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TriniGirl gots mad skills!!  


Such a professionally edited video.  Bravo.  

10 hours, 25 minutes ago on Open Thread: The sexy men of BB&W

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@jazzyfae45 I don't watch anti-Black women videos or read anti-Black posts either.  It's garbage and I refuse to put that into my consciousness.  Some Black men are just lost and there's nothing we can do to change their minds. Nor should we waste time and energy worrying about their opinions.  Let them go their way and we'll go ours.  

4 days, 13 hours ago on Epic Responses to Dumb A** Video Claiming Black Women are More Submissive to White Men

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@lili2009 @trinigirl1 Sounds like Chicago is a good place for BW interracial relationships.  

4 days, 13 hours ago on Epic Responses to Dumb A** Video Claiming Black Women are More Submissive to White Men

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Black men will always find frivolous reasons to voice opposition to Black women in interracial relationships. Not sure I find this interesting or shocking anymore.  As long as the Black women are happy, I could care less about whether they are "submissive" (whatever that's supposed to mean) or not.  And I certainly don't care about Black men and their opinions on Black women marrying out.  

4 days, 13 hours ago on Epic Responses to Dumb A** Video Claiming Black Women are More Submissive to White Men

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@Curlygirl83 I would never listen to anything he posts. I simply flagged his video for bullying.  Hopefully YT will do something about this since so many people have flagged his videos.  

6 days, 12 hours ago on BB&W Family, I Need Your Help. This Man is Attacking My Family

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@onmywayup @ChrisNoactuallyKarazin That was powerful!  Especially the facebook comment at the bottom.  

6 days, 12 hours ago on BB&W Family, I Need Your Help. This Man is Attacking My Family

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I'm disappointed that Youtube hasn't taken down this video given all the people who've reported it as harassing/bullying.  Shame.  


I added my two cents and reported him too.

6 days, 13 hours ago on BB&W Family, I Need Your Help. This Man is Attacking My Family

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Good that she's honest. Now she can let those feelings go and focus on her relationship. What BM do should not be of any concern to her or BW in general.

1 week, 1 day ago on QOTW: IR Dating Black Woman Hates Seeing Black Men Do It Too

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Lovely!! As a Naturalista, it's always nice to see kinky hair being celebrated.

1 week, 1 day ago on Reader Responds to “What Black Men Think of Natural Hair” Post

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To be fair to Maine, something similar happened to me in Niagara Falls, Ontario, when a group of White men in a pickup truck shouted "jigaboo" as I was walking with some friends.  I just shrugged it off.  Wasn't as if I could run down the truck and it's not a crime to call someone a racial slur (to my knowledge).  I wouldn't hold this one incident involving cowardly White racists against the entire state of Maine.  It is sad, however, that the little girl had to learn about racism because of this incident.

1 week, 3 days ago on Recent Incident in Maine a Sober Reminder That Interracial Couples are Still a Target

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@MonyRiles A racist who dates White guys?  Okay.

1 week, 3 days ago on Azealia Banks’ New Boo is HAAAWWWRRRRTTT!!!

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@Sameriah 99 Iggy has a Black boyfriend so not sure she would care, but I am happy for Azalea.  She seems like a very outspoken, devil-may-care kind of woman.  I'm so old though that I know absolutely nothing about her music or Iggy's.  

1 week, 3 days ago on Azealia Banks’ New Boo is HAAAWWWRRRRTTT!!!

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Great thread.  Love all the photos of the couples who populate this website.  

1 week, 5 days ago on Open Thread: White guys and why we dig them.

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@Brenda55 Noticed that most of the fathers - biracial sons were in Maryland.  Whoo hoo. Great article.

1 week, 5 days ago on Open Thread: White guys and why we dig them.

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"If you can't relate, just listen".  


Great advice.  Sometimes you can just listen and not say anything if someone is speaking about a topic that is outside your scope of knowledge or makes you feel uncomfortable.  I would assume that some experiences that Black women have are not shared by non-Blacks. And vice versa. That's fine.  


I think the young lady was just sharing her experiences. I doubt she was intentionally trying to make the Letter Writer feel uncomfortable.  Perhaps this is something they'll laugh about if the relationship deepens.

1 week, 5 days ago on QOTW: Are There Any Subjects Off Limits On An Interracial Date?

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@TheBlkQAmidala  @Brenda55 Why does he feel the need to convince the women of anything? LOL.  Pathetic.

1 week, 5 days ago on What Black Men Think of Natural Hair : “The Ish Don’t Move…”

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I'm of Caribbean descent but cannot explain this skin-lightening phenomena at all.  Seems scary and crazy to me since dark skinned women are gorgeous in my opinion.  


Just look at these gorgeous Nigerian brides.


http://www.buzzfeed.com/bimadewunmi/nigerian-brides-who-came-saw-and-conquered#.cmn1wW1zG

2 weeks, 5 days ago on Kenyan Short Film, “Yellow Fever” Show How Pervasive, and Absurd the Quest for Skin Lightening Has Become Globally

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Congrats to a lovely couple!  Christelyn continues to do good.

2 weeks, 5 days ago on Fan Bought “Swirling” Started a Journey that Ends with an Engagement!

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 "We aren’t being polite to anyone worthy of politeness, or advancing any noble end, by continuing to honor traitors in this way."


Well said.  Let those who support traitors spend their money to honor them.  No federal tax money should go towards such an effort.

2 weeks, 6 days ago on Conversation @ http://www.newrepublic.com/article/121406/civil-war-150th-anniversary-confederacy-defeat-should-be-holiday

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@caligirl94117 @Patricia Kayden Yes, I would recommend BW open to interracial dating to move to the DMV area.  Just today I ran out to Costco and saw another WM/BW couple.  It's just a very diverse, multiracial area.  There are some really nice parts of Baltimore so I wish you well if you decide to move there.  Just be very careful which part of Baltimore you look at.  Years ago, I visited Morgan State University and found the area to be very nice (kind of reminded me of where I grew up close to Toronto).


Good luck!

3 weeks, 2 days ago on Letter Writer Explains Non-Black Male Hesitancy in Approaching Black Women

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@LCStrings @Patricia Kayden When I moved here from Canada, the first couple I saw in Silver Spring, MD was a Latino man and his Black wife pushing a baby carriage.  I saw loads of Latino men with Black women when I used to shop in Hyattsville.  In Rockville, MD and Northern Virginia, I would see BW with non-BM all the times when I'd go to the malls and shopping districts.  Where I live now, I've seen Asian men with Black women and loads of BW/non-BM.


I just don't buy this argument that WM have learned that Black women collectively don't like non-Black men.  Just don't.  Perhaps that's true in some parts of the country, but it's definitely not true where I've lived or in multicultural places like NYC.  


The Letter Writer sounds defeatist.  

3 weeks, 3 days ago on Letter Writer Explains Non-Black Male Hesitancy in Approaching Black Women

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@starlightbubbles27 @Christelyn He doesn't sound like a good candidate for an interracial relationship with a Black woman.  Just like he has the right to state his opinion, readers here have the same right to disagree with his opinion. Sounds like he expected everyone to agree with his comment.  I don't and I agree that we've beaten the "I'm non-Black and I'm terrified to approach Black women" horse to death.  Black women shouldn't feel othered. 


Perhaps it would be nice to have some posts from non-Black men who have approached Black women on how they did so.  This would be a positive way to address this issue.

3 weeks, 3 days ago on Letter Writer Explains Non-Black Male Hesitancy in Approaching Black Women

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"And what we’ve learned is that black women don’t like non-black men." 


Sorry but I don't buy this argument.  I understand that in certain parts of the country (and perhaps in the part of TX that the Letter Writer is from), there aren't that many BW/non-BM relationships, but I see too many BW with non-BM where I live now (MD/VA/DC) to believe that claim.  Ditto when I was growing up in Suburban Toronto, Ontario.  


Plus, let's be honest. There are loads of WM who would never consider dating BW and have been quite vocal about that.  It's not up to BW to shout from the rooftops that they want WM.  That's not how it works.  

3 weeks, 3 days ago on Letter Writer Explains Non-Black Male Hesitancy in Approaching Black Women

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@IslandFrost Agreed. It sounds like BW are being "othered".  As if we are not quite human.  It's 2015 and there are so many IR involving BW out there.  

3 weeks, 3 days ago on QOTW: Hispanic Man Hesitant to Approach Black Women…

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@Swirlgirl28 It's as if there are millions of stories about BW attacking and beating down non-BM when they are approached by them. LOL.  If you're too afraid to approach a BW because of her race, perhaps you shouldn't worry about dating BW.  I don't know how that relationship would work out with one partner being so fearful about the other partner's race.

3 weeks, 3 days ago on QOTW: Hispanic Man Hesitant to Approach Black Women…

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Just approach her the same way you'd approach any other women. There is nothing magical or exotic about Black women.  Good luck.

3 weeks, 3 days ago on QOTW: Hispanic Man Hesitant to Approach Black Women…

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She's quite feisty.  Have no idea what type of music she makes, but she seems very outspoken which can be a good thing.  She shouldn't have to explain her dating choices at all.  

3 weeks, 6 days ago on Wait…WHET?! Azealia Banks Dates White Guys? Is She Not Allowed to Complain of Black Men Now?

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Great to see younger Black women being confident about their personal choices and able to give good advice to others.  Beautiful young lady.  

1 month ago on QOTW: Featuring ‘Maxi Me,’ Discussing High School Love and Racial Preferences

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To be honest, I'm kind of surprised at Oprah for hosting such foolishness.  You would think that someone as world-traveled and smart as Oprah would know that you shouldn't put Black pathology in the spotlight.  Why does this idiot with 34 children deserve the spotlight when there are many Black people doing exceedingly well who could be highlighted instead?  Then people wonder why African Americans (and Black people in general) are so disdained around the world.


I love Black-ish but just could never get into Empire.  In real life, I know many families which fit into the Black-ish mold but thankfully don't know any people fitting into the Empire mold.  It's unfortunate that Empire is the number one show right now. It will probably spawn other ratchet shows since it's such a success.  Sigh.

1 month ago on Once Again, Main Stream Media Awards Black Dysfunction, and You LOVE It!!

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@Savannahpostnew1 I'm very careful about the images I allow into my space.  Not sure why anyone is shocked that there are racists with money who are paying needy Black women to denigrate themselves.  Sad but not particularly shocking.  You find White women also degrading themselves in porn so it's not just a Black woman thing, so I'm not sure what point Black men are trying to make.


P.S. I didn't actually click on your link but assume it's pornographic images of Black women degrading themselves for White racists.  

1 month ago on Why Are “Struggle Discussions” Always More Important Than Anything Else?

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I assume that in any relationship, "the struggle" (whatever it may be) may come up from time to time.  But even with a Black husband, I don't always talk about "the man" or racism.  It's not something that consumes the lives of all Black people all the dang time.

I love how the movie, Something New, handled that issue.  You can talk about "the struggle" when necessary but still be in a happy interracial relationship.  That's how grown folk handle uncomfortable issues.    

1 month ago on Why Are “Struggle Discussions” Always More Important Than Anything Else?

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Nice couple.  Lovely how everything came together so long after they met.

1 month ago on Jim and Allie – Timing Is Everything

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Do you really have to ask whether or not you should continue dating a racist?  Really?  Stay away from toxic people, period.  Racism is just one form of toxicity.  Find someone else to date.  

1 month, 1 week ago on QOTW: “Should I Continue Dating Someone Who Might Be Racist?”

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Good luck Carrie.


Looks like you're having fun. Enjoy your time with Seamus.

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Carrie Rebounds After False Start with the ‘Emotional Warrior’

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Great. Will look out for these and support.

1 month, 2 weeks ago on The Latest Film and TV Projects Featuring Black Women

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@321ZYX @itsgoodtobeme A girlfriend told me that Larry is married to a White woman.  I don't really know or care but if so, I find it interesting that he may have had an agenda in allowing this "bottom of the barrel" nonsense to be disseminated on his program where non-BM can see it.

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Time to Dispel “Black Women at the Bottom of the Barrel” Nonsense!

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@oceanspray Me too. I avoid toxicity at all costs so I didn't watch the video either. I'm disappointed that Issa feels that way about Black women. 

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Issa Rae, Jacque Reid and Others Talk Interracial Relationships on “Nightly Show”

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Why does the Letter Writer care about what Black men think about the way Black women wear their hair?  She's with a White partner and should just concentrate on his and her happiness.  

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Video: Sick of the Double Standards When Black Women Swirl!!!

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@dbrooks109 You already sound defeated.  There are scores, if not hundreds, of BW who date and marry out.  Just check out the interracial boyfriend/husband videos on Youtube. And several younger BW run interracial tumblrs.  It's better to look at the glass half full than half empty. Otherwise, you've already put yourself at the bottom of the barrel.

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Time to Dispel “Black Women at the Bottom of the Barrel” Nonsense!

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I'm puzzled as to why some Black women are so keen on voicing their self-demoralizing opinions.  What are they saying about themselves to non-Blacks?  If I keep hearing you say that you are unwanted, undesirable, unattractive, etc., I may start to believe you.  And more importantly, younger Black women are going to absorb these negative feelings about themselves.


Not a good look.  And absolutely not true.  Black women are not and have never been at the bottom of any barrel.  Sigh.

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Time to Dispel “Black Women at the Bottom of the Barrel” Nonsense!

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@melissamak007 @Vivaforever I wonder where she got the idea that BW who are highly educated have less chances of getting married. I've read that the opposite is true.

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Issa Rae, Jacque Reid and Others Talk Interracial Relationships on “Nightly Show”

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@alecsilva @GoldenPrecious You should have asked him to identify the "black kings". I must be missing all of them in the state I live in.

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Issa Rae, Jacque Reid and Others Talk Interracial Relationships on “Nightly Show”

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@SavannahPost But too many BW simply don't know their worth. Great comment.

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Issa Rae, Jacque Reid and Others Talk Interracial Relationships on “Nightly Show”

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I would think that a sensible BW who is married to a BM, would be more than supportive of other BW finding happiness, regardless of the race of their partner.  I want BW to be happy. I don't care what race they are dating/marrying.  The fact that I'm married to a BM doesn't mean that I expect or want all BW to marry BM.  Just be happy.


And I am very sorry to see that Issa feels that she is at the bottom of the barrel. I'm not and never have been.  We need to stop speaking about ourselves in such toxic and depressing language.

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Issa Rae, Jacque Reid and Others Talk Interracial Relationships on “Nightly Show”

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@luna tick @caribbeanlady  "If America is so bad, why are so many foreign blacks determined to come here, even uninvited?"


What does this sentence mean?  I came here to go to graduate school and stayed.  I was not "invited" but have every right to be here and am now a citizen.  


I'm not sure that I agree with you that America is the best country for Black people since I have relatives in Europe and Canada who are doing very well (along with many friends).  Life is what you make it and if you are determined to do so, you can be successful anywhere.   

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Is the Grass Greener Across the Pond? Two Views on Interracial Relationships in Europe

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@SirLoinDeBeef I would add France, Belgium and Portugal to your list. 

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Is the Grass Greener Across the Pond? Two Views on Interracial Relationships in Europe

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@CALOVE You should feel free to name the country. You are entitled to your feelings even if others didn't have the same experience in that particular country.  I recently read that Belgium has a museum celebrating King Leopold's rule in the Congo where only the "good" is mentioned.  That's pretty shocking when you consider what he did to the Congolese people.  I have no doubt that your feelings are completely valid and no one should challenge you.  


America may have its problems but at least Black Americans deal with racism straight up.  I assume that's not the case in many European countries where they pretend to be colorblind. 

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Is the Grass Greener Across the Pond? Two Views on Interracial Relationships in Europe

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