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2 days, 7 hours ago on Imitation Game Trailer

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Beautiful Ryan!  You've expressed a lot of the sentiment that I have felt since joining Twitter in 2010. That is what I think many people fail to understand about the social space online, there is an expectation that anyone is reachable. It doesn't mean that you have to interact. Not at all. I make choices all the time about when and how I engage.


But what I love most, is posting something random and then having someone comment and respond that I have never met. Now I know that I have a similar interest.  


Mentorship comes in all sorts of packages and you should not ignore online as as an outlet. It suites my style because I am more introverted. I feel very comfortable in conversations online and emails. Less on the phone until I have gotten to know someone. Of course social media makes that easier too. 


My only advice to someone reading this it to pursue interesting people. Make your list and find one thing thoughtful to say to them. Or ask a question that you have always wanted to ask. Engage. Yes you will face rejection, but sometimes you might make a friend. 


I am all about keeping an attitude of gratitude. Treat others gently and do more positive than negative. Understand that when you reach out to people that you there is a price they pay in losing time for other things. So make it worth their time in whatever you do.


Also love the touch of the handwritten note. I have done that in my job as community manager and it always goes over well. These types of communications matter.  

1 month, 1 week ago on The Mentoring Side of Social Media | 5 Steps to Doing it Right

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@hessiejones @JoeCardillo Great points to you both. 


Thank you Joe for coming by and joining the discussion. 


Yes, I sometimes wonder if the leap from my dumb phone to the smart phone was a good one. I can do my job from the laptop without a problem. Now that I have a smart phone I feel more pressure to join and use certain apps. As well as update or post more frequently to social networks. 


To your point Hessie, you are so right! The fear of missing out is a big motivator and it can get unhealthy if we let it rule over our life. 


We should be teaching people how to set healthy limits and boundaries. 



2 months ago on Mental Health in the Digital World

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Get Silencer, it saved my stream. I can mute all the posts that I don't like and focus just on people. Love it. I think it might only be available for Chrome though. http://www.silencer.io/

2 months, 2 weeks ago on I’ll Never Forget The Glory Days Of Twitter

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@AmyMccTobin @Eleanor Pierce  I want to read that post Amy. I find the rise of anon and secret sharing apps scary. Especially when you think about how easy it is to hack something, those secrets will not stay secret. 



3 months, 2 weeks ago on Online Integrity: Are You Who You Say You Are?

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@withwoman  I never was too into LinkedIn groups. The issue with the ones that  I am part of is attrition. People rarely post. 


It is sometimes helpful to search connections by the groups you share. If you are looking for a way to filter results.    


I say, if you find something relevant to a group then you should share it. If no one responds you aren't hurt by it. If people like it then you might have some fun :) 

3 months, 3 weeks ago on 12 Most Effective Uses for LinkedIn Skills

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@AmyMccTobin  Thank you Amy. I think that is the biggest mistake I see from people and brands. They think that it is just about updates, but it has much more to do with how well you know your community. What they want to see and how it helps them achieve their goals. That is where things get really interesting.

4 months, 2 weeks ago on Community Managers Anticipate Needs: Why You Must Develop your Company Radar

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@Jule Phelps  You really can't control the muse! You just have to ride it. 


I see your point here Jule. There is something about rituals that can kick start our creativity. 


When they become habit, it has an almost anticipatory effect. Because you sit in the same chair, or you grab that first cup of coffee in the same mug, or you use the same pen, it can be like instant inspiration.


I do, I actually keep a special pen for when I am working. I only use it in my notebook that I write my rough drafts in.  

5 months, 3 weeks ago on 12 Most Well-Versed Opinions on Creative Flow from Brilliant Writers

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i am a comment. first! 

7 months, 3 weeks ago on Grumpy wizards make toxic brew for the Queen and Jack

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oh, I don't have words right now for this., but this is the best thing to wake up to ever! Thank you so much Jayme!

9 months, 2 weeks ago on The Happy Friday Series: What Is Silver Is Gold

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@Soulati | Hybrid PR @susansilver  Not only do I play D&D, I run the community for a magazine whose content is about Tabletop RPGs. That is where I have disappeared too.

I have just been on hiatus as I figure out how to handle my daily duties and keep up the creative mojo.

10 months ago on E-Book Pricing Help Needed!

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I say, price it such that you won't cry when your pay check turns up! Okay, that is a little silly :) 

I would say at over 80 pages and clear examples you need to be in the upper range. You might start by calculating your time in the project like you would with a client. What would you have been paid for that time? That should give you an idea of what you want to make from your sales. 

Another thought, It might be more important to figure out what your absolute minimum is and then scale up.

I am voting for $22, I know you rock it 

10 months ago on E-Book Pricing Help Needed!

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Kate, you are making a brilliant point here that I hope people don't miss. Introverts and extroverts just need to accept themselves! Bam, no superiority or inferiority implied. 

I was thinking recently about how I experience life first as a deep feeler. The thought then came into my head that I bet there are plenty of people who are deep thinkers. You would think this would lead to lots of miscommunication, right? But truthfully, it depends on how willing you are to bend to see another person's point of view. It isn't always easy. And it won't always be appropriate. But it is possible.

Same with extroverts and introverts. We should recognize that there is a little bit of ourselves in each other. If we can honor that it will be easier to work with each other without so much need to argue over the way we get things done. 

11 months, 3 weeks ago on 12 Most Absurd Debates Between Extroverts and Introverts

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Hessie! I was just talking about this on my blog this week. I also choose a Star Trek featured image. I am really glad that you are talking about this!

The section on social data re-affirms that we need people that know how to interpret data on our teams! I refer to it as telepathy, based on real actions and not just words. We can link what people say to their actual purchase intent.

There are so many battles to be fought here though. Privacy issues being #1. Then of course it is the need for data analysts properly trained. Issues with adding more variables which can lend itself to greater confusion . Lastly, we have to be very clear and precise about what we are looking for in the data . Sometimes the hardest part is just knowing what question to ask. I think we should be having a much louder debate as marketers about not just the pros, but the cons and pitfalls of big data.

I also agree with the comment on SEO. That is a post in itself and I won't bother with all my thoughts in a comment box. It couldn't hold them all!

12 months ago on Big Data Will Change Advertising Forever

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 I just started using Pinterest for the magazine I work for. It was a brilliant move! I love this idea of trying content out there first. People seem to have a lot of opinons over there! But I love it :) As a CM nothing is better than driving conversations!

1 year ago on Time Management Tips for Social Media

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 Jayme, love your advice here. Your greatest critics cam become your greatest supporters! If you listen to them, but why wouldn't you. I am big fan of feedback good or bad because it tells you what matters to people. What they have a passion about. 

If someone speaks up about you, even to criticize, it means they are actually invested in what you do. Siclence can be deafening. 

1 year ago on Social Media, Girls And Corporate America

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@ChristineSteffensen I think there is a freedom in being on your own. Like Tim Gun says, "Make it Work!". Use the resources you have on hand and use them to your best advantage. 

1 year ago on 12 Most Powerful Aspects of Small Bloggers

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@CassiS Yes! I know how this goes. How do you draw any interest when you are just starting. I remember my very first blog was about public transportation. There was no interest. I had 8 people following me and they were all friends and family!  

My advice would to be just review the products that you really love or dislike. If you become known for giving honest feedback and opinions you will get on the radar of companies and sponsorships might even come in for you. Twitter is a great tool for reaching out to brands. Community managers are very receptive to public opinion. I know because that is my job! 

1 year ago on 12 Most Powerful Aspects of Small Bloggers

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@cloud phone This is very true. 

1 year ago on 12 Most Powerful Aspects of Small Bloggers

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@lisabuben290 Thanks Lisa, this one is older than I would like. I hope to get back on a regular writing schedule. I have created a freelance schedule and set some clear boundaries. Crossing my fingers that I will be able to get back into the groove of things.

1 year ago on 12 Most Powerful Aspects of Small Bloggers

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@Frederik De Wachter Thanks for letting us know. I will tried to get that fixed. The URL should be http:/12most.com/2013/05/13/ways-to-curate-awesome-content/

1 year ago on 12 Most Willful Social Media Strategy Tips for the Underdog

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 I am so glad to have been part of this! Thank you!

1 year ago on The Happy Friday Series: 24 #RockHot Guest Authors

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@biggreenpen Yes, I do agree that if you are going to say that you are posting weekly than do it! I have had to back down on consistency though to pursue other opportunities. I think the main point is to publish on a schedule such that you don't feel as if you are lowering your standards just to get a post out. I think that is a dangerous trap to fall into! 

1 year ago on 12 Most Powerful Aspects of Small Bloggers

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@rosemaryoneillThank you Rosemary. If you haven't yet check out the Tao of Pooh and the Te of Piglet. They were great reads and obviously they have influenced me in some ways

1 year ago on 12 Most Powerful Aspects of Small Bloggers

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Oh Jayme, I can't believe I missed this. Thank you so much for the shout out. Since my last post on Evernote, I've started using it for just about everything life throws at me.

I totally understand the app challenge. I just got a smart phone a few weeks ago. The thing drives me nuts. I am not always sure that a mobile app is any better than the web experience. It is just different. I hate reading email on my phone, but Twitter and Facebook are more enjoyable.  

I would say, don't follow the crowd but your own heart. If the goal is to reduce time than learning something new may not be better. You have to weigh how useful you think it will be or trust your instincts that it will improve your experience. That is how I make decisions at least. 

1 year ago on I Am App Challenged

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@biggreenpen Thanks :) I always have a hard time with comments because sometimes I feel that I have nothing to add. One thing that I have done, to encourage comments, is to leave some things out. I find that if you over explain a topic that you don't give anyone room to add their own thoughts! Less is sometimes more, especially for building a strong community. 

1 year, 1 month ago on 12 Most Willful Social Media Strategy Tips for the Underdog

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@PaulBiedermann Thank you Paul for your hard work and effort that you put into the website. Just saw it from my smart phone the other day :) You have every aspect tackled for our readers! 

I am always grateful that I got involved with you crazy kids ;) 

1 year, 1 month ago on 12 Most Lasting Lessons I Learned from Other 12 Most Writers

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@Milaspage I swear I responded to this already, but I guess it didn't post! I am so grateful for our 12most tribe that continues to inspire!Thank you for being here Mila and for the wonderful comment.

1 year, 1 month ago on 12 Most Lasting Lessons I Learned from Other 12 Most Writers

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@Milaspage Agree Mila! I think this post needs a part two. 

1 year, 1 month ago on 12 Most Lasting Lessons I Learned from Other 12 Most Writers

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@PegFitzpatrick I have been reading that Google+ is now the number 2 social network. I've been playing with it on mobile and love it. I am beginning to see why they have made recent changes to gmail and other services. They are way ahead of the game when it comes to smart devices and integration across platforms. 

1 year, 1 month ago on 12 Most Lasting Lessons I Learned from Other 12 Most Writers

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@biggreenpen We have a super postitive community. I always know when I get stuck that someone from the 12most tribe is avliable to help! 

1 year, 1 month ago on 12 Most Lasting Lessons I Learned from Other 12 Most Writers

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@BethBuelow Glad to have you here Beth! I think this post deserves a follow up. I would lov to feature at least one post from each of the wonderful authors that have taken the time to write something up for 12most.

1 year, 1 month ago on 12 Most Lasting Lessons I Learned from Other 12 Most Writers

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I have been pondering this Lindsay. I work as a community manager and I feel very close to the community that I have been part of and building since December. We have a history, just like relationships in real life. We can tell stories of what it was like, not just nostalgically around the magazine, but also as members of a special group of people that gather online. It is exciting to watch friendships bloom over status updates. 

I think the personality types most attracted to these types of jobs are a lot like you. They have an idea of who people are from the way they engage online. It is an extra level of perception that I think comes from having a strength based on empathy. Requires an intuition about why people behave the way they do online. 

Those are my thoughts at least. I am beginning to realize what a sort of wacky job I have that is still in the process of being defined. I think it is really important to discuss these issues. For support and to maintain a healthy perspective on what it all means. 

1 year, 1 month ago on I’m OK, You’re OK: Social Friendship and Gut Instincts

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@BeckyGaylord  I really wanted to highlight our diversity! I swear in a month or two I will do a followup, just because there is too much good stuff around here! I can't believe that the website has been around for over a year. Let's hope for at least 12!

1 year, 1 month ago on 12 Most Lasting Lessons I Learned from Other 12 Most Writers

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<3 It is wonderful to see a post that reflects how I feel about my work. Sorry that isn't such a thought provoking comment, but that is my gut reaction! I really enjoyed reading this. 

1 year, 1 month ago on 5 Community Management Lessons Learned in a Library

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 Ah....... Love these steps! I want to Squee. I approach writing the same way, but perhaps with a different way of looking at the process. What I really like about this piece is how you identify that your life experience has influenced the way your work. I am always telling people that if they want to succeed in life, they need to understand how they view the world. It is amazing how many of our skill sets are transferable to any thing we attempt!

1 year, 1 month ago on 12 Most Get-Serious Questions for Writers

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Very nice. aAs a data geek appreciate straight forward tutorials like this! 

1 year, 1 month ago on Three Data Points to Measure Your Blog Efforts

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@Kyle Simons This is great! I liked it so much that I shared with people over at Gygax Magazine on our Facebook page (disclosure: I am the community manager).  Many of our readers are teachers and parents and this type of game really resonates with them. I am excited that people are using these types of game mechanics to help others learn. 

1 year, 2 months ago on ‘Magicians’ RPG Makes Language Study Magical

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 Y'know this has been on my mind this year Peggy!  I can say that these are all great points, things I am doing in my own life. It just doesn't make sense to dwell on negative anymore when I have so much more I can give to the world! <3

1 year, 2 months ago on “The worst bullies you will ever encounter in your life are your own thoughts.” Bryant McGill

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I whole-heartily agree, but that probably isn't going to be a surprise to you. This year I questioned why I took so many courses in college that had no connection to my major. The answer is because they might be useful someday. The reality, they absolutely were and I am glad I covered my bases. You don't know what might inspire you to greater heights. Keep an open mind :) 

1 year, 2 months ago on Learning Broadly: The Inverted Dandelion Paradigm

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Wowzer, what a muddle of facts and information. I had no idea how deep this rabbit hole really goes. It feels like there is far more to this story than what has aired in public. 

1 year, 2 months ago on Social Justice: Disney Straddles the Line on Merida

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@dbvickery I like it a lot.  I get a pop up box when something new comes up. A great way of tracking down stuff. 

I really wish there was a way through for a more accurate tool for real-time updates, or at least affordable. I still find with both Google Alerts and Mention that it can only go as fast as content can be indexed. So, I still have to be constantly listening on social media to pick up reviews and things on the smaller blogs that are not crawled as often. 

Also alerts are probably not as good as knowing the eco-system around your brand. You have to know your power players and who to go to when stuff happens. 

1 year, 2 months ago on 12 Most Magnetic Ways to Curate Awesome Content

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@dustinstout No I have not, but it looks very pretty :D When I have more free time, I will have to check it out. Love playing with new tools!

1 year, 2 months ago on 12 Most Magnetic Ways to Curate Awesome Content

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@BethBuelow Mention is a solid product, but it is one that comes with a price. Not sure if I talked about that. There is a free trial period and that is what sold me on the product. 

Yes! I never know if people see those posts and it makes me sad because some very good discussion goes on there. I wrote about an experience where a person asked one simple question. I re-posted it to the Facebook page and the update went viral. The update received over 200 comments. 

I had not heard of that plugin. I am pretty hesitant today to use any sort of automatic tool. I have seen in the recent weeks just how much trouble it can get you into. I've been changing a lot of my methods of how I do research, that is what inspired this post. I am trying to find some work hacks that speed up the daily routine tasks so that I have more time to interact in real-time. 


1 year, 2 months ago on 12 Most Magnetic Ways to Curate Awesome Content

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Totally an introvert here as well. I also agree that I was drawn to community management for the same reasons you cite above.  I  have actually become more extroverted because of it. I have more self-confidence now going into any situation, but I still need my time alone to re-charge.

1 year, 2 months ago on Five Ways Introverts Make Great Community Managers

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Love that anecdote...  I had this realization when I got into some trouble.

It is great to be on a team, but you are always responsible for the work that you do. 

That means when stuff goes down you better be able to explain to people what you did to fix things, not what the team didn't do to help you.  

When you blame your co-workers, you are not fixing the problem. You are making the situation worse because it takes the focus off the matter at hand.

 What matters is what you do, not what you didn't do. 


1 year, 2 months ago on Who Is YOUR Scapegoat – Story of the 3 Letters

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 These are all great points Paul and backed up by research in psychology. Working within limits somehow forces us to break out of them. Crazy, but true. I love that someone ,as a challenge to themselves, produced a book that doesn't not contain a single e http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gadsby_(novel)

1 year, 2 months ago on 12 Most Paradoxical Reasons Why Creative Limitations Are Not Limiting

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#9 is an important one that people neglect. Anything forced is going to show as phoney right away.

Plus, you don't have to use social media the same way everyone else does. We notice the people are different from the pack. You can learn best practices, sure, but they may not work the best for you either. 

Any way, love this post :) 



1 year, 2 months ago on 12 Most Ridiculous Pieces of Advice People Give Artists, Musicians, and Other Creatives

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@ChristineSteffensen Yes Christine! I recognize how difficult it is making the change. I think it does take time, but the payoff makes it worth it. I don't want anyone to think that if they are struggling that they have failed. It starts with small steps, but it is totally worth the effort. 

1 year, 2 months ago on 12 Most Out-Loud Ways to Defeat Negative Self Talk

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