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OH WOW...the website is amazing. I hate hearing "We spend our days surrounded by people who need to tear us down in order to build themselves up" from you because I've always thought you're so perfect and have your shit together, never thought or think about that you have crazies around you criticizing you....I love that you know you're normal and you're good enough...so bear with me but that makes me think, that I am ok...cause when i doubt and have crappy people around me...I get wicked in my head.
But knowing it happens to the best of us is a beacon of light...it's like a relief. it's really hard. But today I feel Good Enough and I know God has back when all else fails. :D
2 months ago on How to Be Good Enough OR Why I Suck at Making Cornbread
I've been hesitant to even comment because it just feels like it would be "poking an alligator."
To be completely honest I don't understand what's going on here exactly, but think it's become an emotional train wreck as stated by various folks, from various positions. I won't even dignify certain things with a comment, or explanation.
I believe that the spirit of this post was to step away from being a lynch mob, and encourage discussion, so how did it lead back to to name calling, and personal attacks?
I have healthy and heated debates and conversations with people, all the time. Especially about music choices. In fact that is one of my favorite things about Social Media, the lively discussions about hot topics. But going after people for personal stuff: not cool....not healthy...not productive...not for me.
Originally, I liked a single post on Facebook. Although I will say when I think about it, wasn't my place to pass judgement on anyone for their usage of Social Media, that's not my brand, my MO and that's not my position of authority. How you use Social Media is your business. PERIOD. And if it's working for you and your brand, FIST BUMPS!
After I saw a comment that had a derogatory remark about Dabneys body, I removed my like immediately. That made me uncomfortable, and to her I am sorry that happened, I think I even wrote "smh" after I unliked the original post, meaning "scratching my head" or "why is that necessary" to Jure. He knows. I even called him and we talked. The post got deleted anyways. Thought it was over there....til I woke up a day or so later being attacked. Did that make me happy, no. Did it make me want to attack back....eh, well maybe at first, then I remembered what I learned from my Gramma: "If it don't apply, let it fly."
I think we all struggle with doing the right thing, and wanting to be liked. I can tell you that I don't do things to be popular. I do my business for myself, and my clients, then I shut the computer off, have a life and go to bed at night. I don't even think about any of you, or this, til I wake up the next day, and have to work again...and can assure you, I don't think about things like THIS crap. At all.
And I know at the end of the day I am good person. I definitely don't deserve to be dragged through the mud, and neither do my friends or especially my family. Seriously....I am baffled at the ridiculous lengths to try to "expose" others some have gone. It's just pure silly.
Someone forwarded me this disclaimer Dabney wrote distancing herself from these people attacking others on her behalf, as you originally asked her to address above. For the sake of ending all this crap, and moving on, I accept it. http://www.twitlonger.com/show/n_1rk2372
As for the Boston stuff....dang my heart sure hurts for what happened there. I think everyone is emotional and we want to blame someone for the bad thing that happened. Our culture seems to want us to point fingers at others. But when we point a finger at someone else, must remember there are 3 pointing back at us. I really can't judge how others deal with tragedy.
Maybe we just need our own perfect plan for how to deal with bad things. I try to pray and meditate. Been doing that for a few years now. I actually prayed before I wrote this. I said, "God through me, not by me."
I am SO NOT perfect. I screw stuff up ALL THE TIME and I am my worst critic. I just try to be the best me I can be.
So next time you want to be "Judge, Jury and Executioner" go look in the mirror. Start with that person. That's my plan.
well anyways...that's my 2 pennies.
1 year, 3 months ago on Social Judge, Jury and Executioner: The Lynch Mob in Action
*the past few days LOL
1 year, 3 months ago on Staying positive when negative attitudes fly online
I needed to read this. I love your positive attitude. It's funny cause a lot of times I am telling people to ignore/block and dont engage. I have seen some crazy stuff happen the few days.
I guess I forgot to remember all of this stuff. Thanks for the reminder. xo
@wordwhacker WHATEVER. you get a TON of credit online. At least I have to say you are on my list right next to my buddy Hank, Merle and Blake ;) XOXO
1 year, 11 months ago on 100 People Who Don’t Get Enough Credit Online
One of the reasons I stay in Tucson is because I know that if I have to be out of town for an extended amount of time that Sissy has a safe place to stay. I was in Nashville 5+ months last year and Sissy was with
I had to speak/attend a conference one day and was gone for about 8 hours. I was worried the WHOLE time. What was Sissy doing, did the person I was staying with take her out to go to the bathroom, make sure that if anyone was coming in or going out that she didn't "take herself for a walk", would they remember to give her her medicine, make sure she has water, food. It was snowing out and would they keep her warm and remember to put her coat on her if they took her out for a walk..etc. etc. blah blah blah.
When I leave her with my mom I still miss her, but NEVER worry about ANYTHING.
I think that you being able to give that to your children is more special that you will ever know.
1 year, 11 months ago on Our Children, Their Pets
@PamMktgNut (from the facebook wall post) tee-her >>> I dont get annoyed as much as bothered by people who tend to practice "reciprocation" methods of Social Media ie I will post your stuff if you post mine. Post it because you like it....PERIOD.
As I have changed my focus more on Country Music and Entertainment...sometimes posts about quantum physics and your techno community don't really fit mine. I respect that you may see something of mine you want to share but when people DM/email me or try to pressure me to tweet/post things that make no sense for my community they are being the opposite of what they think are. Sharing someones stuff JUST so they will share yours is kinda shady, if ya ask me. I love ya Pam AND totally get you :) XOXXO
1 year, 11 months ago on I Respect Your Social Media Community - Do You Respect Mine?
TRULY GREAT POST PAM! so many points. You are so insightful! LOVE YA!
@ginidietrich i wonder if you can find the Scream costume in pink. >>> now *THAT* would be even cooler. LOVE YA GAL.
2 years, 3 months ago on Protecting Your Online You After You Die
Great points Gini. Sadly, I lost 4 friends in the past month.
And talk about throwing salt into a wound....they all participate in Social Media.
One of them had a birthday this week and imagine the shock seeing the reminder on Facebook. CREEPY.
We quipped on my Facebook about "tweets from the grave"....what they would say from a humorous standpoint BUT there is no way I was prepared to see a nudge to say happy birthday so soon.
So sad. so very sad. Can only imagine what his family felt.
I don't even know who I would give all my passwords to??
I still want someone to wear a Scream costume to my funeral. That IS going in my will too.
@ginidietrich you always make me think. I was popular in high school/college but paid a price for it. There was this awful social stigma to have, say and do the right 'things" looking back it kinda sucked and I wish I could get a do-over. I was SO unpopular on the inside. My family was straight one-degree above KidRockTrailerTrash and just about a Redneck. I never wanted anyone to come to my house. I was scared what they would think. I had book smarts but also didn't want ANYONE to know cause I was a cheerleader, drama, student council. I remember being so embarrassed of my upbringing." >>>fast forward to adulthood have learned "you can't compare your insides to other peoples outsides."
Needless to say popularity NOT so much fun.
I love both you & @RedheadWriting cause ya'all show me how to play by the rules=YOUR OWN RULES and run your own race no matter what.
Honestly I work in Country Music and tech industry....I am not normal in most ways. I am unpopular with both sides and on a GOOD it's an uphill battle.However I am making my dreams come dreams true by taking the road LESS traveled!
I can't wait to read this book!!!!! <3 u Gini.
2 years, 4 months ago on Book Review: The Power of Unpopular
Great post Arik!
I am glad you mentioned the reasons and criteria above. My background is radio/broadcasting and I have done all those conferences *NAB, Arbitron, Conclave, Neilsen, AllAccess, Billboard, A&R, WorldWide Radio Summit, Convergence, CRS, Morning Show Boot Camp* blah blah blah and while I am honored to be part of that world, I always miss the female voice. That might sound silly but having strong women role models can be hard to come by. I love to see Sarah Palin speak, she is amazing but she's not specifically my role model and not meant in any political way whatsoever.
Where I came from women got into radio/TV usually by being the receptionist, weather, news or traffic girl, (yes that IS what they called us) and then by some chance got a break and became the co-host of a morning show. But only a co-host. Not a first chair, especially in the Country Music Industry, where I hang my hat.
I work with musicians, celebrities, record labels, Radio and TV stations helping them use Social Media their way. It was my final full time job in radio was building social presence on our website and other platforms. I also have my own presence as a Digital Daypart/Online Personality/Correspondent/Community Manager and host of a 24/7 online hashtag community called Country Music chat #CMchat. I am not a Social Media guru nor do I have a book to sell.
So because of what I do now I started going to some of the Social Media conferences to learn and obviously to find mentors/role models and once again, I am not seeing a lot of strong women who are using social media, but work in some other industry. Just women who work full time in the Social Media industry selling books and services. I am also seeing the same speakers at every major conference and still NOT women.
SO what I am saying is it would be cool to find some women who are using Social media to do things in an industry that is not social media, meaning not selling/teaching/showing others how to use it. Does this make sense? It would just be cool to hear some experience, strengths and hopes.
Was just something I have thought about and talked to other women in various industries searching for allies, role models and mentors.
=Hope you are having a great week. nice to meet you!
2 years, 4 months ago on 4 questions–and 4 action steps–when selecting a social media speaker for your next event
I am so sorry for your loss. I don't know what to say through my teary eyes and I share your love for these amazing angels God blesses out lives with.
I hope you can feel my thoughts and prayers. They are stronger than any words can write.HUGS, MORE HUGS and HUGS AGAIN. xo
2 years, 4 months ago on A Boy And (The Loss Of) His Dog
HA...I do this as often as possible. I LOVE being a slacker. It RAWKS!
2 years, 5 months ago on Take a day off already!
Thank you so much! I am honored to join such an amazing team of extraordinary people!
I am more than thrilled to start 2012 off with a #BOOM of in'KRED'ible-ness!
Thanks for having me!
2 years, 5 months ago on Announcing our first Kred Leaders: Zem Joaquin, Sean Gardner and Jessica Northey
@prosperitygal I love how you always tell it like it is. Good stuff sister! :)
2 years, 6 months ago on Are you actually reading this?
NOD. You know I don't mind the "Comment with saccharine niceties" as much as the people who comment/post/tweet and tell you what they think of your headline and it is lame or just out of context because they didn't even read it.
Welcome to short attention span theater...we are....Hey wheres the popcorn.
@TonyBennett@PamMktgNut thank you! I am always thinking when I read anything from @margieclayman what a jewel in the crown of life she is.
2 years, 6 months ago on Sorry, but I’m not taking sides
@PamMktgNut I love and adore you too Pam! We might have a funny looking obstacle track to run but we have those cars that are linked together, and we get to drive with passion, and the Grace of God as our guiding light!
I totally know what you are talking about. It is like that in the broadcasting world. I mean *exactly* like that, even worse cause these adult children do it in front each other, not online where they can hide. I have this mentor who I think walks on water but has stepped on a couple toes, so when I wanna quote him or I am at conference and speak about him, some people roll their eyes. I don't care.
I love the Dixie Chicks but they are very controversial in the Country Music industry and many people wont have anything to do with them for reasons that have nothing to do with their music.
THAT said, I believe that looking back Natalie (lead singer of Dixie Chicks) might have brought that on herself AND she never apologized or tried to explain why she said what she said. I LOVE THAT ABOUT HER>
If I believe in my conviction I do not have to explain them or apologize for them. That what being in a "free world" means and it's PUNDIT 101.
HOWEVER Somewhere on the way to the top people are held to a different standard and when they do things people don't like, instead of just mom , dad and your neighbor noticing, it is a much bigger audience.Take a look at the people being called out...odds are they did something someone didn't like. It happens. Being a pundit comes with a certain backlash and you have to be ready to except those consequences.
I am with you....like the Swiss, not the cheese, I am neutral cause sometimes the people I like do things I don't like and other times people I don't like do things I think are really cool.
I just want to run my own race and be true to what I know will make me feel good about myself, and what will free my conscience when I lay my head down to sleep at night.
I guess I am on #TeamPink
Congratulations! I am #Tebowing for ya!
2 years, 6 months ago on My Change In 2012: New Year, New Career
I think thats why they changed it to LIKE pages and I think it depends on the person. I get about 50-100 friend requests on facebook a day. I didn't use Facebook as effectively as i wish I had going as far back to 2005 or 2006 when I started. I kinda treated it like Myspace...what did we know right?
I was in radio and meeting listeners and other industry professionals all over the country and I didn't want to be that "bratty" chick who didn't accept friend requests so I said yes.
I have made all kinds of changes over the years but....with all that said....for all the people who think they need a fan page, for whatever reason, you can now just subscribe to peoples personal pages without them having to friend you.
As you know, I am sure facebook only lets you have 5000 friends (that includes the pages you like) strangely.
thats my 2 pennies.
2 years, 6 months ago on Why there will never be a Margie Clayman Facebook Fan Page
@ginidietrich ah Gini...you are magnificent. xo
2 years, 10 months ago on Social Media, Pretend Friends, and the Lie of False Intimacy
ahhhh moving day. that is always bitter sweet! I wish you lots of luck and send you tons hugs and even more great wishes!! xoxxo
2 years, 11 months ago on The Story Of A House- The Final Days
@ginidietrich he's such a pervvy pup!! love that little wiener-doodle!
2 years, 11 months ago on Leadership Lessons In Washington
@ginidietrich OR we could do the "whole" actor thing again ;)
PS if I were president I would have had my birthday at a strip club with hot wings and cold beer...that would have been tops! (sorry Congressman Pedro took over)
WOW Gini! very very powerful and well written. After reading this I am kind of angry with Obama. I was starting to like him but this made me sick to my stomach.
It's such a strange world we live in. So much to worry and wonder about. The future leadership scares me. I was a PoliSci major in college and have lost hope in political leaders.
Honestly... think we need to say to hell with Politicians and vote for an Accountant in 2012...whaddaya think about that? cc @ginidietrich
@PegFitzpatrick back at ya sister! xo
2 years, 11 months ago on 12 Most Off-the-Wall Questions People Have Asked Me on Twitter
@Justicewordlaw no kidding!!! got an offer for a years supply of diapers this morning! LOL
@janetcallaway LOL it was before I got the wienie boy! :D
@profkrg not yet...YET means You're Eligible Too! LOL
that's funny cause last week I wrote a post called "There's no place like Social Media" http://fingercandymedia.com/6060-repeat-after-me-theres-no-place-like-social-media-2
2 years, 11 months ago on The Wizard of Oz & 3 Keys to Social Media Success
I love Mr @DannyBrown good stuff here for sure! thanks for being you, and being so wonderful at that.
I am always inspired by something...usually my animals, friends or entertainment.Often it happens while I am taking shower, oddly. Now there's a blog post...where are you when you get inspired...a bet a lot of people will say the porcelain throne, eh? xo
2 years, 11 months ago on 10 Free Blog Topics to Help You Get Your Blog On
great post Jamie. Monkeys would probably be better at radio too :) if they could talk but since PPM tells us to talk less and play more music they might be better at that too.thanks for sharing!
2 years, 11 months ago on Why Monkeys Are Better Equipped for Social Media Than Most Businesses
I always say blog because you want to. I go through phases where I blog everyday then sometimes I don't for a week. i have been very inspired lately...don't know what has gotten into me but I figure I will ride the wave til I fall off, right?
thanks for always being supportive of me. I truly enjoy you and getting to know you! xo
2 years, 11 months ago on Blogging Is Not An Obligation
@3HatsComm what does FWIW mean?
2 years, 12 months ago on Stop Broadcasting and Start Communicasting!
@mqtodd nope...I do not agree, but I love just the same and I dont really care about EA or what anyone else does. Its all about me LOL Run your Own race! xo
@BetsyKCross I thought I answered this. I work from home and manage several online communities and constantly looking over clients social media accounts. I have really bad ADD and multitask like a fool!
Just do what you want. There is no one keeping score, right. And end of day it's all about you and what you can live with, right? xo
I love this! Did something similar to this for a radio station I used to work at we all did a soundtrack of our life...I have to find it and share it. It's a lovely idea! your music taste is awesome!! :D
2 years, 12 months ago on The Soundtrack of My Life
@MeghanMBiro thanks Meghan! glad you liked!
2 years, 12 months ago on 12 Most Off-the-Wall Questions People Have Asked Me on Twitter
@pbehnia and if you want directions....lol
@PegFitzpatrick stop it! I love you Peg! Thanks for helping with this! xo
@marcymassura I heard this one the other week: "I am married but my penis is dating." LOL
@jureklepic ha ha! xo you are so sweet! so glad to be friends with you! xo
@LisaLadrido it is always nice to have some humor throughout the day! Lol
@danielnewmanUV touche'. I didn't mean to "out" you! xo
This is a great post! I love the way that @guykawasaki is using Google+ and how he is giving back to the community! thank goodness!
2 years, 12 months ago on 12 Most Enchanting Features of Google+
prolly not appropriate but I remember reading this book from PJ ORoarke called Modern Manners and the "go to the bathroom" meant they were doing cocaine in the 80s. I am sure it still happens..do people still do that in the bathrooms?
3 years ago on 12 Most Pressing Reasons Why Girls Go to the Ladies’ Room (so Frequently)
hi Jack! thanks for this wonderful blog post! you are so sweet and wonderful!
3 years ago on To Protect And To Serve