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@lili2009 @Smooth and Savage Tango @giantrafflesia

Be careful.  You may end up looking at the full monty.  LOL.

38 minutes ago on Open Thread: The sexy men of BB&W

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@Smooth and Savage Tango @giantrafflesia

LOL Youz a whole notha level of crazy dude.  LOL.

39 minutes ago on Open Thread: The sexy men of BB&W

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@BWC

Thanks for this.  We are planning on doing this as a two day deal.

4 hours, 45 minutes ago on Epic Responses to Dumb A** Video Claiming Black Women are More Submissive to White Men

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@BWC

Never been to Annapolis MD.  that might make a great scooter trip for Keith and I to take. Keep ya posted on that one. 

18 hours, 34 minutes ago on Epic Responses to Dumb A** Video Claiming Black Women are More Submissive to White Men

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@PoetOfDarkness @onmywayup @Veronique Valesquez

I was about to post this article also and feel that it is a must read fort he women on this site.


While it does indeed outline clearly the plight that AA men face in this country I see something more.


What is forgotten.....as usual is the effect on black women in America.  Not just as far as marriage options but also as one of the prime victims of black male criminality, as well as black male social and economic disinvestment from their own communities.  Further what communities are these imprisoned black men, with all of their lack of social and employment options, going to return to?  That is right.  They are going to return to black communities that are already on the ropes dealing with disinvestment, poverty and mass OOW rates.  These men lack life options, options that black women are in no position to create.  Black women  are in the position to suffer negative consequences of those limited life options.....if they choose to.  


I make no apology that I am not the one. As this article outlines.  Many of the issues facing black men and by extension black women, cannot be repaired by black women most of whom often fall victim to much of the same issues.  Black women cannot resurrect dead men.  We cannot repair physically and emotionally damaged black men nor can we improve their employment opportunities. 


The black women who can must remove themselves from this situation. That means moving to more intact communities.  Expanding their dating and marriage pool to include functional, quality men of other races and going on to build intact lives.

18 hours, 38 minutes ago on Epic Responses to Dumb A** Video Claiming Black Women are More Submissive to White Men

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@BWC

LOL.  I just can't with the Clinton dog and pony show.  I fall into the anyone but Hillary camp. Sure they may just be other candidates who are capable but they are being shut out by the Clinton juggernaut. If you can't get funding  you can't launch a campaign. 


While I like Warren and feel that she is the much better person for the job, I feel that she is not electable.

19 hours, 6 minutes ago on Epic Responses to Dumb A** Video Claiming Black Women are More Submissive to White Men

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@BWC

Yeah.  I saw all that mess.  Not visiting Charm City this year. Booo.  On another matter.  Do you think your former Gov. is going to give Dame Hillery a challange.

1 day ago on Epic Responses to Dumb A** Video Claiming Black Women are More Submissive to White Men

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@trinigirl1 @Neil Marsden

I feelin some kind of way.  Keith and I rarely get the stink eye anymore.  Guess we are no longer hot enough to bother.  LOL


1 day, 1 hour ago on Epic Responses to Dumb A** Video Claiming Black Women are More Submissive to White Men

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@BWC

Oh now I am not going to diss this film. This is a better use of a person's time. Better than coming over here and attempting to change us into something we can never be which is interested in you. 


So guys.  Focus on the women who actually want you and stay the hell off of this site. 

1 day, 5 hours ago on Epic Responses to Dumb A** Video Claiming Black Women are More Submissive to White Men

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@Helena5

Hello, this is Brenda55.

Yes, we do indeed cover black women with other races of men and not just white men. If you look through our archives you will see several articles that we have run in the past.

1 day, 6 hours ago on Contact

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@DWB

And yet somehow you endure.  Hats off to you.

2 days, 11 hours ago on February First: Open thread

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More from the article:

"The black women left behind find that potential partners of the same race are scarce, while men, who face an abundant supply of potential mates, don’t need to compete as hard to find one. As a result, Mr. Charles said, “men seem less likely to commit to romantic relationships, or to work hard to maintain them.”


Remember this when assholes like the trolls who show up on this site and youtube hate mongers try to tell you the problem is you or it is all in your head.  It is not your imagination and the fault is not yours. The facts are out there plain as day. Many of you are in the midst of or are about to enter a very hostile dating and marriage market.  For those who choose to date the variety of viable men out there go for it.



3 days, 1 hour ago on Epic Responses to Dumb A** Video Claiming Black Women are More Submissive to White Men

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From the New York Times:

1.5 Million Missing Black Men

By JUSTIN WOLFERS, DAVID LEONHARDT and KEVIN QUEALY APRIL 20, 2015

http://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2015/04/20/upshot/missing-black-men.html?_r=1&abt=0002&abg=1


"In New York, almost 120,000 black men between the ages of 25 and 54 are missing from everyday life. In Chicago, 45,000 are, and more than 30,000 are missing in Philadelphia. Across the South — from North Charleston, S.C., through Georgia, Alabama and Mississippi and up into Ferguson, Mo. — hundreds of thousands more are missing.

They are missing, largely because of early deaths or because they are behind bars. Remarkably, black women who are 25 to 54 and not in jail outnumber black men in that category by 1.5 million, according to an Upshot analysis. For every 100 black women in this age group living outside of jail, there are only 83 black men. Among whites, the equivalent number is 99, nearly parity."



Further, only one-third marry and 25% of that number marry non-black women. The numbers do not lie.


Now I won't preach to black women who want to hold out for a black men. That is your call.  However, I am not going to buy the lie that there is a black man, good or otherwise out there for every black woman who wants one.  I am also not going to allow that lie to appear here on this site either. What we will do on this site is arm you with the facts so that you can make an informed decision.


When your friends, family and acquaintances try to discourage you from exercising your options remember this article. 

3 days, 2 hours ago on Epic Responses to Dumb A** Video Claiming Black Women are More Submissive to White Men

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@SwirlQueen @Brenda55 @dani-BBW

Dude made it more of a story than it needed to be. 

3 days, 3 hours ago on Why Is Ben Affleck Scared for the Public to Know His Ancestors Owned Slaves?

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@dani-BBW

"To me, the bigger issue in all of this is Skip Gates and PBS... why contort your journalistic standards to accommodate a celebrity? "



This.

3 days, 5 hours ago on Why Is Ben Affleck Scared for the Public to Know His Ancestors Owned Slaves?

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@EarthJeff @Brenda55

"I work with teenagers all day"

Don't know how you do it man. 

3 days, 15 hours ago on Epic Responses to Dumb A** Video Claiming Black Women are More Submissive to White Men

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@trinigirl1

Moderator's Note.

I came close to taking this down but decided against it.  This was your call and I respect that. 

I will say this. You do not owe anyone here an explanation.  Keep doing you.

3 days, 15 hours ago on Epic Responses to Dumb A** Video Claiming Black Women are More Submissive to White Men

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 Moderator's Note:


To all of the new members on the site. Disclaimers are optional...repeat optional.


It is a given on this site whenever a statement is made that it does not include  every and all person/ persons falling within the group or every and all situation/ situations being discussed. Most people here realize that. If disclaimers are your thing knock yourself out.  It is your post, your thought, express yourself your way. Just be aware of the following:


The Site owner and Moderators will not spend our time monitoring posts for the inclusion of disclaimers. We will not insist that disclaimers be made. It is up to you, the reader to be aware that there are no absolutes in life. 

We are not going to spend our time coddling every person and group that can potentially get their nose bent out of shape about an opinion expressed by the site's participants. If what is being expressed is not you or someone you know,i f it is not your experience then move on.  It is that simple.

3 days, 15 hours ago on Epic Responses to Dumb A** Video Claiming Black Women are More Submissive to White Men

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@Tempaccount

Speaking of sandwiches.  The 300 Sandwich lady is getting married in 45 days.

4 days, 1 hour ago on Epic Responses to Dumb A** Video Claiming Black Women are More Submissive to White Men

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@BWC

Dayum man. Hittin that tap root.  LOL.

4 days, 2 hours ago on Epic Responses to Dumb A** Video Claiming Black Women are More Submissive to White Men

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@zipporah @AllenR

Not sure I agree.  This to me is more exercising a preference for blonds. Much like my preference for men with dark hair. 

4 days, 3 hours ago on Epic Responses to Dumb A** Video Claiming Black Women are More Submissive to White Men

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@Aabaakawad @Cheree

Don't know why the other one disappeared.  

4 days, 5 hours ago on Epic Responses to Dumb A** Video Claiming Black Women are More Submissive to White Men

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@trinigirl1 @Brenda55 @Aabaakawad @Cheree

Eeeek,  that is not really us.  Just joking.  We have been known to dress up like that when we went to RenFairs but I do not have any photos. 

4 days, 5 hours ago on Epic Responses to Dumb A** Video Claiming Black Women are More Submissive to White Men

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@Aabaakawad @Brenda55 @Cheree

This works then.

Me and SirLoin from way back in the day a few reincarnations ago.  LOL.

4 days, 5 hours ago on Epic Responses to Dumb A** Video Claiming Black Women are More Submissive to White Men

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@Cheree

While you are asking I hope you find out why EVERYONE IN THE DERN VILLIAGE is a King or Queen. No peasants, all royalty.  How does that work? 

4 days, 6 hours ago on Epic Responses to Dumb A** Video Claiming Black Women are More Submissive to White Men

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Oh and ladies, this guy did point out that rainbeaus do not go for loud, aggressive, masculinized women.  We have been saying this in these spaces like forever.  


The fact that men like our film creator are pulling women like that speaks volumes. When you have not got much to bring to a woman's table you take the leftovers then whine about it on social media. 


Quality women have options.  Remember that and do not let people tell you otherwise. 

4 days, 11 hours ago on Epic Responses to Dumb A** Video Claiming Black Women are More Submissive to White Men

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The video is an epic fail IMO.


This young man created a public service announcement outlining the fact that white men are having no problem attracting, dating and marrying quality black women and black guys are not.


Dude, we knew that but thanks for spreading the word.

4 days, 12 hours ago on Epic Responses to Dumb A** Video Claiming Black Women are More Submissive to White Men

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@wanderingdreamer @Brenda55


Goodness. The weather is great that time of year so anywhere in the US would be a winner.  What do you want to do?

4 days, 18 hours ago on February First: Open thread

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OK who wants to go on vacation?

4 days, 18 hours ago on February First: Open thread

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Same study.  Another perspective.


Black Women Who Refuse to Marry Outside Their Race Suffer Economically, Say Researchers


http://naturallymoi.com/2015/04/black-women-who-refuse-to-marry-outside-their-race-suffer-economically-say-researchers/


Of course, the comment section is popcorn worthy. SMDH.

5 days, 5 hours ago on New Study Suggests Professional Black Women “Marry Down” More Often Than Anyone

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@efunyale @kennaGransberg

MODERATOR'S NOTE:

You were doing OK until you came in here with this bullshit.


"I love Black men, they are the only men I am attracted to and would want to spread my legs for.  I would rather share a good black man with a co-wife then marry anyone else.  Other races don't come in dark chocolate, sorry but no sorry."


Get ta steppin'.

6 days, 13 hours ago on What Black Men Think of Natural Hair : “The Ish Don’t Move…”

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While cruising the net I came across this thread on City Data.



Why are so many non-black women having illegitimate black-mixed babies?

http://www.city-data.com/forum/great-debates/2349803-why-so-many-non-black-women.html


Grab yourself some popcorn and settle in for an entertaining read.

1 week ago on QOTW: IR Dating Black Woman Hates Seeing Black Men Do It Too

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@trinigirl1 @ParadiseInWinter @Christelyn


BIG AMEN TO THAT.

Me thinks you and I need to collaborate on a series of "Get your Money Right" articles for the young women on this site.

1 week, 2 days ago on New Study Suggests Professional Black Women “Marry Down” More Often Than Anyone

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@ParadiseInWinter @Christelyn  

Wow.  I am navagating the world that you are about the enter.

My advice would be this.

Eyes and ears open.....mouth shut. 


Being age 21 in your circumstances is a blessing and a curse. 


The curse: At age 21 you have a lot of time ahead of you and not a whole lot of life experience behind you. Search carefully for those with that experience then listen, observe, weigh options and test.


The blessing: At age 21 you have time. Glorious time. Time to take a slow and considered pace to chart your future and find a suitable mate.  


Your world is about to get much bigger than your island of origin. Money does that. Your choices are about to expand also so do not think that your options are only to be found locally. You are wise to keep your upcoming success within a tight circle of those who love and trust you.  Keep it that way. Never talk your wallet is the old saying and it is good advice. 




"Ok, once this happens, i don't want to become a snob and start only dating up, but ill date as if i didn't have the millions". 


This is not wise. Dating and marrying on your level is not being a snob. Ignoring your wealth is a sure way to lose it..

This is why I say take your time and learn to navigate the new playing field that you are about to enter. Your circle is about to change, the men that you are going to come in contact with because of what is happening to you career wise are going to be of a different level. Still human and still in need of vetting however.  


Don't rush. Like I said before, eyes and ears open and mouth shut. Study your new environment and then learn from the most successful of the lot.  You have to time to take this vital step.


1 week, 2 days ago on New Study Suggests Professional Black Women “Marry Down” More Often Than Anyone

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