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Her whole point is that new moms need to relax. Information is great. Getting other viewpoints is good. Making choices for your family is fine. But we experienced moms know that these recommendations come and go and are not worth worrying about. You cannot --and should not -- try to control everything! That is WAY above your pay grade!

It's more a chuckle of "been there, done that" and learned not to take ourselves or rearing our children nearly so seriously.

More importantly, for those who want to "hand out cards" and judge other mothers -- cut it out! What works for you on something like this may not work for them. Your choices are not gospel and -- believe me -- will change as you get a different child who simply refuses to abide by your idea of "safe." Moreover, the experts may well be singing a different tune in another 10 years -- such as, for a possibility, that hips are easy to correct but children are smarter who are allowed to face out!! You just can't know on silly things like this. You muddle along and do what works for YOU.

1 year, 5 months ago on Nine Reasons Not to Carry Your Baby Facing Out

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There are many, many things in the world that are "less safe," but -- when implemented -- create a lower quality of life, don't fit a family's lifestyle, or impinge on people's freedom. It is "less safe" to go outdoors to play than be kept indoors (at least by some measures). It is "less safe" to fall in love than to close off one's heart from potential hurt. It is "less safe" to go on a swing or a slide than it is to sit by the wall at recess. Life is ALL about making choices. Some of the happiest people in the world are those who live their lives "less safe" than others. Sometimes the benefits to "less safe" far outweigh the potential "hazards." This would be one of those cases.

Far better for the baby to be engaged in the world, content, and with a happy caregiver, than "safer" and miserable.

There is no such thing as perfectly safe, and trying for it will simply make you neurotic and your child a spoiled, unhappy, fearful person.

1 year, 5 months ago on Nine Reasons Not to Carry Your Baby Facing Out

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I guess I'll have to surprise my grown children with the information that they should be unhealthy and have miserable hip problems then. Lol

I have seen zero convincing evidence that it is unhealthy when done with care, but lots of assertions from young mothers. As with most things, you will learn that everything you read on the Internet is not fact, and that what works for you and your child is usually the best thing for you to do.

1 year, 5 months ago on Nine Reasons Not to Carry Your Baby Facing Out

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Absolutely! In fact, with my children, it was FAR more likely they'd have breathing issues when facing in. Then, their little noses and mouths were pressed up against me way too closely and I was always worried they'd be smothered. Nothing quite so righteous as the young mother, :-)

1 year, 5 months ago on Nine Reasons Not to Carry Your Baby Facing Out

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