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I meant writer's situation.

2 days, 9 hours ago on #NWNW: Don’t Look for the New Man to Clean Up the Mess.

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@Julie It's not about hating your kids...it's about not liking them at times. Big difference.

2 days, 20 hours ago on Conversation @ http://www.empoweringparents.com/Sometimes-I-Dont-Like-My-Child.php

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Amen, Brenda55. You articulated exactly what I think of the reader's situation.

2 days, 11 hours ago on #NWNW: Don’t Look for the New Man to Clean Up the Mess.

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@liloulilou @LorMarie That's it in a nutshell for me, no intentions of converting or raising my children as Muslims.  I think it might be culture. I don't even trust Arab Christians to be anti-racist.

5 days, 20 hours ago on Ladies, Be VERY Careful Dating Ethnic Men. Parents and Family Often Come First

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oops, I meant I'm surprised that latinos would be more biased than white families.

5 days, 20 hours ago on Ladies, Be VERY Careful Dating Ethnic Men. Parents and Family Often Come First

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Not surprised at all regarding Arab or Asian families but I am a bit surprised that Latino families would be more biased than black families. Whatever the case, I think that NONmuslim black women should be cautious about dating/marrying Arab/Muslim men. Every story I've read or heard suggested there was a lot of racism against blacks. No offense to others but I personally would not get involved with a muslim man.

6 days, 8 hours ago on Ladies, Be VERY Careful Dating Ethnic Men. Parents and Family Often Come First

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@sparel @LorMarie The problem for me is the D list associating dark skin with social ills.


I find it is usually the case that gremlin looking people are the worst offenders.

2 weeks ago on Hey, Did You Know Hollywood Grades Black Women Just Like Color-racists Do? Truly WTF-iest Casting Call for “Straight Outta Compton” EVER

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I went to the Casting Agent's twitter page and saw pics of two white women. I'll assume they are the agents. Sent them a tweet and waiting for a response.

https://twitter.com/SandeAlessiCast

2 weeks ago on Hey, Did You Know Hollywood Grades Black Women Just Like Color-racists Do? Truly WTF-iest Casting Call for “Straight Outta Compton” EVER

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I will NOT be supporting this film with my dollars. Damn I need to create my own "entertainment" respecting my image.

2 weeks ago on Hey, Did You Know Hollywood Grades Black Women Just Like Color-racists Do? Truly WTF-iest Casting Call for “Straight Outta Compton” EVER

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I get this all the time... I've gotten used to it at this point. I guess I couldn't expect people to assume my kids are mine. My way of dealing with it is just telling people I'm not a babysitter, I'm their mother. I should get a t-shirt... People just can't seem to fathom that biracial people can look white or near white.

3 weeks, 1 day ago on That Awkward Moment When Numbskulls Assume Your Biracial Baby Isn’t Yours…

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I agree with the title of this post but this guy did say something offensive and this girl was right to question him based on "that." The white guy was wrong in this instance. He needs to realize that black women should be approached respectfully like nonblack women do.

3 weeks, 2 days ago on Ladies, Do NOT Date Interracially if You’re Too Suspicious of White Men. Please. Just…Don’t. (Letter)

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I don't know this woman's side of the story. Based on what I've read about him and his violent comments about this woman, I can't say for sure that she wasn't defending herself.

3 weeks, 5 days ago on Why I Have Mixed Feelings About the Firing of the Co-Host of the “Opie & Anthony” Show

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There is so much to digest here. I totally agree with her especially about the majority of black men as they relate to black women. We can't be afraid to admit this. THANK YOU Breukelen Blu!

4 weeks ago on One Black Mother’s Heartbreaking Story of Raising Her Son Amongst a Nest of Miscreants Intent on His Ruination

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@Patricia Kayden Yes it is. The latest is that he was on drugs.

4 weeks, 1 day ago on ROAD RAGE: White Man kills pregnant black woman with his car

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If this guy is really concerned about that, he should find a black woman that prefers white men thus he'd be a first choice. But like Christelyn says, many are waking up to the fact that you are a choice period. Sure, there are black women that were hurt by black men so they view WM as a second choice. But it's up to you to vet them and next them. Good luck.

1 month ago on Austin, TX Man Asks, “Am I the Black Woman’s Second Choice?”

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She's a beautiful young lady but this is for the best.

1 month ago on Zendaya quits ‘Aaliyah’ Lifetime movie

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I'd choose celibacy over this nonsense. No man is worth this and I question the emotional health of women that choose this.

1 month ago on Open Thread: Hotep-Dude’s Idea of a Legit Harem….You Know, for ‘Black Unity’

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Hey, William Levy is HOTTT!!! Call me a perf or voyeur but I'd like to watch him with that black chick. Why? I can put my hand over her face and pretend she's me.


Happy for Zane that her work was made into a film.

1 month ago on I Officially Hate the Female Character for Zane’s Book-Into-Movie, #Addicted

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@friendswmimi OMG! Those were really all her messages?

1 month, 1 week ago on Robin Thicke and His Very Public Attempt to Win Back His Wife. You Buying It?

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I'm guessing they are single because they are poor. There was an article in The Atlantic showing that poor people aren't considered desirable mates...not even by other poor people.

1 month, 1 week ago on Company’s Photo Discrepancy Gives Subtle Message to Black Mothers Versus White Mothers

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Nope, not buying this and I hope Paula isn't either. Snag yourself a billionaire, Paula.

1 month, 1 week ago on Robin Thicke and His Very Public Attempt to Win Back His Wife. You Buying It?

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Yeah, I figured it would be much lower for white women..,shocked it isn't even lower for Asian women than it is.

1 month, 1 week ago on Company’s Photo Discrepancy Gives Subtle Message to Black Mothers Versus White Mothers

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On the flip side, married black couples do exist so if the company wants to reach all audiences, they should also feature a married black couple with a baby.

1 month, 1 week ago on Company’s Photo Discrepancy Gives Subtle Message to Black Mothers Versus White Mothers

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I too didn't understand why everyone was mad. I heard comments like "white women are single mothers too" "white fathers leave their families too" and a whole host of other refusing to face uncomfortable truths. The picture of the black mother is an accurate portrayal of real life. Just look at the company's response. They will continue to represent all types of family situations and again, the single black mother is real life. WHY ARE PEOPLE MAD AT SHOWING THE TRUTH? They did not look at the company's website which showed whites coupled and uncoupled. 

1 month, 1 week ago on Company’s Photo Discrepancy Gives Subtle Message to Black Mothers Versus White Mothers

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@Secinv It is rather odd...LOL

1 month, 1 week ago on Why Do White People Love To Wear Shorts In the Winter?

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@formavitae Peeling it off?? Ewww

1 month, 1 week ago on Why Do White People Love To Wear Shorts In the Winter?

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What I like about this is that Eve is the last black woman I would have suspected to be into white guys. I don't even think this is something recent for her...it seems completely natural. Congrats to her because she got a good one. Definitely quality and seems lovable. He's lucky to have her too.

1 month, 1 week ago on Utter Hypocrisy: Let’s Talk About All the Dudes Hating On Eve’s Marriage

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@Red2 @LorMarie Red, here is what you are not getting about me, In all of the relationships, dates, etc over the course of my life, 99% of the time I was respected, had fun, etc. I've avoided trouble relationships precisely because I have the attitude I do. If a guy seems iffy, I drop him like a hot potato. So you can drop the "maybe it's the guys you've met" argument. 


Again, because I am strict and I do NOT love men as a group, I have been safe unlike most male identified women that run into trouble with men.


So no, with all of the crime, terrorism, racism, etc, there is no logical reason for me to stick up for men. If you are so upset by what radical feminists say, feel free to argue with them. I think it's pointless. The fact that you feel I should be arguing with radical feminists about why they don't like hetero sex is telling. It suggests arrogance and male entitlement on your part. You are not entitled to every and all women's affection.


Lastly, of course men should not expect me to reciprocate respect. I should prove that I am a trustworthy woman just like they must prove themselves to me. 


I suggest introspection for you in order to discover why you are so unsettled by what a few radical lesbians have to say.

1 month, 1 week ago on ALL HETEROSEXUAL SEX IS RAPE EVEN IF YOU WANT IT!

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@Red2 Problem is, it's not just "some men." There have been studies showing that male jurors are biased in sentencing "less attractive women" as opposed to attractive, practice racial discrimination against women and other men, etc. My belief is there is no reason to love men in general since I believe in reciprocity. No matter how we slice it, men do not love and support women in general. In fact, I'm cautious of most men no matter what race they are. Yes, women do horrible things and in some arenas, more so than men. But the issue here is one of sex and sexuality. I'm heterosexual so there is no dilemma when it comes to horrible women. I'm not attracted to women so I won't be dealing with them on intimate levels of any kind.  With men it's a different story, thus the focus is on them since a hetero woman relates intimately with a man. 


So if some radical lesbian feminist believes that all heterosexual sex is rape, I may believe that's asinine but I feel no need to come to the defense of men. That would be just as asinine.

1 month, 1 week ago on ALL HETEROSEXUAL SEX IS RAPE EVEN IF YOU WANT IT!

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I remember my preferences switched when I went to integrated schools around puberty. Up until 6th grade I was in all black environments. In 7th-9th I went to school with other races and was fascinated by the nonblack boys. I liked the way they looked. The rest is history.

1 month, 2 weeks ago on The Evolution of a Swirler: One Guy Tells His Story

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Yes!!!!  Those green eyes on the Frenchman are to die for!!!

1 month, 2 weeks ago on (Bonus) Man Candy Monday: World Cup Hotties!!

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@smartacus @jaylwo @LovelyLulu Well there is a belief floating around among educators that good classroom managers have few behavior problems. NOT saying she deserved ANY of this but classroom management did cross my mind.

1 month, 2 weeks ago on When Exploring The Global Village Becomes A Nightmare

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My best practice? Don't EVER cosign for anyone. Family, friend, no one. Think about it. Why do they need a cosigner in the first place?

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Is Your Bad Credit Affecting Your Romantic Relationships?

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Global lifestyle I was thinking of her personal/social life (hobbies, dating, travel, etc)

1 month, 2 weeks ago on When Exploring The Global Village Becomes A Nightmare

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Interesting point. Does our work environment necessarily have to be diverse in order to live a global lifestyle? Should black women teachers seek out schools where they can be positive role models to young girls instead of all white white schools?

1 month, 2 weeks ago on When Exploring The Global Village Becomes A Nightmare

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Global Village to me is any place that isn't all or mostly black American. Kind of like the term ethnic being anyone that doesn't fit a "traditional white" stereotype. All depends on whose perspective we are speaking from.

1 month, 2 weeks ago on When Exploring The Global Village Becomes A Nightmare

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Agreed! I think if I had to do anything else in a majority nonblack environment, I'd hope it's mostly men.

1 month, 2 weeks ago on When Exploring The Global Village Becomes A Nightmare

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Here is something I wrote on FB: She should definitely leave that school and I hope no one walks away from this article thinking I'm saying she should stay in that school. However, the global village is vast. I would tell her not to let this experience cause her to reject branching out all together. Educational, professional, and financial opportunities abound in the global village and the consequences of rejecting it are far greater than rejecting Blackistan.

1 month, 2 weeks ago on When Exploring The Global Village Becomes A Nightmare

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@Gijou @LorMarie It applies because there is a misconception that just because a person is with a mixed race partner they harbor no racism. The personal accounts of many have shown otherwise. Halle is mixed race and not the average black woman so that could have been more acceptable in his eyes. It is possible for someone in a relationship with a black person to use the N word (whether or not Aubry really said it). That's where I disagree with this particular post.


On the other hand, I think that the rich in general need to be careful who they mate up with. I believe that either Halle constantly picks the wrong guys (Aubry being one of them) or she's the one that's screwed up and Aubry is just another one of her victims.

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Halle Ordered to Pay $16K a Month in Child Support. Is it Fair?

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@Shulamit @LorMarie Is this standard practice in the family court system? To get support all year even if the child is with the parent paying child support?


1 month, 3 weeks ago on Halle Ordered to Pay $16K a Month in Child Support. Is it Fair?

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I'm curious if anyone is familiar with the family court system, why does a mother/father get monthly child support if they only have the child for a few months out of the year? Or is Aubry getting this support for the months she's with him???

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Halle Ordered to Pay $16K a Month in Child Support. Is it Fair?

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The racist shooter (Glenn Frasier) was caught with black trans prostitutes. Strom Thurmond, the segregationist, supported his half black daughter. Halle Berry is not only rich but mixed race. You'd be surprised at people that make exceptions when money is involved. It's not impossible for someone to use the n word towards their partner (just as some people physically abuse their partners).

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Halle Ordered to Pay $16K a Month in Child Support. Is it Fair?

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I would have exposed less breast but would not cover a baby's face since some protest. However, I am NOT offended and quite happy to see a black mother breastfeeding. I wish that it had worked out for me and my kids (I'm happy to report that both my girls benefitted from "liquid gold").and I fully support women to breastfeed whenever and wherever they need to.

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Does This Picture Offend You? Now, Ask Yourself, WHY.

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Wow is that a recent pic? They are so great together!

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Congrats, David and Iman, for 22 Years of Wedded Bliss!

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@NrM @LorMarie No, male-identified is figurative rather than literal. Such women think they're scoring points with men when they aren't.

1 month, 3 weeks ago on ALL HETEROSEXUAL SEX IS RAPE EVEN IF YOU WANT IT!

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In addition to names, I wonder what social media sites play into discrimination. What I mean is, a black person with a "white" sounding name and public linkedin profile with a pic might lose out if a bigoted employer looks them up.

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Are You Vulnerable to Job Discrimination?

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@NrM @LorMarie Male identified women are those that completely ignore women's issues, blame women for misogyny, and even contribute to the mistreatment of women. It's the gender equivalent of an "Uncle Tom."

1 month, 3 weeks ago on ALL HETEROSEXUAL SEX IS RAPE EVEN IF YOU WANT IT!

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@NrM Welcome, NrM. I'm not sure what you mean. I don't hate trans men.

1 month, 3 weeks ago on ALL HETEROSEXUAL SEX IS RAPE EVEN IF YOU WANT IT!

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