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That in not on her. That is on him. He leaked the arrest tape which was against policy so now he may kiss his 24 year career away. Stupid move on his part.
1 hour, 11 minutes ago on Daniele Watts Faced with Lewd Conduct Charges
@Law Wanxi @Brenda55 @SirLoinDeBeef
LOL. Gotta love Grandma Chu.
On the Ebola front. Too much hype. The information is getting out there thank goodness and the response is markedly improving after the U.S's flat footed start.
I have to wonder however if a change needs to be made of placing health care workers in isolation for a period of time upon return from Ebola stricken areas. The west is able to successful treat Ebola if treatment is started early enough. The hitch is finding all of the infected person's contacts once diagnosed. This mad dash by understaffed public health officials is not a good look and is causing most of the anxiety among the public in my opinion.
2 hours, 5 minutes ago on Open Thread. Summer is over on to Fall
@trinigirl1 @SirLoinDeBeef @Brenda55 @nkvn
That is the beauty of having our own forum and making it a subscription site. Not only can your ISP be seen by the site owners but there is a record of payment information. That is true even with Paypal whose records can be accessed by law enforcement.
Meaning trolls are traceable. That comes in handy should the need arise for legal intervention.
Unfortunately the kind of language that appears in the post above is par for garbage that is directed at women and women's spaces all over the internet. No group of women is immune to online misogyny and it should not come as a surprise that there are men out there who hate and who will fall back to their default position of violence against women.
We see this all to often on our streets and at times among our acquaintances.
Worry will not make you safe. Being proactive and being vigilant, cautious and using common sense is the watch word in these situations. Documenting incidents and of course taking the attitude of if you see something ,say something is the way to go.
2 hours, 29 minutes ago on Could What Ralph Richard Banks Said in His Book Be True Regarding How Swirling Might Help Black Women Marry Black Men?
Thank-you for posting this. I love it when older black women, women who know what it was like back in the day come here to school the younger ones. I hope you continue to participate on this site.
"Listen, BM have been swirling since the 1950s and all the excuses they used then and now fall flat because they are lies. They were always given a pass. Now, you are not giving them a pass, but moving on. I love it. If I could tell you about the destruction of the black community with the heroin, crack, crime, violence... Just date, don't date "at" black men, just date and marry based on mutual love and respect. I wish all of you the best, you are doing the right thing. I will continue to read and learn more."
This is it right here in a nut-shell. Just take black men out of the equation of your life all together and move on from all of it, the pathology that has become much of the BC and the toxic attitudes of far too many BM. Just move away from it all.
3 hours, 24 minutes ago on Could What Ralph Richard Banks Said in His Book Be True Regarding How Swirling Might Help Black Women Marry Black Men?
Halloween is coming. The ghouls are out early and they have a laptop.
11 hours, 27 minutes ago on Could What Ralph Richard Banks Said in His Book Be True Regarding How Swirling Might Help Black Women Marry Black Men?
That site? Oh Please.
11 hours, 37 minutes ago on Could What Ralph Richard Banks Said in His Book Be True Regarding How Swirling Might Help Black Women Marry Black Men?
How about passing along the information as to where you found this gem to Chris.
Other than that I can't lose sleep over a keyboard jockey posting scary stuff on an message board.
11 hours, 46 minutes ago on Could What Ralph Richard Banks Said in His Book Be True Regarding How Swirling Might Help Black Women Marry Black Men?
"we positive black men are getting ready to step up and speak out on behalf of black women and change our community.
Getting ready to? GETTING READY TO? I'm sorry but "positive" black men have had decades to reverse trends. DECADES. And now that we've moved into "too little, too late" territory, we're supposed to look out for these individuals?"
Toni. Remember that old saying.
"When you're ready you never have to get ready."
This guy is competing with the guy who is already "ready". As in ready to commit and put a ring on it. As in ready to step up and take care of the children he makes. As in making sure his family is in a save and secure environment.
Black women want the same thing that every woman on the planet wants. It took a while but she is reaching out for it and going for it. So guy. Keep getting "ready". We're out.
21 hours, 39 minutes ago on Could What Ralph Richard Banks Said in His Book Be True Regarding How Swirling Might Help Black Women Marry Black Men?
A picture is worth a thousand words.
21 hours, 47 minutes ago on Could What Ralph Richard Banks Said in His Book Be True Regarding How Swirling Might Help Black Women Marry Black Men?
Bombay Sapphire....and tonic over ice.
SirLion is Oban....neat.
Just in case we all meet up some day which is quite possible since we will be in your neck of the woods visiting family in July.
1 day, 1 hour ago on Ladies, Know Your Bourbon!
SirLoin is a Scotch drinker.
Oban is his poison of choice.
As far as I am concerned the stuff taste like burnt oak trees. Of course they do burn the insides of the barrels to get that amber color and flavor so I am not far off in that assessment.
Sigh if I have to listen to yet another "Don't give up on us speech."
Just stop it. Please. This is just as demeaning as that " Why do Black Men hate us." meme.
Why focus on women who don't want you?
We're done. Seriously. We're done.
Guy. This is not about you. This is about us. It is about who we want. It is about who wants us and have stepped up to demonstrate that.
I am going to post a cute blurb found on the site :http://whiteboysdatingblackgirls.tumblr.com/
It is about David Bowie and Iman.
Iman attended some of David’s concerts in the late 1980’s, but they were not properly introduced until October 1990 at a dinner held by their mutual hairdresser, Teddy Antolin, Bowie fell in love instantly. He was later quoted in an interview saying “I was naming the children the night we met … it was absolutely immediate.” But not so for Iman. “I did not want to get involved with a rock star. No way. It is not a sane thing to do, but David changed my mind. He wooed me.”Not long after their first meeting, Iman had to travel to Paris. She arrived to a hotel room filled with her favorite flower (gardenias) and a card from David. When she returned to Los Angeles, David was there waiting for her at the airport. Iman was sold. In an interview with NyMag Iman recalled, “His actions spoke louder [than words]. […] the doors open to the plane, and I come out and I see all these people taking a picture of somebody. And he was standing there, flowers in hand, no security. That was when I knew. He didn’t care if anyone saw.”Sure they are celebs but do you realize just how many times this is happening to us average black women? What women would pass up on a pursuit like that? For what? For a "Don't give up on us?"Why should we? I know you see the BW/ non-Bm engagement photos and videos, you see the boyfriend and husband tag, you see the wedding films and the first born being publicly celebrated. You see this on line and you are seeing this offline. They are increasing in number and you see that too. You see communities like this one growing and you wonder what does all this mean for me. That in my opinion is the wrong question to ask and the wrong focus.
1 day, 2 hours ago on Could What Ralph Richard Banks Said in His Book Be True Regarding How Swirling Might Help Black Women Marry Black Men?
OK I am seeing the same thing. I thought it was all in my head. I do not beleive I have celiac (although my mom has it.) But I see a distinct change if I eat wheat products.
I am going to start a trial today and see what happens.
2 days, 2 hours ago on Grain-Free, Fall Recipes by the Author of “Wheat Belly!”
@SirLoinDeBeef @SavageTango @Cami2210
He is not talking about me......evil side-eye at SirLoin for not making that clear.
2 days, 10 hours ago on AAWG: SavageTango tells it. Why I Swirl.
" I’m disgusted at how this woman cried wolf, but charging her with a crime seems a bit excessive."
I dunno. My guess the cops are sick of her s**t too.
2 days, 10 hours ago on Daniele Watts Faced with Lewd Conduct Charges
2 days, 15 hours ago on Listen Ladies! If You’re Going to Complain About How “Black Men Hate You” While Scoffing at Expanding Your Options…Then You’re Just Begging.
I would like to welcome you to the site and let you know so that you can let your friends know that there will definitely be a space on BB&W new forum for black women who hale from and are living outside of the USA.
2 days, 16 hours ago on Listen Ladies! If You’re Going to Complain About How “Black Men Hate You” While Scoffing at Expanding Your Options…Then You’re Just Begging.
Lest we forget that black women are often strangers in a strange land......and we also have to deal with our fellow skin-folks.........get the kids off to school, the house picked up, the shopping done, dog to the vet and dinner on the table on time.
Welcome. Loved what you had to say.
Now don't be a stranger in these here parts.
2 days, 18 hours ago on Listen Ladies! If You’re Going to Complain About How “Black Men Hate You” While Scoffing at Expanding Your Options…Then You’re Just Begging.
Chris I know that you did not want to cover this. It's like this scene below in the Godfather:
The Huff Post article came across to me like the rest of the folks now tuning into a program that we watched years ago. They are just now catching it on reruns. Think about it. This site had been around how long? Black women empowerment bloggers began posting their thoughts since when?
Gonna be honest on this one. Elegance's one month (or longer) experiment idea is looking awfully good to me at this point. You know what? I really think it would be a sucess too. I realize that black women are all along the spectrum when it comes to working out the toxic experiences that they have had with far too many black men and to much of the BC. That said most of us here have crossed those rough seas, landed on much more welcoming shores, crossed the beach and are heading inland. We are being greeted by the men and women who have preceded us and are now participating in building the campsite. We are building a stronger community for the other voyagers who will arrive wanting a fuller life on her own terms.
So while the incandescent bulbs are finally clicking on for many black women we will shine our Acandescent™ ones and keep it moving forward.
@Andrew Mulligan @Brenda55
Thank-you. I will email you off line to discuss this further. Thank-you for the offer.
3 days, 18 hours ago on Open Thread: Brainstorm Session -The Forum
Just posting an intresting article.
Some women really, really love Scotch.
4 days ago on Ladies, Know Your Bourbon!
@RhondaSpeights @Brenda55 @Neil Marsden
If you do head wraps you may want to look into Pashmina scarves. I use the cheapo ones since I have hair and they keep me plenty warm. You may want to spend a little more and get the real wool ones. They are still light weight but will keep your head toasty.
4 days, 12 hours ago on AAWG: SavageTango tells it. Why I Swirl.
That's right. I had them too. A black pair and then white ones for Easter Sunday.
4 days, 13 hours ago on AAWG: SavageTango tells it. Why I Swirl.
You will not regret it. I have been wearing them now that my hair has thinned and I sport a TWA.
Yep. Keeps the ashys away. LOL
I remember mom greasing up our legs before putting on those white anklets socks when I was a kid.
Fur, be it real of faux, is your friend.
A trick I learned years ago. Coat yourself with a thin layer of Vaseline before you get dressed to go out. I used to do that when waiting for those early morning buses. Works great.
@RhondaSpeights @Neil Marsden @Brenda55
"Word on the street is that we are in for another brutal winter this year....Uggggg"
Oh hell no. Girl I hope that is not true.
@Neil Marsden @Brenda55 @RhondaSpeights
Before I got my drivers licence I remember standing on many a street corner at the crack of dawn waiting for the bus in order to work the 7-3 shift.
Wind so cold it would cut through you. In Philly icy cold wind is called the hawk. We say the hawk is flying high today to warn folks before going out to brace themselves.
@Neil Marsden @RhondaSpeights
Winter in Michigan is no joke. Not for the faint of heart. I am originally from Buffalo NY so I know what I'm talking about.
Fair enough. It is obviously that you have had a string of bad luck when it comes to meeting and dating white men. It is like the ones that you have met confirm the belief that white men are only interested in one thing and are not at all serious about forming a committed relationship with a black women.
Fortunately many women on this site have had a very different experience which may be why some of us really did not sweat Savage's post and saw it as a hoot.
Men and women come to this site with a wide variation of romantic experiences and no article is one size fits all. If we wanted to be daring I guess we could do a series of articles about casual sexual encounters between black women and white men. I know that they do occur, are consensual and gratifying to both parties.
BW/WM relationships run the gambit so I for one will not take something like that off the table now that the idea is out there. It may be of interest to some to explore this aspect of the BW/WM dynamic. Who knows.
4 days, 14 hours ago on AAWG: SavageTango tells it. Why I Swirl.
You are making perfect sense. Great post.
4 days, 16 hours ago on Open Thread: Brainstorm Session -The Forum
"Is this going to be the first of many articles by white men who like to have casual, uncommitted sex with only black women after they marry a white woman? "
Quite honestly it never occurred to us to run a series of articles like the one you have suggested so I can safely say no, this is not. What this is is one man's opinion expressed in the most entertaining way.
Oh BTW why the assumption that Savage, or any other divorced white guy is sexing every black women he takes out or wants to sex every black women he takes out?
Why did you jump there?
4 days, 17 hours ago on AAWG: SavageTango tells it. Why I Swirl.
"how about a section featuring bw/wm erotica? (i know, i know lol)"
Don't feel bad. We are already doing that. Check out some of the selections that we have posted over the past few weeks.
What is nice is that the authors themselves are writing content just for us here at BB&W and several have posted on the site to engage this community directly.
They are doing their part so lets do ours and make them welcome by checking out what they have to offer, comment and possibly make a purchase.
4 days, 19 hours ago on Open Thread: Brainstorm Session -The Forum
We are getting some newbies and long time readers coming out of lurk mode.
We were just asked how to change your avatar so I am re-posting the response here.
Click on your screen name. That will open a drop-down menu.
Click on edit profile.
Under account Info you will see an instruction to clear your current Avatar.
If you do not have one click on Choose File and down load one from your computer or from a URL.
4 days, 20 hours ago on Open Thread: Brainstorm Session -The Forum
4 days, 20 hours ago on BB&W Rules and Terms
Well this may be jumping the gun but as we grow BB&W will be needing moderators and the participation of those who have had experience with the behind the sense of forums.
More on that later.
All will be reveled in time. Not the most satisfying answer but all we have at this point. The platform is up and functional. Now we need to "populate" it with sections and subject matter hence this post.
Tell us what you want while we are in this building stage.
"But my brains & loyalty are not what get thing up in the bedroom. My curves, my smooth chocolate skin etc. get his engines revved. I have a friend (white) who only dates blondes. If my man prefers darks skin, that's not racist. He didn't do it to "see what it's like". He put a ring on it. A pretty nice one too."
Sounds like my man.
BTW welcome to the party. Lurking is cool but joining in is much more fun.
4 days, 20 hours ago on AAWG: SavageTango tells it. Why I Swirl.
Don't worry about it. He's taken and I doubt he was checking for you in the first place.
5 days, 2 hours ago on John and Jenese–You Will NOT Want to Skip This!
Excellent suggestion and no we will not forget that much of our community are from all over the world.
That means travel
Raising kids overseas
Being an Expat
Being an immigrant
Being in a relationship and marriage to a person form another country.
IRR in other lands...reaction to and acceptance of.
How am I doing so far? Anything to add?
5 days, 2 hours ago on Open Thread: Brainstorm Session -The Forum
Good to know this. I will reach out offline re. your experience with online forums.
5 days, 23 hours ago on We Broke $5,000 in just THREE Days! Get Your “Troll Tears” Sippy Cup Today!
We plan to leave this open indefinitely in order to give everyone who desires a chance to contribute.
Thank you in advance for your generosity and support. It is people like you that make BB&W what it is and it is together that we will continue to bring all of you the kind of community you want. The response from all of you has been fantastic to witness. I have to admit that I am awestruck. You guys are the best.
6 days, 6 hours ago on We Broke $5,000 in just THREE Days! Get Your “Troll Tears” Sippy Cup Today!
@Joyce345 @jazzyfae45 @Lady A
That did not work out too well now didn't it.
6 days, 13 hours ago on Beyond Black & White Fan Page is Under Attack Again. Time to Go to War.
Hummmmmmm. You all excited about the new forum huh?
Maybe its time for a new open thread so you can tell us what you want to see.
1 week ago on Challenge! Can You Be the BEST Version of You?
After reading this entire post and especially this right here:
"The greatest visionaries always create their own spaces and platforms. Freedom isn't free, especially when you have to be subjected to the whims of breathtakingly stupid vermin who can swarm and destroy your online presence and content simply by complaining about nothing."
How could I not feature this.
1 week ago on Beyond Black & White Fan Page is Under Attack Again. Time to Go to War.
Pissing off the guys who love and support said woman is not smart either.
1 week ago on Video: Update on the BB&W Fund Raising Push!
:::: FUND RAISING UPDATE::::
$4,338 as of 8:21 EST.
BB&W is here to stay and you are all making this happen.
1 week, 1 day ago on Video: Update on the BB&W Fund Raising Push!