Jessica Northey
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Music. Radio. TV. General Snarkasm. Use/Follow #CMchat a 24/7 Country Music Community w/LIVE Twitter Chat Mon's 6-7pPT & #Twangout here: http://plus.google.com/+JessicaNorthey Tucson, AZ / Nashville, TN ·
I've been hesitant to even comment because it just feels like it would be "poking an alligator."
To be completely honest I don't understand what's going on here exactly, but think it's become an emotional train wreck as stated by various folks, from various positions. I won't even dignify certain things with a comment, or explanation.
I believe that the spirit of this post was to step away from being a lynch mob, and encourage discussion, so how did it lead back to to name calling, and personal attacks?
I have healthy and heated debates and conversations with people, all the time. Especially about music choices. In fact that is one of my favorite things about Social Media, the lively discussions about hot topics. But going after people for personal stuff: not cool....not healthy...not productive...not for me.
Originally, I liked a single post on Facebook. Although I will say when I think about it, wasn't my place to pass judgement on anyone for their usage of Social Media, that's not my brand, my MO and that's not my position of authority. How you use Social Media is your business. PERIOD. And if it's working for you and your brand, FIST BUMPS!
After I saw a comment that had a derogatory remark about Dabneys body, I removed my like immediately. That made me uncomfortable, and to her I am sorry that happened, I think I even wrote "smh" after I unliked the original post, meaning "scratching my head" or "why is that necessary" to Jure. He knows. I even called him and we talked. The post got deleted anyways. Thought it was over there....til I woke up a day or so later being attacked. Did that make me happy, no. Did it make me want to attack back....eh, well maybe at first, then I remembered what I learned from my Gramma: "If it don't apply, let it fly."
I think we all struggle with doing the right thing, and wanting to be liked. I can tell you that I don't do things to be popular. I do my business for myself, and my clients, then I shut the computer off, have a life and go to bed at night. I don't even think about any of you, or this, til I wake up the next day, and have to work again...and can assure you, I don't think about things like THIS crap. At all.
And I know at the end of the day I am good person. I definitely don't deserve to be dragged through the mud, and neither do my friends or especially my family. Seriously....I am baffled at the ridiculous lengths to try to "expose" others some have gone. It's just pure silly.
Someone forwarded me this disclaimer Dabney wrote distancing herself from these people attacking others on her behalf, as you originally asked her to address above. For the sake of ending all this crap, and moving on, I accept it. http://www.twitlonger.com/show/n_1rk2372
As for the Boston stuff....dang my heart sure hurts for what happened there. I think everyone is emotional and we want to blame someone for the bad thing that happened. Our culture seems to want us to point fingers at others. But when we point a finger at someone else, must remember there are 3 pointing back at us. I really can't judge how others deal with tragedy.
Maybe we just need our own perfect plan for how to deal with bad things. I try to pray and meditate. Been doing that for a few years now. I actually prayed before I wrote this. I said, "God through me, not by me."
I am SO NOT perfect. I screw stuff up ALL THE TIME and I am my worst critic. I just try to be the best me I can be.
So next time you want to be "Judge, Jury and Executioner" go look in the mirror. Start with that person. That's my plan.
well anyways...that's my 2 pennies.
*the past few days LOL
I needed to read this. I love your positive attitude. It's funny cause a lot of times I am telling people to ignore/block and dont engage. I have seen some crazy stuff happen the few days.
I guess I forgot to remember all of this stuff. Thanks for the reminder. xo
@wordwhacker WHATEVER. you get a TON of credit online. At least I have to say you are on my list right next to my buddy Hank, Merle and Blake ;) XOXO
One of the reasons I stay in Tucson is because I know that if I have to be out of town for an extended amount of time that Sissy has a safe place to stay. I was in Nashville 5+ months last year and Sissy was with
I had to speak/attend a conference one day and was gone for about 8 hours. I was worried the WHOLE time. What was Sissy doing, did the person I was staying with take her out to go to the bathroom, make sure that if anyone was coming in or going out that she didn't "take herself for a walk", would they remember to give her her medicine, make sure she has water, food. It was snowing out and would they keep her warm and remember to put her coat on her if they took her out for a walk..etc. etc. blah blah blah.
When I leave her with my mom I still miss her, but NEVER worry about ANYTHING.
I think that you being able to give that to your children is more special that you will ever know.
@PamMktgNut (from the facebook wall post) tee-her >>> I dont get annoyed as much as bothered by people who tend to practice "reciprocation" methods of Social Media ie I will post your stuff if you post mine. Post it because you like it....PERIOD.
As I have changed my focus more on Country Music and Entertainment...sometimes posts about quantum physics and your techno community don't really fit mine. I respect that you may see something of mine you want to share but when people DM/email me or try to pressure me to tweet/post things that make no sense for my community they are being the opposite of what they think are. Sharing someones stuff JUST so they will share yours is kinda shady, if ya ask me. I love ya Pam AND totally get you :) XOXXO
TRULY GREAT POST PAM! so many points. You are so insightful! LOVE YA!
@ginidietrich i wonder if you can find the Scream costume in pink. >>> now *THAT* would be even cooler. LOVE YA GAL.
Great points Gini. Sadly, I lost 4 friends in the past month.
And talk about throwing salt into a wound....they all participate in Social Media.
One of them had a birthday this week and imagine the shock seeing the reminder on Facebook. CREEPY.
We quipped on my Facebook about "tweets from the grave"....what they would say from a humorous standpoint BUT there is no way I was prepared to see a nudge to say happy birthday so soon.
So sad. so very sad. Can only imagine what his family felt.
I don't even know who I would give all my passwords to??
PS
I still want someone to wear a Scream costume to my funeral. That IS going in my will too.
@ginidietrich you always make me think. I was popular in high school/college but paid a price for it. There was this awful social stigma to have, say and do the right 'things" looking back it kinda sucked and I wish I could get a do-over. I was SO unpopular on the inside. My family was straight one-degree above KidRockTrailerTrash and just about a Redneck. I never wanted anyone to come to my house. I was scared what they would think. I had book smarts but also didn't want ANYONE to know cause I was a cheerleader, drama, student council. I remember being so embarrassed of my upbringing." >>>fast forward to adulthood have learned "you can't compare your insides to other peoples outsides."
Needless to say popularity NOT so much fun.
I love both you & @RedheadWriting cause ya'all show me how to play by the rules=YOUR OWN RULES and run your own race no matter what.
Honestly I work in Country Music and tech industry....I am not normal in most ways. I am unpopular with both sides and on a GOOD it's an uphill battle.However I am making my dreams come dreams true by taking the road LESS traveled!
I can't wait to read this book!!!!! <3 u Gini.
Great post Arik!
I am glad you mentioned the reasons and criteria above. My background is radio/broadcasting and I have done all those conferences *NAB, Arbitron, Conclave, Neilsen, AllAccess, Billboard, A&R, WorldWide Radio Summit, Convergence, CRS, Morning Show Boot Camp* blah blah blah and while I am honored to be part of that world, I always miss the female voice. That might sound silly but having strong women role models can be hard to come by. I love to see Sarah Palin speak, she is amazing but she's not specifically my role model and not meant in any political way whatsoever.
Where I came from women got into radio/TV usually by being the receptionist, weather, news or traffic girl, (yes that IS what they called us) and then by some chance got a break and became the co-host of a morning show. But only a co-host. Not a first chair, especially in the Country Music Industry, where I hang my hat.
I work with musicians, celebrities, record labels, Radio and TV stations helping them use Social Media their way. It was my final full time job in radio was building social presence on our website and other platforms. I also have my own presence as a Digital Daypart/Online Personality/Correspondent/Community Manager and host of a 24/7 online hashtag community called Country Music chat #CMchat. I am not a Social Media guru nor do I have a book to sell.
So because of what I do now I started going to some of the Social Media conferences to learn and obviously to find mentors/role models and once again, I am not seeing a lot of strong women who are using social media, but work in some other industry. Just women who work full time in the Social Media industry selling books and services. I am also seeing the same speakers at every major conference and still NOT women.
SO what I am saying is it would be cool to find some women who are using Social media to do things in an industry that is not social media, meaning not selling/teaching/showing others how to use it. Does this make sense? It would just be cool to hear some experience, strengths and hopes.
Was just something I have thought about and talked to other women in various industries searching for allies, role models and mentors.
=Hope you are having a great week. nice to meet you!
I am so sorry for your loss. I don't know what to say through my teary eyes and I share your love for these amazing angels God blesses out lives with.
I hope you can feel my thoughts and prayers. They are stronger than any words can write.HUGS, MORE HUGS and HUGS AGAIN. xo
Thank you so much! I am honored to join such an amazing team of extraordinary people!
I am more than thrilled to start 2012 off with a #BOOM of in'KRED'ible-ness!
Thanks for having me!
prosperitygal I love how you always tell it like it is. Good stuff sister! :)
NOD. You know I don't mind the "Comment with saccharine niceties" as much as the people who comment/post/tweet and tell you what they think of your headline and it is lame or just out of context because they didn't even read it.
Welcome to short attention span theater...we are....Hey wheres the popcorn.
TonyBennettPamMktgNut thank you! I am always thinking when I read anything from margieclayman what a jewel in the crown of life she is.
PamMktgNut I love and adore you too Pam! We might have a funny looking obstacle track to run but we have those cars that are linked together, and we get to drive with passion, and the Grace of God as our guiding light!
I totally know what you are talking about. It is like that in the broadcasting world. I mean *exactly* like that, even worse cause these adult children do it in front each other, not online where they can hide. I have this mentor who I think walks on water but has stepped on a couple toes, so when I wanna quote him or I am at conference and speak about him, some people roll their eyes. I don't care.
I love the Dixie Chicks but they are very controversial in the Country Music industry and many people wont have anything to do with them for reasons that have nothing to do with their music.
THAT said, I believe that looking back Natalie (lead singer of Dixie Chicks) might have brought that on herself AND she never apologized or tried to explain why she said what she said. I LOVE THAT ABOUT HER>
If I believe in my conviction I do not have to explain them or apologize for them. That what being in a "free world" means and it's PUNDIT 101.
HOWEVER Somewhere on the way to the top people are held to a different standard and when they do things people don't like, instead of just mom , dad and your neighbor noticing, it is a much bigger audience.Take a look at the people being called out...odds are they did something someone didn't like. It happens. Being a pundit comes with a certain backlash and you have to be ready to except those consequences.
I am with you....like the Swiss, not the cheese, I am neutral cause sometimes the people I like do things I don't like and other times people I don't like do things I think are really cool.
I just want to run my own race and be true to what I know will make me feel good about myself, and what will free my conscience when I lay my head down to sleep at night.
I guess I am on #TeamPink
Congratulations! I am #Tebowing for ya!