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"Asian women are way underrepresented as it is, and that could be the reason."
There are so few Asian women in the US that I don't even know if they are underrepresented. Asian Americans are less than 5% of the country. AA's are a little over 12% and we've had a much longer and developed history in this country. I think that at one point in time AAs were something like 1/3 of the US population.
2 days, 1 hour ago on Weekend Read: Book Recommends Black Women Take Notes From Asian Women If They REALLY Want to #Win at Swirling
@Ubermodel @astridhallows The "white men prefer Asian women" line doesn't even apply in America. The overwhelming vast majority of white men are still marrying and prefer white women; white people in the US have very low out-marriage rates compared to minority groups.
2 days, 23 hours ago on Weekend Read: Book Recommends Black Women Take Notes From Asian Women If They REALLY Want to #Win at Swirling
Honestly, the only difference I see between black women and Asian women and white women is that one group of women is noticeably heavier than the other two.
Other than that, I don't think Asian woman know anything or are doing anything that black women, in general, don't know and aren't doing.
The weight issue has tentacles that touch on everything.
3 days, 1 hour ago on Weekend Read: Book Recommends Black Women Take Notes From Asian Women If They REALLY Want to #Win at Swirling
@Brenda55 @Jamila @BeautyIAM
Not really. From what I've seen, men never really love any woman as much as they loved the first woman that broke their heart. Women seem muck more likely to try again and not allow their previous hurt to stop them from wanting a relationship again.
3 days, 9 hours ago on Weekend Read: Book Recommends Black Women Take Notes From Asian Women If They REALLY Want to #Win at Swirling
@Christelyn I think it might be that woman will curl up with book after book on trying to get a mate or self-improve whereas men will take classes, go to coaching, and just generally do something that is more proactive. Both sides have their methods for trying to find a mate but gender matters in what method they choose.
3 days, 10 hours ago on Weekend Read: Book Recommends Black Women Take Notes From Asian Women If They REALLY Want to #Win at Swirling
" A lot of these guys hold very traditional views of the male and female relationship and expect women to acquiesce to their demands. From what I have seen, these men are way past a certain age and the only women probably checking for them are women that need Visa's"
Very true. From what I've read, many of them also appear to have been burned pretty badly in past relationships and they're still chafing over the fact that their wife/ex-fiance left them for another man and took the kids. There is a lot of bitterness in those corners of the internet. Those guys want a woman who has less options to leave them (e.g., Asian and Eastern European women who want to stay in the US; women with little education who only make enough money to live in poverty without a husband, women in countries like Russia where many of the men are alcoholics and there is a severe sex imbalance (many more women than men)).
@Hallyu Love @Savannah1811
True re: Ciara. Obviously its her life, but still, one has to wonder what a woman who has no kids and has never been married is doing with a man who already has 3 kids by 3 different women, none of whom he ever married.
I assure you that if the shoe was on the other foot, he wouldn't look past her having 3 kids by 3 different men and CHOOSE to fall in love with her. He just wouldn't.
3 days, 12 hours ago on Weekend Read: Book Recommends Black Women Take Notes From Asian Women If They REALLY Want to #Win at Swirling
Also, those of you that read the book, be sure to write a review for Amazon.com. Reviews help other people find the book and helps promote the book itself. I know I look at reviews before I'll purchase a book that I know little about.
@jake smith @Christelyn
You know? I agree with your point about their faces compared to Kim's face. Kim RARELY smiles or looks the least bit joyful in pictures; she normally is doing that fake kissy-face smile or doing the fake overly-sexual-mouth slightly open look. Those girls definitely look more joyful and happy...but still, the fat is really destroying their looks...giving Kim the win for overall beauty.
Kim didn't even look joyful when flashing her engagement ring.
@Christelyn Wow. Each of the black women is the same size as Kanye and Kim PUT TOGETHER. And those ladies are pretty in the face but the weight is hiding/distorting their features.
4 days ago on Weekend Read: Book Recommends Black Women Take Notes From Asian Women If They REALLY Want to #Win at Swirling
"No one knows your story better than you, so let no one attack your identity."
This is a good one. My pastor once said something to the effect of "Don't let anyone put something on you that doesn't belong to you; don't let someone tell you you're something that you're not."
I think it's important that we each remain committed to the idea that we are the architect of our own identity. I once had someone start to tell me that I'm a selfish person, I interrupted her right then and told her that I am not a selfish person. She had to back away from that idea. (Apparently, my not doing what she wanted me to do made me selfish in her eyes.)
1 week, 1 day ago on BB&W Intern Elizabeth’s 25 Life Lessons
If I said high speed driving leads to increased risk of car crash, but everyone who drives really fast won't necessarily crash their car, it would be easy for you to understand what I'm saying.
So why is it that if a person says being overweight/obese contributes to becoming diabetic, but not everyone who is obese/overweight IS a diabetic there are those who act as if they don't understand what is being said? The only thing I can think of is willful misinterpretation.
Have you ever noticed that many of the 'good-looking' and healthy diabetics (a la Halle Berry) who get offered up "proof" that being overweight has nothing to do with diabetes are people who either a) were diagnosed as diabetics as children and thus have spent YEARS of their lives actively managing their diabetes--working out, eating healthy, visiting the doctor etc., or 2) they are overweight people who work out religiously and eat healthy (because if they didn't work out and eat right their health would quickly plummet)?
The longer you are overweight the harder it becomes to lose the weight because you are actually replacing muscle with fat as time goes it. If you do being working out and eating right you have to do so more religiously than a person who has been of normal weight for most of their lives because fat burns calories even while resting. Thus, the less muscle you have the harder it is to lose weight when you finally do decide to start getting healthy.
Don't fool yourselves people: Type II diabetes is most definitely associated with being overweight/obese. If you are overweight/obese--and have been so for years on end-- and have no health problems you are the EXCEPTION to the rule, not the rule.
1 week, 3 days ago on What Just Happened to Maria Kang is the Reason I Quit Talking About Black Women and Fitness.
@ChristieRJohnson @Lady A
"And I don't want to see "Well that's not the norm" that's right there's no "normal" image of diabetes"
Diabetes is very much associated with weight. There is so much misinformation being spread here.
From a NYT article:
"Carrying excess weight is clearly linked to Type 2 diabetes. Nationwide,more than half of adults with the disease are obese, and 30 percent or more are overweight. Being obese not only makes the disease more likely, but is also associated with worse control of blood sugar levels, blood pressure and cholesterol, which in turn makes cardiovascular disease more likely.
But studies have also shown that a minority of Type 2 diabetics — perhaps 15 to 20 percent — are neither overweight nor obese, a phenomenon that researchers do not fully understand."
"And that describes the EXACT same dynamic of what happened at the Melissa Harris Perry / bell hooks talk when well-to-do MHP was you-go-girling the "low-income with 5 kids by 4 different dudes" Tanya Fields. I believe MHP meant well, but it really comes off as paternalizing because you KNOW good and well that MHP would never have made the same choices as TF."
Oh Lawd, I was gonna make a post about that incident and Ms. Fields, but instead I decided to 'let go and let God' because that was a mess. For the life of me, I could not understand trying to defend a woman who was pregnant with her 5th child by the 4th different man--and he had just left her...but he came back! He probably figured out that he couldn't survive without her putting a roof over his head and feeding him using her food stamps. But OH NO, don't you even insinuate that there is anything at all deserving of the side-eye about her situation!
1 week, 6 days ago on What Just Happened to Maria Kang is the Reason I Quit Talking About Black Women and Fitness.
@Leille Self and spiritual love is great, but some people also desire ROMANTIC love. I've never heard of self-love leading the creation of a baby.
Furthermore, lets not pit self-love against romantic love.
@ShawntelleJuwarriyya Maria posted on her personal site that she had been banned, but didn't know for how long it would be.
" Just Another Crappy Workday among the growing cohort of have-nots,"
*sigh*I have to go in to work in couple hours. :(
I was surprised that facebook banned her. Not sure if that's permanent or not. But considering the things that others had said and done which were NOT removed from facebook I just find it very shocking that fb would ban her for saying what I consider to be mild.
Apparently seeming to fat shame is worse than most sexism or racism.
Why do people continue to smoke? Cigarette companies have done an excellent job of portraying the habit as sexy, as something that makes you look/feel mature and sophisticated. Basically, cigarette makers have done a great job branding their product.
2 weeks ago on Would You Date a Smoker If He Looked Like This Guy?
I would only date a smoker if he was as sexy as Mr. Dorff, then as things progressed I would start nagging him about the need to quit smoking.