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I can picture Beyoncé shrugging at this.

1 day, 18 hours ago on Kid Rock (Crudely) Highlights How Preferences Can Change Over Time

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Great post. I hope young women read this.  Too many Black girls grow up thinking they're worthless.  We need to know our value.

4 days, 8 hours ago on Zara: Eight Reasons Why We Love Black Women

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Another nice post.  Great research.  

5 days, 23 hours ago on Black Women In History: A Bill, An African American Educator in Hawai‘i, and Surfing

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Very well said. I'm curious as to why Black men would read this website at all since they are not its focus.  That would be like me reading a Black man/White woman relationship blog and then complaining about its focus.  Surely BM are capable of finding websites where they are idolized.  

Black women have had to create our own safe spaces and we're not going to give ground to Black male trolls.

5 days, 23 hours ago on Dear Black Men, Did I Hurt Your Feelings? You Don’t KNOW Hurt Feelings…

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"Ultimately, black women win by opening up their options to ALL MEN who celebrate and value them as black women"

Ding Ding Ding Ding Ding!  

Nuff said.

5 days, 23 hours ago on Want To Know What Black Men REALLY Think Of Black Womanhood? Ask Kanye!

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@ChocolateDiva I find it sad when otherwise sensible Black women vocally support Kanye.  I really don't understand why.  Apart from his mother and Beyonce, he's made it plain how he feels about Black women.  

5 days, 23 hours ago on Black Doctor Wants You To Know: “There are Good Black Men Out There.”

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Does Robert also direct his commentary towards Black men who are on Youtube or websites which demonize and demoralize the hell out of Black women? Or does he only direct his commentary towards Black women who express interest in non-Black men?


I'm happily married to a Black man and I assume that many of the women who support this blog are also.  The issue is not that there are no good Black men. The issue is that Black women need to be sensible and be open to relationships with all men.  Too many Black women have foolishly invested in the "Black community" and "Black love" with nothing to show for their investment.  


I would advise Robert to focus more on Black men who have made it clear that they hate Black women and not worry so much about the Black women who patronize this website. We are not the problem.

5 days, 23 hours ago on Black Doctor Wants You To Know: “There are Good Black Men Out There.”

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@energyatty Cape Verde is off the west coast of Africa, love -- it's not in the West Indies and Ms. Cecily Tyson is not from Cape Verde.


1 week, 1 day ago on Kanye’s Comments About Amber Rose Highlights How White Women Are “Always” Virtuous No Matter How Skeezy Their Past.

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@SavannahPost Interesting how the linked article points out that BM marry out at 24% while BW marry out at only 9%.  Yet BW are under attack for marrying out all the dang time.  

1 week, 1 day ago on Kanye’s Comments About Amber Rose Highlights How White Women Are “Always” Virtuous No Matter How Skeezy Their Past.

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@BeautyIAM Unfortunately, that OKCUPID study coincided with the negative self-image that some BW already had and is now trumpeted by them to justify their low self esteem.  They ignore the real life BW/WM couples that you see all over the media and wallow in pity.  

1 week, 3 days ago on Black Woman Writes Apology Missive for Preferring White Men; Seeks Understanding and Forgiveness.

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@trinigirl1 Amen Trinigirl!!


I don't understand what is accomplished by these BW who are constantly in the public eye shouting about their inability to "get a man".  They make BW as a whole seem pathetic, which is self-defeating in the long run.  There are scores of videos on Youtube showcasing BW with non-BM in happy, committed relationships.  Why not focus on the positive?  

1 week, 3 days ago on Black Woman Writes Apology Missive for Preferring White Men; Seeks Understanding and Forgiveness.

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How many black men will see this true confession and hunt her down for dating and marriage?"


None.  Black men will just smirk and keep it moving.  

1 week, 3 days ago on Black Woman Writes Apology Missive for Preferring White Men; Seeks Understanding and Forgiveness.

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"Do not allow peer and social pressure prevent you from being with the person that makes you happy."


Perfect advice.  What a beautiful couple.  Very nice post.

1 week, 3 days ago on Kelly and Vallina – Put No Limits On Love

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How lovely! Good luck to both couples.

1 week, 6 days ago on Couples Making REAL, Offline Connections on Our G+ Page!

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I would love to watch a movie or documentary about Yanga.  I briefly heard about him in Henry Gates' "Black in Latin America" series.  

2 weeks, 2 days ago on Black Women’s History: You’ve Got Something to Celebrate on “Cinco de Mayo”

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It's always great to learn about Blacks in South America.  When I was in University in the 1980s, I recall meeting a Black woman in Toronto who I assumed was from the Caribbean only to learn that she was from Peru.  At that time, I had no idea that there was a Black Peruvian community.  You learn something every day.

2 weeks, 2 days ago on Black Women in History: A Nineteenth Century Image of Black Beauty From Lima, Peru 

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@Maxine Hasn't Kanye made statements demeaning to dark skinned Black women?  What's making a donkey's behind of himself got to do with "Black love"?

2 weeks, 4 days ago on Zac: “ I wish a muthaf#^%*a WOULD,” and Other Kanye West Observations

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It's amazing to me that Kanye can get away with this behavior with no apparent consequences. People must think it's cute behavior.  If a White artist did the same thing to a Black artist, you know all hell would break out with cries of racism, bigotry, etc.


I have never liked Kanye.  Beyonce needs to tell him to keep her name out of his mouth when he's on these ego trips.  She doesn't need to be linked to him.


Is Kanye going to do this for every award show -- run up on the stage and make an idiot of himself because Beyonce didn't get the award?  

2 weeks, 4 days ago on Zac: “ I wish a muthaf#^%*a WOULD,” and Other Kanye West Observations

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@RobertJamesGriffith That's why I don't understand why some Black women waste time responding to their comments.  Most Black women in their right minds would not converse with White Supremacists.  Why are Black men who hate Black women not treated the same way by Black women as we would treat White Supremacists?  What is the sense with communicating with Black men who hate our guts and wish us evil?

2 weeks, 6 days ago on Who Didn’t See This Coming? Threatening the Monopoly of Dating Black Women…

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@N2ition @PaoloP But apparently it's okay for him to go for a non-Black woman?

2 weeks, 6 days ago on Who Didn’t See This Coming? Threatening the Monopoly of Dating Black Women…

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Hope all goes well with their date(s).  

2 weeks, 6 days ago on Update! So Who Did Wes Pick??

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What was so civil about DeltaRoots' first comment?  I think the best way to deal with Black men like him is to block their comments. They love the attention they get from Black women, which is so undeserved.  There was nothing that he said in any of his comments that hasn't been said before. And his grammar and spelling is atrocious.  

2 weeks, 6 days ago on Who Didn’t See This Coming? Threatening the Monopoly of Dating Black Women…

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He appears to be a very nice gentleman. I wish him luck in finding a nice woman. 

3 weeks, 5 days ago on Everybody Ain’t “The Lovings”: Why Are Older White Men Being Judged for “Suddenly” Pursuing Black Women?

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They have several videos on Youtube. Must check them out when I have time. Lovely family.

3 weeks, 5 days ago on Meet Erik and Tanya: Interracial Couple Living Abroad in Israel

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Great article. Very interesting to read about how young people perceive interracial dating.

1 month ago on Ever Wonder What Millennials Think About Interracial Dating?

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Unfortunately there are enough NBABM women out there who will make these jerks rich. Would be fun to find out what type of women they date. Most likely not BW. There are so many better ways to spend our hard earned $$$.

1 month ago on When IBM Nonsense Doesn’t Go Over Well with White America

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Agreed. Let BM lead out on police brutality issues. I have no reasons to be on the front line.

1 month ago on Anti-Swirling Black Women And You: Why Their Loudness Means Nothing To YOUR Happiness

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Great post-- one of the best on this topic. Intelligent BW are open for love and don't close off themselves to non-BM. Period.

1 month ago on Anti-Swirling Black Women And You: Why Their Loudness Means Nothing To YOUR Happiness

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Sad to hear this. Never watched either but love Nicole.

1 month ago on Sleepy Hollow is on the Verge of Cancellation. What Happened?

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Wow. This is such a positiv story. Wishing them all the best!

1 month ago on Michael and Kemi – A BB&W Google+ Community Love Connection

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Flawless!!

1 month, 1 week ago on OMG…”Scandal-ishous” Wedding!

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@Loveinmosaic Agree that the fact that he's "conservative" is irrelevant to his anti-Black women viewpoint.  He's just a hater.

1 month, 1 week ago on Conservative White Men Married to Black Women Sound Off on Jesse Peterson Bigotry

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@PJDeanwriter Perhaps not.  I doubt any of the people who frequent this blog are attracted to someone like Peterson.  I doubt his popularity will rise -- except among folks who already share his hate for Black women.  

1 month, 1 week ago on Conservative White Men Married to Black Women Sound Off on Jesse Peterson Bigotry

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"wacky, right wing conservative sock puppet"


Naw!!  Better you than me.  I think I'll pass.  LOL.


P.S. I've heard of Peterson before and he sounds crazy -- which probably has little to do with his politics.

1 month, 2 weeks ago on WTF? Worst and Most Racist Interview Ever!!

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"It’s just a lot better than hating."


That about sums it all up.  Congrats to you and your fiancee!!

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Tracy and Adiaya – Chasing Dreams Together

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Is Tony okay with this post and his picture being publicized?  I think we can move on from the AM/BW discussion since we seem to be repeating ourselves.  It's clear that AM/BW relationships in the US are difficult and appear to be very rare.  Move on.  

1 month, 3 weeks ago on AM/BW: “Never Settle for Secrecy”

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Looks like a fairy tale.  Gorgeous!

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Winter Wedding!

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But isn't the solution for light skinned BW to reject their privilege?

1 month, 4 weeks ago on Okay; I’ll Admit It. I’m Feeling Some Kinda Way about the New Doc, “Light Girls.”

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Wishing them all the best!

1 month, 4 weeks ago on Young, Beautiful, Sexy, Talented, Accomplished and Single? Not For Long!

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Congrats to you and your fiancé!

2 months ago on BB&W Goes to Vegas in 2015!!

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Good on you, Christelyn for disclosing this info. I am sure many of your readers will be helped and encouraged by your honesty.

2 months, 1 week ago on The Critics are Right. I AM “Crazy.”

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Red flag alert!! If my Hubby had told me that we had to go dutch, we wouldn't be together now. And the majority of Black women don't have children out of wedlock! Sigh.

2 months, 1 week ago on QOTW: Geeky Guys Seeks Girl, but with Strings Attached.

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@keimiasmoon Perhaps because some BW have had negative experiences with Asian men and are vocal about it.   Plus, many women were reacting to the Asian Letter Writer's over-the-top "all BW are ratchet" statement highlighted in Christelyn's last post about AW.


I don't think anyone here is claiming that WM are never racist or anti-BW.  

2 months, 2 weeks ago on Another Letter From an Asian Guy…

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Gorgeous couple.  So happy for them.  Congrats to them!!

2 months, 2 weeks ago on Christine and Masa – East Meets West

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@lily ot valley Great advice.  He needs to tell her that he was disturbed by her comment about holding WM to a higher standard if they abuse their spouses.  Be honest about his feelings and see how she reacts.  Perhaps, she'll understand where he is coming from and apologize.  


I've heard similar comments from Black women. One BW told me that she would have flashbacks to slavery if a WM ever raised his hand to her.  Race is still a very big deal here in the U.S. so it's not shocking that some BW have these views. 

2 months, 2 weeks ago on QOTW: Should White Guys Date ‘Sister Soldiers?’

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The Letter Writer is pretty much West Indian and I assume that makes a big difference.  I know of several Indian men from Jamaica, Trinidad, and Guyana who are married to Black women.  Not really a big deal in the Caribbean.

2 months, 2 weeks ago on Another Letter From an Asian Guy…

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