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All good reminders, Margie. Thank you. 

2 years, 4 months ago on Notice the little things

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RE: Facebook ~  I am unashamedly, one who comments without (always) scanning the entire thread. Sometimes, there just isn't enough time to scan all the comments, and I'd like to get my point in while it's still fresh. If I end up looking 'silly' in someone else's eyes...oh well. 

RE: Blog ~ I will never understand why someone replies to some, but not all comments. In my book, you should either reply or not. Speaking of books, good luck on yours!! 

2 years, 4 months ago on Commentary on Commenting

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 @margieclayman You've brightened my day on more than one occasion with your tidbits, and I appreciate that. Thing is, we don't really know most of our online friends (as you indicated), their problems could be much deeper than we know. You can give them that boost, think about them and move about your day, as you should. If they had a flat tire, no coffee that morning, bad hair day, boss getting 'em down, etc...well, okay bright spot! But if their troubles are deeper, then you're going to have to give them something more than a tidbit. But they're going to have to give you more to indicate deeper troubles, and that takes time and trust. You cannot possibly give all that time to everyone. That is why I narrow my scope of friends, and who I take the time to know and who I allow to really know me...as a friend. As you know, I went dark for about a month. Interesting that I had a couple of posts talking of troubles and I would get those boosts, but when I went away, no one knew. After I resurfaced, several people had similar stories. I also went back through my friends list and was surprised that so many folks I once chatted with were absent (mostly from twitter).I don't know, maybe I'm not explaining myself too well. I have to get to work...keep doing what you do, Margie!! 

2 years, 6 months ago on The complicated nature of online friendships

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Margie ~ Your heart is in the right place, but it's going to get broken time and again if you continue to care so much. Yes, it's a complicated thing, but take care of yourself first. As much as you'd like to, you cannot stand on a perch, swoop down to every soul that is troubled; well, unless you're hiding a secret identity :) As for me, I have always been friendly with a lot of people, but take pride in the fact that I can still count my friends on one hand. That's not to say I don't care about my acquaintances, I just don't invest as much of myself with them as I do my friends.   

2 years, 6 months ago on The complicated nature of online friendships

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Love this post, and I learned alot << :-) My grammar is not top notch, but gosh!! Lose and Loose just drive me batty! Another one is "couldn't care less" v "could care less"; if you could care less, then you are telling me there's room to care!! 

2 years, 6 months ago on 12 Most Unforgivable Writing Mistakes

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This happens way too often, drives me bonkers! By no means, am I a grammar expert, but man o man!! Kinda like your / you're and there / their / they're. Another pet peeve, If I may :) ..."I could care less", If you're trying to tell me you don't care, then please do NOT leave room to care!! Other than that, I couldn't care less :)

2 years, 9 months ago on Nerd Note: Lose the Loose

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My daughter wants to be a pop-star when she gets a bit older...oh, that's if the veterinarian thingy doesn't work out! She (Brianna-9) pulled me into the kitchen just last night to dance with her...it was magical, well for me anyhow :) I follow S.Max Brown on Twitter and learn so much from his genuine posts about family; Last year he wrote a post about laying with his son in a field and the joy of getting filthy dirty with him. Shortly after (I read his post), I saw my daughter outside playing in the rain, I yelled at her to come in out of the rain, then I thought about Max's post and ran out in the rain with her...cherished memory.

2 years, 9 months ago on 12 Most Important Skills Dads Need To Learn With Raising Daughters

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Recently, I was going through a tough time and a friend posted this on my FB wall "...you are a shining and gold star in my day-to-day life. Hang in there..." Those few words really helped my spirits. Reach out, it works!!

2 years, 9 months ago on Are you sure you know what matters?

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Emily ~ Being a Minnesota Vikings fan, I can see why you would find reasons to hate football! :) They're having a tough year, but they'll rebound and come back. Being a Detroit Lion fan myself, has had its ups and downs this season, but I tend to agree with several of your points...especially #2,3 &10! Our players (and even our coach) have lacked the discipline it takes to be defined as a contender.

Oh, and #3...Defenders can't even breathe heavy on a quarterback without several yellow flags being thrown at 'em :)

'Tis the season to be a Green Bay Packers Fan!! Cheers :)

2 years, 10 months ago on 12 Most Sincere Reasons Football is a Horrible Sport

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@libbytalks Reach out if you need to Libby! We are here for you and we LOVE you too.

2 years, 10 months ago on Sad & Good things about #usguys

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I was warmly welcomed in to the tribe about 6 months ago, so I can't talk about how things were in the beginning. I'm not a techno guy, not a social media guru or a life coach authoring a new book...Oh, and a confession...I don't drink coffee (shun me now!) :)

But I do enjoy good, decent people, and so many of them can be found by following the #usguys tag. The tag is dead center of my tweetdeck and I love to start my day with a "wave" from you @Josepf or a big smile from Ed Han, or a coffee clink (diet coke for me) from Karen Lund...and on.

And lately, the social good with Dave Reynolds and Campbell River...it was an event for one community that bridged so many others together, truly awesome!

And, what @danperezfilms Dan said "...even lasting friendships are formed." Yes? I say Yes, Indeed!

2 years, 10 months ago on Sad & Good things about #usguys

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Good stuff, Ted! #3 makes so much sense, well they all do, but that one really resonates... You just never know where that next big opportunity is going to come from, so do your homework and be prepared! Oh, and let's not forget that customer service catch word "Lagniappe" :) Even the littlest of something extra / unexpected can garner great rewards.

2 years, 11 months ago on 12 Most Stupendous Ways to ROCK Customer Service

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@BruceSallan I remember those days & THOSE WORDS..."I like you, you're so nice" ugh :)

2 years, 11 months ago on 12 Most Wonderful Time of the Year Tips to Survive the Holidays

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Hey Bruce ~ Everything about this post is just, well, nice! And I love Nice :) My daughter and I just watched your sing-a-long... She says she's gonna plan ours, what great fun! Thanks for this post, another one worth copying and referring back to as the season rolls along. All my best!

2 years, 11 months ago on 12 Most Wonderful Time of the Year Tips to Survive the Holidays

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Another thought provoking post, Margie...maybe not as cranial as "When Things Smell Bad" but got me thinking just the same :) "What we are doing here?" We are all social by nature and that's why many of us gravitate to these platforms. Others have a specific agenda, i.e. selling a book, gaining an audience for their blog, coaching us about life, etc... I have personally met and befriended some wonderful folks in the online world, yourself included. Best, John

2 years, 11 months ago on We Define Abilities, Choices Define Us

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Agree with @TedCurtin about your Authenticity! It rocks, really! You relate with so many...just look at your stream; one minute you're taking on big biz and the next you're talking about a note your daughter or wife left you. #3 & #4 struck a chord with me; I wrote a post a while back because I really didn't (don't) have an agenda when it comes to social media. Oh sure, I began because I wanted to connect with folks within my industry but I started meeting so many interesting people outside of my field that I lost sight of my original goal. Lost sight but didn't lose interest; I am passionate and interested in people, and so I became addicted to this stuff.

Oh and #7, I can personally attest to this one! You wrote a post here once and I did not agree with one of your points. You respected that I had a differing opinion to the degree of giving it such thought as to write an additional post on the subject...THAT says so much!!

Best, John

2 years, 11 months ago on 12 Most Important Aspects of Having 100,000 Followers

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Sounds like you thoroughly enjoyed your experience out there, Bruce. Not sure if I'll ever make it to one of these gigs but I sure hope to, you've intrigued me with your post!

2 years, 11 months ago on 12 Most Worthy Takeaways From BlogWorld Expo 2011 L.A.

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Margie ~ I just love how you roll...who else could, with such ease, write a post about flatulence?

2 years, 11 months ago on On Noticing When Things Smell Bad

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Margie ~ I saw your post over on FB this evening and thought I would come over to your blog and see what you're up to...I'm sorry for your angst. You carry a burden because of your depth of soul and character. You want to save the world, or at least everyone who has touched yours. Sometimes, we do need to step back from it all, take a breather and cleanse our hearts and minds. You're a special nugget, Margie. Be well. John

2 years, 11 months ago on Social Media is Broken For Me For Now

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Bruce ~ You are true to your word! Thanks for commenting over at my blog :) Personally, I like the comments that stir the pot a bit, but in a nice way as you've suggested in #10. That was quick & I'm happy, so I covered #1&2. Dig 'em all.

2 years, 11 months ago on 12 Most Self-Serving Reasons to Post Blog Comments

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Every day, my daughter (9) comes home from school...I ask her how her day was and every day she says it was Great! I ask her what was so great about it, she says Every Thing! At times, we sit down so she can run down all the things that made her day so great, but I just love learning about life from her. Ted, you've outlined some great points here...Oh, to see the world through the eyes, hearts and minds of children, what a wonderful treat.

3 years ago on 12 Most Important Lessons We Can Learn from Children

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@problogger Hello, Darren! Wow, nice to hear your side of things. You bravely entered hostile territory :) Just as @jasonyormark has. A little testimonial of Darren's integrity and his desire to reconnect: Shortly after Darren's purge and the subsequent unfollow (of me) I unfollowed @problogger . Several weeks went by and I sent an @ message stating that I missed his content and stories of his family. Darren responded back with a follow and we've had a few nice exchanges since. Thank you!

3 years ago on Laughable Social Media: The Great Twitter Purge

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I have one follow / unfollow rule that I stick to...If I am unfollowed, I unfollow back. If I like someone's content, I will add them to a list so I don't miss out. I know my stream is minor when compared to some of these big hitters, but there has to be a better way than what has occurred recently. When Darren Rowse did it, I read his blog and had a better understanding of why, I felt okay until I got to the comments section and saw a big "Hooray" from Chris Brogan. Why, "Hooray"? That to me was a slap in the face of his followers and fans who were there trying to reconcile with their feelings of being kicked to the curb.

3 years ago on Laughable Social Media: The Great Twitter Purge

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Good stuff, Bruce. My daughter's nine, so she still thinks I'm kinda cool. Kinda cool this year, but last year I was way cool and the years before, well a veritable Super Hero! As she approaches these next few pivotal years I'm gonna have to learn a few things; I'm printing out your post, folding it neatly and will pull it out as a reminder in the very, very near future. Best, john

3 years ago on 12 Most Immediate Ways to Stay Relevant to Your Kids

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I follow and have come to know and admire a few of these Leaderific Women. I'm glad you put this together so I can seek out a few more good ones. :) Nice post, Margie. Best, John

3 years ago on 12 Most Leaderific Women In Social Media

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The glorification of jerks..does that really work? Is that the same concept as "any press is good press, even if it's bad press"? ...neither pass muster with me. I have personally seen some pretty brash folks in the on line world...their smug arrogance used to get under my skin, now I simply ignore them and focus my energies on the kinder, gentler folks, and some plenty smart ones too! ...I so enjoy the smart, kind, gentle sorts that make me feel all good and stuff :)

3 years ago on Being Kind Doesn’t Make Me Stupid

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Hey Nick ~ Okay, you've inspired me...I let one week go by then another and another and now it has been 8 weeks since I last posted on my blog. Outside of my Aunt Betty, Mom & a guy named Joe, not too many noticed that I had gone stale. So, I'm going to go through your 12 tips to keep me from quitting my blog. I'll start with #7, keep it short and move on from there and try to develop a schedule as you suggested. Great tips, thanks!

3 years, 1 month ago on 12 Most Valuable Tips to Keep You from Quitting Your Blog

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Hey Dave ~ #10 check in by phone...what? We should actually talk with someone, let them hear our voice!? Why, when a simple quick email, text, shout out, or any of the other non-verbal communication will do? Hope you note my sarcasm...So important but so often lost in this age of technology is the old fashioned phone call or better yet the Face to Face Hello! I also appreciate your thoughts on price. I'm in a commodity service type business where price is so important; we follow your principle of finding the happy medium price point, although we do sometimes sharpen it up when necessary (to stay on the radar).

3 years, 1 month ago on 12 Most Impactful Small Business Marketing Strategies You Can Implement NOW

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@BruceSallan "Meet your teacher" was last night and we ran in to several parents that for one reason or another we lose touch with over the summer. I really enjoy sharing summer stories and look forward to rekindling these friendships.

3 years, 1 month ago on 12 Most Obvious Reasons Dad and Mom Are Glad Summer Is Over

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#1 Hit me right off the bat! Brianna starts school next Tuesday and she's so excited! Well, mom and I are too, for many of the reasons you mentioned here. #10 tho...she is my excuse for watching some of those mind numbing kid shows...I mean seriously, have you ever seen such talent as Phineas & Ferb? :) Great stuff, Bruce...keep it coming!

3 years, 1 month ago on 12 Most Obvious Reasons Dad and Mom Are Glad Summer Is Over

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@Brainzooming Thanks, Mike! Oh, and I think I'll visit the Department store tomorrow and trade in some of my black and brown socks! :)

3 years, 2 months ago on 7 Personal Tune-Ups for Tough Times

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I am so glad I found your post and these wonderful tips! Being a recovering news junky, turning on the news channel first thing in the morning was like brushing my teeth, just part of the routine. Now, I wake up and turn on whatever channel my 9 year old daughter was last watching...odd, but it has helped :)

I found myself recently falling into the trap of #4 & #5! Feeling overwhelmed by personal issues I became all too consumed with myself and in turn haven't been much of a joy to be around. Reading your post helps me to understand that in reaching out to others I will in turn feel better about me...like @tedcoine said, "Doing good will make you feel great!"

3 years, 2 months ago on 7 Personal Tune-Ups for Tough Times

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All very good warning signs, Daniel. One thing to note is that not all second generation owners come in green. Many business owners bring their sons and/or daughters in early enough to learn the biz from the ground up. Such is the case with our family business. My sister endured with our dad during his first and second failed ventures and stuck with him (even putting off college) and is now running our business successfully. I came in sometime later but times were still lean and learned early on to appreciate the benefits of hard work.

I think it's important, even if the first generation owner has established a thriving business, to have the second generation come in and learn the business from the factory floor to the executive board room. This way, they not only have an appreciation for the business as a whole but will have gained respect and will not just be viewed as "the entitled one". Oh sure, there's always going to be those naysayers who think nepotism is the only reason for the succession, one of those truths that cannot be avoided but it can be tempered a bit.

I appreciate and respect your insights! All my best, John

3 years, 2 months ago on 12 Most Company-Killing Behaviors of Second Generation Business Owners

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Hello, Kathy! Being a handyman, I am NOT, one of life's truths I've had to face! Your tips are helpful and one of the key ingredients is to have the right tools, if not, have the yellow pages handy. Another great tool is having the right friends; being in the flooring business I have met a number of people in various trades and they're always willing to help, and somewhere down the line they'll need some flooring help. By the way, my wife just refinished our hardwood floors and they look great...she's the handy-person of the house :) Thanks for the helpful post!

3 years, 2 months ago on 12 Most Valuable DIY Home Improvement Skills You Should Acquire

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Love the post Angela! #2 They are Optimists, little story :) Several months ago, while school was still in session, I came home from work and my 9 year old daughter greeted me with her usual "Yeah, Daddy's home!" I grabbed her up and asked her how her day was, she said "It was great!"...I thought for a moment and realized that this is what she always says, so I asked her to explain what was so great about her day, she said everything! I sat her down and said no Brianna, please explain to me what made your day so great...she said, "you don't understand dad...."Every Thing is Great!" Maybe she wanted to scoot off to her friends and play and maybe I let her off too easily but I sat and thought, how wonderful this outlook is...Every Thing is Great! Sure, it's through the eyes of a 9 year old but somewhere in us all is that child with a similar view...even if we have to see through some rose colored glasses once in a while :) Thanks!

3 years, 2 months ago on 12 Most Important Things to Know about Kids Today

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Great collection, Stan. Some very simple yet creative ideas to capture and enhance the customer experience. In today's economy, gaining a loyal customer vs a one timer as @danielnewmanUV

so aptly stated, is really a game changer. I'm going to use the humble pie idea...being in the service business, mistakes do happen and I just love this as a peace (or piece) offering!

3 years, 2 months ago on 12 Most Impactful Ways You Can Give Little Extras To Enhance Customer Experience

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Hey Mark ~ I haven't been on a job interview in over twenty years but I'm in sales, so each new prospect I meet I treat as a job interview. I think each of your points here can easily be taught to your sales team as well. #2 Research and #11 follow up are both cardinal rules for any successful prospecting guide. And #12...so many get confused thinking effective follow up is stalking, such a killer! All great points.

3 years, 2 months ago on 12 Most Common Ways To Bomb Your Job Interview

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Hey Daniel ~ What you outline here and what is happening in our new economy is that you will have to work harder and "expect" less in return. There are no guarantees, spot on! "...Embrace the opportunity and do it better than anyone else" well said!

3 years, 2 months ago on The Great Lie About Customer Experience

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@jpJeremy Thanks, Jeremy. You are right, start ups in our business are rare and short lived, usually, it's an installer who thinks it all looks so easy! As for there being plenty of profit...we earn a living :)

3 years, 2 months ago on 12 Most Irrefutable Laws of Business Heresy

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@tedcoine I had a heated debate during a recent chat on the subject of cost-based -vs- value-based pricing. It frustrates me to no end that there are some out there who believe that you should never have to dangle a proverbial carrot of a price to get a prospects attention! Sorry for not giving the entire post credit but #8 really hit me...I look forward to the Catalyst blog.

3 years, 2 months ago on 12 Most Irrefutable Laws of Business Heresy

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I love your stuff Ted, you know that, but I am so tired of Business consultants, bloggers, speakers, motivators and "experts" literally preaching #8...Don't compete on price! I'm in the carpet biz, not glamorous but I love it; have any of you ever worked in this type of business? We are not retail, we cater to commercial and multi-family; it is extremely competitive! Yes, we have a customer base that is loyal to us and pay a little extra for the service and relationship but I am busting my a$$ daily quoting work that the only way they will even consider talking to me about service is if my price is right.

My view is not popular, but it is a reality of the business I am in and oh, by the way, we are successful (I'm sure there're more than 2 out there :)

3 years, 2 months ago on 12 Most Irrefutable Laws of Business Heresy

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Growing up, I can remember we used to have contests to see who could "pee" their whole name in the snow...Please note: I did say "growing up", will not define age bracket :) Cheers! John

3 years, 3 months ago on 12 Most Important Reasons Boys Need To Pee In The Woods

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Hi Lily ~ You are obviously a very caring daughter; someday when you're older your kids will recall what you did for grandma and you'll be rewarded in kind. My folks are a young 80 & 75 respectively but your points apply just the same. Point #4 especially reminds me of my dad, he has a totally rebuilt chassis..knees replaced, hips replaced, heck even a metal ankle and he still continues to do the chores we ask him to leave for us! All my best, John

3 years, 3 months ago on 12 Most Sanity Saving Tips for Elderly Caregiving

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Hey Danny ~ Well, I have a domain name #1 check..As for #2-12 work in progress. Being new to blogging I haven't taken the time and your list, along with the comment thread sure will help me on my way. Thanks! John

3 years, 3 months ago on 12 Most Common Mistakes New Bloggers Make

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Hi Michele ~ In my business, I've had to deal with some pretty unreasonable folks...I've used one of my favorite quotes a couple of times ."Lack of preparation on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part..." didn't go over real well as i recall :). Lately, our biggest dilemma is whether they are credit worthy, our vetting priority #1 is checking credit. Enjoyed your post! John

3 years, 3 months ago on 12 Most Compelling Reasons That I Turned Down Your Business

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One of my favorite quotes..."The desire to appear clever often prevents one from being so." (François de La Rochefoucauld) Some folks just try too hard to be noticed, I've been guilty of it myself! One common trait I have found both in the successful Twitterer's and the folks you've highlighted here...is their ability to not take themselves too seriously and add their "self-deprecating quips", as you so aptly put it :)

I don't have anything to share from last week, but here's a good one from today via @unmarketing ...Every time you auto-cross post to Twitter from Facebook/LinkedIn, a unicorn dies. And a panda. And a kitten. Heh, obviously Scott is not a fan of auto posting to other platforms (I think I saw that on another post :)! Okay, back to work 4 me. Cheers! John

3 years, 3 months ago on 12 Most Interesting Tweets I Found Last Week

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I'm still trying to figure out who to put where in my circles! And now all this?! Looks like I need to spend more time on G+, I think it's for real folks. Always enjoy your insights, Josepf and laying it out in a way that non-techo savvy people like myself can comprehend. Thanks! John

3 years, 3 months ago on 12 Most Important Things Google Must Get Right With Google+

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@KRLRose Remind me again, what was the #blogchat topic last night? Perfect prep! Cheers!

3 years, 3 months ago on 12 Most Powerful Reasons We Both Love & Hate Seth Godin

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Hey Kenny ~ Nice to see you here at 12Most! I know of Seth Godin I just haven't taken the time to learn about him and his work. Your post is a well articulated introduction and I now know I need to learn more. #11 was really interesting "The back pass"...sometimes we do need to take a few steps back in order to grow and move forward; that doesn't sound logical but in life it is so true! All my best, John

3 years, 3 months ago on 12 Most Powerful Reasons We Both Love & Hate Seth Godin

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