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Love that last sentence. It's all about BW being happy with whoever makes them happy. Period. No apologies or explanation necessary.

1 day, 2 hours ago on Listen Ladies! If You’re Going to Complain About How “Black Men Hate You” While Scoffing at Expanding Your Options…Then You’re Just Begging.

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Love all the suggestions. I hope that it will have a section on "Real Weddings" and "Real Engagements" where videos/photos can be posted and discussed.  

3 days, 2 hours ago on Open Thread: Brainstorm Session -The Forum

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Great to hear that the fundraiser has been such a huge success. Intimidation doesn't work here.

6 days, 2 hours ago on Video: Update on the BB&W Fund Raising Push!

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@Christelyn How are you a "Frankenstein" though?  This woman is not too bright.  There is absolutely nothing monstrous about encouraging Black women to date/marry whoever makes them happy, regardless of race or ethnicity.  People like Lady Simone are part of the problem.  

1 week ago on Beyond Black & White Fan Page is Under Attack Again. Time to Go to War.

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Donated.  Very glad to do so. So sorry that the facebook page was taken down by haters.  Infuriating!


1 week ago on Beyond Black & White Fan Page is Under Attack Again. Time to Go to War.

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@femmemuscle Kind of surprised that your comment is still here after 2 days.  Stereotype much?

1 week ago on Cop allegedly sexually assaults eight Black women – where are the women’s groups?

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I had heard about this story a while back but didn't know the victims were BW.  

1 week ago on Cop allegedly sexually assaults eight Black women – where are the women’s groups?

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@KaylaRojanikMack He's on Youtube.  Make a comment on his video.  Good luck!

1 week ago on Asian Guy Shares His Feelings About AM/BW Relationships

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I would watch the movie!!  Beautiful story.

2 weeks, 1 day ago on John and Jenese–You Will NOT Want to Skip This!

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Nice!  All the best.

2 weeks, 1 day ago on Another BB&W is Getting Hitched!

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@socialbutterfly It's not just confusing. It's downright stupid.  BM have no problems dating out and sticking up for each other.  It's good that so many Black women are waking up and doing whatever makes them happy instead of trying to please BM (or NBABM BW).

2 weeks, 6 days ago on Wake Up, Black Women! IRR “Permission” Is Never Coming!

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Best proposal video (and most creative) ever! Lovely couple.

3 weeks, 1 day ago on Best Ever Engagement Video from BB&W Fans, Jacob and Joy!

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Agree. This is probably a short term relationship for him anyways.

3 weeks, 1 day ago on Is Robert Pattinson a Lame Swirler? Leaves Black Girlfriend to Save Himself From Online Bullies!

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Well said. Too many Black men are vocal and loud about their hatred of Black women for us to fall for their okey doke.

4 weeks ago on Black Man Admits Hood Dudes Corrupt Black Women’s Wombs Through Sabotage, But Stops Short on “Swirling” Option

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Lovely couple.  And AFROROMANCE seems to have a lot of success stories.  

4 weeks, 1 day ago on Another Online Dating Success! Yes; They Met on AfroRomance.

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APPLAUSE APPLAUSE APPLAUSE to you, Christelyn for having a website which helps so many Black women in such far flung places.


"D" is amazing!  Kudos to her for living in so many diverse countries at such a young age.  Talk about living an interesting life!  Hopefully she's writing a blog or keeping a diary.

1 month ago on BB&W Continues to Touch the Lives of Black Women Across the Globe…

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I don't understand why him having no Black friends is problematic. Agree with Christelyn that the Letter Writer appears to be paranoid. Relax!

1 month ago on QOTW: “Should I Worry If the White Guy Macking On Me Has No Black Friends?”

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"Strangers are not entitled to an explanation from you about your preferences".  Well said, Christelyn.  Really enjoyed this talk session.

1 month, 1 week ago on In Case You Missed It: BB&W Live Discussion on the High’s and Low’s of Online Dating

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He needs to be fixed so that he cannot father any more children. Otherwise, why would Iyanla waste time with this man-child?  Anything for ratings, I guess.

1 month, 1 week ago on Iyanla Can NOT Fix This Man’s Life! I Just #Cant with These Silly Women Who Think They’re “Special!”

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Wow.  Congratulations!!  Nice looking couple.  Looking forward to seeing the wedding pictures from Vegas.  

1 month, 1 week ago on BB&W’s Very Own ‘EarthJeff’ is Getting Hitched!!

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Sadly there are whole segments of the Black community which are damaged beyond repair.  If you can afford to leave, do so.  You cannot educate or change dumb people who think that "acting white" is an actual thing.  Dr. King spoke proper English and was well educated so this whole "acting white" foolishness must be fairly new.  My Black friends and family members are proud of Black excellence and don't associate being smart with being White at all.  

1 month, 1 week ago on How Blackistanis Police Their Own: Girl Gets a Beat Down for “Acting White” (And Being Too Light)

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Congrats to them!  Lovely couple and what a beautiful wedding!

1 month, 1 week ago on Video: You Tubers, Shelly and Michael Tie the Knot!

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Absolutely lovely! Congrats on their baby- to-be. Love that she was willing to live overseas to be with her man. She sounds like a very happy woman.

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Paula Cooper Trajkovski Takes On Macedonia – And Wins!

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So sorry to hear about Anita's murder by her own son.  May she RIP.

1 month, 2 weeks ago on DBRs Abound – A True Murder In The First

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Not really a fan of Russell Brand but I've moved in the opposite direction from Christelyn. For years (since 2008) I've been registered as Independent but this summer switched to Democrat.  Fits who I am and while the Dems are far from perfect, for me they are better than the alternative.  


I never watch Fox News so nothing featured there could sway me one way or the other.


Hope y'all are having a relaxing Labor Day.

1 month, 3 weeks ago on I’m So Glad Russell Brand Opened His Big, Fat, Mouth. Proof the Many Liberals Practice Soft Bigotry

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Go on with your bad self, EmpressNK!  Nice story.  Good luck with Mr. Good Looking but not quite sober.

1 month, 3 weeks ago on UK Girl’s Response to Skinny Pickings for Swirling Across the Pond

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Wow, Christelyn, you always give great advice.  I especially love how you advise the Letter Writer to refrain from blaming her White boyfriend for whatever racism has happened in the past, is happening now, or will happen in the future.  I'm not sure what "race talk" she wants to have with her boyfriend.  I assume that talking about race may pop up from time to time in any relationship (as such talks pop up between two Black spouses).


However, the whole point of dating is to have fun.  Have fun, fun and more fun.  We are not our race (just as India Arie reminded us that we are not our hair) so it doesn't make sense to put a lot of emphasis on the fact that you are Black and your boyfriend is White.  I would focus more on what you have in common.  As Christelyn points out having values in common is really what relationships are about.  


Good Luck!

1 month, 4 weeks ago on (Bonus) QOTW: “How Can I Talk About My Culture with My White Boyfriend?”

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So now BBW is a matchmaker?!!  


Nice.

2 months, 1 week ago on Two BB&W Fans Sitting in a Tree…Real Life Meeting on Two Regulars. Sparks?

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Loved him in Bicentennial Man and One Hour Photo.


So sorry to hear of his death.  

2 months, 1 week ago on Open Thread: Share Your Favorite Robin Williams Moments

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@FriendsofJay @Browncow Your question is kind of ironic since so many Black women have children out of wedlock, which means that Black men must have fetishized them, i.e., only wanted them for sex.

2 months, 1 week ago on As Millennials Support Dating Out, the Black Community ups the “Fetish” Rhetoric

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@Browncow You should offer your story and beautiful wedding picture to THE ROOT so that they can publish a positive story about BW/WM relationships.  Surely they must know that thousands of relationships such as yours exist where White men love and respect their Black wives.  

2 months, 1 week ago on As Millennials Support Dating Out, the Black Community ups the “Fetish” Rhetoric

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@Vivaforever Good point, although more and more BW are dating out and ignoring the haters.  Common sense will let you know whether a man is with you just for sex or whether he wants a committed relationship.  It's a matter of having standards and vetting the men you let into your life to ensure that they meet those standards.  


I'm also dying for the day when BW stop listening to the negative talk which is solely focused on deterring them from dating out.  


P.S.  Isn't it interesting that Asian women have no problem dating and marrying White men in huge numbers despite claims that they are fetishized?  Black women should take note of that.

2 months, 1 week ago on As Millennials Support Dating Out, the Black Community ups the “Fetish” Rhetoric

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Not surprised that such a negative article was on THE ROOT.  I assume that such articles are targeted at keeping Black women on the plantation while Black men are free to mate out to their heart's content.  Thankfully, scores of Black women are ignoring the negative messages and going for love.

2 months, 1 week ago on As Millennials Support Dating Out, the Black Community ups the “Fetish” Rhetoric

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@tonyrog I love her wedding dress -- so unique.

2 months, 1 week ago on Video: BB&W Fan Get Married, Serenades Groom; Bring Him to Tears

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@Oaktown Paul  @marie_christine2 @Penny Cute!  Looks like you went to an all-Black school. 

2 months, 1 week ago on Video: BB&W Fan Get Married, Serenades Groom; Bring Him to Tears

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She has such a beautiful voice -- rivals Etta James' version.


All the best to them.

2 months, 1 week ago on Video: BB&W Fan Get Married, Serenades Groom; Bring Him to Tears

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Nice!  What a way to expand one's worldview.  Every young BW should travel and experience other cultures.

2 months, 1 week ago on Black Girl Travel Sponsors Georgia Teen’s First International Trip

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@Morenika Baisden actually asked such an asinine question?  Wow.  I'm glad he's off the air.  

2 months, 1 week ago on Blackistani Light Skinned Privilege: Aren’t You Glad You’re Free of It?

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@Lisa_Lisa There are several positive articles about Black women and non-Black men here.  I don't think there is an imbalance towards DBR-focused articles such as this one.

2 months, 1 week ago on Blackistani Light Skinned Privilege: Aren’t You Glad You’re Free of It?

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Well if Black women, dark or light, are stupid enough to attend such parties, what can I say?  I have little to say to grown folk who do stupid things.  You have to love yourself and stop allowing yourself to be demeaned and then these types of parties will disappear.

2 months, 1 week ago on Blackistani Light Skinned Privilege: Aren’t You Glad You’re Free of It?

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Wonderful photos -- especially of the now departed Mum.  All the best to this beautiful couple.

2 months, 1 week ago on Swirling and Marriage: 2014 Couple of the Year

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I'm very happy about the way this case turned out.  "Her life mattered" was her Mother's reaction to the verdict, which pretty much sums up how I feel.

2 months, 1 week ago on Feelings About Renisha McBride…

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Lovely story. Wish them wall the best!

2 months, 2 weeks ago on #OnlineDating Success…She Made the First Move.

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Very mature Letter Writer.  It took me until I was in my 40s before I finally went natural. It sometimes can be a difficult decision. Even now my Mother feels that going natural is some kind of Black activist/political statement.  


His girlfriend may get negative push back from her family, but there are so many Black women embracing their natural hair now (and so many websites/blogs which promote this) that she should be okay if she decides to go that route.


Good luck to the Letter Writer.  Sounds like a nice young man.

2 months, 2 weeks ago on QOTW: “How Do I Tell My Girlfriend I Love Her Natural Hair?”

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You're not being forced to read this blog, right? Bye.

2 months, 2 weeks ago on Blatant Rejection of “Traditional” Looking Black Women. See for Yourself Why Expanding Your Options is Necessary.

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Not going to watch such poison. But I agree that BW need to know that expanding their options is a must. Even if such idiotic BM didn't exist, there still wouldn't be enough for all the eligible BW. Videos like these are just a push in the right direction for sensible BW.

2 months, 2 weeks ago on Blatant Rejection of “Traditional” Looking Black Women. See for Yourself Why Expanding Your Options is Necessary.

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