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Ummm, the phonograph was not developed in 1977. 

I am confused on the Oklahoma one as well, about the shopping cart. It has Ohio in the description. ??

11 months, 3 weeks ago on The Most Well-Known Inventions from All 50 United States

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@TVguy I guess that wouldn't bother me too much as I prefer my favorite brand of shampoo and soaps. I guess whatever you need though to make your trip better.


1 year, 1 month ago on Inside a Long-Distance Train Bedroom

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@KimbakatDesign I am 55, have fibromyalgia, arthritis, fake knees, use a cane to get around, bad back, sleep apnea. I know about pain. I guess I was just looking at it as a person who is also on a very tight budget. very tight. I have traveled all my life, most of the time sleeping in the front seat of my car or van, or on greyhound, so when I ride Amtrak I am riding in a comfortable coach seat and feel like I am in heaven.


1 year, 1 month ago on Inside a Long-Distance Train Bedroom

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@KristaKimba I have ridden on Amtrak across the country from NY to LA then up the Cal coast and back to North Dakota, on one trip. I did not get a bedroom because like you I can't afford one, but I found the coach seats to be comfortable enough for my sleeping. They are much more comfortable than an airplane seat and more roomy than Greyhound. 

1 year, 1 month ago on Inside a Long-Distance Train Bedroom

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After reading through a lot of these posts, including some in response to a much earlier post by me I wanted to mention a few things. 

First, having a disease/disorder, etc. is NO excuse. I have ADD, and was diagnosed as an adult with inattentive ADD way into my 40s but should have been way back as a kid (of course in the 60s and 70s they just chalked it up to a kid with a lot of energy). I have never had a problem with being on time because I was TAUGHT at an early age how to get myself ready and out the door on time. Anyone can be taught to be on time and not use a disease or disorder as an excuse to not be there. I am also bipolar but still made it on time to just about everything.  The only thing that made me late was existential circumstances. I learned how to not let my disabilities (using a cane, fibromyalgia, bad knees, ADD, bipolar disorder, etc.) rule my life. I learned how to make it on time to events. I also learned to not let those disabilities define who I am. I'm not actually saying "If I can do it, you can too" because I know that each of us is different. What I am saying is IF it is important to you to not keep your friends and family waiting on you then you can try to change that. The ball is in your court.

Second, I raised two sons on my own, one who is always late, but as a kid I told him if he wasn't ready to go when I was he would be left behind, even as a 6 yr old. I would get in the car and start out the driveway. He was in the car before I got to the end of it. But that doesn't always carry over to adulthood. He is still late, all the time. He is late to work, late to appointments, late to dinner, late to everything! My two sons have a small business and he comes for his shift after his day job and my other son needs to leave to be at his evening job on time, but when the one is late it makes everyone else late. Oh, where was I going with this ... my son used to throw temper tantrums when it was time to go anywhere, so I started to get ready an hour early to give him time to throw those tantrums. He was diagnosed with ADHD in Kindergarten. It is an idea for those of you who use your kids as an excuse. He was kicked out of the Army because he could not be punctual. That is how serious being late is.

Third, Think about how you feel when you go to the doctor's office and they keep you waiting for a while past your appointment time, or when you are in the exam room wrapped in paper gown and they keep you waiting. That is how it is for me and probably others. That is the annoyance that we have with people being late. It's as though OUR time is not as important as the late person's time. It is a slap in the face. So, just think about how YOU feel when someone is wasting your time because they are late. Put yourself in their shoes.

To sum it up, your disease or disorder is NOT a valid excuse for being late. Your kid acting up, throwing tantrums is NOT an excuse for being late. My time is important, just as important as your time. That is what most people are feeling. So, if a person is not important enough for you to be on time, then don't bother doing things with them because you show you care by doing everything, everything! possible to be prompt and to be there FOR that person. I think it is selfish to make people wait for you. I will always feel that way. I am not perfect and I know that people are gonna bitch and moan about what I say, but I don't care. There are emergencies that come up and those are valid reasons for being late, but at least call and tell them you are running late!

1 year, 1 month ago on An Open Letter to Ye Who Is Always Late

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@FairyKukla@andrewlgmJust want to mention that I also have ADD, and was diagnosed as an adult with inattentive ADD way into my 40s but should have been way back as a kid (of course in the 60s and 70s they just chalked it up to a kid with a lot of energy). I have never had a problem with being on time because I was TAUGHT at an early age how to get myself ready and out the door on time. Anyone can be taught to be on time and not use a disease or disorder as an excuse to not be there. I am also bipolar but still made it on time to just about everything.  The only thing that made me late was existential circumstances. I learned how to not let my disabilities (using a cane, fibromyalgia, bad knees, ADD, bipolar disorder, etc.) rule my life. I learned how to make it on time to events. I also learned to not let those disabilities define who I am. I'm not actually saying "If I can do it, you can too" because I know that each of us is different. What I am saying is IF it is important to you to not keep your friends and family waiting on you then you can try to change that. The ball is in your court.


Think about how you feel when you go to the doctor's office and they keep you waiting for a while past your appointment time, or when you are in the exam room wrapped in paper gown and they keep you waiting. That is how it is for me and probably others. That is the annoyance that we have with people being late. It's as though OUR time is not as important as the late person's time. It is a slap in the face.

1 year, 1 month ago on An Open Letter to Ye Who Is Always Late

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@RuthRussell @Baroness I always have a specific time for dinners like Thanksgiving or Christmas. If I say dinner is on the table at 2:00 that is when it is on the table. If someone is late they can sit at the little kid table and those kids who are there on time will be at the big table.

1 year, 1 month ago on An Open Letter to Ye Who Is Always Late

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@sheydp @SandeBarrettBihlmaier @katiehigg

Maybe part of the reason I don't go in to someone's house early is because honestly I don't like having to chop the vegetables or whatever they want me to do.I feel that I am going over to enjoy a party or whatever, not to do their prep work. OK, so that sounds selfish on my part, but I got stuck in the kitchen too many times when I had NICE clothes on and ended up dirty, so no more. Now, when I go to my brother's house or another family member I usually am traveling at least 400 miles to get there so I go in as soon as I get there, no matter what. 

1 year, 1 month ago on An Open Letter to Ye Who Is Always Late

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@BarbaraCarlson I hear you and agree with you! There really is no excuse for someone to be habitually late.

1 year, 1 month ago on An Open Letter to Ye Who Is Always Late

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@katiehigg @Maura I am like that. If I am not 15 minutes early then I feel like I am late. I won't apologize for it. If I'm going to someone's house, though, and I know they are uncomfortable with my being early, I will not sit in front of their house, but around the corner, or if there is a gas station real close I will go in there, get some lotto tickets or a pop, something so that I am not so early to their house.  However, with work I am going to go in, and I will sit in the break room until time to clock in.


1 year, 1 month ago on An Open Letter to Ye Who Is Always Late

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@AlecPlayer My son is so like that!  He is persistently late. I guess I could say he is good at being late! LOL

1 year, 1 month ago on An Open Letter to Ye Who Is Always Late

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@ReneePickup I so agree with you on this one Renee. I have fibromyalgia, and have bad knees, not to mention frequent migraines and I have had to adjust my schedule to make sure I am not late to things. I use a cane to get around so I am slower than others, so I make sure I am early enough to get where I need to be ON TIME. If one has a job they need to be ON TIME. If one goes to school they need to be ON TIME, it one goes to church, hopefully they want to be on time. How do people do it when they have ANY kind of disability?  They make it happen! Meeting a friend for lunch should also carry the same weight.  If a person truly appreciates their friend or family, they will make a concerted effort to be on time, no matter what! Any kind of disability is workable.  A person just needs to find a way to make it work and not use it as an excuse.

1 year, 1 month ago on An Open Letter to Ye Who Is Always Late

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@RoxanneFlores @SandeBarrettBihlmaier Actually he didn't work hard for it. He went into the job interview and was hired for it on the spot. He had never done any management before.

1 year, 1 month ago on An Open Letter to Ye Who Is Always Late

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@marysthewriter No one can tell you how to 'fix' your child but if you allow that extra time BEFORE you are planning on going out the door for the temper tantrums, etc. it might work better for you. I'm not sure about your situation, but if he/she throws a tantrum when you are about to leave for somewhere, then plan on leaving an hour earlier so your child can get the tantrum out of the way before you absolutely need to leave. Obviously, if it is another reason for the tantrums that won't work.  As far as not knowing what it is like, I have two children (grown up now) and one of them used to give me a hard time (not a tantrum but stubborn as all get out) so I started doing just what I suggested you do. If we had to leave at 3:00 I would tell him we were leaving at 2:00. It got the messiness out of the way.

1 year, 1 month ago on An Open Letter to Ye Who Is Always Late

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One of the most valuable lessons I learned from my dad was that if we're not 15 minutes early then we are late! He always took into consideration the time it would take to change a flat tire when he planned when to leave. My sister is consistently late so she obviously did not learn that from my dad. One of my sons is like me. He shows up at his job 15 minutes early. The other son could learn a thing or two from your post, but he will never read it. He has a job where he starts at 8 AM, but most days he leaves the house after 8. If he wasn't in management he probably would have been fired by now.

1 year, 1 month ago on An Open Letter to Ye Who Is Always Late

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The only issue I have with the dining car is that people who are of a larger size cannot fit in the booths. I had a great meal there but was very uncomfortable in the seating. If they were just 2 more inches out from the table it would have made the dining experience better. Because of that I ate the rest of my meals from the snack bar and took it back to my seat.


1 year, 2 months ago on How to Score a Great Meal on a Train

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I totally disagree with the Reese's peanut butter cups. That is the ONLY way to eat them.

1 year, 2 months ago on Five Best (and Five Worst) Frozen Candies

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@Anne Not all kids have two parents. I just wanted to insert that fact. 

1 year, 2 months ago on Crappy Dad

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I think it's that way for most parents. We all question whether or not we are good parents and I think (speaking for myself here) that we all, at some time, think we are crappy parents. I am a single mom of two sons. They are grown up now, but when they were kids we moved a lot (and I mean a LOT, sometimes even living in our car or shelters) but my kids got to see the country and meet lots of people. I always thought that I must be the crappiest parent out there, but my kids said they learned from it, they found out what life was about. So, yeah, no matter what we do, no matter how we raise our kids, we will always have that nagging self-doubt, wondering if we're okay in what we are thinking or doing with our kids. We'll all start to wonder if we are that crappy parent.

1 year, 2 months ago on Crappy Dad

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The picture could be your sister saying she wants to look outside. My mom lets me know of her presence quite often. It could be the same with you. As far as other spirits, yes they do exist. Everyone insists on calling them ghosts.  What if they are angels? If is a 'ghost' that you are concerned about you can do things to make them leave.  Smudging, talking to them, using holy water, all of these are said to disperse the beings that you don't want near you. I have lived in many places where I have had spirits hanging around and usually it is just a matter of asking them to leave and they are gone. Most of them just want to be acknowledged.

1 year, 5 months ago on Our Little Ghost Problem

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