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Over the years I have come to the conclusion that most of the consequences are on the order of shaming. Face it. unless you are in a position to effect someones financial status or reputation...as in the case of Jacque Reid  there is not much really anyone can do to you for making the choice to date and marry interracial.


When was the last time anyone was arrested, refused a mortgage, denied service, what have you for crossing the race lines when darting and marrying? ( How really does anyone prove that their IRR was the reason for their troubles?)  I have gotten the look and snarky comments also.  Isolated incidents for the most part and I noticed them more during the early years of my relationship with Keith. I also have to admit that during those early years I was looking for reaction. As the years go on you stop doing that because you are just getting about living your life and frankly don't have time for all that foolishness.

1 day, 5 hours ago on This Friday! Let’s Talk Social Consequences of Interracial Dating!

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Do we have to go there?

1 day, 20 hours ago on “Bye Felicia,” a Modern-Day Mammy Show Coming Soon on VH1

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A hardy welcome fellow traveler. Yeah I am on the journey myself and I know you achievement was not easily won. Congratulations on you sucess. I love reading inspiring stories like this one. 

2 days, 2 hours ago on Matthew’s Weight Loss Journey: “I Was Living a Lie…”

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@natia09123 @Brenda55 @ReynoldsJames @Ms Pata Pata


Fortunately there is one being prepared as we speak.

2 days, 19 hours ago on SirLoins Babe Wednesday: The net effect

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@Caramelqueen

Would not think of doing anything of the sort.


A small correction.  This site has not been identified as a BWE site for well over three years. We are not recognized as such nor do we self-identify as such.

3 days, 14 hours ago on SirLoins Babe Wednesday: The net effect

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@mlank64

I did not say non-black women.  I posted non-AA women.  We do have quite a number of bi-racial women who self identify all over the spectrum.

3 days, 14 hours ago on SirLoins Babe Wednesday: The net effect

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@ReynoldsJames @Ms Pata Pata


We do have a feature like that.  It's called Man Candy Monday.

3 days, 15 hours ago on SirLoins Babe Wednesday: The net effect

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@Ms Pata Pata @Brenda55

Fair enough and you have every right to do just that. My response to that line of thought can be viewed below.


3 days, 15 hours ago on SirLoins Babe Wednesday: The net effect

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@Limitless82

MODERATOR'S NOTE.


True the main audience on this site is AA women however we do have a large and growing number of non- AA women.  Further 30 % of the readership of the site are men.  This series is mainly directed at them.


We do understand and respect that not all readers are comfortable with the varying levels of nudity that are depicted in some of the visual content we post in this feature. Having said that we will not be shying away from depicting nude and semi nude representation of black women posed in seductive and erotic fashion.


As has been stated many times on this blog. Take and enjoy the content that you want and leave the rest.


Thank-you

3 days, 15 hours ago on SirLoins Babe Wednesday: The net effect

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@Ms Pata Pata

We are aware that we cannot please every one.

3 days, 17 hours ago on SirLoins Babe Wednesday: The net effect

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@Christelyn  @oekmama

Just my opinion as a person who has been there. Not much is going to happen with your niece  during the remaining time of her mother's life, death and the immediate aftermath. This is a time of grief and mourning and she must go through that process before she can rebuild her life.  


The mode of operation when assisting your niece should be support but do not enable. Do not become a replacement for her mom which there is a very good chance she will seek.


During her time of grief I would suggest that you look into professional assistance in order to get the right information and to develop a game plan.


Having said all of that remember this.  She is a 32 year old women and has every right to reject any and all interventions that you or anyone offers even if it is to her determent..  That last sentence is a hard pill to swallow but you really have to see it that way in order to maintain your own balance while you attempt to assist her. Trust me on this.

3 days, 22 hours ago on Obesity Wins Again. My Half-Sister Is Dying.

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@EqualOppLover

Awww that's your rainbeau?

Now that is one fine looking man.  Good going.

3 days, 22 hours ago on Sad News. Jacque Reid Pulled Out if the IR Dating Challenge, and it’s All Over the New York Post

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@C_Pompadour31 @Geekette221B


"A couple of previous commenters have suggested that decent BW should act as role models for these lost black girls, teens and adult women. Although I support the concept of leadership by example, it has been my personal experience that females like this do not view respectable BW as role models. They view them as targets for destruction."




Here is a person in a position to help.  A person who is trained to help and has resources that most of us do not have access to and look what happens.


State employee stabbed at work in Camden in critical condition
Read more at http://www.philly.com/philly/news/new_jersey/20141119_State_employee_stabbed_at_work_in_Camden_in_critical_condition.html#2FUAbBJrdHworB2U.99


I am sure that on any given day we can each find a story like that.  Now I ask you what can the average person do when faced with people hell bent on dysfunction? Do not each and every one of us have the right to put our self preservation first?

4 days, 19 hours ago on Black Female Aggressiveness at Epic Levels. Why?

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@keimiasmoon @Brenda55

I understand.  I also leave....when I can at the first sigh of trouble. However that is not always possible as you know.  What I was expressing was the belief that just because he was a man he had to hold back more in the face of an attack just because he is male and his attacker is female.


I would feel differently if the attacker were a child but that would be the only situation and even then size matters.  Adults no matter the gender, age, physical or mental capacity are fair game when it comes to self defense.

4 days, 20 hours ago on Black Female Aggressiveness at Epic Levels. Why?

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@keimiasmoon

"I still think the man could have practiced more avoidance, perhaps changed cars at another stop but I know the mentality is to stick around and defend yourself."


I disagree. He should not have had to do anything of the sort. How many cheeks does one have to turn? Why put it on the man to be a paragon of restraint when faced with an out of control woman? 


This man was harassed.

This man was attacked.

The man responded in defense of his person.


When a woman is harassed and attacked and is told to practice avoidance what do you think is the response to that idea?

It is no different when the aggressor is a woman. 

4 days, 21 hours ago on Black Female Aggressiveness at Epic Levels. Why?

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@pioneervalleywoman

Thank-you.  I live in Philadelphia Pa. where young women just like the one in the video have taken to walking up to other women and hitting them in the face with bricks for no reason.

Where women flip out at Mickie D's when told it is closed.

Where people who can avoid taking public transportation during school dismissal. 


So miss me with trying to figure out what is wrong or what went wrong in the lives of young women like this. That piece of information is of no use to me when faced with Ms. Feral She Beast while I go about my day.  No I need to know that these nuts are out there so thank-you for uploading this video and thanks for widely distributing it.


I need to know how to either avoid the crazies and how to protect myself from them. I also need to know that this behavior will be prosecuted to the fullest and people like this young women are taken out of circulation. 


The person harassed and attacked on the train could have been me and mine and I have no sympathy for the aggressor in this situation.



4 days, 21 hours ago on Black Female Aggressiveness at Epic Levels. Why?

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@BellSprout @ChocolateDiva

Stick to your guns.  I was 47 and child-free when I married. I had heard it all.  You're selfish.  You'll regret not having kids. You will grow old alone without any one to care for you. You're queer. 

(got that one a lot.)


Never regretted no doing the single mom bit. Be true to you and let the others go to the hell. 

5 days ago on Three men who say they are “good.” Three types of men black women should stay the hell away from.

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@Harold13 @SavageTango

Harold I remember going into stores shopping for hubby and having some guy approach to ask my opinion of what he pick out. 


Dude did no know me from Eve but I helped him out ( what he picked out was jacked and would have got him flagged out there) He had a shirt he liked just needed help hooking up the rest of the look.  It was fun. Give it a try.


You may just want to go into a decent Men's store and have the sales associated help you out.  Set a budget and let them know a bit about your likes and dislikes.  They will work with you because they want you to come back and spend some more.

5 days, 3 hours ago on AAWG: The Savage Plan for the Swirling Man

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@BreannaNouveaux


"Do not shun them - you dont have to LIKE THEM OR LIVE NEAR THEM. But dont SHUN them. Be yourselves around them....be inspiring just by BEING."


Quite right but........

Keep yourself in a position to preserve and protect what you have. Jumping in a pit along with the dysfunctional does neither of you any good.  Remember it is easier to pull something down than to lift something up. 



Attempting to save ad salvage others at your own expense is a fools errand.  This is what black women have been doing, have been told to do for generations and to what end?

Communities are still falling apart and the people living in them are becoming more depraved. The black women is exhausted. 


I still advise the thinking black women to leave dysfunctional areas and create safe harbors for those like minded women women will do the work of saving themselves.  


5 days, 3 hours ago on Black Female Aggressiveness at Epic Levels. Why?

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@Ri74

The Dominican man did not know the young women. He is a former minor league ball player. He also an immigrant thus not looking for the kind of trouble that could get him deported.  The young woman was causing general trouble on the subway before focusing her attentions on him.


This man spent four days in jail before the footage was viewed and charges dropped.  The young women is being charged with assault.  The men has lawyer-ed up, he has two and they are not going to drop this.


Keeping it real goes bad. Hope chickiee likes her new orange jump suit. Loser.

5 days, 3 hours ago on Black Female Aggressiveness at Epic Levels. Why?

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"I will not band wagon the backlash that a violent aggressive female receives with a woman who is being abused. We say the other person (always the male) should have exercised self control? What about the person who STARTED IT??? Many of these women bank on the fact that many men will not hit a woman to enforce their unchallenged aggression and find themselves suprized when they are called on it

My support goes to black women who are unfairly targeted, harassed, and bullied by men, other women, etc. BUT I REFUSE to defend females like this who go after trouble and get it. Black women that start altercations with black men (and other people) when the men try to walk away they CONTINUE to accelerate the situation many times assaulting the guy and he in self defense lets her have it. You cannot start mess then claim your vagina when it is convenient."


Thank-you.  I will not cape for feral she beasts. Yeah I just called them that. 

5 days, 3 hours ago on Black Female Aggressiveness at Epic Levels. Why?

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@Ri74

SirLoin knows better. For this lady it's no less than...

5 days, 14 hours ago on AAWG: The Savage Plan for the Swirling Man

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@JesseFactotum

No.

5 days, 14 hours ago on Contact

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We are dealing with those still in the Matrix.  That being the case..........

5 days, 14 hours ago on Sad News. Jacque Reid Pulled Out if the IR Dating Challenge, and it’s All Over the New York Post

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Wrote a brief commentary over on the Forum. 

6 days, 3 hours ago on Sad News. Jacque Reid Pulled Out if the IR Dating Challenge, and it’s All Over the New York Post

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I will add another resource to the list.


http://www.menswearhouse.com/


Not only will you find a great selection of clothes and accessories but they will measure you and have on site tailors. The sales people are knowledgeable and work with you to look your best. You will not walk out of that store looking bad.

6 days, 10 hours ago on AAWG: The Savage Plan for the Swirling Man

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@Law Wanxi @Christelyn

" those menstrual minstrel shows."


I'm done.  Man you do have a way with words. 

1 week ago on I’m Taking a Hard Line. Either You Are With Us, Or You Are Against Us.

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Sometime things work out the way they should. I just takes some folks a little longer to realize that. Good luck and much happiness in your relationship.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5EdmHSTwmWY

1 week ago on Jim’s Story: He Was Never Going to Be Her ‘IBM,’ But…

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@maryann660ac1

As a black woman married to a white man I am going to let you in on what the deal is here. Yeah I know.  It seems a little strange to you that black women are not flipping out because you dig black guys.  Here is the thing. Most of us on this site are not checking for black men.  We are checking for any kind of man but so your dropping the fact that you are a white women who digs black guys will not get a rise out of any one here. 


Take them. Take them two or three at a time. Tell your friends. Please oh please tell them all.  If we can push black men in your direction getting to the men we really want we will. The bottom line is the women on this site just flat out don't give a darn what you are doing with men who are of no use to us.  


1 week ago on IRR Romance: My Spartan Hellion by Nadia Aidan

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@ReynoldsJames

Aren't ya glad that you can date and marry who the heck you want to/

1 week, 1 day ago on Could What Ralph Richard Banks Said in His Book Be True Regarding How Swirling Might Help Black Women Marry Black Men?

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@oceanspray

A women with her priorities in the right place.  Have a good time.

1 week, 1 day ago on Latest Foot-In-Mouth Cuisine Highlights How the BC Blames Black Women for Everything.

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@Shelbie @Brenda55 @MeliaFavors @maryann660ac1

Did it.  Thanks. 

Well alright.  The lady has whip appeal and has a thing for that kind of play with black dudes.  


Yet is going to walk all up in our space to tell us what???????????


Once again you cannot make this stuff up.

1 week, 1 day ago on Latest Foot-In-Mouth Cuisine Highlights How the BC Blames Black Women for Everything.

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And who says non-black men are not interested? Dude was not exactly smooth this his approach though and you are a better women than me since I would have let SirLoin deck the guy.


Edited to add.

Keep a set of rings for travel and leave the good stuff at home in the safe, that's what I do. 

1 week, 2 days ago on So…I Got Accosted In Cancun…

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" I give him my three-minute elevator spiel about how the site is dedicated to black women in interracial relationships, and I notice one of his eyebrows creep up his forehead."


Yeah.  that's what you said.


This is what he heard.

1 week, 2 days ago on So…I Got Accosted In Cancun…

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The dysfunction has become so normalized that it is now presented as unassailable fact by those in authority at a HBCU. This is a training ground for some of our best and brightest folks.  Frightening when you realize just how deep the rot actually is.  Even more so when you concider the implication of what it means for a university president to sit young black women down to inform them that they are the authors of their own and their community's destruction. 


Last one out please turn the lights off.

1 week, 2 days ago on Latest Foot-In-Mouth Cuisine Highlights How the BC Blames Black Women for Everything.

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@MichelePaynter1


You can post your photos here:

http://beyondblackwhiteforums.com/

Just create a gallery and have at it.


How to do it:


Log onto your account on the Forum.

At the bottom of the page is HELP

Within HELP click on Managing Photo Albums.  Everything you need to know is there.

Good Luck.



Love the suggestions.  I really do however I think that this is going to be my standard answer when it comes to friendly requests.  Sure we contributors can do that but why wait?   Let your light shine and show us your creative side.


1 week, 3 days ago on SirLoins’s Babe Wednesday: Mention the unmentionables

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@A2_Bella

Good for you......and a good time to do that.  Looking forward to meeting you next July.  I have never been to Vegas so this trip is going to be a memorable one for so many reasons. 

1 week, 3 days ago on SirLoins’s Babe Wednesday: Mention the unmentionables

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@ReynoldsJames @Brenda55

Log onto your account on the Forum.

At the bottom of the page is HELP

Within HELP click on Managing Photo Albums.  Everything you need to know is there.


Good Luck.

1 week, 3 days ago on SirLoins’s Babe Wednesday: Mention the unmentionables

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@ReynoldsJames

You can post your photos here:

http://beyondblackwhiteforums.com/


Just create a gallery and have at it.

1 week, 3 days ago on SirLoins’s Babe Wednesday: Mention the unmentionables

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@wanderingdreamer

Two things.  We have a new open thread so I am going to be closing this one tonight.


Second. My niece has come to the same conclusion that you have and is currently enrolled in trade school. First she actually like working with her hands.  Second she is learning a skill that will make her a good living and is not likely to be outsourced.


You are probably making the right call.  

1 week, 3 days ago on Open Thread. Summer is over on to Fall

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@EarthJeff @Brenda55 @A2_Bella

Well I can understand given some of the subject matter on the blog.  That is why I am hoping some of us old heads will migrate over the the Forum so that we can talk about the stuff we like.

1 week, 3 days ago on SirLoins’s Babe Wednesday: Mention the unmentionables

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@Ri74

"I work nights so I don't know what is on TV or cable now because I am so used to not watching it. That maybe why I still have a brain!"


Love this.  I was also a shift worker so I got out of the habit of watching TV. (TeVo did not exist then) don't miss it a bit.  I have never heard of any of the the shows mentioned in the article which is why I am sitting out this discussion.

1 week, 3 days ago on I’m Taking a Hard Line. Either You Are With Us, Or You Are Against Us.

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@A2_Bella

Heeeeyyyy!!!!!!.  Welcome soon to be Mrs.  Thanks for coming out of lurkdom. Glad Sir Loin and I won't be the only Swirling couple on this site.

1 week, 3 days ago on SirLoins’s Babe Wednesday: Mention the unmentionables

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@keimiasmoon

You need to subscribe in order to post.

1 week, 4 days ago on Open Forum: What’s the deal McNeil?

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@London Calling @Brenda55

OOOOOps. Don't feel bad. You are not alone. Unfortunately only Chris...(or her IT person) can reset this. I will forward this to her but just know that nothing will happen until she gets back from vacation. 

1 week, 4 days ago on Open Forum: What’s the deal McNeil?

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@London Calling

Sure what do you need.

1 week, 4 days ago on Open Forum: What’s the deal McNeil?

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