take on the Jamilah Lemieux Liberal vs. Conservative Kerfuffle

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@BeautyIAM Coddling does not equal "care". I for one am happy that Ebony apologized and believe that we need to have more diversity of opinion. All too often when people start talking about conservativism or libertarianism, Black people turn their brains off and just repeat the drum beat of "conservatives and other non-democrats are racist and don't care about black people". It's like a brainwashing program takes over and you can't say anything that contradicts what liberals want you to think. I'm not saying agree with everything conservatives/libertarians have to say, I'm just saying perhaps be the open-minded, tolerant folks you say you are and listen to a differing viewpoint without your heads exploding. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and I wouldn't make blanket statements and generalizations about groups of folks without seeing what they have to offer first.

3 weeks, 6 days ago on My Take on the Jamilah Lemieux Liberal vs. Conservative Kerfuffle

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@vivi_25 @thecrazyartistYou see, here in the U.S. due to the "one drop" rule you can have 1/8 African ancestry and be considered "black". Well that was way back in the day. So you have people who are obviously ethnically mixed staying that they're fully black because of the racial purity thing from a couple of generations back. They may have 3 white grandparents and look white, but will swear on a stack of bibles that they are black. Africans don't have the same loose rules of who is in and who is not in. They have purity rules as well. In my father's country, I'm considered "mixed" though here in the states I'm considered black because my mother is Black American and is mixed with other stuff as well. I don't get it either. My kids are ethnically mixed and the one drop rule will not be taught in my house.

3 weeks, 6 days ago on My Take on the Jamilah Lemieux Liberal vs. Conservative Kerfuffle

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@Keyasha They aren't men. They're boys at best and he-b!tches at worst. They're in COMPETITION with BW. They can't compete with actual men so they compete with women in the worst cattiest way. They talk about looks and other superficial crap because they're superficial. No substance. Nothing to offer and nothing to contribute to society other than negative stats. Sorry to say, but that's just the truth of it.

3 weeks, 6 days ago on Did You Know? Black Women Are Bashed On You Tube for Page Views.

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Nothing new here. If you are a black conservative be prepared to have your racial loyalty questioned followed by a barrage of insults and personal attacks. You'll be called "Uncle Tom" (don't understand that because he was the hero in Uncle Tom's cabin. Read the freaking book already!), sell-out, race traitor, token, white washed, etc..Sound familiar? Any time you step away from the group-think, you will be shamed back to your place and told to shut up. Also sound familiar. Because we're all supposed to think alike, vote alike, have similar values (or lack of values thereof), and speak alike. No thoughts or actions contrary to the borg collective will be tolerated. Resistance is futile.

3 weeks, 6 days ago on My Take on the Jamilah Lemieux Liberal vs. Conservative Kerfuffle

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@RogerTheSpear" I am just a plain white boy."

Okay. We need to stop referring to White males/men as boys. You RogerTheSpear are a man. You protect, provide for, and produce for your girlfriend. That is a man. My husband does the same for me. He is a man. Brenda55's husband SirLoinDeBeef protects, provides for, and produces for her. He is a man. Any person with a penis who engages in these activities is a man. A man has no need to tear down women. The males bashing BW on youtube and other social media are boys. They CANNOT compete with actual men so they tear down and denigrate women. Period. White males for the most part are MEN. They don't go around trashing White women and making videos about how white women are terrible and they hate them. Are there some boys in the bunch? Yes, but for the most part these are MEN. Same goes for Latinos, Asians, European, Africans, etc. They don't do this. They are MEN. These Black boys are not. Please don't sell yourself short by calling yourself "boy". You aren't.

3 weeks, 6 days ago on Did You Know? Black Women Are Bashed On You Tube for Page Views.

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@Karla @BrowncowWe've been here for a year and a half. My in-laws own the house we live in so we rent from them. It's a wonderful arrangement. They also live in the area like a mile from our house.

1 month ago on A True WTF Moment…When a Gym Manager Tells a Black Woman She’s Too Fit.

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@Karla @BrowncowDang! Tell me about it! Is it the King of Kings or is there another one that I don't know about? I go to UCP out in Reston. You could totally walk to my house! This is great!

1 month ago on A True WTF Moment…When a Gym Manager Tells a Black Woman She’s Too Fit.

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Congratulations! This is exactly what this website is about. Expanding your options to make the best possible life for BW and Girls. You're really living it and I tip my hat to you.

1 month ago on BB&W Fan, ‘Dr. PhillyGirl’: How International Travel Changed My Life

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"Don’t get me wrong. As a parent of four, I have spanked my children. But it was never the first and only resort, and that stopped after my child reached age 8. After that, spanking is useless."

This. In our house, we do other things to discipline the children and we only use spanking as a very last resort. It's still on the table, but after a certain age, we're not doing it anymore. We use the star system at our house with a picture of the child with laminated stars. When they do well, they gain a star up to 5 stars at which point they can play with all their toys and watch whatever approved video they want (up to two hours a day, except no media Sundays). When you lose stars you lose the cooler toys and television privileges. This works more for our Littles than anything else. We also talk to them and ask them why they got into trouble. If after we have done all of that and they still want to act crazy, then a tap on the bottom or hand is what they get. There is a difference between spanking and beating the shit out of your kids. I won't watch the video. I don't think I need my blood pressure to go up.

1 month ago on Video: Okay I’ve Had Enough! Black Parents, You’re Not Superior for Beating the Snot Out of Your Kids!

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@Karla @BrowncowWill do!!!! I'm looking for a good zumba class and a nice yoga class as well. I'm looking to just pay for a class series like belly dancing, zumba, bollywood workout, or yoga. I have two other littles at home so the swim classes sound like something right up our alley. We live in Greenbriar so you know that's way close. I'll send you an e-mail soon. :)

1 month ago on A True WTF Moment…When a Gym Manager Tells a Black Woman She’s Too Fit.

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@Karla Don't tell me you live THAT close to me! I live right on the edge of the town you go to the gym. Heck, I've probably seen you at the Whole Foods and not even noticed. Thanks for the tip on the gym. I think I'll pay a visit there after I get the green light from the midwives when the baby's born. :)

1 month ago on A True WTF Moment…When a Gym Manager Tells a Black Woman She’s Too Fit.

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I loved this entire video. The music took me back to when I was a teenager, especially with SWV! For the young ones here, there used to be a time when we would have our blank cassette tapes set up to record songs off the radio. No Ipod, or Itunes, or any of that. We had to wait by the stereo for our song to come on. Jon B, SWV, and New Kids on the Block were the ones I would wait hours to hear on the radio so I could record the song and listen to it all day and all night. The song sounded grainy off the radio and you didn't get the intro or the ending music very well because the DJ wouldn't STFU, but you got the song and you were happy. Who remembers this? 


Anyways, it's glorious to see a couple who has been together for such a long time and through so many trials, but still knows they love each other. They are a beautiful couple with a beautiful family. I wish them well and that they can be together until they're so old they have to hold each other up.

1 month ago on Beyond the Color Lines…A Tribute Anniversary Video of Mike and Lisa

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@Lurking Weak-SWV (Sistas with Voices), They Don't Know-Jon B, Let's Stay Together-Al Green, Everlasting Love-Natalie Cole. I think that was it.

1 month ago on Beyond the Color Lines…A Tribute Anniversary Video of Mike and Lisa

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@NicoleLittle @Browncow@Christelyn I stand corrected. I honestly think this has more to do with the woman being fit and some heifers are upset about her nice body rather than race. Bear with here. I have late pregnancy brain...

1 month ago on A True WTF Moment…When a Gym Manager Tells a Black Woman She’s Too Fit.

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@Christelyn I believe the promo video was done to contrast the "regular" not so in shape, not so coordinated gym person to "other" gyms where everyone is beautiful and fit and knows all he dance moves and is really good at it. I saw a clip of the commercial and it was funny. To actually answer your question, there is no difference between what the woman harassed and the women of the commercial are wearing other than the fact that the promo women aren't BW and the one being harassed is.

1 month ago on A True WTF Moment…When a Gym Manager Tells a Black Woman She’s Too Fit.

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@mystikspiral I forgot to mention that. They have free pizza and bagels like every month. Talk about defeating the purpose. If you plan on getting fit, this is NOT the place. Just another place to stroke your ego and tell you that "everyone is a winner" while intimidating and harassing the members who are actually there to get fit.

1 month ago on A True WTF Moment…When a Gym Manager Tells a Black Woman She’s Too Fit.

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@NeicyRodri @nbritt21 "What could she have possibly been doing in that outfit that made people so uncomfortable?"

Answer: Looking fierce while doing her thing. 

1 month ago on A True WTF Moment…When a Gym Manager Tells a Black Woman She’s Too Fit.

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I read this yesterday. I don't get it. I thought that Planet Fitness had a no judgement thing going on in their gym, but I guess it's only if you're not in shape that you don't get judged. I think that this is an appropriate outfit to wear at the gym, especially considering the fact that when you work out it gets HOT. Common sense. This was her first time back at the gym after an accident and she was trying to get back into her optimal shape. There were just some very jealous and insecure folks who were intimidated by this attractive woman. I would look at her as an inspiration to keep going, not someone who needs to cover up because I'm being a petty, jealous heifer. She looks good and I'm not going to hate on her.

1 month ago on A True WTF Moment…When a Gym Manager Tells a Black Woman She’s Too Fit.

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@Christelyn @Brenda55@BrowncowYes. I'm growing expensive stuff. Eggplant, bell peppers, tomatoes, swiss chard, and okra. Not cheap stuff. I'm still doing my no dig garden and I don't need to add any mulch this year. Just some espoma and put the seeds in the ground. Really easy.

1 month, 1 week ago on No Excuses! Six Good-For-You Plants You Can Grow Without a Yard

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@Brenda55 I love Jon from Growing Your Greens! He's awesome. Another thing you can grow without a yard are potatoes. Just get a potato grow back, some compost, and have at it. The only issue is not to grow them in the dead of summer or you'll get nothing. You've got to start them in early spring and grow them into the early summer or during the late summer/early fall and through the fall. When the temps get above like 90 degrees, you've screwed your potatoes. I learned that the hard way.

1 month, 1 week ago on No Excuses! Six Good-For-You Plants You Can Grow Without a Yard

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You're just doing your thing, Chris!! I love it! You did not flinch, you stood your ground and even in the comments when someone was trying to say that you "hate BM" you handled it well. Your star is rising and I love you for going to bat for BW everywhere whether they appreciate it or not.

1 month, 1 week ago on I Told Tyler Perry I Want to See More HEALTHY Swirl Relationships on the Tom Joyner Show This Morning

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