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@FriendsofJay Not surprised, LOL. Seriously, though...the video implies that black women have this constant built in rage that keeps us unhappy. I don't find that to be the case. 

4 days ago on It Takes A Miracle For A Black Woman To Smile!

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This is absolutely fab advice!

5 days, 14 hours ago on UK Girl’s Response to Skinny Pickings for Swirling Across the Pond

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Just playing devil's advocate, at what point should a black woman realize that she should listen to and respect that her rainbeaux might have an opinion that differs from hers? She doesn't have to agree of course. But is there a time when we have to accept that our separate experiences growing up in our respective races might lead us to different conclusions and it isn't about being racist?

1 week, 3 days ago on How to Talk to Your Partner About Racially-Charged Issues

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@Beautee_85 @RhondaSpeights @Daisy_inthe_Field Metallica \m/ As for people judging, sometimes you just have to tell them where to go.

1 week, 4 days ago on Ask a White Guy: The Online Dating Quandary

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@Law Wanxi Not only does black not crack but Asian doesn't either.

1 week, 4 days ago on Ask a White Guy: The Online Dating Quandary

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@SirLoinDeBeef @caligirl94117 This is excellent advice. I've found that I have better luck out in the real world than online... Not sure why that is. Offline seems more natural and authentic to me. Techie events here I come... LOL

1 week, 4 days ago on Ask a White Guy: The Online Dating Quandary

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@AnneDunnCausey I believe that law abiding citizens are mostly at home. St. Louis is gang infested and I suspect they are the ones out in the streets for the most part.

2 weeks, 4 days ago on Black Woman Speaks The Truth About The Ferguson Riots!

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@FriendsofJay The fact that a white male could walk around with a gun in Aurora, Colorado where a mass shooting took place (by a white male) without getting shot is mind blowing. I'm not anti white nor a black nationalist by any stretch of the imagination but this is a clear example of white male privilege.

2 weeks, 5 days ago on WHITE MALE PRIVILEGE AT ITS FINEST!

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They look made for each other...

2 weeks, 5 days ago on Two BB&W Fans Sitting in a Tree…Real Life Meeting on Two Regulars. Sparks?

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@KatBranson  I don't see an email in your profile. Can you send your website via my feedback page (not sure if we are connected on fb). Please don't post it here because I want to stay on topic and will delete the comments.

2 weeks, 5 days ago on WHITE MALE PRIVILEGE AT ITS FINEST!

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@KatBranson Out of curiosity, are you a professional editor?

2 weeks, 5 days ago on WHITE MALE PRIVILEGE AT ITS FINEST!

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This incident happened a few days before Eric Garner's death. http://m.nydailynews.com/new-york/brooklyn/nypd-officers-drag-naked-brooklyn-woman-apartment-video-article-1.1889292

But we are only now hearing about it now. There is said to be a huge march in Garner's behalf across the Verenzano Bridge this month. There was a black woman that died in police custody some months ago with very little outrage. What I find unsettling is how the amount of outrage at Foster's piece when she never said that Garner didn't deserve justice nor did she wish his family ill will. As I mentioned on FB, I've seen more outrage over Foster's piece in the black blogosphere than I have at the NYPD. While I would not have mentioned Garner, I respect that I am simply going to have to agree to disagree with many bloggers whom I have great respect. One thing we can all agree on is that the NYPD gets away with a lot of horrible things against citizens of color and increasingly white people. As outraged as some might be over Kim Foster, remember she killed or planted drugs on no one. Anybody willing to demonstrate in front of the precinct?

4 weeks, 1 day ago on Latest News of NYPD Brutality PROVES You Can’t Be “Neutral” When it Comes to Police Abuse

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@Christelyn  @LorMarie And I'm sure there are some great non colorist black men out there. But the magnitude of this makes me reject them all, romantically. It disgusts me to the point that I don't respect black men as a group. Only certain individuals.

4 weeks, 1 day ago on Blatant Rejection of “Traditional” Looking Black Women. See for Yourself Why Expanding Your Options is Necessary.

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And this is the reason why I will carefully suggest to my light skinned, "good-haired", mixed race, "trophy" daughters that they not get involved with black men romantically. This anti-bw colorist sentiment is probably more common than not and I can't respect them. No, I don't look like Lupita but how dare you say she's not datable! And no, I don't care if it appears that I am doing the same.

4 weeks, 1 day ago on Blatant Rejection of “Traditional” Looking Black Women. See for Yourself Why Expanding Your Options is Necessary.

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I meant writer's situation.

1 month ago on #NWNW: Don’t Look for the New Man to Clean Up the Mess.

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@Julie It's not about hating your kids...it's about not liking them at times. Big difference.

1 month ago on Conversation @ http://www.empoweringparents.com/Sometimes-I-Dont-Like-My-Child.php

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Amen, Brenda55. You articulated exactly what I think of the reader's situation.

1 month ago on #NWNW: Don’t Look for the New Man to Clean Up the Mess.

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@liloulilou @LorMarie That's it in a nutshell for me, no intentions of converting or raising my children as Muslims.  I think it might be culture. I don't even trust Arab Christians to be anti-racist.

1 month, 1 week ago on Ladies, Be VERY Careful Dating Ethnic Men. Parents and Family Often Come First

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oops, I meant I'm surprised that latinos would be more biased than white families.

1 month, 1 week ago on Ladies, Be VERY Careful Dating Ethnic Men. Parents and Family Often Come First

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Not surprised at all regarding Arab or Asian families but I am a bit surprised that Latino families would be more biased than black families. Whatever the case, I think that NONmuslim black women should be cautious about dating/marrying Arab/Muslim men. Every story I've read or heard suggested there was a lot of racism against blacks. No offense to others but I personally would not get involved with a muslim man.

1 month, 1 week ago on Ladies, Be VERY Careful Dating Ethnic Men. Parents and Family Often Come First

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Definitely hot!

1 month, 1 week ago on Have You Seen This Hunk? Nick Bateman Blows Up Facebook.

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@sparel @LorMarie The problem for me is the D list associating dark skin with social ills.


I find it is usually the case that gremlin looking people are the worst offenders.

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Hey, Did You Know Hollywood Grades Black Women Just Like Color-racists Do? Truly WTF-iest Casting Call for “Straight Outta Compton” EVER

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I went to the Casting Agent's twitter page and saw pics of two white women. I'll assume they are the agents. Sent them a tweet and waiting for a response.

https://twitter.com/SandeAlessiCast

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Hey, Did You Know Hollywood Grades Black Women Just Like Color-racists Do? Truly WTF-iest Casting Call for “Straight Outta Compton” EVER

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I will NOT be supporting this film with my dollars. Damn I need to create my own "entertainment" respecting my image.

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Hey, Did You Know Hollywood Grades Black Women Just Like Color-racists Do? Truly WTF-iest Casting Call for “Straight Outta Compton” EVER

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I get this all the time... I've gotten used to it at this point. I guess I couldn't expect people to assume my kids are mine. My way of dealing with it is just telling people I'm not a babysitter, I'm their mother. I should get a t-shirt... People just can't seem to fathom that biracial people can look white or near white.

1 month, 3 weeks ago on That Awkward Moment When Numbskulls Assume Your Biracial Baby Isn’t Yours…

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I agree with the title of this post but this guy did say something offensive and this girl was right to question him based on "that." The white guy was wrong in this instance. He needs to realize that black women should be approached respectfully like nonblack women do.

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Ladies, Do NOT Date Interracially if You’re Too Suspicious of White Men. Please. Just…Don’t. (Letter)

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I don't know this woman's side of the story. Based on what I've read about him and his violent comments about this woman, I can't say for sure that she wasn't defending herself.

1 month, 4 weeks ago on Why I Have Mixed Feelings About the Firing of the Co-Host of the “Opie & Anthony” Show

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There is so much to digest here. I totally agree with her especially about the majority of black men as they relate to black women. We can't be afraid to admit this. THANK YOU Breukelen Blu!

2 months ago on One Black Mother’s Heartbreaking Story of Raising Her Son Amongst a Nest of Miscreants Intent on His Ruination

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@Patricia Kayden Yes it is. The latest is that he was on drugs.

2 months ago on ROAD RAGE: White Man kills pregnant black woman with his car

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If this guy is really concerned about that, he should find a black woman that prefers white men thus he'd be a first choice. But like Christelyn says, many are waking up to the fact that you are a choice period. Sure, there are black women that were hurt by black men so they view WM as a second choice. But it's up to you to vet them and next them. Good luck.

2 months ago on Austin, TX Man Asks, “Am I the Black Woman’s Second Choice?”

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She's a beautiful young lady but this is for the best.

2 months ago on Zendaya quits ‘Aaliyah’ Lifetime movie

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I'd choose celibacy over this nonsense. No man is worth this and I question the emotional health of women that choose this.

2 months ago on Open Thread: Hotep-Dude’s Idea of a Legit Harem….You Know, for ‘Black Unity’

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Hey, William Levy is HOTTT!!! Call me a perf or voyeur but I'd like to watch him with that black chick. Why? I can put my hand over her face and pretend she's me.


Happy for Zane that her work was made into a film.

2 months ago on I Officially Hate the Female Character for Zane’s Book-Into-Movie, #Addicted

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@friendswmimi OMG! Those were really all her messages?

2 months, 1 week ago on Robin Thicke and His Very Public Attempt to Win Back His Wife. You Buying It?

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I'm guessing they are single because they are poor. There was an article in The Atlantic showing that poor people aren't considered desirable mates...not even by other poor people.

2 months, 1 week ago on Company’s Photo Discrepancy Gives Subtle Message to Black Mothers Versus White Mothers

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Nope, not buying this and I hope Paula isn't either. Snag yourself a billionaire, Paula.

2 months, 1 week ago on Robin Thicke and His Very Public Attempt to Win Back His Wife. You Buying It?

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Yeah, I figured it would be much lower for white women..,shocked it isn't even lower for Asian women than it is.

2 months, 1 week ago on Company’s Photo Discrepancy Gives Subtle Message to Black Mothers Versus White Mothers

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On the flip side, married black couples do exist so if the company wants to reach all audiences, they should also feature a married black couple with a baby.

2 months, 1 week ago on Company’s Photo Discrepancy Gives Subtle Message to Black Mothers Versus White Mothers

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I too didn't understand why everyone was mad. I heard comments like "white women are single mothers too" "white fathers leave their families too" and a whole host of other refusing to face uncomfortable truths. The picture of the black mother is an accurate portrayal of real life. Just look at the company's response. They will continue to represent all types of family situations and again, the single black mother is real life. WHY ARE PEOPLE MAD AT SHOWING THE TRUTH? They did not look at the company's website which showed whites coupled and uncoupled. 

2 months, 1 week ago on Company’s Photo Discrepancy Gives Subtle Message to Black Mothers Versus White Mothers

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@Secinv It is rather odd...LOL

2 months, 1 week ago on Why Do White People Love To Wear Shorts In the Winter?

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@formavitae Peeling it off?? Ewww

2 months, 1 week ago on Why Do White People Love To Wear Shorts In the Winter?

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What I like about this is that Eve is the last black woman I would have suspected to be into white guys. I don't even think this is something recent for her...it seems completely natural. Congrats to her because she got a good one. Definitely quality and seems lovable. He's lucky to have her too.

2 months, 1 week ago on Utter Hypocrisy: Let’s Talk About All the Dudes Hating On Eve’s Marriage

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@Red2 @LorMarie Red, here is what you are not getting about me, In all of the relationships, dates, etc over the course of my life, 99% of the time I was respected, had fun, etc. I've avoided trouble relationships precisely because I have the attitude I do. If a guy seems iffy, I drop him like a hot potato. So you can drop the "maybe it's the guys you've met" argument. 


Again, because I am strict and I do NOT love men as a group, I have been safe unlike most male identified women that run into trouble with men.


So no, with all of the crime, terrorism, racism, etc, there is no logical reason for me to stick up for men. If you are so upset by what radical feminists say, feel free to argue with them. I think it's pointless. The fact that you feel I should be arguing with radical feminists about why they don't like hetero sex is telling. It suggests arrogance and male entitlement on your part. You are not entitled to every and all women's affection.


Lastly, of course men should not expect me to reciprocate respect. I should prove that I am a trustworthy woman just like they must prove themselves to me. 


I suggest introspection for you in order to discover why you are so unsettled by what a few radical lesbians have to say.

2 months, 2 weeks ago on ALL HETEROSEXUAL SEX IS RAPE EVEN IF YOU WANT IT!

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@Red2 Problem is, it's not just "some men." There have been studies showing that male jurors are biased in sentencing "less attractive women" as opposed to attractive, practice racial discrimination against women and other men, etc. My belief is there is no reason to love men in general since I believe in reciprocity. No matter how we slice it, men do not love and support women in general. In fact, I'm cautious of most men no matter what race they are. Yes, women do horrible things and in some arenas, more so than men. But the issue here is one of sex and sexuality. I'm heterosexual so there is no dilemma when it comes to horrible women. I'm not attracted to women so I won't be dealing with them on intimate levels of any kind.  With men it's a different story, thus the focus is on them since a hetero woman relates intimately with a man. 


So if some radical lesbian feminist believes that all heterosexual sex is rape, I may believe that's asinine but I feel no need to come to the defense of men. That would be just as asinine.

2 months, 2 weeks ago on ALL HETEROSEXUAL SEX IS RAPE EVEN IF YOU WANT IT!

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I remember my preferences switched when I went to integrated schools around puberty. Up until 6th grade I was in all black environments. In 7th-9th I went to school with other races and was fascinated by the nonblack boys. I liked the way they looked. The rest is history.

2 months, 2 weeks ago on The Evolution of a Swirler: One Guy Tells His Story

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Yes!!!!  Those green eyes on the Frenchman are to die for!!!

2 months, 2 weeks ago on (Bonus) Man Candy Monday: World Cup Hotties!!

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@smartacus @jaylwo @LovelyLulu Well there is a belief floating around among educators that good classroom managers have few behavior problems. NOT saying she deserved ANY of this but classroom management did cross my mind.

2 months, 3 weeks ago on When Exploring The Global Village Becomes A Nightmare

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My best practice? Don't EVER cosign for anyone. Family, friend, no one. Think about it. Why do they need a cosigner in the first place?

2 months, 3 weeks ago on Is Your Bad Credit Affecting Your Romantic Relationships?

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Global lifestyle I was thinking of her personal/social life (hobbies, dating, travel, etc)

2 months, 3 weeks ago on When Exploring The Global Village Becomes A Nightmare

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