Coffee fan, blogger and survivor of near fatal accident. I love to write and my goal is to help others through my writing.
@ginidietrich Her comments would have upset you greatly. She brought up my situation at the time as well as calling me awful names. I was bullies as a kid and that sucked also. Both suck. Both need to end. It does begin at home.
1 day, 16 hours ago on Adult Bullying is a Problem
Bullying sucks, Some people are so insecure they feel that they need to tear down others just to feel alright. I notice errors sometimes on blogs, and never know how to mention them (or if I should for that matter)
The worst bullying I ever received was when my boyfriend and I first got together. His ex was rather bitter and took to Facebook publicly bashing me. It was all I could do to keep my head held high. The things she said were not printable here. Fortunately, I had good friends who saw her for what she was, but it still stung.
I have a baseball bat if anyone bullies you again Gini.
1 day, 18 hours ago on Adult Bullying is a Problem
We all have things to overcome. I never thought I would get back to being anything like myself after all that has happened. I have a normal life now. I am working on settling my case and then going after full custody of my son. I have been working on my short novel. I also plan to write a non fiction book about what it is really like to be homeless.
We have a choice when life does things like this - we can pull ourselves up or we can drift off into the unknown never to be seen or heard from again. These situations had me on the brink of total chaos. Several times I thought about checking out permanently, but would not allow myself to do so.
Life is short, and the best thing we can do is get out there and get things done. I did go after the man I always had a crush on. We now live together and have a great relationship. I have got back to blogging after a long absence, and even if no one reads my posts, it reminds me that I do have something to say.
"Get busy living or get busy dying" that is my motto now.
3 days, 18 hours ago on The Little Boy That Could (Or Why We Need to Make What We Do Brilliant Every Time)
I have been having this very conversation Danny. I have different strengths than my boyfriend and there are times that he nitpicks about them instead of highlighting how strong I am.
My low self worth is easy to understand when you have been to the bottom and are still in the process of climbing back up. I look at my biggest other problems like my memory loss and cognitive issues for what they are - the direct result of someone else's carelessness.
As a result of this accident, I have become an even better listener and more compassionate. I understand the stigma behind homelessness, and know that while there are many who chose to live that way, there are just as many who only need a hand.
My biggest strength never left. I still make people comfortable and am sought after when others have problems. These are traits that I have built my personality upon. Weakness is in the mind of the beholder. Thanks for the reminder.
3 weeks, 3 days ago on Why Weakness In Ourselves Isn’t a Bad Thing
I have always been afraid to ask since I got taught not to ask for much. There is also a part of me that hates feeling needy. I know that people will not know I need help if I do not ask, but I guess I can be too prideful or too ashamed to ask for help.
The other problem I run across is my own issue of thinking no one wants to hear from me. This is why I am having a hard time getting new readers since starting over with my blog. This is my problem to fix, but many days I have no idea how to ask for help broadening my reader base.
You are right. It is good to ask questions and it is also good to ask for help. Thanks for the reminder.
4 weeks ago on Why You Need to Be the Bane of the Status Quo
@ginidietrich Last year we had record snowfall and this year is supposed to be even worse! It snowed on Halloween a few years ago!
1 month, 2 weeks ago on Gin and Topics: Goodbye Gecko. We’ll Miss You.
Come visit me in New England and you can have all the snow you want! I love videos of toddlers giggling! Too adorable!
1. A Prayer For Owen Meany - John Irving - my favorite book of all time.
2. Dracula - Bram Stoker - The scariest book about vampires before all the Twilight bs happened
3. The Stand - Stephen King - Good versus evil at its finest
4. The Greatest Salesman in the World - Og Mandino - everyone needs motivation
5. Frankenstein - Mary Shelley - Another horror masterpiece
6. On Writing - Stephen King - This is where we learn adverbs are to be avoided!
7. Life - Keith Richards - His account of how the Rolling Stones started and stayed together is touching and funny
8. Love In the Time Of Cholera - Gabriel Garcia Marquez - Just straight up genius
9. The Kite Runner - Khaled Hosseni - a story about loyalty love and friendship in all circumstances. It shows the power of forgiveness beautifully
10. Illusions - Richard Bach - big reality check for those who want to save the world.
That is all
1 month, 3 weeks ago on Read a Book Day is September 6
@ginidietrich Yes I do!
2 months, 1 week ago on The “I’m Busy” Badge of Pride
@LauraPetrolino @NancyDavis @Howie Goldfarb Yes I did last year. Wound up in the hospital for four days with a fractured skull and now cannot work due to all sorts of health problems from the accident. Old lady hit me and lied to the cops. Ugh.
@LauraPetrolino @Howie Goldfarb The BMW drivers in Massachusetts are no better. The drivers here are insane! No wonder I got hit by a car in a crosswalk here!
I love when I hear I am not busy because I do not work. I'm sorry, but I am busy too. Doctors, therapists of all kinds, lawyer visits, oh and daily housework. On top of that I have an illness that demands that I nap because it is the only way for my brain to heal. I also take care of making my boyfriends lunch for work every day, cook dinner and take care of our kitten.
But I don't work so I must not be that busy. :)
It is what matters. All I ever wanted with my blog was to give some people a voice. Now, with my injuries, I find myself wanting to stand up for pedestrian rights, for educating people about homelessness, and helping remove the stigma of being unable to work due to forces beyond your control.
These things matter because all of us matter.
Thank you for always being an inspiration to me. You Sir, are a class act.
3 months ago on Because You Matter
We live in scary times if these are the new precedents. Consumers and bloggers need to be able to have their opinions heard no matter if they are positive or negative. That would be to me the same as someone sending me something but only if i give it a favorable review.
Thankfully, I am not in this position now, but that could change.
3 months, 2 weeks ago on Are We In Danger of Losing the Right to an Opinion?
@Danny Brown I think you really should do the Beer List. It would be awesome :)
3 months, 3 weeks ago on The Top 14 Billion People You Should Definitely Do Something With List
The thing with lists is that almost always someone gets forgotten. Then that person can get hurt feelings and either blast you or stop reading your blog. This is why silly lists are better for me. There are too many gurus around and really, I learn more from people who do not act like that.
I suggest two lists - The 47 Dollar Sucker Club List is one, the What Social Media Beer are You? is the other.
I want to be a really cool beer.:) Your 47 dollars is in the mail. :)
@Todd Lyden He does a gig every Friday at a local bar that does have a Facebook page. The person in charge focuses more on bands than on him. I have no idea how to bring it up gently to her that when he does well, so does the bar. Any thoughts?
4 months ago on Generate Leads and Drive Sales with These Tips
I have a different question, what about a highly specialized local business? I have been encouraging my boyfriend to take video of his DJ gigs and post some on his DJ page on Facebook. I was the one who elbowed him and said "big crowd - TAKE VIDEO!'
Besides this, what can I do to gain more visibility? I have suggested posting songs from various genres of music, but the page does not appear often in my news feed unless I seek it out.
I have suggested Twitter to him, but so far, no dice. Any ideas on what else I could do?
@belllindsay @LauraPetrolino Looks like wine o'clock hit early :)
4 months ago on Canada Day and Content Galore: Welcome July
I like that calendar! When I get more income I will be joining Spin Sucks Pro and then you will wish I stayed broke! I have a ton of questions mostly about helping my boyfriend get more clients for his business which is local, and also how to rebuild my audience since due to many issues, I could not blog the way I wanted to. I look forward to a summer of getting back to the real Nancy and achieving more of my goals!
PS - Yes Independence Day is a way cooler holiday name! and by the way...GO USA!
I do not have the experience others have with this, but it seemed to me quite a bit like linkbaiting. I thought that person's post was totally out of line. I do not even think about doing things like that. I even check with another blogger if it alright if I mention their blog in a post I am doing.
From all that I read, it seemed that all the original poster cared about was attention. If they truly wanted to make things right, this would have been handled totally offline.
Sorry, but this reeks of total bull
4 months, 1 week ago on The Social Media Mob
@Danny Brown @JoeCardillo The sad reality is that walks like those became necessary. Truth is, it comes down to one simple fact, a woman who wears a miniskirt or a cleavage showing top is a whore who gets what she deserves. On the other hand, men who bed tons of women are applauded. Sad.
My boyfriend is a DJ at a local bar and I go with him as his assistant every Friday night, No matter how I am dressed, we deal at least once (most nights more than once) with some drunkards unwanted advances. Some don't even back off once I have made it clear who I am with. My boyfriend has had to intervene more than once. When will it end?
4 months, 2 weeks ago on Endemic Cultures and Why We Need More Logical Indians
@Danny Brown @JoeCardillo @NancyDavis The education piece is crucial. Without it, all that people see are spoiled people. The part about "No" being a complete sentence starts and ends at home.
A few years ago in Brooklyn, there were some cops who did not take seriously date rape charges. What ensued as a result of that was called SlutWalk NYC. I would up writing a blog post called - Oh My God! You Are Such a Slut! because I wanted to show support for the cause even though I could not walk due to work.
Bottom line - NO woman asks to be raped. Education must start early and it must be equal. Treating people as objects is unacceptable period.
Thank to both of you for your feedback and intelligent comments.
PS - Yes he did feel my left hook Danny :)
I have been through something life altering also. Last April I was hit by a car crossing the street. I suffered a skull fracture and as a result now live with a traumatic brain injury (TBI) I also have what is called Post Concussive Syndrome. I too have had to look for small victories. I also have multiple appointments and am religious about keeping them. Some things may take years to improve and I have no choice but to adapt to my new "normal" which includes limited short term memory, sequencing issues and other problems.
I am lucky the accident was not fatal. Each day I make sure to do something productive even if all it is is housework. I have to accept that I cannot sit down and blog the way I once did, so now I post when I have something to say.
Living with something like this can be done. Having a positive outlook and people who understand my illness has been a huge help.
Thank you for posting this.
4 months, 2 weeks ago on How to Keep Working When Life Throws You a Major Curve Ball
As someone who has survived being raped, I have no idea if we can ever change the mindset some people choose to have. A few years ago, I went on a dinner date with someone. I told him there would not be a second date. He tried to push his way into my apartment, not taking "no" for an answer.
He found out the hard way I am a southpaw. When I say no, that is what I mean.
The problem all over the world in entitlement. Some people think anything they want is theirs for the taking. The only way to solve this is education. It MUST start in the home. People who sexually assault others most times have been raised to think they are better than everyone else. This errant thinking is pervasive in all cultures. Everything is sexual these days, not just music and movies but advertising and even pageants with small children!
These cases in India and other countries are not that unique. We are hearing about them more because some citizens refuse to go along with the status quo. It only takes a few people sometimes to change a situation for the better. Hopefully that will be the case in India.
When I got nearly attacked a few years ago, I was asked what I was wearing and if I had been drinking. Fact is, most people do judge in this manner. It is wrong. No is and always has been a complete sentence.
Hopefully, some will take your post to heart and pass it on.
4 months, 3 weeks ago on Endemic Cultures and Why We Need More Logical Indians
I have been in the unfortunate dilemma of having to delete an inappropriate comment. My close friends know I have some serious heath problems, and I posted about having an appointment at a pain clinic. This got turned into comments about S&M clubs. My boyfriend took issue with the comments, since they were from a male he did not know.
Even though the man who made the comments was kidding around, I felt it was prudent to take the comment down. I did this because I also felt it was not appropriate and I also did not wish to see a thread about health become one about sex.
On a related note, I have a friend who has now taken to posting about her sex life on Facebook. I have been mulling over how to bring up that she may find it funny, but I find it classless. My sex life is no one's business. It is certainly never fodder for Facebook. I know this person may think this is prudish, but I call it being an adult.
4 months, 3 weeks ago on Dear Amy: The #SMEtiquette of Embarrassing Conversations
@ginidietrich You have been an inspiration to me. It makes me happy to know you want to read my book. You comment almost made me cry in a good way. :)
6 months ago on Women Can’t Be Awesome: What’s Really the Root of the Problem
@biggreenpen Thanks! Writing this book has taught me a lot about myself. The best part is that I am getting this done whenever I can, using public library computers mostly. :)
I needed to read this today. I never give myself any credit for what I have accomplished. I have massive injuries that make working full time impossible. Still, I am writing my first fictional work. I am feeling better physically and mentally and am working towards having a more stable life.
Maybe one day, I will look back on these two painful years as my hardest teachers. It would certainly be an interesting read. If I could give hope to someone in this situation, then all of this suffering is not in vain. I guess I need to talk about my accomplishments more.
I wanted to be a brand ambassador, but missed the boat. All I have is a pair of useless paddles. Really, I would have loved to be of help in one way or another. I hope I still can help.
6 months, 1 week ago on The Spin Sucks Brand Ambassador Program: A Case Study
@belllindsay @markwschaefer Or you have to endure the Ring Of Fire! Where is Johnny Cash when we need him?
8 months, 2 weeks ago on Join Mark Schaefer for a Special Livefyre Q&A Today
I am here!
@ginidietrich Someone at Best Buy so I don't have to use the public library any longer! I can maybe get on for a few minutes but that will be it :(
Wish I could join but I have no access to computers after this round at the public library! Ugh!
I wanted to be a talk show host like my hero Johnny Carson. That or a stand up comic. Since I can make folks spit their drinks out almost at will, I feel I have succeeded. I would like a talk show though. Think about it. I would ROCK at that!
10 months, 2 weeks ago on Best Childhood Dream Jobs
@ginidietrich because he always was so envious and wanted to be friends with you too. I told him that he would never be that so I guess that is why he called. Yeah. That whole thing just sucked.
11 months ago on Truth, Lies, and Facebook Memes
@ginidietrich The worst part about all of that was not only could I reach no one, the hospital actually was dumb enough to call the person I had a restraining order against and tell him I was in the hospital! #stupid #idiots
@biggreenpen @NancyDavis @belllindsay we are all survivors! I personally love posts like this because this is when everyone drops their guard a little bit. :)
@BethMosher @NancyDavis Yes. Being left handed is proof of high intelligence. Therefore, we know we cannot eat peas! :)
I love this. You have inspired me. Here are ten things you don't know about me
I am left handed and proud of it
I got hit by a car this past April, suffered two skull fractures and am still here making Gini's life miserable :)
I hate peas. I refuse to eat them and dig them out of any kind of food they happen to be in
I grew up wanting to be a talk show host like my idol Johnny Carson
I always worry that my writing sucks, or that people only like me out of pity
I have been homeless for almost two years now
My biggest goal is to become a paid writer.
I miss my sense of smell. It left permanently as a result of being hit by a car
Each year on my birthday I wished to be taller. It never happened. I hate being only 4'10"
If I could leave this state this minute, I would.
There you go!
I tried to do this. I only got 35 things. Well, I am surprised lipgloss is not on here! Or wine....
11 months, 1 week ago on The 82 Things I Love
The one i hate is the mistake of "your" instead of "you are" or "you're." If I had a dollar for every idiot on dating sites who sent me the message "your sexy" I would have a lot of dollars. I was always tempted to answer back, "my what is sexy?" I figured they would not get the joke though.
The other mistake I hate is alot. That is incorrect. It is two words not one. A LOT of stupid people think it is one word!
Rant over. :)
PS - Will there be cake?
1 year, 1 month ago on Grammar Police: Twelve Mistakes Nearly Everyone Makes
I feel the same way Erin. Writing and reading are more often than not the only things that do calm me down. Lately since I do nothing but go to doctors, I often worry I said something wrong. I am always afraid of saying the wrong things all of the time. The more I worry about it, the worse it becomes that is a fact.
I related so much to this Erin. Thanks for posting.
1 year, 2 months ago on Be Still
This is so sad I don't know whether to laugh or cry. I also want to know where my white robe is at. Maybe they need some Nancy D in their sad little lives. :)
1 year, 3 months ago on Why the Best "Social Media Stars Reality Show" is the One That Doesn't Need Made
I love dumb people.They make me seem smart by comparison. It really is sad that she didn't know that, but she had a goal and she met it right?
1 year, 6 months ago on Gin and Topics: A Chip Joke and Cinco de Mayo
This post is why I admire you so much. Getting back into the blogging groove is hard, but staying away was even worse. One of these days, I hope to get an actual website. You, my friend, are one of the reasons I am still at a computer trying to make the world a better place!
1 year, 6 months ago on Quit Treating Your Blog Readers Like Second Class Chumps