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YES! This happened to me. I had one tell me he was offended. Giggles. He got blocked.
About 98% of men who inbox me are white, then Latin, then Asian. I make it known that I am interested interracially per my profile.
10 hours, 43 minutes ago on The Unfair ‘Options’ Media Message: What Do These Two Magazine Covers Tell You?
@Kels @darkandlovely @jillodelight @Christelyn @Yorkshireman in Michigan I'm sorry you went through that.
12 hours, 8 minutes ago on The Unfair ‘Options’ Media Message: What Do These Two Magazine Covers Tell You?
@Lady Cheetah @zimekcyn @Savannah18121 Lady Cheetah EXACTLY! I was thinking this man has LOWWWWWWWWWW self-esteem.
12 hours, 31 minutes ago on The Unfair ‘Options’ Media Message: What Do These Two Magazine Covers Tell You?
@sparel @LorMarie @sparel...you gave me a six pack because your comment had me laughing so hard.
4 days, 9 hours ago on Hey, Did You Know Hollywood Grades Black Women Just Like Color-racists Do? Truly WTF-iest Casting Call for “Straight Outta Compton” EVER
@Savannah18121 I was thinking the SAME thing.
I live in California and I will NOT be auditioning for any roles and I will NOT pay to see the movie. It stops here!!!!!!
4 days, 18 hours ago on Hey, Did You Know Hollywood Grades Black Women Just Like Color-racists Do? Truly WTF-iest Casting Call for “Straight Outta Compton” EVER
@LorMarie "I will NOT be supporting this film with my dollars."
I agree with you. This goes without saying for me.
@JustMe_J @Kaiju_Bleu Oh yes. I would like to hear too please. Thank you :-)
@Swirlgirl28 Absolutely LOVED your commentary!
1 week, 1 day ago on “Im a Negro Bed Wench,” and Other Things I Learned Since Marrying My Husband
Ladies, wanted to share the link below by Songbirddiva4life. She is a fashionista. Much into style, makeup, etc... I am inspired by her looks. Take a look.
1 year, 1 month ago on Hot Out of the Oven, Another Off Topic Thread
Ladies, Have you heard of this alternative to regular lipstick?
This is one of my favorite posts from you. Thank you. Congrats to the happy couple.
1 year, 6 months ago on George Lucas Got a Fiancé for Christmas!
I am really happy for you. I remember one time I made a comment about me meeting Mr. Right one day and your response to me was very positive. I wish you and your husband many blessings. Thank you for sharing this awesome news with us. Bless you.
1 year, 6 months ago on Congrats are in order! Our very own Eugenia is expecting her own little bun!
@Brenda55 "Does it lay with the subjects of the show for existing and being willing to open their life up for public scrutiny?"
I'm looking at ALL of the parents involved. Yes, I think the network sees a gold mine as to capitalize off of them, but I don't hold them responsible for the decisons and actions of all parents involved. From watching the clip I get more of an "exhibit" and "glorification" feel verses "we are trying to correct this" verses anything else. So I will say the issue lays with the subjects of the show.
Two more things....
I hope the children (A.K.A next generation) won't repeat this.
I don't want the younger generation to become desensitized and begin to normalize, glorify and duplicate this lifestyle.
1 year, 6 months ago on "All My Baby Mamas"...Well, What Do You Expect When You Try to Normalize Dysfunction??
@uninterracial "I couldn't even finish the video because the ignorance was overwhelming."
I felt the SAME way. On another blog they were comparing it to SisterWives. So what! Sisterwives don't make this right either.
Someone please explain to me how this became normalized. I mean, I know how, but dang.
Happy holidays everyone. Thank you Christelyn and everyone for your contributions. I've learned a lot this year.
1 year, 6 months ago on A Very Special Christmas to My BB&W Family!
@Jamila ""Does this support and uplift black women? Does this person support and uplift black women? If not, why should it be posted?"
Power questions at its finest. Nice!
1 year, 7 months ago on Why Are These Bitter Chicks Hating On Michael Ealy Because He Married a Non-Black Woman? Oh. I Know.
I just left a message on the General Manager's answering machine. I did let him know that I lived outside of Louisiana so he can know or be reminded that this story has national attention. Keeping my fingers crossed. Personally, I don't know Ms. Lee, but I feel like I HAD TO speak on her behalf. This is deep on so many levels. It really hit home.
1 year, 7 months ago on Meteorologist fired after responding to viewer who didn't like her natural hair
@reem11 " I do feel she will get her job back. Many times it takes something like this to happen to bring about change."
Reem 11, I agree I feel as though she may get her job back too. The question is does she want to go back to THAT station lol? Hopefully, a bigger station or a promotion can come out of this if she wants it. I believe that whats meant for bad can be flipped into good by God.
@Christelyn @Suburban Soulgirl I agree with you Christelyn about Bakersfield. I will say that I lived in Irvine (Orange County) for two years and just moved to the Los Angeles area due to LA having "more singles." Irvine...no I would say much of Orange County is family oriented. I've learned thats where I'm to go AFTER I get married. To GET married I should stay in LA County. Hope this helps.
1 year, 7 months ago on New Study Reveals Black Women Viewed as "Masculine;" Asian Men Sterotyped "Feminine." How This Affects Swirling.
@Brenda55 Thank you Brenda55!
I think I would feel better about it if it were on Centric or TvOne. BET has already done enough for my mind. I can't even.. no."
I feel the same way. You took the words right out of my mouth. Thats like mixing apples with oranges.
1 year, 8 months ago on Finally, A Reason to Tune in to BET...Black Girls Rock 2012!
1 year, 8 months ago on Thanks to Social Networking, Lil Reese and Def Jam Records are on Notice.
"I definitely feel what you're saying, but at least we aren't truly STUCK with them haha..that'd be a nightmare if we didn't have the freedom of choice..."
Excellent. Excellent. Excellent. Freedom of choice is where its happening.
1 year, 9 months ago on Brenda's Rebuttal to Bloggers Who Take Jabs at Black Women Who Prefer Interracial Dating
@PamelaFoster "Why in the world is this"Demetria" so concerned with one black woman's preference when you have literally hundreds of rappers, entertainers, athletes, politicians, and actors that you could ask this very question? "
Its done to keep Michelle and other BW in place. Its like she is "telling" on them so mama and daddy, (BM and BW who don't like BW dating interracially can "get them".
1 year, 9 months ago on Bloggers Continue to Take Jabs at Black Women Who Prefer Interracial Dating
@Joyce345 Joyce thank you for the refresher. This part of Halima's post got me
"White supremacy says, “When you come outside your house, you will know that I reign supreme,” While racio-misogyny opens the door and says “Come in and put yourself above the women in here”.
This is a sickeness that requires several couches and clipboards.
Don't know how this will be taken, but perhaps (if you have the skill) marketing yourself as a hairdresser specializing in mixed or biracial children hair types, can bring in income too."
I just reread my post and would like to clarify the above paragraph. I see a lot of biracial kids with unkept hair and that may be due to thier mothers (usually nonBW) not knowing how to do their hair. This may be a possiblity for you, especially if you can make house visits. Just wanted to clarify. Thx.
1 year, 9 months ago on When Racial Unity Becomes Dangerous: Pillars of Salt Extreme Edition
@JuneBug277 @tch "I can't due to financial and other reasons but once I fix myself up better I will be heading to a far better place to live."
JuneBug 227, we may not know when your finances will be "fixed". With this said perhaps there is a way to FLEE. Often on cragislist I see a husband and wife renting out their spare bedroom (in very well to do neighborhoods) to two female roommates, usually college students. EAch girl will have a separate bed (twin beds I think), but they share the same room. The price is usually $250-$300 here in Southern California. Renting out guest homes and living room COUCHES are popular in the Los Angeles area. Don't know where you live honey, but I hope you FLEE.
I've seen posts that say "rent for free in exchange to assist elderly or disabled person with house work" What zip code do you think this targets?
For extra cash perhaps you can participate in paid focus groups.
What gifts and talents do you have? For starters, I've seen people make earrings and they sell like crazy. Perhaps doing this and marketing them OUTSIDE of the hood may work for you. Craigs list can be a good source as I have had some good experiences. Perhaps teaching a class in something you are good and and marketing it around college campuses OUTSIDE of the hood is an idea.
Don't know how this will be taken, but perhaps (if you have the skill) marketing yourself as a hairdresser specializing in mixed or biracial children hair types, can bring in income too.
Starting a cleaning business in areas OUTSIDE the hood is a traditional option as well.
Oh, one more thing, I don't know how old you are but did you know you can get hired as a professional travel companion or travel chaperon? PTCs are people who assist disabled people, senior citizens, medical patients, etc... as they fly around the world. They will pay for your flight and expenses through the company you join with. Your job is to assist them (wheelchair, or whatever) during their visit.Take a look.
I hope this helps in someway honey. I hate for you to be in that living situation. Much love.
@Toni_M @Patricia Kayden "Marriage does not a good man make."
Thank you! I was going to address this, but you did well as usual lol.
1 year, 9 months ago on Why Can't Some Black Women Put Their Interests Above Black Men?
@TheZitaZitomihr @Zaire "but to this day, that is one of my reasons why I do not like to be around black men/or boys."
Me too. When I am at the stop light waiting for it to turn green, I stand away from young BM so no one will target the wrong person in a drive-by.
I feel this way because its a REALITY.
I'm sorry about your incident.
@Zaire @zipporah "I'll forgive you, but I will not have anything to do with you." Honey, I am sorry this happened to you. No one deserves this. I can imagine where that loser is in life right now.
"I don't even answer to "sister" anymore."
You got that right. Sister means OBLIGATION!
@FriendsofJay @nyaw "the BC approves of this double standard AND it keeps a good many BW from crossing the color line. The name calling works its poison into a BW's mind."
This is so true. Thats why I was so grateful when I came across BWE blogs a couple of years ago. They were able to put into words how I felt. I've learned so much from this community. I have become a student.
1 year, 10 months ago on Friday Funny: "Swirling Hypocrisy"
@NavyOne @MixedUpInVegas " I am just tired of the Black Males being everyones wiping boy. Who stand up for them?"
Oh please? Black girls grow up in these same environments, go through the same things. Who is standing up for her?
Have you not heard of "Don't call the police on him because we don't want to see another black male go to jail?" This usually occurs after the black woman has been assaulted.
"BLACK MALE IS NOT THE PRODUCT OF YOUR FAILURE, HE IS THE PRODUCT OF YOUR SUCCESS. "
Again, black women have grown up in the same environment as these black men. BW didn't stop at racism. Nope...we had to face sexism and guess what?.....COLORISM.
I could go on, but I will stop here.
1 year, 10 months ago on Full-on Blackistanis: Look What Happens to Black Men Who Stand Up for Black Women
@Mayanew "Now when C. Dolores Tucker complains about the use of bitch and hoe in rap, it is totally ignored for years. However, when he is accused of disrespecting a white women, he gets on it right away."
No matter how famous a DBR gets....he KNOWS the rules. In other words, he knows who he isn't going to mess with and get away with it. Notice Kim's FATHER stepped in. I wonder if it was an all black situation and had a black girl's father stepped in, would the outcome have been the same. Just a thought.
@Mayanew @tracyreneejones @PumpkinSpice "Michelle Obama is not unusual. There are a lot of black women who are like her."
1 year, 10 months ago on A Peculiar Situation: One Black Woman's Complicated Relationship with White Women
@nyaw "I do not want to say ignorance is blist but..ever since I came on here reading articles in particular like these that generalize people experience. I always keep leaving feeling like, really people go away feeling this way about other women or asian women are seen as more beautiful...etc."
Nyaw, I agree with you when you speak of self-confidence. I personally don't feel as though anyone is more beautiful then me because of the color of their skin. My self esteem is just as high as the next womans. I'm in my 30s and my dad still tells me how beautiful I am. lol. I understand not all BW have this relationship with their father though.
I have friends in the global village and Asian, white, black, hispanic and they all make positive comments about my image, style, etc... and me vice versa. I had one Asian girl who was doing my nails tell me she wish she was my color. I'm the same color as Diana Ross probably.
When I look and see what women in the global village are buying, I see that these women are buying features that we (BW) were naturally born with (e.g. fuller lips, darker skin, rounded hips and buttocks, etc....Why? Because their men like it. What's the subtext here?
We are Eve!
@Christelyn @WendyH @MayaHope "This woman would throw another black woman under the bus to save a "brutha."
This right here is very real.
1 year, 10 months ago on More Black Women are Packing and From the Looks of It, For Good Reason: IR Couple Attacked By Wolf Pack
@Twiga @MayaHope THANK YOU. I feel the same way! I don't think she is a she either.
@Brenda55 @ELLE ROCHELLE Thank you. This is fantastic news.
1 year, 10 months ago on Reality Show Fatigue: What Ever Happened to the Cosby's?
This is why you Don't date or marry fatherless men ladies, I'm sorry this type of story is not even uncommon with them."
BINGO. Say it again. Say it again! I live by this.
1 year, 10 months ago on Dr. Boyce Watkins Thinks Welfare of Girlfriend-Beater is More Important Than the Victim
"When he saw me look at him, he grabs his girlfriend and starts making out with her and then looks at me to see my reaction. I guess it bothered him because he didn't get the reaction he expected and their practically dry humping in line annoying the other people in line."
Thank you EvieE your post. I have a question.
For WW who are with DBRs like this, don't they think there is something WRONG with the DBRs thought pattern or do they not care and try to feel as though they are superior because their DBR told them they are?
I mean if my WM had done this to a WW STRANGER in a public place I would have to dismiss him. As a woman I would think, if he does it to her, then I am next.
1 year, 11 months ago on GAT-DL Okey-Doke: Black Women "Breeding Out Blackness"?
@Toni_M "If I had to take a guess, it's because of the fear that BW will escape being on the "bottom" if enough of them marry white men."
I noticed this too. This is some major LOW SELF-ESTEEM, when a man can't compete with men in the GLOBAL village, but instead competes with women....and for what? NOT real estate, NOT to see who can be the most productive....but for what???? to get the WHITE MAN's approval?
This is beyond sad.
The panic over a black woman not labeling her child according to that happiness of other people may be a foot-stamping way of trying to get that woman to tell everyone the father of the child is black by proxy."
Oh my, this just got deep. I NEVER thought of it like this. Creepy and very thought provoking. Thank you for your comment.
@eugeniaberg "The lord gave you what you got to attract a mate, use it! Stop being scared and start having a social life."
Standing ovation. This is a good vitamin.
1 year, 11 months ago on Question of the Week: "Dates with God" and Love in Potato Land
@geneaj Hi, I am SO glad you came to this blog.
Date with God is apart of the indoctrination process. Have you tried internet sites like Eharmony?
@Karla No ma'am. I've been to many a churches like this in my 30+ years of living. The flip side is that they also did good things for the congregants as well.
1 year, 11 months ago on Black Women, Love and Where They <em>WON’T</em> Find It (Part 2)
@SirLoinDeBeef Oh my... thats a good one.
For me, it was the indoctrination from majority of the churches I attended. I am very familiar with the following phrases:
1. You want a husband? Wait, Wait, Wait. Its not your time yet.
2. You want to start your business? Ummm why dont you pray about it sister? Seek God's face. You know they stop giving loans out. (Did I ask for a loan?).
3. Labor for the Lord. If you need a blessing go and do God's work (true to an extent, but wayyy overused).
4. Cover up your legs honey, YOU don't want to entice the pastor.
5. Yes Pastor. Yes Pastor (this response has become sickening to me by the way).
6. If your husband knocks you down on the floor, lay there until Jesus picks you up.
7. The bible says if a MAN FINDETH..................
8. Don't rob God, pay your tithes
9. If you meet a guy take them to Pastor. Let him do a "smell test". (Um excuse me, I have a FATHER).
10. Okay so you say you want a tall dark and handsome man. Well you don't know how God will bless you. He may send you a midget with a good heart. (Please tell me why the subtext is never for BW to have what they desire? Why can't they say they are in agreement with me?)
11. Shock! You haven't been coming to church. Well at least you don't look unhappy. (Please give me a break).
12. Mothers Day (inumerable) Fathers Day (you can count the number of Fathers on a max of two hands).
13. So you want to travel abroad, well why don't you sit still and pray and seek God first. You know its dangerous over "there". (Plz. They fell to mention how its dangerous in their comunities although there is a church on every corner).
14. Sister in Church: Girl how have you been doing?
Me: I'm doing well. Life is great!
Sister in Church: Are you still saved?
15. Me: Sister Jenkins, I am tired. I think I will call it a night. Been cleaning this church kitchen for hours.
Sister Jenkins: Honey you got to "press on" . Don't let the devil come in you. (this teaches me to put myself last and be a mule).
This is why I love BWE messages because they put into words how I was feeling. They removed the fear of me "feeling" that something wasn't right. They unapologetically exposed me to the truth.
@geneaj @R. Kamaria "I so struggle with am I am not worthy issues."
YES you are worthy. God didn't say "WW you are worthy. AW you are worthy. BW you are not". DBRs said that. Please!
Yes you are worthy. If I may offer the following....If you are in an environment that tells you that you are not worthy, plz stack your chips and FLEE silently. Afterwards, (or even now) I would like to offer that counseling may be option. If counseling is not affordable (or even if it is) PLEASE keep reading BWE messages. There is lots of wisdom on these blogs.
@geneaj Perhaps renting out a room in the suburbs will do. They are on Craigslist ALLLLL the time. I found some fantastic people on there. I will admit that I found a few losers too though.
A rental company may be able to assist with your move. I see ads fo college students sharing a bedroom for at most $500 in a house in the burbs.
@WendyLBarber Love your post.
"I found an area that would nurture my art and writing career."
I lik that you put YOUR needs first.
@eugeniaberg @glamdoll "I don't hate to say it, I am so happy I live in this city. It's been good for my soul."
This almost brought tears to my eyes. I know what you mean.
Hmmm, I will sleep on this one. A part of me feels like "oh boy here is another STUDY". Another part of me feels like "here goes the okey doke of the strong black woman myth." Another part feels like they are "othering" us again, but are trying to put a "positive spin" on it. Then again that "positive spin' may be the okey doke too.
Why would the US government be involved in this? Who will benefit from this? Yes we DO have this type of internal power, but someone tell me whats REALLY going on here? I hope I don't sound negative, but with all these STUDIES, about BW I don't know whats going on these days.
2 years, 1 month ago on Flashpost: Military is Studying the "Secrets" of AA Women - Is this a "Positive" or is this more "Othering"?
Congrats. Great things are happening.
2 years, 1 month ago on 'Swirling' Featured on...ESSENCE!!
I heared this preacher say to battered women, "if your husband knocks you down, you just stay there until Jesus picks you up". And the church said "Amen pastor". SMH.
2 years, 1 month ago on Eyes Wide Shut: Ignoring Reality In The Name of "Faith"...
@Brenda55 OMG, I love the styles of turbans. I found this link below that shows me how to tie one. The African woman in the red shows how to tie one. I've looked for turbans in beauty supply stores and boutiques and they didn't have them. Any idea where I can get one?
2 years, 1 month ago on "Your Curls Ain't Like Mine": Natural's and the Curly Hair Wars
@gagagirl "There was a photo of a woman on wedding noveau who had natural hair and had a white husband, one idiot had the nerve to say how could she love her hair and not her race."
This tells me that the woman married the RIGHT guy.
2 years, 1 month ago on The Final Results-- 3 week Sugar Cleanse
@Avoc42883 "A grown MAN shouldn't be going toe to toe with a teenage GIRL."
Thank you. Get the WIFE involved. Take a walk by yourself somewhere.
2 years, 1 month ago on People Defending Dollar: Black People Whip Their Kids, Have the Worst Results!
@Toni_M I agree with you Toni. Great response. I also think that there was something else that led up to this. I mean, if its true, who would just haul off and start hitting their parents? Maybe there is more that will come out over the next couple of weeks.
I can see if he said "Girl take your butt in your room before I go crazy up in here. Taffi....come and get her", but nooooooooooooo (allegedly) he (a man) hit and choked her (a young woman). I find it to be much better if any discipline has to happen, to allow the mother to do it.
I know their house is big, but where was Taffi?
I don't agree with the manhandling either.
There is no excuse and I don't by this "the devil is in my child" mess.
She is a teenager!
My hear goes out to you Adam. God bless you.
2 years, 1 month ago on Time to Reach Out to a Fellow UK BB&W Fan...
@zipporah " San Diego is near the dreaded "orange county' which was/is/maybe solidly racist."
Hmm. Lived her for almost two years. Only one incident with an Asian woman in her 60s. I see more white and asians. Less black people and Latin people. I see black woman and white men interracial couples with children though.
2 years, 1 month ago on BB&W Video Exclusive: Hal Sparks Talks Interracial Marriage on Television
Next post please lol.
2 years, 1 month ago on For Real or For Fake? Black Guy Writes, Says He Can't Find His "Queen"
@ladreaming1986 "I want to know from your group of like-minded individuals what they want from an African-american male"
In other words, what will make you COME BACK HOME lol.
Here is another thought "I've noticed the INCREASE of BW and WM and I feel left out. So that explains why I'm at your blog. So ladies, (who I wouldn't be interested in if you weren't with white men or men in the global village period) how do I bring my "sista" back HOME?"
@KfromVA Yeah. He came to the wrong set lol. Toni s-p-e-l-l-e-d it out below. Read her post below. In a nutshell she said "You don't want me, and that makes you attractive". So on point!
@Toni_M Girl, say it, say it!
@Karla Lastly, when you see a sight that endorses and supports BWE and interracial relationships, you shouldn't assume it's about you because it's not. "
I don't know whether to believe him or not, but I do know that this blog isn't about HIM, its about US.
Furthermore, I would hate to think that because we do talk a lot about men in the global village, that this is some twisted way of getting BW to "acknowledge" the BM again. I hope this isn't what this is about.
This kind of reminds me of a previous post by that white lady who asked us how BW view her because she is married to her black husband.
You know, what that student said tells me a lot about her family. For example, it tells me that she probably got that train of thought from her parent(s). It also tells me the following scenario is possible in her world.
Scene: The student runs into the house crying holding her arm.
Student: Mama, Mama, Maurice punched me in my arm.
Mother: Girl, gone out there and finish playing. Stop being so darn weak. And stop all of that crying. You aint white.
Its sad to say folks, this could possibly be her world. Unfortunately, teachers get the rough end of the stick by seeing their student's home life play out in class sometimes.
2 years, 1 month ago on "You Been Hanging Around Those White People Too Long": When Black Kids Pick Up Bad Ideas
@MySmile @AnInterestedObserver @Alana 2 "It's not my fault most bm are insecure with their manhood." This is IT right here. Then they project it on to others. Meanwhile, men in the global village are dating and marrying US.
2 years, 1 month ago on Recognizing the Necessity and Importance of Dark-Skinned Feminine Beauty
@S85 Hmm maybe it may be time to take an international trip to perhaps to Italy. I hear its a black women's haven in some places over there. See where black girl travel is going. Who knows something may happen. Another idea is to start your own meet up group perhaps for interracial couples in your area or a neighboring city.
@AnInterestedObserver @Vera12 I met Thelma last month in person at a LA Health Fair and she is gorgeous. Just wow!
@Vera12 @Toni_M "Well that is going to be an issue for white women also cause white men are flirting like crazy!"
Yes, they flirt right in front of their wives.
You look great! You are a very beautiful woman.
2 years, 2 months ago on Last Bikini Body Update: I DID IT!!
This is an amazine post Toni. I will come back and study this like a college course. Good vitamins. Thank you for taking the time to create this post. Just awesome.
2 years, 2 months ago on Move away from the bull’s-eye part 3: Taking a bullet for indoctrination's sake
@Veron ""exotic" factor"
Yeah, I didn't believe that exotic stuff either. I agree with you.
2 years, 2 months ago on Racy JC: Old Men Dig Black Chics!
@ann4950 "Smile and then concur."
Thank you I will be doing this.
@Karla00 "Even if their wife and kids are around they don't care! Quite flattering indeed!"
This is sooooooooooooooooooooooooo true. I've experience this.
And this is just why I don't like when BM call me "sista", because to me, it means OBLIGATION. As a matter of fact I don't like when anybody calls me that.
2 years, 2 months ago on Keeping the Race Together or Keeping You Under Control?
@Patricia Kayden "A Black Congresswoman (can't remember her name) is outraged and vocal about this as well. 8 hours ago"
A woman? That means one person...Where are the MEN? Will she get a march? Will BM be on the front line for HER?
2 years, 2 months ago on Marissa Alexander Gets 20 Years: Has Justice Been Served?
@kiki100 I canceled my cable here in Cali and savd $60 bucks.
I ordered Netflix for $7.99 a month. They had a free 30 day trial.
Hulu, Bravo, and other stations are available for tv programming.
Amazon allows us to order past shows and movies as well.
Can anyone think of others?
2 years, 2 months ago on What finally made me give HBO's new show "Girls" a chance (and why you might want to give it a chance too)
@Pearl "Just because you share the same skin and history dos not mean that you must defend them at every chance."
I learned this lesson through BWE a year or so ago. Now, I don't feel obligated. My heart doesn't feel bad when I hear things that happen to BM that they caused on themselves. No I'm not a cold person, I am a critical thinker and an INDIVIDUAL.
2 years, 2 months ago on Move away from the Bull’s-eye Part 2.5: Realizing you are NOT the target
@zipporah I like Sinbad and Costy too. They are clean. Cedrick used to be clean.
2 years, 2 months ago on Not all jokes are funny, black women. They're not laughing *with* you...
@MixedUpInVegas I don't like Chapelle. I remember a scene where he and a guy were parked on what seemed like a street or an alley or something like that. Dave said he was waiting on the train. Then bw came out dressed as prostitutes. The audience cracked up laughing. I haven't liked him since.
@brenda0anderson Thank you for sharing Brenda.
2 years, 2 months ago on A peek into a damaged mind: The reason behind intra-racial hatred of black women confessed?
@Pearl @MDNA2 I agree. I will also say since I have been reading blogs like this, I have become very weary of what the bc promotes....such as this movie. It looks like it has DBR written all over it.
2 years, 3 months ago on Important Video: "Black Women Boycott Your Bashers"
@kisumai He is the definition of CONQUERED. He is also speaking from a place of FEAR. I'm not going to visit the link though because I need to protect my eyes and ear gate from that stuff.
2 years, 3 months ago on Hypocrisy and Double Standards: Why we must ignore the haters
@BlackWomenDeserveBetter "Black women need to cease feeling unworthy or undeserving of positive things in their lives....."
BINGO. This is IT right here!
I know the answer to this...but how in the heck did it get to this point?
@oekmama Exactly. Or maybe he thought he could get a rise out of her...in his twisted mind this could have translated into her "caring."
When people ask dumb questions like these, they open themselves up to any type of comment.
Guy: Do you feel guilty?
Me: Do you feel threaten?
@Pearl Thank you for this video Pearl. This is interesting. Who knew that Jim Crow was a dance first. Much appreciated.
2 years, 3 months ago on Kevin Hart Illustrates Why You Should Not Date Below Your Weight
@PearlI'm watching this now too.
@Christelyn @nikichambers @jamaica68 @Toni_M "my heart sinks at all the BW hate." Someone please tell me how it got to this point.
@sparel @Shulamit "Maybe they only see BW in only one class."
Okay so now I offer this. They certainly see WW in different class. A hoodrat guy knows better than to go to an affluent neighborhood and try to mess with a WW from that neighborhood? Why? Because she is from a different class and know she wouldn't be interested. He also knows that she is protected. The black guy would go to the trailor or a WW from the hood first. I've seen it to where the WW in the hood dress and wear their hair just like BW.
@Pearl "I can see if its just a 'joke' but jokes like this do no good to american black men."
Men in the GLOBAL VILLAGE will not RESPECT him. IMO he can't compete with men in the global village so he competes with WOMEN. SMH
@Pearl "Why does it make them feel prasied?"
Maybe they were rejected by their own race of men and want to feel validated. Or may they (WW) are threatened by BW and seeing BM talk about us validates them. Or maybe they know that a lot of BM like them and want to be worshipped when the average WM they pull won't. So maybe thats why we have lots of WW wives in the NBA. Don't know, but these are my guesses.
Maybe he tried to deny having any involvement with that cartoon because he knows that BW may be his main supporters of that new Steve Harvey movie he is in.
@yvonnelee Because of indoctrination. It goes something like this
" Support the black man. Support the black man. Ah come on now, you know how "the man" is keeping us down, girl stop being a problem to him, give him a chance and move on, at least he got a job, etc..." Blah Blah. You will probably never hear another race woman tell this stuff to her daughter or get told this mess by people in her community.
2 years, 3 months ago on No; You're Not Just Being Paranoid. Black Media Really DON'T Want Black Women to Swirl.
@TJD I agree with your comment. I also like your icon. The women looks free. She is dancing away lol.
@sparel "I'm a vegan I don't eat meat :("
I stopped eating meet too. Food, especially meat, has changed over the years.
2 years, 3 months ago on Umm...Why is Mary J. Blige Pretending She Didn't Make a Chicken Commercial She Got Paid $2 Million For?
@VintageNarcissa "What TV station do you know that became immediately popular the second it debuted. Especially one that isn't an altar for trash, violence and sexualization?"
This is it right here. People putting demands on her that other networks or other people can't even meet. Its a though they take the "human factor" or the rights that all "1st time launchers" automatically get and expect her to perform supernaturally.
I know she was successful in many other areas, but this is a tv network that she owns which is different. Give it some time. Oprah will make the right decision.
2 years, 3 months ago on Oprah, and the Pathology of Reveling in Other People's Misfortune
@Jamila @Brenda55 "I think all this blogging were doing, all those articles that piss black women off (but gives issues more face time) are starting to have an effect."
Oh yeah! I'm just glad that BW are in involved with high caliber type men!
2 years, 4 months ago on Weigh In: Paparazzi Coverage of Swirlers, a Good Thing?
@Kels @Bellydancer Yeah, I like Charlize, but when I read about her statements I looked at her differently. Very distasteful!
I even had a guy interrupt me while reading a book on a bus to tell me that he noticed I had mace around my neck."
Lol, he didn't catch the clue.
2 years, 4 months ago on The Black Womanâ€™s Bill of Rights: Boundaries
@19jleo86 @yvonnelee "Yea, yea!" in some weird false bravado as if I was the one who was bothering him."
Usually men feel this way when they have defeated MEN, not bickering with women. I'm sorry you went through that.
@19jleo86 @yvonnelee "He tried to guilt me into feeling bad by giving me the "my bad" apology and telling me to have a nice day."
He remembered he was on his JOB and that Mr. Charlie didn't play that.
@JessNYC I"m sorry you went through this.
@yvonnelee I'm sorry that happened to your mom and you witnessed that as a child. Now I'm getting upset.
@19jleo86 "I automatically tense up and get defensive because I know that the likelihood of them saying something to me is very high."
I can relate, but I don't get defensive because I don't want anything violent to happen.
@KfromVA I love it! Thats all it took.
@The Working Home Keeper "The black guy rolled his eyes, then turned and walked away mumbling as he left"
He is a punk. Can't stand up to a man, but will step to a woman. Conquered! I'm glad that white male manager came to your aide and put that boy on automatic shut-up!
I am sorry you went through that.
@Kels @Lili2009 haha I like that one.
@arlette "i am just fed up of some bw on this site and others using the term when only describing bm only."
Arlette, this site is geared towards BW and we have the freedom to say what we will. No one is saying that all BM are DBRs. No, this is not the case as many of us have quality black male family members...grandfathers, fathers, uncles, brothers, etc... So there is no battle here. I must ask you this one thing though, while you are on this site defending BM,....Who is defending YOU?
@The Working Home Keeper I agree with you. As I was reading the article I was thinking its a difference between saying "the WM you chose or like don't find you attractive" verses "WM PERIOD, don't find you attractive." Nawwww seems like a catty, sabatoging, insecure mind game here. I would not tell her anything else, but just show up on a double date with her new WM friend that SHE WILL MEET.
2 years, 4 months ago on Question of the Week: "Are we wrong closing our hearts to black men?"
"Your friend is attempting to create some feeling of guilt and false obligation, or perhaps she just wants you to date black men because it might make things less intimidating for her when all of you double date."
The "Making things less intimidating for her" is the CORE.
2 years, 4 months ago on Big News! I Just Had a Baby.
@AJ2011 @FeedingBigSexy I'm taking notes too. I couldn't stop reading it. FBS--you really layed it out for us. Thx.
2 years, 4 months ago on Video: "Why So Much Hate For Black Women Who Swirl?"
@hclark "Where does that come from?"
The indoctrination speech goes like this.....
Save the black man, protect your race, leave him alone because he doesn't mean any harm, pay your tithes and offerings (to a non reciprocating church), don't be fast, stop picking on HIM, why did you MAKE him do it to you then, don't call the police..give him another chance. PRAY ABOUT IT, Chile, you are getting high and mighty, who will have your back, those white people don't want you...support the BM...support the BM...don't forget about your race, stay strong, go fix it, pay you back (shrug)...what do you mean pay you back...I thought you were doing this from your heart, ...UGH...etc...
They may have heard some if not all of these things from childhood and now it probably is manifesting as an adult.
Who benefits from this?
I realize that's how the speaker feels about themselves- they honestly think NOONE wants them!!"
Yes, this is IT right here. He probably thinks men in the global village don't see him as an equal because thats the way he feels about himself......to medicate himself, he projects it on BW. CONQUERED!
@glamdoll I meant how dare you escape.
@glamdoll "bw have been beated down so much by bm that they really don't think anyone wants bw and are shocked and jealous when they do see it?"
I read somewhere a couple of years ago where those BW that you are talking about maybe thinking "How are you escape?"
@Mocha Z "I also considered that bm are afraid swirling bw will let other bw know that she has more and sometimes better options."
Yes, this is IT right here. So to control those "numbers" they post youtube videos to reach a mass audience.
I remember some time ago (probably w/i the last six months) you were interviewed by a black man who had his own radio show or something like that. He may have been from Ohio. The topic was about BW marrying/dating interracially. You brought up that colorism still exists in the black community and he didn't believe you. I was surprised by that. Well, perhaps this post can shed some light. It did make national news.
2 years, 4 months ago on What Da Cuss x100: Club Owners Pit Light-Skinned Girls Against Dark-Skinned Girls Under Guise of 'Racial Pride'
*trying to imagine a redheads vs. blondes vs brunettes party/event*"
I don't know if WM have ever done anything like that. I've heard of blondes have more fun though. I don't know if that was from a WW or a WM. I mostly hear it from WM.
@EliseYMason Probably the one who wants a BMs approval on her beauty considering she is probably aware of their mass flight out.
I don't agree with any of this nonsense.
@Aabaakawad Ummm they probably had that already..probably for New Years Day!
@Alana 2 The fact that it got national news says a lot.
@Alana 2 Leave, Leave...no FLEE, FLEE.
@R. Kamaria Here is the foolery in Detroit. I'm glad Mr. DJ was stopped in his tracks. Oh yeah, and his last paragraph is a new one on me....he plans to raise money for a charity to make up for any problems he caused. SMH
@R. Kamaria " I know white folks have their own thing with blonde vs brunette but that's a little different. Anyone can change their hair color if they wanted but skin color and race parties is just idiotic."
Thank you. I was just about to write this very exact thing. I would love to know more about the Detroit thing. I'm glad the BW there DID SOMETHING and IT DIDN'T HAPPEN. Yah!!!
Thank you Gina, I"ve leared a lot from you.
2 years, 5 months ago on The New, NEW Black Woman: Gina McCauley
@VintageNarcissa " I honestly feel that one day we're going to wake up and have a black women renaissance and everyone will have to fall the eff back because people are already scared."
Chile, the "renaissance" is happening RIGHT NOW.
2 years, 5 months ago on Slave Master Love Redux: The Myth that Only White Men Want Black Women for Sex
@Brenda55@Blanc2 Co-sign! This is the stuff that people forget.
@Brice Cameron This is it right here.
2 years, 5 months ago on Too $hort and XXL magazine Hate Black Women: So what else is new?
@Toni_M@Law Wanxi@Karla I agree Toni. I am soooo glad we are taking care of our girls.
@Jamila I signed there too.
@YoFabulous I signed too. Thank you for this information.
I noticed the goal was only 1000 signatures, we exceeded it, but why was the goal (IMO) so low?
@blessedgal OMG! This is the first thought that came to my mind too!
I wonder does he feel some type of guilt or responsibility.
I am saddened about her death. I pray for her daugther and may Whitney RIP.
2 years, 5 months ago on Breaking News: Whitney Houston Dead at 48!
@purplemoonflower123 "I wish we, Black women, can have a movement (like GLAD or PETA, for that matter)"
I've been hearing this lately. How can this be started. Really? Whats steps 1, 2, and 3? I mean step 1 would be to get like-mind people together preferrably in power. Step 2 and 3?
2 years, 5 months ago on Kola Boof on Sexiness, Womanhood, and Boinking Gerard Butler!
@Brenda55@Jay from Philly Oh my. I hope nothing pops off. I noticed they had the "security" message out there.....
"It is our responsibility to make sure the people who spend time at this facility are safe and secure. We will take the necessary measures to provide an environment where our guests can have a good time without concern."
SMH, well at least they are being warned.
2 years, 5 months ago on Friday Funny: He's Baaaacckk! Lee-Roy Gives Commentary on Recent "Clutch" Article
"After reading some of your site, you seemed like a good person to ask what the black world really thinks of women like me…?"
Black world? Hmmm. I don't know about that world as we don't all think the same. I date outside of my race too and don't care to ask people this question because I am too busy living well.
Who cares. Live and let live.
2 years, 5 months ago on Question of the Week: A White Woman Asks, "What Do Black Women Think of My Interracial Marriage?"
@Darknlovely12@formavitae@AvaRay This is it right here.
@Patricia Kayden "Her attempt to portray BW as the jealous bitter ones is really cute" Agreed.
"You will find at least two threads started by Black men bemoaning the fact that JOYFUL NOISE includes a BW/WM relationship."
Not doging the question, but perhaps Julie can ask her husband how does HE feel about BW/WM relationships....or perhaps how does SHE feel about them.
I've heard of stories that some BM/WW pairings don't like to see BW/WM parings. Julie's question can be viewed at more than one angle.
Live and let live!
@BlackWomenDeserveBetter I felt the same way lol. Who cares. Live and let live.
@Maxine "Anyone who talks about what "real bruhs" would or wouldn't do is probably the type of person who stereotypes what real bw are supposed to be like. I don't feel sorry for him." Ha Good point. Never thought about that.
2 years, 5 months ago on Roland Martin Gets WHOMPED By GLAAD, CNN. Just Goes to Show...
@Stang Craig Lewis is a minister who goes around the world telling churches the "truth" about hip hop. He actually wrote a book about it. Its about the negative affects Hip Hop has on youth and how he believes its a santanic culture. Craig Lewis is or once was a teacher in Texas. What started his world-wide teaching is due to his student's behavior when they listened to Hip Hop. He said that hip hop was the step-father to black young men. He has done extensive research on this topic. His website is below (ex-ministries). I've actually gone to two of them when he visited a megachurch here in Cali.
He talks about various other subjects too, but the music part seems to go along with today's subject lol.
Not saying I agree or disagree with his teachings, but I did find them to be informative and thought provoking. Below are some links.
2 years, 5 months ago on Could the Message Be in the Music? What White Kids Listen to Versus What Black Kids Do.
@Toni_M "Stop looking to other people, no matter how you love or respect them, to approve of you and tell you what to do. Do what you want for your own self and betterment."
This is it right here (for myself). I am walking in this lesson and have been for some time. Thank you Toni.
2 years, 5 months ago on Announcement: My Un-Official Split with BWE
@Joyce345 "because there are people who hate the idea of bw progressing and they are very happy to see something that looks like a fallout." This was one of my first thoughts when I read the annoucement.
" bw counterparts were not featured in this film when the same in a film with white men in uniform would never leave out their ww counterparts."
This is it right here. Just like other race women BW waived goodbye to their husbands with his children on her hips as he was going off to war. Where is her presence in this story? I would feel saddened if I were living at that time and didn't see a reflection of myself on screen.
2 years, 6 months ago on Jamila on BWE: Will You Be Going to See 'Red Tails' When It Comes Out?
This is touching. Very touching about our First Lady.
2 years, 6 months ago on Media Watch: How the Wholesale Attack on Michelle Obama Affects Us
@Bren82@deleted_1895823_Pearl "don't bring race into it"
I agree. I put my profile online and 95% of my responses are from wm.
2 years, 6 months ago on Attention, Lurkers! Open Mic Question of the Week!!
@eugeniaberg @formavitae@Black Women With Other Brothers@zabeth@treehouse31 I love it. I love it. One day I would love to know how you get wm to fall all over themselves. Thank you for your response.
2 years, 6 months ago on Why No Love for Swirling Power Couples in Hollywood?
@eugeniaberg @formavitae@Black Women With Other Brothers@zabeth@treehouse31 "I will coming 100,"
How will you conduct yourself in the midst of all those stary-eyed women? We already know their agenda.
Would you work the room and ignore them or engage with them?
I've never had to face that, but would like to know what other bw have done in that situation.
@Black Women With Other Brothers@ElfeV@formavitae@eugeniaberg @zabeth@treehouse31 "good luck with that, lol. 3 hours ago"
Exactly lol. same here lol.
@Black Women With Other Brothers@eugeniaberg @zabeth@formavitae@treehouse31 "He always said women would ignore him due to his extra weight when he was single but with me all the winks and oops, just backed my butt onto you"
Hmm this sounds like how bm act when they see a dark skinned bw with a wm after the same bm passed her up for being dark. SMH
@tigerjlv86@eugeniaberg @Black Women With Other Brothers@zabeth@formavitae@treehouse31 " they all managed to scoot just a bit closer to their husbands..."
Yes I had this happen to me. I was in my 20s on the subway and this ww started GRIPPPPPPPPPPING her boyfriend/husband.
@eugeniaberg @formavitae@Black Women With Other Brothers@zabeth@treehouse31 "everyone knows I'm a bw but they've just never seen me in the flesh and believe me that day I will coming 100, LOL"
Eugenia you are funny. Let me know when that date comes so I can circle it and put a smiley face around it. Too funny.
@formavitae@ElfeV@eugeniaberg @Black Women With Other Brothers@zabeth@treehouse31 "The Asian girl got such an upset, disturbed, and confused look on her face--almost like she wanted to cry." Okay now, this one got me. For real? She really did that?
@eugeniaberg @Black Women With Other Brothers@zabeth@formavitae@treehouse31 "He's so excited about taking me to it, he wants to show off his wife." Oh thats so nice. I would like to see those heffas faces lol. The nerve of them.
@tigerjlv86@Monique8 "Does anyone find at least a little bit of irony in how nearly every other group of women on earth want features like ours, but seem surprised that men would want us?"
Yes this is it right here. Right here! I would love to see a piece about this.
@deleted_1896663_Rosie S@deleted_1895823_Pearl "You'll stay up reading for days." You got that right. I miss her writings too.
2 years, 6 months ago on Question of the Week: "Is This All in My Head or the Start of (Possibly) Something Wonderful?"
If I were in front of him, I'd make him uncomfortable with massive PDA..
might even go down on my SO lmao"
Oh my lol.
2 years, 6 months ago on RANT! Biggest Racists Of All: Black Folks!
But even with this, as a whole, they never faced the REAL issue. They just avoided it and passed the pain to women. Hence the competition and control meaning ...............the Youtube videos, senseless blogs degrading BW, street harassment, INDOCTRINATION, don't call the police on another BM b/c he will go to jail although the women's life is in DANGER, and many other forms of competition and control to include INTERNET TROLLS.
Personally, I think many BM like to hold on to the struggles their great-grandfathers went through as an excuse not to change. Each generation shouldn't have the same blue note to sing....I mean the EXACT SAME note to sing. For example: "The white man got me down. The white man don't want me to work. The white man don't want to see the black man get ahead. The white man want our women" etc... Its the SAME thing generation after generation. Perhaps one difference is the contempt that they felt has been dangerously transferred to BW and have become profitable...HIP HOP (the songs that degrad BW).
@formavitae@deleted_1895823_Pearl@deleted_1910844_AJ1997 "I personally think that's why the masculinity of mixed/light BM is challenged in this community."
I agree with you. Could it also be that light-skinned BM remind dark-skinned BM of the so called "easier life" they could have had? For example: less intimidating features (they tried to pull this with Obama saying it was easier for a BM who looks like him to get elected into office verses a dark skinned man)? Wow, just wow. So much for Judge Larry Elders and the like.
"That’s why it is IMPERATIVE to have communities such as these–they serve as a haven against the KRAZY GAT-DL zombies."
Christelyn, you got that right. Just think, years ago I used to believe the hype. Now I am FREE!
I have a dad who calls me all the time and tell me how much I am loved and valued. He tells me I am setting a great example for my younger sister and brothers. He is african american. To top it off I am in my mid 30s lol.
@tigerjlv86@EliseYMason@deleted_1895823_Pearl Same here.
@Lejusdecoco "Is the BC aware that they have enormous problem?"
Of course the BC knows this. Its just that the beneficiaries wouldn't continue to benefit so in an effort to keep those benefits, everything is kept on the hush hush.
@deleted_1895823_Pearl@deleted_1910844_AJ1997 More like a conquered troll. So much hate. It seems like he is mad at the "white man", but is channeling his anger, hurt and fear through black women. I noticed he said he was born to produce black children, but he didn't say that he TOOK CARE of them. Biggggggggggg difference. I also noted a little colorism. He said "you was born for make real dark/brown skin black sons" hmm...........what about dark/brown DAUGHTERS?
Conquered, just conquered!
When the guy kept saying "date them all" and when he acted crazy when the book referenced "white men" I knew he felt trumped. The generation-x.net clip proved it. See this right here is the education that I'm glad I got about 2 1/2 years ago from BWE blogs. I'm smarter now and more aware. Did you see the fit he threw about "white men" being in the title? I also like the way you displayed your critical thinking skills. You noticed how "supportive" he was for WW to date BM and how "instructional" he was when it came to BW. Thank you for taking the time out to share this. Your research was right on point.
2 years, 6 months ago on Jamila Akil: Beware of "Concern Trolls"
@keeks Y@glamdoll Because of good ole indoctrination,
2 years, 6 months ago on BB&W Crew Guy, NATruthstudent: Can We Grow Out of "Racial" Tribalism?
"When are white guys taught and encouraged to love, honor, provide for, and protect black women?"
For real? I get the feeling that HE feels BM are already doing this in masses. For real?
@Karla@eugeniaberg Work it girl.
2 years, 6 months ago on Is it "Just" Hair When It Comes to Attracting the Opposite Sex?
@Seenyc Yes. This would make for a great article.
2 years, 6 months ago on Sad News: Former ‘Hottie’ Jason Hendrix, Succumbs to Cancer, Age 41.
Here are a few ideas:
Profiles or pics of BW coupled with men in the global village, manners and etiquette column, dress and appearance column (for example: how to have a softer appearance by adding colors, make-up shades, change of hairstyle, etc…) BW doing diverse things that ordinarily wouldn’t be accepted as a “black norm”, events that feature BW (for example: mixers, stageplays, workshops, etc… I remember some years ago Boston had a “Girl Get Your Money Right” conference), travel column (blackgirltravel may be a reference), a historical piece on different BW from different time periods, personal testimonies on “How BWE Bloggers Have Changed My Life” and a health column.
I live in Southern California and AM WILLING to help (i.e. writing an article, helping with events, circulation, contribute financially,). As a matter of fact I would like to contribute the first article as to how BWE Bloggers changed my life (that’s if it were to be featured).
Thank you for what you are doing Christelyn!
2 years, 6 months ago on The Great Snub: Why Are The Major BW Publications Ignoring Us?
@Bunny77@MzSooner Standing ovation on your last paragraph. Wow.
@NATruthstudent@eugeniaberg @Christelyn Agreed.
2 years, 6 months ago on I Normally Don't Put Folks On Blast But...
@S85 I agree. I hope is IP address has been copied or something.
@Christelyn @ann4950 I was thinking the same thing. He WOULD give him a high five. Well........here is a high five to all of the BWE Belivers.
@eugeniaberg @Christelyn Exactly. It also speaks to his position in life. A father doesn't have time for all this. A man with an important career wouldn't put his energy into this. He would be out there making legal business transactions. A CONFIDENT man wouldn't even think about trying to compete with WOMEN. Telling, very telling.
@Toni_M "Everyone with eyes can see that BWE strengthened tenfold within the past year." Yes. This is it right here. Its like we are breaking generational curses. No more mammy muleship, basing our decisions on how others will feel, putting others first, etc... No more! Well done ladies. WE CAN'T BE BROKEN.
@deleted_1896663_Rosie S So true.
This is what I don't get. Instead of COMPETING with WOMEN why don't he and his kind go out there and COMPETE with MEN in the GLOBAL VILLAGE for real estate, global businesses, acquisitions, law, etc... Why CHOOSE to sit here and compete with WOMEN?
I will not be visiting that blog he posted either.
@MZ Elf Matthew McConacute lol is sooooooooo handsome. Did you see him in Lincoln Lawyer? Just fione.
2 years, 7 months ago on Video: The Loving Truth
@Chocomusings Ummm. Not to worry. Hopefully we won't be talking about this 10 years from now...hopefully. BWE bloggers and commenters do such an excellent job, perhaps less than that if people take heed. lol. Meanwhile, I stand in agreement with educating other BW so they can start living well too.
@Jamila@Patricia Kayden Exactly. Very well said.
@Brenda55@er "They feel like the odd man out and there is the problem and the start of what may be a relationship killer."
This reminds me of a scene in the movie Disappearing Act. Here is the link. Its Part 5 Time: 1-3:30
2 years, 7 months ago on Weak Men Want to Lead? Stop Blaming Women for Your Lameness!
@Jay from Philly Mahogany drops the mic. PREACH.
@Jay from Philly "The truth is a Black woman can walk through a white neighborhood and has very little to fear."
This is it right here. I agree totally.
@Christelyn My prayers are with her and your family.
2 years, 7 months ago on Contemplate This...
@Christelyn @Toni_M Here is the link. I get mine at wholefoods.
2 years, 7 months ago on Hair Success! What Twists and Twists Outs Have Reaped!
@Christelyn @Toni_M Hi Christelyn,
Some time ago (maybe last year) did you write a comment about Green Vibrance? I think it was you, but I could be wrong. This stuff is the bomb. Its a very healthy choice. It makes my nails grow, makes me feel better, I get a lot of nutrients in one packet.
Although its an acquired taste...it works.
@Toni_M Exactly. Its as though she is pleading with them to come back "home" without bluntly saying it. Craziness like this only increases BM stock in my opinion as far as being sought after. Its like putting one in demand or making them popular. And in another light this will only make DBR BM continue doing what they are doing and step it up a notch. Just crazy.
2 years, 7 months ago on LaShuan Williams Breaks it Down With a Little Open Letter Action of Her Own
Well, I went to the page where the letter is listed in its entirety and I'm glad that a lot of the commentors disagreed with the author to include myself. Wow, just wow!
@Toni_M@TJD Wow. Just wow. lol
Orange County California is good too. I see mixed couples here. I think the important color out here is green..... Meaning a clean environment and money lol.
2 years, 7 months ago on What Da Cuss? Po-Dunk Church Bans Interracial Couple?!
@Jamila Perhaps he felt that KK could make him relevant. I don't know.
2 years, 7 months ago on Friday Funny: Nekkid Yoga Breaks Up Marriages!!
@Luna Noire@Bunny77@The Working Home Keeper@Christelyn @Guest1234 I agree with what everyone is saying. I think when black mothers send their girls to college they fear that they will come back pregnant and have to quit school. Perhaps the mother did this during her college years or never went to college and wanted her daughter to have better. So this may be the reason behind "just keep your head in the books and don't bother with the boys" doctrine.
2 years, 7 months ago on Question of the Week: "I'm 23 and I've Never Dated!"
@Bunny77@Luna Noire@The Working Home Keeper@Christelyn @Guest1234 This is some good teaching here. I'm reading everyone's comments and am learning a lot.
@Christelyn @Bunny77@Guest1234 Wow Christelyn. I almost didn't catch it until I read your comment. That is "wait indoctrination." That is!
@eugeniaberg @Christelyn @Brenda55 Thank you. That really made my night.
2 years, 7 months ago on Book Discussion: "Is Marriage for White People?"
@eugeniaberg @Christelyn @Brenda55 Wife...I am looking forward to the day when I will be called "wife." That sounds so lovely lol.
@Jamila@Christelyn I agree Jamila. I also want to point out that if BW are so busy raising everybody, then who is TAKING CARE of her? This whole "raising BM" thing is the definition of unequally yoke. Where is the preacher man now?
@ElfeV@Toni_M@Jamila The sad thing about it is that he laughed. He probably didn't try and reach out to the younger generation of boys in an effort to teach and grow them up as men. Hmmmm maybe his wife raised him to be a man too.
@Jamila " these detractors felt that instead of calling on black women to marry-out more and marry down less, he should have been calling on more social programs to improve the lot of black males."
So once again, someone decided to take a subject about BW and turn it into a BM thing. Wow, just wow.
@deleted_1910844_AJ1997@Brenda55@Jamila I'm about to pull mine out again. I miss her.
2 years, 7 months ago on EMERGENCY POST!! Black Women Apologize to Black Men...For What?!
“As a Christian I'm tired of hearing bw say God will bring me someone, I think bw do that out of laziness and fear.”
They get it from some BM pastors.
I used to belong to a very popular COGIC church in Los Angeles. Most of the congregants were black—99%. The pastor was black and probably in his early 60s. One day the BM pastor was talking about marriage and he was preaching that “wait” indoctrination to women. It went something like this
Pastor-And sisters, God will send you someone, you just have to wait.
BW- Amen Pastor. Amen Pastor
Me-(thinking silently to myself) Not all of these women are going to be married. Wait, let me stop thinking negative. This must be the devil.
Pastor- Sister please stand up. (A BW who appears to be in her late 40s stands). See, this sister just got married.
Just Married Sister- (dancing and shouting) Praise him
Me- (feeling a pit in my stomach) Good for her, but not all of these women will not be married.
Pastor-(to the women) God will send you someone, you just got to WAIT and STAY BUSY in the church.
Me- (thinking to myself) This doesn’t FEEL right. I got to get out of here.
That is exactly what I did. I got out of that church. I will be joining a racially diverse church soon.
2 years, 7 months ago on Op-Ed: Sophia A. Nelson -- Marriage Is for Black People, but Sisters Need to Open up Our Options
No Thank YOU Christelyn. I have learned so much from your blog. I actually started commenting on your blog this year. I pray that this blog continues with much success. Amen.
2 years, 8 months ago on So Very, Very Thankful...
@Toni_M Well said. Well said. Well said.
I feel as though BW who are dating/marrying interacially is a movement. I mean we have books and blogs about it. Its getting national exposure and I am loving it. Cheers to us for being free-thinkers, individuals, non conformists, critical thinkers, etc...
2 years, 8 months ago on Video: Black Bigots Giving Half-Arsed Clearance to Date Interracially?
@Brenda55 OMG. Now this is funny. I like your comment.
2 years, 8 months ago on Speed-Reader, Brenda55 Gives Review of "Black Girls Guide to Dating White Men"
@jgoodlowe "Fix what is wrong with your own people before you go looking elsewhere."
Sorry! No mammy mule here! Thanx to your post I will be buying TWO copies.
@FriendsofJay \ BW who live, work (maybe), go to church, network and do activities where white people are may be a clue that they can be approached. Actually I learned this from this very site.
2 years, 8 months ago on BB&W Exclusive: Introduction of "Black Girl's Guide to Dating White Men"
@FriendsofJay "What percentage of young BW do you think are open to dating young WM?
Hmm. I'll take a shot here. I was born in 1977. I have family and friends who were born around this time and after. So I would venture to say that perhaps women from my generation and downward would be more open. I could be wrong, but this is what I SEE.
@Robynne@Kathy Henry Yes exactly Robynne. What I can't stand is the preaching that says "Jesus will fix it" Ha. Jesus has Christian counselors or someone in the mental health field that specializes in this. MIss me with this.
2 years, 8 months ago on Victim Blaming: When Black Mothers No Longer Mother, and Children are Left to Raise Themselves
@Kathy Henry Thank you for sharing. I know exactly how you feel. This was very brave of you. Seriously!!!
Also, if this has happened to someone please know that its okay to get professional help. In churches (not all) they say "Jesus will fix it" NO, please don't be afraid to get professional help. Its not a sin. It helped me.
@Nkosazana I always get jumped on this but I'm a bit afraid of black men, I don't like large groups of them.---You aren't alone on this one. I know exactly how you feel.
@MarkGilmore One, two, three...(snaps fingers) now snap out of it!
2 years, 8 months ago on Video: A BB&W Primer for All the Newbies, Lurkers & Trolls
@MarkGilmore@Toni_M@Christelyn @VickyRogersBurks "I'm happy with my Black Woman.." Please tell me WHO BENEFITS from this? Its certainly NOT the BW.
How about the three stooges? Remember how two of the stooges use to hit the third stooge on the head all the time lol?
2 years, 8 months ago on Friday Funny: You Know What's Really Sad?
@Toni_M As far as the word "sista", is it just me or does anyone else have a strong disliking for that word? To me that word means OBLIGATION. I don't like that word, and I don't like when people try to call me that. The word "brotha" makes me want to throw up lol.
I began to feel that way sometime last year I think. The TRUTH from the BWE blogs had a lot to do with it.
Any thoughts or shared feelings?
2 years, 8 months ago on Ralph Richard Banks Joins the Commenters at Beyond Black & White
@LovingMyself I'm now drinking champagne, I just wish I could have someone (right now) to drink it with lol.
@modernmystic Now that lady displayed some deep ignorance right there. SMH twice on this one.
@eugeniaberg @mm4882 Your last sentence is a classic response as usual Eugenia
2 years, 8 months ago on Question of the Week: Are We Going Too Far with the Encouraging Black Women to Date White Dudes?
Christelyn you did a fantastic interview. You hit the "main" questions head on. I loved their responses when you mentioned some people saying that BW were undesirable. One guy without hesitation said "Bullshi--." Classic. I feel the same way.
2 years, 8 months ago on Where Dayaaaat?! Nerdy Conventions Are a Rainbeau Smorgasbord
Yeah I agree Christelyn,
You were bold. You went out there and asked key questions spot on. I loved the guy's response when you said some people say that BW were unattractive. He said "BS" without hesitation.