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@Sandi Amorim I wouldn't doubt it. Those llamas can be sneaky little things. :D
2 years, 5 months ago on From Nothing to Something
@Jamie Alexander @illanaBurk I'll let Ilana speak for herself but the first sentence in your 3rd paragraph is inaccurate. That's not at all what the problem was - and Ilana was far from the first to be taken aback by it. She was, however, the first to speak out about it. Your next paragraph after that also tends to suggest to me that you didn't really comprehend the issue here. Correct me if I'm wrong, Ilana, but I didn't take *any* part of your post as a screed against the contractor relationship, but rather against *calling* it a contractor relationship while essentially demanding the much more loaded employee relationship.
2 years, 5 months ago on Why you have a responsibility to not be an asshole when you're in the business of selling your expertise
@illanaBurk @violetzombie Even crazier: why did it take fourteen paragraphs of a defensive rant to object?
2 years, 5 months ago on How I got more comments on one post than I ever have before, and why it matters [because it totally does]
@Derek Halpern @illanaBurk Y'know, I wrote a post last weekend as part of the Word Carnival about a few observed behaviors that I thought we could do with a lot less of in the so-called 'A-list.' Number two was overreacting to perceived slights. I have to agree with @MartaSpendowska - why was this defensive overreaction necessary? Why couldn't you just say "Y'know what, you're right, I messed up, I did what my lawyer said after he set me straight. Thanks for the heads up, though I disagree that ...."?
@Ellen Berg @EllieDiJulio I love that image.
2 years, 8 months ago on Dream Big, Do Different, Produce Ruthlessly
@JenPriceDavis1 Ooh, you're so right, Jen - when we finally show some faith in ourselves and our dreams, often the universe conspires with us to make it happen easier/faster/more gloriously than we could ever have imagined.
@SocialGamePlan Aww, thanks! That means a lot to me. :)
@JeffBelonger Sometimes we do get forced into things - sometimes we stumble ass-backward into just where we need to be. Sometimes we make it work. Sometimes it makes US work. Thanks for the kind comments. :)
@guayagourmet Go get 'em!
@EllieDiJulio I am seriously geeking out that someone else got the GWAR reference. Even more so that it was you. *swoon*
@SocialGamePlan @AngelaJordan1 I couldn't agree more. It's just common courtesy. And if you find out you can't, then bow out gracefully. I belong to one such group - the same one you do, SGP, and I've never had a problem sharing anything that's been listed there. A few people did with one piece that was a bit "salty" in its language, they handled it, no hard feelings - but that's the outlier case. Still, though, we see some people dropping links and expecting shares, but not giving them in return. That's just bad form.
2 years, 8 months ago on Remember Your Angst Is Not Pretty or Attractive #DigitalSplash
@Sandi Amorim Thank you, Sandi! And just so's everyone knows: From now on, I wish to be addressed as the Holy Llama Mama. Brilliant.
@CarolLynnRivera Thanks Carol Lynn! So true - happy talk is NOT enough! You gotta DO.
@DeannaLohnes1 THANK you for owning that! I was hoping to hear from someone for whom this was true. It's very difficult to do, I can tell you from experience, but once you give yourself that permission to dream a new huge dream, it is so incredibly freeing.
@Strategy4Social Thanks Kellie!
@JennyBBones @tsilvestre AWW! Thank you so much - coming from the two of you, that means more than you'll ever know. (I'll pay you ladies later. :D)
@Carol Hess You and @Ellen Berg are absolutely right on with your respective points. The emotional component of your reasons-why MUST be strong and compelling for you, personally. Otherwise, it's just an exercise in busy work. And Ellen, yes - that's the most powerful part of this - once we decide - once we CUT OFF all those other not-doing-it options - then we have no more excuses.
@Peter Crowell Excellent point, mi compadre. There's a definite spiritual component to the process of producing your dreams ... and as @Carol Hess noted below, the emotional aspect is probably the doorway to understanding that component. Thanks for the kind words!
@AmyBowers Thank you, Amy! I'm so down with that ... it's my big problem, too. I am so freaking COMFY here on my couch and in my yoga pants and fuzzy slippers! It's HARD to change. (Simple. But hard.) I'm so happy this moved you - here's to dreams ACHIEVED!
@Ellen Berg @AmyBowers For reals, Jenny is the bomb (as I'm pretending the kids still say). And I blush to be included in her company. Thanks, Ellen!
@Ellen Berg Wow - PDF-worthy! High praise indeed. I so hope it helps. Thanks for your kind words. :)
That quote from the Matrix - hoo boy. Powerful stuff. It's "interesting" (such a weak word) to me how many of us start down this path only to get walloped by the same kind of profound personal loss you experienced. The lessons we learn when we're lowest last the longest.
2 years, 8 months ago on How to create a soulful business
I agree completely: your business priorities and clients should come first. And if you don't have time to participate fully in a group that requires mutual sharing, then it's up to you to bow out gracefully.
So easy to step in it, even unwittingly - this medium is rife with opportunities to be misunderstood, or just be perceived as a raging jerk.
2 years, 8 months ago on Foot In The Mouth Moments – How Will Your Brand Fare #BBSradio
Word, my friend. Multitasking is oxymoronic. Ain't no such beast, really. When you try to do more than one thing at a time, you're basically doing neither.
3 years, 2 months ago on Do You Need Productivity Blinders?
@nfende You are so right. It's CRUCIAL. But where it's second-nature to you, it's like Greek to the rest of us. (Well, except to the Greeks. For them, it's like Basque.)
3 years, 5 months ago on RBI’s, Pass Completion, Shots on Goal… and Liquidity Ratio?
Nicole you have such a gift for explaining the complicated financial crap in ways that ANYONE could understand.
Sounds like a corollary to the Pareto Principle, perhaps. Interesting post, Megan.
3 years, 5 months ago on Your Wheelhouse (In or Out of your Inbox)
@EricaAllison I KNOW, right? Seems like my RSS feeds are cluttered with crap that now I wouldn't read if it was down to that and a six-year-old Highlights magazine in the dentist's office ... Rock on @Danny Brown ! I'll be back. [/ahnold]
3 years, 5 months ago on Introducing Punk Views on Social Media
Well said @MargieClayman ! I can only add that even the most astute and experienced of us sometimes need to review the basics -- at least from what I've observed. Ahem. :D
3 years, 5 months ago on Don’t Tell Me I’m Wasting My Time
@mcb1219 Muy elocuente, amiga. You're undoubtedly correct that there's some generational aspect at play here.
3 years, 6 months ago on Social Media, Pretend Friends, and the Lie of False Intimacy
@sfriedman I think it might be true that some folks don't utilize new media to communicate deeply, but that has to do with the person and not the technology. I don't think the ease of communication makes personal connection harder or nonexistent. If anything, in my experience, the ease of communicating has made it easier to connect. I get your point, I just don't think the "it was so much better in the olden days" thing is valid.
@ginidietrich ::bow:: Thank you, thank you very much. (Damn. Now I want cupcakes....)
3 years, 6 months ago on The Great Twitter Unfollow of 2011 – Leaked Email
@Danny Brown Honey, Alice is god. Not *the* god, but *a* god. All such distinctions, post-R&RHoF induction, are moot. (But to answer the question: Pre, baby. PRE.)
@Lisa Gerber ZOMG, you're totally right. #brilliant #succinctlyput
I have said for a long time (and thought for even longer) that you can tell the "SM" "consultants" (the only time I use "rock star" is when (a) addressing my readers - they're the stars, not me or (b) talking about Alice Cooper - still not worthy) aren't drinking their own KoolAid (tm) when they simultaneously talk about "conversation" and are only following a tiny fraction of their followers back. That ain't a conversation, cupcake. That there's what we call a monologue. And nobody's listening. Not really.
OH HON. I did the same thing with my chronic pain site. For a few years, I used a name that I thought was hysterically funny, on point, and cute - The Tramadol Diaries. What happened? I found out Google hates the name "Tramadol." Thinks every single site out there with "Tramadol" in the title is (A) spammy and/or (B) trying to sell tramadol online cheap. No matter how hard I worked, I never ranked for anything other than "tramadol." Well. Thanks. So then a friend suggested "Trauma Dolls." BRILLIANT.
3 years, 6 months ago on My Naming Facepalm
Excellent post, Shakirah. I'd recommend @pamelaiwilson & her Big Brand System website for design issues, too. Pamela knows her shit, and has a real knack for communicating clear, simple, easy-to-implement recommendations on design issues (colors, fonts, etc.).
3 years, 6 months ago on 5 Conversion-Making Website Changes You Can Make Right Now
As the owner and Chief Fuzzy Slipper Officer of Pajama Productivity, I approve this post.
3 years, 7 months ago on Why I Learn Best In My PJs
I have to disagree with webfadds - publishing /= sales. (Neither does marketing.) Two separate things. One leads to the other, ideally, but this is where a lot of new marketers get confused, I think, particularly with social media ... "I'm not getting any clients from my Twitter use, it must not work." That's the wrong way to approach it, and I think the same can be said of content marketing. It's about demonstrating skill and authority, establishing trust, and creating primacy in your niche/market. All of which helps sales.
3 years, 7 months ago on Why You Need to Turn Your Content Marketing Upside Down
Begin with the end in mind. I've heard that somewhere before... Well said, Jay. As to MarketingXD's question, I think it depends wholly on your business and your/its needs. If you want them to sign up for your newsletter, then figure out what your newsletter provides that they need, and use your content to illustrate the need for it. If you want them to call for a free consulting/coaching session, then how about a case study of another client (with permission, of course)?
Good stuff, Shakirah. I need to consider this in some detail. I've recognized the need to bring more to my site as to what I do and what I *can* do for clients (i.e., features vs. benefits). Packaged services, especially for web-based services, are a very intriguing prospect, since a lot of potential clients want turnkey service, while others just want the basics.
3 years, 7 months ago on What Do Clients Seek You Out For?
@JayBaer Jay, let me be clear: I ABSOLUTELY KNOW you were not trying to minimize anything or cast aspersions on Trey's offline/"real world" friends. I just know from hard, bitter experience that this is SUCH a difficult subject to talk about, SO tricky to navigate verbally the rocky shoals of stigma, blame, shame, and anger without tripping up once or a few thousand times. I believe that's why the necessary conversations don't really happen all that frequently - because they're freakin' HARD. Rock on, Jay - you're doing your part to keep this particular conversation going and I for one am grateful, as I'm grateful for every heart-felt, honest post about this subject in the last few days. THIS is how we beat it.
3 years, 7 months ago on Social Media, Pretend Friends, and the Lie of False Intimacy
I absolutely praise the sentiment here, but Jay, something's amiss with this statement: "Clearly, most of us were not his friends, as his death came as a complete surprise despite the fact that he had a prior suicide attempt earlier this summer, and had been discussing his problems with confidants." This presupposes that a suicide's "real friends" DO know that a suicide is likely. But clinical depression is a highly insidious, cunning illness. It screws with brain chemistry so much that (A) the perception of reality is altered; (B) the brain chemistry is altered so much that the person literally cannot hold any thought other than "pain"; and (C) the sufferer is not capable of reaching out in many instances. As I wrote on my personal blog yesterday, it's not a failure of will, of courage, of love for others, or of spiritual faith. It's a disease, and one that seeks to perpetuate itself. In so many cases, there is *no* warning sign. It's not that people weren't paying attention, or that one wasn't a friend of Trey's unless they're not surprised today. It's that the illness is THAT deceitful. THAT overpowering. However, I do strongly agree with your basic thesis here: that social media encourages shallow connections. I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with that. I value my connections to folks I've never met offline deeply, even as I realize the real world friendships I share are more valuable to me overall. I used to say "A friend is someone who's there for you when it's *not* convenient." But the truth is there are many kind of friends. We should all put forth the effort to gain some perspective about the true nature of our attachments, and if the real world/intimately close kind are lacking, do something about it.
@JoyFull_deb That's irony I could have done well without. Hopefully, it will encourage further conversation.
3 years, 7 months ago on A Gigantic Hole In the Online World
Unfortunately, I'm not sure this is accurate in Trey's case (though it certainly is for many others). He was VERY active in his city's community life. The bonds surrounding him weren't all shallow, not a bit -- there are many who knew him truly, and well, and while they may not be as shocked as the rest of us, they *were* surprised and grief-stricken. The thing is, depression IS an insidious disease, and it won't LET sufferers reach out quite often. It's on loved ones to ask, to keep asking, and how can we when we don't even *see* it? And quite often the depressed/suicidal person simply doesn't show any outward signs - and quite often, they do but we don't recognize them for what they are.
Like the author of this amazing post, I simply don't know what to say that will change anything or make it better. But at least we're talking about it. I do know that's a start.
"social media is a long-term play about turning customers into advocates, rather than a short-term play about creating customers out of thin air with magic tweets." THIS, a few hundred times over. So many folks I talk to these days are giving up on the "whole social media thing" precisely because of this fundamental misunderstanding. If it isn't working for you, and your expectations are appropriate managed, well, then, fine, move on by all means. But that doesn't mean "it doesn't work", period. And while I agree that SMM/SNM when done appropriately isn't "simple" there ARE ways and means to simplify the process of SMM/SNM activities. I don't think it's wrong necessarily to look for those simplification paths, unless you're looking to shortcut (i.e., undercut) the entire experience altogether.
3 years, 8 months ago on Nobody Said Social Media Should Be Simple
Yeah, you absolutely need both intention + time/action skills. (BTW, I hate that term "time management" - you're not managing time, you're managing your ACTIONS.) Great post. :)
3 years, 8 months ago on The Myth of Time Management (and the secret weapon of enthusiasm)
Um, @mdurwin I don't think that's what the article suggests at all. Nicole, I am really grateful for this information. None of this was new info for me but the relative weight and changing landscape of SEO is something I just cannot keep up with, in addition to my main areas of practice. Hubpages in particular - had no idea they'd slipped a bit. Great post - definitely bookmark-worthy!
3 years, 8 months ago on Build Backlinks – 14 Easy Ways