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Tell Me About It: Putting yourself out there to meet others

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"I urge you to open another front on this battle entirely. Since you're so uncomfortable negotiating these fleeting encounters, please also put yourself in a position to get to know new people slowly through a shared interest. Join a club or sign up for an activity that meets regularly. That will allow you to get used to people while you're busy with activity of choice, which will, in turn, push you past awkward terror into a more comfortable version of you, which allows you to figure out mutual attraction based on who you are and not just how you look to someone across the room.


Does this advice look and sound familiar??????????????????

17 hours, 10 minutes ago on BB&W Gives Tips On Making Connections On and Offline!

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@Karla @Brenda55

[Looking down at feet] 

I have lived a sheltered life cause I ain't never seen folks that trifling.

17 hours, 19 minutes ago on Kid Rock (Crudely) Highlights How Preferences Can Change Over Time

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@Karla @Law Wanxi

I'd echo onmywayup's imagery comment but dang this description is even too gross for that.

17 hours, 45 minutes ago on Kid Rock (Crudely) Highlights How Preferences Can Change Over Time

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@Veronique Valesquez @Brenda55 @MeliaFavors @Swirlgirl28

You can't.  Stop trying. Limit your contact.  That is as good as it gets and very effective.

18 hours, 55 minutes ago on Dear Black Men, Did I Hurt Your Feelings? You Don’t KNOW Hurt Feelings…

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@Law Wanxi @Brenda55 @SirLoinDeBeef

Don't bother with the translation.  I read this blurb and this is just more grist for the food science mill and not worth spending much time on. Question. hat was the strength of association in this study and is it statically significant?  Outside of popping up a somewhat clever article and graph that is


Fun fact.  We are ALL  going to die.  Your cause of death will vary but that is about it. We can spend all of our time tweaking our diet, exercise, life style and tweeting about it but guess what?  We are all still gonna die so enjoy your life and follow a regime that make you feel good.....or not. May as well since the outcome is a lock. 

18 hours, 56 minutes ago on February First: Open thread

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@keimiasmoon @Brenda55 @Leona_LoveQuest

Agreed.  You have your timetable and agenda.  He has his and sometimes for a lot of reasons they just do not mesh at the time. No tragic.  What is a waste is being friend zoned and then putting all of your time and effort is changing that status or if the person who friend zones you expects you to not move on.  That is selfish and says a lot about that person.

19 hours, 12 minutes ago on Andrew and Brooke – A “Perfect For Us” Relationship

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@Leona_LoveQuest

Maybe it's me but I do not see being "friend zoned" as the end of the world. When that happenes you have just been handed a "I'm not ready so get out there and check for someone else card". Keep the friend but play the field.  Seems like a win-win to me. 

19 hours, 44 minutes ago on Andrew and Brooke – A “Perfect For Us” Relationship

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@Veronique Valesquez @MeliaFavors @Swirlgirl28

Is this the guy with the friend who was the ex-con? If this is( I think I remember you telling this story) it would be pretty obvious. The man does not have a high opinion of you and thinks his con friend is all you deserve. 


In the end who cares.  You are engaged.  You have the man you want.  Who gives a damn about what some jerk thinks and why spend so much time trying to figure them and their motivations out?

20 hours, 6 minutes ago on Dear Black Men, Did I Hurt Your Feelings? You Don’t KNOW Hurt Feelings…

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@lili2009 @Brenda55

I do not want to hijack this thread which is why I started a thread over in the forum. 

1 day, 21 hours ago on Kid Rock (Crudely) Highlights How Preferences Can Change Over Time

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 BREAKING NEWS!

Leonard Nimoy, Spock of ‘Star Trek,’ Dies at 83 Please share your thoughts and tribute over in the forum. 

http://beyondblackwhiteforums.com/showthread.php?t=308

1 day, 21 hours ago on Kid Rock (Crudely) Highlights How Preferences Can Change Over Time

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@mzsunshine @Brenda55

LOL.  I was just messing with ya.  I got what you were saying the first time around even so and I am glad that you came back and fleshed out your thoughts. You are right. Many Black women let the complements and approaches from non-black men go right over their heads.......because they do not know what to look for.  Thanks for giving some more examples.

2 days, 20 hours ago on Zara: Eight Reasons Why We Love Black Women

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We can rock fierce earrings.

2 days, 22 hours ago on Zara: Eight Reasons Why We Love Black Women

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@mzsunshine

OK mzsunshine....guy magnet. Rub it in.  LOL.

2 days, 23 hours ago on Zara: Eight Reasons Why We Love Black Women

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Wonderful post and a pleasant change from discussing those who need no longer be mentioned. 

We black women have our own platforms now so lets talk about us and the men we really want.


One of my favorite things?  We can throw down in the kitchen like nobodies business. (Yeah I am biased since I love to cook)

3 days, 3 hours ago on Zara: Eight Reasons Why We Love Black Women

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@Law Wanxi @Silverroxen

"It was about we're all lucky NOT to have a month or a day, because all it's done for Blacks is make them concentrate on their past, frame their present in terms of their past and "render them visionless for a future".


Law you win the internet today.

The is much like how the current crop of  jihadist operate.  Looking to the past glories for validation and causing mayhem while doing it. My people spent most of their time addressing old wounds and grievances and fighting old battles. ( Recent posts as an example maybe we are hard wired for it LOL.)

3 days, 3 hours ago on Black Women In History: A Bill, An African American Educator in Hawai‘i, and Surfing

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@500and50 @Brenda55

LOL.

I am going to have to check through some of my back issues of Mother Earth news for more on ACV and baking soda for hair. My own hair finally gave up the ghost so I have now gotten into wrapping scarves and having a lot of fun with that.


Things are going well. Yes the site has been busy. 


Hint hint.  We are always looking for writers.

Hope things work out with the lady you are chatting up.

3 days, 8 hours ago on Home Made Detangler and Shine Enhancer…Apple Cider Vinegar!!

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@500and50

Hey guy.  Long time no see in these parts.  Still have the blog? How is the writing going?

3 days, 9 hours ago on Home Made Detangler and Shine Enhancer…Apple Cider Vinegar!!

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@MargieC

Yep.  Things have sure worked out well for Sherri Shepherd now have they.

3 days, 9 hours ago on Black Doctor Wants You To Know: “There are Good Black Men Out There.”

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@formeonly

Two points:

Why do black men ALWAYS think it's about black men.

Why doesn't it ever work the other way around when black men date white women?

4 days, 16 hours ago on Black Doctor Wants You To Know: “There are Good Black Men Out There.”

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Stan thank-you so much for these informative articles complete with references for further reading. I hope the women here are sharing these.

5 days, 3 hours ago on Black Women In History: A Bill, An African American Educator in Hawai‘i, and Surfing

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@Law Wanxi


Hummmmmm.  I have a feeling that the curtain is about to be pulled back revealing what the wizard actually looks like. 

5 days, 3 hours ago on Black Doctor Wants You To Know: “There are Good Black Men Out There.”

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@NeeseyTight

"Maybe I'll send  Christelyn my research project from college to share about the likelihood of African American Women to marry the higher we climb on the academic ladder, and I touched a little on the likelihood to marry a Black man of the same caliber."


Please definitely send this along to us. Information like this deserves wide distribution and we would be happy to help.

5 days, 3 hours ago on Black Doctor Wants You To Know: “There are Good Black Men Out There.”

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Well all I have to say is this.  We know that good .....even great black men exist. Many of us were lucky to have be raised around them.  Many other black women not so much. 


The numbers do not lie. There are more marriageable black women than there are black men.  That is a proven fact.

The marriage out rate of black men stands at nearly 24% of the 1/3 who actually make that commitment.  That is also a fact.

The experiences expressed here on this site and many others are also facts.

Facts that indeed have a platform and will be heard.


The point of this exercise is not for you the black man and it is not for the black community at large. Black women have been dyeing a slow death by silently laying on both of these alters as those closest to us have rung the last full measure of our humanity out of us and yet keep coming back for more.


Black women have had it and are drawing a line in the sand.  Enough. 


For those who cannot grasp what is happening and what we are saying let me be clear. The threat to black women life and well being comes from both inside the black community and outside of it.  The scale has balanced, no it has in fact tipped to where most black women can and often do stand a better chance of achieving a healthy and happy quality of life and standard of living outside of the black community and with men who do not share their race. 


Through black women's platforms such as this we are now putting our concerns and agendas that have for too long been pushed to the background in deference of black men and the black community to the forefront in our lives. This exercise is all about black women and achieving our best lives and all too of then they do not include black men who are not our direct relations.  These days we no longer really have to include you black man at large. We have seen for decades now that we black women are on our own.  We got the message finally loud and clear from individuals and institutions alike and we are moving on.  

5 days, 4 hours ago on Black Doctor Wants You To Know: “There are Good Black Men Out There.”

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@Quita2 @Brenda55 @_Toni_

Settle in Olivia Pope style with some popcorn and wine. It's a long one but girlfriend brings it. 

5 days, 13 hours ago on Want To Know What Black Men REALLY Think Of Black Womanhood? Ask Kanye!

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@Quita2 @_Toni_

I just finished reading it. It's a doozy.

5 days, 13 hours ago on Want To Know What Black Men REALLY Think Of Black Womanhood? Ask Kanye!

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@BeautyIAM @_Toni_


"BW who do this are the worst because they think that since they found a great BM, the rest of us should shut up. These BW need to get a clue. There are plenty of sexist/misogynistic BM out there. Your BM does not speak for the rest of the sh**heads that are out here throwing BW under the bus. If you are a BW that is not willing to call out misogyny from BM, then please have a seat."


That sums it up for me and it is reflected in how I Mod this site. We do not have to justify or debate our positions. Black women are shouted down just about everywhere....but not here. Our stories are going to be told and I do not give a damn if they make some people uncomfortable because their beloved ox is being gored. 

5 days, 16 hours ago on Want To Know What Black Men REALLY Think Of Black Womanhood? Ask Kanye!

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@kennaGransberg @deleted_72988939_deleted_72988939_BrittanyIsse

MODERATOR'S NOTE:

OK Kenna.  Just for you.  I'll put her comments back up. 

5 days, 17 hours ago on Want To Know What Black Men REALLY Think Of Black Womanhood? Ask Kanye!

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@_Toni_

Concentrate on your post Toni.  I will be here for the next few hours.

5 days, 17 hours ago on Want To Know What Black Men REALLY Think Of Black Womanhood? Ask Kanye!

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 MODERATOR'S NOTE:

Now it's time to say goodbye to all our company.

M-----I-----C

see ya real soon,

K----E----Y

Why? Because we like you.

M---O---U---S---E.



5 days, 20 hours ago on Kanye’s Comments About Amber Rose Highlights How White Women Are “Always” Virtuous No Matter How Skeezy Their Past.

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@your epiphany @regalpimp

"The truth is you seem mighty bitter and butthurt there, regalpimp."

Must have run out of rubbers.

  Oh.  He has been banned.  He will figure that out eventually and stop posting comments no one can see. 

6 days, 13 hours ago on Kanye’s Comments About Amber Rose Highlights How White Women Are “Always” Virtuous No Matter How Skeezy Their Past.

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@giantrafflesia

Black women are also out marching and taking rubber bullets and tear gas for them but I guess that does not count.


I mean the complaint is that black women don't hold it down for the black man. Black women are losing eyes and jobs but it is not enough.  It is never enough. 

Now white women on the other hand..........

6 days, 13 hours ago on Kanye’s Comments About Amber Rose Highlights How White Women Are “Always” Virtuous No Matter How Skeezy Their Past.

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@regalpimp

Hey Slappy how you been?  OK you showed off your outfit now bounce.

6 days, 13 hours ago on Kanye’s Comments About Amber Rose Highlights How White Women Are “Always” Virtuous No Matter How Skeezy Their Past.

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@LeahSalaam

The is an IRR site. I you are gay and in an IRR cool.  If you are Bi and into IRR cool also. If you are bi-racial. Join the party. If you want to know more, have a person in your life negotiating these waters. Come on in. Does that help?

6 days, 14 hours ago on Kanye’s Comments About Amber Rose Highlights How White Women Are “Always” Virtuous No Matter How Skeezy Their Past.

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 ANNOUNCEMENT:

Chris just uploaded a video on this very topic. Head on over to YouTube to check it out.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W_LHulrBeY4&feature=em-uploademail

6 days, 14 hours ago on Kanye’s Comments About Amber Rose Highlights How White Women Are “Always” Virtuous No Matter How Skeezy Their Past.

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