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@TheJackB I'm not due until mid to late March yet. :) And yes, with practice, I think we can do just that. I haven't reached that point though, but I think it will come. :)

2 years, 10 months ago on How To Write The Perfect Blog Post Part II

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Hi, Jack.

Haven't danced in almost like 5 months because of this growing watermelon in my tummy :D But, boy, did I dance before that! :)

You and I are quite the same in the sense that most of my posts and even my paintings or other creations are dependent on mood. And, I always know when I come out with something crappy and feels bad that sometimes, I can't help but put them out there.

But, I hope to grow some more in the coming year (not in the tummy area, oh no, not that!), but in my writing and being able to come out with something better even if I am not in the right state of mind. If that is even possible...:D

Happy holidays to you and your family, Jack! :)

2 years, 10 months ago on How To Write The Perfect Blog Post Part II

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@ginidietrich The lengths people go through to ride on your popularity...tsk, tsk, tsk...

2 years, 12 months ago on Three Examples of Social Media Gone Bad

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@hackmanj@deleted_91832_Sean McGinnis@ginidietrich@LFJeremy Hahaha! More Deschanel than the other two really, Gini...but, hey, I like the Gumby resemblance, too. :D

It's nice to finally visit again. The laughs I've had since reading the post and then the comments made me think I was an idiot for not visiting while I was sick. You would have cured me right off! :D

2 years, 12 months ago on Three Examples of Social Media Gone Bad

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Hi, Stu.

Glad to find you here. It's nice to see my friends guest posting on such influential sites as Danny's. :)

As somebody who is not exactly into social media (I only got Google+, Twitter and LinkedIn for work and I don't even use it much), I still can say though that it has its perks that I wouldn't have enjoyed without it around. I got some of my meaningful conversations with people I don't see regularly on my personal Facebook account. These talks even helped me unburden and sort out some of my emotional troubles. I have online friends also asking me how I am on my Facebook account for work and their messages or posts never fail to bring a smile to my face.

Although I don't see much sense in spending my time poring over new pictures, statuses or posted videos on Facebook, I can understand how this could make other people happy. It makes them feel that they are actually catching up with friends' lives. So, even if we all need to be aware about spending our time on matters of great importance, whether it is on social media or not, we certainly can't judge people and the value they place on social media. As they say, different strokes for different folks, eh, Stu? :)

3 years ago on Can Social Media Make You Truly Happy?

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Hi, Margie.

You are definitely not stupid. And, I always prefer nice people to the obnoxious ones no matter how other people think of them as right at the top, so you score high in my books. I also would like to see myself as this nice person with a great and ready smile to everyone. If that makes me boring, so be it.

So, when a time came in my life recently when I thought I couldn't really say something nice because of the problems that were heaped on my life, I took a self-imposed hiatus when it comes to blog hopping and blog commenting. I didn't want to drag people down along with me.

Now that I am feeling a tad better, I am back at it again. My smile may not be the on thousand-megawatt one yet, but it's there slowly building up. And, I am glad I chose your post to read today. Gives me a reason to smile more. Thanks. :)

3 years ago on Being Kind Doesn’t Make Me Stupid

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@Shonali@TheJackB Oh, so sad to hear that. What is your surgery for?

3 years, 1 month ago on #MyBootcamp Update: Month One

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@Shonali Thanks for the felicitations and the advice, Shonali. The sad thing is I have a sweet tooth and ice cream is one of the foods I am craving for now. Add that to lasagna and you know what that means, instant weight gain. I wish I do have your strong will right now.

3 years, 1 month ago on #MyBootcamp Update: Month One

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Yes, everything indeed involve choices, Danny and using Twitter is no exception. That's why I follow only people I see and read online regardless of whether they follow me or not. And if someone follows me, I follow back if I can see that you have an insightful blog. But, if you are posting links to pics of your pecs or your boobies or to sell something outright, then please don't expect me to follow you back.

3 years, 1 month ago on You Make The Choices

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@mylifestylemax You are right, Stacey. I, for one, can't tolerate friends who go all smiling in front of you and then go talk about you behind your back. I'd rather they tell me straight to my face. But, as I said to Lori, sometimes, when we accept people for who they are and understand their ways, we tend to get why they are being that way and make allowances all the time. But, that does not mean that we don't tell them that what they are doing is wrong. If they accept our admonishments and advice and make peace with it, then the world would be a better place, right? :)

3 years, 1 month ago on How Do You Manage Expectation?

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@Lori Yes, it does, Lori. If we actually give unconditionally, we have less expectations, have you noticed? If we accept people for who they are, we tend to get less hurt when they do something against us. So, yes, the answer lies within us and our ability to accept what is for what is. :)

3 years, 1 month ago on How Do You Manage Expectation?

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Wow! Congratulations, Shonali. As soon as I am able after giving birth, I will definitely follow in your footsteps. Oh, in fact, I may just follow you on your healthy eating diet now. My doctor has admonished me not to put on any more pounds except the ones that will be brought on by the baby. I am very much overweight now. Standing at only 5 feet and one inch, I shouldn't weigh 135lbs even with an almost 3-month old fetus growing inside me. :( So, aside from the reading materials you mentioned, do you have any tips to share with me?

3 years, 1 month ago on #MyBootcamp Update: Month One

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Hi, Stacey.

Expectations can be sometimes described as the bane of life because these are usually where disappointments and frustrations well up.

I try not to expect too much, but I'd be a hypocrite if I say that I really don't have expectations once in while, especially when it comes to friendships and as you mentioned in your post, dining experience. But, what I have always conditioned myself to thinking is that my expectations don't have to be met all the time. That way, even if I was already expecting something, I won't have to cry boohoo when it's not met but would definitely whoop with delight when it is.

But, when it comes to friendships and I get stabbed in the back, I would really need to talk to that friend. I like it better when there is communication than when there is none. If it turns out that my friend was really a snake in the grass, then fine, I get mad and hurt and then move on. Life is just like that. S--T happens! The sooner we are able to accept that, the sooner we are able to understand that life does not meet our expectations all the time.

Thanks for the delightful and thought-provoking read, Stacey. :)

3 years, 1 month ago on How Do You Manage Expectation?

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@TheJackB Thanks for the confirmation, Jack. I am just glad though because I am learning from the best guys online. :)

3 years, 1 month ago on Write What You Know

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@KDillabough Everything you've advised have helped, Kaarina. :)

3 years, 1 month ago on No More Waiting For When

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@FrankDickinson@kaarina dillabough Kaarina is indeed quite wise. I love her and she is rubbing off on me, hence the sound advice as you said. :) Glad to have shared my thoughts with you, Frank.

3 years, 1 month ago on No More Waiting For When

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Hi, Frank.

That's where all the fun in life starts, in being and then doing in between. It is a colossal waste of time to wait when you can do things now. Of course, things like cars and vacations take money to get, but there are simpler things in life you can do right now that will give you the same satisfaction as cars and expensive vacations.

If you know Kaarina Dillabough, she gave me an advice about putting a Sunday into my every day and it has really made a difference. I now find a part of my every day to read a few chapters of a book I am currently reading or to just lie down underneath a tree and look at a sky or just take in a giant milkshake and not worrying about the calories. :)

Life is too short to wait for the when, right? You can actually start being right at this very moment if you want to. So, after having your b___s kicked, it's time to start living! Good luck! :)

3 years, 1 month ago on No More Waiting For When

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Hi, Marya.

List posts are actually great if they are not too long and they are actually doable. I have seen list posts that seem to go on and on about stuff that are not only generic but also dizzying in its incomprehensibility.

I agree with what Ameena said, we can always love list posts if they are concise and comes with a personality. :)

3 years, 1 month ago on 3.5 Reasons Why I Am Sick of List Posts

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Hi, Jack.

When my boss agreed for our company to have a separate blog and that I was to write for it, I expected to write purely about 3D rendering. I don't know much about 3D rendering except that it amazes me and I love the images that our 3D artists produce because they really do look like real photographs. So, I had to do a lot of research before I was able to come up with the first few articles that I came up with for the blog. Then, I learned about writing with a voice, with a personality and with honesty.

So, I changed the course of my writing and introduced more of my personality into the posts. Although I still mention 3D rendering into my posts, I do so by relating them to personal experiences or to other stuff that makes life what it is because that is what I know more about. And, I think I am more comfortable hitting the publish button now than I did before. My posts may not be as good as others but at least I know that it is me talking there, there are no pretensions, just me and of course, my love for 3D renderings.

Thanks for sharing this, Jack. Made me breathe a little knowing that I am headed to the right direction. :)

3 years, 1 month ago on Write What You Know

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@Ameena Falchetto (Blush) Thanks, Ameena.

3 years, 1 month ago on 5 reasons a college degree won't help your business

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Hi, Ameena.

This is a topic very close to my heart, being an undergraduate myself and having lived through the latter part of my teen years with ears chewed out for not finishing my studies. Although a college degree is quite important, I agree that it is not the be all and end all of becoming an entrepreneur or a writer or anything you want to be.

I got into media even without a college degree and I went out having carved a name for myself, especially among my peers and my bosses. I showed them that talent, drive, passion and enthusiasm for learning more make up for any paper that you might get from any college or university. Now, I am working for a boss who believes in me despite my educational attainment because I showed him that even if I have no degree, there is more to me than just that piece of paper.

And, I think any college dropout can achieve what they set their minds on, as long as they believe they can do it and work for it. Education in institutions might be important in forming your foundation, but it is up to you to make this foundation grow.

Love the new look of your site, Ameena and of course, your beautiful photo. This is the first time that I got back since I spent several harrowing weeks dealing with illnesses among myself and the rest of my family. Although I am taking small steps in getting back on track, I am glad to be taking them.

Hope you have an amazing weekend. :)

Kim

3 years, 1 month ago on 5 reasons a college degree won't help your business

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@Lori@bdorman264 It's actually my fourth, Lori...but, still pretty excited, although keeping my fingers crossed as well...since I've had two mild strokes and I still don't know what these could do to my pregnancy now. My first appointment with my ob-gyne is not until the 31st yet, so I am kind of anxious at this moment. I'll keep you posted.

3 years, 1 month ago on How Does Your Friendship Grow?

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@Lori With Bill, anything can really happen, Lori...So glad you had him over... :)

3 years, 1 month ago on How Does Your Friendship Grow?

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@bdorman264 I just found I'm pregnant :), so I'll stick with sparkling water. :D

3 years, 1 month ago on How Does Your Friendship Grow?

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Wow!! More than 300 bodies...oh, sorry...I meant, comments...:D Congratulations, Bill! You sure know how to keep a party going. :)

3 years, 1 month ago on How Does Your Friendship Grow?

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@bdorman264 Oh no!!! The party's over??? Please don't say that, Bill...at least, say you have some dessert left over. :( I took a bit of a break to recuperate from my hardships and now I find that I missed some party that you were in...This is bad... :'(

Anyway, I'd like to think that I've developed a number of friendships that I would like to cultivate more. So, I think that makes me a farmer, huh? And, so far, since I started blogging, you have been a consistent supporter...so, is it ok if I call you my friend?

3 years, 1 month ago on How Does Your Friendship Grow?

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Hi, Jack.

Kids do trust us to make things better. They just need our reassurance that we follow up on what we say, which is why I am one of those parents who do not make promises I am not sure I could keep. Another good thing about kids is that they are resilient. They bounce back easily from something that they deemed difficult as soon as they see that they are headed for a good thing.

Thanks for sharing this beautiful story, Jack. :) Appreciate knowing more about your life. But, if you don't mind my asking, what is the reason behind the move? If you are not comfortable telling me here, you could PM or email me. ;)

3 years, 1 month ago on Trust Me

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@Danny Brown@Brankica@ginidietrich I think I have one name that comes to mind that may be in your list, Danny. :D

3 years, 2 months ago on Little Dogs and High Flying Pee

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What a fun way to look at things, Danny. Dog pee and all. :) I agree that a huge size and numbers don't necessarily mean great success, as you might just think you are BIG but you are totally NOT.

I think the best thing we can do is just be ourselves and continue doing what we set out to do without entertaining thoughts of being big in our heads. It's amazing how big we can be when we do this. I know a lot of humble people who are definitely bigger than they say they are. :)

3 years, 2 months ago on Little Dogs and High Flying Pee

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@bdorman264 It's good to slowly find my way around again, Bill. Keeping the positive vibes at a highest high and crossing my fingers that I will be able to get back on track soon.

I'm really happy about your guest posting here. :)

3 years, 2 months ago on The Social Media Pedestal

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@bdorman264@Danny Brown Crystal clear, Bill. :D

3 years, 2 months ago on The Social Media Pedestal

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Hey, Bill.

Great spot for a guest post! In Danny Brown's nonetheless...you da man! Thanks for the heads-up or I wouldn't have had me a breather. :)

When I started blogging almost 4 months ago, I was really in starstruck zone, especially when someone whose articles I really gobble up and whose personality I admire replied to my comments. And, I believe it was a certain invisible blogger who started me off blog commenting because he told me to build my community first and worry about my content second.

However, now that the stars in my eyes have somehow been tempered and I value more the person than his popularity, I have found that I am better off. I get to breathe more normally when I am around these people and appreciate all their antics instead of gushing endlessly inside my head and even online about how great they are.

I am not in much virtual love fests nowadays and when I do get the chance to comment on blogs, I make it a point not to fawn too much, so I can say I am happy to be headed to a more mature future in blogging. But, I do appreciate all the love I have gotten and been getting, they are not as many as 100 comments, but they sure make my heart glad and I wouldn't trade them for more comments (although that would also be nice).

I haven't placed myself in a pedestal (will never do that, I belong on a Rubens painting, not a pedestal. LOL!) and I have taken off a number of people from the pedestals I placed them (you, especially, because now I know that you are not just "NOT" invisible anymore, you are human and needs cloaking devices like we all do). And, I am really glad of this direction that I am taking because it makes me appreciate people more and have encouraged me to let go of those who don't even appreciate the time of day we give them.

I think my brain's still melted. I'm not even sure if I make sense here. So, I gotta stop now or you'll all throw me out of Danny's house.

P.S. Hey, Danny. I see you were also taken in by the charm of the NOT invisible blogger. ;)

3 years, 2 months ago on The Social Media Pedestal

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Way to go, Jack! :) Optimism, hope, compassion and understanding need not be lacking in times of strife. In fact, these are the times when they should be in abundant supply and it is up to us to provide that.

And, there are always people out there you can depend to fight the war with you no matter what. :)

3 years, 2 months ago on It Is The Relationships...Stupid

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Hi, Marianne.

I don't deal with customers personally, but I have been one myself many times and you are right, it takes trust for people to buy from people. And, this takes building relationships, showing authenticity as Hajra said and making sure that reliable, consistent service is delivered.

Thanks for offering an understandable look into marketing, Marianne. You make it so easy for us newbies to learn what would otherwise have sent our eyes swimming back in our heads. :D

Hope you are doing well. :)

3 years, 2 months ago on Five Ways to Build Trust with B2B Customers

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@Brankica@NancyD68@HowieG@Danny Brown@jennalanger Feel free to ramble away, Brankica. We are here to listen and keep you company. :D

3 years, 2 months ago on How to Kill Your Blog in 10 Easy Steps

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@NancyD68@Danny Brown That would be way cool! :)

3 years, 2 months ago on How to Kill Your Blog in 10 Easy Steps

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@NancyD68@Danny Brown Oh, believe me, Nancy, that would definitely come in handy. :D

3 years, 2 months ago on How to Kill Your Blog in 10 Easy Steps

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@Danny Brown Oohh, I am so tempted to take you up on that offer. :D

3 years, 2 months ago on How to Kill Your Blog in 10 Easy Steps

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Hi, Danny. I am still too young to kill my blog. :D But, maybe you can offer me easy steps on how to kill someone else's blog next time. What do you think?

3 years, 2 months ago on How to Kill Your Blog in 10 Easy Steps

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@Brankica@HowieG@Danny Brown@jennalanger I can just imagine how you'll do it, Brankica. :)

3 years, 2 months ago on How to Kill Your Blog in 10 Easy Steps

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@Danny Brown@marianne.worley@NancyD68 I don't know if we're talking about the same person, Danny, but yeah, respect lost from me as well.

3 years, 2 months ago on How to Kill Your Blog in 10 Easy Steps

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@marianne.worley@NancyD68 I hear you on that, Marianne. Been getting that, too, from this blogger that I really admired. I am thankfully staying away from that A-list blogger now. I've learned my lesson, thank you.

3 years, 2 months ago on How to Kill Your Blog in 10 Easy Steps

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"I am a rock. I am an island." (I'm singing the song as I type, but I like S&G's version better :D)

Now, that is not true, Jack, and I am glad that you realize that. There are people who are willing to listen about what you are going through and offer their support in different ways. These people will help you make dire situations into advantages.

Chin up, Jack. No matter how corny this may sound, but there is always a rainbow after the rain and a silver lining to a cloud. :D

3 years, 2 months ago on The Best Bloggers Are Storytellers

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@TheJackB If there is a guy I would want on my side defending me from something, that would definitely be John Clark. ;)

It is actually hard to find a firm favorite from S&G. :D Their songs are great. I even like At the Zoo and Mrs. Robinson. :D

3 years, 2 months ago on 5 Favorites

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@TheJackB Stephen King is one of the best ever. :) I'm reading one of his latest books now, Under the Dome. It is great. :D

My favorite Simon and Garfunkel song is El Condor Pasa. :)

And, I love John Clark and Jack Ryan. Have you read Clark's story in Without Remorse? :D

3 years, 2 months ago on 5 Favorites

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