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@ShunJack


I think we should move this conversation to the Forum so as not to hijack this thread.

5 hours, 1 minute ago on Online Friendships Ain’t Real, and Why You Should Only Have 150 Facebook Friends.

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@ShunJack @Brenda55


As you said it is a tool. There has to be actual "brick and mortar" infrastructure, real life communication to actually get things done.  All of the people you mentioned have that.  In Tony Robbins case remember he built his empire long before  social media even existed.

5 hours, 50 minutes ago on Online Friendships Ain’t Real, and Why You Should Only Have 150 Facebook Friends.

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"According to researchers, friendships formed on social media aren't real friendships at all."


I would also add this.  Movements formed on social media aren't real movements at all.


Think about this and then look as so many so called Movements that has mobilized hundred of thousands of people but have quickly faded into obscurity.  You are seeing the process repeat it self yet again with #Blacklivesmatter. 


Hashtag activism is not real activism and "Movements" that cannot move from the virtual realm of blogs and social media to real life will fade also. In fact when you look at it they were never "Movements" at all but ideas that spark imaginations and inspiration which lead to individual interpretation and then finally individual action in a direction that the "mothers of said movement could not have foreseen or control. We are seeing that play out in many black women focused circles as well. 


This article is a good one and it is good that you looked and shared to foster increased knowledge, understanding and growth. That is what empowerment is all about.

12 hours, 32 minutes ago on Online Friendships Ain’t Real, and Why You Should Only Have 150 Facebook Friends.

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@The Working Home Keeper @Christelyn

"My issue was that people whom I thought were friends used a forum to call me out publicly, state a position, and give fodder to people whom they knew sniff around for blood every time there is any controversy surrounding me because they have an persistent and virulent hatred for me."


She's beginning to look a tad unbalanced IMO. 

1 day, 1 hour ago on End of the Year, End of the Drama, Part II

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@dbrooks109


I am very familiar with this site.  Manosphere central and not really worth our attention. Black women are not on the radar screen for most of these men, truth be told these guys are not checking for women of color at all.  They want White college educated women to drop feminism, behave themselves and get back to being June Cleaver. Better still Stepford wives.


This is a case of focusing on the men who don't want us at the expense of featuring the men who do. I am more interested in offering a platform to men of all races who want black women and not these guys. 

1 day, 8 hours ago on Contact

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@LilaLeslie


Girl I am with you.  Not snatching wigs over some dude who ain't even my man.

1 day, 8 hours ago on End of the Year; End of Petty Dramas.

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@PrettyBLKgurl @Brenda55

I just bookmarked her site.

1 day, 8 hours ago on End of the Year; End of Petty Dramas.

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@Brice Cameron

Well people can be outraged all they like. What they can't do is compromise my personal situation expecting me to choose sides as if this is at all meaning full in my personal space.


Bill is a grown man with the resources and connections to handle his. I say we let him do just that and not expend anymore energy on this.

1 day, 9 hours ago on End of the Year; End of Petty Dramas.

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@PrettyBLKgurl

Sounds like a woman after my own heart. 

1 day, 9 hours ago on End of the Year; End of Petty Dramas.

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Femininity, elegance and deportment are  for too many considered bad words these days and that is a shame.


I think we can all learn a thing or two or three about how disagreements among ladies were handled in the pre-social media days when twittering went on behind lacy fans and with soft voices.


If it does not involve the words indictment, inoperable or involve people you actually can touch then it is not that deep and face to face or voice to voice clarification is appreciated before public blood letting. Especially among friends and business associates. 


Bill Cosby and HIS problems does not even rise to that level of concern for me and most women I know nor should it for you. 


So ladies I will flutter my fan at you and request that you arrange a girls night out and settle this over frothy drinks in a classy dining establishment, dressed to the nines surrounded by hot looking guys and move on.

1 day, 9 hours ago on End of the Year; End of Petty Dramas.

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"If you are toxic to me, you will be eliminated."


Sounds like a plan.

1 day, 20 hours ago on End of the Year; End of Petty Dramas.

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@SavageTango @Brenda55

Eat it anyway and don't forget to lick the butter off your fingers.

1 day, 20 hours ago on QOTW: Geeky Guys Seeks Girl, but with Strings Attached.

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@thecrazyartist @Lady Humor


Thank-you.  Gold diggers do not want socially awkward (introvert my eye) self-centered 25 year olds who want them to do all of the work in meeting them and then prove she is worth is time unless there is much coin to mine.

1 day, 21 hours ago on QOTW: Geeky Guys Seeks Girl, but with Strings Attached.

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Inviting a person to go out on a date with you then asking them to pay half the cost is rude, shows that you are cheap but more than that shows a of lack imagination.

Introvert or not the smart person who does the asking expects to host the person they invited and then has enough sense to figure out something fun to do that fits his/her budget.

I do not know what size community the letter writer lives in but in most locals there are free to low cost things to do.  A quick search online on your community's  tourism site will reveal a multitude of fun events, the cost of admission to local points of interest and venues that would make for great dates. He could even go low tech and just ask a few friends....that is if he has any... for ideas.  This is not rocket science.

What I find even more troubling is this man's total self absorption with himself and not on the women he is trying to connect with and then on top or that has his facts all wrong. I agree with Law. Dude get a dog, the local pound is full of them and it won't cost you much. Oh wait you will have to pay the cost to house and feed it and it can't go dutch.  Oh well.

1 day, 21 hours ago on QOTW: Geeky Guys Seeks Girl, but with Strings Attached.

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@Atlantic_Equity @Sophia @Christelyn  @Cami2210 @PrettyBLKgurl


MODERATOR'S NOTE:


Chris is a sweetheart.  Me not so much.

I direct your attention to the bold text.

You are skating close to and have crossed the line on numerous occasions on this site, Parts of this thread has turned into the Atlantic_Equity show.  This is not a first and your being rude.

This is also not the first time but it is the last time.


Happy trails.





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2 days, 4 hours ago on QOTW: Geeky Guys Seeks Girl, but with Strings Attached.

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@TonyJohn1 @phaith6

1.) If you are out of a job I believe the least of your concerns would be dating.


2.) I have to wonder just how realistic some people are when it comes to the dating market. What kind of men and women who are in similar circumstance as they are being passed over because the person truly believes that they are better than who they actually are. 



2 days, 11 hours ago on QOTW: Geeky Guys Seeks Girl, but with Strings Attached.

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@jpopforever28

So long as people are not offended, now that its clearly labeled I just as soon leave her photo up.  I am a head wrap fan (wrap star) and she is rocking that one. Looks like a rainbow pashmia she's sporting. 


2 days, 11 hours ago on Sir Loin’s Babe Wednesday: African Beauty Part 2, Of Queens and Crowns

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@jpopforever28

Adding this more recent article.

http://www.popmatters.com/post/170869-daytime-tv/


"If, by and large, daytime audiences are getting older, there is also some evidence to suggest that they are becoming more downwardly mobile as well. As far back as 2001, research firm Frank N. Magid Associates reported that 40% of the daytime viewers make less than $20,000 a year, and 85% don’t have a college degree. In September of last year, Pew Research published the following findings: “Regular viewers of daytime talk shows are less educated than the public as a whole. Among this group, just 19% have four year degrees, 26% have attended some college and 54% have a high school diploma or less education.” That same survey also reported:  “Daytime talk show watchers stand out as the least well off regular audience. About half (51%) have family incomes of less than $30,000, while three-in-ten have $30,000-$74,999 incomes. Just 12% have incomes of $75,000 or more.”


Explains a lot.

2 days, 12 hours ago on Television is STILL Not Ready to Make Black Women ‘The Main Chick’

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@jpopforever28

Here is a 2008 article that backs up what you are saying.


http://soaps.sheknows.com/latestnews/id/2101/Age_Increase_Among_Daytime_Soap_Viewers/


My mom is 81 and started with the Soaps at age 14 when they were still on radio. Though she constantly complains about the stupid plot lines she is a faithful viewer. 

2 days, 12 hours ago on Television is STILL Not Ready to Make Black Women ‘The Main Chick’

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@CEDARWOOD @SacLove76

I think ABC and Shondaland were surprised at the sucess of Scandal.  It was only suppose to be a seven episode filler and then it got a piece meal second season before getting a full season in the third year.  You can see this in the many contortions the show had to take in order to make the earlier plot lines mesh with later ones. 


I was a participant on the fan sites heavy during the first and second season. From what I understand it is Shonda's stock and trade to set up relationships and then detonate them.  Few if any happy endings and she herself has said repeatedly that Ftiz and Olivia can never be together. I think Shondaland is having fun seeing just how ridiculous they can get with plot lines and still keep and audience. Haven't watched since Fitz offing Verna.  That did it for me I was through. 


Some of you may have seen this series over here:

http://notyourgirlfriday.wordpress.com/2013/04/21/black-women-fandoms-101-a-series/


It ties in nicely with the discuss you are having on this site.  If you haven't the please do, the entire series of blog post is worth your time. 

2 days, 12 hours ago on Television is STILL Not Ready to Make Black Women ‘The Main Chick’

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@lindsaynagle

Thank-you.  I will label the image with that information.

2 days, 13 hours ago on Sir Loin’s Babe Wednesday: African Beauty Part 2, Of Queens and Crowns

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@janet14

I see we want to play the old sweep it "under the rug", "don't air our dirty laundry" game.  That's a "black thang" too and we know how well that works out..


Oh and regarding NATruth's comment.  What is it with some of you gals wanting to silence non-black men, on an IRR site no less, when they express an opinion on this site?  We are not doing that here. 



3 days, 13 hours ago on What Pictures Say About You That You Might Not Like…

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@Michael Miles

I know you did not mean it as a dig.  I caught the Trek reference also.  (Hubby uses that line a lot.  LOL.)

4 days, 1 hour ago on What Pictures Say About You That You Might Not Like…

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@Jimbo in Canada


Not all women walk with angels and not all men are agents of the devil.

4 days, 6 hours ago on What Pictures Say About You That You Might Not Like…

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@Michael Miles

Maybe.  It also shows she is not narrow minded.

4 days, 11 hours ago on What Pictures Say About You That You Might Not Like…

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@G Maria

MODERATOR'S NOTE:

It seems G Maria likes to throw accusations around without knowing what she is talking about.  Public123's comment were not removed by me. 

6 days, 15 hours ago on QOTW: Should White Guys Date ‘Sister Soldiers?’

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@Karla

Note to Don and Karla's brother. Lurk less. Post more.

1 week ago on QOTW: Should White Guys Date ‘Sister Soldiers?’

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@PoetOfDarkness

Personal opinion here.  The answer to that question would be anecdotal at best since no one has ever done a study on this. Given how insular the AA community is and how most see themselves self as constantly under siege I would say that most AA women are this way. 

1 week ago on QOTW: Should White Guys Date ‘Sister Soldiers?’

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@oceanspray


I agree and they are bold with it too.

1 week, 1 day ago on Another Letter From an Asian Guy…

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@TitaniumFirefly @oceanspray 


MODERATOR'S NOTE: 

"I am entitled to an opinion until Congress rescinds the 1st Amendment , aren't I? Or do you consider your position so weak that it cannot withstand a debate?"


I do wish people would knock off quoting the First Amendment on this site every time they get some push back on the statements they make. What rules here are our Terms of Service and you are entitled to express your opinion here so long as you stay within them.

1 week, 1 day ago on As Much as I Love Christian Bale, I WON’T Be Watching “Exodus: Gods and Kings.”

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@dani-BBW @Brenda55

This is what I said in my comment:

"It is about casting bankable actors..." 

To clarify this has more to do with those who finance film and not the audience. SweetGardenia posted an article above that stated the case better than I did.

1 week, 1 day ago on As Much as I Love Christian Bale, I WON’T Be Watching “Exodus: Gods and Kings.”

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@PatriciaVanelli

"The second so-called educated Chinese man, born in mainland China that only dates and has sex with white women, WHY is he on here and who the hell cares?  I seriously doubt any intelligent Asian man would be trolling the internet for black women's blogs to make those sort of asinine statements - why would he care if he has no interest in Black women at all?  It doesn't add up"


I didn't think it did also which is why he was smoked within minutes of his arrival. For the record I only left a small fraction of the foolishness up. Call it a target to shoot at. 


As I said in the comment section.  If we edit out all of the negative stuff we get called on it and now you have us on blast for printing it. That is show biz and we will take our lumps. In my opinion better readers see what is out there and make up their own minds.


I also have to agree with some of what you say. I think in the main neither side is really checking for each other.  It has been my experience over the years on this site that Asian men do not visit here to engage the black women who are a large part of our audience. We have a Google+  group where people can engage each other directly.  Seeing no love there either. That says something to me. BW/AM may be connecting other places but they are not doing it here so what are we to think?  Further more that a few black women have relayed horror stories when it came to their interactions with Asian men and their families. I feel trying to pain a realistic picture is the way to go and sometime that means allowing some negative content to appear here.

1 week, 1 day ago on Asian Men…I’m Getting To a Certain Point Where I’m Ready to Throw it In.

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 BREAKING NEWS!!!!!!


Study proves high heels do have power over men
Read more at http://www.philly.com/philly/living/style/20141208_ap_b141cb8eb6164eb79dfaf006dea5401e.html#2o1CPEeHcwSME4Q8.99


Can ya feel it?

1 week, 1 day ago on The One Thing that Motivates *Manly* Men…

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@SweetGardenia

This ties in exactly with what I posted in my comment.

Some quotes from the article. Highlights my own.



Scott interviewed with Variety and told them his reasons then for working with big-name Hollywood stars.


“I can’t mount a film of this budget, where I have to rely on tax rebates in Spain, and say that my lead actor is Mohammad so-and-so from such-and-such."


"Bale is emphasizing that the same audiences can help lesser known international actors in the Western world get cast in big roles for major movies. When investors see the public support those films, they’ll want to finance big-budget movies, says Bale. 


So it is not enough to boycott a film after it is made but to support the kind of movies and casting that you do want to see. That also means supporting those small online projects that catch your interests or ever contributing to a crowd funded project..


1 week, 1 day ago on As Much as I Love Christian Bale, I WON’T Be Watching “Exodus: Gods and Kings.”

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@Daisy_inthe_Field

Wonder why you deleted your responses?  They both made for interesting reading I must say.

1 week, 2 days ago on As Much as I Love Christian Bale, I WON’T Be Watching “Exodus: Gods and Kings.”

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@Christelyn  @dani-BBW


"Hollywood feigns to be so F-ING liberal, and they do THIS ISH?! Casting dark skinned black men as lower servants, assassins and thieves, while depicting the "good" people as WHITE?! WTF?!"


The guys took the paper Chris. Spread the blame evenly.

1 week, 2 days ago on As Much as I Love Christian Bale, I WON’T Be Watching “Exodus: Gods and Kings.”

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Just my personal opinion.  I think we Americans  and most especially African Americans take a much too American-centric view of these matters.


This film....as most films produced today is slated for an international audience. It is about casting bankable actors to get behinds in the seats and the green stuff out of the pockets of viewers globally.  This can be done without being historically correct. There is nothing new here.  I am sure that we can all point out films that got it wrong when held up to academic scholarship. 

Though entierly fictional would Will Smith ever have a shot at being a Federal Agent during post Civil War America? With a white side kick no less. Diana Ross did not look a thing like Billie Holiday and....well you get the idea.


So sure.  Don't see the film. That is one avenue that audiences have to get their message across.  When enough of the audience, world wide, demands better Hollywood may just deliver it. Maybe. Or they may just screen it overseas or if it tanks it goes direct to DVD.  They gonna get paid regardless. 

1 week, 2 days ago on As Much as I Love Christian Bale, I WON’T Be Watching “Exodus: Gods and Kings.”

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@trinigirl1 @Brenda55

You are married to a smart man.  Now he has to guess what we were eating.  LOL.

1 week, 2 days ago on As Much as I Love Christian Bale, I WON’T Be Watching “Exodus: Gods and Kings.”

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@trinigirl1 @Brenda55

A full bodied, robust women like myself cannot live on love alone.

1 week, 2 days ago on As Much as I Love Christian Bale, I WON’T Be Watching “Exodus: Gods and Kings.”

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@BWC @Daisy_inthe_Field @zipporah @GiNO757


"History is written by the victors and reiterations are constantly changed to fit the needs of the moment."


Precisely.

1 week, 2 days ago on As Much as I Love Christian Bale, I WON’T Be Watching “Exodus: Gods and Kings.”

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@Christelyn  @lianhejiandui @FrankEiDaTanky

I have to admit I needed to use Systane eye drops after reading his initial post.

1 week, 2 days ago on Asian Men…I’m Getting To a Certain Point Where I’m Ready to Throw it In.

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@ScorpioEnigma09 @ShunJack @FrankEiDaTanky


This is true.  That statement has been posted in the comment section numerous times.

1 week, 2 days ago on Asian Men…I’m Getting To a Certain Point Where I’m Ready to Throw it In.

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