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Great to see younger Black women being confident about their personal choices and able to give good advice to others.  Beautiful young lady.  

1 day, 18 hours ago on QOTW: Featuring ‘Maxi Me,’ Discussing High School Love and Racial Preferences

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To be honest, I'm kind of surprised at Oprah for hosting such foolishness.  You would think that someone as world-traveled and smart as Oprah would know that you shouldn't put Black pathology in the spotlight.  Why does this idiot with 34 children deserve the spotlight when there are many Black people doing exceedingly well who could be highlighted instead?  Then people wonder why African Americans (and Black people in general) are so disdained around the world.


I love Black-ish but just could never get into Empire.  In real life, I know many families which fit into the Black-ish mold but thankfully don't know any people fitting into the Empire mold.  It's unfortunate that Empire is the number one show right now. It will probably spawn other ratchet shows since it's such a success.  Sigh.

1 day, 18 hours ago on Once Again, Main Stream Media Awards Black Dysfunction, and You LOVE It!!

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@Savannahpostnew1 I'm very careful about the images I allow into my space.  Not sure why anyone is shocked that there are racists with money who are paying needy Black women to denigrate themselves.  Sad but not particularly shocking.  You find White women also degrading themselves in porn so it's not just a Black woman thing, so I'm not sure what point Black men are trying to make.


P.S. I didn't actually click on your link but assume it's pornographic images of Black women degrading themselves for White racists.  

3 days ago on Why Are “Struggle Discussions” Always More Important Than Anything Else?

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I assume that in any relationship, "the struggle" (whatever it may be) may come up from time to time.  But even with a Black husband, I don't always talk about "the man" or racism.  It's not something that consumes the lives of all Black people all the dang time.

I love how the movie, Something New, handled that issue.  You can talk about "the struggle" when necessary but still be in a happy interracial relationship.  That's how grown folk handle uncomfortable issues.    

3 days, 1 hour ago on Why Are “Struggle Discussions” Always More Important Than Anything Else?

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Another fascinating post. 

3 days, 1 hour ago on History: Swirling for the Sake of the Children (and Yourselves) 

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Nice couple.  Lovely how everything came together so long after they met.

3 days, 1 hour ago on Jim and Allie – Timing Is Everything

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Do you really have to ask whether or not you should continue dating a racist?  Really?  Stay away from toxic people, period.  Racism is just one form of toxicity.  Find someone else to date.  

1 week, 4 days ago on QOTW: “Should I Continue Dating Someone Who Might Be Racist?”

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Good luck Carrie.


Looks like you're having fun. Enjoy your time with Seamus.

2 weeks, 3 days ago on Carrie Rebounds After False Start with the ‘Emotional Warrior’

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Great. Will look out for these and support.

2 weeks, 5 days ago on The Latest Film and TV Projects Featuring Black Women

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@321ZYX @itsgoodtobeme A girlfriend told me that Larry is married to a White woman.  I don't really know or care but if so, I find it interesting that he may have had an agenda in allowing this "bottom of the barrel" nonsense to be disseminated on his program where non-BM can see it.

3 weeks, 2 days ago on Time to Dispel “Black Women at the Bottom of the Barrel” Nonsense!

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@oceanspray Me too. I avoid toxicity at all costs so I didn't watch the video either. I'm disappointed that Issa feels that way about Black women. 

3 weeks, 2 days ago on Issa Rae, Jacque Reid and Others Talk Interracial Relationships on “Nightly Show”

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Why does the Letter Writer care about what Black men think about the way Black women wear their hair?  She's with a White partner and should just concentrate on his and her happiness.  

3 weeks, 2 days ago on Video: Sick of the Double Standards When Black Women Swirl!!!

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@dbrooks109 You already sound defeated.  There are scores, if not hundreds, of BW who date and marry out.  Just check out the interracial boyfriend/husband videos on Youtube. And several younger BW run interracial tumblrs.  It's better to look at the glass half full than half empty. Otherwise, you've already put yourself at the bottom of the barrel.

3 weeks, 4 days ago on Time to Dispel “Black Women at the Bottom of the Barrel” Nonsense!

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I'm puzzled as to why some Black women are so keen on voicing their self-demoralizing opinions.  What are they saying about themselves to non-Blacks?  If I keep hearing you say that you are unwanted, undesirable, unattractive, etc., I may start to believe you.  And more importantly, younger Black women are going to absorb these negative feelings about themselves.


Not a good look.  And absolutely not true.  Black women are not and have never been at the bottom of any barrel.  Sigh.

3 weeks, 4 days ago on Time to Dispel “Black Women at the Bottom of the Barrel” Nonsense!

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@melissamak007 @Vivaforever I wonder where she got the idea that BW who are highly educated have less chances of getting married. I've read that the opposite is true.

3 weeks, 4 days ago on Issa Rae, Jacque Reid and Others Talk Interracial Relationships on “Nightly Show”

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@alecsilva @GoldenPrecious You should have asked him to identify the "black kings". I must be missing all of them in the state I live in.

3 weeks, 4 days ago on Issa Rae, Jacque Reid and Others Talk Interracial Relationships on “Nightly Show”

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@SavannahPost But too many BW simply don't know their worth. Great comment.

3 weeks, 4 days ago on Issa Rae, Jacque Reid and Others Talk Interracial Relationships on “Nightly Show”

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I would think that a sensible BW who is married to a BM, would be more than supportive of other BW finding happiness, regardless of the race of their partner.  I want BW to be happy. I don't care what race they are dating/marrying.  The fact that I'm married to a BM doesn't mean that I expect or want all BW to marry BM.  Just be happy.


And I am very sorry to see that Issa feels that she is at the bottom of the barrel. I'm not and never have been.  We need to stop speaking about ourselves in such toxic and depressing language.

3 weeks, 4 days ago on Issa Rae, Jacque Reid and Others Talk Interracial Relationships on “Nightly Show”

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@luna tick @caribbeanlady  "If America is so bad, why are so many foreign blacks determined to come here, even uninvited?"


What does this sentence mean?  I came here to go to graduate school and stayed.  I was not "invited" but have every right to be here and am now a citizen.  


I'm not sure that I agree with you that America is the best country for Black people since I have relatives in Europe and Canada who are doing very well (along with many friends).  Life is what you make it and if you are determined to do so, you can be successful anywhere.   

3 weeks, 4 days ago on Is the Grass Greener Across the Pond? Two Views on Interracial Relationships in Europe

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@SirLoinDeBeef I would add France, Belgium and Portugal to your list. 

3 weeks, 4 days ago on Is the Grass Greener Across the Pond? Two Views on Interracial Relationships in Europe

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@CALOVE You should feel free to name the country. You are entitled to your feelings even if others didn't have the same experience in that particular country.  I recently read that Belgium has a museum celebrating King Leopold's rule in the Congo where only the "good" is mentioned.  That's pretty shocking when you consider what he did to the Congolese people.  I have no doubt that your feelings are completely valid and no one should challenge you.  


America may have its problems but at least Black Americans deal with racism straight up.  I assume that's not the case in many European countries where they pretend to be colorblind. 

3 weeks, 4 days ago on Is the Grass Greener Across the Pond? Two Views on Interracial Relationships in Europe

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I can picture Beyoncé shrugging at this.

4 weeks ago on Kid Rock (Crudely) Highlights How Preferences Can Change Over Time

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Great post. I hope young women read this.  Too many Black girls grow up thinking they're worthless.  We need to know our value.

1 month ago on Zara: Eight Reasons Why We Love Black Women

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Very well said. I'm curious as to why Black men would read this website at all since they are not its focus.  That would be like me reading a Black man/White woman relationship blog and then complaining about its focus.  Surely BM are capable of finding websites where they are idolized.  

Black women have had to create our own safe spaces and we're not going to give ground to Black male trolls.

1 month ago on Dear Black Men, Did I Hurt Your Feelings? You Don’t KNOW Hurt Feelings…

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"Ultimately, black women win by opening up their options to ALL MEN who celebrate and value them as black women"

Ding Ding Ding Ding Ding!  

Nuff said.

1 month ago on Want To Know What Black Men REALLY Think Of Black Womanhood? Ask Kanye!

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@ChocolateDiva I find it sad when otherwise sensible Black women vocally support Kanye.  I really don't understand why.  Apart from his mother and Beyonce, he's made it plain how he feels about Black women.  

1 month ago on Black Doctor Wants You To Know: “There are Good Black Men Out There.”

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Does Robert also direct his commentary towards Black men who are on Youtube or websites which demonize and demoralize the hell out of Black women? Or does he only direct his commentary towards Black women who express interest in non-Black men?


I'm happily married to a Black man and I assume that many of the women who support this blog are also.  The issue is not that there are no good Black men. The issue is that Black women need to be sensible and be open to relationships with all men.  Too many Black women have foolishly invested in the "Black community" and "Black love" with nothing to show for their investment.  


I would advise Robert to focus more on Black men who have made it clear that they hate Black women and not worry so much about the Black women who patronize this website. We are not the problem.

1 month ago on Black Doctor Wants You To Know: “There are Good Black Men Out There.”

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@energyatty Cape Verde is off the west coast of Africa, love -- it's not in the West Indies and Ms. Cecily Tyson is not from Cape Verde.


1 month ago on Kanye’s Comments About Amber Rose Highlights How White Women Are “Always” Virtuous No Matter How Skeezy Their Past.

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@SavannahPost Interesting how the linked article points out that BM marry out at 24% while BW marry out at only 9%.  Yet BW are under attack for marrying out all the dang time.  

1 month ago on Kanye’s Comments About Amber Rose Highlights How White Women Are “Always” Virtuous No Matter How Skeezy Their Past.

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@BeautyIAM Unfortunately, that OKCUPID study coincided with the negative self-image that some BW already had and is now trumpeted by them to justify their low self esteem.  They ignore the real life BW/WM couples that you see all over the media and wallow in pity.  

1 month, 1 week ago on Black Woman Writes Apology Missive for Preferring White Men; Seeks Understanding and Forgiveness.

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@trinigirl1 Amen Trinigirl!!


I don't understand what is accomplished by these BW who are constantly in the public eye shouting about their inability to "get a man".  They make BW as a whole seem pathetic, which is self-defeating in the long run.  There are scores of videos on Youtube showcasing BW with non-BM in happy, committed relationships.  Why not focus on the positive?  

1 month, 1 week ago on Black Woman Writes Apology Missive for Preferring White Men; Seeks Understanding and Forgiveness.

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How many black men will see this true confession and hunt her down for dating and marriage?"


None.  Black men will just smirk and keep it moving.  

1 month, 1 week ago on Black Woman Writes Apology Missive for Preferring White Men; Seeks Understanding and Forgiveness.

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"Do not allow peer and social pressure prevent you from being with the person that makes you happy."


Perfect advice.  What a beautiful couple.  Very nice post.

1 month, 1 week ago on Kelly and Vallina – Put No Limits On Love

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How lovely! Good luck to both couples.

1 month, 1 week ago on Couples Making REAL, Offline Connections on Our G+ Page!

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I would love to watch a movie or documentary about Yanga.  I briefly heard about him in Henry Gates' "Black in Latin America" series.  

1 month, 1 week ago on Black Women’s History: You’ve Got Something to Celebrate on “Cinco de Mayo”

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It's always great to learn about Blacks in South America.  When I was in University in the 1980s, I recall meeting a Black woman in Toronto who I assumed was from the Caribbean only to learn that she was from Peru.  At that time, I had no idea that there was a Black Peruvian community.  You learn something every day.

1 month, 1 week ago on Black Women in History: A Nineteenth Century Image of Black Beauty From Lima, Peru 

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@Maxine Hasn't Kanye made statements demeaning to dark skinned Black women?  What's making a donkey's behind of himself got to do with "Black love"?

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Zac: “ I wish a muthaf#^%*a WOULD,” and Other Kanye West Observations

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It's amazing to me that Kanye can get away with this behavior with no apparent consequences. People must think it's cute behavior.  If a White artist did the same thing to a Black artist, you know all hell would break out with cries of racism, bigotry, etc.


I have never liked Kanye.  Beyonce needs to tell him to keep her name out of his mouth when he's on these ego trips.  She doesn't need to be linked to him.


Is Kanye going to do this for every award show -- run up on the stage and make an idiot of himself because Beyonce didn't get the award?  

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Zac: “ I wish a muthaf#^%*a WOULD,” and Other Kanye West Observations

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@RobertJamesGriffith That's why I don't understand why some Black women waste time responding to their comments.  Most Black women in their right minds would not converse with White Supremacists.  Why are Black men who hate Black women not treated the same way by Black women as we would treat White Supremacists?  What is the sense with communicating with Black men who hate our guts and wish us evil?

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Who Didn’t See This Coming? Threatening the Monopoly of Dating Black Women…

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@N2ition @PaoloP But apparently it's okay for him to go for a non-Black woman?

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Who Didn’t See This Coming? Threatening the Monopoly of Dating Black Women…

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Hope all goes well with their date(s).  

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Update! So Who Did Wes Pick??

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What was so civil about DeltaRoots' first comment?  I think the best way to deal with Black men like him is to block their comments. They love the attention they get from Black women, which is so undeserved.  There was nothing that he said in any of his comments that hasn't been said before. And his grammar and spelling is atrocious.  

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Who Didn’t See This Coming? Threatening the Monopoly of Dating Black Women…

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He appears to be a very nice gentleman. I wish him luck in finding a nice woman. 

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Everybody Ain’t “The Lovings”: Why Are Older White Men Being Judged for “Suddenly” Pursuing Black Women?

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They have several videos on Youtube. Must check them out when I have time. Lovely family.

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Meet Erik and Tanya: Interracial Couple Living Abroad in Israel

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