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Dr. Toni: Do not have children by color-struck black men.


Say it again please???


Dr. Toni: Do not allow your little girls to be exposed to black male actors, musicians/rappers and athletes and any other prominent black men who make it their business to degenerate and objectify black women while parading around light-skinned non black women and calling them “black queens”….all while holding their hands out, expecting financial and emotional support from black women.


And this too!

1 week, 3 days ago on Want To Know What Black Men REALLY Think Of Black Womanhood? Ask Kanye!

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Norman Reedus (whom I had the pleasure of meeting recently), Johnny Depp and Brad Pitt are all "older white men."

3 weeks, 5 days ago on Why They Waited…Non-Black Men Explain Their Shifting Preferences

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@oceanspray BM and WW have loads of difficulties.

3 weeks, 5 days ago on Why They Waited…Non-Black Men Explain Their Shifting Preferences

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@Vivaforever Yeah, after reading some of the comments from you all, I do question why BW always feel the need to air their suspicions of others publicly. It's not a good look. It makes some BW look like neurotic daters when they analyze every non-BM with a microscopic lens for ulterior motives (that is what one-on-one vetting, if it gets that far, is for). I understand being well-informed and strategic daters,


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This! 

1 month ago on Everybody Ain’t “The Lovings”: Why Are Older White Men Being Judged for “Suddenly” Pursuing Black Women?

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I'm interested in hearing his thoughts on the whole age thing.

1 month ago on Everybody Ain’t “The Lovings”: Why Are Older White Men Being Judged for “Suddenly” Pursuing Black Women?

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@Cami2210 @LorMarie Sure, I would be considered an "older woman, I guess (early 40's) and I have no desire to date or marry a man in his 20's or early 30's (heck, I'm getting uncomfortable with guys in their late 30's). It would be easy for me to tell young women to just suck it up and deal with it but I can't do that. I read comments from young black women all the time that lament the fact that they aren't being contacted online by men within their own age group. large age gaps can be a deal breaker in relationships. What's the point in telling young women to explore their options, do everything right only to realize they may not have the options they thought they did for marriage and children (again, though is the operative word since in actuality, black women do have options).


On the other hand, I need to reiterate that waiting for an easier time to date IR isn't limited to white men (I waited myself until I felt comfortable) and the stakes for dating IR WERE higher and harsher at a certain time period so I see no reason to single out white men for doing what everyone else did. Besides again, he may be one of the FEW men that limits his choices to women closer to his age.

1 month ago on Everybody Ain’t “The Lovings”: Why Are Older White Men Being Judged for “Suddenly” Pursuing Black Women?

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@Brenda55 @LorMarie  Agreed, he didn't talk about age preference but the concerns of black women are just as valid as any white man's. The woman that posed the question is young, child free, and a professional if I'm not mistaken. I'm sure she now understands things from his perspective. But was her concern addressed? Not every older man wants a much younger woman but I guarantee most are open and would date/marry her if he could. I would hardly call them poisoning spaces. 

1 month ago on Everybody Ain’t “The Lovings”: Why Are Older White Men Being Judged for “Suddenly” Pursuing Black Women?

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It's not just white men. During the same time period, black men would not have even considered IR marriage and dating either. In fact, I don't find that older generations of black men are as open as the current generation. As open as I am now, I would not have gotten into an IR relationship had I lived during certain eras. But I think what the ladies might be saying is that they are being approached by too many older men and not enough by men in their own age group.

1 month ago on Everybody Ain’t “The Lovings”: Why Are Older White Men Being Judged for “Suddenly” Pursuing Black Women?

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I'm convinced that she wants to look black.

2 months ago on Utterly Speechless…Is Kim Kardashian Wearing Blackface?!

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I only keep fb to connect with family and real friends. Problems come when we add numerous people we don't really know. 

2 months, 2 weeks ago on End of the Year, End of the Drama, Part II

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He was raised in the Carribean. That might make the difference.

2 months, 3 weeks ago on Another Letter From an Asian Guy…

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Glad I'm not the only one who feels that way. Mel Gibson, as crazy as he is, is the only one that tried to represent them right.

2 months, 3 weeks ago on As Much as I Love Christian Bale, I WON’T Be Watching “Exodus: Gods and Kings.”

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The Asian guy was pretty biased himself. Personally, I'm not attracted to Asians and I think the community pressure simply isn't worth it. I can be friends but that's about it. I feel for black women that have an interest in dating them. Just being honest.

2 months, 3 weeks ago on Asian Men…I’m Getting To a Certain Point Where I’m Ready to Throw it In.

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Obama and Papa Williams do NOT play, LOL! Serves her right since she probably thought her blonde hair would protect her.

3 months ago on Resignation of GOP Staffer Proves What Happens When Black Womanhood is Protected

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And no, I'm NOT sticking up for black men nor thinking about black unity...this video dispels a racist myth.

3 months, 1 week ago on Amazing Story! White Man Thug Slaps Two Cops And Escapes Bullets!

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@Brenda55 @LorMarie @Atlantic_Equity Fair enough. Perhaps not a troll but I still say he's racist of the most common type..those that don't even recognize their own racism. 

3 months, 1 week ago on Propaganda Ramping Up On Black Women Dating and Marrying Interracially

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@Atlantic_Equity This person is obviously a racist troll, respectfully wondering why he hasn't been delated. He's praising a guy that clearly follows white nationalism (again, check out the links). The racist site was certainly not spot on. White men are NOT sought after by black women and do not have their pick (when it comes to black women).


http://tierneylab.blogs.nytimes.com/2007/04/13/single-female-seeking-same-race-male/?_r=0


David predicted that black men are more likely to date white women than white men are to date black women — which is right, although not for the reason many people think. It’s not that white men are more reluctant to date non-whites; it’s that black women are less willing to date someone of another race.


African-American women said yes about 30 percent less often to Hispanic men; about 45 percent less often to white men; about 65 percent less often to Asian men.


For equal success with an African-American woman, a Hispanic man needs to earn an extra $184,000; a white man needs to earn an additional $220,000.



3 months, 1 week ago on Propaganda Ramping Up On Black Women Dating and Marrying Interracially

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He seems to follow HBD. That school of thought is filled with emasculated white males.

3 months, 1 week ago on Propaganda Ramping Up On Black Women Dating and Marrying Interracially

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Black women are staying because if they leave nobody wants them?  Then why are black women more likely to divorce black men? Heck, why is anybody more likely to divorce a black man? At the same time, I generally see black women holding white men to a higher standard for dating and marriage than they do black men.  I should add that this guy's link section includes racist sites.

3 months, 1 week ago on Propaganda Ramping Up On Black Women Dating and Marrying Interracially

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@adoptiveblackmom You're welcome. I love your blog.

3 months, 3 weeks ago on Contact US

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I'm a witness. We are the same age and look the same age. My only problem is the gray hair. As long as they make hair dye, I'll never go gray.

3 months, 3 weeks ago on Asset Maximizing: Black Women Have the ‘Ageless Advantage’

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I gotta get over there and register...

3 months, 3 weeks ago on Open Forum: What’s the deal McNeil?

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@Proverbs31Sista @LorMarie That's the thing. People don't want to deal with the source of the problem which is fornication. That's what I meant by the "biblical truth would make us all uncomfortable." On one side, we've got people condemning OOW births and the other side condemning abortion. Meanwhile, folks on both sides are committing fornication. It's a waste of time to get mad at christian churches for not preaching against OOW births because the bible says that ANYTIME you have sex outside of marriage you are sinning whether or not you have and OOW birth. 


So if people want to remain "comfortable" in selective outrage, don't use the bible. Focus on the OOW issue as a socioeconomic one rather than a moral one.

4 months ago on I’m Beginning to Think that Many Black Folks are Contented in Dysfunction.

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All I can say is, if we really want to tackle the OOW problem, the bible isn't the best source to use and NOT for reasons anyone is assuming. People have selective outrage and sins but the bible really isn't about selective outrage and only targeting one group of sins. It will make us ALL uncomfortable (due to the sin issue). So unless we are ready to talk about the source of the problem, it's best not to use the bible. Otherwise, we are no better than those who have selective outrage over abortion and homosexuality.

4 months ago on I’m Beginning to Think that Many Black Folks are Contented in Dysfunction.

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Thank you! I've heard this uttered by men on this forum and others. One actually spoke of a black woman sticking up for him and another about black women not expecting much. It's offensive. Strong as it's often used to describe black women is something different than it is for women of other races. That's why it's offensive (to me).

4 months, 1 week ago on “Dear White Guys Who Like Black Women, Please Stop Saying This…”

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Just a suggestion, what about reporting on news concerning black women, profiles, etc? 

4 months, 3 weeks ago on Open Forum: Community Brainstorm Session

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@Lisa_Lisa @tracyreneejones @darkandlovely Problem is, cheating isn't rare. In fact, a slight majority of men cheat (statistically). So I personally don't think that vetting will save a woman from infidelity.  In fact, the only way to guarantee you won't get cheated on is to stay single.

5 months ago on If It Can Happen to Amber Rose…..Why That Marriage Certificate Makes All the Difference in the World

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@KingsDaughter Like father, like daughter.

5 months ago on Do We Give Female Domestic Violence Abusers a Pass?

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Do female abusers get a pass? To put it simply, YES.

5 months ago on Do We Give Female Domestic Violence Abusers a Pass?

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I'm happy that she decided to leave him since so many stick it out. She showed her son, and other women that she will not tolerate disrespect...more power to her. I didn't really like or respect her before but I do now. And yes, the marriage certificate makes a difference. If you become a rich guy's baby momma without the ring, you are pretty much dependent on how kind he is should you break up (admittedly, I'm no expert on family law).

5 months ago on If It Can Happen to Amber Rose…..Why That Marriage Certificate Makes All the Difference in the World

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Wow, this is definitely great news...

5 months, 1 week ago on Another Online Dating Success! Yes; They Met on AfroRomance.

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Ok, so a black man admits that many black men intentionally impregnate black women to lower their stock. My question is, what's it going to take for black women to wake up to this sobering fact and stop allowing this to happen???? 

5 months, 1 week ago on Black Man Admits Hood Dudes Corrupt Black Women’s Wombs Through Sabotage, But Stops Short on “Swirling” Option

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Kudos to Shonda Rhimes for putting it back to the ww critic. More "putting it back" needs to be done.

5 months, 2 weeks ago on Shonda Rhimes Hands NY Times WW Writer Her Hindquarters on Social Media

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I hear you but I read another article that he was asked for ID and showed it to the cops. If true, that's why he wasn't cuffed.

5 months, 3 weeks ago on Update on Danielle Watts: BB&W Exclusive Interview with Boyfriend, Brian

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This is why on the last thread I said I'd wait to hear their side of the story. On FB, it was said that they looked as though they were doing more than kissing and if it looked like something more, I can't blame anyone for thinking there was prostitution going on especially since most couple keep the heavy and hot stuff behind closed doors. So I can't cry foul against the LAPD on this one and not even the one who called police. With that said, I hope that Danielle has a bright future and I wish her much success in Hollywood. Thank God she wasn't seriously injured or killed by the cops. Nothing wrong with showing your ID especially if the cops were called to the scene.

5 months, 3 weeks ago on Update on Danielle Watts: BB&W Exclusive Interview with Boyfriend, Brian

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Ok this is all over my FB newsfeed. All I gotta say is I've got to listen to their side of the story. Too much info, or misinfo is floating around.

5 months, 3 weeks ago on Celebrity Interracial Couple, Daniele Watts and Partner Detained by L.A. Police Who Mistook Her for Hoe and Her “John”

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I dunno. You are probably right but I don't know if that applies to a lot of white men, lol

5 months, 3 weeks ago on Celebrity Interracial Couple, Daniele Watts and Partner Detained by L.A. Police Who Mistook Her for Hoe and Her “John”

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Ok, I just read two different articles stating they were not randomly approached by the LAPD but that someone called the cops on them. I hope they comment on that whether or not that's true.  Here is one of the articles, second paragraphs http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2755113/Django-Unchained-actress-claims-handcuffed-detained-police-mistaken-prostitute-kissed-husband.html?ito=social-facebook


The police were still wrong but if in fact they were called, that means they did not randomly stop a black woman kissing a white man assuming she's a prostitute. Can't wait for the interview.

5 months, 3 weeks ago on Celebrity Interracial Couple, Daniele Watts and Partner Detained by L.A. Police Who Mistook Her for Hoe and Her “John”

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To clarify, I meant could the actress still sue if she refused to show ID.

5 months, 3 weeks ago on Celebrity Interracial Couple, Daniele Watts and Partner Detained by L.A. Police Who Mistook Her for Hoe and Her “John”

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Can they sue since she refused to show ID? Are there a lot of black prostitutes in the area? IR couples with black female partners? Was this just a kiss or hot and heavy? NOT blaming them at all just trying to figure out what possessed that cop to question them other than pure racism. I can't wait to hear what her boyfriend was saying to the police officers because I only see her in handcuffs. How did he defend her?

5 months, 3 weeks ago on Celebrity Interracial Couple, Daniele Watts and Partner Detained by L.A. Police Who Mistook Her for Hoe and Her “John”

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Agreed. I personally think that most gender minded black women are fully aware that they are vulnerable. That's the whole point, we are victims too. Our stories aren't often told in favor of what happens to black men.

5 months, 3 weeks ago on Celebrity Interracial Couple, Daniele Watts and Partner Detained by L.A. Police Who Mistook Her for Hoe and Her “John”

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Good advice. She should let go and move on. There are plenty of good looking hotties out there to form serious relationships with.  No need for her to feel inferior. After all, he cheated on a pretty blonde girl with you and unfortunately, you are not the first woman he cheated with and likely not the last.

5 months, 3 weeks ago on “Did This White Guy Use Me for Sex?” Yeah; Probably. But Not Because You’re Black.

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First I want to say that I'm currently not looking (keep going back and forth on that). But when I do decide to look, I will be excluding black men from my dating pool (not attracted). I am unapologetic about that. So, I don't feel that any black woman is wrong for excluding black men. It depends on motive. Example, I won't go into too much detail but there was one white guy from my past that had I continued anything with him, I would have ended up a victim of domestic violence. He never hit me but he did get mad at me and hurled a few insults. I need to mention again that he's white. To make a long story short, I was NOT ABOUT to stick around to see if he would actually hit me. Did I mention he's white? My point is, it is a strategic mistake to assume that just because a man is white (or nonblack) he's less likely to display ratchet behavior. He might just be better at hiding the evidence. He may want marriage before children, be educated, good job, or whatever. But there are some things that we cannot assume won't happen because he's white. White women are victims of DV, white husbands cheat big time (I've been solicited many times by married white men), maybe he doesn't have kids by his side piece but he might have paid for a couple of abortions...get my drift?



Ones motive for excluding black men should not be based on behavior. How is that different from saying black women have attitudes so no man should date them? Date/marry who you want or exclude who you want. Just understand that motives are key and you could be setting yourself up for a huge disappointment if you think white and other nonblack men are angels. No, I'm not saying these things to defend black men but to encourage black women not to let their guard down for their own sake.





5 months, 3 weeks ago on QOTW: “Am I Wrong to EXPLICITLY Exclude Black Men from My Dating Pool?”

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@SuaveNorwood @PoetOfDarkness @CassieM12345 I'd say a good number of young black men egg on the cops. Not PC to tell that truth. But it will set us free.

5 months, 3 weeks ago on Black Militants Call ESPN Journalist, Jemele Hill “Race Traitor”; “Bed Wench” for Calling Out Ray Rice Disparity

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@PoetOfDarkness @CassieM12345 Did you ask them if black men egged on the police when they are beaten or killed by one.

5 months, 3 weeks ago on Black Militants Call ESPN Journalist, Jemele Hill “Race Traitor”; “Bed Wench” for Calling Out Ray Rice Disparity

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Now they're attacking a member of the model minority? That says a lot.

5 months, 3 weeks ago on “You’re Not a F*cking American” Cop Video Leads to $150k Settlement

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@lindsaynagle That's what I meant. Latino men are a safe option for black women and Asian women are a safe option for white men. I personally don't think the feminine ideal applies since we are talking about men and women rather than how black women are viewed vs Asian women.  Men don't have to live up to a feminine ideal, LOL. If so, we'd all be in trouble. LOL

6 months ago on And We Wonder Why More Non-Black Men Don’t Approach Us?

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Not really. The Latinos most black women are willing to date are the mestizos and those from Puerto Rico, Cuba, some of whom have distant black ancestry. etc. They aren't necessarily speaking of those of pure white Ancestry (Spain or Argentina, etc).

6 months ago on And We Wonder Why More Non-Black Men Don’t Approach Us?

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