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@thecrazyartist @Sfbta

One has to wonder why anyone is still listening to the most marginalized men on the planet?

3 minutes ago on When IBM Nonsense Doesn’t Go Over Well with White America

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@GoldenPrecious

What kind of Anti-virus software are you all running?

12 hours, 13 minutes ago on Video: Five Reasons Nobody Wants a Black Woman!

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@trinigirl1 @Neil Marsden

SISTER!!!!!!!! I hit the big 60 in Aug.  Gonna do it up big.  I know just how you feel. Life is good.

20 hours, 32 minutes ago on Video: Five Reasons Nobody Wants a Black Woman!

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This one is for the NBABM gals showing up in this thread. They cape so we don't have to.

1 day, 7 hours ago on Video: Five Reasons Nobody Wants a Black Woman!

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Boy they are riding hard tonight.

1 day, 7 hours ago on Video: Five Reasons Nobody Wants a Black Woman!

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@ninamaria07

You went to the trouble of registering to tell us that? Must not have had much to do tonight. 

1 day, 7 hours ago on Video: Five Reasons Nobody Wants a Black Woman!

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@Ri74 @Christelyn  @Brenda55

Well in my case people really can't get scared of my lack of  hair since they can't see it.  I have gotten into head-wrapping in a big way.  Great way to use the scarf and earring collection. So far no negative about my wrapping.

1 day, 10 hours ago on Beauty Tuesdays: New You Tube Beauty Channel, MAC Concealer, My Review of New Shea Moisture!

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@PJDeanwriter @Brenda55 @darkandlovely @MsEva

Philadelphians

Can we talk?.  Anyone want to join me over in the Forum to continue this convo. Love talking Philly and would love to talk it with members of this community who are in IRR.  What do you say?  I will start a thread.

1 day, 15 hours ago on ‘Ratchet’ Doesn’t Happen in a Bubble! Letter to Zane Shows Clear Timeline of What-the-Cussery

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@Neil Marsden @DonPeek

Guess he is trying to set some sort of record. 

1 day, 15 hours ago on Video: Five Reasons Nobody Wants a Black Woman!

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@Christelyn  @DonPeek

Hey girl.  Ya just can't make this stuff up.  I mean Don's post was.....was.....and epic fail.

1 day, 15 hours ago on Video: Five Reasons Nobody Wants a Black Woman!

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@DonPeek

Hey Don.  You missed something.

1 day, 16 hours ago on Video: Five Reasons Nobody Wants a Black Woman!

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@_Toni_ @DonPeek

Probably one of those "nice guys" who can't understand why he has no success in the dating market.


1 day, 16 hours ago on Video: Five Reasons Nobody Wants a Black Woman!

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@darkandlovely @Brenda55 @PJDeanwriter @MsEva


Not wanting to derail this thread but your friend may be doing to the urban pioneer thing and hopes that her investment in the area may appreciate along with the investment that Temple is doing.  There are quite a few young AA who are doing the same. Not for the faint of heart.  Doubt I would do that as a single women. In fact I know that I would not. 


I agree with you.  There are many sections of the city where I have family that are just a no go for me  or I will only go for weddings and funerals. I take the most direct route in going and leaving and I do not say after dark.  I will not risk my life and limb living there. 


Yeah I get called all kinds of names.  Tough. No one is going to say that I died because I was at the wrong place at the wrong time.

1 day, 16 hours ago on ‘Ratchet’ Doesn’t Happen in a Bubble! Letter to Zane Shows Clear Timeline of What-the-Cussery

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@darkandlovely @PJDeanwriter @MsEva

You described Philly to a tee.  This type of behavior has calmed down a lot though with the blue collar types having decamped for the burbs  to get away from "da blacks" .and a younger, more educated population taking its place in many of those old working class neighborhood. 


North Philly...as well as West Philly is not for the faint of heart these days since large numbers of the black middle class are leaving for the burbs as well as other parts of the city. Philly is turning into a Tale of two cities.  Over very affluent in sections and very poor in others with the middle class in small pockets or living out side. 

1 day, 21 hours ago on ‘Ratchet’ Doesn’t Happen in a Bubble! Letter to Zane Shows Clear Timeline of What-the-Cussery

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@kiki jones @_Toni_ @Law Wanxi

I would change this from Black women to specifically AA women.  I do not beleive that non-AA women view themselves this way.  I may be wrong and I an sure I will be corrected promptly if I am.

2 days, 10 hours ago on Anti-Swirling Black Women And You: Why Their Loudness Means Nothing To YOUR Happiness

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@dani-BBW

Re. the second type of women you mentioned in your comment. Think about it.  These women are involved with and  or married to black men. They are very much concerned about their man's well being and place in the world and they expect you to be also.  The fact that a growing number of black women are not, that a growing number of black women are choosing men that these women see as a direct threat to the men in their lives is what motivate their negativity.


Here is my stand on this all. I do not owe these woman a level of loyalty that undermines and limits my choice and my quality of life.  Given the racial history of this country a relationship with a non-black man has it's unique set of challenges that I gladly shoulder.  To the black women IRR naysayers, a relationship with a black man also has it's unique set of challenges. Those are the challenges that you signed on for and shoulder. Please do so without whining and expecting me to assist you. My relationship is no threat to you and yours. In fact I could care less. 

2 days, 15 hours ago on Anti-Swirling Black Women And You: Why Their Loudness Means Nothing To YOUR Happiness

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@trinigirl1

That is enough to tell me NOT to read this. My last nerve is already frayed today.

3 days, 16 hours ago on ‘Ratchet’ Doesn’t Happen in a Bubble! Letter to Zane Shows Clear Timeline of What-the-Cussery

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@Oaktown Paul  @Brenda55 @BWC

Digging this. Hubby WILL NOT make it out of the house with that on. 

3 days, 17 hours ago on Update! BB&W Goes to Vegas in 2015!!

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@BWC

I agree with Jeff.  No lace.  That is strictly for the bride.  I would suggest some other sheer fabric but we have an issue with burst strength and....well... quite frankly.....the planet is just not ready to to view the magnificence that is contained within. You'all just can't handle it. 

3 days, 21 hours ago on Update! BB&W Goes to Vegas in 2015!!

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@Justa GoodOlBoy @Brenda55

Each side thinks the other controls the media. That is an old argument and I stay out of it. Rich folks control the media.  The history lesson is lost on me since I say that both sides are full of it. At the end of the day what each of us do in our own lives has the greatest impact on our quality of life and you make in in spite of the dunderheads running the country. At least that has been my experience.


Political parties have a vested interest in keeping us all at each others throats.  A pox on both of their houses. As a black women I can site actions from both D's and R's black and non-black that have not been to my benefit.


I choose to deal with people as individuals. Much less nerve wracking that way. Much more productive. 


4 days, 2 hours ago on Conservative White Men Married to Black Women Sound Off on Jesse Peterson Bigotry

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@Justa GoodOlBoy @321ZYX @Christelyn  @jazzyfae45


Now you have to admit that the Republican party does have an image problem when it comes to minorities. 


I married a Republican.  Both of us are so turned off by the current state of politics in this country neither of us affiliate with a party. Better to drop party affiliation....who in their right mind uses this as a test for marriage worthiness.  Neither party has the average person's best interest in mind when they make decisions. 

4 days, 2 hours ago on Conservative White Men Married to Black Women Sound Off on Jesse Peterson Bigotry

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@Law Wanxi @Brenda55

Good to see that all is well in the House of Law.  "The Dental Component"....shame on you for saddling the young lady with that handle....offered you sage advice. I have learned over the years that money serves best that serves discreetly.

4 days, 4 hours ago on Beauty Tuesdays: New You Tube Beauty Channel, MAC Concealer, My Review of New Shea Moisture!

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@dani-BBW @Brenda55 @Keioni

Say no more.  SirLoin has one of those so I know. LOL.


On another point. Why the good Lord puts dark hair with blue eyes on guys just to mess up my mind I will never understand.  I try to behave myself but then......the temptation.  I say.  It's just not right.

4 days, 11 hours ago on OMG…”Scandal-ishous” Wedding!

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@dani-BBW @Brenda55 @Keioni

Yeah that's nice and all but that cleft chin is to die for.  

4 days, 11 hours ago on OMG…”Scandal-ishous” Wedding!

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@Keioni

They are not a real couple.  All in fun though.

BTW. Dude is  HOT,HOT HOTTEE, HOT, HOT, HOT!!!!!!!!!!

4 days, 15 hours ago on OMG…”Scandal-ishous” Wedding!

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@english84brown

Thank-you for this lovely testimony to the beauty of interracial marriage. I know of what you speak, most of us here are black women married to white men and have found the perfect mates for us. We agree. eff the haters.  

4 days, 19 hours ago on Take That, Haters! BB&W ‘Circle of Support’ In Action with Wronged IR Couple

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@Silverroxen

My take. The issue is not important enough for the "winners" in the system to make a change.  The people hurt by it...of all hues....... are not deemed important enough to make a change for.  That to me is the central message.

That also tells me that I do not have to play by any rules or support any person place or thing that are not to my benefit.


Go where you are valued and celebrated.

Carve you own nitch in the world.

Judge people as individuals and by the value that they bring to your life and not to the group you happen to belong to. 

Support the people, places and things that enhance your life and for God's sake tune out the toxics that want to stand your your neck to feel superior. The need you under their boots to maintain their own tenuous positions. 

4 days, 19 hours ago on Special Guest: Interracial Dating and Colorism

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@EqualOppLover

I was going to give it a chance but the film is being almost universally panned by women of all skin tones as missing the mark and not worth the time to view.


Pretty much a dark girls are mean and angry and they are nasty to light girls film. No recognition of light skinned privileged. Black men being...well what they are. In a word no solutions other than for dark women to shoulder solving the problem by getting heir minds right and not being so darn sensitive. Got that memo years ago which is why my loyalties lay where they do. 


I posted three reviews in the forum:

http://beyondblackwhiteforums.com/showthread.php?t=201&p=1728#post1728

4 days, 19 hours ago on Special Guest: Interracial Dating and Colorism

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@dani-BBW @Alexander Skobeleff


MODERATOR'S NOTE:

I was just about to post the same information. Alexander you are in a better position than we are to know just what technology is available for the hearing impaired. If you want closed captioning then step up and do the leg work and get back to us. To be blunt. I am not going to do it nor am I going to ask any of the moderators to do it. If you want to be a member of this community then make a contribution and see what you can find to make it more accessible. 

4 days, 21 hours ago on QOTW: Twenty-Something I.T. Girl’s Swirling Woes in New York

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@Law Wanxi

Well there.  New avatar.  Like it.

My hair care regime is also simple. Since there is next to none now to bother with it is just whatever is handy and then a head wrap.  The wrap is what takes the time. 


Now that I buzzed cut my hair I can now see just how easy you men have it.  Wash and go.  No fuss.

5 days, 8 hours ago on Beauty Tuesdays: New You Tube Beauty Channel, MAC Concealer, My Review of New Shea Moisture!

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@JennieTheresaWest


Moderator's note: 

Now that is nice. Thanks for sharing this photo of your son and his girlfriend. It is beautiful.  The photo and the support that you are giving as a mom for his relationship.


If you choose can you tell us a little more about these two kids? How did they meet? How are you and your family doing re. an IRR in the family?


5 days, 18 hours ago on Take That, Haters! BB&W ‘Circle of Support’ In Action with Wronged IR Couple

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@TianaParker

I woke up like this also.  Awesome. 

6 days, 18 hours ago on Take That, Haters! BB&W ‘Circle of Support’ In Action with Wronged IR Couple

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My contribution to the cause.

6 days, 18 hours ago on Take That, Haters! BB&W ‘Circle of Support’ In Action with Wronged IR Couple

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@Alexander Skobeleff @Leona_LoveQuest

Can I step in here.  I have got to ask this.

Alexander, how profound is your hearing loss? Are you able to hear anything? Even with hearing aids? Or do you depend on sign language?

1 week ago on AAWG: Lady J’s Dating Profile Pic Do’s & Don’ts

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@friendswmimi @Christelyn

I saw the same photo.  Rev. Jessie has never been married.......that anyone can document nor has anyone and I mean any one been able to find much out about his personal or professional life prior to 1998.  Strange.

1 week, 1 day ago on WTF? Worst and Most Racist Interview Ever!!

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@caribbeanlady @DanielKennedy

MODERATOR'S NOTE 2

Heard back from Dan  the man:

Here is a copy of what he posted.  Since he is banned I will copy and past it here:


6 hours ago
WTF? Worst and Most Racist Interview Ever!!

My apologies. I didn't know this was a forum for women only. I seen the video and made a comment. Freedom of speech is still legal right? I'm not looking for a date. I have a woman - a smart black woman that I've been with for 15 years. I didn't think I'd be thrown under the bus in such a demeaning way and bare the wrath you all have against black men. While I do understand how you all feel, I don't think it's necessary to take it out on people that didn't do anything to you personally. Good luck with your plight against black men. Love whom ever makes you happy because that's what really matters.




OK now here is the thing.

" I'm not looking for a date. I have a woman - a smart black woman that I've been with for 15 years."


Not wife, "I have a woman"  Cool. 15 years.  No ring. No paper and you show up here saying you can't find a nice black women.  15 years dog. Um what about Ms waiting for 15 years?  Hummmmmmmmmmm.


What? She is not so nice that you show up here on a interracial site?  Does your 15 year women know your prowling IRR sites?  That's what you have for her after 15 years



Ladies and gentleman you cannot make this stuff up.  



1 week, 3 days ago on WTF? Worst and Most Racist Interview Ever!!

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@caribbeanlady @DanielKennedy


MODERATOR'S NOTE:

Well here is the deal. Guys like Daniel know that this is a black women/non-black man IRR blog.  They know that fact when they come here. These guys also have stuff to get off their chest when it comes to their angst about being a black man in competition with non-black men and black women.  So they try to come on the site under cover and from the safety of their home to get what ails them off their chest and sling some mud at a group of people who, truth be told could care less that they exist.  Marginalized people do weak stuff like that.


Now I know that arguing with guys like Danny can be a hoot but face it.  It is getting played out. Truly. I know I have got better ways of spending my time than to dance this dance yet again with butt hurt black men so I am just going to ban this stuff coming from black men with issues.  I don't care what their problems in life are. I don't care that they think that they are a prize. I don't care about what they think or feel or want. I just don't care and I do not want to take up my time dealing with this stuff. So they are gonna go poof with a quickness so that we all can get back to talking about the stuff that matters which is our lives with men we actually care about and want.

1 week, 3 days ago on WTF? Worst and Most Racist Interview Ever!!

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@Christelyn  @Brenda55 @SavageTango

Aw snap.  Dude is gonna have to kneel down to get  all that off the bottom shelf.  LOL. Maybe he can find some Mad Dog 20 20.  I mean as long as he's out shopping and all. 

1 week, 3 days ago on WTF? Worst and Most Racist Interview Ever!!

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@DanielKennedy


{ Road weary face-palm of one who has been down this path a time or two.}


Look friend it has been a long day, I'm bushed and am about to pack it in for the night.  I am not babysitting this back and forth tonight. So lets cut to the chase and not take this to it's inevitable conclusion. Have a good evening.

1 week, 4 days ago on WTF? Worst and Most Racist Interview Ever!!

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@SavageTango @Brenda55

Pick me up a bottle of T-Bird while your at it. LOL.

1 week, 4 days ago on WTF? Worst and Most Racist Interview Ever!!

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The So Called Church of: Reverend Jesse Lee Peterson

http://tinyurl.com/nt7qg2v

1 week, 4 days ago on WTF? Worst and Most Racist Interview Ever!!

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@trinigirl1 @Brenda55

Well then girl get off this thing and at the table.  Oh and don't forget the eat your veggies.


1 week, 4 days ago on WTF? Worst and Most Racist Interview Ever!!

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@trinigirl1 @Brenda55

Yeah, he is out there burning pots cause you know how to put it on him. Don't feel bad.  Him is happy.

1 week, 4 days ago on WTF? Worst and Most Racist Interview Ever!!

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@PaoloP @Ri74

Boy you did not just go there! LOL!!!!

1 week, 4 days ago on WTF? Worst and Most Racist Interview Ever!!

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@trinigirl1 @Brenda55

Hey girl you is all that but admit it.  Even you can't throw it down like he can.  Know what I'm talkin bout? LOL.   Makes ya wanna burn pots on the regular. I know you know the deal. 

1 week, 4 days ago on WTF? Worst and Most Racist Interview Ever!!

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@kennaGransberg @Taiyl00

Yeah.  How is it that these men know so much about another race of man's junk? 

1 week, 4 days ago on WTF? Worst and Most Racist Interview Ever!!

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@BWC @wri316

It's raining men. Hallelujah !  It's raining men. Amen. 

Couldn't help it. 

1 week, 4 days ago on WTF? Worst and Most Racist Interview Ever!!

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