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@ginidietrich @ClayMorgan probably the same ones women get at like, 29.

1 week, 5 days ago on What Having it All Really Means

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@ginidietrich @TaraFriedlundGeissinger um, yes. See, that was easy!

1 week, 5 days ago on What Having it All Really Means

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@ginidietrich @belllindsay where is all this free help coming from; can someone sign me up for this please?

1 week, 5 days ago on What Having it All Really Means

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@ginidietrich @Danny Brown there was a rut? 

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@ginidietrich @debdobson62 I cannot wait for that post. 

1 week, 5 days ago on What Having it All Really Means

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@ginidietrich @photo chris @RobBiesenbach awesome. just awesome.

1 week, 5 days ago on What Having it All Really Means

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@ifdyperez I ask men that all the time; starting small.

1 week, 5 days ago on What Having it All Really Means

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@ginidietrich @KevinVandever oh, mac and cheese! This post is making me hungry. again.

1 week, 5 days ago on What Having it All Really Means

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@ginidietrich @photo chris  I know.  At some point, you have to choose. So, if I'm going to feel terrible that I'm missing my family because I've only had snippets of time with them all week, or what I REALLY need is some quite time to unwind and sit in a noiseless space (let's not forget, only child!) I've learned to take it. Otherwise I turn into a miserable human an NO ONE wins. People have just gotten used to me being a better "winter" friend.

1 week, 5 days ago on What Having it All Really Means

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@jdrobertson @photo chris That. Sounds. Awesome!!! How did I never learn this? 

1 week, 5 days ago on What Having it All Really Means

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@ginidietrich @bdorman264 ohhhh, I'm writing this down right under, "Your priorities are the things you do, not the things you say you do."


Sometimes it's awful to be open and flexible.

1 week, 5 days ago on What Having it All Really Means

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@AmyVernon @photo chris @ginidietrich I think I'm in a touchy-feely business, lol. The men who were in my networking group would bring up family often. I was shown pictures of wives, kids, new grandchildren, wonderful stuff! Whether that was because I was a woman, or the wedding industry is just more fuzzy (um, duh!) I don't know. But info like this always hits me like a ton of bricks. It's like I woke up in 1985.  

1 week, 5 days ago on What Having it All Really Means

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@jdrobertson @photo chris I wish I could claim to be that hard core! But, if you have a recipe for twist bread from scratch, I'll take it! 

2 weeks, 1 day ago on What Having it All Really Means

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That IS Fascinating! I can't imagine. I'm trying to think if my husband talks about all he does at home. Or if my brillant ceo girlfriend talk s about her family in the networking CEO group she runs. I'm really not sure. My hubby does alot. I could easily say 50 50. When i work more, probably 60/40. But at the same time, I had the expectation of this partnership when I got married, when we w were dating. I've also, since children, had to learn to let things GO. IT'S SOOooohard!! I really do love when everything is clean and put away. But really, that's a fallacy unless you spend hours doing it. I could go nuts trying to keep it straight or let it go and have some fun. My house distresses my parents, lol. They'll say, sometimes you just have to stay home and clean. I tell them noone's going to kill themselves on the blocks, and I'm not spending the few hours of truly free time I have making every thing look perfect. Why pass that expectation on to my kids?

2 weeks, 1 day ago on What Having it All Really Means

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I think part of the problem is that women are still looking for real life examples to validate their own choices, so when we see another woman in a high powered position, we immediately want to know what the trade off is and if it's acceptable in our life. I dont tjink men do this. Personally want to know that of EVERY "successful" preson I meet, regardless of gender.

2 weeks, 1 day ago on What Having it All Really Means

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@TaraFriedlundGeissinger @biggreenpen I remember yoga, I did it before I had a stomach that got in the way of bending in half.

2 weeks, 2 days ago on What Having it All Really Means

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@Jen Novotny @photo chris um, maybe sooner than you think...? We celebrated my daughter's birthday this weekend and over her birthday dinner I get asked, "hey mom, did I come from your belly, or your private zone?" She's seven.

2 weeks, 2 days ago on What Having it All Really Means

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@Jen Novotny I KNOW! When I was working FT, AND shooting, I didn't have a problem making or taking calls when I was "off" and my co-workers would always tell me that I was crazy. I would tell them no, working in a tight schedule without felxibility was crazy, life was crazy, children were crazy- putting in a bit of time here of there when it was "unscheduled,"  and always getting to be at my best, PERFECT!


And, those PT jobs- YES PLEASE! I've finally determined that a professional part-time schedule is what's best, but I feel like I'm getting the hair eyeball professionally. ergh. 

2 weeks, 2 days ago on What Having it All Really Means

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@ginidietrich @Jen Novotny ohhhhh, I cannot watch those. I'm mad for months afterwards. And I cry and cry and cry. 

2 weeks, 2 days ago on What Having it All Really Means

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@Jen Novotny I try (I SWEAR!) to think this way.... Saturday morning.... Ok Chris, it's NOT a big deal that your hubby got up with the kids to let you sleep in but then gave them applejacks for breakfast and let them watch two hours of cartoons while  you slept. It's not it's not it's not. (And really, It's NOT!) I have a friend who used to say, "You're going to get blamed in the therapists office in 20 years anyway, do what you want." :-) 

2 weeks, 2 days ago on What Having it All Really Means

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@jdrobertson @photo chris HA! Yes, my sense of humor is always up for teasing! Sorry for the delay  in a laugh- I was in a wireless deadzone camping with the family this weekend. 6 hours of swimming and no wi-fi in sight, GLORIOUS!

2 weeks, 2 days ago on What Having it All Really Means

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Ha! And here I was thinking that it was work interfering with family...

2 weeks, 6 days ago on What Having it All Really Means

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I totally agree! I was also amazed that she did it.

2 weeks, 6 days ago on What Having it All Really Means

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@ginidietrich @RobBiesenbach Who irons shirts? Dry cleaner please! ;-) At the risk of being stoned for the phrase, cue frozen and sing at the top of your lungs...."let it go...LET IT GO!"


And for those who judge you for it... "Let them go, let them go...."


I recently took a short-term contractor position at a giant company. My first ever- I've always been small business. And, one of the most refreshing things I heard the (female)  Director of Marketing say, in the middle of total chaos at work, was, "I'm not answering emails at 6. I'm having dinner with my family. The work, and I, will be there tomorrow."  She was well-respected, incredibly smart, and was handling an incredible amount of work at a furious pace. She was unapologetic for this stance.  I wanted to hug her; Every. Single. Day. for setting this example.



2 weeks, 6 days ago on What Having it All Really Means

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hmmmmm, cheetos and red kool-aid! I'm altering the dinner plan now! ;-)


As I am trying to figure out what comes next for me in terms of M-F employment, I find I ask this question of myself a lot. And, I am embarrassed to admit that sometimes, just sometimes, how others will see potential choices makes me a little squirmy.  


I am so on board with this being about what "having it all" means to you and, AND ANNNND leaving the judgement out of it for those who choose, *gasp* differently than me.


 For instance, I would not WANT to be in London or China or wherever for extended periods of time, away from my family, having my secretary fielding children's calls. But I would not want my spouse to want that either.  To me, it is a very lonely life.  I define success very differently. But if that is what makes you and your family tick and you're happy- excellent!


 I DO like to work and understand the need of a village.  When I was working a full-time flex schedule AND photographing weddings, my husband and I depended on a number of people to get us through our life. I would sometimes spend the first half of the day arranging what the next three were going to look like as I puzzled things together in an emergency. And, during the busy season, I didn't go to as many girl's nights or misc. events unless it was family friendly.  I guarded spare time like a tiger in front of its last meal.


And while I didn't necessarily "choose who you are that day" which is really just a  matter of semantics and suggests, somehow, that you are no longer one person because you are another, I absolutely had days, as we all do,  that I was more tuned in as a mom, or wife, daughter, or employee. And that was ok by me! 





2 weeks, 6 days ago on What Having it All Really Means

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Of course public records are just that. But, "once upon a time" you had to DO something for that info. Take time out of your own life, identify yourself somehow as having reason, beyond being a nosey parker, to have it, if only to the people helping you find it. Now we can stalk and spread hurtful gossip with "internet proof" within a few seconds, rallying a stoning mob around a person who has, gasp, made a mistake, done something we judge as immoral, or is truly horrendous.

and I rant about all of this from my high horse where I am riding through town pointing out the sexual offenders I found on the internet map.....

1 month ago on What Does the Right to Be Forgotten Mean to You?

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"To lie to me is one thing, but to take that tone? It's on!" Oh, I LOVE this woman, lol. HYSTERICAL. Moon party. Coffee filter super pack. Old man at the end with a bottle of ketchup saying, "sometimes you just gotta wait."  My night is complete! Thank you thank you!

1 month, 1 week ago on Gin and Topics: Your First Moon Party

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@annelizhannan I think there are two answers to that.


1. If a brand plays nice online, once people complain there, they can get taken care of. They get personal attention they may not have gotten in the first place. or they get something extra: discount, free meal, free desert. In short, they are rewarded for posting their negative experience online and it soothes them. 


2. To go online now to post a negative view is now no different, and often takes LESS effort,  than calling your best friend and ranting about an experience. I think some people just go with their emotions of the moment, and then they're over it. sadly, those who read their reviews may not be. 



1 month, 2 weeks ago on Content, Trust, and the Power of Influence

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@RobBiesenbach Hi Rob!  you're not crazy! Whenever I have a personal recommendation from a friend I almost always stop looking. This is a good reminder that I should continue on in diligent research!

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Content, Trust, and the Power of Influence

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@ClayMorgan @Howie Goldfarb I just loved your ending, "I don’t believe for one second the customer is always right. But I do believe they should always be treated right"

1 month, 2 weeks ago on The Customer is Always Right (Except When They’re Wrong)

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@Eleanor Pierce "empathy before truth" oohhhh, I'm doomed. DOOMED :-( I think I believe I value truth above all else. If I'm acting an idiot, I want someone to tell me that. And if I'm proven wrong I'll own that too. 

1 month, 2 weeks ago on The Customer is Always Right (Except When They’re Wrong)

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She was wrong, but we treated her like she was right.

I love that this worked out to be a win/win- best outcome for everyone. Would it be logical to think then, if she were "ordinary" and her mom was upset, you would have stood ground?

1 month, 2 weeks ago on The Customer is Always Right (Except When They’re Wrong)

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The mother was an immigrant from Guatemala. Her daughter, upon graduating high school, had beaten the highest level of education of anyone in their extended family by seven years.

Awesome awesome awesome! Did you run a story too?

1 month, 2 weeks ago on The Customer is Always Right (Except When They’re Wrong)

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OMG! the dad and daughter. OMG. And the goat! I have to go home now; my day is complete.

1 month, 4 weeks ago on Gin and Topics: Love is an Open Door Duet Between Father and Daughter

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@ginidietrich @Howie Goldfarb Gini- do you feel like he will, at some point down the line, get what you were trying to tell him- or just look for self-serving evidence that he was right, even if it changes what he initially wanted? 

1 month, 4 weeks ago on The Lies PR Firms Tell

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@ginidietrich @Howie Goldfarb I have to add a tiny nugget of hope here... we hired the firm that told us we were crazy, literally, for wanting (needing!) to re-brand by a certain date and that we needed to move it. we CAN'T, but moving from this point allows us to know what can and can't be prioritized, and we appreciated that so much!  

1 month, 4 weeks ago on The Lies PR Firms Tell

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Thank you Gini- I now have another book to read! If only I could have been a fly o the wall of Cora's home.  The way she defined the very essence of feminism by stating the reasons she's, "..not a feminist of anything else of that sort...."  while going on to say "What I want most is to be respected and thought of as a person rather than as a woman in this particular job. I would like to feel that I am respected for my ability, my honesty, my judgement, my imagination, and my vision" reminded me, painfully, of my own early "label" as part of this dynamic group.


A whisper campaign against your wife....


I completely agree with the idea that clients, managers, etc.,  should be educated away from this,  and  I wish more employers would embrace this "Utopian" environment- but, what happens when you are just out of college facing this? Have just started a job? Are dealing with a recession? Have encountered it in your last 3 positions and have given up? Are fired from yet another client who is watching their competitor gain on them because of false statements?



2 months ago on Whisper Campaigns and Why Spin Sucks

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@LauraPetrolino I like fireworks- and, fourth of July IS right around the corner...

2 months ago on Whisper Campaigns and Why Spin Sucks

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Isn't there a saying that right around the time you hate a piece you've put together is when it really starts working?

2 months, 1 week ago on Join Steve McKee for a Special Author Q&A Today

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Sorry, I live under a rock...what are y'all talking about here?

2 months, 1 week ago on Join Steve McKee for a Special Author Q&A Today

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Isn't "how" tied up a bit in culture then?

2 months, 1 week ago on Join Steve McKee for a Special Author Q&A Today

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Nope, me too. And I'm back to packaging.

2 months, 1 week ago on Join Steve McKee for a Special Author Q&A Today

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Isn't that "just" packaging?

2 months, 1 week ago on Join Steve McKee for a Special Author Q&A Today

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Gini Thank you! And, my answer to you is a resounding no- No, you are not "just" pounding it into people's heads. Bringing awareness to an issue is the first step to  people realizing there IS an issue or that an issue continues. It gives like-minded (or even different-minded) people the opportunity to further the conversation.  It brings light into dark corners and keeps it there until someone installs a darn permanent light switch to that area.


The fact that i graduated (gulp) 18 years ago with a women's studies minor, and moved about my life and workplaces with people who shared a fair amount of like-mindedness, I'm always gob-smacked when these things come up, nearly 20 years later. 


To me, the pay is the least of the stories. And it could be written off in a number of ways; it's a terrible time to be a journalist.


The reason the Times lists for letting her go is her management style, which she was given the "opportunity" to correct, and had indeed, been in the middle of correcting with a management coach.. So I'm more interested in why the Times thought it was a good decision to promote someone (a man) who punches walls in frustration or the face of a strong female presence,  over someone who was "simply" mercurial. Was he ordered, and did he complete, an anger-management course before this happened? Has he somehow shown a great ability to unify a team beyond violence and fear of igniting it?


I'd like to know, were her bosses somehow blinded by who she was, though she had been working for them for nearly 20 years?


Was the main goal of her position to somehow "warm up" the office and create a fuzzier environment than her predecessors left her with to increase the happiness of her employees? And what in her work history would have given them the idea that she was the person to do that? 


And really, she was too "pushy?!?!?!?"  She's a JOURNALIST, and by all reports, a great one. Who on earth would have thought, for a minute, that unifying a team with a blankie was going to be her style? 


And yes, I agree that working for a "mercurial" boss creates a terrible environment, whether that boss is a man or a woman- it simply shouldn't be allowed. Period.  


But it doesn't sound like this is anything different for the Times, just that she was being held to a different standard.  The question is, what it her job to re-create the environment? 

2 months, 1 week ago on Jill Abramson: What Really Happened?

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@ginidietrich @Nylons  I love that too- but why should they care if you paint your nails or wear your hair long so long as you can RIDE????

2 months, 3 weeks ago on Women Can’t Be Awesome: What’s Really the Root of the Problem

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@HeatherWhaling  where is that damn "LOVE" button?

2 months, 3 weeks ago on Women Can’t Be Awesome: What’s Really the Root of the Problem

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@ginidietrich @photo chris  lol- i'm actually "here" daily reading, but commenting via mobile phone is enough to make me scream. BTW, do you know that I JUST realized that Kelly is your husband, NOT your husband's sister  *headdesk*....Thanks for putting it up on the inquisition! 


As for the tooting of the horn; I can see, for instance, if everyone is talking politics and you don't want to jump in and say, "hey, i wrote this book." But really, if everyone is sharing something they are working on, then think of all the further connections you gain by sharing what you do. It is interesting. It is though provoking. And darn it, people LOVE you! :-) 

2 months, 3 weeks ago on Women Can’t Be Awesome: What’s Really the Root of the Problem

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@ginidietrich @biggreenpen  so, did you ever see The Croods? The dad, cave man that he is, is big and strong, but fearful of everything new because it will likely harm or kill his family in some way. He is constantly telling them- both a boy and a girl (and the crazed baby) to STOP! WAIT! NEW IS BAD.


When I was growing up, my parents were fairly crood-like. Though I won approval for my good behavior and grades, if I wanted to do something out of their comfort zone, and that was a lot, I was cautioned, what would happen if????  Eventually I got the message i wasn't smart enough to act on my instincts. That if something happened, like I broke an arm falling out of that tree, I would not only  not recover, but they would be so disappointed. 


I pray that if I do nothing else for my children, that I will give them confidence to try and fail, get hurt and heal, and to know that always, always, they are are awesome.


And when my daughter wanted to climb the pear tree in the back of my house I talked with  her about where she thought the strongest branches were, where she can rest, how high she is allowed to go (further each year as she gains maturity and strength) and I gave her a boost. Then I stood below and alternately hold my breath, cheer her on, and pray.

2 months, 3 weeks ago on Women Can’t Be Awesome: What’s Really the Root of the Problem

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You knew I was going to come screaming out of the woodwork on this like zeena the warrior princess, right?

I inherently distrust a person who's new to me if they're going on and on about how awesome they are...if they were truly awesome, I think others do the telling for them. Bragging is just unseemly to me, but I consider that a very different thing than celebrating your accomplishments, particularly when others are sharing.

I think, and I pray that I am teaching my children, that there is an inherent difference in celebrating yourself, your accomplishments, your friends, and their accomplishments, and outright bragging, no matter what gender you are.

perhaps the girls were reluctant to scream, "I'm awesome!" because they thought the boys sounded like idiots and didn't want to emulate them..?

I mean really, why should we change to status quo when its dumb?

3 months ago on Women Can’t Be Awesome: What’s Really the Root of the Problem

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