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Excellent article. Even when I was in the Navy, where physical fitness is a huge part of the job, some BW used to say, when they failed the body fat, "The Navy should take into consideration that BW have 'sister booties' and develop separate requirements for us." Yeah, good luck with that one. None of the women in my family have this so-called "sister booty" so it's a Black stereotype perpetuated by some Black folk. I had to write an adverse fitness report (evaluation) for a BW Naval officer who was still wearing her maternity uniforms because she had not lost the baby weight. The Navy gives new moms one year to do this, which I think is reasonable. She kept telling me she had just had a baby via C-section. I'm thinking her baby is five, maybe six months old and that she has been done a disservice. Come to find out that her daughter was four years old!!!! She gave me the "BW are built differently." line but the Navy didn't buy that and would never preach that. Can you imagine the fallout with that one? "Racist Navy says BW Are Naturally Fat and Allows Them Separate Physical Fitness Requirements" The media would have a field day...
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@ASwirlGirl Yes, we do and, to tell you the truth, I know my parents were aware of the negativity but they never brought it into the house. As we grew older, they made us aware of it but in such a way that we knew it didn't have to affect us nor did we have to accept it. I think part of being enlightened and self-actualized is to let go of the negativity because it's only about the person who spews it or wallows in it, not you. I've said it before and I'll say it again. Choice will make you or break you.
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@peaceandgoodwill So great to hear! I think there are more of us BW who feel this way than we think and other people think.
BW can reject, wholesale, what the media says about us. Yes, we have to create our own but at the same time reject that which says we suck, on every level. "We" know "we" don't so why do "we" believe it? I am a positive person, always have marched to the beat of my own drum. You know who did that for me? My mother and father. And yes, I realize I am a super-blessed, super-lucky woman to have drawn my parents because they did a freakin' great job with me and my siblings. This negative stuff doesn't even register on my radar because I surround myself with the positive and I know who I am. There are positive mediums that support BW (like this one!!!) and I limit myself to those. I have never, ever watched or read what idiots like Tommy Sotomayor or MLQ have said (sorry Chris, I don't even read it when you post it; don't need it in my spirit). They are bitter, seriously effed up, didn't-get-the-correct-potty-training, men and can't possibly know my story so why bother? I was raised to think I could be at the top of the heap and I worked to that end. My parents provided a fantastic example because they were at the top of the heap, very accomplished and worked hard to get there. Okay, so maybe others think I should "know my place" at the bottom and gnash their teeth that I won't accept it. Too effin' bad. I only have one life so I make it as good as possible and, at 54, I can truthfully say, it has been a blast!
Gotta love those Brits, even though they killed off the BW character and both stars were out of a job. Their kiss truly looked like a passionate one whereas the kiss on Star Trek was, literally, forced. The episode was "Plato's Stepchildren"; both Kirk and Uhura were, telepathically, forced to kiss because the bad guys with the power knew they didn't want to do so and it would "humiliate" them (if you check out Kirk's expression, you'll see what I'm talking about: http://youtu.be/cDp1sAx09pg). Not the same thing as a kiss of passion that both people want badly and hence, why I think Gene Roddenberry got away with it. People were shocked but they could be secure in the knowledge that neither really wanted to kiss. Careers saved, history made, no jobs lost (even though Uhura wore a red dress!).
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@CAPT SMOOTH Since you and I are of an age, it's not a surprise.
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@ChristieRJohnson Same here, although I've been doing it for a few years. I do it because it's a challenge and I am hoping to get to a place where I figure it out. It makes me angry!!! My yoga instructor is also my friend so we've discussed it and she tries to give me some tips but they aren't working, so far. I've also tried pretty much every yoga discipline, trying to find something that works. Kundalini, Bikram, Hatha, Vinyasa... no joy yet. I'm going to a yoga retreat in two weeks, striving, yet again, to find that yogi place. It will be all yoga, all the time. Actually, I'm going to support my GF, who is running it but, hopefully, full immersion will do it. I may come out as an angry witch, though. I'm like you. Can lift weights all day but yoga eludes me. Sigh.
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What an achievement! Congratulations!!!
@tracyreneejones @ASwirlGirl @Brenda55 LOL! I think some Navy SEAL unit had it as a motto...
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@Christelyn I guess, having seen the a) Japanese psychologist who said BW were the ugliest women in the world; b) the Texan guy, Romeo Rose, who said he would never date a BW and now this guy, I have to say that the common denominator is their very below average looks. Just my observation. BTW, love you too and all that you do!
@ASwirlGirl @Brenda55 My grandmother said it too and then it was, somehow, revived during my stint in the Navy. It's now part of my lexicon.
@Christelyn True, but we're talking about this guy right now and I call them as I see them.
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What is up with these men with less-than-stellar looks? They always want to say something negative about BW but they look like they were rode hard and put away wet. Seriously, please do not put out, in public, something about looks when you are the ugliest thing outside the London Zoo! I needed a mirror just to look at his picture so I wouldn't turn to stone. Geez!
@Conor Flannery That's right. Also, you have many things in common and the military has a tendency to forge close relationships based on sharing hardship. Who better to relate to than a person who gets it, up close and personal?
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@Brenda55 Like I said, not "if" but "when". Let me also say that being married to a military member is a little different. One of the biggest obstacles is deployments. I won't lie. We spent the first four years of our marriage apart. We saw each other but we were both deployed to different countries/states. I was in Korea, Don was in Kenya, flying in Somalia. I was in Cali, he was in Hawaii. We really racked up those frequent flyer miles. Being a dual Navy couple, we understood the situation so we were able to deal. What worked for us is that we were best friends and had dated for three years before so we had our joined-at-the-hip phase. It takes deep trust and understanding to make this sort of marriage work.
Also, let me say that just because it's relatively easy doesn't mean one shouldn't vet. It's still necessary. I dated a couple of guys whom I should have done a better job at vetting. I just got caught up in the derring-do of how dashing they looked and what they did (one guy was a SEAL and the other was a fighter pilot). Yeah, thankfully, I wasn't fully invested in those relationships.
I met my husband in the Navy. Yes, I know it's not for everyone but let me just say that I did my best swirling, when I was single, in the biggest bastion of White maleness in the country. Army, Navy, Air Force, Marine... I didn't discriminate and neither did a lot of the men. It wasn't a matter of "if" but "when". Again, let me stipulate that I'm not saying join the military for a rainbeau but you do have a captive audience. I joined for many reasons but never imagined the swirling would be so good. As far as I'm concerned, it was a bonus. My husband and I have been together for almost 24 years (married for almost 21 years!)
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We'll see how this all plays out. I don't believe it.
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