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Excellent post Kaarina.
Love the saying. Sadly, the converse is also true. If the leader is scattered, disjointed or not so speedy, so go the team and the organization. As leaders, we set the tone, whether we realize it or not.
10 months ago on Passionate Leadership Is Contagious
Very nice blog update! And good training with and for the interns. Makes a strong statement about being committed to the future- yours and theirs. @Martina McGowan
1 year, 3 months ago on Welcome to the Mantis Technology Group Blog
Very nice blog update! And good training with and for the interns. Makes a strong statement about being committed to the future- yours and theirs.
Congrats for sticking with it. Have done this journey myself.
1 year, 4 months ago on The Happy Friday Series: Taekwondo Humbled
The answer to your last few questions, Margie is yes.
1 year, 7 months ago on I Heard A Fly Buzz When I Signed Off
Good post, Nick.
I think you are correct, this will not end well for many. I think that people will find that they already have a preferred way to read, collect, curate and manage the things they care about the most.
For instance, I came across this post in my Triberr stream where I go every day. Many of the tweets from yesterday were from a particular electronic mag I catch up on once a week. As my interests continue to morph, grow and in some cases coalesce, so do my reading habits and the services I use to "consume" them.
I think many will discover that even though they may have had 1000 titles in their Google Reader feed, they weren't really looking at most of them.
1 year, 9 months ago on Hey Honey I Shrunk My Differentiation: Death by News Feed
Good post, Kelly.
I have gone white water rafting a number of times with my own children and with friends. It is an awesome time for team-building and helping people see what they are really made of. There isn't much time to waffle, whine or finger-point while you're running the rapids. Know who you are, know what you can do, do your job, and depend on everyone else to do their's.
1 year, 10 months ago on 12 Most Self Serving Benefits of Youth Mentoring
@Reach4MoJOYRN Thank you.
1 year, 10 months ago on 12 Most Self-Absorbed Ways to Destroy Your Credibility
Good post Patrick.
I completely agree that if we are going to examine and try to eradicate the problem of bad behavior, then everyone needs to start with self-examination, including the pastor. And, if we cannot examine ourselves, then we need to keep people around us who will speak truth and honesty into our lives. I think as pastor's rise in the church hierarchy, they have fewer and fewer people in their inner circle. Some of this, I am sure is by design.
Pastor's are human, and make all of the same mistakes the rest of us do. But if their egos have blinded the leader so much that he or she cannot be spoken to about issues such as the ones you have discussed, then it may be time to look deeply into your heart and prayerfully consider moving on.
1 year, 10 months ago on What If It’s the Pastor Behaving Badly?
Good points, as always Margie.
No, its not a social media only issue, it is a societal issue. For women, we are often taught as girls to try not to overshadow our male counterparts. We then embrace this behavior as normal, and ultimately work hard not to overshadow anyone. We all do it, and the we are mortified that someone thinks that we are not smart.
Like Doug, I am genuinely curious and always have been. Does this sometimes eclipse what other people want to know or are interested in? Yes, of course.
But we each have to find that middle ground where we learn to be comfortable with who we are/ who we wish to become, and being humble. The fact that we wish to be humble should not make us appear to be stupid, and it should not boost anyone else's ego at our expense.
When we can tear down the societal falsehoods that we have learned to embrace, we can approach some level of feeling that the sexes are similar in their intelligence, gifts and talents, if not truly equal.
When we each learn who we are, and accept it, we can learn to communicate without feeling the need to use self-deprecating language to get by.
1 year, 10 months ago on Women, We Need to Stop Calling Ourselves Stupid
Good points Patrick.
Yes, we are ambassadors of Christ, but more importantly we are ambassador's of the message, which is LOVE.
Sadly, we show little love for our own "kind," and even less for those we deem to be different. If we cannot project this to each other, more especially with the world watching, why should anyone follow us, not just on Twitter or Facebook, but anywhere else?
1 year, 11 months ago on A Tale of Two Pastors on Inauguration Day
Agreed, Jayme. Organic growth is best. I have often seen ads for "buying" followers, and have never been able to understand why those followers, if they were indeed real, would stay with you.
Much of my growth has been through chats. I have seen a few blogs recently about brands sponsoring chats. I am not sure that would bring them more business, but is probably something worth investigating if they are after more Twitter followers.
I don't use any of the unfollow tools either. I am woefully behind in following back because I do it manually, but it gives me a chance to actually interact with some of my followers.
I saw further in this thread there was discussion about Zemanta. I have been using it for a few weeks. Recently, it has started pulling some of my blogs into the suggestion box. I always go out and check the link before I add it.
1 year, 11 months ago on Brand Engagement And Organic Twitter Followers
Good choices, Doug, and straight to the point. This, I think is the essence of what everyone is striving for with their "three words," or resolutions, or whatever they do for that push forward. Its a good year for all of us to get busy and "do the work!"
1 year, 11 months ago on My 3 Word Mantra for 2013 (and Beyond)
Wise counsel, Margie, of course. I am a relative newbie and have seen some of the transformations you talk about. Most of the real engagement for me has come from a handful of chats. These have given opportunities to get to know people better and develop real friendships and relationships; especially in those chats where selling your stuff is strongly discouraged.
In terms of the selling, I think many people on Twitter, as well as some of the other platforms have forgotten that in order to make a sale, especially if you'd like to do it more than once requires spending time in building a relationship.
New people, of which I still count myself as one, are at a major disadvantage if they don't stumble into people who remember being a newbie, people who are willing to take a little time to help or explain something, or wander into chats that offer some value to them.
The following and unfollowing, I cannot address. I still do that manually, and remain woefully behind. The issue, I think is not whether others celebrate us as celebrities, but what we think of ourselves and what we are doing.
It all continues to change as we each determine how to use it best, as do we. Like life, its a work in progress and we learn as we do. You have to figure out what works, what doesn't, and where you are headed.
1 year, 11 months ago on The State of Twitter, 2013
1 year, 11 months ago on Only One Resolution: Accept Less Mediocrity
We all accept mediocrity. It becomes a way of life, a way of getting through our much too busy lives. I agree that the last person we should accept it from is ourselves. Once we can accept responsibility for keeping ourselves accountable, we naturally expect others to do the same. An awesome resolution, Sam. I'm in.
@nickkellet @Martina McGowan Thanks, will do. It goes live in the morning.
1 year, 11 months ago on In 2013 Let’s Be Worthy Together – #MyThreeWords
Good choices, Nick. I have two set up for sure- "arete" and "service," almost have the third under control. :)
@DixieLil Often people forget that there are a few people floating around on their own, and that they need to make a conscious effort to reach out to them. I've tried to supply a few pratical ideas to get through the season. Thanks, Dixie.
1 year, 11 months ago on 12 Most Realistic Ideas for Getting Through the Holidays on Your Own
Yes, Margie, I have. Thanks for sharing yours. I don't normally do resolutions, but I tried "Three Words" last year and had awesome results. I have 2 of next year's words sorted out, honing in on the third.
Looking forward to sharing a truly awesome year with you and the "gang."
1 year, 11 months ago on Looking Forward to An Amazing 2013
Thank you Margie, I am flattered. And, you have given me a few to catch up on. Thanks for curating and sharing.
2 years ago on My 100 Favorite Posts of 2012
I am interested Jason.
2 years ago on My latest crazy idea – and how you can help
Good post Rachael. As a doc well-immersed in social media for my other interests in life, I can see the great potential that lies ahead for expansion.
Two other issues that you have not brought up still concern me though. Yhe first is that many docs don't work for themselves, they are employed. They must therefore convince their employers of that age old question, "what's the ROI?" How much will it cost the employer, who is going to do it,and how will it be billed.
The second is a little thornier. HIPAA is a valid concern, and can be handled with adequate encryption, I think. But the fact is that we live in a litigious age. Once again, what's your exposure when things go wrong? These are matters which will have to be sorted out by legislation and the insurance carriers.
Good post, and I look forward to watching it evolve to catch up with the rest of the world.
2 years ago on Social Media: The Key to Transforming Doctor-Patient Communication
My favs are the darers and the forgetful.
I am always blessed by those who seem to overlook my own forgetfulness, occasional lack of tact, busyness and human-ness. They remind me of who I can be.
I have always had a few darers in my life. My first was mu fourth grade teacher. And those few words, "You can do better..." made all the difference in my life. It is also something I have continued to pay forward.
Thanks for sharing and reminding us Kelly.
2 years ago on 12 Most Earnest People to Thank
2 years ago on 12 Most Sane Strategies for Managing your Anger
2 years, 1 month ago on 12 Most Sane Strategies for Managing your Anger
@terez07 Thanks Terez. An excellent point. Never assume that people are always going to have your back if you never show them any appreciation. Everyone benefits from a little limelight and celebration.
2 years, 1 month ago on 12 Most Self-Absorbed Ways to Destroy Your Credibility
Thank you Karim.
Agreed, Becky! The hardest part is taking a breath or a step back just as you are about to burst into flames. But an important thing that we must realize as we work with others is that we cannot (or should not) let others drag us around and manipulate us by understanding our emotional triggers and flashpoints better than we do ourselves.
You make a good point. Whether the benefit is for ourselves or those we care for, learning how to control angry outbursts are an important part of our skill-sets. That's great that you are helping your child work through this early in life. Learning to control it and rechannel it into something more useful will serve her well as an adult.
Thanks for taking the time to read and comment.
The quenchless quiescence leader. That's who I want to be, work for and partner with. Good, educational post as always Brian.
2 years, 1 month ago on 12 Most Quirky “Q” Qualities of Great Leaders
Agreed Ralph, no one is calm all the time. But our underlying goals and attitudes make all the difference in the world. Martial arts helps with perspective.
I am a 1st deg BB in TKD. I did it at an "advanced age" compared to many of the other students. That mental toughness was key when I needed to spar with people who were much younger, stronger and more agile. And you are right. I could not win every bout, but I could hang with the best. It is the same type of stamina when you decide to pursue your goals.
2 years, 1 month ago on How can the Martial Arts help us with our career path?
Important points Ralph. They may be only words, but the discipline to make it into a skill is what pulls it all together. It is a mindset that needs to be refreshed an re- sharpened often. Martial atrs also helps with learning how to focus and seek your calm center.
Love the metaphor for business as well. I
Well-said Gini. Most people skip over the very first step of determining what their goals are. It is impossible to measure, track and adjust accordingly if you don't know where you are heading. Too many businesses, I think, know that they should have some type of social presence, but instead of taking a metered approach, they use a shot-gun, trying to do something everywhere.
2 years, 2 months ago on The Complete Marketing Communications Measurement Guide
Good points Jayme. I think people need to give more serious thought to why they write and what they hope to achieve. Everyone wants traffic, and its a fine line shifting some of the tasks to automatic for visibility.
Most people, I think, want authentic relationships, and this is easily achievable when you start out. But it ultimately reaches a point where for some it becomes an overwhelming task to respond to each tweet and every comment. I have no such issues but I understand it.
One of the problems is when people get caught up in the numbers and the hard sell to virtual strangers.
As all things, automation and optimization must be tempered.
But still it comes by to why you are out here, what do you hope to accomplish, and what value do you add to people's lives.
2 years, 2 months ago on Three Things Threatening Authenticity; Do You Agree?
Thanks Gini. Needed that.
2 years, 2 months ago on Gin and Topics: Richard Simmons and Canadian Dance Moves
Sounds like a good plan Margie, and I am in.
There might be some cofusion however. The Wounded Warrior tag seems to be attached to more than one cause. It also looks to be attached to male survivors of childhood sexual assault. (fyi)
2 years, 2 months ago on #vetsmatter and we should tell them so
Yes, we all need inspiration in our lives, and TED certainly provides that well. Thanks for leaving a comment.
2 years, 2 months ago on 12 Most Lively Lifestyle Blogs
@LollyDaskal Thank you Lolly.
2 years, 3 months ago on 12 Most Superior Leadership Blogs
Will miss seeing you here, but I will see you in those other venues. Best of luck, and I understand making tough decisions.
2 years, 4 months ago on I've Been Doing It Wrong
You are of course correct Margie.
There are precious few things in life that we can control. It is all a matter of the attitude we decide to take toward a situation or set of circumstances. It doesn't matter how often we shake our fists at the sky, stamp our feet or whine, if we are going to get through. overcome or change something, we must eventually take a deep breath and do. Do it again, do it differently, start over, rearrange, think it through again, smarten up, whatever. We are stuck until we fix our thinking, choose a course forward, and start down the path.
2 years, 4 months ago on I wonder what your basis for comparison is
@newdaynewlesson Thanks for checking out the list. I'm not sure exactly what the term means either, but for most of us I think its those things we tend to think of as being outside of business and perhaps faith. But they actually filter into those as well.
2 years, 5 months ago on 12 Most Lively Lifestyle Blogs
@margieclayman I have a friend who does the same. Usually I will make some snide comment about moving to another table, or perhaps going to talk with strangers instead. I have started cutting mine off much more often. But, u r correct. It is likely a shield for many.
2 years, 5 months ago on Are You Listening?
Good post, Margie.
Listening is a skill that very much is falling by the wayside. People no longer focus on doing one thing at a time. They rarely feel they can afford to give one person their undivided attention. We have all experienced sitting in restaurants where there are two people at a table and one is doing nothing, while the other is talking or multi-tasking with their smart phone.
We miss a great deal. We miss the nuances of speech and the unspoken things that you can only see and feel in conversation. We start missing cues in our environment, and the cues that our hearts and psyches send us when things are not quite right. We ourselves speak, and don't wait for, hear or acknowlege responses. Because no one listens.
Listening is an art that must be practiced. It is also a hard, but necessary thing to do. We must be intentional in our listening efforts, and begin to remove the distractions and barriers. We have to learn to listen with open minds and hearts, and not just waiting to pounce with what we wish to say.
Your experiment: I spend full days alone and in the quiet, especially on weekends; but then again I enjoy the quiet and the solitude. I am re-charged in this setting, and I can use my listening skills better in the future.
@margieclayman It takes awareness to remember that life is a gift, however overwhelmed we may be by other thoughts and pursuits. Deepak Chopra
2 years, 5 months ago on Surviving Survivor's Guilt
@margieclayman Not sure its the difficulty of doing it, we can't sustain it. Those funeral thoughts are good, but life and other distractions pull us back into the business, and we "forget" again and again.
Yes, Margie, we forget to breathe and live, and come out of our cocoon (previous post this week). I feel the same way, as I have lost many in my life and still think of several of them daily. I have these very same thoughts whenever I am at a funeral. These moments are for the living. Stark reminders that we are alive and that we should cherish that. And, that we should not waste a moment of it that we have control over. We have been left behind, albeit temporarily, to be of service, to be of benefit to others, to do more...
Very nice, Margie. Yes we all need down-time, cocoon time. And yes, the problem is that we get comfortable in there. But fortunately most of us have good friends that coax us out into the open to share what beauty life has given us.
2 years, 5 months ago on Butterfly, Come Out of That Cocoon!