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My son does not deal with imperfection very well either. He is a def. rule follower and thins are supposed to be a certain way. When things are not that way he has a very hard time dealing.If you have suggestions please advise. He will be doing the most simple thing like riding his trike around the driveway. My daughter will stop and it will cause a melt down. He will get up and scream and there is no turning back. It's totally all because he was having a good time and she made it stop. It has no impact on it if she keeps riding at that point.
8 months, 3 weeks ago on #Autism and coping with imperfection: The crinkly cup meltdown
@NatashaBoss @RachelHumphrey yes not only do I have children I done childcare my entire life. If you don't think I have children than it's you that has no clue. I have two of my own and in the last year i have watched 12 kids. all under the age of 4yrs old. I have a 10yr old of my own and a 3 1/2 yr old who has Autism. When I brought my son down to be diagnosed my develop-mentalist told me she want to hire me (though she couldn't because I didn't have a degree) I'M raising Adults not children. Apparently everyone (or most everyone) else is raising children to be children mine are going to be adults one day. I'm not saying there isn't a time and place to coddle but it's not every time they want something.
10 months, 2 weeks ago on Nine Reasons Not to Carry Your Baby Facing Out
@AlainaFrederick @RachelHumphrey @brandyleenealseavoy @BrandiAndrews That's exactly what I'm saying, I'm saying that it's wrong I'm saying that you have to deal correctly with it... just because your younger ones slept with you and it worked doesn't automatically mean it would have worked with your older one. But on the same note it doesn't mean that it works for everyone because some just allow the kids to walk all over them. But as a whole I think Generally speaking not sleeping with the parents works for MOST children, where as if not dealt with correctly sleeping with you CAN lead to prob. down the road.
@NatashaBoss @RachelHumphrey yes to babies a want is a need and we are to teach them what is a want and what is a need and in handing everything to them exactly when they request it is teaching them that wants are needs when they are not. That is why we have so many adults around that are throwing fits when they can have the bigger house or the steak when they are on food stamps. Because they haven't been taught that a meal is what is needed and a house is needed not the more expensive one. When we all grew up we would cry a min when we wanted food because our parents were teaching us that yes we would be fed but we wouldn't die if we weren't fed exactly when we asked for the food.
@choomma Gosh, I totally agree.. I didn't end up using them for either. I honestly think it's best with out anyway. Children are growing up to be adults they need to learn as much as they can while they are growing up. I don't use crutches. If I needed to not carry and we went a distance I used the stroller. Hiking they walked when they could, when they couldn't me and my husband carried them in our arms. If it was so long we couldn't do that we didn't do go hiking. Walking is good for kids. I'm not sure why parents have chosen to make them lazy. When babies are too young to walk we carry them, if you carry your children all the time your arms get stronger and they don't get heavy. Now if you NEVER carry them with your arms than the few times you do they seem very heavy. I can carry my now 40lb son when every I want for quiet a long time and I can even carry him on my shoulders. He's 3 1/2 yrs old and doesn't need carrying as much but I can if I need to. I honestly think these devices are just being lazy...
@AlainaFrederick @brandyleenealseavoy @BrandiAndrews The miss understanding is that since your child grew up this way and it worked means it WOULDN'T have worked any other way. My children have spent I think 2 nights with me in my bed in their lives. My children are Very loving and cuddle bugs. My son says please and thank you and is very polite. I don't in any way associate any of his politeness or anything else like how he eats on because of where he sleeps at night. What you are saying is our children are not loving because we don't love them correctly. (I also don't like the language)
@brandyleenealseavoy @BrandiAndrews I totally agree with you. I do attend to their NEEDS I don't allow them to manipulate me. Babies are born that way because they don't know the dif. between a need and want at birth. We teach them by responding to needs and not wants quickly. If we respond to wants quickly they learn that that is a need and get mad when we choose not to respond. Why will a baby scream for a lolly pop... new babies will scream for a lolly pop like it's a need... Why? Because they think everything is a need until we teach otherwise. Coddling isn't good for them OR YOU and the Mommy.
@BrandiAndrews Actually I have two children and one has Autism. His develop mentalist wants to hire me. She says I'm so very right on. I had him diagnosed when he was nearly 3 but I knew when he was 18mo. I am talking about coddling them. If they get hurt the parents pamper them for hours. Than are afraid of the world. My children are very well adjusted. Both are not afraid of the world they trust that I will protect them and wouldn't put them in an unsafe situation because I send them in the world all the time.
@BrandiAndrews @RachelHumphrey That's BS. That's what society has taught you. That's why we have so many Co-dependant adults around now is because in the last 15yrs parents have been taught to run to the children every time the complain. Because all their wants are needs.. That's BS. They need food, on a reg. basis that doesn't mean EVERY time they want it. Parents are doing more Entertaining these days than ever before because they are soooo afraid of god forbid there little bundle of joy wimper or hell Cry. That's why typically twins are better adjusted because the parents can't possibly pamper them both at the same time but society is working on that... Babies are totally capable of manipulation... nearly from birth. I do childcare, I see it everyday.
10 months, 3 weeks ago on Nine Reasons Not to Carry Your Baby Facing Out
Thought I agree to the fact that it's not good for baby I don't think it's not good for interaction. I don't think it's good for baby to see mommy all the time, I think it's good for learning about their world to see people walking down the street or around the store. I think there are times when the babies needs (wants) don't need to be met. Eating or rooting isn't missed most mommies know when it's dinner time not by looking at baby but by time or sound of cries. I think one of the things wrong with today's society is babies and children believe a want is a need and expect parents to respond right away. A lot of the violence is based from the same thing, adults throwing tantrums because they're not getting what they want. So aside of all the facing away from parents I think they are correct. All the physical things I figured also. I'm surprised parents can't figure that out on their own. I wouldn't want to sit or hang that way... would you?